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Something has come over me in the last few days. I thought I would share. 

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I’ve seen this throughout my adulthood, and I’ve always frowned upon it. Mothering a man isn't on my list of things to do. Maybe some women have seen this behavior growing up. Maybe it's innocent or thoughtful. I don't know.

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Ladies, have you ever wondered why certain friends seem almost relieved—or even happy—when your relationship doesn't work out? Sometimes the people closest to us aren't celebrating our happiness the way we think they are.

In this episode, we're talking about the uncomfortable reasons some friends may secretly prefer you single, struggling, or uncertain. 

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I know this subject might be a tad bit controversial, but I think it's needed. It needs to be said. Sometimes we need to do things differently in life to get a better result! 

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What if you could look back on your relationships and know you gave yourself permission to truly love, take chances, learn, and grow—without losing yourself along the way?

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I heard a man say this today. I wondered about the saying and thought, “Do we really have to teach our partners how to love us?” 

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Here are the steps I followed after my divorce. I created a plan, which I carefully thought through—much of it was developed during the divorce process. My philosophy is to never wait for an ending to execute a new plan. 

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Sometimes, someone enters your life, and everything feels different. You may think they are finally the person you’ve been waiting for. But what if their purpose in your life is different from what you imagined? What if some relationships are not meant to last forever, but are instead meant to change you, heal something within you, and prepare you for what comes next? What if he stays? There may be a reason he showed up when he did. But the real question is: was he meant to stay?

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Everyone sees the couple who never seems to argue. They look happy, peaceful, and easygoing. But what if there’s something happening behind the scenes that nobody knows about? What if the relationship only looks easy because someone has become very good at hiding what they feel?  Sometimes the biggest sacrifice in a relationship is the one nobody sees. 

Sometimes the calm you see on the outside is covering a much deeper story. And the question is...

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Yes, we all know before our friends break up. I know many of our friends think we don't notice, but we do. When a marriage ends, it’s obvious to us, to everybody in the circle. We just choose to stay silent. Another thing: we also know which person will move on and do better. 

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We naturally look for the closest people in our circle to support us in everything we do. That isn't uncommon, but what if the person closest to you is your biggest rival? What if it's the person that you married? 

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A relationship can end emotionally before it ends officially. Sometimes the ending doesn’t happen with an argument, a breakup, or someone walking out the door. Instead, it happens quietly—when communication fades, affection disappears, trust is lost, and two people slowly stop showing up for each other. So now you find yourself in the most difficult relationship you've ever been in. 

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Intimacy requires consideration. The bedroom should not be a place where one person’s needs matter more than the other’s. Consideration means paying attention to how your partner feels, making them feel wanted, and understanding what excites them. It means caring about their needs and making intimacy enjoyable for both of you. Also, when both people feel valued, heard, and cared for, intimacy can become a deeper expression of love. 

It's a win-win situation! 

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Never feel upset or let yourself get down when someone says something about you. Instead, look at the person who is saying it and consider who they are. What do they know about you? What is their intention? Not everything said about you deserves your attention, your energy, or your reaction. Sometimes, the best response is simply to consider the source, know who is talking, and keep moving forward. 

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I believe that 90 percent of the time, we should trust the universe to guide us toward our desires, our wants. We have a bad habit of trying to steer romance in the direction we want it to go, but most of the time, that leaves us broken-hearted and miserable. So, let's let go and see what happens. Honestly, what can we lose? https://www.instagram.com/traceylau99/

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I believe that to have the life we want, the career and lover we desire, we must choose one or the other. But which one can give you all three? 

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Fall is fast approaching; we need a date. Plus, it's such a beautiful time of year. As the weather cools, routines shift, and people often become more social. This year, we don't want to be caught without a date. We promised last year we would do something different. So let's hold each other accountable. 

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Taking a chance on love means accepting that there are no guarantees. Every relationship involves vulnerability, trust, and the possibility of both joy and heartbreak. But it's better to have known that feeling than not. Life is a gamble sometimes; just live it.

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You all are so special to me! 

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Ladies, we will allow the men to retain that role. We are more skilled at it, I must admit. However, we will let him keep it. We can provide input, and that's all.

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Many women mistakenly believe that paying for affection will lead to earning love or commitment. This misconception needs to change. But what truly happens in these types of relationships? What happens when someone is attracted to what you provide rather than who you are? Do they even stick around? 

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Everyone has someone from their past whom they wonder about—the person they almost chose, the one they never forgot, and the one they still ask, “What if?”

What if you had made a different choice? What if one conversation, one decision, or one moment could have changed the entire direction of your life? Sometimes the people we lose are not forgotten; they become the unanswered questions we carry with us. 

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There seems to be a growing movement of men returning to more traditional ideas of manhood. For many, this does not mean going backward—it means placing a greater emphasis on values such as responsibility, integrity, discipline, leadership, protecting and providing for their ladies, families, and keeping their word. Rather than chasing trends or seeking validation, these men are focusing on building stable careers, becoming emotionally mature, strengthening their character, and creating meaningful relationships. 

