Recovering with Danie | Eating Disorder Recovery Podcast

This is part two on compulsive exercise, answering your recovery questions around exercise! 🎙️ From guilt around resting to questioning your relationship with movement, let’s talk about it.

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Compulsive Exercise, Part One

You’ve stopped going to the gym, but you still feel like you have to walk home. Someone offers you a lift and you’d love to say yes, but you’re already thinking, “If I don’t walk, can I still have the lunch I planned?”

In part one of this series on Recovering with Dani, I’m talking about the everyday movement rules that can be easy to miss in eating disorder recovery. We’ll get into why you can genuinely enjoy exercise and still feel a...

The Two-Week Resistance Reset 🔥 | Resistance Day, Part 2

Your eating disorder agreed to the croissant yesterday. Today, it wants you to “be careful.” Sound familiar?

Following the response to Resistance Day, we’re taking it further: the Two-Week Resistance Reset. In this episode, I explain how to create a concrete plan of action using the DVK Recovery Method®—bringing back foods you miss, challenging restrictive rules, and repeating those choices without compensating afterwards.

We explore neural rewiring: how repeated experiences create opportunities for new learning, and why reco...

🎙️ NEW EPISODE: Binge Eating, Extreme Hunger & the Hidden Rules Keeping You Stuck | Q&A

Are you actually binge eating, or is it extreme hunger? How do you know if exercise has become compulsive? And why is stepping away from the scale SO incredibly difficult, even when you’re committed to recovery?

In today’s episode of Recovering with Danie, I’m answering some of your most interesting (and uncomfortable!) eating disorder recovery questions.

We’re diving into:

✨ Binge eating vs. binge eatin...

Hi everyone,

This episode with my client Larissa is SO special.

Larissa is a mom of two who had already been trying to recover and had worked with another coach before finding me — but she still felt stuck.

Then she found AI Danie®, connected with my approach, started working with me, and within just a few months her recovery completely transformed.

In this episode, we talk about why she believes she stayed stuck for so long, what felt different abo...

One of the biggest fears in eating disorder recovery is not actually the food.

It’s this:

“What if I start eating properly… and I never stop?”

“What if my extreme hunger never goes away?”

“What if I just keep gaining and gaining weight?”

In this episode, I answer exactly that.

We talk about why a body can stabilise without necessarily stabilising at the weight your eating disorder would choose, why humans naturally exist in very different body sizes, what happens to extreme and mental hunger wh...

What if “balance” is actually keeping you stuck?

In this episode, I’m talking about The Pendulum Swing™ — one of the biggest concepts I use in eating disorder recovery.

If your eating disorder has spent years pulling you toward restriction, control, fear foods, compensation, “healthier” choices and endless rules, recovery is not about immediately trying to find some perfect middle ground.

It’s about repeatedly going in the opposite direction.

Again.

And again.

And again.

In this epi...

What if some of the eating disorder recovery advice you’re following has actually just become… another set of eating disorder rules?

In this episode, I’m sharing my anti-advice: the common recovery approaches I either don’t stand behind or think need WAY more nuance.

We’re talking weighing, covering mirrors and body checking, rigid meal plans, stopping exercise completely, “intuitive eating,” balance and moderation, the plate-by-plate approach, calorie counting, and the obsession with overshoot.

I also explain why I prefer restorative eating over intuitive...

In this episode, I’m responding to a post from a recovery content creator with over 100,000 followers who argued that maybe we’ve become a little too afraid of restriction — that perhaps we say “yes” to food too often, and that sometimes wanting more food but deciding you’ve had enough can be completely fine.

And I have… thoughts.

Because there is a HUGE difference between what might be neutral food decision-making for someone without an eating disorder and the kind of message you give to someone who is actively tryin...

AIDanie ⁠⁠has officially launched and I could not be more excited.

AIDanie is your real-time eating disorder recovery support system, trained directly by me and built around action-oriented, goal-focused recovery guidance.

You can start with a free trial that includes 20 free messages to experience the support for yourself.

After that, you can choose from:

The Plus and VIP tiers also include voice note support, so you can receive recovery guidance in an even more personal and supportive way.

AIDanie is available in any lang...

AIDanie ⁠has officially launched and I could not be more excited.

AIDanie is your real-time eating disorder recovery support system, trained directly by me and built around action-oriented, goal-focused recovery guidance.

