Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce
You’re getting divorced now what do you do? So many decisions to make, so much to fear and no one to help you tell you what to expect…until now. Every 2nd Tuesday, join Trish Guise, occasionally her husband Barry Guise, and various guests for a chat around the kitchen table about issues that range from deciding to separate all the way to coparenting your adult children. For 12 years, Trish was knee deep in a very difficult divorce and coparenting situation. She has experienced it all; domestic violence, coercive control, stalking, digital spying, threats, dating after separation, managing a blended...
Leapfrog - Insights from A.J. Grossman
Collaborative divorce; behavioral contract; financial neutral; negotiating with confidence.
If these terms make your head spin, come along with Trish and special guest A.J. Grossman. as A.J. discusses how his firm untangles divorce law in Florida. Explore A.J.'s philosophy of providing a great client experience service as he answer's Trish's question "Why is a Leap Frog Divorce different than any other divorce"?
A.J. received his post-doctorate Master of Laws degree in Dispute Resolution from The Straus Institute at Pepperdine University Law School in Malibu, California.
An accomplished practitioner...
Coercive Control - What is it and what to do about it.
“Why is this happening to me and how do I make it stop?”
I’ve lost count of the times someone has said that to me. I used to say it myself…until I learned what coercive control is and what I could do about it.
The insidious coercive pattern of behaviors can turn even the most knowledgeable and independent person into a terrified, self-blaming, victim.
Coercive control has been running rampant through society for centuries…no one is immune…most just don’t know it’s happening or don’t know what...
I'm not your Mother - Learn to Love with Thomas Jordan, Ph.d.
Reflecting on his 30+ years in private practice and his own personal experience, New York psychologist and psychoanalyst, Dr. Thomas Jordan crafted his book to share what he has learned about love relationships, how to discern what is going wrong and most importantly, what you can do about it.
Despite the name, Dr. Jordan’s book isn’t about love…it focuses on love relationships. We repeat what we know, even if we don’t know we know it. The unhealthy information we learned unconsciously about relationships gets replicated repeatedly in our adult lives. Dr. Jordan talks about our “fam...
Financial Abuse with Lisa Zeiderman. Recognize and Protect.
Financial abuse with Lisa Zeiderman. What to look for and how to protect yourself.
This week on Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce, we are fortunate to have Lisa Zeiderman on to talk about divorce finances…how to communicate with your lawyer…what you should look for in a lawyer and more!
Highlights:
Financial Abuse: what it looks like How to protect your finances pre and post separation How to communicate effectively with your lawyer Realistic expectations for your case and for what your lawyer can do for you An...
Chatting with Glenda
This week on Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce, once again, Glenda Lux of Lux Psychology popped by to talk about her new creation…Co-parenting College!
Co-parenting College is an online resource for co-parents where Glenda helps exasperated co-parents "Stay Sane, Wise and Give Your Kids What They Need".
Co-parenting College offers hands on practical help and information as well as an online course called Difficult Co-Parenting: Advice You Will Not Forget.
Highlights:
How to support your child when they are struggling with the other parent’s...Things I Wish I Knew Before I Dated, Married and Had Kids - Part 1
Things I Wish I Knew Before I Dated, Married and Had Kids – Part 1
“How could I have missed the signs? “
“Why did I put up with all of that?”
“How did I not see that things were only going to get worse?”
I will tell you how you missed the signs, put up with things for so long and didn’t realize things were going to get worse…it’s difficult to see the bad when you are naturally inclined to see the good. Why would you assume that the pe...
Covid-19 hits my house.
Over Christmas my household was hit with Covid-19. Battling Covid has delayed the publishing of new episodes along with the launch of my Patreon site.
This is a temporary delay and new episodes will be published. Check back frequently where ever you listen to my podcasts for updates and new episodes.
Thanks,
Trish
Christmas Wishes
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to all of our listeners!
Episode 5: Part 3 of Accountability was our last episode for 2022 but we will back with brand new content in 2023, including bonus material that will be available on Patreon in January (dates to be announced on social media).
We have scheduled some exciting guests from the areas of family law and psychology so remember to subscribe so you don't miss these incredible episodes when they drop!
All of us at Sh*t I Learned From My Divorce would l...
Accountability: Where has it gone and how do we bring it back? Part 3
Everyday another story of disrespect and abuse hits the news.
Abuse within families, abuse at the office and abuse within sport…there is no area of life that is left untouched.
