Intimacy Coordinator

It’s time to dip back into the archives for another Background Check! Skyler Higley was on Intimacy Coordinator this week, so we’re throwing back to the classic Bad Date story he told Joel and fellow guests Punkie Johnson and Josh Gondelman. Skyler finds himself in expert mode, but he’s more quickly than Higley. Enjoy this tale of Mormons, cigarettes, and Target parking lots, and don’t miss this week’s Intimacy Coordinator with Skyler, Asif Ali, and Femi Abe!

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Joel Kim Booster's first all-straight panel–Asif Ali (Deli Boys, WandaVision), Skyler Higley (The Onion, After Midnight) and Fumi Abe (The Tonight Show, The Late Show)–finally get to ask the potentially career-ending questions that keep them up at night. From why gay men are so mean and what happens when the bottom finishes first, to the male loneliness crisis, the upsides of toxic masculinity, and why Spider-Man makes a better role model than Batman.

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What's the most masculine thing about two of drag's most decorated queens? This week, Joel Kim Booster is joined by Monét X Change (Drag Race All Stars 4 winner, The Traitors) and BenDeLaCreme (Drag Race All Stars 3, The Jinkx & DeLa Holiday Show) to talk about all things masculinity—from GAY-ming and bar fights, to fatherly lessons involving studs. Plus the perils of hooking up in drag, mismatched sex drives in marriage, and the little known practicality of tennis balls in pools.

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It’s time for another Background Check! This week, Brooks Wheelan was on Intimacy Coordinator, so we wanted to replay the classic Bad Date story he told to Joel and fellow guests Ali Kolbert and Jared Goldstein. The original description for his story was: “Brooks can overlook the scabies, but can the scabies overlook Brooks?” and that’s still all you need to know. Enjoy revisiting this Bad (question mark?) Date, and don’t miss this week’s Intimacy Coordinator with Brooks and ace stand-up (slash his girlfriend) Katherine Blanford!

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Joel puts comedy couple Brooks Wheelan and Katherine Blanford on the couch for live couples therapy, starting with the eggs Brooks ate, the all-caps text Katherine sent about it, and why laughing at that text was not the move.

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Danielle Perez was on Intimacy Coordinator this week, so it’s time for another Background Check! Join us as we revisit two hilarious and harrowing tales that Danielle told Joel and fellow guests Bonnie McFarlane and James Tom back in the Bad Dates era! First off, this man is simply too close and his lips have not been deemed ADA accessible, and in the second story her date goes full Shark Week. Catch up with Danielle’s tales from the trenches, and don’t miss this week’s Intimacy Coordinator with Danielle, Tien Tran, and Solomon Georgio!

Joel Kim Booster convenes a panel of (at least) double minorities — Danielle Perez, Solomon Georgio, and Tien Tran — to dig into how intersectional identities shape who we date, who we marry, and who keeps asking us to role-play. The panel trades the backhanded compliments they took as wins, sheepishly admits to dating white people, and unpacks the bedroom requests that went too far, from a breaking-and-entering fantasy to a "spicy Latina" audition. Plus: the fight that ended with Joel totaling his car, and advice for a 60-year-old listener wondering just how age-appropriate she has to be.

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Joel Kim Booster assembles three of the world's most famous liars — Bob the Drag Queen, Meatball, and Rheeqrheeq Chainey — to settle what's fair game to fib about in sex and dating. Then Bob hands over her phone, and the panel puts her Grindr profile on trial: photo by photo, verdict by verdict — is Bob catfishing America? Plus: the smoothest bad-date escapes), the official wiggle room for height and weight, and why Bob only filters for 6'6" and up.

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We're kicking off a new series of bonus episodes where we revisit classic tales from our guests' past appearances, it's Background Check! Daniel Webb was on Intimacy Coordinator this week, so we wanted to replay his Bad Dates segment from 2024, alongside Joel, Zoë Chao, and Olivia DeLaurentis. In this clip, Daniel tells two stories, one about what it looks like when you randomly hook up with a guy who might have just won No Nut November, and another about an encounter ruined by showtunes and a parakeet.

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Joel gathers three Austin-scene comics to dig into what dating (and drinking) in that city actually looks like — from bisexual bar culture and older closeted guys in the 2000s, to accidentally hooking up with conservative dates once you can't read the room anymore. Vanessa tells the story of playing hard-to-get, and Martha explains her theory on why "nice guy energy" always throws her radar off. We get into small-town-big-city dating, red flags you miss on purpose, and how a whole city's vibe can shift under you.

