The Sabrina Zohar Show

Why can't you let it go? You typed the text, deleted it three times, and sent it anyway just to get the last word. In part one of a three-part series, Sabrina Zohar breaks down the fight response: keeping score, replaying old arguments, the silent treatment, test texts, and why anger rumination keeps you stuck instead of setting you free. Whether you're single, dating, or years into a relationship, this one is for anyone who can't stop fighting to be right.

Sabrina gets honest about how needing the last word costs you sleep, connection, and the chance...

What is anxiety, really, and why won't it go away no matter how much you overthink it? Sabrina sits down with neuroscientist and anxiety expert Dr. Russ Kennedy (Anxiety MD) to break down anxiety in dating, relationships, and everyday life. They cover why anxiety lives in the body and not just the head, why CBT, EMDR, and medication so often treat the symptoms instead of the root, and how to tell a real alarm from a false one. This one is for anyone who has ever felt anxious, avoidant, or convinced they were fundamentally broken.

They also...

What does compatibility actually mean, and why do so many people walk away from good relationships while staying stuck in bad ones? In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina breaks down the broken definition of compatibility most of us absorbed from movies and Disney, and why shared hobbies, an easy connection, instant chemistry, and looking good on paper are not the things that make love last. She brings the research, including what a 20-year study revealed about perceived partner responsiveness and the quiet experience of feeling truly known by your partner.

Whether you're single and...

What does a secure breakup actually look like? Most of us have never seen one, so we don't know it's even possible. In the finale of this four-part breakup series, Sabrina breaks down secure attachment in real terms: the in-person conversation, the honest reason, the clean ending that lets grief actually move instead of looping for years. She lays all four attachment styles side by side (anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure) so you can finally see why the same breakup hits four completely different ways, and why your reaction was never about how much the relationship mattered.

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What is polyamory, and how is it different from ethical non-monogamy? Can an open relationship actually last, and is dating really any different across the gay, straight, and bisexual communities? In this Pride Month episode, Sabrina sits down with writer, actor, and Tell Me Something Messy host Brandon Kyle Goodman to unpack poly, ethical non-monogamy (ENM), open relationships, jealousy, trust, and what every monogamous person can learn from how non-monogamous people communicate.

They dig into how to know if ENM is actually for you, the real difference between non-monogamy and cheating, how to handle jealousy and insecurity...

Ever swing between anxious and avoidant with the same person, reaching for them one minute and running the next? That's not you being broken or "too much." In week three of the Breakups by Attachment Style series, Sabrina breaks down disorganized attachment (also called fearful avoidant attachment): the push-pull, hot-and-cold, on-again-off-again pattern that makes you feel like you're losing your mind. Learn what's actually happening in your nervous system, why your relationships keep taking this shape, and why no attachment style ever excuses how someone treats you.

Inside: the research on fearful avoidant attachment in adulthood, a...

Why does an avoidant ex look completely fine after the breakup while you're falling apart? In Part 2 of this 4-part breakup series, Sabrina breaks down avoidant attachment after a breakup using actual attachment research, not the recycled TikTok takes. She explains what deactivation really means in the nervous system, why avoidants register as less distressed in the acute post-breakup period, and what's actually happening when they seem to move on overnight or jump straight into a new relationship.

You'll also learn the three types of avoidant reach-outs (suppression breakdown, the phantom ex phenomenon, and the rare real...

It's 2am, you've checked their Instagram three times, and your body still aches for the person you know wasn't right. In this episode, Sabrina unpacks the anxious attachment breakup: why anxiously attached people chase, ruminate, and spiral after a relationship ends, what new research reveals about the nervous system pull toward an ex, and the one move keeping most anxious people stuck in the loop.

This is part one of a four-part breakup series covering anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure attachment styles. Expect honest talk on post-breakup rumination, no contact, withdrawal symptoms, self-abandonment, and how to stop...

In the first ever live coaching session of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina sits down with brand ambassador and content creator Judit Moreno for an unfiltered conversation about anxious attachment, the father wound, and why so many of us keep dating emotionally unavailable men. They unpack how childhood shapes adult relationship patterns, what love bombing does to your nervous system, and why self-abandonment can feel like home when chaos was your blueprint for love.

If you have ever wondered why you keep attracting the same partner in different bodies, spiraled in anxious attachment dating cycles, or felt...

We hurt in relationships, but we also heal in them. Sabrina sits down with Thais Gibson, founder of The Personal Development School, to map out the actual stages of healing attachment wounds: core wounds from childhood, unmet needs, subconscious rewiring, anxious attachment patterns, somatic work, and nervous system regulation. No secure partner is going to fix you, and this episode breaks down exactly why.

If you are stuck in the same dating cycles, doing all the personal growth content and wondering why nothing is sticking, this one is for you. Thais explains why self-awareness is not the...