We know this behavior is wrong so why does it happen? What makes people behave this way?
In this episode, retired educator and leadership expert, George Zeigner and I continue where Part 1 left off. We further explore the thought that abusers are made, not born and delve into how one’s childhood shapes future behavior.
Wha...
Accountability: Where Has it Gone & How Do We Bring it Back? Part 2
Everyday another story of disrespect and abuse hits the news.
Abuse within families, abuse at the office and abuse within sport…there is no area of life that is left untouched.
We know this behavior is wrong so why does it happen? What makes people behave this way?
In this episode, retired educator and leadership expert, George Zeigner and I continue where Part 1 left off. We further explore the thought that abusers are made, not born and delve into how one’s childhood shapes future behavior.
Wh...
Accountability: Where Has it Gone & How Do We Bring it Back? Part 1
Everyday another story of disrespect and abuse hits the news. Abuse within families, abuse at the office and abuse within sport…there is no area of life that is left untouched.
We know this behavior is wrong so why does it happen? What makes people behave this way?
In this episode, retired educator and leadership expert, George Zeigner and I explore the thought that abusers are made, not born and delve into how one’s childhood shapes future behavior.
What are young people being exposed to?
Wha...
Co-Parenting: The Good, The Bad and the Really Bad with Glenda Lux – Part 2
Glenda Lux, a Registered Psychologist is on the show today to talk about the good, the bad and the really bad aspects of co-parenting - Part 2.
Glenda’s extensive experience in co-parenting counselling, parent coordination, parental fitness evaluations and litigation support gives her a unique insight into what can go wrong and what can go right with coparenting.
In this episode we dissect what good co-parenting looks like, what some of the first steps should be when co-parenting communication breaks down and what to do when co-parenting just isn’t going to work...
Co-Parenting: The Good, The Bad and the Really Bad with Glenda Lux – Part 1
Glenda Lux, a Registered Psychologist is on the show today to talk about the good, the bad and the really bad aspects of co-parenting.
Glenda’s extensive experience in co-parenting counselling, parent coordination, parental fitness evaluations and litigation support gives her a unique insight into what can go wrong and what can go right with coparenting.
In this episode we dissect what good co-parenting looks like, what some of the first steps should be when co-parenting communication breaks down and what to do when co-parenting just isn’t going to work.
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Summer Vacation
It is time for summer vacation. We will be back with new episodes in a few weeks. Until then, enjoy the remaining days of summer.
Parents Behaving Badly Part 2
If you want to know if someone is a good parent, don’t look at the child’s behavior…look at the parent’s behavior.
Highlights:
· What Canada’s Divorce says Judges need to consider when making parenting decisions.
· Typical behaviors of parents ‘behaving badly’
· The effects of these ‘bad behaviors’ on kids
· Strategies on how to address these ‘bad behaviors’
Resources
Canada’s Divorce Act
https://laws-lois.justice.gc.ca/eng/acts/D-3.4/
Divorce Act amendments explained:
https://www.justi...
Parents Behaving Badly Part 1
If you want to know if someone is a good parent, don’t look at the child’s behavior…look at the parent’s behavior.
Highlights:
· What Canada’s Divorce says Judges need to consider when making parenting decisions.
· Typical behaviors of parents ‘behaving badly’
· The effects of these ‘bad behaviors’ on kids
· Strategies on how to address these ‘bad behaviors’
Resources
Canada’s Divorce Act: https://laws-lois.justice.gc.ca/eng/acts/D-3.4/
Divorce Act amendments explained: https://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/fl-df/cfl-mdf/dace-clde/ind...
You Want to Get Divorced, Now What?
I’m getting divorced, where do I start?
Should I get a lawyer right away? Can I do some of this myself?
How do we tell the kids about the divorce?
Will I have to go back to work?
How am I going to support myself and the kids?
What do we do about the house, the cars, my business?
Should I tell my family and friends?
These are just a few of the litany of questions that runs through everyone’s mind...
Loss
When you were little and someone asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up, did you ever say Divorced?
I sure didn’t and I imagine you didn’t either…but here we are.
I’m sure I learned more during my 12 year divorce and co-parenting nightmare then I did the entire 6 years I spent in university. I’m sure you will agree but we tend to learn more from what we do wrong (our ‘failures’ or ‘mistakes’) then from what we do right (our ‘wins’ or ‘successes’)…at least that’s what I keep te...
