Enneagram with JB: A Podcast About Enneagram Personalities
Certified Enneagram coach Jackie Brewster offers a fun, fresh approach to learning more about the Enneagram, while encouraging listeners to grow in empathy and understanding with both themselves and the people around them.
I Thought Life Would Look Different by Now
What happens when you arrive at a season of life you thought would look completely different?
In this solo episode, I get personal about turning 49 and realizing that life hasn’t exactly slowed down the way I imagined it would. With kids growing up, aging parents, changing relationships, empty nesting on the horizon, and a new book in the works, life feels both incredibly full and incredibly good—and also exhausting.
I explore the quiet expectations we carry about the future: When the kids get older, I’ll have more time. When I accomplish this, I’ll f...
Understanding the Intersection of the Enneagram and Emotional Intelligence (with Scott Allender)
Most of us assume that if we understand ourselves, change will naturally follow. But that's rarely how growth works.
You can know your Enneagram type, recognize your patterns, understand your childhood experiences, and still find yourself reacting the same way in your relationships.
Why?
Because self-awareness is only the beginning.
In this conversation, I sit down with emotional intelligence coach and author Scott Allender to explore the intersection of the Enneagram, emotional intelligence, and emotional healing. Together we discuss why personality isn't the destination—it's the doorway.
You'll discover wh...
How to Apologize & Repair (The Skill Most of Us Never Learned)
Most of us were never actually taught how to apologize.
We learned by watching the adults around us, and for many of us, conflict was either avoided altogether or escalated without meaningful repair. So it's no wonder so many of us enter adulthood, marriage, parenting, and friendships without knowing how to repair after we've hurt someone.
In this episode, Courtney and I have an honest conversation about conflict, emotional regulation, childhood patterns, and why healthy relationships aren't built on perfection; they're built on repair.
You'll learn why apologies often fall flat, what gets...
The Emotions You Were Never Taught To Feel
Most of us were taught what to do with our thoughts. Few of us were taught what to do with our emotions.
In this episode, Courtney Bareman and I explore why certain emotions feel uncomfortable, overwhelming, or even inaccessible. Together, we'll unpack how family systems, personality patterns, and protective strategies shape our relationship with emotions and why avoiding what we feel often creates more suffering than feeling it.
You'll learn:
Why many of us were never taught how to safely experience difficult emotionsHow personality influences the emotions we struggle to accessWhy unprocessed emotions often...Becoming Who You Are: Risk, Reinvention and the Path You Didn’t Plan (with Stephen Brewster)
What happens when life doesn’t go according to plan, but somehow still becomes exactly what it needed to be?
In this deeply personal episode, I sit down with my husband, Stephen Brewster, to talk about becoming — not through a straight line, but through risk, pivots, disappointment, growth, counseling, faith and learning to trust the next step before you can see the whole picture.
Stephen shares his journey from the music industry, to church leadership, and eventually into artist management in his early 40s. We reflect on marriage, frequent moves, starting over, learning through counseling, unde...
Becoming You Isn’t What You Think It Is (with Abbey Howe)
What does it actually look like to become yourself?
In this conversation, I sit down with Enneagram educator and author Abbey Howe to explore the real, often messy process of growth.
From building a platform through storytelling and humor, to navigating identity shifts in motherhood, to learning how to move from awareness into real transformation, this episode goes deeper than surface-level Enneagram insight.
Abbey shares openly about her journey as an Enneagram 3, including the tension between productivity and presence, the identity loss that can come with major life transitions, and the work of...
When Stress Hits, Your Type Tightens: Part 2
This is part two of a two-part conversation with licensed mental health counselor Rob Goetsch.
This episode explores a different kind of stress; the kind that comes from your relationships, not just your to-do list. This is attachment stress, and it activates your nervous system quickly, making your Enneagram patterns feel louder, faster, and harder to shift.
When stress hits, your body responds almost instantly, and it can stay activated long after the moment has passed, especially if your mind keeps replaying it. Defense mechanisms kick in during in these moments, not as flaws, but a...
When Stress Hits, Your Type Tightens: Part 1
This is part one of a two-part conversation with licensed mental health counselor Rob Goetsch.
