It's A Lot with Abbie Chatfield

Trisha Paytas is many things... A YouTube icon, an actress, a Broadway performer, a (former) professional rage-baiter... Now, a memoirist. In an Australian podcast exclusive, Abbie sits down with Trisha to discuss her new book 'Crying On The Kitchen Floor', and the ups and downs of her long career in entertainment and on the internet. Trisha talks about the work she had to do to revisit her childhood, the link between self-worth and bad relationships with men, and whether she thinks she's ever been truly 'cancelled'. Plus, Trisha opens up about her and her husband Moses' reactions to the...

It's two of Abbie's favourite topics for a Nightmare Fuel all in one: horrible share-houses AND insecure manosphere freaks!!! Thoughts and prayers to this chook for surviving six months in that hellscape because WOW. There's sharps at the kitchen bench, no bathroom hygiene practices in sight, and some shocking extra details that leave Abbie speechless.

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MAJOR POSSIBLE LOVE ISLAND SPOILER WARNING!! It's broken over the last few days that a certain cast member may have posted a hard launch with another Love Islander to a finsta account... Is this legit??

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We've got a new bombshell this week on Love Island Australia, with Miss New Zealand AKA Sammi! She seems lovely but a bunch of the girls are immediately rude to her for no reason :( Finishing off week 2 strong with more insecurities, a questionable hook-up, a little bit of gaslighting, but also some fabulous conflict resolution so that's something!

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Abbie got up at 6am to catch up on Love Island and although we're not at Real Housewives or MAFS levels of drama, things are starting to heat up!! We've got LYING WEIRD MEN, women tearing each other down and insulting each other's appearance, plus jealousy and emotional suppression! WOOHOO! Also, enjoy some deep epiphanies from Amy and Abbie about how the microcosms of reality TV reflect and accentuate heterosexual societal norms tee hee

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ABBIE GOT HYPNOTISED!! She gives Amy a play-by-play of what happened, including some very strange side-effects on the woman hypnotising her (that were actually really helpful for unmasking??). Abbie also reflects on why conventional talk therapy has not always worked for her, how the session helped her approach catastrophizing, hypervigilance, and feeling unsafe in a different way.

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Abbie is joined by friend of the show Harri James discuss the use of Amy Acton’s childhood sexual abuse in a political ad during Ohio’s governor’s race. Drawing on Harry’s own experience as a survivor, they examine the harm caused when trauma is turned into campaign ammunition, the hypocrisy in the reaction from Republicans to the backlash, and the barriers misogynistic abuse creates for women in public life.

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New bombshells, an elimination, and a few almost-correct idioms to round out week 1 of season 8 of Love Island Australia!

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Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield

Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball

It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey

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There's weaponised incompetence, and then there's this guy...

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Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield

Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball

It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey

Social Media and Marketing Strategist: Elizabeth Baxter

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A hot new recaps series just entered the villa... Abbie is here to tell you all you need to know about Season 8 of Love Island Australia! Episodes 1 & 2 we get to know all our islanders and sow the seeds of some drama to come...

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CW: This episode contains discussions of cancer, bowel movements, fear of food, and suicide.

In 2024, appearance activist Carly Findlay thought she just had a gastro bug, or maybe IBS. One person told her she might even have caught dysentery on holiday. Five months later she was in hospital being told she had ovarian and endometrial cancer. Carly tells Abbie about her journey from mystery symptoms to diagnosis, surgery and gruelling treatment. Now cancer-free, Carly is an ambassador for Frocktober, an organisation raising awareness for ovarian and endometrial cancer, and raising money for critical research into this...

Gretta Ray's new album Heartsong is born from grief - but not just the grief of a relationship ending, and the loss of loved one. For the first time, Gretta shares the full story of her hospitalisation in 2024. She takes Abbie through the almost 6 weeks she spent in hospital, when she was forced to reckon not only her career changing, but her entire life. After multiple complications, personal grief, and a long journey of mental and physical recovery, Gretta has emerged with a new outlook on life - but just don't tell her 'everything happens for a reason'...

Have you ever been down so bad you made verbatim theatre? Well... Writer, producer, actor, and comedian Bridie Connell has seen it happen first hand... She shares a high school inspiration behind her sensational show Fuccbois: Live In Concert, and makes Abbie's dreams come true with a very special re-enactment.

