The Fair Parenting Podcast

I don't speak much about my own case on the show as this podcast is about wider issues and other people's stories. It's about them not me. Prior to episode 69, I had only ever done one episode on it before (episode 28).

However, lots of people have asked and I feel the case is public interest and I fear for my safety so this episode is an update.

Rather than just have me ramble on, Brent Bowlby kindly agreed to interview me and he did a brilliant job. Thanks very much to Brent for that. This is...

I don't speak much about my own case on the show as this podcast is about wider issues and other people's stories. It's about them not me. Prior to episode 69, I had only ever done one episode on it before (episode 28).

However, lots of people have asked and I feel the case is public interest and I fear for my safety so this episode is an update.

Rather than just have me ramble on, Brent Bowlby kindly agreed to interview me and he did a brilliant job. Thanks very much to Brent for that. This is...

I don't speak much about my own case on the show as this podcast is about wider issues and other people's stories. It's about them not me. I have only ever done one episode on it before (episode 28).

However, lots of people have asked and I feel the case is public interest and I fear for my safety so this episode is an update.

Rather than just have me ramble on, Brent Bowlby kindly agreed to interview me and he did a brilliant job. Thanks very much to Brent for that. This is part 1. I hope...

This episode is for those new to the podcast. 

Every 10 episodes we have a clips episode. They are good but quite long so today is slightly different in that we cover episodes 31-60 in quick-fire soundbites. 

This gives a shorter format for anyone just discovering the podcast, so they can quickly hear parts from all the shows and choose which episodes they want to listen to in full. 

Editing this episode and picking the clips took an enormous amount of work but it made me realise anew how fantastic the guests are. 

Many...

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

Today we look back at my discussion with Dr. Larry Waldman Ph.D. ABPP, which was originally published as episode 16, on 2nd April 2023.

One of the things we do when revisiting older episodes is seeing if we can use modern audio tools to improve the sound quality. That is something that we've been able to do with this episode.

Today’s guest is Dr. Larry Waldman who is a psychologist, professor, speaker an...

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

Today we look back at my discussion with Mike Smith PhD, which was originally published as episode 21, on 11th June 2023.

He is a digital marketer, executive, podcaster, voice actor, author and, he says, a recovering academic. He lives in California and is the author of the book 'burning America: In the Best Interest of the Children?'.

It is a fictional story in which the main character, Paul, a middle-class professor, has...

Today we talk with Brent Bowlby about his ongoing 7 year family law case in the USA. It's a complex story and highlights some of the challenges so many people face in family courts.

This is part 3 of the conversation. Parts 1 and 2 were episodes 62 and 63. We were originally only going to do 2 parts but after formal recording Brent and I spoke for quite a bit more and we decided to publish it.

Brent says he is happy for listeners in similar situations to contact him about the issues discussed, via X direct message.

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This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

Today we look back at my discussion with Justin Breen, which was originally published as episode 17, on 16th April 2023.

Justin is the author of the Wall Street Journal and USA Today Best Selling book Epic Life and runs BREPIC, a PR company. 

I first connected with Justin when I saw him online at Peter Diamandis’ Abundance 360 event. Peter’s podcasts and work on exponential change and moonshots are inspiring. 

I recent...

Today we talk with Brent Bowlby about his ongoing 7 year family law case in the USA. It's a complex story and highlights some of the challenges so many people face in family courts.

It's a long conversation so it’s being published in 2 parts, with part 1 today and part 2 next time. Brent says he is happy for listeners in similar situations to contact him about the issues discussed, via X direct message.

Links
Twitter X: @BrentBowlby
Crowdfunding for Brent's legal fees: https://www.givesendgo.com/BrentBowlby

Today we talk with Brent Bowlby about his ongoing 7 year family law case in the USA. It's a complex story and highlights some of the challenges so many people face in family courts.

It's a long conversation so it’s being published in 2 parts, with part 1 today and part 2 next time. Brent says he is happy for listeners in similar situations to contact him about the issues discussed, via X direct message.

Links
Twitter X: @BrentBowlby
Crowdfunding for Brent's legal fees: https://www.givesendgo.com/BrentBowlby

Christmas can be a difficult time whether you are a targeted parent or not.

This episode first aired in Christmas 2022 and it highlights 12 ways to help you cope with #ParentalAlienation or #FamilyCourt

We have episodes published and planned with experts in their fields to go into depth in specific areas but for now I wanted to give a quick list of many things you can try.

In my experience nothing works all the time but many things work at different times and that's fine. As John Lennon said 'Whatever gets you through the night'.<...

Episode 60 is a look back at episodes 51 to 59. Thanks to all the fantastic guests and listeners. The podcast is nothing without you. 

As I often say, if someone wants to take over presenting this podcast let me know and I will be glad to go back behind the scenes. 

This episode is a compilation of clips but is not exactly a ‘best of’ as that would differ from listener to listener. The episode is for regular listeners and also a taster for people new to the podcast. It covers these episodes:

Episode 51 - Authorities: How Th...

