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New Life LIVE is America’s #1 Christian counseling call-in podcast. As a radio program that started in 1988, many people have received help. The hosts are counselors and psychologists answering callers questions about all areas of relationships, addiction and mental health, and how faith is impacted. Visit our website at newlife.com, or call us at 800-639-5433.
New Life LIVE: June 17, 2026
Yesterday at 8:45 PM
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Becky discusses how she just went to the optometrist for a new prescription, and it reminded her of change. The optometrist said not to switch back to old glasses. If you’re not seeing things clearly, it’s worth doing things you might not feel comfortable with to get to the other side. Why do I feel guilty to divorce my husband of 8 years who has a newborn baby with another woman? We’re leaders in our church. A couple in my church just discovered their 14-year-old son wrote a book about sexual assault, and they’r...New Life LIVE: June 16, 2026
Last Tuesday at 8:45 PM
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Dr. Alice discusses a new term, digital dementia, which shows how excessive screen time can negatively affect the brain, even in young people. What can we do? She shares 3 ways parents can teach their children self-control and healthy screen habits. How do we help restore the relationship between my 24-year-old stepdaughter and my husband? He wasn’t able to help her pack her car for a move with her boyfriend, and she got very upset. How do I address my son and daughter-in-law who let my 4-year-old grandson wear a dress? He recently drew a pi...New Life LIVE: June 15, 2026
Last Monday at 8:45 PM
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Dr. Alice discusses a time when her husband was younger and took psychedelics and experienced demonic activity, then she shares more about her newest book, 100 Days of Biblical Family Engagement. I’ve struggled with anxiety my whole life, and it’s getting worse; how can I become free so I don’t pass my anxiety onto my kids? There are times when I feel like no one cares; is there any way I can overcome these negative thoughts? Does the Bible say anything about having a premonition about your death? My son talked about dying, and th...New Life LIVE: June 12, 2026
Last Friday at 8:45 PM
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Becky talks about how to move out of the state of denial. When we stay in denial, we discount what God has done and what He is going to do. Lamentations 3:22-23 is a great truth to hold on to. I have had depression since childhood because my mom committed suicide when I was 12. Even though I see a counselor, I don’t have any relief because I look around and see people with parents, but my mom is gone. I’ve struggled with porn since I was exposed as a child. My wife knew about...New Life LIVE: June 11, 2026
06/11/2026
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In today’s world, with so many voices, Becky asks: who are we believing? Let’s go to God’s Word first and believe what we read. My dad gets angry with my mom when she doesn’t spend time with him during our trips to Europe to visit my mom’s family. Is there anything I can do? Should I confront my husband if he lied to my 21-year-old daughter after she asked him if he had ever been unfaithful? I’m 57 and married to a wife I love, but I’m in a sexless marria...New Life LIVE: June 10, 2026
06/10/2026
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Dr. Alice shares about her newest book 100 Days of Biblical Family Engagement and the power of reading the Bible together as a family—how it can draw us closer to God and strengthen relationships at home. How do I navigate heavy emotions while struggling with infertility? My husband had an affair during our separation, and we both acted out sexually. Now we’re trying to heal while facing infertility. My husband had a stroke, and I need to work full time. I was recently terminated after 9 years with my company. How do I move forward at 70...New Life LIVE: June 9, 2026
06/09/2026
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JJ shares that when you “delight yourself in the Lord, He will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4). God places His desires within you and brings them to fruition in His timing. I just attended Every Man’s Battle, and my biggest takeaway is that I need to connect with God, myself, and other people. One practical way I’m doing that is through journaling. My therapist asked me to send her screenshots of some songs I’ve written, and she said she could use AI to help complete them. Should I share unfinished...New Life LIVE: June 8, 2026
06/08/2026