This episode explores a different kind of stress; the kind that comes from your relationships, not just your to-do list. This is attachment stress, and it activates your nervous system quickly, making your Enneagram patterns feel louder, faster, and harder to shift.
When stress hits, your body responds almost instantly, and it can stay activated long after the moment has passed, especially if your mind keeps replaying it. Defense mechanisms kick in during in these moments, not as flaws, but a...
Letting Go of Control and Allowing Yourself To Be Seen
Jackie: On the web | On Instagram // Courtney: On the web | On Instagram
In this episode, I sit down with my friend Courtney to have an honest, unfiltered conversation about what it really looks like to let go of control and begin allowing yourself to be seen.
Courtney is an Enneagram 8—strong, decisive, and deeply protective. But like so many 8s, that strength didn’t come out of nowhere. It was built over time as a way to stay safe, stay ahead, and avoid being hurt.
What we explore in this conversation is what happ...
What No Longer Serves Me (And Why Letting Go Still Feels So Hard)
In this episode, I'm sharing a personal and honest look at what it means to let go of patterns that once served a purpose, but are now holding you back.
Through the lens of the Enneagram and lifespan development, this conversation explores how our identities are shaped over time through protection, adaptation, and meaning-making. What once helped us feel safe, loved, or accepted can quietly become the very thing that limits our growth.
I'm opening up about my own experience of reaching a breaking point at 40—realizing I had unintentionally placed myself on a shelf—and...
When Helping Becomes Hiding: The Enneagram 2, Trauma, and Finding Yourself After Losing Yourself
In this deeply personal and powerful conversation, Jackie sits down with Ro Elliot to explore a journey of healing, identity, and transformation that didn’t fully begin until age 58.
Ro is an Enneagram coach passionate about helping women—especially in midlife transitions—rediscover who they are beyond the roles they’ve carried.
Ro shares her story of growing up with deep insecurity, navigating disorganized attachment, walking through chronic illness, and discovering the Enneagram later in life. Together, Jackie and Ro unpack how attachment, faith, and inner work intersect—and why it is never too late to come hom...
Psychological Safety: Why Your Nervous System Shapes Your Relationships
Jackie: On the web | On Instagram
Most of us think our struggles in relationships come down to communication, personality, or conflict styles. But what if the real issue is safety?
In this episode, we’re talking about psychological safety—what it is, why it matters, and how your nervous system shapes the way you show up in your relationships.
Because when safety is missing, you don’t just respond differently, you protect.
And those protection patterns? That’s where the Enneagram comes in.
This conversation will help you understand:
Why yo...Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone Without Betraying Yourself
Jackie: On the web | On Instagram // Courtney: On the web | On Instagram
Growth is not about becoming someone else. It’s about becoming a less defended version of yourself.
In this direct and honest conversation, Courtney and I unpack why your comfort zone exists — and why it feels so destabilizing to step outside of it.
Because your comfort zone isn’t random. It was built around your core fear.
Perfection protects the 1.
Being needed protects the 2.
Achievement protects the 3.
Intensity protects the 4.
Distance protects the 5.
Preparation protec...
When You Realize You’re Wrong: Defense Mechanisms by Type
Jackie: On the web | On Instagram // Courtney: On the web | On Instagram
Being wrong is not a logic problem.
It’s an ego problem.
In this candid and honest conversation, Courtney and I unpack what actually happens in the moment you realize you misread the situation, overreacted, or got it wrong.
Because your Enneagram type does not disappear in that moment.
It doubles down.
Being wrong threatens something core in each of us:
IdentitySafetyBelongingCompetenceAnd when those feel threatened, we defend.
In this episode, we bre...
It’s Not Just Chemistry: Adult Love, Attachment & Emotional Safety
Adult love is powerful — and often misunderstood.
In this conversation, Rob Goetsch and I unpack what’s really happening beneath romantic connection. Because lasting love isn’t just chemistry. It’s attachment systems, emotional regulation, nervous system responses, trauma history, communication patterns, and the ongoing work of repair.
Romantic relationships activate our earliest attachment wiring. That intensity you feel? It isn’t immaturity. It’s memory stored in the body.
Together, Rob and I explore how attachment styles shape connection, how emotions function physiologically, how trauma lives in the nervous system, and how the Enneagra...