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Joel sits down with the co-hosts of the parenting podcast Good Enough. They discuss what new turn-on has emerged in their partners since becoming parents, and it goes places. The group spirals into a full circumcision debate ("uncut energy," designer dicks, and whether Gen Alpha will be the first mostly-intact generation), then each names the four things they'd actually get out on the street for — billionaires, no war, and screen-time guilt included.

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Joel Kim Booster brings together three guests he’s almost scared to put in the same room — writer/actor Yassir Lester, writer-director Chelsea Devantez, and Drag Race All Star Season 2 Winner, Alaska Thunderfuck — to dig into how online identity messes with real-life relationships. The icebreaker is pulled straight from Chelsea’s movie Basic: name the person you hate-scroll most. The group swaps stories on jealousy-fueled Instagram deep-dives, building an entire villain out of an ex’s social media, and the specific chaos of getting deep-liked years after a breakup. Alaska shares the surreal experience of getting DMs after announcing her engagement...

Joel is joined by Johnny Pemberton (Fallout, Superstore, Mermaid) and Beth Stelling (Girl Daddy) to dig into one of dating's messiest questions: can you actually stay friends with an ex? The trio trade stories on staying in touch with old flames, meeting a partner's exes, why proximity to your ex's new life changes everything, and how a well-timed voice (or a phone call from inside the house) can save a relationship.   

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Two of comedy’s most fearless clowns join Joel to talk vulnerability and silliness, on stage, and in the bedroom. Beware: cringey dating stories ahead.

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This week, Joel is joined by comedians Dylan Adler and Liza Treyger, plus reality dating star Harry Jowsey, fresh off his run on Netflix’s Let’s Marry Harry. They dig into what it’s actually like to date multiple people at once—how to do it without hurting anyone, and the strange etiquette of a house full of women all trying to get ready for dates on the same schedule. Harry shares stories from filming, including the small red flags that got contestants cut and what changed being the center of the show for the first time. The group al...

This week, Joel and guests—Langston Kerman, Roz Hernandez, and Jenny Zigrino—come in hot with the topic of first loves, and messy but real feelings they come with. They get into hooking up on the road—from offering to fly someone out just to get ghosted, to surprise homemade lube—the cities that want them the most, Big Girl Wednesday, and the many shades of polyamory.
 

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Comedian Steph Tolev and musician-comedian Jefferson McDonald join Joel just four days after getting engaged — and they're still mid-argument when they sit down. To help sort out what's really going on, Peter Antoniou (AGT Season 16 semifinalist, Pretty Psychic Tour) comes in to read the room, call out old patterns, and dig into what makes this relationship different from all the others. They dive into coffee runs, angry dads, wedding party drama, and a very public proposal.

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Joel Kim Booster opens with a theory about Gen Z’s relationship to porn and doesn’t let up from there. Margaret Cho, Zach Noe Towers, and Gregg Araki join him to talk sexual muses, the etiquette of dating someone with the wrong politics, and a real conversation Joel had at a party about reverse racial dating discrimination. Along the way: Margaret’s Percy Jackson era, Zach’s queer-Asian solidarity bit, and Gregg previewing his new erotic thriller I Want Your Sex, out in theaters this month with Olivia Wilde, Cooper Hoffman, and Charli XCX, and Margaret Cho.

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Joel sits down with an all-bisexual panel — Trayvon Free, Ian Fidance, and Kat Bird — to dig into the stereotypes that follow bisexual people around (too greedy, secretly gay, just experimenting), the specific stigma bisexual men face versus bisexual women, and what it felt like to come out on their own timelines. The conversation covers dating across the gender spectrum, getting fetishized, getting razzed by other comics, and not quite fitting neatly into gay or straight spaces.

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This week Joel Kim Booster gets his two Las Culturistas sisters on the mic to talk about the pop culture you share with someone new. Joel makes it comfortable for Bowen Yang and Matt Rogers to get honest about the shows, movies, and games that double as relationship litmus tests — Fire Island as a first-date screener, decade-long TV trade, and the eternal Mad Men blind spot.

