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New Life LIVE is America’s #1 Christian counseling call-in podcast. As a radio program that started in 1988, many people have received help. The hosts are counselors and psychologists answering callers questions about all areas of relationships, addiction and mental health, and how faith is impacted. Visit our website at newlife.com, or call us at 800-639-5433.
New Life LIVE: November 6, 2026
Yesterday at 9:45 PM
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JJ shares how he recently spoke at a retreat about getting irritated with his wife over contact lens solution left too far away on the bathroom counter. A painful pool slide mishap reinforced the lesson: don’t seek personal glory, but point people to God. I’ve looked at porn for decades since I found it among my dad’s things. I recently betrayed my wife by looking at porn; can I still be saved? My ex-husband told my kids not to let me visit while he and his wife are having a family reunion. None o...New Life LIVE: November 5, 2026
Last Thursday at 9:45 PM
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Marc discusses the identified patient dynamic, in which one person is blamed for relationship problems. He shares three things to consider when someone blames you and refuses to take responsibility for their part. Why am I still struggling with feelings of betrayal after discovering in 2009 that my husband and his circle of friends were exchanging hardcore pornography? One of the friends involved was on his recent golf trip. Why do people settle for unhealthy relationships, make excuses for their spouse’s behavior, or accept less than they deserve?New Life LIVE: November 4, 2026
Last Wednesday at 9:45 PM
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Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris explains that trauma often comes from the people we love and trust most. Coping mechanisms that once helped us survive in the past can turn into unhealthy patterns that keep us from building healthy relationships today. I need to grieve leaving my church of nine years because I don’t participate and they never supported me after my husband died. How do I write a letter explaining why I’m leaving? Churches reject me when I tell them that the church is not a building but a community of people. Should I give...New Life LIVE: November 3, 2026
Last Tuesday at 9:45 PM
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Chris discusses how despair can often overshadow everything else in our lives. Drawing from Lamentations 3:22-23, he explains how we can practice gratitude and recognize God’s goodness while remaining honest about the pain and sorrow we experience. How can my 14-year-old nephew’s parents encourage him to take his ADHD medication? How can they help him stop cursing and exhibiting aggressive behavior? How can I help my daughter, who is addicted to meth and fentanyl and sells herself to obtain drugs? I gave her a Life Recovery Bible, but she says someone stole it. She...New Life LIVE: November 2, 2026
Last Monday at 9:45 PM
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Laura shares a dynamic she’s seen in her counseling practice that she calls “Different Face, Same Place.” She shares three steps we can take to replace negative relationship patterns. I’m in my third marriage, and I provide 100% of the financial support for my husband! My husband of 25 years hid that he was a drug addict. I started taking care of others when I was a child because my parents made me take care of my 15 siblings. Are there any tools to deal with my son’s mother-in-law hitting me two years ago at my son’s w...New Life LIVE: October 30, 2026
10/30/2026
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Dr. Jacqui discusses why we shouldn’t try to be the project manager for our spouse or other close relationships. Accept people for who they are, work with reality, and make choices based on that truth. I’m 58 and recovering from addiction, but my ADHD symptoms are getting worse. Will things get better? I was told to get a “Medicaid divorce” because I make more money than my husband, who is in a nursing home. Does this happen to other married couples? How can I help my 25-year-old daughter, who has experienced human trafficking twice and keep...New Life LIVE: October 29, 2026
10/29/2026
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Dr. Henry discusses his new devotional Renewal and explains how the Fall affected human nature across generations. He shares how modern technology amplifies our dysfunction. I’m 87, and I have a 54-year-old son with special needs. During COVID, the Lord gave us more time together, and now we spend each morning affirming one another. I lost my husband of 60 years almost two years ago; I’m finding it’s a struggle to figure out who I am and what my purpose is at this point in my life. How can I make better decisions by combin...New Life LIVE: October 28, 2026
10/28/2026
