Wire Talk with Karen Stubbs
Wire Talk was created to encourage and equip moms throughout the challenging and life-changing journey of motherhood. Each week on Wire Talk Karen Stubbs offers godly, practical advice on the topics every mother has questions about: mom guilt, our children’s faith, potty-training, divorce, our teenagers dating, and more!
543: 4 Practical Ways to Navigate the Holidays with Peace
Is the holiday season already stressing you out? Today Karen and Emily are sharing four practical ways to keep your sanity this Christmas, from setting a budget and managing expectations to navigating tricky family relationships. We hope this episode will help you slow down, let go of some expectations, and enjoy the season with your family!
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The holiday season seems to hit earlier and get bigger each year (2:00)We have to swim against the current to stay sane (4:48)Make a plan EARLY (6:36)Set a budget and set others’ expectations (8:00)Lower your own expectations (10:45)Don’t en...542: “You’re Not Wearing THAT!” How to Talk About Modesty
Talking to our kids about modesty can feel awkward, but it's a conversation worth having! Erin Mashaw, BOAW COO and author of Awkward Conversations, joins Emily to talk about shifting the conversation away from rules about what girls can and can't wear and toward something bigger: respect for ourselves, others, and God. If you've ever struggled with the "You're not wearing THAT!" conversation, this episode will give you practical language to help your kids think about modesty in a whole new way.
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It’s an awkward conversation worth having (4:22)Let’s shift the conversation towa...541: How to Know When to Push Your Child… and When to Back Off
When should you push your child to do something hard, and when is it better to back off? Today Karen and Emily are answering questions straight from our Wire Talk Insiders about stubborn kids, sibling bickering, big feelings, and building confidence. If you've ever wondered whether you're being too tough, too lenient, or just plain overthinking it, this episode is for you!
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Thanks to our WT Insiders for the questions today! (3:03)How do I motivate my stubborn and shy child?? (4:01)If I give my kids an inch, they take a mile. Help! (8:20)How do...540: Are You Helping Your Kids - Or Holding Them Back? with David Thomas
What if making life easier for our kids is actually making it harder for them to grow up? Counselor David Thomas joins Karen and Emily to explain why struggle is GOOD for our kids and how doing hard things builds confidence and capability. Listen in and you’ll be challenged to resist the urge to rescue your kids and give them room to grow!
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The pace of life has drastically changed in the last 30 years (3:00)Capability and confidence are built in the struggle to do hard things (7:15)We put too much emphasis on happiness (10:57)Wh...539: Raising Kids Who Don’t Need You with Elizabeth Pehrson
What if one of the best things we can do for our kids is let them struggle? Mom of eight and founder of The Exchange, Elizabeth Pehrson, joins Karen and Emily to talk about parenting for the long game. If you have a hard time watching your child fail, forget, or face the consequences of their choices, this conversation is for you! We hope it will encourage you to loosen your grip and trust God with the outcome.
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Your job as a parent is to make sure they don’t need you - the ha...538: Parenting Your Neurodivergent Child with Dr. Chinwé Williams
Parenting a neurodivergent child can feel lonely, especially when the people around you don’t understand what everyday life looks like. Counselor Dr. Chinwé Williams joins Karen and Emily to unpack neurodivergence, executive functioning, and the important difference between “won’t” and “can’t.” Whether you’re raising a neurodivergent child or want to better understand a friend who is, this conversation will help you respond with more empathy and grace.
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What does neurodivergent mean and who falls under that umbrella? (2:56)How do I know if it’s an actual skill deficit or simply a will deficit?’ (4...537: Raising Calm(ish) and Confident Kids with Dr. Chinwé Williams
Big emotions can leave even the most confident mom wondering, Is this normal… or should I be concerned? Counselor Dr. Chinwé Williams joins Karen and Emily to explain what’s happening in our kids’ brains when they completely lose it and how we can partner with them to teach coping skills so they can move toward handling hard emotions on their own.
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Are kids struggling with mental health more these days or are we just better at recognizing it? (2:32)As young as age 5, kids are struggling with ‘task persistence’ (4:41)Anxiety is a sign - it’s not th...536: Finding Peace As A Working Mom with Erin Mashaw
Working moms carry a lot, and sometimes we make the load even heavier by carrying things God never asked us to! Erin Mashaw joins Karen and Emily to talk about mom guilt, comparison, and that nagging feeling that you’re always disappointing someone.If you’re constantly wondering whether you’re doing enough at work or at home, we hope this conversation will help you put down some of that weight!