You can start with a free trial that includes 20 free messages to experience the support for yourself.

After that, you can choose from:

The Plus and VIP tiers also include voice note support, so you can receive recovery guidance in an even more personal and supportive way.

AIDanie is available in any la...

AIDanie has officially launched and I could not be more excited.

AIDanie is your real-time eating disorder recovery support system, trained directly by me and built around action-oriented, goal-focused recovery guidance.

You can start with a free trial that includes 20 free messages to experience the support for yourself.

After that, you can choose from:

The Plus and VIP tiers also include voice note support, so you can receive recovery guidance in an even more personal and supportive way.

AIDanie is available in any...

In this week's episode, I tell you more about the project I've been working on behind the scenes, and which is launching May 9th: AI Danie®, your personal AI recovery assistant, rooted in my DVK Recovery Method®. Be sure to visit the website to learn more and sign up so you'll be the first to get acces when we launch: http://aidanievankay.com !

Besides this project, I also answer some of your questions. Discussing topics like intuitive eating in recovery and how to navigate exercise in recovery. Tune in!

Besides AI Danie, I...

Oh my God… it’s finally happening.

I’m officially launching AI Danie on May 9th 🤍

This is something I’ve been quietly building behind the scenes; an AI version of me that you can talk to anytime, about anything. The thoughts you don’t say out loud, the moments you feel stuck, the questions that come up at 10pm… it’s there.

Because recovery doesn’t just happen in sessions.

It happens in the in-between moments and I wanted to create something that actu...

A lot of my clients will tell me they don't think their eating disorder is bad enough. One reason they feel this way can be the fact that they are still functioning. Going to school or work, household chores, social outings... From the outside, it may look like things are fine. But in reality, it's so dangerous. So lets discuss why this is and what to do about it - tune in!

Do you need more support? I have new spots available for my coaching programs in April! And Alongside my popular short-term programs...

In this week's episode, we discuss two big topics: why restricting can keep you stuck in a binge-purge cycle, and when it is time to take a step back from school and work to really focus on your recovery.

In this episode, I also mention a very exclusive offer for podcast listeners! Curious? You can find more information below, and be sure to tune in!

🎧 Exclusive Offer for Podcast Listeners

To celebrate how fast this podcast is growing, I’ve created something specifically for you:

The DVK Recovery Reset...

This week, we're talking all about extreme hunger. While it's very common in eating disorder recovery, it can be very scary and feel uncertain. There are five questions I get asked by pretty much every client. So in this episode, we're going over all of them. To empower you to listen to your extreme hunger and use it to your advantage to propel forward in your recovery!

I have new spots available for my coaching programs in April! And Alongside my popular short-term programs, the Mini Boost and Single Boost Sessions, I now offer something new: the...

Do you seek approval yet never feel like it's enough? Do you still hate your body even if others are complimenting you? In this episode we talk all about why that is: What is it that you're really seeking which you're not getting? How can you recover from your eating disorder and actually appreciate your body regardless of the way it looks? Tune in!

This is the blogpost I talk about in this episode.

I have new spots available for my coaching programs in April! And Alongside...

In this week's episode, I tackle some more of your questions on bingeing, discuss why full recovery is actually worth it and how to unstuck yourself from the trap you find yourself in when you're nearly - but not fully - there. I also give an update on my personal life! A while back, I shared that I was on a personal weight gain journey for health reasons, to see how it would feel. So how am I doing now? All that and more in this week's episode - tune in!

I have new...

After taking a little bit of a break, I'm back to answer your emails and voicenotes! In this week's episode, we talk all about setting boundaries and taking steps to actually recover. If you're feeling like you are stuck, don't know how to progress, or wonder how to avoid getting triggered, this episode is for you. Tune in!

As mentioned in the episode:

Michael Merzenich is an American neuroscientist, inventor and entrepeneur, known as one of the founding fathers of research into neuroplasticity. He is an emeritus professor in neurophysiology at the...

If you struggle with an eating disorder, chances are you've thought about calories as 'something scary', something to be limited and something negative. However, I argue that you aren't actually scared of calories at all. You're scared of what they mean to you. And by not tackling the fear of calories, but rather the fear of that what calories signify to you, you can take steps in your recovery. So what do calories actually mean to you, and how do you tackle that fear? Tune in!