If you keep getting the ick with every person you date, the problem might not actually be them. In this episode, Sabrina unpacks shadow work and the ick, breaking down how the parts of yourself you rejected long ago are running your dating life, your relationships, and the triggers that send you spiraling over something small. This is why you keep walking away from available, kind, emotionally present people and calling it intuition.

Sabrina lays out the difference between shadow work, inner child work, attachment styles, and nervous system regulation, and why the healing work most people...

In this raw birthday episode, Sabrina gets honest about the hidden cost of personal growth and what nobody warns you about when you actually start doing the work. From losing friends who only knew the old version of you, to grieving the identity you outgrew on purpose, to realizing success doesn't fix your insecurities or quiet your anxiety, this is the unfiltered truth about healing that the self-help world skips over. If you've ever wondered why your "best year ever" also feels like the loneliest, this episode explains exactly why, backed by Harvard research on identity loss during major...

For the 200th episode, Sabrina tackles the question she gets asked more than anything: how do you actually believe you're enough? This one breaks down where insecurity really comes from, why "just have more confidence" is bullshit advice, and what social psychologist Mark Leary's sociometer theory reveals about self esteem, rejection, and why one mean comment drowns out a hundred compliments.

If you grew up with conditional love, keep dating emotionally unavailable people, or can't stop missing someone who ran hot and cold, this episode is for you. Sabrina covers how to build real self trust, the...

The author of Attached, Amir Levine, M.D., is back with a new book called Secure and a whole new framework for understanding why your relationships feel the way they do. In this episode, we get into the biggest misconceptions about anxious and avoidant attachment, the truth about whether you can actually change your attachment style, why avoidants shut down instead of showing up, what a "closeness overdose" is and why it kills perfectly good relationships, and the five pillars of a secure life built around his CARP framework: consistent, available, responsive, reliable, and predictable.

If you've...

Are you so afraid of losing someone that you have already lost yourself? In this bonus episode, Sabrina answers listener questions about self-abandonment, emotionally unavailable partners, and why holding on to hope in a low-effort dynamic keeps you stuck in childhood core beliefs instead of building the healthy relationship you deserve. She breaks down dating with detachment, the difference between attention and intention, and how to stop performing for people who are not showing up for you.

Sabrina also gets real about fear of rejection, chasing validation, and the mantras that changed her entire dating life. Plus...

What happens when you have to end a relationship with someone who did nothing wrong? This episode covers the breakup nobody prepares you for: leaving someone good, or being left by someone who simply "isn't feeling it." Sabrina breaks down why love and alignment are not the same thing, how to tell the difference between a rough patch and real incompatibility, and why these breakups can hurt more than the ones with an obvious reason.

Whether you're carrying the guilt of leaving or the confusion of being left with no explanation that makes sense, this episode helps...

Closure is a lie, and waiting for it is keeping you stuck. In this episode of the Hard Truth Series, we get into why closure doesn't come from another person, what your brain is actually doing after a breakup, and why the conversation you keep replaying in your head would never be enough even if you got it. We cover the neuroscience of heartbreak, why searching for "why" makes things worse, and how identity loss after a relationship ends is what's really driving your distress.

If you can't stop thinking about your ex, feel like you need...

If you've ever lost interest the moment someone became available, or stayed obsessed with someone who kept you at arm's length, this episode is for you. Part three of the Hard Truth Series breaks down the most common pattern nobody wants to admit: using relationships to collect proof of your worth instead of building real partnership.

Backed by research on rejection sensitivity and anxious attachment, Sabrina unpacks why chasing external validation creates a cycle no amount of love can fix, how to tell if you are dating for connection or reassurance, and what it actually takes to...

Why do you overreact in relationships when the situation doesn't match the emotion? Sabrina sits down with Dr. Nicole LePera, The Holistic Psychologist, to break down inner child wounds, how your nervous system stores childhood trauma before you have words to process it, and why certain dating triggers send you spiraling. They dive into emotional attunement, generational trauma, shame, and anxious attachment patterns.

Dr. Nicole shares reparenting tools from her new book, Reparenting The Inner Child, including how to regulate your nervous system and stop self-abandoning in relationships. If you've ever said "I had a great childhood"...

You've done the therapy, read the books, and know your attachment style... so why does nothing change? In part 2 of the Hard Truth Series, Sabrina breaks down why you cannot heal your way out of incompatibility. Drawing on real research, she unpacks how to tell the difference between a wrong match and relationship anxiety, why therapy language can become a cage that keeps you stuck, and the line between actual growth and emotional gymnastics.

If you've stayed way past the expiration date convinced the work would eventually pay off, this episode is for you. Sabrina covers the...

Dating with an open heart sounds beautiful until your nervous system has other plans. In this solo In The Trenches audience Q&A episode, Sabrina answers your most raw questions about how to let someone in without losing yourself, how to date after grief, and what it actually looks like to stay present when fear or anxiety is running the show.

