The Willetts Podcast

We talk about:

-falling victim to the algorithm

-shiny object syndrome

-focusing on habits & skills, not quick fixes

-calories and steps

-understanding energy balance

Time Stamps:

0:00 Introduction

5:47 there are no perfect conditions

7:33 getting rid of old beliefs

12:30 explaining the four phases

19:00 energy in, energy out

28:25 four main principles for life

40:02 learning to ignore distractions

46:12 why we are different

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We talk about:

-analysis paralysis & information overload

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We talk about:

-The truth about menopause belly...

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We talk about:

-Believing you are worthy

-Having empathy...

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We talk about:

-Weathering life’s up...

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We ta...

In this episode, we talk about what it really means to have flexibility with your food while letting go of guilt and still making progress. So many people chase weight loss but miss the bigger picture—building a body that is strong, resilient, and sustainable for the long term. We break down why muscle is the foundation of both fat loss and longevity, what to expect during a build phase (including the scale going up), and how to shift your focus toward what actually moves the needle. This conversation is about food freedom, strength, and creating a body that su...

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In this episode, we break down the behaviors and beliefs that quietly keep you stuck exactly where you are. After working with so many people over the years, the patterns become obvious. Some choices move you forward, and others keep you repeating the same cycle. We talk about the difference between knowing what to do and actually deciding to do it, why waiting for more information can hold you back, and how the expectations you set for yourself shape your outcomes. This conversation challenges you to take ownership, make clear decisions, and recognize that tomorrow is built by what...

In this episode, we break down the biggest lies the fitness industry has told women about fat loss and what actually works. If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything right but still not seeing results, this conversation will challenge the way you think about discipline, consistency, and hormones. We dive into the science, the psychology, and the real habits that drive long-term change, especially for women over 35. This is about cutting through the noise, understanding your body, and building an approach that actually works for your life.

We talk about:

-Whether it’s...

In this episode, we talk about what it actually looks like to navigate chronic anxiety and overwhelm, especially when so much of life feels out of your control. It’s easy to spiral, overthink, and question if showing up is even worth it. We break down how to shift your focus back to what you can control, how to stop getting pulled into distractions, and why the small, consistent choices you make every day are what ultimately change your life.

We talk about:

-controlling what you actually can

-the role of the al...

In this episode, we answer some of the most common and controversial questions we get from listeners, ranging from fat loss and metabolism to relationships, jealousy, and what it actually takes to create permanent results. We talk about why there is no perfect meal plan, how autonomy changes your outcomes, and why effort is the one variable you can’t outsource. This conversation moves from practical fitness advice into deeper discussions about guilt, social media, marriage, and modern relationships. It’s part Q&A, part honest reflection, and full of the nuance that gets lost in short-form content.

In this episode, we break down the real reason consistency feels so hard, and why motivation is rarely the problem people think it is. Most women aren’t lacking discipline. They’re stuck in patterns they don’t recognize and trying to do everything alone. We talk about why the hardest path is often the right one, how rigidity quietly sabotages progress, and why chasing quick dopamine hits keeps you spinning instead of moving forward. This conversation is about learning to see your habits clearly, choosing long-term action over short-term comfort, and accepting that sustainable change always takes time and su...

In this episode, we unpack a powerful truth: you’re not failing, lazy, or broken. You may simply be using a strategy designed for a different woman with a different starting point. The approach needed to lose the first 50 pounds is not the same as the approach needed for the last 10, and misunderstanding that difference keeps many women stuck in cycles of frustration. We talk about the psychology of large weight loss, why knowledge alone isn’t enough, and how chasing perfection pulls you further from real progress. This conversation is about choosing the right plan, the right support, and...

In this special episode, we talk to our client Theresa who has lost over 100 pounds in the last two years and is pivoting in a build phase. She has the skills and self-trust to maintain her weight loss for life. 

We talk about:

-focusing only on the scale

-feeling like a failure

-learning instead of being told what to do

-a personalized approach

-seeking internal validation

-it’s more than weight loss

Time Stamps: 

0:00 Introduction

2:27 lifelong weight stru...

In this episode, we break down what’s really happening when progress seems to stall and how to know whether you’re actually in a plateau or just feeling impatient. We talk through the most common reasons fat loss slows down, the habits that quietly add up, and why simply doing “more” is rarely the answer. This conversation focuses on sustainable strategies, realistic expectations, and the mindset shifts required to move forward without burning yourself out.

We talk about:

-How to tell if you’re truly in a plateau

-The difference between perceived...

In this special episode, we sit down with our incredible client, Melinda, who is down 100 pounds and still going. After trying every diet imaginable and feeling frustrated by short-term results that never lasted, Melinda shares what finally worked and why it had very little to do with a “perfect” plan. Her story is an honest look at what it takes to create real, lasting change, even in the middle of grief, life transitions, and self-doubt.

We talk about:

-dealing with grief and major life changes

feeling like a failure and rebuilding self-trust

In this episode, we have an honest conversation about the benefits of marriage and what it actually looks like to build something meaningful with another person. From continuing to show up when things feel hard to evolving together over time, we share real reflections on partnership, growth, and choosing commitment daily. We also discuss what happens when marriage and business overlap, how reliance can be a strength, and why becoming the person you would want to marry matters more than finding the “perfect” partner.

We talk about:

-How marriage can enhance your life when you...

In this special episode, we sit down with our client Ashley to share her journey of losing over 100 pounds and, more importantly, maintaining those results. Ashley opens up about the programs that failed her in the past, the mindset shifts that changed everything, and how sustainable lifestyle changes impacted far more than just the number on the scale. From navigating Hashimoto’s disease to becoming a role model for her children, this conversation highlights what is possible when you commit to long-term change and are willing to take action, even when it feels uncomfortable.

We talk ab...