The Enneagram at Work: Conflict, Communication Styles and Repair That Builds Trust
Jackie: On the web | On Instagram
Courtney: On the web | On Instagram
Workplace conflict rarely stays “professional” in the body. What looks like a communication issue on the surface often activates deeper nervous-system needs around safety, respect, belonging, control, and value.
In this episode, Courtney Bareman and I explore how conflict shows up at work through the Enneagram and why small moments—an email tone, a missed deadline, a rushed decision—can escalate so quickly.
Together, we unpack how each Enneagram type communicates under stress, what tends to trigger frustration or shutdown...
Friendship Through the Enneagram: Needs, Triggers, and What Secure Connection Looks Like
Jackie: On the web | On Instagram
Courtney: On the web | On Instagram
Friendship can be one of the most meaningful—and most misunderstood—relationships in adult life. While often treated as “less serious” than romantic relationships, friendship activates the same attachment systems in the nervous system and can surface deep needs around safety, trust, belonging, and repair.
In this episode, Courtney Bareman and I explore how friendship functions as an attachment relationship, why it can be so triggering even without romance, and how the Enneagram helps name what’s really happening beneath friendship rupture.<...
Repair is the Work: Parenting Through the Enneagram Across the Lifespan
Secure attachment isn’t built by getting it right all the time.
It’s built by coming back when you don’t.
In this episode of Enneagram with JB, I'll explore why repair—not perfection—is the foundation of secure attachment, and how repair needs to change as your child’s nervous system develops.
Using the Enneagram as a compassionate map (not a label or excuse), this episode walks through what repair looks like with toddlers, elementary-aged kids, teenagers, and adult children, while naming common missteps that unintentionally widen disconnection.
You’ll learn:
The January Reset Through the Lifespan: Why Your Enneagram Looks Different in Every Season
January often comes with pressure to reset, reinvent, or get it together—but that expectation ignores something essential: your season of life.
In this episode, Jackie is joined by Rob Goetsch, as they explore how balance looks different across the lifespan and why your Enneagram patterns may feel louder, heavier, or more tender in January, depending on your age, capacity, and nervous system state.
Through a lifespan and Enneagram lens, this conversation reframes January as a time for stabilization and understanding, not self-correction. This episode is for anyone who feels behind, tired, or un...
January Isn’t for Reinvention—It’s for Stabilization
January often carries pressure to reset, reinvent, or finally “get it together.” But that expectation ignores something essential: your nervous system and your season of life.
In this relaunch episode of Enneagram with JB, Jackie reframes January through an Enneagram, lifespan, and nervous-system lens. Rather than pushing for change, this conversation invites understanding—why patterns feel louder in January, why motivation doesn’t work without regulation, and why balance looks different at every stage of life.
This episode is for anyone who feels tired, foggy, or behind as a new year begins, and is ready for a ge...
Dating and the Enneagram
This week I'm talking with my daughter, Ashlyn. Join us as discuss how Enneagram awareness can positively impact our approach to dating.
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Same House, Different Stories
Today I'm talking with two very special guests: My sister Jennifer, an Enneagram 4, and my brother Rob, an Enneagram 6. Join us as we talk about growing up as siblings who experienced life, and our family household, in very different ways.
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“Why do you always do that?”
Have you ever found yourself saying (or hearing), “Why do you always do that?” That frustration often comes from our Enneagram stance, the automatic way we move through the world.
In this week’s episode Courtney and I talk about how stances shape our relationships, what’s happening in the brain when they get triggered, and how slowing down, practicing attunement, and building trust can change everything.
Join us as we talk about how to move beyond reactivity and create healthier, more attuned relationships.
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I Know Too Much | With Courtney Bareman
The Enneagram is an incredible tool for helping us better understand ourselves and others. But sometimes we can focus more on the "others" than ourselves. Join Courtney and me as we discuss how each type can best utilize the Enneagram to foster true self-awareness and growth.
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Courtney's Instagram // Courtney B Coaching
What Does It Mean to Be Deeply Loved? | With Bill and Kristi Gaultiere
You were made to live deeply loved—even in the midst of emotional pain, worry, or conflict. But too often when we're overwhelmed or hurting, we end up hiding our hurts and hopes, settling for shallow relationships. What's missing? Empathy. Join me as I talk with Bill and Kristi Gaultiere about their new book, Deeply Loved, as they unpack what empathy looks like in real time.