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535: How to Set Boundaries Without Building Walls with Debbie Causey
Boundaries can feel uncomfortable, but they’re essential for healthy relationships! Counsellor Debbie Causey joins Karen and Emily today to explain what healthy boundaries actually look like, how over-functioning hurts the people we’re trying to help, and how to know when it’s time to say no. If boundaries are hard for you, you’ll walk away with practical tools, including how to start with a few “baby nos” to protect your relationships without building walls.
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Why are boundaries a universal struggle? (2:40)Healthy boundaries aren’t a wall, they’re a fence with a gate (4:11)We...534: Relationships that Make Parenting Harder
Sometimes it's not the kids - it's the adults around them that make parenting so difficult! Today we are answering your questions about difficult in-laws, boundaries with extended family, and tricky friendships that can make even simple parenting scenarios more complicated. Tune in and learn something practical to help you navigate whatever you're facing this week.
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Should I re-engage my family of origin? Historically, it has been painful. (5:30)I’m struggling with my sister-in-law who tries to parent my kids (8:30)We are raising our kids far from family - how do I bring this gr...533: When Your Child’s Behavior Scares You
Have you ever looked at your child and wondered, Where in the world is this behavior coming from? If you’re feeling overwhelmed by big emotions, difficult behavior, or a child you just can’t seem to figure out, this episode is for you. Karen and Emily share practical insight and tools to help you better understand your child and respond with confidence instead of frustration.
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Sign up for SOAR today! (1:32)My 10 yr old is so domineering that other kids don’t want to play with him (3:44)My ADHD daughter cannot control her temper and hit...532: Am I Making the Right Parenting Decision?
Ever wish God would just TELL you what to do? Today, Karen and Emily tackle parenting decisions that don’t have a clear right or wrong answer; from kindergarten readiness and family size to going back to work and navigating technology at school. If you’re facing a parenting dilemma, we hope this episode helps you pray, trust God’s guidance, and move forward with confidence.
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531: Are We Making Our Kids Less Capable? with Sissy Goff
Kids today are becoming increasingly afraid of risk and discomfort- are parents part of the problem? Today bestselling author and counselor Sissy Goff joins Karen and Emily to talk about her new book, Capable, and why loving our kids well sometimes means encouraging them to do hard things. Sissy shares how moms can manage their own anxiety and trust their parenting instincts to prepare their kids for greater confidence. Don’t miss the absolutely brilliant catchphrases she offers for reminding kids that hard isn’t a bad thing!
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530: How to Stay Calm When Your Child Isn’t with Josh Thames
If you've ever lost your temper with your kids, this conversation is for you. Counselor Josh Thames shares practical tools to help moms stay calm, communicate more effectively, and respond with confidence, even when emotions are running high. Whether you're parenting a child with ADHD, anxiety, or just big feelings, you'll walk away with practical encouragement you can use today.
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Josh is an LPC with a background in teaching (1:30)Are we making parenting decisions out of fear? (5:18)Remaining steady is critical, especially for parents of kids with ADHD (8:07)How can I stay calm on...529: You Don't Have to Disciple Your Kids Alone
You don't have to carry the weight of discipling your kids by yourself! In this episode, Karen and Emily sit down with children's ministry leader Kendra Fleming to share how partnering with your church can strengthen your family's faith without adding more to your plate. As we head into a new school year, we hope this episode encourages you to lean into the support God has already provided.
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Kendra has been working in children’s ministry for 30+ years (3:30)Church gives your kids another trusted voice and a place to serve (7:00)What are some church rh...528: Marriage First: Why Your Spouse Comes Before the Kids [RE-AIR]
In this listener-favorite episode re-air, Karen and Greg pull back the curtain on nearly four decades of marriage—the good, the hard, the early years, and the season they’re in now. This conversation will make you smile, and maybe even tear up, as they remind us that we serve a faithful God who wants the best for us and our marriages.
