Miss Understood with Rachel Uchitel

Think your relationship is just “in a rut”? Maybe you’ve just misunderstood what intimacy is really about.

This week we’re breaking down the myths around sex, kink, and connection—and getting real about what actually keeps the spark alive.

From awkward date nights to full-on bedroom boredom, this episode is your permission slip to ditch the pressure and rediscover play, curiosity, and emotional connection. Whether you’re newly in love or 15 years deep, you’ll want to hear this.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why sex doesn’t have to be performat...

Remembering Judge Frank Caprio: America’s Nicest Judge

Judge Frank Caprio, the beloved Providence Municipal Court chief judge and star of Caught in Providence, has passed away at 88 after a battle with pancreatic cancer. Known worldwide for his compassion, empathy, and sense of justice, Caprio touched millions with his humanity from the bench.

A few months ago, I had the privilege of traveling to Miami to interview him in person at his home, surrounded by his family. We shared a heartfelt, candid conversation about his life, his values, and the lessons he wanted to leave be...

Lisa D’Amato has never been a stranger to the spotlight. From America’s Next Top Model to Celebrity Rehab and Marriage Boot Camp, she’s lived her life on camera — edited, labeled, and judged. But the headlines she faces today are far more personal.

Ahead of this interview, Adam’s family (her ex-husband) reached out to me directly, sharing their concerns and providing translated court documents from Portugal. The allegations inside are serious and complicated. I want to be clear: I am not here to be a judge, and I cannot independently verify every detail. But what I can...

What happens when the person who’s supposed to love you most becomes the one who leaves the deepest wounds? Those scars don’t just stay in childhood—they follow us, shaping the partners we choose, the patterns we repeat, and the stories we tell ourselves about love.

That’s the raw heart of Taylor Higgins’ brand-new novel, Best Kept Stranger, out this week. It’s fiction, but it reads like truth—pulling from the toxic parent–child relationships so many of us quietly carry, and exposing how they echo in our adult lives.

Taylor isn’t new to tel...

In this raw and revealing episode of Miss Understood, Rachel Uchitel sits down with comedy icon Kathy Griffin for an unflinching conversation about surviving one of the most infamous scandals in pop culture. Kathy opens up about the fallout from her controversial Trump photo, the six years she spent in professional exile, battling prescription pill addiction, surviving lung cancer, and enduring a painful divorce. Together, Rachel and Kathy swap stories of public shaming, loss, and resilience, exploring what it really takes to rebuild when the world has written you off. From finding authentic friendships to reclaiming the stage with...

What happens when you’re the only one in the room willing to say what no one else will? Nikki Fried knows the feeling all too well.

As Florida’s former Agriculture Commissioner and now Chair of the Florida Democratic Party, Nikki has spent her career challenging power from the inside out. She’s been arrested protesting abortion bans, turned a low-profile government role into a platform for progress, and refused to stay silent in the face of growing extremism in her home state.

In this powerful conversation, Nikki opens up about the political battles most p...

Menopause isn’t just hot flashes and hormone swings—it’s one of the most misunderstood phases of a woman’s life. And Dr. Kutluk Oktay is here to challenge everything we think we know.

A Yale professor and fertility preservation pioneer, Dr. Oktay has made headlines for saying menopause might soon be able to delay or skip altogether—but in this episode, we go beyond the headlines.

We talk about:

• What menopause really is, and why it affects women so differently

• The truth about HRT: who it helps, who it doesn’t, and w...

She had a thriving restaurant, a cult following, and a mission to change the way people eat.

Then, almost overnight, Sarma Melngailis became the woman at the center of Bad Vegan — a Netflix scandal that made headlines but missed the real story.

Now, in her brand-new memoir The Girl with the Duck Tattoo, Sarma is reclaiming the narrative.

And in this in-person interview — recorded live in New York City — she opens up to me like never before.

This episode isn’t about viral fame or courtroom drama. It’s about the slow unrav...

Pardons, affairs, and family feuds… oh my. 👀

On this episode of Miss Understood, I’m joined by the king of celebrity scoop himself — Naughty But Nice host Rob Shuter — and he’s here to spill the real tea from inside Hollywood’s most jaw-dropping headlines.

We’re diving into:

🚨 Trump’s rumored pardon list (yes, it includes Diddy and Ghislaine Maxwell)

🇫🇷 Wild lawsuits surrounding France’s First Lady

🎤 A Katy Perry–Justin Trudeau dating conspiracy?!

🧠 A shocking connection between my college days and Jennifer Aniston’s man

💰 And the messy truth behind Hulk...

Today’s guest is known for his role as Robert Di Nero’s son in the film "A Bronx Tale". 

While Lillo Brancato won over audiences on the big screen, most don’t know what was actually happening behind the scenes. 

