Wellish

On this episode I am talking to you guys about the reasons I have been out of my mental fog and feeling good this last week. Not in an ádrenla line performative way, but in a very genuine way. I did several things in the last week that contributed to getting more aligned with the version of myself I picture in my head like creating a more real life morning routine, making my kitchen less chaotic and planning for a full wardrobe clear out. I also kept my goals at the surface and spent this week focusing on focusing o...

If you’ve ever found yourself saying “it’s fine” when it isn’t, ignoring your own needs to keep the peace, or constantly prioritizing someone else’s comfort over your own, this episode is for you.

In today’s conversation, we’re talking about self-abandonment in relationships: what it is, why so many of us do it, and how to stop losing ourselves in the pursuit of connection.

We’ll explore the subtle ways self-abandonment shows up, the hidden beliefs that keep it alive, and the small but powerful shifts that help you build self-trust, commun...

On this weeks episode of Confessions of a Wellish Girly I thought we would just have a causal hang out sesh. I walk you guys through where my head has been at this past week from a total crash out to something happening that through me into victim mode and the realizations that my negative feelings gave me to try to create a better life for myself. I walk you guys through my manifestation practice I utilized this week to gain clarity about what I want, identity and eliminate my limiting beliefs. and what actions thoughts, and feelings would...

In this episode of Wellish, Sarah sits down with Ashley Banek, founder and CEO of Samara Health, for a conversation about self-trust, boundaries, medical gaslighting, and what happens when you stop waiting for permission to believe your own experience.

Ashley shares how years of misdiagnosis and being dismissed in her endometriosis journey forced her to rebuild trust with herself, advocate for her needs, and stop outsourcing her decisions to people who seemed more qualified on paper.

Together, Sarah and Ashley talk about why so many women wait to be chosen, why suffering can sometimes feel...

We’ve been taught to chase chemistry.

The butterflies. The obsession. The excitement. The feeling that someone can completely consume our thoughts.

But what if that’s not actually what creates healthy relationships?

In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between chemistry and emotional safety and why so many of us mistake anxiety, uncertainty, and inconsistency for connection.

You’ll learn:

• Why chemistry isn’t always a sign of compatibility

• How your nervous system influences who you’re attracted to

• The signs of emotional safety i...

May felt like a month of contradictions.

I spent part of it dealing with mental health ruts, anxiety about being hard to love, panic spirals around abandonment, and the uncomfortable realization that I might be the common denominator in some of my struggles. I also found myself confronting something deeper: the idea that I don’t have to be happy all the time to be worthy of love, belonging, or a good life.

At the same time, there were so many things I loved this month. New friendships. Book club. Fruit making its triumphant return to...

This month’s confessions revealed something interesting: a lot of us are learning that just because something feels true doesn’t mean it is.

Feeling burnt out doesn’t mean you have a bad attitude. Feeling guilty doesn’t mean you’ve done something wrong. Feeling afraid doesn’t mean something bad is about to happen. And feeling unfinished doesn’t mean you’re broken.

In this episode of Confessions of a Wellish Listener, we're talking about workplace burnout, people-pleasing in dating, dreaming bigger before you have proof, emotional regulation without losing yourself, and the hidden downside...

What if the real problem is that you’ve become so self-aware, self-critical, and growth-focused that you’ve forgotten how to stay on your own side?

In this episode, we’re talking about what self-compassion actually looks like when you’re someone who values accountability, emotional intelligence, and personal growth. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling like being kind to yourself is lazy, delusional, or letting yourself off the hook, this conversation is for you.

We’ll unpack why self-compassion feels so uncomfortable, the hidden ways you might be abandoning yourself every day, and the mindset...

Everyone wants to be emotionally intelligent until they realize it doesn’t mean becoming perfectly calm, healed, or unbothered all the time.

In this episode of Confessions of a Wellish Girly, Sarah talks about the difference between hyper self-awareness and actual emotional regulation, including a very real moment this week where she reacted unfairly toward her boyfriend while trying to stop herself in real time.

She also shares a surprisingly healing moment involving lost AirPods, nervous system regulation, and the quiet ways emotional growth actually shows up in everyday life.

This episode is fo...

If you’ve been trying to become better for years but still secretly feel like you’re not enough this episode is going to hit hard.

