Sex Advice for Seniors Podcast

What I Discussed With Bruce & Judy

- What 22 years together has taught them about sex and intimacy.

- Why being able to talk openly about sexual desires becomes easier with maturity.

- How earlier marriages shaped their approach to relationships.

- The role of erotica, fantasy and sexual exploration in a monogamous relationship.

- Menopause, responsive desire and changes in libido.

- Why accepting rejection graciously can make intimacy easier.

- How kindness, humour and playfulness help couples stay connected.

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What I Discussed With Andrea Feinberg

- Dating again in your 70s and discovering unexpected possibilities.

- Why younger men are attracted to older women.

- Sexual confidence, body image and feeling desirable.

- Reclaiming sexuality after years without intimacy.

- Dating apps, kink and exploring new experiences.

- Staying safe while dating online and setting boundaries.

- Why age doesn't have to determine what you do next.

- Reinvention, independence and creating a bigger life later in life.

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What I Discussed With Caroline Hood

- Why couples need to stay connected as lovers as well as parents.

- How motherhood can affect desire, identity and intimacy.

- Why women's desire may not disappear but simply get pushed aside.

- What happens when you're "touched out" from caregiving.

- How ageing and changing bodies can affect sexual confidence.

- Why communication matters when a couple's sexual dynamic changes.

- How women can reconnect with their sexual selves.

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What I Discussed With Gaylen Wilson

- How erectile dysfunction changed Gaylen's sex life and marriage.

- Why he believes men should take ED seriously rather than ignore it.

- How couples can stay connected when erections become unreliable.

- Why intimacy doesn't have to be centred around performance.

- How shame and withdrawal can damage relationships.

- The connection between ED, attachment and fight-or-flight.

- How Gaylen and Heather developed the Monument Method.

- Why lifestyle, fitness and overall health still matter.<...

What I Discussed With Rockne O'Leary

- How fitness can affect sexual performance, confidence and overall health.

- Why strength training and consistency become even more important as we age.

- How to start exercising again when you've been out of the gym for years.

- The connection between fitness, stress, lifestyle and sexual health.

- Why men need places where they can talk honestly about relationships and life.

- How Rockne's men's group is trying to create a space without judgment, including eventually bringing younger and...

What I Discussed With Dr. Maria Sophocles

- Why sexual burnout can happen in midlife.

- What menopause changes physically and sexually.

- Vaginal estrogen and why it can help.

- Spontaneous vs. receptive desire.

- The five M's for reconnecting with sexuality.

- Testosterone, “scream cream” and newer treatments for female sexual arousal.

- How GLP-1 medications may affect libido and sexual health.

- Practical ways to reconnect with sex and pleasure.

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What I Discussed With Dr. Justin Lehmiller

- How men's sexual health and desire can change as they get older.

- Why erectile difficulties become more common with age and where Viagra fits in.

- Why sex toys can be useful for men and how to choose the right kind of stimulation.

- How to introduce sex toys into a relationship without making things awkward.

- What penis pumps can do for erectile difficulties and sexual function.

- Why masturbation and orgasm may have benefits beyond sexual...

What I Discussed With Mary Ellen Reider

- Why bladder leakage is common but should not be treated as an inevitable part of aging.

- What the pelvic floor is and why everyone has one.

- How childbirth, menopause, aging, weight, and other factors can affect pelvic floor strength.

- The connection between pelvic floor muscles, bladder control, sexual sensation, and orgasm.

- Why pelvic floor relaxation is just as important as strengthening.

- How the Yarlap device works and who may benefit from it.

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What I Discussed With Amy Gabrielle

- How losing a partner can change our relationship with our body, identity, and desire.

- Why grief and pleasure can exist alongside each other after loss.

- Amy’s experience of rediscovering sexuality and confidence after becoming a widow.

- Dating after loss, including her experiences with dating apps and exploring new relationships.

- How women can reconnect with their own desires without shame or guilt.

- Why sexuality does not disappear as we get older.

- The di...

What I Discussed With Dr Jess O’Reilly

- Why sex toys can help couples adapt to changing bodies, arousal, and sexual needs as they get older.

- How introducing a toy can create novelty and playfulness in a long-term relationship.

- Why a sex toy is a tool for pleasure — not a replacement for intimacy or a partner.

- How smaller, simpler toys can make introducing them into a relationship feel less intimidating.

- Why toys can reduce performance pressure when erections, libido, or orgasm become less predictable.

What I Discussed With Eric M. Resnick...

