The Sabrina Zohar Show
147: Why Friendships Can Be Harder Than Romantic Relationships
On this week's episode of The Sabrina Zohar, reflects on one of the most asked question about "Non-Romantic Friendship". She opens up about the complexities of platonic relationships, from the heartbreak of friendship breakups to navigating the anxiety of making new friends in adulthood. Sabrina shares her own journey through friendship wounds and how she's learned to heal and set boundaries, even when it means walking away from people who no longer serve her growth.
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If you've ever felt like you're too much, not...
146: Why Your Conversations Fail and How to Fix Them with Charles Duhigg
Join Sabrina Zohar and Charles Duhigg — a Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist, bestselling author of The Power of Habit and Supercommunicators, and current writer for The New Yorker — as they break down the communication skills vital for building better relationships. In this episode, they explore essential tools for effective communication, including how to listen actively and how to distinguish between emotional and practical conversations.
Discover how mastering these skills can transform not just your romantic life, but also your friendships, family interactions, and professional relationships.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
- Active Listening
- Emotional vs. Pr...
145: How to let go of seeking external validation and actually find your person
Struggling with people-pleasing or feeling anxious about how others perceive you? In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, Sabrina dives deep into how to let go of external validation and truly thrive while single. Whether you’re navigating dating, healing from past relationships, or simply want to build stronger self-worth, this video is packed with actionable tools, neuroscience insights, and real-life stories that will help you break free from approval-seeking and self-abandonment.
What you’ll learn:
- Why we crave external validation (hint: it’s not vanity, it’s survival)
- How your childhood and nervous...
144: Is He Into You? Or Killing Time? Answering Your Questions! | In The Trenches
Is he truly interested, or are you just a placeholder? In this solo In The Trenches, Sabrina dives deep into your most pressing relationship questions—covering everything from masculine vs. feminine energy, handling the aftermath of a first date, healing anxious attachment, moving on from heartbreak, and spotting red flags in modern dating. Drawing from both her personal journey and expertise as a relationship coach, Sabrina offers honest, relatable advice to help you navigate the complexities of dating and self-growth.
Whether you're struggling with anxious attachment, wondering how to avoid being "clingy," or questioning if your partner is ge...
143: How to have AUTHENTIC self love and Date Yourself
How do you know if you're loving your self? Today, we're diving deep into what self love actually means - when to know when you're choosing your partner, a parent or someone else over your own emotions.
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142: Stop Obsessing: How to Enjoy Dating Without Stressing About the Future
Unlock the secret to enjoying dating and relationships without obsessing over the outcome! In this episode, Sabrina Zohar dives deep into why we cling to control, how attachment styles shape our dating patterns, and practical steps to finally let go and find peace—whether you’re single or partnered. Discover how to pause, self-regulate, and stop spiraling, so you can show up authentically and attract the right connections.
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141: How BPD Impacts your Relationships with Neuropsychotherapist Britt Frank
What if your “crazy” behavior isn’t crazy at all—but a perfectly logical response to trauma, fear, and unmet needs? In this raw and powerful episode, I sit down with licensed psychotherapist and trauma expert Britt Frank to unpack the truth about what we often mislabel as sabotage, emotional instability, and being "too much." We dive into parts work, BPD misdiagnosis, and why your self-critic isn’t your enemy—it’s actually trying to protect you.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re your own worst enemy, this conversation is your invitation to pause and reframe. You’ll learn why w...
140: Why You Keep Settling (and How to Finally Choose Yourself)
Are you dating someone because it feels “good enough”… or because it actually feels good? In this episode, Sabrina takes a no-BS look at what it really means to “settle” in dating and relationships — and why it’s often less of a conscious choice and more of a nervous system pattern. Whether you’re single, stuck in a situationship, or already in a long-term relationship, this episode helps you understand the neuroscience behind why we stay, even when we know we shouldn’t — and how to shift that. From the Default Mode Network to dopamine loops in the ventral striatum, we’re unpacking how...
139: Dating Nightmares & Advice: In The Trenches with Nicole Byer
What happens when you're exclusive with someone… but barely hear from them? In this candid and laugh-out-loud episode, Sabrina sits down with comedian and actress Nicole Byer to unpack messy modern dating scenarios straight from audience questions. From breadcrumbing in long-distance “situationships” to partners who can't express their feelings, they break down the emotional chaos with humor, honesty, and zero sugarcoating.
They also dive into why the “cool girl” never actually wins, how to tell if you're settling, and why so many of us stay in dynamics that don't serve us—hoping love will eventually show up. Whether you’re quest...