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Joel Kim Booster is joined by comedians Usama Siddiquee (Funny AF with Kevin Hart runner-up, Usama Bin Laughing), Rachel Wolfson (Jackass, Rachel Interrupted), and Felicia Folkes (Funny AF with Kevin Hart top-ten finalist) to unpack how their families shaped — and warped — their approach to sex, love, and dating. They swap the worst relationship advice their parents ever gave them (location-sharing paranoia, "never let your man know where you are," marry-by-23 ultimatums), debate whether waiting to sleep together actually matters, and get into how cultural upbringing colors everything from jealousy to attraction.

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Joel Kim Booster, Symone, Adam Shankman, and Guy Branum get into their types — and the harder problem of being someone else's. Guy explains why being attracted to him counts as a kink. Symone breaks down getting collected like Infinity Stones by men who only date Drag Race winners. Adam, talks about the gap between how he feels at work and how he feels everywhere else. Plus the katanas on every Chicago hookup's wall, Guy's lifelong pull toward redheads, and the exact movie that made each of them culturally gay.

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Series premiere. Joel Kim Booster sits down with comedians and real-life best friends Alyssa Limperis, Evan Williams, and Kel Cripe to take apart the mental “checklist” of qualities we swear we need in a partner — and what happens to that list the second you actually fall for someone. They get into dating red flags, the code words couples use to defuse a fight, and how the relationships we grew up watching shaped what we think love is supposed to be. Plus, a listener question from a newly single party boy looking for a man who’s got his life together...

Bad Dates is now Intimacy Coordinator! With love and respect for the show in all its forms, Joel is taking the show in bold new directions with a new format that allows him to explore even more great stories of love, sex and relationships with all of your favorite guests and tons of new ones! We hope you enjoy.

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Please enjoy another of our favorite recent episodes while we move ever closer to unveiling the new thing we've been working on for you, stay tuned to this feed! This week, it's family time as host Joel Kim Booster sits down with his good friend, actor/comedian Brendan Scannell (Heathers, Bonding, newsletter The Abyss) to discuss maintaining a sense of self in your relationship, making friends later in life, being sober (or Bushwick sober as the case may be), knowing somebody in The Candy Hall Of Fame, and the real work of checking in with your partner. Plus, Brendan b...

The Bad Dates feed is under construction! In the meantime, please enjoy a repeat performance of this episode of Bad Dates, as host Joel Kim Booster welcomes comedians Hannah Pilkes and Max Eddy and drag legend Laganja Estranja to discuss their most iconic dating fiascos. Laganja is in the mood for street meat but they might need a quick bath, Hannah is dating a time traveller, that’s kind of the only explanation, and Maxx initially just has some questions about the spelling.

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The Bad Dates feed is under construction! While we coordinate something very exciting, please enjoy one of our favorite recent episodes. In this edition, host Joel Kim Booster welcomes comedians Frankie Quiñones, Becky Robinson, and Jenna Jiménez to discuss their most iconic dating fiascos. Frankie tries to get into the rhythm but it’s so awkward he can only do it for a decade, Becky is seeing a man who is dumb hot and just doesn’t know where to get dinner, and Jenna…this…this is a Hall Of Fame bad date story. This is a very bad da...

The Bad Dates feed is under construction! While we're busy laying the groundwork for the next few weeks (we said GROUNDWORK), please enjoy a few of our favorite recent episodes. In this installment, host Joel Kim Booster welcomes guests X Mayo, Danny Jolles, and Blair Socci to discuss their most iconic dating fiascos. X made ALL the effort on a first date, Danny has a pretty rough miscommunication at a party, and three-timer Blair’s plan is simple: confuse and confound until they forget. 

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The Bad Dates feed is under construction! While we are beavering away for the next few weeks (calm down), please enjoy a few of our favorite recent episodes. In this installment, host Joel Kim Booster welcomes comedians Laura Peek, Barry Rothbart, and Will Miles to discuss their most iconic dating fiascos. Laura has an amuse-bouche about a mouthful and an entrée about a square peg, Barry’s “papa” handles the situation with a bit of effort, and Will is on a 24 hour date but it takes a chance encounter to sober him up. Plus: someone has glimpsed the darkness...

On an all-new Speed Dates episode, host Joel Kim Booster sits down with Klonopin personified, the hilarious Keri Kenney-Silver (Reno 911, Superstore, Cake Like) to discuss all kinds of things, from Burning Man adventures to modeling good behavior for your kids, from her Netflix series The Four Seasons to romancing an entire city, and all points in between. Keri is loaded with insights, Joel comes away from this conversation unbelievably relaxed. Plus: Keri brings gifts (and they’re probably not cursed)! Also, stay tuned to the end for an announcement about what’s next for Bad Dates!