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How Karen and Greg back met in 1984 (4:00)What were some of your biggest differences as newlyweds? (7:50)How did you stay connected during the early years of raising kids? (10:09)What has been the hard...527: The Secret to Stress-Free Potty Training [RE-AIR]
If you’ve been thinking that summer is the perfect time to potty train, this one’s for you! Christine Clark joins Karen and Emily today - she’s a mom, preschool teacher, and pro who’s successfully potty trained 17 children. From handling accidents with grace to dealing with fear, regression, or defiance, this episode is packed with wisdom and encouragement for moms in the potty-training trenches.
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Christine runs an in-home daycare and LOVES toddlers (2:33)Personality definitely feeds into potty training (5:58)Is there a difference in training girls vs boys? (7:25)Give us a step-by-step for thos...526: [RE-AIR] How to Handle Big Emotions and Bigger Attitudes
From tantrums to name-calling to after-school meltdowns, this listener-favorite episode is packed with practical help for moms dealing with big emotions…and even bigger attitudes. Karen and Emily talk about red temperaments, ADHD outbursts, and how to handle disrespectful behavior without losing your cool. Listen in for advice on teaching kids to pause before reacting, role-playing tough situations, plus learn why setting boundaries with screens and school is worth the fight.
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Meltdowns can happen at 6 or 16 (2:10)Lean into the Lord and He will help you (5:14)What do I do about a 10 year old who do...525: [RE-AIR] Do Less For Your Kids - Parenting for the Long Haul
We're re-airing one of our most popular episodes this week! Karen and Emily sit down with Elizabeth Pehrson to discuss how moms can parent with purpose by focusing on the long game. In this conversation, Elizabeth shares her no-nonsense approach to raising independent, contributing adults. Whether you’re navigating the pressures of parenting littles or wondering how to prepare your teens for the real world, this episode will leave you inspired and equipped.
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Elizabeth is a long time friend of BOAW Moms and a breakout speaker at Soar (2:09)Most women live a Groundhog Day ki...524: My Kid Saw Porn...Now What?
Pornography exposure is happening younger and more often than most parents realize, and it’s affecting both boys and girls. In this episode, Karen and Erin Mashaw are joined by returning guest Kristen Jenson, author of Good Pictures, Bad Pictures, for a practical conversation about what to do when your child has been exposed to pornography.
If you’ve been avoiding this awkward conversation, today’s discussion will motivate you and equip you to help your child navigate this topic.
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We want our kids to have a plan to reject pornography when they s...523: Simple Ways to Make Summer More Fun
Summer doesn't have to be packed with fancy vacations or elaborate plans to be memorable. In this episode, Karen and Emily share simple, practical ways to add more laughter, spontaneity, and fun to your family's everyday moments. From DQ runs to dance-party cleanups, we hope this episode gives you some ideas and encourages you to let go of the pressure and just enjoy your kids this summer!
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We’re talking about creating fun this summer with your kids (2:02)Does summer feel daunting or fun to you? (4:35)Fun isn’t trivial, it creates connection (9:53)It’s okay...522: How to Build Work Ethic in Your Kids This Summer
Summer brings more snacks, more messes, and more opportunities to teach our kids valuable life skills! Today Karen and Emily are talking about why building a strong work ethic starts at home and why moms should avoid overfunctioning for their children, plus Karen gives practical ideas to teach age-appropriate responsibility. We hope this conversation will encourage you to play the long game this summer as you prepare your kids for real life!
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You don’t have to be the one cleaning all the messes this summer (1:50)Helping around the house instills confidence in kids (3:15)We...521: Serving Alongside Your Kids This Summer
Summer is a perfect time to help our kids learn to look beyond themselves. In this episode, Karen and Emily share simple, practical ways families can serve together, whether that’s visiting a nursing home, helping with food recovery, serving on a mission trip, or just paying attention to the needs around you. We hope this conversation encourages you to start small, think intentionally, and discover how serving others can grow your family's faith this summer!
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Snack time strategies for summer (2:00)Serving with your kids can feel daunting (3:52)Start small wherever you are (5:36)Organizations li...520: How to Grow Spiritually Alongside Your Kids This Summer
We’re kicking off a brand-new summer series today! All month long, we’ll be talking about how to make the most of the new rhythm summer brings to your home. In this episode, we’re talking about simple, practical ways moms can grow spiritually alongside their kids. We hope this conversation encourages you that you don’t have to do this perfectly to take meaningful steps of growth toward Jesus together as a family.
