Healing the Unresolved

Today’s podcast is a discussion of the paradox of our sense of self. In order to become selfless, we have to have some sense of self. To completely abandon any sense of self can leave us to spiritually flounder and actually abandon who God wants us to be. There is a more detailed discussion on what aspects of self we are to hold onto and engage.

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who has struggled with obsessive compulsive disorder and has noticed it affecting their orthodox Christian spiritual life. Specifically, they are always convinced God hates them and is punishing them. Today’s podcast discusses what is actually driving those beliefs and some options and areas to explore in finding long-term relief.

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who is struggling to cope with an enmeshed family of origin. Despite being married and having their own kids, and their siblings all being married and having their own kids, the family of origin functions as though none of that has happened. This can be a very confusing reality to live in. The guilt of the family can be powerful, but we often don’t realize that when we serve an enmeshed family system we are actually working against the life God wants us to live.

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who is struggling with why God doesn’t just grant them healing from the effects of their experiences after so many years of doing the healing work. We know from raising children, that rescuing too soon robs them of growth opportunities. Also, the healing work is a wonderful growth opportunity, where a beautiful synergy is to play out between ourselves and God.

Today’s podcast discusses the healing power of apologies. Each apology has the ability to create the space of the empty tomb in the heart of another. Apologies often wield a power we don’t realize. While we try not to err, each stumbling becomes an opportunity to apologize, and in doing so we participate in a death and resurrection.

Today’s podcast answers a question from somebody seeking reassurance that EFT, otherwise known as emotional freedom therapy, is spiritually safe and consistent with the orthodox Phronema. General guidance on how to test out these new techniques is also given.

Today's podcast is a reflection on Matthew 13:31-36. In this gospel reading, there are two parables, the parable of the mustard seed and the parable of the leaven. In our present age, we tend to overlook the present moment and the moments we deem to be the most insignificant, in our quest for something more significant. As a result we overlook the most significant moments of our lives, which happen to be our mustard seed moments. If we could only be attentive to these moments, we would experience much more efficient growth and healing towards something more full and healthy...

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who is recently engaged and fears having children. Specifically, they fear that they will re-create their own life experiences in the lives of their kids. The podcast today gives concrete scenarios to guide on so that we might avoid re-creating the past.

Today’s podcast explores how the healing work, which is the resolving of our fallen experiences, sharpens our spiritual tools and deepens our confessions. There is a unique synergy between the healing work and repentance. Examples are covered as to just how the healing work deepens our repentance and therefore our confessions.

Today’s podcast draws upon the scripture verse in which Jesus tells us, “to be wise as a serpent and harmless as a dove”. We are called to do no harm, but that does not mean to be gullible or naïve. We are called to be discerning. There are many souls out there who feel hurt and taken advantage of by individuals. However, there are many who have been hurt by unhealthy or dysfunctional systems. It is important that we raise our level of awareness of these systems in order to protect others and the church.

Today’s podcast reflects on the Leave-taking of the feast of Pentecost. We often acknowledge the presence of the Holy Spirit, but miss encounters with the Holy Spirit due to our own impatience, lack of trust, and our own denials. Today’s podcast offers an exploration of what we need to do to have real encounters with God through the Holy Spirit.

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who has been going through somatic experiencing therapy. They are concerned that it is not rooted in the Orthodox Faith and does not overtly guide on Orthodox principles. What this type of therapy is and whether it is safe or not are discussed.

Today’s podcast discusses three ways in which we may often violate the spiritual boundaries of another without realizing it. When this occurs, it is often due to an inability to self-regulate emotionally, being egocentric, or struggling with codependency. It is essential for the spiritual life that we have a strong sense of where we begin and leave off and where others begin.

Today’s podcast talks about a most beautiful inheritance that we can all leave our children. As parents we often worry about leaving a financial inheritance. However, we often overlook the universal inheritance that all of us leave our kids. We leave our children an inheritance of either simple grief or complicated grief, depending on how we have parented and how well we loved them. This inheritance of simple grief is also a form of generational wealth, as it gets passed on for generations.