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Dr. Alice shares how borrowing tools from her neighbor, who is like a father figure to her, made her realize she had relapsed into old behaviors of hiding, avoiding, and delaying when she thinks she’s in trouble. Is my secular 12-step recovery group holding me back? I have been clean from drugs and alcohol for 12 years, but a woman in my Sunday School class thinks my secular recovery group is like living in the past. Could my misguided expectations be an example of a generational curse? I have expectations, such as thinking I’m going to g...New Life LIVE: October 27, 2026
10/27/2026
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Dr. Jill discusses the history of Halloween and its connection to All Hallows’ Eve, the evening before All Saints’ Day on November 1. She also shares her tradition of hosting an annual harvest soup party. I’m very discouraged with my marriage; my husband lost his father, and there has been infidelity and alcohol issues. Any advice on how to feel differently? I’m in my mid-60s; sex addiction destroyed my marriage and career, then I ended up in prison. But I found Jesus for real and got help with an addiction specialist!New Life LIVE: October 26, 2026
10/26/2026
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Dr. Cloud discusses his newest devotional book Renewal: 90 Daily Readings for Restoring Your Mind, Your Boundaries, Your Relationships, and Your Peace, written to help readers connect with God and identify one area to work on each day. Some people say that something that happened years ago can’t still affect them today. What would you say to them? I’m a single mom; how do I take care of others and take care of myself?New Life LIVE: October 23, 2026
10/23/2026
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Dr. Jill discusses Joseph’s story, forgiveness, and reconciliation from her book Forgiving Our Fathers and Mothers. She explains why forgiveness takes time and reconciliation requires accountability and healthy boundaries. How can I get my 86-year-old cousin with dementia and cancer into assisted living when she refuses to leave home? I travel out of state every other week to care for her. What should I say to my son-in-law after seeing him shove my daughter? He seems angry toward me, but my daughter says he was in a bad mood, and I’ll see him next...New Life LIVE: October 22, 2026
10/22/2026
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Becky shares that the opposite of despair is joy. Bible verses like Nehemiah 8:10 inspire us to have the joy of the Lord, and she discusses ways to let joy come back into your life. How do I respond to my 30-year-old son’s text about his feelings? He says we kicked him out after he told us he was gay in high school, but I don’t remember it that way. Should I tell my friends about a disturbing, hateful handwritten note I found in their home? My friend is an elder in our church, and...New Life LIVE: October 21, 2026
10/21/2026
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Dr. Alice asks: How can parents best pray for their children and their screen time? She suggests 3 things parents can pray for. My husband of four years grew up in a family of manipulators; what should I do to deal with his family, who are all takers? What should I do if the man I’ve dated for 8 years has betrayed me 3 times with an older woman from our apartment building? It’ll be good for 4 months then it turns bad. Should I take on caring for my blind 5-year-old grandson who has been placed into...New Life LIVE: October 20, 2026
10/20/2026
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Chris celebrates his 25th wedding anniversary and shares biblical wisdom for a healthy marriage. Ephesians 5:21 teaches mutual submission, while 1 Peter 3:8 encourages spouses to be like-minded. Chris’s stepfather calls to congratulate Chris and his wife Ember on their 25th wedding anniversary. Would attending Every Man’s Battle make my boyfriend relive his past? When I suggested the workshop to help him, he said he didn’t want to relive his past. I have a genetic predisposition to dementia; would the Amen Clinic help me? I’m in my 60s and getting married for the first time in...New Life LIVE: October 19, 2026
10/19/2026
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Marc discusses how to transform your relationship in 30 days using four rules of engagement. The biggest obstacle may not be your differences, but how you treat each other. I was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease 10 years ago, and my marriage was better before my diagnosis. How do I cope with my wife blaming me for having Parkinson’s? A couple in our life group took an Advent wreath I had used in a retreat exercise and joked about it by putting it on the front of our car. How can I trust my abusive, bipolar ex-h...New Life LIVE: October 16, 2026
10/16/2026
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Dr. Jill discusses why the phrase “you’re too sensitive” may be a way to dismiss feelings or deflect responsibility. She encourages open communication and taking ownership of our reactions. My 5-year-old grandson has been licking other children, putting kids in a chokehold, and looking under bathroom stalls at school. His parents are divorced, and he constantly has to adapt to change. Should we pull him out of school? I struggle with depression and anxiety and have difficulty setting boundaries with people at my church. I can’t get into therapy until November. What can I do in...New Life LIVE: October 15, 2026