138: Why You’re Obsessed with People Who Hurt You (And How to Finally Stop) With Nicole Vignola
Are you tired of replaying the same scenarios in your head, checking their socials, and wondering why you can’t let go—even when you know they’re wrong for you? In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, neuroscientist and author Nicole Vignola breaks down exactly what’s happening in your brain when you’re stuck on someone who isn’t right for you. From the dopamine loops that keep you addicted to the anticipation of a text to the childhood patterns shaping your attachment style, we dig into the neuroscience of obsession and how to actually break the cycle.
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137: I Used to Be A Hot Mess... And What I Did To Change It
What if the reason you’re spiraling after a text, chasing validation, or attaching to people who barely know you… isn’t about them at all? In this vulnerable solo-meets-guest episode, Sabrina opens up about how her anxious attachment shaped over a decade of dating—texting obsessively, abandoning her needs, and mistaking chemistry for connection. For the second part, her mom joins the conversation to share what it was like to witness that spiral from the outside.
This isn’t just a story about heartbreak—it’s a masterclass in self-awareness, nervous system regulation, and what it actually takes to break...
136: What To Do When You're Anxious In Dating and How To Regulate Your Nervous System With Jessica Maguire
Why do you keep spiraling after a date that seemed perfect? Why does your chest tighten when they don’t text back? It’s not just anxiety—it’s your nervous system sounding the alarm. In this eye-opening episode, Sabrina sits down with nervous system educator Jessica Maguire to explore the hidden physiological patterns driving anxious thoughts, emotional dysregulation, and the urge to chase emotionally unavailable partners.
Whether you're constantly scanning for red flags or feel overwhelmed by connection, this conversation breaks down the difference between true intuition and trauma-informed reactions. Jessica shares actionable tools to reconnect with your bod...
135: 4 Brutal Truths About Dating & Relationships (That No One Wants to Admit)
Think you're ready for a healthy relationship? Think again.
In this raw solo episode, Sabrina breaks down the four uncomfortable but necessary truths about dating and relationships that most people avoid. From why you might not actually be ready for the love you say you want, to how your nervous system may be confusing chaos with chemistry, this episode is a call-out and a wake-up. With research-backed insights (yes, we’re talking the salience network and the Dunning-Kruger effect), you'll learn why timing, emotional maturity, and attraction blindness play a bigger role than you think—and why doing “everyt...
134: Dating or Delusion? What to Do When It’s Not Moving Forward - In The Trenches With Tech Guy
He says “you deserve better,” but you're still hoping he’ll change? In today’s episode, we’re calling out the real reason you can’t let go — even when the relationship isn’t progressing. From long-distance love that’s all memes and no meaning, to two years of exclusivity with zero commitment, we’re diving into the dating dynamics that keep you stuck, confused, and emotionally drained. If you’ve ever felt like you’re “kind of” dating someone who gives you just enough to stay — this episode is your wake-up call.
Sabrina and Tech Guy break down listener-submitted storie...
133: How to Respond Instead of React in Relationships (Even When You're Triggered)
Ever feel like one tiny argument spirals into a full-blown meltdown—and you don’t even remember what started it? In this raw and transformative solo episode, Sabrina Zohar dives deep into the psychology and neuroscience of reactivity, conflict, and emotional regulation. Using personal stories, real client insights, and powerful research-backed tools, she breaks down how childhood programming wires us for knee-jerk reactions—and how to break the cycle. Whether you're anxious, avoidant, or somewhere in between, you'll walk away with practical ways to pause, process, and respond without losing yourself in the heat of the moment.
This episod...
Presenting: STARSTRUCK with Ally Lewber
StarStruck is a celestial journey through the secrets, scandals, and successes of your favorite celebrities—decoded through an astrological lens. Each week, Ally Lewber sits down with surprise celebrity guests for raw, one-on-one astrology readings. She’ll break down their birth charts and decode their major planetary influences. Plus, Ally will explore how the stars have shaped their past, and what’s written in their cosmic future.Â
From career highs to love drama, nothing is off-limits. So, whether you're an astrology newbie or you’re a chart-reading pro, this show is for you. Expect deep dives, shocking revelations, and plenty...
132: Resentment, Expectations, and Unmet Needs: The Three Relationship Killers With Dr. Morgan Cutlip
In this episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, psychologist and author Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins Sabrina to unpack the three silent relationship killers that derail connection: resentment, unmet needs, and unrealistic expectations. Whether you’re single, dating, or married with kids, this conversation dives into how these patterns sneak in, how to name them before they take over, and how to build emotional safety without losing your voice. From the belief that “they should just know” to the fear of being too much, Dr. Morgan and Sabrina explore how communication, vulnerability, and clear needs are the foundation of sustainable intimacy.