Lillo shares with us the story of how he got tangled up in drug addiction, leading to a tragic fatal shooting. 

He opens up about his time in prison and how it became a pivotal moment in his life, which he now channels into helping others. 

This is an inspiring story of r...

What happens when your love life, your career, and your identity are all entangled… and then unravel on national television?

This week on Miss Understood, Rachel sits down with Galyna Saltkovska, the powerhouse CFO of McBee Farms and breakout figure from Bravo’s hit reality series The McBee Dynasty: Real American Cowboys, which is currently one of the most-watched shows on Peacock.

Galyna became a central—and controversial—character this season after her breakup with family patriarch Steve McBee Sr. and the explosive fallout that followed, including betrayal by a close friend, mounting tensions with the McBe...

What happens when a gossip content creator gets pulled into the gossip herself? Just ask Lauren Neidigh, whose deep dives into viral celebrity sagas have made her a rising star — and landed her on the radar of Blake Lively’s legal team.

In this episode, Lauren joins Miss Understood with Rachel Uchitel to break down two of the most chaotic stories making waves online:

— Her firsthand experience of being subpoenaed by Blake Lively

— The latest jaw-dropping turns in the Laura Owens saga, including new legal developments and what it says about influencer culture

— T...

Award-winning journalist Susan Hendricks joins Miss Understood just hours after witnessing one of the most emotionally charged courtroom moments of the year: the sentencing of Bryan Kohberger, the man responsible for the 2022 murders of four University of Idaho students.

Susan, host of the new YouTube series Headline Crime, waited outside the Idaho courtroom since 10 p.m. the night before—determined to be there when Kohberger faced justice. Today, she brings us inside that courtroom, revealing powerful firsthand details from the victim impact statements, the emotional tension, and the chilling silence Kohberger left us with when he declined to...

He defended himself—and ended up facing attempted murder charges.

Barry D. Todd was a decorated Army veteran, a business owner, and a law-abiding citizen. But in 2014, one violent encounter outside a restaurant turned his life upside down. Though he acted in self-defense, Barry was arrested, charged with attempted murder, and thrown into a justice system that seemed determined to break him.

In this gripping episode, Barry shares how one split-second decision became a years-long nightmare—and how he fought to reclaim his freedom, his reputation, and his voice.

🔊 In this episode, you’ll learn...

Former NHL enforcer Nick Tarnasky joins the mic to set the record straight on the viral July 4th golf course brawl at Alberta Springs Golf Course in Red Deer, Alberta. He reveals how a slow‑play dispute escalated when an intoxicated golfer, Trevor Ogilvie, challenged his group—then physically charged at him. Now, Tarnasky addresses the fallout: comments from his NHL and coaching peers, the RCMP investigation that ended with no charges, and how this incident has thrust him back into the spotlight long after retiring from pro hockey .

Hear the unfiltered truth from the man himself—only o...

My friend and author, Jorge Perez, shares his inspiration for his new book, “The Shut The Fuck Up Method, Silence your way to the life of your dreams.” He gives tips and tricks to live a happier life - Now!- emphasizing that there are times to air legitimate grievances and times to shut up. Jorge and I tell some juicy stories of how we got close 15 years ago during the height of when the whole world was gossiping about me! Such a fun episode! 

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What if the most powerful gift you could give your kids isn’t love or protection—but financial literacy?

In this eye-opening episode, trailblazing financial expert Neale Godfrey returns to Miss Understood to talk about why money should never be a taboo topic in your home. As the first female president of a major U.S. bank and a New York Times bestselling author, Neale has spent decades helping families rewrite their financial futures—starting with the youngest generation.

From teaching toddlers about saving to preparing teens for credit cards and budgeting, Neale breaks down how pa...

In today's episode, we welcome Sarma Melngailis, the subject of Netflix's heart-racing docuseries, “Bad Vegan: Fame. Fraud. Fugitives”. 

Sarma was a Vegan restaurateur who fell for conman Anthony Strangis, causing her to lose her money, her business, and nearly everything. 

Today she reveals the shocking true story of how she went from having it all while running NYC's Pure Food and Wine, to getting to the point where she couldn't pay her employees and became a fugitive. 

She shares never-before-dicussed details of how Anthony Strangis, aka “Mr. Fox,” coerced her into fleeing and adopting ne...

This Happy Hour is pure chaos, comedy, and candid confessions.

Rachel recounts her recent trip to the beautiful Kamalame Cay — complete with beach walks, protein bar discoveries, and some unexpected island moments. But things really take a turn when she shares the story of her foot-focused first date with comedian Jim Norton… 

Also in this episode:

  •  Gary Brecka’s wellness obsession: hydrogen water, red light therapy & biohacks

  •  Rachel’s home renovation drama

  •  The wild things Grok AI has been saying — and what that says about tech today

  •  Why Rachel’s torn on self-help cult...

