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this week’s episode is a confession of genuine good feeling compared to the typically more negative ones

I had a moment where this week that I realized I felt truly happy with myself and my life and it caught me off guard because nothing huge changed, i just made a decision about who I am and started showing up like that despite any fear that comes up for me.

We’re talking about what happens when you stop going back and forth with yourself, start letting fear guide you instead of stop you, and actu...

You can have the routines, the goals, the ambition, and the self-improvement habits and still feel like something in your life is off.

In this episode, I’m talking with relationship coach for high performers Melissa Nanavati about the part of your lifestyle that affects your energy, peace, and daily rhythm more than you might realize: your relationships.

We talk about why ambitious people often know how to create success in work but not always in love, how unresolved issues quietly drain your energy, and what it actually looks like to build a relationship that su...

You don’t need to become a completely different person to change your life… you just need to become more intentional about who you already are.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, inconsistent, or like you’re constantly starting over—this episode will show you why. Not from a “try harder” perspective, but from an identity level.

Today we’re breaking down exactly how to build your new identity in a way that actually sticks—without forcing it, faking it, or becoming someone you’re not.

Because you are already good enough as you are… and you’re...

This month’s hates & favs is very “I’m trying to get my life together but also… I’m still a human being.”

We’re talking about how hard it is to choose your future self over plans, random beauty wins and fails, the weird emotional aftermath of being left, and what it actually feels like to step into a healthier, more secure version of yourself.

Also: diet cherry coke, slow cookers, and a tiny life zoom-out that might change how you see everything.

If you’re in your “healing but not healed” era… this one’s for

You don’t actually want to be this version of yourself anymore so why do you keep acting like them? In this episode, we’re talking about what it really takes to let go of your old identity the habits, reactions, and patterns that feel automatic but don’t align with who you’re trying to become. Because here’s the part no one talks about: becoming a new version of yourself does NOT feel empowering at first. It feels uncomfortable, awkward, and maybe a little fake.

We’re getting into:

-Why discomfort doesn’t mean you’re do...

You say you want to change… but your actions don’t match it. So what’s actually going on?

In this episode, I’m breaking down real listener confessions—skipping the gym, not taking themselves seriously, holding back around other people—and the identity patterns underneath all of it. Because it’s not just habits. It’s how you see yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like you have so much potential but your life doesn’t reflect it yet this one’s for you.

Have you ever stopped and thought this person you've been showing up as just doesn't feel like you? Like you don't know how you became this version of yourself you are today and you really wish you could be better.

Maybe you're aways the "responsible one", or the "chill understanding one," or the one who overthinks everything. Maybe you're socially awkward or anxious or angry and it feels so automatic you don't even question it.

In this episode, we're talking about the roles we didn't choose, but somewhere along the way ended up living in. <...

Okay… this week’s confession is that I think I get defensive more than I realized.

I first noticed it in therapy when we were talking about Gottman’s Four Horsemen and defensiveness came up. Since then I’ve started noticing how quickly my brain assumes the worst interpretation of things and immediately wants to defend myself — sometimes even when no one actually criticized me.

In this episode I’m just talking through that realization, where I think it might come from, and the subtle ways it shows up in my relationships and everyday conversations.

If you’...

In this episode of Wellish, we’re diving into something that quietly shapes who we become: the family dynamics and patterns we grow up around.

My guest today, motivational mindset coach Bill Ritchie, shares how emotionally challenging environments can leave lasting imprints on our identity, influencing everything from our confidence and boundaries to how we show up in relationships.

We talk about what generational trauma actually looks like in everyday life, why so many high-functioning adults still feel emotionally reactive, and how behaviors like people-pleasing, perfectionism, or avoiding conflict often start as survival strategies.

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Most of us believe we’re living as our authentic selves. But what if the version of you that the world knows is actually a mask you learned to wear?

At some point in life, many of us adapt into roles that make us feel safer, more loved, or more accepted: the achiever, the easygoing one, the strong one, the responsible one. These identities can help us survive certain environments, but over time they can also disconnect us from who we really are.

In this episode, we’re exploring why we create masks in the firs...

In this week’s Confessions of a Wellish Girly, I’m talking about something I’ve been really realizing lately: how easy it is to tie your entire sense of worth to achievement. For most of my life, I believed that being productive, improving, and constantly working to be enough was what made me valuable. But what happens when your identity becomes your output?