131: Why You Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable People
What if the emotionally unavailable people you keep dating are actually holding up a mirror to you? In this raw and unfiltered episode, Sabrina peels back the layers on emotional availability—what it really means, why you keep attracting partners who can’t meet you there, and how your own patterns might be keeping you stuck in the cycle. With personal stories, bold insights, and a no-BS look at emotional intelligence, she dives deep into the difference between true vulnerability and emotional oversharing, and why safety in connection starts with you.
Whether you're anxiously attached, avoidant, or just tire...
130: Red Flags & Green Flags: How to Know If They're Serious About You With Francesca Tighinean
Ever found yourself overanalyzing texts, questioning someone’s interest, or feeling stuck in a cycle of mixed signals? In this episode, I sit down with Francesca Tighinean, a coach with a background in psychology, to break down the real signs of attraction vs. manipulation. We’re diving into love bombing, future faking, and the subtle body language cues that reveal whether someone is genuinely interested—or just keeping you around for their own validation.
If you’ve ever been caught in the push-pull of someone who showers you with attention one day and disappears the next, this episode is your...
129: How to Stop Overreacting in Relationships and Improve Emotional Intelligence
Ever wondered how emotional intelligence can transform your relationships? Join Sabrina as she unravels the complexities of emotional intelligence, how it manifests in our connections, and why it is a game-changer. In this enlightening episode, Sabrina not only defines emotional intelligence but also provides concrete tools and techniques to help you strengthen your emotional connections and self-awareness. With anecdotes and practical advice, this episode is a treasure trove for anyone looking to enhance their relational dynamics.
Throughout the episode, Sabrina dives deep into the four advanced pillars of emotional intelligence—self-awareness, regulation, empathy, and conflict navigation. She shares in...
128: Why Men REALLY Pull Away—The Truth No One Tells You with Connell Barrett
Ever feel like dating is one giant guessing game? You meet a guy, everything’s great—until suddenly, he's pulling away. Or maybe you keep hearing, "You're amazing, but I just don't feel the spark."
What the hell is actually going on in their heads?
In this episode, I sit down with Connell Barrett, a men’s dating coach who’s been in the trenches himself. We’re cutting through the bullshit and getting into why men struggle with dating, what makes them lose interest, and what actually makes them want to stay. If you've ever felt like you're doi...
127: How To Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty or Pushing People Away with Terri Cole
Welcome back, babes! In today’s episode of The Sabrina Zohar Show, I’m joined by the one and only Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, author of Boundary Boss, and expert on all things boundaries, people-pleasing, and codependency.
We’re breaking down what boundaries actually are (and what they aren’t), why so many people get them wrong, and how to set them without guilt. Terri also shares her personal journey of leaving the entertainment industry to follow her passion for psychology, plus practical tools to help you stop self-abandoning, start advocating for yourself, and build stronger, healthier relationships.
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126: How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone Who’s Not That Into You
Why do we obsess over people who give us nothing? Why does unavailability make someone more attractive? And how do you break free from this cycle for good?
In this solo episode, Sabrina Zohar dives deep into limerence—the psychological trap that keeps you fixated on the wrong people. But this isn't just about dopamine and attachment theory; this episode goes further, exploring:
The real reason you can’t stop thinking about them (hint: it’s not because they’re special).
How childhood patterns train your brain to mistake anxiety for attraction.
Why fantasy and longing feel saf...
125: Anxious vs. Avoidant: Breaking the Unhealthy Push-Pull Dynamic in Love With Jimmy Knowles
If you’ve ever felt like you’re too much in a relationship while your partner seems emotionally unavailable, you’re not alone. The anxious-avoidant dynamic is one of the most common (and frustrating) relationship patterns—but is it doomed, or can it actually work?
In this episode, Jimmy Knowles (@jimmy_on_relationships) joins Sabrina Zohar to break down the push-pull dynamic between anxious and avoidant partners. Both Jimmy and Sabrina lean anxious, while their partners are avoidant—so they get the struggles firsthand.
🔹 Why do avoidants pull away, and what are they really thinking?
🔹 How does anxious...
124: Why Healthy Love Can Feel Boring: Exploring Secure Relationships
Ever found yourself attracted to chaos in relationships while feeling "meh" about someone who's actually good for you? In this Valentine's Day special, Sabrina dives deep into why we often mistake drama for passion and peace for boredom. She shares personal stories, including her own journey from choosing unavailable partners to embracing healthy love, and explains the neuroscience behind why stable relationships can feel uncomfortably "boring" at first.