Is Sherri Papini a master manipulator or a woman we failed to believe?

In 2016, she vanished without a trace. For 22 days, Sherri Papini’s disappearance captivated the country. When she returned bruised, starved, and shackled, she claimed she had been abducted by two Hispanic women. Her story shocked the world — until it unraveled. Investigators later said she faked the whole thing. She was arrested, sentenced, and branded a liar.

But this episode goes where others haven’t.

Sherri Papini joins Miss Understood with Rachel Uchite...

What if the answers you’re looking for aren’t outside of you—but buried deep within?

I’m joined by Jana Stern—psychic, spiritual activator, astrologer, and intuitive guide. Known for her powerful energy readings and soul-level insight, Jana helps people awaken to who they really are and why they’re here.

In this episode, we explore what it means to live a life guided by intuition, how she discovered her gifts, and what skeptics get wrong about spiritual work. Whether you’re spiritually curious or fully dialed in, Jana’s message will move you.

In t...

Today's guest is the vibrant, classy, magnetic, Real Housewife of Miami, Guerdy Abraira!  

Guerdy's unique flair has captivated us from the moment she appeared on our TV screens. But before Guerdy was a "Housewife," she ran her hugely successful business, Guerdy Design, where she had a hand in planning some of the biggest events and was named Top Planner in the World by Harper's Bazaar.

This past season on RHOM Guerdy's journey took a poignant turn when she courageously shared her struggle with cancer. Through vulnerable moments captured on screen, viewers witnessed her resilience in the...

It's What You Do Next: The Fall and Rise of Nashville's First Female Mayor - https://a.co/d/38aGyyH

Megan Barry made history as the first female mayor of Nashville.

She was a rising political star—respected, ambitious, and widely beloved for her leadership style and dedication to public service.

But in 2018, her life took a sharp and very public turn. A romantic relationship with her bodyguard led to a media firestorm, an investigation, and a resignation that made headlines across the country. What the headlines didn’t show was what came befo...

Executive Producer George Carmona joins Rachel on this happy hour to discuss the headlines. Rachel dishes about her stalker and gives us a deep dive into her Wedding drama. 

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She was a breakout star on Survivor, a relentless public defender in NYC, a candidate for Manhattan District Attorney, and now a sought-after legal commentator. But behind every chapter of Eliza Orlins’ public life is a deeper mission: speaking truth, challenging power, and refusing to be boxed in.

In this episode of Misunderstood, Eliza opens up about the surprising throughline between reality TV and real-life justice work, the toll of fighting a broken legal system, what really happened on the campaign trail—and why she’s stepping into a new role as a public voice...

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In this episode of Miss Understood with Rachel Uchitel, the spotlight is on the Karen Read case—and the jury’s not guilty verdict that has everyone talking.

Rachel is joined by the show’s producer and co-host George Carmona for a no-holds-barred breakdown of the trial, the courtroom chaos, and the questions still hanging in the air:

Was this justice, or just more confusion?

What role did the media play in shaping public opinion?

And why does Karen Read now ha...

Why do victims stay? Why do they protect their abusers — even when the world is watching?

In the wake of the explosive allegations against Sean “Diddy” Combs, one thing has become painfully clear: the public still doesn’t understand trauma bonding.

Today on Misunderstood, Dr. Nadine Macaluso — trauma therapist and former wife of “The Wolf of Wall Street” — joins Rachel a second time to break down how power, fear, and manipulation can trap victims in invisible chains. Dr. Nadine has lived it, studied it, and helps others break free from it.

Thi...

The Real Housewives of Miami is back — and no one’s breaking down the Season 7 premiere quite like Ana Quincoces.

The former RHOM star turned attorney, entrepreneur, and straight-talking Bravo insider joins Rachel to unpack everything that just went down on the explosive season opener. From fractured friendships to fake alliances, Ana dishes on who’s real, who’s performing, and what viewers didn’t see behind the scenes.

But before the tea gets hot, Ana opens up about her own time on the show — how she got cast, what it felt like to be called “the...

As the Stanley Cup Final intensifies between the Florida Panthers and Edmonton Oilers, Miss Understood welcomes one of the greatest to ever lace up skates — Jeremy Roenick, NHL legend and U.S. Hockey Hall of Famer.

In this exclusive episode, JR breaks down what fans really need to watch in this historic face-off:

    •    The psychological momentum

    •    The on-ice tactics

    •    And his bold prediction for who will win and how many games it’ll take

But that’s just the beginning.

We dive into the passion, contr...

How do you literally have sex with 583 men in six hours?

That’s what the world has been asking — and today, Annie Knight answers.