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Becky shares that June is Men’s Health Month, highlighting how many common myths can prevent men from seeking help for mental health challenges, emotional health struggles, and relational issues that deeply impact families. My friend told me that my husband might be a narcissist. He likes to be left alone, doesn’t do much with the kids, and likes to keep stuff even though we don’t have room. Is he a narcissist? I just found out that my husband took our daughter into a crack house when she was 7 or 8 and allowed her to be...New Life LIVE: June 5, 2026
06/05/2026
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Dr. Jill shares strategies for responding to someone who is reactive. I told my mom to stop texting me because she keeps bringing up the past, and I can’t mentally handle it. My dad sexually abused my sister and killed her. What can I do to improve my dating relationships? I’m 50 years old. The conversation about marriage comes up, but they never take the next step. I want to date with purpose. I have a terminal illness; my 39-year-old son lives with me and doesn’t have many in-person relationships. I worry about what w...New Life LIVE: June 4, 2026
06/04/2026
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Dr. Jim shares a recent conversation he had with Dr. Neil Clark Warren, in which he asked, “What’s the secret to a good relationship?” He said, “You have to be flexible, and when you’re adaptable, you do better.” Dr. Jim discusses positive adaptability. Based on research by Gottman, a healthy marriage has a ratio of 5 positive interactions to 1 negative interaction. How do I convince my wife that she needs to go to counseling in order to heal? Do I drag her to counseling, or does she need to go on her own? We’ve been marrie...New Life LIVE: June 3, 2026
06/03/2026
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Dr. Alice discusses how some of us may experience “death wishes” toward others and outlines three practical steps to take when we feel the urge to harm ourselves or wish harm on someone else. What can I do if I don’t feel I love as I should when people express love for me? I’m a wife, mother, and grandmother, but I struggle with depression, and the medication I take makes me numb. What do I say to my 43-year-old son with schizophrenia who hears God telling him he will be healed if he shaves h...New Life LIVE: June 2, 2026
06/02/2026
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Chris discusses Psalm 37 and shares several of his observations. Discontentment, fretting, and envy make us vulnerable to more dangerous and destructive things in life. But like Paul, we must be on a journey of learning contentment. My husband and my son are in recovery from sex addiction, and my son was sharing his struggles with dating a certain woman. What’s the expectation for sexual integrity for men dating in their 20s and 30s? Who would I go to for an assessment for my 34-year-old daughter? She can’t find a man to marry, lashes out...New Life LIVE: June 1, 2026
06/01/2026
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Marc discusses how healthy relationships are built through intentional partnership, emotional connection, and structure. By understanding your attachment style, you can learn the skills needed to develop a more secure attachment and stronger relationships. Is codependency an addiction? I tend to get into codependent relationships and then experience major periods of depression. Is EMDR therapy effective for 11-year-olds? My granddaughter was diagnosed with ADHD and prescribed medication, but she hasn’t taken it because she struggles to swallow pills. Can a 20-year marriage recover from repeated infidelity? My husband was involved with the same woman mu...New Life LIVE: May 29, 2026
05/29/2026
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Avoidant tendencies can keep us from speaking up for ourselves when someone is hurting us. We think that we can love our perpetrators out of their behavior, so people pleasers are often avoiders. My mom sent me off to another state when I was 14, and during that first year, I molested my 9-year-old cousin. It was never discussed, and recently she died; how do I get past my regret? I lost both of my parents; how do I survive if I don’t have emotional security around me?New Life LIVE: May 28, 2026
05/28/2026
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Dr. Jim talks about overthinking in his newest book, When Your Adult Child Strays, and why parents shouldn’t define themselves by their adult children’s choices or be one-topic parents. My daughter-in-law told me I’m not welcome in her home after she took guardianship of my wife who suffers from schizophrenia. How do I make peace with my daughter-in-law? I have an on-again-off-again relationship with my 40-year-old daughter. When she pulls away, I don’t get to see my grandchildren. How do I address this? She tells me I was a bad parent. I finali...New Life LIVE: May 27, 2026
05/27/2026