Key Topics:
Why our brains are wired to crave relationship chaos
The difference between settling and choosing healthy love
How to stop self-sabotaging when you meet someone stable
The truth...
123: How To Date Intentionally and Find a Healthy Relationship — In the Trenches with Ali Jackson
Ever found yourself obsessing over someone who doesn’t make you feel secure? Struggling with long-distance dynamics or wondering if you’re stuck in limerence? This episode is your reality check.
Sabrina sits down with the unapologetically honest Ali Jackson, creator of @findingmrheight, to answer YOUR burning questions straight from the trenches. From navigating long-distance situationships to decoding mixed signals and handling the dreaded “I’m not ready for a relationship” talk, we’re cutting through the noise with raw, unfiltered advice.
What You'll Learn:
Long-Distance Reality Check: Is it worth it? What signs should you n...
122: Are You Attached or Actually Connected? How To Avoid the Dating Trap You Don’t See Coming
Ever found yourself obsessing over someone who’s hot and cold, questioning every text, and feeling anxious when they pull away? That’s not connection—it’s attachment. In this episode Sabrina breaks down the key differences between attachment and genuine connection in dating.
You’ll learn why attachment is rooted in fear and the need for validation, while real connection thrives on authenticity and emotional safety. Discover how inconsistent communication triggers dopamine-driven obsession, and why the people who leave you spiraling aren’t the ones you’re truly connected to.
Sabrina shares actionable strategies to shift from anx...
121: Why 'No Contact' Is So Important—and How to Finally Move On With Kendra Allen
Why is it so damn hard to stop thinking about an ex? In this episode, Sabrina sits down with breakup coach Kendra Allen to get real about the obsessive thoughts, shame, and emotional spirals that keep you stuck. They break down why no contact isn’t just a rule—it’s a lifeline for breaking toxic thought loops and reducing anxiety.
You’ll learn why missing someone doesn’t mean they’re right for you, how to process resentment when they move on first (without doom-scrolling their socials), and why some breakup questions will never be answered—but that’s okay. P...
120: Why You Keep Losing Yourself in Relationships (And How to Finally Stop)
Consistently feeling like you lose yourself in a relationship? In this powerful solo episode, Sabrina dives deep into one of the most common dating challenges: how to stay true to yourself while dating and in relationships. Through vulnerable personal stories, including her own journey from people-pleasing to authenticity, Sabrina explores why we often lose ourselves in relationships and provides practical tools to maintain our sense of self while building meaningful connections.
From understanding the science behind attachment patterns to distinguishing between chemistry and true compatibility, this episode is packed with actionable insights for anyone navigating the dating world...
119: When to Walk Away: The Power of Boundaries and Self-Respect with Jillian Turecki
Want to know if you should stay or walk away from a relationship? In this weeks episode, Sabrina Zohar welcomes relationship expert and author Jillian Turecki for a raw and honest conversation about love, relationships, and knowing when to stay or walk away. Jillian shares her personal journey through a difficult marriage and divorce, which ultimately led her to become obsessed with understanding what makes relationships truly work. Through her vulnerability, she reveals how her own experience of receiving a divorce text while having a miscarriage and losing her mother became the catalyst for her transformation and expertise in helping...
Pave Studios Presents Mantra w/Jemma Sbeg
Ready to take a fresh path to self-discovery? Every Monday, Jemma brings you a new mantra, breaking it down to show you how you can apply it to your own life. Whether you’re facing a major transition or looking to evolve your everyday routine, Mantra is the podcast for you. Join Jemma every week for reflections, practical tips, and personal insights that’ll inspire you to live with intention and unlock your true potential. Follow Mantra with Jemma Sbeg wherever you get your podcasts.
118: Why Do They Ghost? + How Long Should You Wait for Love to Grow? In The Trenches with Sabrina and Tech Guy
Tired of getting ghosted? Unsure how to navigate your situationship without losing your mind? Welcome to the new bonus series, "In The Trenches," where Sabrina and guests break down real-life dating dilemmas and relationship dynamics in a lighter, community-driven format. This series is all about addressing your burning questions and helping you make sense of modern dating chaos.
In this debut episode with Tech Guy (Ryan), Sabrina highlights the pivotal role of curiosity and open communication in managing anxiety and understanding a partner’s behavior, particularly when navigating concepts like "going slow." Ryan complements this by emphasizing the im...
117: How to Stop Holding Yourself Back and Become Your Future Self w/ Mimi Bouchard
Discover how to transform your mindset and unlock personal growth in this empowering conversation with Sabrina and Mimi Bouchard. Mimi opens up about her journey from scarcity and self-doubt to self-love and abundance, sharing actionable tools and strategies to reprogram your mind and embrace a new self-image.