In this episode, I’m sharing the realization that achievement based worth is a trap many of us fall into especially in self-improvement culture where it feels like we always need to be leveling...

So many of us are living identities we never consciously chose.

The “good girl.”

The people pleaser.

The anxious one.

The responsible one.

In this episode of Wellish, I’m sitting down with narrative advisor and identity coach Jessica Graham to unpack how the stories we formed about ourselves, often in childhood or during our hardest moments, quietly shape the way we show up in relationships, work, and life.

We talk about why so many people struggle to answer the question “Who am I?” outside of roles, how emotio...

If you feel like you’re constantly trying to do more to finally feel better about your life, this episode is for you.

Somewhere along the way, we started believing that who we are is defined by what we produce — how productive we are, how disciplined we are, how much we can improve ourselves. But the truth is, identity doesn’t come from how much you do. It comes from deeply knowing yourself.

In this episode of Wellish, we’re talking about the identity trap that keeps so many people stuck in the cycle of constant...

It’s time for this month’s Confessions of a Wellish Girly — the unfiltered hates and favorites.

We’re talking gym struggles that humbled me, the beauty mishap that took out my lashes, and the mindset moments where my ambition definitely outran my self-care.

But there are wins too: simplifying my routine, deeper girlfriend hangs, growing career clarity… and yes — I have to tell you someone about a boy. 👀

If you’re doing your best and still figuring it out in real time, you’re in the right place.

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What if the thing you've been chasing - success, discipline, being impressive, being the good girl is the exact thing keeping you stuck?

I this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Alessandra Wall (clinical psychologist turned executive coach) to talk about the gilded cage of achievement: when your life isn't bad, but you still feel trapped, tired, and unsatisfied with your life. We get into how to stop performing wellness and start actually experiencing it and what integration really means. (Hint: you're not one thing you're a disco ball)

We also talk about why the psychological...

If you’ve ever proudly called yourself “low maintenance”… this episode might lovingly call you out.

Because sometimes what we label as being easygoing, chill, or low maintenance… is actually low standards in disguise.

In this episode, we’re getting honest about the subtle ways high-functioning, self-aware women end up over-accommodating, under-asking, and quietly tolerating misalignment for far too long. We’re talking about the moment you realize your “carefree” identity might actually be people-pleasing in a cute outfit — and why raising your standards is less about dating preferences and more about deep emotional healing.

Inside this con...

Everything just can’t be that serious and I am confessing it. I am tired of all of the "criteria" we are supposed to meet in order to consider us good enough. There’s so many agendas to fill and standards to meet and highlight reels we compare ourselves to and we logically know we can’t listen to it all, but our subconscious doesn’t care! It soaks it all in a treats it as truth and we struggle to separate what we genuinely feel about ourselves and the world around us and how we interact with it from how...

If you’ve ever thought, “This is just who I am I’m anxious, I’m reactive, I shut down, I people-please,” this episode is going to mess with you (in the best way).

Cedric Bertelli breaks down why so many “personality traits” are actually unfinished emotional responses stored in the body and why managing your emotions (even in healthy ways like journaling, reframing, meditation, and talking it out) doesn’t always resolve the pattern. We get into how the brain predicts danger based on old experiences, why emotions can feel bigger than your current reality, and what it means to...

If right now you are going through something emotionally damaging and you feel like nothing anyone says or does or anything you do works to make you feel better this episode is for you. You are trapped in an emotional whirlwind trying to problem solve, control, make meaning and fix the problem you're faced with in an effort just to feel better. That's why this episode is all about the ultimate tool that will finally help you to feel better when nothing is working as you're working through healing the emotional damage: making yourself feel safe.

In...

For today’s confession I’m talking about my spontaneous decision to go to New York with a group of strangers and someone I haven’t shared with you guys yet. But the craziest part is how full circle this experience is to my one year mark after my most emotionally wrecking experience. I am talking about my healing journey and where I’m at now. If you are someone who’s experiencing emotional wreck let this be your hope that it will get better

Ever been in so much emotional pain that nothing anyone says helps—your friends, your therapist, even your own logic? This episode is for you.

Today I’m talking to Betsy Kudlinski, a Freedom Guide and and nervous system healing practitioner, about why you can’t outthink trauma—because when your nervous system doesn’t feel safe, your brain can’t “mindset” you out of survival mode.