I have new spots available for my coaching...

With the start of the new year, there are countless people who have the new years resolution of eating healthier. All sorts of diets cutting out food groups have been popular for ages, and while focusing on nutrition isn't always a bad thing, for some people there's a fine line between eating healthy and developing an eating disorder. So what is the border between healthy eating and eating disorder? When does healthy eating turn into a disorder, and (how) can you focus on nutrition when recovering or recovered from your eating disorder? All that and more, in this week's...

Recovery is hard work, unfortunately. But an eating disorder is even harder. Why can it be so difficult to continue recovery? And how can you push yourself, motivate yourself when it all seems tough? What lies beyond recovery, what is being recovered and why is it worth all of the hard work? All that and more, in this week's episode - tune in!

I also offer 1:1 support beyond ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠, DMs, and podcast. Alongside my Mini Boost and Single Boost Sessions, I now offer something new: the Single Boost Session Pro.

This is a two-session coaching package desig...

This week's episode (the first one of the year!) is about making real changes: how can you recover and what role does your nervous system play in this? Do you need to be calm and secure in order to benefit from going all-in? How do you motivate yourself to make changes and how can help from other people and professionals play a role in this? All that and more in this week's episode - tune in!

In this episode, I’m sharing a reminder that you don’t have to navigate recovery alone — and that I also offer...

Happy holidays!

The end of the year is the perfect time for some reflection. So in this last episode of the year, I'm reflecting on what coaching hundreds of clients has taught me about recovery, my clients, and eating disorders. Why does our eating disorder make us feel like we're all alone or unique, when in reality, so many of us struggle with the same things? What are some things you may be surprised to hear don't surprise me? Tune in!

If you feel like you need more help recovering from your eating...

In this week's episode, I'm answering some of the questions that you guys' sent me via SpeakPipe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠. I'm discussing everything mental hunger and weight gain: what is it, how do you deal with it, and how can you cope? Tune in!

If you feel like you need more help recovering from your eating disorder, I still do ⁠⁠single boost sessions⁠⁠ and I have one more ⁠⁠Recovery Bootcamp⁠⁠ spot available for January 2026.

If you would like to see my method written down, create your own action plan, and join a support group, then be sure to grab yourself a copy of my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

This week's episode is quite different from my normal episodes... In this week's episode, I reflect on my weight gain journey and talk about my own mental and physical health. I've had to decide to take a step back from coaching for a while (not forever ;)), to spend more time and energy on me.

If you feel like you need more help recovering from your eating disorder, I still do ⁠single boost sessions⁠ and I have one more ⁠Recovery Bootcamp⁠ spot available for January 2026.

If you would like to see my method written down, create your own...

I'm back again with a co-hosted episode! For this week's episode, I was joined by Megan from @megsy_recovery, to discuss all things weight gain and recovery. We answered your guys' questions and went in depth about our experiences, tips and tricks on navigating eating disorder recovery. Tune in!

Do you want to ask your questions for interviews or Q&A sessions that are coming up? Be sure to follow me on Instagram @daniellevankay!

If you would like to see my method written down, create your own action plan, and join a support group, then...

A while ago, in episode 160, I discussed my plan to purposefully gain weight, just to see what would happen. In this week’s episode, I discuss my process. What has happened now that I’ve gained weight? How did I make myself gain weight? I also discuss how incredibly important my past recovery from my eating disorder has been in terms of allowing me to do this and all the benefits that that comes with. So for all of you who are scared to recover and gain weight, who need a little bit of motivation: this is it. Tune in!<...

Intuitive eating has become all the rage, it seems. And while great in principle, I argue that intuitive eating - especially in recovery from an eating disorder and thereafter - has some shortcomings. In this week’s episode, I talk about how and why I myself don’t always eat intuitively, and why it is so important to sometimes eat restoratively and functionally. Why do we sometimes need to eat more than we intuitively want? And how can you manage that in recovery? All that and more, in this week’s episode. Tune in!

If you...

Every week or so, I will be uploading bonus episodes, containing recordings of the live-sessions I have been (and will be) having on my Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ account together with other recovery influencers and recovery coaches! This week, I went live together with Zeynap, also known as @realistic.body.therapist to discuss all things recovery, mental health, and life. Tune in!