In this no-holds-barred conversation, she reveals everything she hasn’t said before:

the logistics of planning the challenge, what happened when the fluffer didn’t show, how they kept the line moving (yes, it was timed), and what she did when some men got nervous or couldn’t perform.

And the hospital visit afterward?

It wasn’t for what you think —...

Today, I sit down with legendary gossip columnist and media insider AJ Benza, whose career has spanned everything from Page Six to primetime TV. Known for his no-filter reporting and uncanny ability to see the story behind the story, AJ joins me to break down the headlines everyone’s talking about—and the ones they’re afraid to print.

We cover everything from the scandal rocking the set of White Lotus, to the most talked-about trials dominating the news, including Sean “Diddy” Combs, Karen Read, and others. We also dive into the cultural impact of Donald...

What happens when your marriage — and your heartbreak — become primetime entertainment?

IRachel sits down with Sister Wives star Meri Brown for a rare, unfiltered conversation about what it really means to live — and love — in a polygamist marriage under the scrutiny of millions. From marrying Kody Brown as his first wife, to watching him marry three more women on national television, Meri reflects on the deep emotional complexities that come with sharing a partner, a home, and a life in full view of the public.

What you’ll learn in this ep...

What if the most relatable relationship advice came not from a therapist or dating guru — but from a woman in North Dakota with no filter and a lot of opinions?

Rachel sits down with Whitney Duden, the unapologetic voice behind The Caviar Club, to talk about love, loneliness, and why modern dating might just be broken. Whitney’s not trying to be a polished expert — she’s just really good at saying what the rest of us are thinking. And that’s exactly why people listen.

What you’ll learn in thi...

What if luck isn’t luck at all — but a skill you can learn? Rachel sits down with mortgage executive and podcast host Nicole Perrone, a billion-dollar producer who believes luck doesn’t just happen — it’s made. From closing high-stakes deals to navigating personal transformation, Nicole shares how she cracked the code on creating opportunity in even the most uncertain moments.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

Why most people misunderstand what “luck” really is

The formula behind making your own lucky breaks

How mindset, pre...

We live in an era where young people are expected to have it all together — success, style, and a perfectly filtered life. But behind the aesthetic, many are silently battling overwhelming anxiety. In this powerful episode, Rachel sits down with Gen Z author and mental health advocate Carrie Berk, whose new book Mindfire dives deep into what it means to come of age in a world that demands perfection while offering very little compassion.

Carrie opens up about her own experience with anxiety, the pressure of social media, and the importance of redefining strength as...

Some losses are too heavy for words — Rachel sits down with Jade Horton, a mother who endured the unimaginable: losing her two children in a devastating house fire. Surviving the blaze herself, Jade was left not only physically broken, but emotionally shattered.

What followed was a journey of profound grief, resilience, and ultimately, spiritual awakening. In the aftermath of tragedy, Jade found a path to healing through Angelic Reiki and Merkaba energy work — two powerful modalities that helped her reconnect with herself, with her children in spirit, and with others walking through darkness.

In this epis...

One wrong move could have ended his future — instead, it changed his life. When a teenage Ray Negron was caught tagging graffiti on Yankee Stadium, he expected handcuffs. What he got instead was a job — from George Steinbrenner himself. That unexpected act of grace set Ray on a path from the streets of the Bronx to the inner circle of one of the most iconic sports dynasties in history.

Rachel Uchitel sits down with Ray to talk about the moment that changed everything… and the decades he’s spent paying it forward. From his work as a Yankees...

Dating in the modern world can feel like a full-time job — one filled with ghosting, red flags, and endless swipes. But what if you approached love the same way you approach your career — with intention, support, and a strategy that actually works?

In this episode, Rachel sits down with professional matchmaker Tammi Pickle, whose family has been making matches for over 30 years. Tammy shares the behind-the-scenes of how matchmaking works today, why apps may be doing more harm than good, and what the most successful people are still getting wrong about love.

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She spent over a decade reporting from the floor of the New York Stock Exchange — but what Alison Kosik learned about money, power, and perception goes far beyond what made it on air.

In this eye-opening episode, Rachel sits down with longtime CNN business correspondent Alison Kosik to talk about the financial myths we still believe, what the media gets wrong about money, and why so many people feel left out of the conversation when it comes to wealth.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

    •    What it was really l...

I’m joined by Patrick Hinds — creator and co-host of True Crime Obsessed and The Golden Girls Deep Dive Podcast. Patrick shares how he accidentally found his calling in podcasting, built the #1 show on Patreon, and walked away from his 9-to-5 to chase his passion full time. We also dive into his journey as a husband and father, fostering and adopting his daughter from birth. Plus, we break down some of the true crime cases that have us both completely hooked. This episode is all about trusting your passion, building the life you want, and never underestimating where your obse...