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There is always room to improve yourself. Growth is a lifelong journey, not a destination. Each year brings new experiences, new lessons, and new opportunities to become a wiser, stronger, and more compassionate version of yourself.

None of us has all the answers, and that's okay. Life has a way of teaching us through both our successes and our setbacks. Every challenge offers a lesson, every mistake provides an opportunity to grow, and every season of life helps shape who we are becoming.

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Yesterday's podcast resonated positively with everyone. This has become more common lately. We believe they want to connect, but ultimately it's about what we can provide, and then they move on. 

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Let's remember to keep our plans discreet and work quietly. While it might be tempting to share, given the current climate of friendships—whether old or new—it's best to stay cautious. 

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Marriage begins happily for some and lasts for years, but what causes the change? Several factors might be involved, yet there's another reason we seldom discuss. 

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Sometimes the greatest mystery isn't why someone changed. It's why we continue holding on after the friendship has already run its course. Is it loyalty? Guilt? Fear of starting over? Or are we simply attached to the memories of who they used to be? 

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I believe some friendships are meant to last a lifetime. They grow with you through different seasons of life and continue to provide mutual support, respect, and encouragement. But when disrespect becomes a pattern, it may be time to walk away. No friendship—no matter how long it has lasted—should require you to tolerate being disrespected, dismissed, or devalued. 

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We've all heard the phrase, "You're so full of yourself," as if it's one of the worst things someone can say. But what if we've been looking at it all wrong? What if being "full of yourself" isn't the problem at all? In this episode, we're challenging a phrase that's been misunderstood for years. By the end, hopefully you will want to try being full of yourself. 

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It's like there's a silent rival in your relationship. The problem is, you don't realize it's there until the damage has already been done. It's almost impossible to recognize because it doesn't announce itself. It hides behind small moments that seem insignificant on their own. A sarcastic comment when you receive a promotion. A lack of enthusiasm when you reach a goal. A forced smile when others compliment you. A dismissive response when you're excited to share good news. 

This rival isn't another woman. It isn't an ex. It isn't a c...

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A hunter is a man who knows what he wants and isn't afraid to pursue it. He is intentional, focused, and willing to put in the effort when he sees something he values. However, there is one thing that can change everything—and many women don't realize it until it's too late. 

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I wish more people would look at endings like I do. I know some people are stuck on what could have been. But what could have been never would have happened. One major reason is that things weren't working out in that relationship. If a relationship is a struggle, how could it have a happy ending? So, there is no what could have been. 

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I think you tell yourself you'll be fine if it ends because you're trying to prepare for the possibility of getting hurt. It's a form of self-protection. You don't want to get too attached, invest too much emotionally, or allow yourself to imagine a future that may never happen.

So you set expectations low. You tell yourself it's only been a few months. You remind yourself that people come and go. You convince yourself that if the relationship end...

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Remember when we discussed the idea of re-entering the dating scene? It has begun, and so far, I've been on two dates. 
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I'm always feminine, even at my worst. Some suggest channeling that womanly power, and I do so when needed. I'm also quite independent in my relationships. However, when it comes to bringing me coffee or tea, or if a leg falls off the end table, I want him to handle it. I suppose I'm that girl who just enjoys being the honey that draws the bees.

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One of the most frustrating experiences in a relationship is when someone leaves without discussing the issues that led to their decision. Often, the person left behind feels blindsided and wonders what went wrong. They may not recognize the role they played in the situation. This raises an important question: Does the person who leaves owe an explanation to the person they left behind? 

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I don't think you realize how much power you're still giving to the person who broke your heart. I hear you say you've moved on, but have you really? One of the biggest signs that you haven't is that you're still allowing the breakup to define your life.

Many people stop living, stop socializing, and stop pursuing new opportunities because they convince themselves that there's "nothing out there" for them. In reality, they're still emotionally tied to the past and giving their former partner more influence over their future than they...

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Ladies, you have to do a better job of socializing. I see some of you going years without a social life. Many of you have spent weekend after weekend at home—not going out to dinner, seeing a movie, meeting friends for coffee, or even enjoying a day of shopping.

Then, years later, you wonder why you feel lonely, disconnected, or why finding a relationship seems so difficult. Relationships don't usually appear out of thin air. He doesn't know where you live. He hasn't met you yet.  They often begin through sha...

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Sometimes people choose to forgive—or at least say they have. However, over time, the person who was hurt may begin to use the betrayal as leverage in the relationship. They may expect you to tolerate behavior you once would have rejected, pressure you into situations that make you uncomfortable, or dismiss your concerns by bringing up your past mistake. Whether directly or indirectly, they may remind you that because of what happened, you no longer have the right to object, set boundaries, or hold them accountable. So, this is why it is so...