10/15/2026
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Dr. Alice shares how a man found relief from schizophrenia after trying the keto diet recommended in Dr. Christopher Palmer’s book, Brain Energy. My daughter was yelled at by her mother, who abandoned her at age 4. Now she plans to marry a man who has moved in with her but isn’t a Christian. How should I handle this? How do I deal with my wife who may have bipolar disorder? We’ve been married for 42 years, and I’m a recovering alcoholic. My adult daughter discovered my husband’s 35-year affair. I believe he ended t...New Life LIVE: October 14, 2026
10/14/2026
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Laura, a presenter at New Life’s Restore and Intimacy in Marriage Workshops, discusses three common myths about forgiveness that contradict God’s truth, based on John 8:31–32. God calls us to live in truth, not pretend. How do I handle my wife wanting a brand-new home and bigger vacations? I feel like I’ve provided for years, but now it’s not good enough. What will I learn at the Intimacy in Marriage Workshop? Who is the Restore Workshop for? How can I help my 29-year-old son who experiences same-sex attraction? He’s a Christian and says he’...New Life LIVE: October 13, 2026
10/13/2026
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Becky discusses the quote she’s heard, “God’s call on your life is so bigger than your ability to miss it.” The seed never looks like the plant. If there’s something you’re struggling with and the plant hasn’t surfaced yet, take hope that God is still working. I’m a single mom of an 18-year-old daughter. She recently moved in with her boyfriend after his parents encouraged her to share an apartment with him. How do I handle her boyfriend pushing her around when he drinks? Last weekend, my ex-husband asked if he could move...New Life LIVE: October 12, 2026
10/12/2026
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Marc explains that our feelings tell us about what’s happening on the inside, but not necessarily what’s happening on the outside. He shares a personal experience that triggered panic; it reminds us that feelings can be good indicators but shouldn’t become dictators. Am I being clueless, or is my husband too involved with a married woman at church who shares her problems with him but not with me? I’m taking a road trip from California to Florida with my 43-year-old lesbian daughter. I want to talk about things on my heart, includin...New Life LIVE: October 9, 2026
10/09/2026
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Dr. Jim recalls visiting his mom in hospice and the last words she spoke to him: that she loved him and was proud of him. Tell someone you love them and are proud of them today. My three youngest children cut me out of their lives when they turned 16. I’m gay and have been married to my wife for 7 years. How can I re-establish a connection while respecting their beliefs that being gay is a sin? I lost my wife 5 years ago to COVID, and I never got to say goodbye. How can I pr...New Life LIVE: October 8, 2026
10/08/2026
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Dr. Jill discusses chronic pain and its impact on mental health, sharing about her son’s experience with long-term chronic pain. She offers the 5-4-3-2-1 technique to help ground yourself. I wanted to share that God delivered me from drugs by reading God’s Word, praying, and praising God. I never went through rehab, but the renewing of the mind through God’s Word transformed me. I’m a 9941 Partner. I came across New Life and have great boundaries with my adult children and 17 grandkids! I understand the importance of family of origin w...New Life LIVE: October 7, 2026
10/07/2026
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Dr. Sheri asks, “What’s the difference between givers and takers?” She explains how takers may be motivated by power, control, entitlement, and personal gain, and explores how love bombing can cause us to overlook warning signs and our intuition. Besides medication, what help is there for my anxiety? I’ve struggled more with anxiety as I’ve gotten older, and medication has become less effective. What do you think about yoga, or do you have any other suggestions? When I was growing up, my mom was a tough cookie; there was no love. Now, as a pedia...New Life LIVE: October 6, 2026
10/06/2026
Dr. Jim asks, “What’s on your dream list in terms of personal growth?” and shares how his friend Tony, a sociologist, had his students ask people 95 and older about their regrets and what they would do differently if they could live life over again. How can I respond appropriately to our daughter’s boundaries? She recently told us that visits with her and her kids should happen organically, and they feel we’re jealous of her in-laws who live nearby. I’m a 9941 Partner and recently received a little card you sent out with a sheep on it. I can’t listen...