Today our guest is Professor Ben Hine PhD, CPsychol, FHEA

Ben is a psychologist and Professor of Applied Psychology and Head of the School of Human and Social Sciences at the University of West London. 

He is a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society and has a BSc in Psychology and a PhD from Royal Holloway, University of London.

He has published numerous articles in peer-reviewed journals on these topics and has presented his research at conferences around the world. He is a Fellow of the Higher Education Academy and has won several a...

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. 

Today we look back at my discussion with Jodee Gibson about trauma and coping, which was originally published on 22nd January 2023. 

It’s a really good episode, thanks to Jodee, who is a human behaviour expert and master coach.

Jodee is based in Michigan. Her work is deeply layered in developmental psychology, NLP, neuroscience, consciousness, trauma, levels of energy and intention. The intersection she created between these is fascinating. Being a Detroit nati...

I discuss a recent episode I recorded and attempts by some people to cancel it afterwards. I also cover my abuser's demand to cancel all episodes as well as my X account, book and documentary. Finally I mention some of the recent events happening more widely around censorship that are happening to many others.

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

Today we look back at my discussion with Mike Bell of the Family Court Reform Coalition (FCRC), which was originally published as episode 11, on 27th November 2022.

Many people, including judges and MPs, have described flaws in the family law system. The flaws seem well known but they persist and harm parents and children.  

Mike brought some people together to produce a report of solid proposals suggesting ways to reform to the system.

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

Today we look back at my discussion with Orsi, which was originally published on 5th February 2023.

We discuss how meditation and yoga can help cope. Methods for coping with trauma are vital when going through alienation, family court or other stress. Orsi has great practical advice which is why this episode was picked to air again.

It originally aired as episode 12, way back on 5th February 2023. Here are the show notes from...

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. 

Today we look back at my discussion with Anna Maria DiDio, originally published on 23rd June 2023.

Anna Maria lives in Philadelphia. She holds a BA in Psychology from Villanova University and an MSW in Family Specialization from the University of Pennsylvania. 

For over twenty years, she has devoted time to non-profit organizations, locally and globally. She has served as President of Women International Leaders (WIL) of Greater Philadelphia, which provides micro-finance loans an...

Today we talk with Dave Bond who, by any measure, has had an astonishing time in the family courts of the UK and USA.

It’s an incredible journey and one that no good parent and child should have to go through. 

Dave has a crowdfunding effort (link below) and he is writing a book. Personally, I think his story would make a good film. What has happened is astonishing.

It's a long conversation so it’s being published in 2 parts. Part 2 is today and part 1 was last time.

Links
There is lo...

Today we talk with Dave Bond who, by any measure, has had an astonishing time in the family courts of the UK and USA.

Dave has a crowdfunding effort (link below) and he is writing a book. Personally, I think his story would make a good film. What has happened is astonishing.

It's a long conversation so it’s being published in 2 parts, with part 1 today and part 2 next time.

Links
There is lots of information at Dave's Linktree: https://linktr.ee/justice4keanu
Twitter: @Justice4Keanu
Crowdfunding - https://www.go...

Today I look at a few recent examples of many at how authorities fail the public. This may put in context part of why Family Court is so bad. 

Episode 50 is a look back at episodes 41 to 49. Thanks to all the fantastic guests and listeners. The podcast would be nothing without you. 

As I often say, if someone wants to take over presenting this podcast let me know and I will be glad to go back behind the scenes. 

This episode is a compilation of episode clips rather than a ‘best of’ clips as that is individual choice. It is for regular listeners and also a taster for people new to the podcast. It covers these episodes:

Episode 41 - Change: Britain’s NHS Bans Blo...

Many of us have ours and our children’s futures decided by the family law system, not just courts but other decision makers i.e. guardians, child solicitors, social workers, etc. 

In practise none of them are really accountable for bad outcomes and there is no measuring of outcomes. These are 2 serious flaws I discuss that in this episode. 

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast.

Today we look back at episode 5 which originally aired on 30th October 2022.

It was the second episode discussing parenting in Christopher Nolan films with @DerickMcduff from the Underrated podcast (@undercastco).

This was a meandering hoot with lots of offshoots! We discuss @Interstellar and also talk music: @Trevor_Horn_, Steve Lipson and @HansZimmer. We also discuss @mrbobodenkirk, @BetterCallSaul and other movies and TV shows.

It was very enjoyable talking with Derick...

This is an episode from the Replay series in which we look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. 

Today we look back at my discussion with Derick McDuff about parenting and child separation in the movies, which much of the talk about Christopher Nolan’s film Inception. We also cover other movies and music.  This originally aired as episode 3, way back on 2nd October 2022. If you like today's episode you may also like episode 5 which covered the movie Interstellar (link below).

In this episode we talk movies with Derick McDuff from the Unde...

I have been approached by someone from a documentary maker about my story. 

I am deciding whether to take part but I am often contacted by parents who want to get their stories out and there are pros and cons to doing so, hence this episode. 

If any listeners want me to pass on your details, DM or email me and I will.