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Dr. Sheri discusses Psalm 40:2 and how that verse reminds her that no matter how covered with mud she feels, the Lord is there to pick her up. I have arthritis, use a walker, and my brother wants me to move into assisted living; however, I want to move to Phoenix, but I’m afraid. My 24-year-old son is a marine, is married, and is coping with his depression by using alcohol; my husband and I are going to see him. What do I say and what should I not say? I got divorced 7 years ago. I...New Life LIVE: May 26, 2026
05/26/2026
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Dr. Jim discusses why many adult children are deconstructing their parents’ faith and explains the three types of people who often walk away from faith: nomads, prodigals, and exiles. I left a 10-year relationship because my avoidant, live-in boyfriend refused to talk through issues, but he keeps sending nostalgic texts. What should I do to finally move on? I’m 58, struggled with substance abuse for years, and I’m finally sober, but my ADHD symptoms are becoming harder to manage. Is there still hope for recovery and mental health healing later in life? We’ve spent th...New Life LIVE: May 25, 2026
05/25/2026
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Dr. Jill discusses thievery and jealousy and how we shouldn’t let the enemy steal our internal happiness. Jesus is the same yesterday, today, and forever (Hebrews 13:8). I’m retired, but my husband doesn’t want to go anywhere, and I’m in tears about it. In the mornings, I feel deep anxiety. Some friends invited us on a European cruise, but my husband won’t go—so now I’m feeling jealous. My kids are 10 and 11. My daughter opened her brother’s computer and found sexually explicit material. What do I do? How can a pill affect yo...New Life LIVE: May 22, 2026
05/22/2026
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JJ discusses ho’oponopono, the ancient Hawaiian practice for reconciliation and forgiveness, especially around someone’s death. The core concepts are humility, recognition of the importance of the relationship, gratitude, and being willing to forgive. My brother’s wife spirals out of control every 2 years or so because of mental health issues, and has even wanted to kill him. He says he has to wait until his kids get older to leave, and his teen daughter isn’t allowed to be alone with her. What are some strategies to give to my brother? I am one of 1...New Life LIVE: May 21, 2026
05/21/2026
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Dr. Jim answers the question: When adult children walk away from their faith, what’s the answer for parents? Staying connected, loving well, and trusting God are essential. I stay in a fight-or-flight mode and have a hard time setting boundaries with my narcissistic husband, who has been physically abusive to me. And I have a 15-year-old daughter who is his stepdaughter. How do I help my wife stop enabling her adult son who struggles with alcoholism? She has been confronted by me, her responsible son and daughter-in-law, but she’s resistant. What can I do t...New Life LIVE: May 20, 2026
05/20/2026
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Dr. Jill discusses when gloating causes grief. Why do I feel constant competition in my romantic relationships? I’ve always struggled with my faith, and I feel like it has to do with childhood traumas. We’re recently married and my wife’s past trauma has led her to ask me to leave and not talk to me for three months.New Life LIVE: May 19, 2026
05/19/2026
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Chris discusses why we should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry, as James 1:19 encourages us to. I’m going through menopause, seeing a counselor, and taking medication, but my husband isn’t dealing with it very well. How do I navigate it? God has called me to do a water fast. But with my daughter graduating sixth grade, my son graduating high school, and marriage issues, what does breakthrough look like? My husband died last year; he was a high-functioning alcoholic, was unfaithful, and was mean when he drank. How...New Life LIVE: May 18, 2026
05/18/2026
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Dr. Jim discusses his newest book, When Your Adult Child Strays. If your adult child makes poor choices like addiction, unhealthy relationships, or moving in with a boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s easy to panic and react in anger. Staying connected and preserving the relationship is critical. My 13-year-old granddaughter got a citation for marijuana, then cut her wrist before going to court, and also became violent with her mom after her phone was taken away. Are there any resources to help? My husband is in rehab, and we’ve been separated for a year. He w...New Life LIVE: May 15, 2026
05/15/2026