From navigating new love after loss to the hard truth about anxious attachment and self-accountability, this episode covers the real work of building a healthy relationship: nervous system regulation, emotional ownership, and learning the difference between...

Ever caught yourself saying "when it's good, it's so good"? In this first episode of the 4-part Hard Truth Series, Sabrina breaks down why you keep falling in love with who someone could be instead of who they actually are — and why potential is just a placeholder for the grief you're avoiding. She dives into the neuroscience of the "prospective brain," the impact bias that keeps you chasing a fantasy, and the 13-year longitudinal study that explains why you lower your standards for the wrong people but can't appreciate the ones who actually show up.

Sabrina gets vu...

Who pays on the first date? When should you talk about money in a relationship? How do you split finances with your partner — and what happens when you don't? Sabrina sits down with Jean and Cherie, the Tiger Sisters, to tackle every uncomfortable money question in dating and relationships — from first-date expectations and financial red flags to prenups, combining finances, and protecting yourself before marriage. If you've ever avoided "the money talk" with someone you're dating, this episode is your wake-up call.

The Tiger Sisters bring their Wall Street, Silicon Valley, and business school back...

If someone keeps texting but never makes plans, says “we’ll see,” or gives just enough to keep you hooked, this episode is for you. We break down breadcrumbing and bare minimum dating, including mixed signals, strategic ambiguity, and future faking—and why inconsistency keeps your brain stuck chasing clarity instead of connection. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between someone who’s genuinely busy versus emotionally unavailable, and why ambiguity fuels anxiety and attachment loops.

We also shift the focus back to you: why accepting breadcrumbs can feel familiar, how nervous system wiring and cognitive bi...

In this episode, Sabrina breaks down self-abandonment in dating and relationships, why losing yourself often gets mislabeled as love, and how chronic people-pleasing, codependency, and anxious attachment actually form. Using psychology, neuroscience, and attachment theory, she explains differentiation of self, emotional fusion, and how the nervous system drives self-betrayal, protest behavior, and fear of abandonment in romantic relationships.

You’ll learn how to choose yourself without blowing up your relationship, stop outsourcing emotional regulation, set boundaries without guilt, and reconnect to your intuition versus anxiety. This episode is essential for anyone struggling with relationship anxiety, overgiving, losing th...

In this episode, Sabrina sits down with dating expert Damona Hoffman to unpack how fairy tales, rom-coms, and modern dating apps fuel obsession, fantasy, and anxious attachment. They break down why texting chemistry, dopamine loops, and “potential” keep people stuck in confusing dating dynamics—and how to shift from chasing sparks to choosing emotional safety, clarity, and real connection.

If you’re tired of mixed signals, hot-and-cold behavior, situationships, or questioning someone’s attachment style, this conversation reframes dating through grounded psychology and nervous system awareness. You’ll learn how to stop romanticizing unavailable partners, id...

When someone comes on strong early, it can feel like intimacy—but it’s often just intensity. In this episode, Sabrina breaks down love bombing, future faking, and why fast-moving connections activate dopamine and attachment wounds rather than real emotional safety. She explains what’s actually happening in your brain when chemistry feels overwhelming and why those relationships tend to crash just as fast.

You’ll learn the most common signs of love bombing, why stable connection can feel boring at first, and how anxious attachment keeps people hooked on the high. Sabrina also shares t...

Heartbreak can feel like the end of everything, but it’s often the beginning of healing. In this raw episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina shares the three biggest heartbreaks of her life and what they taught her about anxious attachment, abandonment wounds, limerence, and self-worth. From childhood trauma to toxic relationships and loss, this episode explores how heartbreak shapes our dating patterns and beliefs about love.

If you’re struggling with breakups or repeating unhealthy relationship cycles, this episode breaks down why heartbreak hurts so deeply and how healing actually begins.

If you’re rea...

Three years ago, Sabrina Zohar hit rock bottom after losing everything she thought defined her. In this raw anniversary episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, she reflects on the journey from heartbreak, identity collapse, and losing her sense of direction to rebuilding her life through self-trust, nervous system healing, and emotional growth. This episode explores grief, attachment patterns, worthiness, and what happens when the path you were certain about disappears.

Joined by her partner (romantic and business) Ryan halfway through, Sabrina unpacks anxious and avoidant dynamics, boundaries, communication, and why healing doesn’t mean never being triggered ag...

In this deeply personal episode, Sabrina Zohar is joined by her longtime best friend Paige Homan to reflect on Sabrina’s growth journey from anxious attachment, dating anxiety, and emotional dysregulation to self-trust, nervous system regulation, and secure love. Through honest conversation and real-life reflection, they explore personal transformation, healing patterns in relationships, emotional maturity, and what it actually takes to evolve into a grounded, emotionally secure version of yourself over time.

