Black Girls Bonding

This week’s episode was inspired by a podcast episode I heard with poet Ross Gay, who shared how he intentionally looks for small daily delights and writes them down. That idea stuck and sparked a bigger reflection about how easy it is to train our minds to find what’s wrong instead of what’s good.

In this solo episode of Black Girls Bonding, we talk about:

Atlanta is having one of those “fake spring” weeks. Warm sunshine one day, cold temperatures the next. It feels like the weather is faking us out.

That idea ended up becoming the perfect metaphor for this season of life.

In this episode, I’m reflecting on what it means to sit in the meantime. That period where things are moving, but maybe not as quickly or as smoothly as you hoped.

Over the past few months, I’ve had a lot of honest conversations with fellow entrepreneurs, many of them Black women, and we’ve al...

Most of us have been told that growth requires discomfort. Intellectually, we get that. We nod along. We agree. Emotionally? It hits different.

In this episode, I share a moment that stopped me in my tracks while I was on my treadmill, huffing through an incline workout. When my instructor said, “If you’re comfortable, increase your speed,” it felt like she was talking about more than fitness.

I’ve been clear about wanting a soft and lucrative life. Slow mornings. Coffee. Journaling. Movement. Rest. But what I had to confront is this: softness does not elim...

In this episode, host Kianti sits down with her homegirl, Carline Hooker, the "saleswoman extraordinaire" and founder of NetworkIt.

Carline brings 14 years of marriage experience (and 17 years of partnership) to the table for a conversation that moves past the "Instagrammable" version of relationships and into the "real deal Holyfield" truth. Whether you are single, dating, or decades into a marriage, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on what it actually takes to build a life with someone else.

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It’s been a minute, but I’m back and easing into the year with intention.

In this episode, I’m talking about why I’m rejecting “strong starts” and choosing a softer beginning to the year instead. I reflect on last year as my first full year in business, what it meant to simply be profitable, cared for, and steady, and why that deserves celebration.

We talk about seasonal energy, rest, and why winter is not the time to force growth. I share how I’m aligning more intentionally with natural cycles, including the 13 moon calendar...

In this the last episode of 2025 and as we roll into the end of the year, I want to offer something different. No “end the year strong.” No “grind ‘til the last minute.” I’m over it, and I know a lot of y’all are too.

In this freestyle episode, I’m talking about what it looks like to close the year softly with intention, gentleness, and care. I share the three things I’m doing to wrap 2025 in a way that actually nourishes me instead of draining me:

1. Ending my workday early.
I’m commit...

In this week’s episode of Black Girls Bonding, I’m talking about something I never expected to record an episode on: what it means to reparent yourself, to care for the little girl you once were.

I share a very personal part of my story, including my journey through infertility, the deep grief that followed, and how I slowly found my way back to myself with the support of therapy and a whole lot of honesty. When my therapist first introduced the idea of “parenting myself,” I wanted no parts of it. It felt too raw...

In this episode, Kianti talks about the importance of holding on to hope, especially when the world feels unpredictable. Inspired by the recent Democratic wins across the country, she reflects on what it means to celebrate progress without bracing for the next blow.

As someone who’s used to waiting for the other shoe to drop, Kianti shares her journey of learning to rewire her brain to stay present, savor joy, and let herself feel the win—because anticipating what’s next only robs us of the moment we’re in.

Tune in for a reminder...

Some fights are worth it. Others? They’re invitations to let go.

In this week’s episode of Black Girls Bonding, I’m reflecting on one of life’s hardest lessons: learning when to push and when to surrender. After weeks of wrestling with QuickBooks, the IRS, and my own stubbornness, I hit a wall and finally heard that quiet voice telling me: let it go.

This episode is about that moment. The one where faith, frustration, and acceptance collide. I talk about:
 ✨ What it means to “fight first, release later”
 ✨ How surrendering doesn’t mean givin...

Things are heavy right now.

In this short and heartfelt episode, I’m talking about what it feels like to live in a world that’s constantly demanding our attention, energy, and empathy — and what we can do to protect our peace in the midst of it.

I share three simple, powerful practices that always help me find my footing again:
 💛 Find community – you’re not meant to carry it all alone.
🖤 Unplug – doom scrolling won’t save us.
💛 Find your joy – big or small, joy is a survival skill.

This week on Black Girls Bonding, I’m asking a simple but heavy question: Are we okay?

Lately, I’ve noticed so much vitriol online. Yes, the internet has always had its share of negativity, but lately it feels sharper—especially toward Black women. From journalists like Karen Attiah being punished for telling the truth, to Jemele Hill being publicly attacked, to hundreds of thousands of Black women facing unemployment despite being the most educated demographic in the country—the attacks feel relentless.