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Whether you look forward to summer or dread it, try to enjoy it! (2:00)You do not have to entertain your chi...519: You Are Not Defined by Your Past
As we wrap up our Mothers of the Bible series, we’re looking at one of the most complicated and heartbreaking stories in Scripture: Bathsheba. Her life was marked by loss, pain, shame, and circumstances she never would have chosen, yet God was still at work redeeming her story. In this episode, Karen and Emily talk about how our worst moments do not define us, how God meets us in brokenness, and why it’s never too late for redemption.
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Soar is coming up in September - join us and see Karen live! (4:00)What we k...518: How Do We Trust God When Life Hurts?
Naomi’s story is one of grief and disappointment, but ultimately, it’s about redemption. Today on Wire Talk, Karen and Emily continue our Mothers of the Bible series by looking at how God was working behind the scenes even when Naomi felt abandoned and bitter. If you’re walking through loss, broken relationships, or a season that feels nothing like the life you imagined, we hope this look at the life of Naomi reminds you that God is not absent and He is still writing your story.
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This week we’re looking at Naomi’s...517: When God Feels Silent
Today we’re continuing our Mothers of the Bible series by looking at Hannah’s story in 1 Samuel. Hannah was a woman who longed for a child and wrestled with seasons of waiting and disappointment. Listen as Karen teaches through this story, reminding us that God invites us to trust Him, even when our prayers feel unanswered. If you’ve ever waited on God for something close to your heart, we hope you are encouraged to persevere today.
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This week we’re looking at Hannah’s story (0:43)Don’t miss the BOAW birthday party after the So...516: Letting Go and Trusting God With Your Child
This week, we kick off our month of celebrating moms with a new series: “Mothers of the Bible.” Today we’re looking at the life of Jochebed, a woman who faced unimaginable fear and made an unthinkable choice to save her son. Through her story, Karen and Emily unpack what it looks like to do our best for our kids and trust God with the rest. If you’ve ever struggled to let go, this conversation will meet you right where you are.
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We’re kicking off a new series by looking at the lives of so...515: Trusting Your Mom Gut with special guest Dr. Laura Bleekrode
Are you trusting your mom gut or Googling yourself into anxiety?
In this episode, pediatrician Dr. Laura Bleekrode shares wisdom from nearly 40 years of experience to help moms cut through the noise and parent with confidence. We talk about how social media and constant information can erode your instincts and how to get back to trusting yourself. You’ll be reminded that you know your child better than anyone and that matters!
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Dr. Bleekrode is a mom of 8 who owns a pediatric practice and has been practicing medicine for 36 years (1:11)How does Dr...514: You Can’t Do It All (and That’s Okay): Surviving May
May can feel overwhelming for moms, filled with endless events, expectations, and emotional moments.Today Karen offers practical wisdom to help you navigate the busyness without losing your joy (or your mind.) From setting realistic expectations to prioritizing what truly matters, this conversation is full of encouragement.
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May is just December with sunscreen! (0:30)May feels chaotic with elementary schoolers - how do I get through? (4:40)Sit down with your high schooler and help them prioritize (9:10)Don’t be a wet blanket on your high schooler’s parade (10:15)Working mom here struggling with school events - he...513: Just Say ‘No’ to Mom Guilt!
Mom guilt can make even the best moms feel like they’re falling short. In this episode, Karen and Emily talk through the pressures we carry and the expectations we place on ourselves. They offer a practical, biblical perspective to help you recognize what’s true and what isn’t. We hope you walk away encouraged and ready to let go of unnecessary guilt!
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512: Dealing with Extended Family Conflict
Family dynamics can get complicated quickly, especially when expectations, boundaries, and communication styles start to clash. Today we’re talking about how to navigate tension with extended family without losing your peace (or your voice.) We hope you’ll walk away with practical ways to communicate clearly, pursue peace, and love your extended family well.