In today’s conversation, I’m sits down with trauma-informed coach and intuitive healer Tori Jenae to unpack the hidden wound behind perfectionism, overachievement, people pleasing, hyper-independence, and the constant need to “fix” yourself.

Together, we explore why chasing enoughness can actually become a form of self-rejection and how so much of modern wellness culture quietly reinforces the belief that who you are right now isn’t enough.

This episode...

What if the habits you call “self-improvement” are actually destroying your self worth?

In this episode, we’re talking about 3 extremely normalized behaviors that look like growth in self improvement culture but quietly teach you that who you are right now is never enough. From turning yourself into a constant self-improvement project, to using productivity to earn your self-respect, to confusing emotional isolation with confidence, this episode is for the person who is exhausted from trying to optimize themselves into feeling worthy.

If you’ve ever felt like:

This week’s episode is for the people who are exhausted from abandoning themselves in the name of being “good,” loyal, understanding, forgiving, or easy to love.

This wasn’t a normal rut. It wasn’t “if I fixed my routine” or “if my life looked different.” It was deeper than that. It was the kind of spiral that makes you question your entire existence and whether you’re even lovable as a person.

In therapy this week, I realized I’ve spent years stuck between two values: honesty and loyalty. And almost every time, I chose loyalty even w...

If you’ve ever thought “why am I like this?” “why can’t I just get it together?” or felt like no matter what you do, it’s never enough this episode is going to hit.

Because what if you don't actually hate yourself? What if you’ve just been grading yourself your entire life, scoring your body, your productivity, your emotions, your progress, against standards you didn’t even consciously choose?

In this episode, we’re unpacking the subtle but exhausting habit of turning your life into a performance review and why it’s the real reason you fe...

In this episode, we’re getting real about what your daily life actually says about you because your habits, routines, and patterns aren’t random!!!! They’re a reflection of what you believe you deserve, what you prioritize, and where you might be a little out of alignment.

If you’ve been feeling like you’re “failing” your routine or lifestyle, constantly starting over, or trying to keep up with habits that look good online but feel impossible in real life, this episode is your reset.

We’re talking about:

This is your reminder that self-improvement doesn’t look like having it all together, it looks like paying attention and getting to know yourself on a deeper level.

In this week’s Confessions of a Wellish Girly, I’m breaking down what actually worked for me in April and what didn’t. From the small habits that quietly kept my mental health afloat, to the patterns that still trip me up (hi reassurance + abandonment wounds!!!!), this episode is a real look at what growth actually feels like in real life.

We’re talking:

Somewhere along the way, we started believing that for our lives to be good enough they have to be full. Full schedules. Full calendars. Full routines. Full potential. So we keep adding more. More goals, more habits, more plans, thinking eventually it will feel like enough.

But what if the problem isn’t that you’re not doing enough, it’s that your life is overpacked?

In this episode, I sit down with Brian Pultro, former Navy Commander turned financial planner, to unpack why so many of us feel the need to fill every inch of our...

If you’re trying to reset your life right now and instead of feeling better you feel uncomfortable, disconnected, or like something is off, this episode is for you.

Because the truth no one tells you is that starting over doesn’t feel empowering at first. It feels unfamiliar.

It feels like:

In this episode, we’re getting into the real experience of resettin...

Today’s episode is for anyone who feels like they’re doing life “wrong” even though they’re trying.

In this Confessions of a Wellish Listener episode, I’m reading your real, unfiltered thoughts from judging your life based on other people’s expectations, to assuming the worst in every situation, to feeling happy for the first time in a while and immediately waiting for it to fall apart.

We’re talking about:

If you’ve been trying to build a better life but keep getting stuck in perfectionism, pressure, or routines that feel more forced than fulfilling, this episode is for you.

This week, I’m joined by Terri Hanson Mead, reinvention advocate, helicopter pilot, and author of Piloting Your Life, for a conversation about what it actually looks like to change your life in a real way through the choices you make every day.

We talk about burnout, people-pleasing, external validation, the “messy middle” of change, and how to start building a lifestyle that feels good to live...

You plan the perfect routine, you feel so motivated, you tell yourself this is the one that’s going to change your life and then life happens. You get busy, tired, off your game for a day and suddenly you’re back at square one, wondering why you can’t stay consistent.