New Life LIVE: October 5, 2026
10/05/2026
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Chris shares how perception can become about performing, impressing, and protecting our ego. Moving beyond perception and admiration into the vulnerability of being truly known can be terrifying—but freeing. I’m negative about work and feel angry, depressed, and overworked. I haven’t received a bonus like others. What can help me mentally? I’m a single guy in my late 60s, a believer, and involved in multiple ministries. But the area where I live makes it difficult to meet quality female friends. How do I stop the negative thoughts that keep me up at night...New Life LIVE: October 2, 2026
10/02/2026
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Dr. Jill shares DIY strategies for managing rumination, including identifying the root cause of anxious thoughts, journaling, and setting aside a specific “worry time.” How can I humble myself while maintaining healthy boundaries and not becoming a doormat for my wife? After 14 years of marriage, my wife and I argue every day, and I feel like she is constantly punishing and scolding me. I’ve been divorced for 10 years. How do I deal with competitive women at singles events while trying to find the right man for me? How can I break free from masturbation and po...New Life LIVE: October 1, 2026
10/01/2026
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Marc discusses how entangled affairs can begin with an emotional connection and gradually progress through personal disclosure, emotional dependence, fantasizing, secrecy, and eventually physical boundaries. I’ve had a lot of operations and take prescription pain medication. Am I going to miss the Rapture because I’m taking it? My sister lives with me, and I became her conservator. She has learning disabilities and schizophrenia. My parents believe she needs more medication, but I don’t. How can I help bridge the gap between my parents and my sister? How do I let go of my chi...New Life LIVE: September 30, 2026
09/30/2026
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Dr. Sheri shares about her mother’s passing on September 2. When her mother was in the ICU, Dr. Sheri was stuck in traffic and talked to her mom on the phone, telling her she could go be with Jesus. I don’t like people bringing personal devices into my home. When my friend rushed out of my house after getting a phone call, I thought it was rude. My boyfriend abducted me at age 17 and took me away from my parents. Could past trauma and grief from losing my parents still be affecting me? I’ve lis...New Life LIVE: September 29, 2026
09/29/2026
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Chris confesses that he’s not a good confessor and shares how shame and fear made it difficult to talk openly during his early recovery. He also explains the 3 C’s of confession, referencing 1 John 1:9 and James 5:16. We do the 12 Steps one at a time. For instance, we don’t advance to Step 5 until we’ve completed Step 4. Can you explain more about that? I use the acronym O.A.R. to help me become safer in relationships and work through ruptures in relationships. I had difficulty with an elder who is a teacher at my church...New Life LIVE: September 28, 2026
09/28/2026
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Becky asks, “What’s on your mind?” If you’re like Becky, you may immediately go into fix-it mode, but sometimes we need to talk to someone and bring what’s on our mind to God, allowing Him to renew our mind (Romans 12:12) and help us focus on what is true, honorable, and good (Philippians 4:8). I’m 21yo and live with my mom, who smokes marijuana every day. I used to smoke but haven’t for months, and she still smokes inside the house, so should I get away from it and let her do whatever she w...New Life LIVE: September 25, 2026
09/25/2026
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Dr. Jacqui explains that people often confuse understanding someone’s perspective with agreeing with them. You can acknowledge and understand how someone feels without sharing their opinion or approving of their behavior. My son died of an overdose almost nine years ago, and I became close to my granddaughter after his death. She’s now 19 and shutting me out. What can I do? I’m 67 and have lifelong anxiety, and my daughter in Australia wants me to take a nine-hour drive each way for a boating trip. That is too much for me. Should I set a...New Life LIVE: September 24, 2026
09/24/2026
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Dr. Jill discusses generalized anxiety disorder (GAD). When we have GAD, our brains can link worrying with the belief that we can control things. Typically, it’s the man who wants to be intimate and the woman who doesn’t, but my marriage is the opposite. In 34 years of marriage, I’ve always been the one initiating. How do I honor God and my husband? I attended Every Man’s Battle this weekend after a ministry service representative encouraged me to go. Thank you for giving me a scholarship so I could attend! The hosts discuss...New Life LIVE: September 23, 2026