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who has come to realize their sense of self is damaged. This part of the healing work is often overlooked due to it being so close or detouring it due to us being nervous about the concept of “self”. If we have a damaged sense of self, it means we believe that we are unlovable, not worthy of love, and simply not good enough. This can predispose us to looking to external sources for validation, which can endanger us spirituality and set us up for more grief and shame. Self-abandonment leads us furthe...

Today’s podcast speaks on the topic of paralysis. Specifically paralysis in which a part of ourselves goes off-line and shuts down as a result of some fallen experience. There is a steep cost for this in the form of regret, which can make insight a bitter pill. We can be paralyzed by fear, guilt, shame, disappointment, and even by the ego. Second chances are always available. How to go about reversing paralysis, and even protecting ourselves from future paralysis, is discussed.

Today’s podcast uses the liturgical space of this week being in between the Sunday of the Myhr-bearing women and the Sunday of the paralytic as an opportunity to highlight the role of humility in the healing work. When humility has not been established, we set ourselves up to be re-traumatized and for more rejection experiences. Humility clears those dangers away so that we might heal in a more efficient manner.

Today’s podcast focuses on how trauma and painful experiences shrink and narrow our perception of the world. There is discussion of the concept of our “perception box” which gives us something concrete to focus on in our spiritual lives. Learning to expand our perception box, to let all the data in, can help stop the process of past painful experiences being super- imposed on the present. Rather than constantly repeating the past, suddenly we are living a life free of it.

Today’s podcast discusses how that which is so close to us is often that which is the most unseen. Nameless fears, which are buried in our implicit memory, can define and be the driving force in our lives until we become consciously aware of them. While this can be a very painful process, it can also yield the most fruit and give us the biggest leaps forward in the healing work and in our spiritual lives.

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who is in a state of anguish over the disparity between his desire for healing and faith and that of his spouse. When such a disparity exists, it can be difficult just being able to have a conversation. Today’s podcast speaks to how to find peace and to thrive, even when such disparities exist.

Today’s podcast introduces an additional fast for those on the healing path during Great and Holy Lent. This fast will not add burdens or hardships, but quite the opposite, will bring greater peace. We can use this lenten season to unlearn old habits and create new experiences and memories. This additional fast will help bring greater meaning to bright week and the space of the empty tomb.

Today’s podcast discusses how there is often a disparity between our self-perception and how others perceive us. Where we are with this is like being on a continuum. We don’t want to be at either extreme. However, sometimes our self perception is so low that we don’t quite fully function spiritually, and we end up recusing ourselves from the life that God wants us to live.

Today’s podcast discusses the parable of the prodigal son and covers concepts and processes that are not as obvious as sin, but have just as much, if not more, power to pull us away from the house of the Father. The intangible things that we pursue, crave, yearn for, and chase, are much harder to spot and to be conscious of, but can lure us far away from God and from our dignity.

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who is trying to understand why they so often end up having the same experiences repeatedly, specifically in the area of interpersonal relationships. Today’s podcast takes a look at a topic that is not often discussed, and that is when often we inadvertently re-create old relationship patterns because we tend to gravitate to what we know and what we are familiar with. Sometimes it just feels familiar and other times we are trying to get closure or gain a sense of mastery over an old relationship pattern that was never resolved.

Today’s podcast addresses some confusion over whether it’s okay or not to pray for healing. Many have been on the receiving end of mixed messaging on this topic. Some are told to not pray for healing and to just rejoice for their suffering. While that is not wrong, we are often yearning for more, such as for hope and comfort. We are not to abandon others to their pain, especially if we are not suffering or going through the pain that they are. The podcast also covers a deeper gratitude to bring to God that buffers us from disc...

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who had been through a very difficult series of health traumas and scares involving themselves, their child, their husband, and their parents. The submitter of the question is struggling to feel normal again and to feel safe. Steps that can be taken to restore that sense of safety and normalcy are covered in the podcast.