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Moms can easily get stuck in the middle of family conflicts (1:59)I’m stuck in the middle of conflicts between my mom and my husband, help! (4:02)My MIL is extremely difficult, even mean and petty toward me (7:47)How can I be g...511: When Nothing Seems To Work: Second Guessing Your Parenting Instincts
Ever find yourself second guessing your parenting decisions? You’re not alone. In this episode, Karen answers questions from moms navigating school struggles, motivation, and knowing when to step back. We hope you walk away feeling encouraged to trust God with the parenting choices you are making.
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One parenting decision won’t make or break your child (1:50)My 1st grader doesn’t work hard in school and I can’t make her care! (2:30)How do I motivate my 10 year old yellow/green son? (5:00)My son is reluctant to participate in extracurriculars, how should I handle t...510: Am I Ruining My Teenager’s Life?
If you’ve ever wondered, “Am I ruining my teenager’s life?” - you’re not alone. Today, Karen answers questions from moms navigating strong personalities, emotional pushback, and the tension between protecting and preparing their teens. With her trademark practical wisdom, she reminds us that what feels like conflict is often part of God’s process for refining our kids.
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As moms, we can see the writing on the wall but our teens literally can’t (1:45)My daughter and I fight all the time, I just do not like her right now (4:02)You cannot take th...509: Tantrums, Tears, and Temperaments
If you’re in the stage of parenting where tears, tantrums, and big emotions seem to take over every day, you’re not alone. Today Karen and Emily are tackling questions from moms navigating the emotional ups and downs of preschoolers and early elementary kids. They discuss why some kids cry more than others, how to handle tantrums without giving in, and how to guide sensitive kids through big feelings. If you’re in the thick of it these days, we hope this episode reminds you that this stage is normal and it won’t last forever!
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508: Parenting Strong-Willed Kids Without Losing Your Cool
Last week, Karen talked about the temperaments. This week, she takes that conversation one step further by answering real questions from moms who are navigating strong-willed kids, harsh words, whining, and emotional outbursts. If you’ve ever looked at your child and thought, I know their heart is sweet, so why is this coming out so sideways? this episode is for you. Karen shares practical wisdom for understanding your child’s wiring, correcting with grace, and helping them grow.
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Last week, we talked about blue and red temperaments (2:00)My blue/green son often comes acro...507: How To Handle Big Emotions in Kids
Today Karen and Emily tackle listener questions about kids with big emotions; the pouters, the perfectionists, the rule followers, and the fiercely competitive. Whether your child melts down when they lose, struggles to say they’re having fun, or takes rules a little too seriously, this episode will help you parent the way they’re wired instead of fighting against it.
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Join Wire Talk+, our VIP club for listeners (3:45)Is it okay to let my sensitive child pout in his room? (4:27)My “blue child” never says she’s having fun and it’s discouraging to me (9:55...506: Raising Resilient Kids in a Fragile Culture
Are you parenting a Gen Z child and wondering why everything feels so different from when you were growing up? Today Karen and Emily sit down with leadership expert Tim Elmore, founder of Growing Leaders, to talk about the unique pressures facing this generation.
From overexposure to information and technology and underexposure to real-world experiences, Tim helps moms understand what’s really happening beneath the surface in a Gen Z kid. Don’t miss his fantastic illustration of what it means to be a “velvet-covered brick” as a parent!
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Growing Leaders was created...505: Good and Hard Can Run on Parallel Lines
Do you ever feel overwhelmed, overtouched, overstimulated and find yourself wondering, why does this feel so hard?
Today Karen answers real questions from moms about marriage, resentment, anxiety, exhaustion, and the emotional weight of motherhood. From mismatched sex drives in the toddler years to school-day overload and traveling husbands, this conversation will remind you that you are not alone. Motherhood can be beautiful and exhausting at the same time- and good and hard can truly run on parallel lines.
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Good and hard can run on parallel tracks! (3:10)How can I honor my...504: The Myth of the ‘Perfect Friendship’
Friendships in motherhood are rarely as simple as we expect them to be. Today Karen and Emily are continuing our friendship conversation by tackling comparison, conflict, cliques, and what to do when a friendship changes. They answer listeners’ questions about unmet expectations and learning when to lean in and when to let go. If friendship feels confusing, discouraging, or just plain messy right now, we hope this episode encourages you!
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What is happening over on Wire Talk+? (4:01)Where do your friendship expectations come from? (10:30)How have your healthy friendships naturally changed over time? (12:56)Ask God...