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College Life From an Enneagram Six
Today I'm joined by a very special guest, my daughter Ashlyn, who is an Enneagram Six. Join us as talk college life and adjusting to new settings, situations and seasons — something we can all relate to.
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What Does Emotional Regulation Have to Do With It?
This week Courtney Bareman and I discuss the value of emotional regulation through the lens of the Enneagram.
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Courtney's Instagram // Courtney B Coaching
Back to the Basics
The podcast is back! Join me as I sit down with fellow Enneagram coach Courtney Bareman to talk about the Enneagram and why it is worth exploring your type.
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Courtney's Instagram // Courtney B Coaching
Leading With Intention and Love
This week Courtney Bareman and I are continuing our conversation on the book Emotionally Healthy Spirituality. Join us as we discuss leading with intention and love.
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Courtney's Instagram // Courtney B Coaching
Exploring the Transformative Power of Daily Rhythms
This week Courtney and I explore the transformative power of daily rhythms, why they matter for our emotional and spiritual maturity, and how different Enneagram types may uniquely struggle with and benefit from these practices.
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Courtney's Instagram // Courtney B Coaching
Enlarging Your Soul Through Grief and Loss
This week Courtney Bareman and I are continuing our conversation on the book Emotionally Healthy Spirituality. Join us as we discuss walking through grief and loss, and how that may look for each Enneagram type.
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Courtney's Instagram // Courtney B Coaching
Going Back to Go Forward: How the Past Shapes Our Present
This week Courtney and I continue talking about the importance of emotional health as we discuss the book Emotionally Healthy Spirituality.
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Courtney's Instagram // Courtney B Coaching
How To Be Healthy and Whole: Part 2
This week Courtney Bareman and I talk about the importance of emotional health as we discuss the book Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, and unpack principles from the book for each Enneagram type.
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How To Be Healthy and Whole: Part 1
This week Courtney Bareman and I talk about the importance of emotional health as we discuss the book Emotionally Healthy Spirituality.
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Fear, Autopilot and the Average Range: Breaking Free With the Enneagram
This month is all about reflection—getting honest about how and why we react the way we do, especially when stress hijacks our system. I’m calling out the chaos, the coping, and the compulsions, and inviting you into the quieter (but way more powerful) work of real growth. This week’s episode: Fear, Autopilot and the Average Range: Breaking Free With the Enneagram.
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What You Know But Aren’t Living Yet
This month is all about reflection—getting honest about how and why we react the way we do, especially when stress hijacks our system. I’m calling out the chaos, the coping, and the compulsions, and inviting you into the quieter (but way more powerful) work of real growth. This week’s episode: What You Know But Aren’t Living Yet
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From Insight to Integration: What To Do After the Aha Moment
Today I'm talking with my friend and fellow Enneagram coach Courtney Bareman about one of the most crucial parts of personal growth: moving from knowing to doing. Join us!
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The Growth Is in the Pause
This month is all about reflection—getting honest about how and why we react the way we do, especially when stress hijacks our system. I’m calling out the chaos, the coping, and the compulsions, and inviting you into the quieter (but way more powerful) work of real growth.
In this episode I break down the difference between reflection and rumination for each Enneagram type.
Jackie | Instagram // Enneagram with JB
The Power of Reflection: How Looking Back Moves You Forward
In this episode I'm talking with my friend and fellow Enneagram Coach Ro Elliott. Join us as we discuss how reflection can impact your journey toward self-awareness and growth.
Jackie | Instagram // Enneagram with JB
Ro | Instagram // Email: relliott012@gmail.com // Imago Dei Consulting
Contemplative Growth with Ro Elliott | Part 2
Today I’m joined by my friend and fellow Enneagram coach, Ro Elliott. Join Ro and I as we continue our conversation on contemplative growth through the lens of the Enneagram. We’re sharing stories and insights that we hope will inspire you to dive deeper into your own personal story.
Jackie | Instagram // Enneagram with JB
Ro | Instagram // Email: relliott012@gmail.com // Imago Dei Consulting