- Why the swipe apps trained women to chase the dopamine hit of a match, and stopped everyone from looking at who they were actually matching with

- The one word Eric uses for Tinder and Bumble, and why he calls them exactly that

- What ChatGPT admitted to Eric, in its own words, about why it's bad at writing dating profiles

- Why my own list of dealbreakers might be doing more damage than the men on it

- The reason...

What I Discussed With Dr Shamyra Howard...

- What a man actually hears when his partner tells him she needs a toy to finish

- The three words she gives every couple before they open the box

- What happens to the clitoris once the estrogen goes, and why nobody warned us

- The one question to answer before you look at a single product

- What a manufacturer found when it stopped testing on twenty-five-year-olds

- Why she keeps a box of lube next to her...

What I Discussed With Dr Arthur Burnett...

- Why the pill has never once started an erection, and what that means for the nights it did nothing

- The name he would give erectile dysfunction if he could rename it tomorrow

- What his lab found when they went looking for the same response in women

- Why the men who most want the pill to work are the ones it helps least

- What he thinks of a prescription that takes four clicks and no conversation

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What I Discussed With Pauline Ryeland...

- Why the brain turns your libido down on purpose, and what it thinks it's protecting you from

- The one thing men do on the sofa every night that women were taught never to do

- What Pauline said to a man in his early thirties who was booked in for his third Peyronie's operation

- The trauma technique that cleared decades of her own dental trauma after EMDR did nothing

- Where painful sex after menopause comes from, and what she...

What I Discussed With Dr Anna Elton...

- Why the word desire gets confused with arousal, and how mixing them up keeps couples stuck for years.

- The uncomfortable truth about the "spontaneous" desire I felt at 25, and why Anna says I actually worked for it.

- What 700+ couples taught Anna about why some marriages stay passionate for decades while others go quiet.

- Where my erotic energy goes when it stops flowing toward a partner (it doesn't just vanish).

- The three personas every partnered person juggles, and...

What I Discussed With Dr. Kelly Barron...

- How chocolate and sex have always been linked, and the herbs Kelly uses to make that connection real.

- Why menopause changes my sex life without ending it, and what "designing a new sexual life" actually means.

- The physical and emotional signs that show up when I feel disconnected from my own body at this stage of life.

- Why so many women assume there must be a pill for low libido, when the real fix starts with removing pressure and giving...

What I Discussed With Dr. Jenn Kennedy...

- The two problems that bring most couples over 50 into sex therapy, and why embarrassment keeps them away for so long.

- Why an unreliable erection doesn't mean the end of pleasure, and what "pivoting" actually looks like in bed.

- The surprising sensitivity of a soft penis, and why porn has left us all badly under-educated.

- Why sex that "feels like sandpaper" is so common after menopause, and the fixes that work within weeks.

- The generational reason women over 50...

What I Discussed With Aine Rock…

- Why having the "perfect" life on paper doesn't always mean you're living the life you truly want.

- The surprising difference between being happy, being comfortable and feeling genuinely alive.

- Why losing intimacy often starts long before couples stop having sex.

- How reconnecting with pleasure can become the first step towards rebuilding your entire life.

- Why women often don't know what they want in bed—and how to begin discovering it.

- What happened when Áine and her h...

What I Discussed With Malia Lazu…

- Why so many women spend years putting everyone else's needs before their own—including in the bedroom.

- What the "pleasure gap" reveals about women's sexual satisfaction and why the issue goes far beyond orgasm.

- How shame, social conditioning and unrealistic expectations stop women from asking for what they truly want.

- Why learning what gives you pleasure is the first step towards better intimacy with a partner.

- How creating emotionally safe spaces allows women to explore sexuality without judgement.

I keep hearing the same story from people who are looking for love later in life: they want a relationship that feels good, but they’re not always sure how to tell the difference between real compatibility and a temporary rush of attraction.

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I speak with dating and relationship coach Sandy Weiner, chief love officer at Last First Date, TEDx speaker, author of Choice Points in Dating, and host of the Last First Date podcast. We talk honestly about why so many people second-guess themselves in dating, why the sp...

What if intimacy in later life isn’t really about sex at all?

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I speak with George Goulburn, a straight male escort in his 50s, who works with women in their 50s, 60s, 70s, and even 80s.

What he shares challenges almost every assumption about escorting, desire, and connection in later life.

Far from quick, transactional encounters, George’s clients are seeking something deeper: emotional connection, safety, touch, and the chance to feel seen and desired again, often after years or even decades without intimacy.