If you would like to see my method written down, create your own action plan, and join a support group, then be sure to grab yourself a copy of my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! If you want to stay up to date and be the first to hear about some exciting program's I'm launching soon, be sure to follow me on ⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

Do you feel like you need more help recovering from your eating disorder? Whether you struggle with anorexia, bulimia, OSFED, or other (un)diagnosed disordered eating issues, I'm here...

From now on, every week or so I'll be posting a bonus episode for you guys! Over on my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, I'm hosting weekly live-sessions in which I'm joined by other recovered influencers and recovery coaches to talk about all things mental health, eating disorder, recovery, and life. Last week, I was joined by my dear friend Amalie Lee, so for all of you who missed it or want to give it another listen, tune in!

If you would like to see my method written down, create your own action plan, and join a support group, then be sure to grab yourself a copy of my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! If you want to stay up to date and be the first to hear about some exciting...

This week's episode, I'm joined again by my friend as we talk about coping with your changing body and accepting weight gain. How do you remove the moral value you've attached to your weight? How do you cope with no longer being the skinniest person in the room. All that and more in this week's episode - tune in!

If you would like to see my method written down, create your own action plan, and join a support group, then be sure to grab yourself a copy of my ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠guide⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! If you want to stay up to date and be the first to hear about some exciting program's I'm launching soon, be sure to follow me on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠!

Do you feel like you need more help recovering from your...

This week’s episode, I’m not alone! A friend has join the podcast to talk about her lived experience with an eating disorder and autism, and answer your guys' questions. How may autism influence your recovery and how can you successfully recover from your eating disorder when you have autism? We also answer some questions on going all-in, weight gain, and healthy eating, regardless of whether you have an eating disorder or not. Tune in!

If you would like to see my method written down, create your own action plan, and join a supp...

Residential treatment can be a helpful start to recovery, but leaving residential treatment does not mean you’re automatically recovered. There are changes that need to happen, behaviour and neurobiology wise, at home. In this week’s episode, we discuss why I think residential treatment is not full recovery, and how you can make sure you progress further, whether that’s after you’ve left residential treatment, or if you’ve never had residential treatment in the first place.

If you would like to see my method written down, create your own action plan, and join a...

In this episode, I share something new and personal: I’ve decided to intentionally gain 10–15 pounds as an experiment. Not because I’m underweight, not for aesthetics, but out of curiosity — to see how my body responds when I give it more.

As a fully recovered recovery coach at a healthy weight, and someone who is immunocompromised with Lyme disease, I want to know what this means for my energy, my hormones, and my overall health.

I talk about:

✨ Why I see this as biohacking, not dieting

✨ How...

People gain weight at different rates in recovery, but generally, it can happen a lot more quickly than you would ‘normally’ gain weight. At first, you may gain more weight than you’d expect based on your caloric intake, which may make you feel like your body is somehow broken. But in reality, it’s a sign of your body functioning. In this week’s episode, I explain the biology behind rapid weight gain during recovery: why does it happen, what does it mean, why is it good for you, and how can you cope? Tune in!

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Some people recover, other’s don’t. But is there anything that makes you bound to be either of the two? What separates the two and how can you ensure you’re part of the group who do recover? All that and more in this week’s episode - tune in!

Do you feel like you need more help recovering from your eating disorder? Whether you struggle with anorexia, bulimia, OSFED, or other (un)diagnosed disordered eating issues, I'm here to help! I have just launched two new premium programs - the Residential Treatment From Hom...

Extreme hunger can be scary and confusing, because by definition, those most people around you will be less hungry and therefore eat less. You may feel scared and alone because of how much you’re eating or how much your body wants you to eat. Well, I’m here to make you feel less alone and give you an insight in to what I myself ate during my recovery when I experienced extreme hunger. So tune in!

Do you feel like you need more help recovering from your eating disorder? Whether you struggle with anor...

This week's episode is another Q&A for you! Based on voice notes, emails, and DM's with all your questions about dating, identity and fear foods. What makes recovery 'real recovery'? And how do you get yourself to commit to real rather than quasi recovery? All that and more in this week's episode!

Do you feel like you need more help recovering from your eating disorder? Whether you struggle with anorexia, bulimia, OSFED, or other (un)diagnosed disordered eating issues, I'm here to help! I have just launched two new premium programs - the...