But what if the problem isn’t you?

What if the problem is that you’ve been trying to follow routines that only work when your life is perfect?

In this episode, we’re reframing everything you’ve been taught about routines. Beca...

This week, I had to set a boundary that completely threw off my energy for the day and it made me realize something that honestly shifted how I look at everything:

Your life isn’t just determined by what you do it’s determined by how much energy you have to do it.

And if you’re constantly pouring your energy into things, people, or situations that drain you of course you feel behind. Of course everything feels harder.

In this episode, we’re talking about:

💘what protecting your peace actually looks like...

You don’t need a perfect routine to change your life. You need one decision you actually follow through on.

In this episode, I’m talking with Janet McConnell, Healthy Longevity Advocate, author, and national champion bodybuilder, who rebuilt her life after a health crisis in her 40s and is now approaching 70 stronger than ever.

But this isn’t about becoming a bodybuilder. It’s about:

We get in...

You’ve been trying to get your life together. Fix your routine. Be more consistent. Do things “right.” But what if the problem isn’t your life, but it’s how you’re looking at it?

In this episode, we’re talking about the quiet pressure to make your life look good: productive, aesthetic, put together, and how that’s actually disconnecting you from what it feels like to live it. Because real life is inconsistent. It fluctuates. It doesn’t always make sense. And that doesn’t make it wrong.

If you’ve been feeling like you’re be...

this week’s episode is a confession of genuine good feeling compared to the typically more negative ones

I had a moment where this week that I realized I felt truly happy with myself and my life and it caught me off guard because nothing huge changed, i just made a decision about who I am and started showing up like that despite any fear that comes up for me.

We’re talking about what happens when you stop going back and forth with yourself, start letting fear guide you instead of stop you, and actu...

You can have the routines, the goals, the ambition, and the self-improvement habits and still feel like something in your life is off.

In this episode, I’m talking with relationship coach for high performers Melissa Nanavati about the part of your lifestyle that affects your energy, peace, and daily rhythm more than you might realize: your relationships.

We talk about why ambitious people often know how to create success in work but not always in love, how unresolved issues quietly drain your energy, and what it actually looks like to build a relationship that su...

You don’t need to become a completely different person to change your life… you just need to become more intentional about who you already are.

If you’ve been feeling stuck, inconsistent, or like you’re constantly starting over—this episode will show you why. Not from a “try harder” perspective, but from an identity level.

Today we’re breaking down exactly how to build your new identity in a way that actually sticks—without forcing it, faking it, or becoming someone you’re not.

Because you are already good enough as you are… and you’re...

This month’s hates & favs is very “I’m trying to get my life together but also… I’m still a human being.”

We’re talking about how hard it is to choose your future self over plans, random beauty wins and fails, the weird emotional aftermath of being left, and what it actually feels like to step into a healthier, more secure version of yourself.

Also: diet cherry coke, slow cookers, and a tiny life zoom-out that might change how you see everything.

If you’re in your “healing but not healed” era… this one’s for

You don’t actually want to be this version of yourself anymore so why do you keep acting like them? In this episode, we’re talking about what it really takes to let go of your old identity the habits, reactions, and patterns that feel automatic but don’t align with who you’re trying to become. Because here’s the part no one talks about: becoming a new version of yourself does NOT feel empowering at first. It feels uncomfortable, awkward, and maybe a little fake.

We’re getting into:

-Why discomfort doesn’t mean you’re do...

You say you want to change… but your actions don’t match it. So what’s actually going on?

In this episode, I’m breaking down real listener confessions—skipping the gym, not taking themselves seriously, holding back around other people—and the identity patterns underneath all of it. Because it’s not just habits. It’s how you see yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like you have so much potential but your life doesn’t reflect it yet this one’s for you.

Have you ever stopped and thought this person you've been showing up as just doesn't feel like you? Like you don't know how you became this version of yourself you are today and you really wish you could be better.

Maybe you're aways the "responsible one", or the "chill understanding one," or the one who overthinks everything. Maybe you're socially awkward or anxious or angry and it feels so automatic you don't even question it.

In this episode, we're talking about the roles we didn't choose, but somewhere along the way ended up living in. <...

Okay… this week’s confession is that I think I get defensive more than I realized.

