Black Millennial Marriage

A convo about control turned into a revelation that nothing has been the same since Noble. Even 6 years later. Tune in as Mikey and Randie reveal what has changed about them for better or for worse since their son died. Because grief. Because this is real life. Because earth is hell or ghetto or whatever Jesus said. 

Later, the Chapmans discuss what their convo has taught them about one another, and to cleanse the palate Randie brings a fight or flight about how Mikey is always instigating between her and Drew.

(After Model Home by Rivers Solomon and Bless the Daughter Raised by a Voice in her Head by Warsan Shire) 

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While Mike was in Guyana for the first time since 2001, Randie’s feelings caught up to her. Tune in as she reveals the real about going No Contact with her family. Brought on by a convo with Drew and the propaganda about No Contact being, “trendy” Randie tells you the truth.

No Contact is the bottom. The last resort. Because in the words of Warsan Sh...

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Tune in for what is probably the most unhinged (and most fun) episode ever recorded on the BMM podcast because this one is featuring Drewbie Drew.

Similar to the Chapman’s relationship check-ins, Mikey and Randie interview Drew and ask her to rate them with: thumbs up, middle, or thumbs down on safety, fun, communication, love/connection, and baby Rey.

The episode takes many turns (LOL) as the couple discover what Drew really thinks of their parenting and shenanigans.

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In the beginning of January, the Chapmans spent some time in the ER with baby Rey. Tune in to hear the piece Randie wrote about the experience. Shout out to the fellow mother and friend who didn’t even realize she was encouraging Randie to spread this post a little further. And thank God for the babies that change us.

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**Selah: Hebrew. Thought to mean, “pause, reflect, and praise.” Found mainly in the Book of Psalms as a musical interlude or pause. Scholars disagree on its exact definition, and that’s okay...

Tin! Ten! 10 YEARS! In the books. Somebody clap!

In this episode Mikey and Randie talk about their 10 year anniversary, their first time at a super fancy restaurant, the gifts, their takeaways, and how they’re ready to go reallll slow now LOL. It was a fun and delirious conversation they can’t wait to share with you.

Later, Mike brings a fight or flight that (plot twist, Randie won) even though the Mrs. realized he did in fact have a point.

And as always it’s all love a...

It’s Mikey’s first Indie back in over a year and he’s here with a dedication.

Inspired by his God daughter’s ceremony, Mikey pins a letter to Drew and Rey about what it means to be dedicated to them.

Later he gives a head nod to the dad’s and husbands out there doing their best. And he reminds them to not martyr themselves as they devote themselves to their family.

To end, Mikey shares that he’ll be talking about his 10-year...

The Chapmans done went and had another baby on y’all.

Tune in and learn all about their youngest daughter, Rey. Together Mikey and Randie reveal what helped them realize they were ready to try for another baby, what it’s like having another baby after experiencing infant loss, how Drewbie is soaring at being a big sister, and more.

Later, Randie brings a fight or flight prompted by a tweet and it gets a little…heated? Tender? You be the judge! And read the tweet: https://x.com/W_Asherah/status/1536052863658561538?s=20<...

The novel Open Water by Caleb Azumah Nelson shifted something in Randie’s cells. Shortly after finishing the small but mighty book, Randie auto wrote for 20 minutes about the impact the characters left on her. She only lifted her hands to turn the pages.

This indie is the result. She hopes you enjoy.

This episode of the Black Millennial Marriage Podcast was edited by Randie Chapman at Wordie Productions www.wordieproductions.com

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For this episode you must love dogs and should bring tissues, because everybody’s crying—especially Mikey and Randie.

For their second EP back, the Chapmans talk about…Groot. The dog clacking in all of the episodes and posing in all of the logos. Their first baby. The soul that made them a family before the human littles entered the world.

Why is Groot the focus of this episode? Because after 10 long years, Groot was laid to rest after his year-long battle with Mast Cell Cancer. So to honor him the Chapmans share his origin story...

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Long time no see!

Are you ready for Season 8?

In this episode, Mikey and Randie detail a fight and a make up made possible by Mikey's older brother, Prince. Because sometimes, a family member being in your business works out.

Later, the Mr. brings a fight or flight questioning Randie’s loyalty. But in the end, it’s all love as they show each other appreciation for the PDA segment.

The feed’s...

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It’s the end of. . . . the SEASON! So, here’s a longer episode to reflect on this long ass year. 

Tune in as Mikey and Randie reveal the 3 biggest things that affected them and stood out to them this year, and their favorite episodes and collabs. Later, they have a relationship check-in rating s...

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The temptation to roll over and die is . . . well, tempting. But in this Indie Randie details the 4 things keeping her afloat, helping her resist despair, and inspiring her to imagine a better future. Because if Bisan from Gaza can show up, then so will she.

Tune in as the shorter half of the BMM podcast shares her feelings on the world around her, the fear she and ev...

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In hindsight, there are many things the Chapmans are glad they didn’t know before they got married. And they bet you would agree. Tune in as one of your favorite couples discuss what was worth finding out . . . all after the fact. 