On an all-new Speed Dates episode, host Joel Kim Booster sits down with road dog stand-up Gianmarco Soresi to talk about EVERYTHING: from dating your manager (it didn’t start that way!) to couples therapy, from open mic days to claughter, being culturally gay, the difference between a physically open relationship and an emotionally open one, the love you get from your siblings, and so much more. Plus, we’ll learn about Gianmarco’s love language, how important it can be to spend time with other couples, and Gianmarco becomes the first person to shout out Before Midnight, hell yeah.<...

On an all-new panel episode of Bad Dates, it’s an unexpected holiday special as host Joel Kim Booster sits down with the fabulous Jessica Henwick (Game Of Thrones, Silo, Glass Onion) and Leslie Liao (new stand-up special Silky Smooth out April 28!) to discuss their most iconic dating fiascos. Leslie takes one of the biggest swings imaginable when she agrees to a first date ON CHRISTMAS, and Jessica is shocked to discover she has propositioned a stranger ON VALENTINE’S DAY. We promise we did not plan this.

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On an all-new Speed Dates episode, host Joel Kim Booster sits down with hilarious stand-up comedian Rachel Scanlon to hear the full account of her courtship and marriage (a Tinder success story! You love to see it!), plus making it through the pandemic together, how marriage has made her more confident on stage, and all the sweet (& horny!) movies that influence her view on love. Plus, a sincere question: are some people REALLY into polyamory, or have they just not made a new friend in a decade?

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On an all-new Speed Dates episode, it’s family time as host Joel Kim Booster sits down with his good friend, actor/comedian Brendan Scannell (Heathers, Bonding, newsletter The Abyss) to discuss maintaining a sense of self in your relationship, making friends later in life, being sober (or Bushwick sober as the case may be), knowing somebody in The Candy Hall Of Fame, and the real work of checking in with your partner. Plus, Brendan brings gifts! And Joel has some advice for single people, which is honestly not that different from his advice for anyone looking to get in...

On an all-new Speed Dates episode, it’s Lunar New Year but host Joel Kim Booster and one of his best friends Poppy Liu (Hacks, iCarly, Better Call Saul) are going to push through, as they discuss their first big break as (sort of) twins on Sunnyside, Poppy’s load-bearing love of fairy smut, why she’ll only date people that are fully cooked, how her life has changed now that she’s a mom to a beautiful baby bleep, and how democracy itself chose Poppy to be Joel’s (potential) egg donor. 

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On an all-new Speed Dates episode, host Joel Kim Booster sits down with the Scam Goddess herself, Laci Mosley (iCarly, Florida Girls, A Black Lady Sketch Show) to talk all about dating scams (utterly despicable), scamming billionaires (absolutely fine), Laci’s current relationship status, negging culture, what she learned from Love On The Spectrum, and the sheer magnetism of Diane Keaton. Plus: has Laci ever been scammed herself?! 

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On an all-new Speed Dates episode, host Joel Kim Booster sits down with his good friend and recent Traitors Season 4 alum Ron Funches (Harley Quinn, Loot, Inside Out 2) to talk about everything that went down at the castle! They’ll discuss the roundtables, the betrayals, the strategy, the secret traitor, was Michael Rapaport really like that (yes), and go deep on Ron’s autism diagnosis. Plus: we hear all about Ron’s new relationship with a British lady who thinks Snoopy might be Japanese.

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On an all-new panel episode, it’s all family as host Joel Kim Booster sits down with three of his co-stars from the new Scrubs reboot, the hilarious Ava Bunn, Layla Mohammadi, and Amanda Morrow to discuss their most iconic dating fiascos, beginning with a very simple icebreaker question: would the panelists date their own Scrubs character? Then, Ava wakes up unaware that she has somebody else riding shotgun, and later gets advice from ballerinas about shaving for The Groundlings, Layla has stars in her eyes but not in the good way, and Amanda needs some help with this to...

On an all-new Speed Dates episode, host Joel Kim Booster sits down with hilarious fellow newlywed Justin Martindale to compare notes on their respective weddings, and they GET INTO IT: everything from arguing with officiants, to who gets invited (and disinvited), unplanned plus ones, competing vows, lesbian alarms, and also the time Joel saw Megan Fox fix her hair in the reflection of a steak knife. Plus: Celine Dion talk, and why Joel should get a dog.

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