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It's a big one today!! Abbie unpacks the Kikiva TikTok live drama, and why a lot of the response online is not only disappointing, but problematic. Plus, Filip from MAFS has been posting some interesting videos, and Abbie brings in a special guest to talk about it.

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This all-time Euro summer (mis)adventure story proves not only the figurative, but literal, power of female friendship ✊⚢ #ytg

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Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield

Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball

It's A Lot Social Media Manager: Julia Toomey

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Before sculling a litre of milk on stage with him at Yours & Owls, Abbie brought her friend - Canadian rap icon / internet boyfriend - bbno$ into the studio for a lovely lil chat! They talk about his insane work ethic, dealing with hate online, and why he doesn't really think about masculinity.

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Michelle Buteau loves Australia, but she does NOT love creepy crawlies...

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The Cornell 7 case has been dominating headlines and social media feeds. It's equal parts horrific, frustrating an maddening. Abbie deconstructs how misogyny and power structures all intertwine to allow this kind of behaviour, and what men actually need to do to help prevent this.

CW: This episode contains mention of sexual assault, please take care while listening and remember help is always available. You can contact Lifeline 24/7 website at https://www.lifeline.org.au/ or call them 13 11 14. You can also contact 1800RESPECT any time confidentially at 1800 737 732 or visit 1800respect.org.au.

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Abbie is trying to get out of burn out land but having adult problems and responsibilities makes it so much harder to recover?? So what the hell do we do divas?? Abbie shares her experience with an ADHD coach and what's helping her at the moment, but let us know in the pod form or in the comments what's been helping you cos god knows we all need it

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That's right, we're treating you with two eps today!! We thought we're all in need of a classic listener story and this chook's is like something off of Abbie's NMF bingo card!

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Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield

Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball

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Even after a big chat on Tuesday, there was so much we didn't get to with Billy. So, we've got him back to answer your questions!

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From the manosphere, to mental health, to sexual assault and family violence - it is more apparent than ever that we must reckon with how boys are being raised, and the damaging behaviours that are normalised. But how do we raise boys into emotionally healthy men? Abbie sits down with developmental paediatrician Dr Billy Garvey to discuss his new book Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Raising Boys. They talk about why rigid masculinity is so dangerous, how parents can create safe spaces for their boys, why aggression in boys is a signal not a problem, and so...

The wonderful ladies of Granny Bingo, Edith and Maureen, stuck around for a special bonus episode where they're doling out their sage wisdom to you the lucky listener!

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Get yourself a piping hot cappuccino and settle in with Australia's favourite women of a certain age, Granny Bingo's Edith Vale & Maureen McGillicuddy!! The ladies tell their own on-stage Nightmare Fuel, and take clear sides when they hear a listener's story.

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What's the difference between a hyperfixation and a special interest? When is a symptom anxiety and when is it ADHD or autism? Why are so many women still struggling to get diagnosed with autism and ADHD? How do our hormones affect symptoms? Could Abbie be AuDHD? Abbie sits down with neurodivergent clinical psychologist, and host of The Neurodivergent Woman podcast, Dr Monique Mitchelson to answer all these questions and more.

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As a sex worker and investigative journalist, Bension Siebert does in practice what some only do in theory, f*ck's around AND finds out! He tells Abbie about how the NMF client who spurred him to come out, and why he decided to pursue both careers. Plus, some chat about some true nightmare fuel - Australian defamation laws!

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The trial of Lindsay Clancy has made headlines around the world and has sparked countless debates and conversations, some more productive than others. Abbie unpacks some of the extreme manosphere reactions, why we still have a long way to go when it comes to talking about mental illness, and why some hot takes actually have nothing to do with the case.

NOTE: This podcast discusses details that may be disturbing for some listeners. Please listen with care and remember that help is always available at Lifeline on 13 11 14, or at lifeline.org.au. Support for parents and...

Abbie found a new op shop book about gender roles!!! This one is called Why Men Don't Listen And Women Can't Read Maps, and of course features complete fabrications about 'caveman times', among many other hilarious takes that attempt to turn sexism into science. Plus a nice, long tangent about cheating and surveillance culture!