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Dr. Alice shares how Jesus refilled Himself when He was tired; how do you refill spiritually and emotionally? All of my family has passed away, I have medical problems, and I wake up wanting to be with the Lord—how can I stop feeling so angry and find peace? I’ve been married for six years and am in an emotionally destructive marriage, but I don’t want a divorce; what can I do? What should I tell my daughter-in-law to do after she found a letter from the other woman my narcissistic son is having...New Life LIVE: May 14, 2026
05/14/2026
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Dr. Sheri discusses how many of us grew up in homes where there was sexual abuse, emotional abuse, and psychological abuse. Many people carry those wounds into adulthood, often still feeling powerless and helpless in relationships without realizing it. I am adopted; am I biblically obligated to have a relationship with my biological mother if I don’t want to? My 11-year-old granddaughter has developed a fear after getting sick and won’t take Benadryl because she thinks it’s poison. She was given a small dose of Prozac. What are your thoughts now that she’s...New Life LIVE: May 13, 2026
05/13/2026
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Dr. Alice reminds parents of the importance of repairing the relationship with their kids. Parents don’t know how long they have left on earth, nor do we know how long our kids have left. So, live with an eternal focus. How can I help my wife step back from enabling? We have a blended family with 12 kids combined, and my wife enables her 34-year-old biological daughter. My wife and I have been talking extensively throughout the time we’ve been separated and divorced, but I just don’t feel like my trauma is resolved yet. I...New Life LIVE: May 12, 2026
05/12/2026
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Dr. Alice discusses how she dealt with a family member who told her not to share about her faith with them. My paranoid and controlling son is having problems in his marriage; how do I help them? I do FaceTime with my adult kids, but I have a lot of emotional triggers; how do I not get triggered by them? What do I do if I’m 78 years old, was homeless, and have lost everything?New Life LIVE: May 11, 2026
05/11/2026
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Dr. Alice discusses what you can do to push yourself forward if you have any unfinished business-—such as needing to make amends with someone. I’ve lost five people in five years, and there are people in my life who think I am stuffing my grief down. My 24-year-old son is transitioning to a woman and wants to be taken off of my insurance; what do I do? I’ve lost my husband, mom, sister, and wake up every day hoping that God will take me; does God still love me? Should I have dinner...New Life LIVE: May 8, 2026
05/08/2026
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Dr. Henry Cloud explains that when he wrote his newest book Your Desired Future, he had essential steps in mind to help people move forward. Start by being honest about where you are—but don’t stay there. Get out of denial and develop a clear vision for where you want to go. I drink 4 or 5 shots of alcohol at a time because I’m lonely. My wife just looks at her iPad, and I can’t talk to her about it. How do I get to the root of it? I just checked into a clinic...New Life LIVE: May 7, 2026
05/07/2026
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Chris discusses how we can easily overlook something like envy. We must confess it, recognize the damage it causes, and not minimize sin in our lives. I’m 34 and because I was a young mother, I didn’t do a great job raising my kids ages 17 and 18. I became a Christian two years ago, but don’t have a close relationship with them. What can I do now? Their dad isn’t in the picture. My daughter is closer to my lesbian cousin than she is to me; what can I do? I’m in a blended...New Life LIVE: May 6, 2026
05/06/2026
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Dr. Henry Cloud discusses his newest book, Your Desired Future: The Five Essential Steps That Take You Where You Want to Go. How do I deal with the loss of my 11-year-old dog? I had to put her down last week, and it was a hard decision. My husband had a traumatic brain injury but was still able to reconcile with our daughter; however, she hasn’t reconciled with me. Is there anything he can say to help?New Life LIVE: May 5, 2026
05/05/2026
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Becky discusses why it’s time to rethink mental health. Take a step toward a healthier life with (Romans 12:1–3), (2 Corinthians 10:5), and (Philippians 4:8). My daughter lives four miles from me, but she is on and off with me. I went by their house to ask for help fixing the light on my car and was met with hostility. Becky’s husband, Bruce, called to wish her a happy 42nd wedding anniversary! My husband passed away from Alzheimer’s, and I still can’t believe it. The man I was dating hasn’t called me recently, and I think he b...New Life LIVE: May 4, 2026