We break down somatic healing in a way that actually makes sense, including:

Ever feel like you’re “too much,” “too sensitive,” “too anxious,” or like you keep reacting in ways that don’t actually match who you want to be?

What if it’s not your personality…

What if it’s your nervous system in survival mode?

In this episode, we’re talking about something that changes everything once you see it: the difference between who you are and how your body reacts when it feels unsafe.

You’ll learn:

This week I am confessing my most and least favorite things this month from beauty products to gym and health habits to lifestyle, mindset, dating, and career confessions to wrap up January and head into next month with intention!

If you’ve ever been like “why is my brain doing this” this episode is for you.

Today I’m talking with author and mental health advocate Brian Sachetta (Get Out of Your Head®) about what anxiety and depression actually feel like from the inside… and what helps when you’re trapped in the all consuming spiral.

We get into the difference between feeling anxious vs. identifying as an anxious person, why “just think positive” can backfire (especially if you overthink), and Brian’s IRA framework for getting unstuck: Interrupt the spiral → Reframe the threat → Anchor back into calm.<...

We need to talk about the bare minimum and not in a lazy giving up nothing matters kind of way. In this episode, we’re breaking the stigma around doing less and redefining what your personal bare minimum actually is. Because if your self improvement plan only works for the most motivated, confident, well rested version of you it’s never going to get you the results you want

I’m sharing how to:

Instead of sharing my confessions for this week’s short I’m sharing yours!! I asked you three questions about performative wellness, proving your worth, and the “bare minimum” expectations you secretly hold yourself to and the answers were SO REAL that this episode is basically a group therapy session lol. We’re talking about the difference between supporting yourself vs. performing wellness, why so many of our standards are actually survival mechanisms, and how to stop trying to earn rest, peace, and self-worth. No fixing. No perfection. Just honest confessions and a reminder that you don’t need to prove any...

Feeling stuck, unmotivated, emotionally drained, or like you can’t become the version of you you know is in there? This episode might be the plot twist you need: maybe you’re not the problem—maybe it’s your space.

In this episode I’m joined by Lisa Morton—designer, feng shui master teacher, creator of the Intuitive Home Method, host of Feng Shui Living, and author of Aligned at Home. And no, this is not about having a spotless Pinterest-perfect house. Lisa is a recovering perfectionist, so we’re talking about creating a home that supports your nervous s...

Have you ever tried to “get your life together” — new routines, new mindset, new habits — and it lasts for like… three days? And then you crash, spiral, or quietly abandon it because it feels exhausting?

This episode is for the person who wants to change their life… but deep down knows they’re doing it from a place of “I need to be better to be worthy.”

Because here’s the truth: you’re not becoming “unrecognizable” because you’re not failing. You’re not becoming unrecognizable because you’re performing wellness.

Today we’re breaking down:

I literally just learned my attachment style two days ago… and it hit me that my goal isn’t to be perfect — it’s to be secure. Because “healing” isn’t never getting triggered, never overthinking, or never needing reassurance… it’s learning how to feel safe inside yourself even when you’re uncomfortable.

In this mini episode, I’m sharing the mindset shift that made everything click: secure attachment isn’t about being flawless — it’s about self-trust, self-soothing, and recovering faster instead of spiraling harder.

If you’ve been chasing perfection in your relationships (or trying to be...

If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed and secretly taking it as proof that you’re “bad at life,” this episode is your permission slip to stop making it mean something about you.

Today I’m joined by Corrie LoGiudice (leadership coach + speaker, former SVP) and we’re reframing overwhelm for what it actually is: a sign that something in your life or your current strategy isn’t adapted to your reality anymore. Not a flaw. Not a moral failure. A signal.

Corrie breaks down her 5 Overwhelm Culprits (the real reasons ambitious women get stuck in burnout cycles...

Wellish besties… if you’re exhausted from trying to improve yourself 24/7, I need you to listen to this.

Because fixing yourself can feel like healing… but honestly? Sometimes it’s just your brain trying to keep you safe. It gives you a mission. A checklist. A sense of control. And even though it feels productive, you never actually feel the relief you’re chasing.

Today we’re talking about the compulsive need to fix yourself, why it doesn’t work, and how to shift from living in a mental battlefield to living in a sanctuary—where you can fi...