I first noticed it in therapy when we were talking about Gottman’s Four Horsemen and defensiveness came up. Since then I’ve started noticing how quickly my brain assumes the worst interpretation of things and immediately wants to defend myself — sometimes even when no one actually criticized me.

In this episode I’m just talking through that realization, where I think it might come from, and the subtle ways it shows up in my relationships and everyday conversations.

If you’...

In this episode of Wellish, we’re diving into something that quietly shapes who we become: the family dynamics and patterns we grow up around.

My guest today, motivational mindset coach Bill Ritchie, shares how emotionally challenging environments can leave lasting imprints on our identity, influencing everything from our confidence and boundaries to how we show up in relationships.

We talk about what generational trauma actually looks like in everyday life, why so many high-functioning adults still feel emotionally reactive, and how behaviors like people-pleasing, perfectionism, or avoiding conflict often start as survival strategies.

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Most of us believe we’re living as our authentic selves. But what if the version of you that the world knows is actually a mask you learned to wear?

At some point in life, many of us adapt into roles that make us feel safer, more loved, or more accepted: the achiever, the easygoing one, the strong one, the responsible one. These identities can help us survive certain environments, but over time they can also disconnect us from who we really are.

In this episode, we’re exploring why we create masks in the firs...

In this week’s Confessions of a Wellish Girly, I’m talking about something I’ve been really realizing lately: how easy it is to tie your entire sense of worth to achievement. For most of my life, I believed that being productive, improving, and constantly working to be enough was what made me valuable. But what happens when your identity becomes your output?

In this episode, I’m sharing the realization that achievement based worth is a trap many of us fall into especially in self-improvement culture where it feels like we always need to be leveling...

So many of us are living identities we never consciously chose.

The “good girl.”

The people pleaser.

The anxious one.

The responsible one.

In this episode of Wellish, I’m sitting down with narrative advisor and identity coach Jessica Graham to unpack how the stories we formed about ourselves, often in childhood or during our hardest moments, quietly shape the way we show up in relationships, work, and life.

We talk about why so many people struggle to answer the question “Who am I?” outside of roles, how emotio...

If you feel like you’re constantly trying to do more to finally feel better about your life, this episode is for you.

Somewhere along the way, we started believing that who we are is defined by what we produce — how productive we are, how disciplined we are, how much we can improve ourselves. But the truth is, identity doesn’t come from how much you do. It comes from deeply knowing yourself.

In this episode of Wellish, we’re talking about the identity trap that keeps so many people stuck in the cycle of constant...

It’s time for this month’s Confessions of a Wellish Girly — the unfiltered hates and favorites.

We’re talking gym struggles that humbled me, the beauty mishap that took out my lashes, and the mindset moments where my ambition definitely outran my self-care.

But there are wins too: simplifying my routine, deeper girlfriend hangs, growing career clarity… and yes — I have to tell you someone about a boy. 👀

If you’re doing your best and still figuring it out in real time, you’re in the right place.

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What if the thing you've been chasing - success, discipline, being impressive, being the good girl is the exact thing keeping you stuck?

I this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Alessandra Wall (clinical psychologist turned executive coach) to talk about the gilded cage of achievement: when your life isn't bad, but you still feel trapped, tired, and unsatisfied with your life. We get into how to stop performing wellness and start actually experiencing it and what integration really means. (Hint: you're not one thing you're a disco ball)

We also talk about why the psychological...

If you’ve ever proudly called yourself “low maintenance”… this episode might lovingly call you out.

Because sometimes what we label as being easygoing, chill, or low maintenance… is actually low standards in disguise.

In this episode, we’re getting honest about the subtle ways high-functioning, self-aware women end up over-accommodating, under-asking, and quietly tolerating misalignment for far too long. We’re talking about the moment you realize your “carefree” identity might actually be people-pleasing in a cute outfit — and why raising your standards is less about dating preferences and more about deep emotional healing.

Inside this con...

Everything just can’t be that serious and I am confessing it. I am tired of all of the "criteria" we are supposed to meet in order to consider us good enough. There’s so many agendas to fill and standards to meet and highlight reels we compare ourselves to and we logically know we can’t listen to it all, but our subconscious doesn’t care! It soaks it all in a treats it as truth and we struggle to separate what we genuinely feel about ourselves and the world around us and how we interact with it from how...