05/04/2026
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Dr. Alice asks the thought-provoking question, “What is your resistance to healing?” She also shares three ways to overcome resistance to change and embrace emotional and spiritual healing. Our 33-year-old daughter is pregnant, and her fiancé called off their wedding. Now neither of them will talk to us, and her boyfriend seems very controlling. What should we do in this difficult family situation? When I go to my friend’s house, where I help care for his dog, I notice sexually-explicit material on his table. Should I tell him it makes me uncomfortable? My wife and I h...New Life LIVE: May 1, 2026
05/01/2026
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Dr. Jim discusses what deconstruction is and how his newest book, When Your Adult Child Strays: Trading Heartache for Hope, explores this difficult topic in greater depth. How do I love my wife when I feel no attraction or emotional connection to her? I also struggle with respect because we seem very different in intelligence and humor. I was sexually abused by my stepfather. Now when I visit my mom, she turns away when I try to give her a kiss on the cheek, so I told her I shouldn’t see her. Any advice?New Life LIVE: April 30, 2026
04/30/2026
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Chris confesses he can be very obstinate and prideful when it comes to submission. We have to face that submission is not an option; use resistance as a pathway to what needs to be submitted to God. What do you do when an employee doesn’t submit to their boss because they believe the Lord told them to do something else? We are in our sixties; is it normal for my husband to spend significant time with his friends? I found out about an Ireland trip he planned to take and I waited months for hi...New Life LIVE: April 29, 2026
04/29/2026
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Becky discusses neuroplasticity and how God designed our brains to change and grow. Our brains form neuropathways, and over time, habits become part of who we are. However, real transformation is possible—you can change the way your brain works through doing things like habit stacking. I wanted to talk to my girlfriend’s son about Christ before he died of cancer, but I didn’t feel like I could because her family asked a pastor to leave the hospital room. Did it help to witness to him after he took his last breath? When the la...New Life LIVE: April 28, 2026
04/28/2026
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Dr. Jill talks about what relational confirmation bias is—for example, when we’re always looking for what we fear. When we do that, we create algorithms that help to reinforce it. My husband is a farmer, and I have an outside job. It’s getting to be too much, and I’m finding my family is dysfunctional; what can I do? How do I navigate my 4-year-old daughter’s questions about her daddy? My husband and I are separated, and he’s not allowed to see her right now. Our 23-year-old daughter just broke up with her...New Life LIVE: April 27, 2026
04/27/2026
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Marc explains the difference between change and growth. While we can change external circumstances like jobs or relationships, real transformation happens through internal growth—otherwise the same patterns often remain. How do I handle my estranged 28-year-old son? He’s always had a difficult relationship with my husband and cut off most of the family except me. He eloped last year and has now cut me off as well. I’m concerned about my friend’s safety due to her memory loss. Should I step back and give her space because she isn’t open to suggest...New Life LIVE: April 24, 2026
04/24/2026
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Chris discusses having a high-maintenance internal world and how showing up well requires intentional effort rather than entitlement, beginning each day by releasing anxiety to God. How do I establish the right boundaries with my 25-year-old daughter? She’s finishing her master’s degree but takes her frustrations out on me. I feel bad when I block my meth-addicted son, but he goes to detox and then starts using meth again. He recently fell in love with a woman who is also a meth addict. How can I pick the right lady to be with? I ke...New Life LIVE: April 23, 2026
04/23/2026
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Dr. Alice shares that over 77 percent of those who work in the sex industry were sexually abused in the past. If we are consuming pornography, are we participating in the abuse of those we are watching? Our daughter is getting married this weekend and it might be the last chance for full family photos because my husband has cancer. Our two sons will be there, but they have not spoken to each other for four years. How do I show up for my sons? Are grief, betrayal, and trauma intertwined? My sister took a lot...