Most couples say their relationship is their top priority—but their time, energy, and attention often tell a different story.

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I’m joined by relationship coach and Relational Life Therapy practitioner Monica Tanner to explore what really keeps long-term couples connected, emotionally and sexually, well into their 60s, 70s, and beyond.

We dive into Monica’s surprisingly simple “3% rule” - a powerful framework for maintaining intimacy, connection, and communication without needing to overhaul your entire life. We also unpack why resentment builds in long-term relationships, how health challenges...

In this lively conversation with Dr. Trina Read, a globally recognised sexologist, author, and one of the “most trusted voices on long-term intimacy,” we discuss the new wave of sex toys, namely those created by a company called Tracey’s Dog, which is “beta-ing” a toy called Drill Me. Yes, you read that correctly.

A company that sounds like it should be making pet products, which is what it originally was, has now entered the world of “teledildonics” (apparently, that’s a thing) to create a product that allows you to have sex with, for example, a werewolf (Hugh J...

The wonderful Amara Charles and I talk about how to design your sexual life as you age. How to experience pleasure, and what if an ageing body isn’t broken, but is simply done performing?

Can later life sex become freer, wiser, more playful and more intimate than the sex we had when we were younger? Listen and find out!

Go to amaracharles.com to learn more about Amara’s work.

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Erectile dysfunction is often treated as a physical issue, but this conversation explores the emotional, psychological, and lifestyle factors that can sit underneath it. Suzanne Noble opens with a personal reflection on how ED can be an early warning sign of more serious health problems, before introducing guest Tom Jenkins, author of The Drunk Gambler with Erectile Dysfunction.

Tom speaks candidly about his early sexual experiences, the role alcohol and gambling played in masking insecurity, and how poor confidence shaped his relationship with sex. He explains how honest communication with a partner, lifestyle changes, meditation, exercise, improved...

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What I Discussed with Scot McKay…

- Why many people over 50 are abandoning dating apps and what they are doing instead to find meaningful relationships.

- How online dating evolved from a genuine way to meet people into a swipe-based system that often prioritises engagement over connection.

- Why dating after 60 may actually be easier than dating in your 30s and 40s for people seeking authentic relationships.

- The surprising reasons more women over 50 are choosing younger partners and what this reveals about health, lifestyle and modern expectations.

- Sc...

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What I Discussed With Anthony Canapi…

- Why many gay men over 50 are turning away from dating apps and looking for more personal ways to find meaningful relationships.

- The unique dating challenges faced by older gay men, including grief, ageism, relationship loss and the legacy of the HIV/AIDS crisis.

- Why some older gay men are drawn to younger partners and what may be driving that attraction.

- How decades of discrimination and social stigma continue to influence dating and relationships later in life.

- Why finding lo...

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What I Discussed with Tanya Leake…

- What clitoral atrophy is and why many women have never heard of it.

- How menopause can affect sensation, arousal and orgasm.

- The connection between clitoral health, blood flow and hormonal changes.

- What clitoral adhesions are and how they can develop over time.

- Whether regular sexual activity can help maintain sexual function during menopause.

- The role of vaginal oestrogen, testosterone and other treatment options.

- Non-hormonal approaches that may support vaginal and sexual health.

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What I Discussed With Joe Bains…

- How growing up in a traditional Indian family with an arranged marriage shaped Joe’s views on relationships, sex and personal freedom.

- Why Joe deliberately pushed himself from being an extreme introvert into a highly social and adventurous life.

- What biohacking actually means and how optimising your health can improve vitality, energy and sexual wellbeing as you age.

- Why Joe believes good health is one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs available.

- How loneliness and social isolation can affect well...

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What I Discussed With Amy Color… 

- Why many couples mistakenly believe that better sex starts with talking more rather than connecting differently.

- What Amy learned from her own sexless marriage and why traditional therapy didn't provide the answers she was looking for.

- Why erectile dysfunction often creates shame, pressure and disconnection for both partners.

- How couples can build intimacy without focusing solely on penetration or performance.

- Why many men struggle with the language of therapy and how a different approach can help them engage.

What I Discussed With Jon Plate…

- Why erectile dysfunction is one of the most common but least discussed side effects of prostate cancer surgery.

- The shocking number of men who experience erectile dysfunction after a radical prostatectomy—and why many aren't warned beforehand.

- Why surviving cancer and maintaining quality of life should be part of the same conversation.

- How shame, stigma and poor communication can prevent men from seeking help for erectile dysfunction.

- What stem cell therapy is and how it may help repair the...

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