If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you...

In this In The Trenches listener Q&A episode, Sabrina answers real dating and relationship questions submitted by the community, covering workplace flirtation, mixed signals, age gaps, anxious attachment, and what to do when someone doesn’t say “I love you” back. She breaks down how uncertainty, overthinking, and “going with the flow” often lead to self-abandonment instead of clarity.

From navigating emotionally unavailable partners to trusting your gut and having uncomfortable but necessary conversations, this episode is a raw, no-nonsense deep dive into choosing self-respect over confusion. If you’re stuck reading between the lines, questioning someone’s in...

Why do people who “try the hardest” in relationships often end up feeling unseen, resentful, or stuck in situationships? In this episode, Sabrina breaks down how people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, and anxious attachment patterns quietly sabotage intimacy. Drawing from psychology, attachment theory, and trauma research, she explains why fawning is not love but a nervous-system survival response, and how suppressing your needs leads to emotional disconnection, resentment, and unhealthy power dynamics in dating and relationships.

This episode dives deep into boundaries, self-abandonment, and why being willing to walk away is the most underrated relationship skill no one teaches you...

A new year doesn’t change your dating life. Your patterns do. In this episode, Sabrina breaks down why New Year’s dating resolutions fail, why manifestation without behavior change keeps you stuck, and why “this is my year for love” doesn’t work if you keep showing up the same way.

This episode focuses on shifting patterns, not chasing outcomes. We dive into anxious attachment, emotionally unavailable partners, self-abandonment, and what it actually means to be ready for a healthy relationship. If you’re tired of repeating the same cycles and want to start the year by showing u...

What does “going with the flow” actually mean in dating, and why does it so often lead to situationships, resentment, and self-abandonment? In the final episode of the Clarity Series, Sabrina breaks down how passivity, fear of asking for more, and chasing chemistry over availability keep people stuck in almost-relationships. This episode explores the psychological and nervous system reasons we suppress our needs, tolerate ambiguity, and confuse flexibility with emotional safety.

You’ll learn the difference between dating with intention versus dating from control or fear, how to identify your real non-negotiables, why situationships persist, and what it act...

Do you need to be fully healed before you can have a healthy relationship? In episode 3 of 4 in the Clarity Series, Sabrina dismantles one of the biggest myths in dating and personal growth: that you must be perfect, secure, or “done healing” before you’re worthy of love. Drawing from attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and real-life dating dynamics, she explains why so many people feel fine when they’re single but get triggered the moment they start dating and why that doesn’t mean you’ve failed your healing journey .

This episode explores the differen...

Neuroscientist Chris Lee joins me to break down what’s really happening in the brain when someone pulls away, shuts down, or spirals. We cover avoidance as a regulation strategy, why anxious activation hits so hard, and how state–story–strategy explains your patterns better than any TikTok soundbite. If you struggle with mixed signals, overthinking, or reacting fast in dating, this episode gives you clear, science-backed answers.

We also get into emotional availability, communication during conflict, and how to create safety without overfunctioning. You’ll learn how to recognize your patterns, rebuild trust in yourself, and stop t...

In this In The Trenches episode, we dig into the psychology of mixed signals, friendzones, breadcrumbing, and almost-relationships. From slow-burn connections that feel safe but confusing to flirty “friends” who keep you close for validation, we break down how to tell the difference between a secure slow build and self-friend-zoning. You’ll learn why some people want your emotional support without offering real intimacy, how to stop filling in the blanks with fantasy, and what mixed messages actually reveal about someone’s intentions.
We also get into situationships with no clarity, avoidant communication, and the ego-hit that keeps you hopi...

This episode breaks down why waiting for someone to come back feels so intoxicating — and why it keeps you stuck. We unpack the psychology behind ambiguous loss, ego-driven attachment, the fantasy loops your brain clings to, and the deeper wounds waiting protects you from. If you’re torn between “I hope they come back” and “God, I hope they don’t,” this will give you clarity you’ve never had.
You’ll learn how to tell the difference between missing them vs. missing the validation, why waiting functions as avoidance, what “they always come back” actually means, and the exact questions to as...

Getting over someone feels impossible when your mind keeps replaying the same moments on a loop. In this episode, Sabrina breaks down the difference between genuine emotional processing and rumination, explaining why your brain clings to old stories and how to finally create real movement instead of spiraling. If you’re tired of feeling stuck in your thoughts or carrying heartbreak into a new year, this episode is your reset point.
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In this episode, Sabrina explores the impact of shame on relationships and self-worth. She explains how shame rewires the brain, making us expect and even create rejection. Sabrina breaks down patterns like rejecting compliments and attracting emotionally unavailable people, while offering practical tools to release shame and rewire the nervous system.
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