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It's a NMF situation we've all had to endure; listening to a co-worker's insane opinions because you're stuck on shift together at a minimum wage job. But some of these conspiracy theories even WE haven't heard of!! Abbie didn't take a dexie today so this NMF comes with extra rants!

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Abbie has made it well known on this podcast that she is not a fan of generative AI and LLMs. But, as journalist Marc Fennell found in his new podcast series Unreal, AI is already fundamentally changing the way we relate to each other and understand ourselves. Abbie and Marc talk about why he wanted to focus on human stories, the real-world effects of AI he encountered when making the series, and how they've both had their views challenged by these stories.

NOTE: This episode contains discussions of gun violence, please listen with care.

Did this chook attend Boundary Crossing High School?? We all have a couple of stories of weird things that happened at school, but this caller has enough for lifetimes!!

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Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield

Executive Producer and Editor: Amy Kimball @amy.kimball

It's A Lot Social Media Manager: J...

Is misogyny really that bad? Well, yes, obviously! But now it's not just us screaming into the void. A new study from Melbourne University details the findings of research into the link between misogyny and youth radicalisation in Australia. Abbie has printed it out, gone through with the highlighter, and is here to distill it all to you chooks! The study features some great definitions of what misogyny actually is, plus some shocking stats on the growing generational divides in misogynistic beliefs. Side tangents include how personalised feeds have fucked up how we relate, and a lil meds reminder!! <...

Producer Amy has been saving up some quickfire stories and boy oh boy you chooks are outdoing yourselves! You think you've heard it all, and then you hear a story that Joe from 'You' would probably take notes from. Also, sound off in the comments if seeing Ewan McGregor in Trainspotting was a formative experience for you xx

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Defamation laws have a long and strange history, and in recent years, these laws have been leveraged in order to silence women who attempt to speak out about abuse. In the midst of the cultural reckoning incited by the #MeToo movement, many women across the globe are facing a legal reckoning. This is the central point of the new documentary Silenced. The documentary's main subject is Jennifer Robinson, a human rights lawyer who represented Amber Heard during her testimony in the libel case brought by Johnny Depp against The Sun newspaper. Jennifer and Abbie discuss how defamation is weaponised...

It's the crossover you've all been waiting for!!! After filling in for Brittney Saunders with Alright Hey over at High Scrollers, Abbie thought she better have them both in to listen to a NMF! And boy is this one a doozy, we may have set the record here for longest NMF ep?? Wagon wheels, troughs, weaning cows, a bridezilla... This story has got it all and more.

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It's time for an AMA!!! Abbie's been asked to unpack what happened on the Logies, as well as an update on her mental health, her thoughts on current beauty standards and more!!

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Chloe thought her Nightmare Fuel wasn't up to scratch... our reactions would prove otherwise. Tashi Duncan eat your heart out.

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Host: Abbie Chatfield @abbiechatfield

Guests: Annie Knight @anniekknight & Chloe Mira @chloemiraa

Where's the line between engagement and exploitation? So-called 'stunt creators' on OnlyFans have stirred up a lot of controversy in the last few years, with some creators targeting teenagers at Schoolies, or attempting to break records for having sex with the most people. These stunts have led to rule changes on the platform, and debate within the sex work community and more broadly about their impact. Abbie has a lot of thoughts about 'stunt creators' but needs to hear more... So, the stars of Turned On: Dirty Sexy Money Annie Knight and Chloe Mira are here to share their...

CONTENT WARNING: This episode contains discussion of child sexual abuse. Help is available from the National Sexual Assault, Domestic Family Violence Counselling Service on 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732) and Lifeline on 13 11 14.

Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly Multiple Personality Disorder) has long been misrepresented and misunderstood, but Dr Jeni Haynes is here to change that. In 2019, she made international headlines when she testified against her father, who was the perpetrator of years of sexual, physical and psychological abuse upon her. It was the first time in the Australian legal system to accept testimony from alters within a person living with DID...

We are so blessed to have one of the funniest (and smallest) women in the country on the pod for a NMF - it's MICHELLE BRASIER!!! Seat backs and tray tables up for an all-time tale that has to be heard to be believed!

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