Today’s podcast speaks on a very important topic that is one of the cornerstones of our spirituality. It is essential that we be able to receive the love of God and accept and truly believe that God loves us. However, our life experiences often taint or contaminate our perception of God and His love. To make matters worse, we have shame over our struggle with our perceptions and believe that God holds this struggle against us. This struggle of perceptions is part of our ascetical life. God does not hold it against us, so we should not hold it ag...

Today’s podcast focuses on how the months of January and February are actually months of critical spiritual activity even though in the world and creation, it’s a time of inactivity and hibernation. There is particular focus on a new year’s audit we can do on ourselves involving the four R’s of: Roles, Relationships, Regrets, and Resolve.

Today’s podcast covers the topic of self abandonment. We often identify abandonment as taking place within a dyad or within interpersonal relationships. However, we can abandon ourselves in various ways. These ways can range from self-doubt to more serious self abuse, with many more forms in between. When self-abandonment occurs, this opens the door to despondency and despair. When we do not abandon ourselves, and maintain self compassion, we will not down-spiral emotionally.

Today’s podcast discusses the need to know when it’s time to simply let go of certain forms of emotional baggage when we get into later stages of life. We often don’t emotionally feel like our chronological age. However, as our years grow short, there’s just certain things we don’t want to be carrying; so that when the time comes, we can easily transition to the kingdom of God. Often times we are carrying baggage that is preventing us from growing up. Knowing what types of struggles are okay to just let go of and when it is okay...

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone struggling to understand how self denial and self acceptance do not conflict with each other. Both self denial and self acceptance depend on one another. If we do not maintain the appropriate application and balance of both, we will spiritually stall out; either in the state of complacency or despondency.

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone struggling to understand how self denial and self acceptance do not conflict with each other. Both self denial and self acceptance depend on one another. If we do not maintain the appropriate application and balance of both, we will spiritually stall out; either in the state of complacency or despondency.

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who has been having disagreements with their spouse over whether or not to visit extended family during the holidays. The various factors that should go into making these decisions is discussed. A nativity activity and meditation is also given to help the submitter of the question and listeners to help make the right decisions during this advent season.

Today’s podcast answers a question from someone who has been having disagreements with their spouse over whether or not to visit extended family during the holidays. The various factors that should go into making these decisions is discussed. A nativity activity and meditation is also given to help the submitter of the question and listeners to help make the right decisions during this advent season.

Today’s podcast offers a reflection on Saint Paul’s recent epistle in which he describes how anything revealed becomes visible and what is visible becomes light. We are all invited to participate in the beautiful process of converting dark secrets, struggles, and sins into light by bringing them to the light of day, the light of consciousness, the light of Christ.

Today’s podcast offers a reflection on Saint Paul’s recent epistle in which he describes how anything revealed becomes visible and what is visible becomes light. We are all invited to participate in the beautiful process of converting dark secrets, struggles, and sins into light by bringing them to the light of day, the light of consciousness, the light of Christ.

Today’s podcast explores a topic that we all have experienced, but rarely discuss. We know that expectations are troublesome and that hope is healthy. But what about a yearning? Examples of healthy yearnings and unhealthy ones are discussed and explored. The origins of unhealthy yearnings, and havoc they can wreak in our lives, are also a focal point.

Today’s podcast explores a topic that we all have experienced, but rarely discuss. We know that expectations are troublesome and that hope is healthy. But what about a yearning? Examples of healthy yearnings and unhealthy ones are discussed and explored. The origins of unhealthy yearnings, and havoc they can wreak in our lives, are also a focal point.

Today's podcast revisits and builds upon a previous episode that was about when we unconsciously follow a script from the past. However, this topic is expanded today to how we can create new unhealthy scripts or narratives in the present without realizing it is happening. A stressful time can lead to negative self-dialogue that can become a habit. It can create a new procedural memory of how we relate with ourselves. It can even become a way of self-soothing in a very unhealthy way.

Today's podcast revisits and builds upon a previous episode that was about when we unconsciously follow a script from the past. However, this topic is expanded today to how we can create new unhealthy scripts or narratives in the present without realizing it is happening. A stressful time can lead to negative self-dialogue that can become a habit. It can create a new procedural memory of how we relate with ourselves. It can even become a way of self-soothing in a very unhealthy way.