We’re leaving the advice for Mondays — Fridays are for our chaotic minds.

In this Wellish Short, I’m confessing something I’ve been unlearning in real time: my need to problem-solve everything. The feelings, the conversations, the discomfort, the silence — all of it.

This isn’t a how-to episode. There are no steps, no solutions, no fixes. Just an honest reflection on why some of us default to “fixing,” how it keeps us from being present, and what it looks like to let things be messy without rushing to repair them.

If you’re the frien...

Anxiety, depression, emotional heaviness… what if they’re not proof that you’re broken, but red flags trying to get your attention?

In this episode, I'm sitting down with licensed mental health counselor Nichole Eaton, host of the Rock Your Comeback podcast and author, to talk about using your “bad feelings” as information instead of an identity. Nichole shares how she pulled herself out of postpartum depression, why diagnoses can quietly become personality labels, and how to treat anxiety and sadness like your personal check-engine lights instead of life sentences.

We get into tuning back into your...

We all romanticize our “new life” when we set a goal. We imagine the healed, disciplined, unbothered version of ourselves who never slips, never spirals, never skips, and somehow turns effort into identity overnight. But real growth doesn’t look like flawless execution. It looks like being human, messing up sometimes, returning to yourself, and still choosing to keep going.

In this episode of Wellish, we’re breaking down why perfection based goal setting keeps you stuck, how unrealistic expectations destroy self trust, and what actually helps you build the life you said you wanted. You’ll learn how...

Bad things happen. We make mistakes. We stay too long. We ignore our intuition. We get hurt.

But those moments don’t have to define you — unless you let them.

In this episode of Wellish, we’re talking about how to take the hardest things that happen in your life — the breakups, failures, regrets, and “I should’ve known better” moments — and use them to your advantage instead of falling into a victim mindset.

This isn’t about pretending it didn’t hurt or blaming yourself for what happened. It’s about taking accountability without...

If you’ve ever felt chronically “off,” overly influenced by other people’s opinions, or like you’re living a version of your life that doesn’t actually fit you — this episode is for you.

So many of us think we’re being ourselves, when in reality we’re operating from survival patterns, old identities, and external conditioning we never consciously chose. People pleasing feels like personality. Perfectionism feels like character. Overfunctioning feels like ambition. But none of it is who you actually are.

In this episode, we break down what it really means to become the person...

This one’s for my Wellish friends who feel drained, stuck in their own head, or looping a story about themselves that just…isn’t true anymore.

In this episode, I’m joined by Barbara Savin—Reiki master, energy healing specialist, clinical hypnotherapist, life coach, and host of The Spiritual Warrior Coach podcast. Barbara grew up feeling “crazy,” shut down her gifts, got sick, ignored her intuition… and then rebuilt her entire life and identity from the inside out.

We talk about how childhood wounds, other people’s words, and absorbed energy quietly script who you think you’re a...

What do you do when the story you built your whole life on suddenly… doesn’t exist anymore?

In today’s episode, I’m talking with abstract artist and former Air Force critical care flight nurse Cheri Carandanis, whose entire identity was built around being “the capable one” — the nurse, the helper, the perfectionist, the strong one. After two brain injuries and a sudden, traumatic loss, that version of her was gone. No more ICU, no more hospice leadership, no more “Cheri the nurse” everyone called for answers.

What came next wasn’t a perfectly curated glow-up. It...

Real healing isn’t pretty. It isn’t a 5 a.m. routine, a perfectly lit yoga flow, or a tidy before-and-after. It’s messy, textured, human — and sometimes it starts with ripping up old love letters.

In this episode, I sit down with mixed media artist and Soul Portrait creator Devorah Brinckerhoff, whose 30+ years as an artist and very real journey through childhood trauma, family estrangement, and her children’s abuse led her to a completely different way of healing. Instead of talking about your story, Devorah guides people to literally work with it — using old letters, photos, jour...

If you're exhausted by people trying to sell you silver linings, same. Today we’re talking about the kind of plot twists that blindside you, crack your identity open, and force you to choose who you’re going to become next.

This episode is your no-b.s. guide to turning the chaos you didn’t choose into the character development you actually need. Because yes, life hands out golden tickets disguised as breakups, failures, endings, and detours… but most people don’t take them. It’s uncomfortable. It requires accountability. It demands growth.

But you? You’re one o...