Mimi explains how her app and activations, which combine affirmations with music, help people shift their energy and overcome limiting beliefs. Sabrina resonates deeply with Mimi’s message about the role of belief in manifestation and the importance of getting clear on how you want to feel. Sabrina and Mimi emphasize th...
116: New Year, Same Bull**t: How To *Actually* Grow This Year
In the first episode of 2025, Sabrina dives into building sustainable habits and creating meaningful change, challenging the expectation of becoming a brand-new person on January 1st. She reflects on her own experiences, including a tough New Year’s moment when she reverted to old patterns, illustrating how our brains resist change to maintain safety and familiarity.Â
Real change requires neuroplasticity, consistency, and patience. Sabrina encourages starting with "micro yeses," reflecting on past resistances, and breaking goals into manageable steps. Small habits build momentum, creating dopamine-fueled wins that reinforce self-trust. Habit stacking—linking new habits to existing routines—helps solidif...
115: How to Detach: It's Time To Let That Sh*t Go!
In this solo episode, Sabrina dives into the psychology and personal journey of detaching and letting go, emphasizing that the process is deeply individual and often challenging. She explores how anxiety and fear manifest across various aspects of life, such as relationships, money, and family, highlighting that our brains are wired to resist change due to comfort zone traps and familiar dopamine patterns.Â
Sabrina shares her personal experiences, illustrating how projections and unmet needs often tether us to past relationships or circumstances. She underscores the importance of grieving unmet expectations, like the childhood or relationships we didn’t hav...
114: Why You Shouldn't Settle In Love And Relationships With Dené Logan
Dené Logan joins Sabrina in a thought-provoking conversation about what settling is and what it can look like in relationships. They talk about how important it is to understand ourselves as souls when choosing partners. Dené challenges the common belief that being uncoupled is the worst outcome, arguing instead that relationships should add to our lives and not be driven by societal conditioning.
Sabrina and Dené delve into the energies of masculinity and femininity, emphasizing that these are energies, not rigid identities, and that real connection comes from understanding and humanizing one another. Dené stresses that relationships need inspi...
113: Dating 6+ Months: How To Build The Foundation For A Healthy And Secure Relationship
Today Sabrina discusses the pivotal six-month mark in relationships, when things shift from the honeymoon phase into a deeper, more stable phase of connection. At this point, dopamine levels balance out, and oxytocin shifts, often turning spontaneity into predictability. This is when core values and life goals start to surface, and it’s important to recognize that a relationship might not work out if there’s a fundamental mismatch between you and your partner.Â
By this stage, communication should be clear and consistent, and both partners should feel comfortable expressing their needs, whether it’s a desire for reassur...
112: Why Emotional Unavailability Feels Safe: Understanding the 'Not Enough' Wound With Vanessa Bennett
Sabrina, alongside her guest Vanessa Bennett, dives deep into the complexities of the “not enough” wound and its impact on attachment styles, hyper-independence, and relationships. Vanessa, a Holistic Psychotherapist, shares insights from her professional and personal journey, highlighting how societal conditioning often instills feelings of unworthiness.Â
Sabrina and Vanessa explore how hyper-independence and codependency are two sides of the same coin, both rooted in attempts to soothe the worthiness wound in different ways. Sabrina draws from her own experiences, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and embracing discomfort as essential steps in healing.Â
The conversation touche...
111: Why Avoidants Push Away What They Want Most With Mark Manson
In a conversation with Sabrina, Mark Manson shares insights on navigating relationships from the perspective of an avoidantly attached individual. Drawing from his 12-year marriage, Mark emphasizes the importance of open communication and realistic expectations, especially in long-distance relationships. He advises having clear end goals and intentional conversations about logistics and contact frequency to maintain connection.Â
Diving into Mark’s own avoidant tendencies, he and Sabrina explain how avoidance often stems from fear rather than lack of care or feelings. Mark highlights the significance of allowing space in relationships and how his wife’s patience helped him transition from...
110: 3-6 Months In: Navigating the Make-or-Break Stage of Dating
Today Sabrina is talking about the 3-6 month mark in dating. This is an important time, and often the transition out of the honeymoon phase. This period reveals reality as dopamine-induced excitement fades, making it crucial to evaluate compatibility and address emerging dynamics.Â
Sabrina encourages slowing down to regulate your nervous system and build trust gradually. This is the time to assess how your partner responds to your needs, communicate triggers, and explore values versus surface-level traits. Power struggles, doubts, and fears are normal as you recognize both strengths and flaws in each other.Â
Sabrina highlights th...