Links

Episode 14 - https://audioboom.com/posts/8234043-stories-telling-your-story

In the light of a recent news story, I look at paternity testing and whether dads should be able to get a test outside of court proceedings. 

Some people might see this as an issue for men but it is wider. I discuss how testing has issues for mums, dads and children, including how paternity tests can improve health outcomes for children.

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I mention a recent video from a judge which went viral. Here is one of many links to it: https://twitter.com/VetFather_Bill/status/1758955451167723961

This episode I look at the word ‘expert’, not so much to do with court as more widely in society. 

In many areas of life, experts affect us and sometimes spectacularly let us down. I look at some examples. 

We need experts but there are few people who really know what they are doing well enough to advise the way experts do and I think we need to be realistic about experts and the word itself. Perhaps it's time for a rebalancing of how experts are perceived across all fields and industries. 

I think the ter...

Occasionally I want to look back at past episodes for those new to the podcast. Today is one such episode. I wanted to revisit my discussion with Dr. Marni Hill Foderaro from episode 8. I hope you enjoy listening to it. 

It's one of my favourite episodes and even before today (April 14th 2024) is already the 8th most popular episode ever.

It was a wide-ranging and interesting discussion with Dr. Marni who was a fantastic guest. I enjoyed talking with her a lot. Here are the show notes from the episode:

In this episode we w...

In this episode I discuss lawyers and MPs protesting about The Garrick Club and how this relates to family law. 

Today I cover a news story that happened this week that impacts many parents. 

Britain's NHS has banned the NHS from prescribing blockers that hamper the physical development of children. 

I discuss this healthcare story along with comparing it to Britain's medieval family law system.

Episode 40 is a look back at episodes 31 to 39. Thanks to all the fantastic guests and listeners. The podcast would be nothing without you. 

As I often say, if someone wants to take over presenting this podcast let me know and I will be glad to go back behind the scenes. 

This episode is a compilation of episode clips rather than a ‘best of’ clips as that is individual choice. It is for regular listeners and also a taster for people new to the podcast. It covers these episodes:

Episode 31 - Review: 30 Episodes In 60 Minutes. Bitesi...

In the family court many good and innocent parents and children suffer more and are treated worse than criminals found guilty of crimes. Considering in Britain all cases come under the umbrella of the Ministry of Justice I discuss this in today's episode.

In today’s episode I want to revisit an idea we spoke about way back in episode 5, which was about parental separation in the movie Interstellar and other movies. It’s a great episode, thanks to Derick McDuff. 

It is a simple idea but one I have found useful over the years. The idea is using email, photos or other online ways to send messages to a child you are alienated from. Those messages may only be read years in the future, when your child has grown up, but they can help and I discuss practical ways to do thi...

Many of us have seen incentives play out badly in family court, with solicitors milking Legal Aid, milking parents, parents making false allegations to get Legal Aid,  prolonging cases and taking a case that could resolve amicably and blowing it out of the water to the detriment of parents and children.

In this episode I discuss how incentives in other industries, and disruption to them, could improve things for parents and children if applied to family law. To illustrate this I make reference to episodes from Peter Diamandis' Moonshots podcast, which is fantastic and I highly recommend.

Welcome to the podcast. In this first episode of 2024 I have some thoughts on the new year, my own case and much wider topics.

Links

Peter Diamandis and Emad Mostaque Clip 
https://twitter.com/PeterDiamandis/status/1740839831578583088 

Episode 28 - Summary of My Story (2018-2022)
https://audioboom.com/posts/8218009-story-triple-a-a-portrait-of-abuse-narrated-by-alana-hillenaar

Episode 7 - Mike Bell of the Family Court Reform Coalition
https://audioboom.com/posts/8170345-coalition-mike-bell-of-fcrc-uk-discusses-reform

Episode 35 - Can Artificial Intelligence Fix Family Law?
https://audioboom.com/posts/8290438-ai-can-artificial-intelligence-fix-family-law

I love podcasts and I listen to many, two of which are Exponential Wisdom with @DanSullivanSC and @PeterDiamandis and Moonshots with @PeterDiamandis. I highly recommend listening to both.

They cover many things, including AI, which is one of the hot topics of 2023.

Those podcasts are not directly connected to our struggles for justice in family law but they are full of forward thinking developments and perspectives. 

They also talk about the idea of a moonshot. I believe our goal of a fair family law system that supports targeted parents and children can be seen a...

Christmas can be a difficult time whether you are a targeted parent or not.

This episode first aired last Christmas and it highlights 12 ways to help you cope with #ParentalAlienation or #FamilyCourt

We have episodes published and planned with experts in their fields to go into depth in specific areas but for now I wanted to give a quick list of many things you can try.

In my experience nothing works all the time but many things work at different times and that's fine. As John Lennon said 'Whatever gets you through the night'.<...

In this episode I discuss the current state of transcripts and bundles in the court system and how it hampers justice and reflects the prehistoric condition of family law. 

I give many ways things can be improved. We need a modern system not a Jurassic one because parents and children deserve better. 

I gave some other simple reform examples in episodes 2 and 32.