But what’s hitting me hardest is how much of that harshness we’re turn...

This week, I’m talking about those moments when life feels heavy: grief, overwhelm, and the urge to retreat into isolation. I share how a conversation with my best friend shifted my perspective: maybe the Universe isn’t working against me, but actually working for me.

In this episode, I get into:
 ✨ Why isolating when you’re down can be harmful (yes, the science backs this up)
 ✨ How community, even when we don’t want it, can be medicine
 ✨ The importance of doing the things we don’t feel like doing, from workouts to cookouts
✨ How...

This week, we’re breaking down the Love Island Reunion, and whew… there was mess. From Amaya laughing through cheating rumors to Chris standing on biz, to Olandria serving tea and Huda proving (again) that she’s the clout-chasing villain of the season — I have thoughts.

We’ll talk fake apologies, mean-girl alliances, why America really hates to see Black women loved out loud, and how Huda’s “all lives matter” energy exposed her for exactly what she is. Plus: the Nic + Olandria dynamic, Jeremiah’s pancake saga, Austin looking like he was on something, and why Ace will a...

What do you do when your big, beautiful plan doesn’t go the way you hoped? When the version of success you dreamed up gets delayed, detoured, or dismantled altogether?

In this episode, I’m reflecting on the hard, human moments when life doesn’t cooperate and how I’m learning to make room for what’s still unfolding. It’s not a neat lesson at all. It’s a lived experience. This one is for anyone who's had to pivot, pause, or pick themselves up after a plot twist.

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This week on Black Girls Bonding, we’re flipping the script on the stories our minds love to run with. Kianti dives into how our negative-leaning thoughts—those quiet “what ifs”—can quietly sabotage our joy, confidence, and even our chances at Beyoncé floor seats.

We talk about:

This is your reminder to...

Once upon a time, the cookout was more than just a meal. It was a ritual, a reunion, a refuge. But somewhere along the way, the vibe shifted. In this episode, we talk about the quiet disappearance of Black cookouts and what that says about where we are right now as a community.

Is it perfectionism? A little too much self-care? That one cousin you don’t mess with anymore? Maybe all of the above.

Let’s get into the obstacles keeping us from connecting, and why it’s time to stop waiting for perfect condit...

This week on Black Girls Bonding, we’re getting into the gritty but liberating truth: sometimes the call is coming from inside the house. 😅

Kianti opens up about a moment of real-time accountability after feeling left out by her friend group—only to realize, with a little nudge from her husband, that maybe she had a role in the dynamic too.

In this episode, we explore:

In this episode of Black Girls Bonding, we’re naming something that so many of us have quietly carried: the belief that we were the problem when we just didn’t fit. Kianti shares a powerful reflection on belonging, alignment, and what it feels like to finally feel like yourself, on purpose.

From a friend’s newfound confidence in entrepreneurship to a timely message from Essence CEO Caroline Wanga, this conversation is a soft but firm reminder that sometimes, the issue isn’t you. It’s the space.

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In this week’s episode, we’re joined by the incredible Elandria Jackson Charles—a joy coach, speaker, and unapologetic hype woman for Black women everywhere.

Together, we dive deep into what it looks like to pursue joy with intention, let go of hustle culture, and embrace a life rooted in ease and abundance. Elandria reminds us that joy is not a reward—it’s a birthright, and living fully starts with giving yourself permission to thrive.

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In this episode of Black Girls Bonding, we explore what it means to stay in motion, even when it feels like nothing is working. Whether you're building something from scratch, navigating uncertainty, or simply trying to stay afloat, there are moments when everything feels stuck. But movement, no matter how small, can be a powerful act of resistance, clarity, and momentum.

I share my personal reflections on why staying focused and moving forward, especially when it feels like you're failing, is often the most important thing we can do. It might not always yield immediate results, but...

This week’s episode is tender. I share a little bit about my grandma’s, Dee Dee, recent passing and the quiet grief that’s been sitting with me. Before she passed, she asked me to bake her some cookies—and I forgot.

I’m not sitting in regret, but I am sitting in reflection.

This episode is about how we hold space for loss, how we forgive ourselves for being human, and how we try—bit by bit—to love better, more presently, more intentionally.

Because life moves fast, and sometimes, we miss the small...

We love a polished success story, but what about the messy middle? In this episode of Black Girls Bonding, we talk about the power of “showing our ugly” – being open about the challenges, doubts, and struggles as we navigate our journeys. I get real about my own experience as a new entrepreneur, sharing the raw realities of building a business from the ground up.

Because truthfully? It’s hard. And Black women deserve spaces where we don’t have to pretend we have it all together. We deserve community, honesty, and support as we figure things out.

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