09/23/2026
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Becky asks: How do we repair a relationship? She explains that some people are using AI to replace human therapists, but AI cannot repair a rupture in a relationship. Becky offers practical suggestions for rebuilding connection. My 17-year-old granddaughter thinks her father, my son, is trying to contact her. How do we tell her the truth—that there is a court order preventing him from seeing her and that he has sexually abused children? I just found out my 16-year-old son has been cutting, has had suicidal thoughts, and has had dreams about suicide. What do...New Life LIVE: September 22, 2026
09/22/2026
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JJ asks: What areas of your life have you overlooked? Drawing on Proverbs 24:30-34, he explains how the areas we overlook can eventually become like weeds in our lives. How do I process my best friend cutting off all contact with me? We’ve been best friends for more than 15 years, but she sent me a text saying we are no longer friends. How do I cope with the loss of this friendship? What are your thoughts on an acronym I wrote for New Life? I wanted to suggest that my friend meet with a th...New Life LIVE: September 21, 2026
09/21/2026
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Marc explains how each attachment style can lead to people saying the opposite of how they feel. Ask yourself: What am I actually feeling and what do I want this person to know? Is it unreasonable to ask my son to text me when he gets to his destination when he travels? He seems upset when I ask, but I want to know he’s safe. As Christians, should we accept a wedding invitation from my husband’s female cousin, who is marrying a woman? I feel God is telling me not to go, but I’m...New Life LIVE: September 18, 2026
09/18/2026
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Dr. Alice shares about the miscarriage of her child and discusses where God is when a woman experiences a miscarriage. She also offers practical ways to begin healing after pregnancy loss, whether you are the mother or father. My 45-year-old son is single and has epilepsy. He’s never driven, isn’t married, and has never dated. Having him come live with us will change our privacy and his. How do we navigate this transition and maintain healthy boundaries? Why won’t God reveal Himself to me? I hear people talk about experiences that confirm God is...New Life LIVE: September 17, 2026
09/17/2026
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Parents, do you know how to talk about the dangers of AI and chatbots? Dr. Alice shares the tragic story of a boy who committed suicide after developing a romantic relationship with AI, reminding us that AI should never replace our relationships with God and other people. I’m a 70-year-old widow, and my husband died when I was 52. Yesterday, when I asked my brother if I could share something with him, he mentioned God and said I had to wait until I was with both him and his wife. My 23-year-old son got his gi...New Life LIVE: September 16, 2026
09/16/2026
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Becky shares a couple of her favorite quotes, including one attributed to Plato: “Be kind because everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” We rarely know what anyone else is carrying, so we have to be careful not to judge. My elderly mother fell and broke her femur two years ago, but she still isn’t doing anything about it. I’m 58, but she treats me like a child and says she doesn’t want me to be alone. How do I handle this so I don’t sound so irritated? My brother and his wife did...New Life LIVE: September 15, 2026
09/15/2026
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JJ discusses the difference between slips and relapses. For example, JJ has been working to change his diet but had a recent slip-up, not a relapse. In recovery, when people have a slip, they often think they’re starting back at zero. But it’s only a minor setback. I went to Every Man’s Battle and wanted to share that within the first hour, you experience a certain freedom. I help with lay counseling and have seen ministers tell women that it’s built into a guy’s DNA to need to have a sexual rel...New Life LIVE: September 14, 2026
09/14/2026
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Becky shares the challenges of caring for her adult son with disabilities and the constant search for answers. Her pastor recently reminded her that God is with her. In 2 Corinthians 4, Paul reminds us that we have treasures in “clay jars” and may be “pressed…but not…crushed.” I called you about my blindness, and I wanted to let you know that my eyes and depression have been completely healed! I’m dating a woman whose son loves me, but he has a busy schedule. How can I let him know that I want to have a relationship...