For Mikey, it’s how deep fatherhood really is. He realizes he was thinking too sm...

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“It’s been 3 weeks since you been lookin’ for your friend” and that’s all the more reason to call a therapist.

Hey y’all! Tune in as Randie chats with therapist and podcast host of the Situationsh!t Podcast, Dontea’ (Don-Tay-Yah) Mitchell-Hunter. 

Together the two talk letting people play in their faces, Dontea’s work as a self-worth therapist, the reasons why w...

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Hey y’all, tune in to hear the Chapmans collaboration with the wonderful Weyu Shameka. Host and podcaster of the Labyrinth of the first Gen podcast.

On this episode, Weyu interviews Mikey and Randie about family, immigrant families and parents, marriage, and community. It was a good convo and they hope you enjoy!

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Hey y'all! Your favorite bi-monthly podcasters are here tehehehe. But no seriously, the Chapmans know everybody's going through it in some way and that's why they're back with a Flashback. Tune in to hear the opening convo and see what Mikey and Randie have been up to, and then vibe out to an oldie but good episode. BTW, don't forget to let them know what you think of Magic Mind!

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Tune in as Randie sits down with Kathy, host of the Lichen Sclerosus Podcast.

Kathy was diagnosed with LS 5 years ago at 40 and the life-changing diagnosis paved the way for her podcast and organization on a mission to educate women about the auto immune disease that commonly affects the genitals.

In this episode, Kathy details the symptoms she experienced before diagnosis, the sub-par medical care she initially received, and how living with this diagnosis affects her body, marriage, and children. 

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Tune in as Mikey and Randie talk about money . . . again.

And the backstory involves Youtube Premium and wondering who gon’ pay the bill LOL.

Together, the Chapmans reveal what’s been going on with work and money, and all the POSITIVE things they’re doing instead of—or in conjunction with— the “bad” habits.

The “good” habits range from speaking up and refusing to isolate from friends, re-parenting themselves, and not OD’ing on chocolate. There’s more but you gotta pres...

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Hey, (in our best Mikey voice), he’s back.

In his first Indie episode of the season, Mikey reflects on three versions of himself. 

Inspired by the beef between Kendrick, Drake, and Cole (until he opted out), the taller half of the BMM podcast gives a music lesson and explains why he believes that in life, he chose Jermaine’s route. 

Tune in as Mikey nerds out (again lol ) about all things music and personal growth.

You'll love this one.

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Hey y'all! Mikey and Randie are doing something new and will be dropping flashback/memory lane episodes on Fridays.

Tune in to hear Game of Moans. This was another fan favorite back in the day. Happy Listening!

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The Chapmans are BACK for Season 2! The theme? Plot twists. For their first episode back Mikey and Randie talk about sex.

But wait! There’s no tears, no disgruntlement, or deep conversations, only laughs and a little shade. Together, they ask each other questions ranging from, “What’s your...

Randie thinks she’s cracking..or snapping. 

Tune in as the shorter half of the BMM podcast shares some heartfelt thoughts about money, wounds, patterns, cycles, and being herself. 

Happy Listening.

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Hey y'all! Mikey and Randie are doing something new and will be dropping flashback/memory lane episodes on Fridays.

First up, an episode from 2020 when they were celebrating 4 years of marriage. This was a fan favorite back then and they hope you still enjoy it! Especially because the couple just celebrated EIGHT years married! Wow. So many things have stayed the same. haha. Happy Listening.

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The Chapmans have been married for FOUR years, and in this episode they reflect on only the good parts. Together the couple share what...

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Mikey and Randie are back for Season 7. The Chapmans done batch recorded and everything lmao. In this episode the couple interview Dr. Tiffany Smith and her husband Mr. Horace a.k.a. Mr. Smith.

Tune in to hear your hosts chat with the couple about their love story, the challenges of Horace living with chronic pain, functional medicine, and the surprising benefits of aromatherapy. Dr. Tiffany even gifts BMM listeners with a special offering.

Later, Randie brings a fight or flight abo...

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The Chapmans are out of the Bat Cave and want to tell you all about it.

In this episode they discuss Randie’s revelation, Mikey’s heart felt intentions, and the thing that finally made them realize they need to QUIT the house buying process (for now).

Later, the couple gives out Patreon Superlatives to their most engaged Patrons of 2023. The Superlatives range from the most delulu to the one most likely to be Robin Hood.

Then...

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Mikey and Randie are sick right now, but would never leave you hanging.

So tune in for a raw and unedited version of "Plastic Off the Sofa". These kinds of episodes don't have any music or any edits, and they are a favorite of those on Patreon because listeners get a BTS look into what crafting an episode is like.

This episode in particular was a very popular episode last year, downloaded over 4k times and so they wanted to share the original and uncut version with y'all.

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Like Saturn, the sisters have returned to one another. 

Tune in for this extra special Indie where Randie interviews her baby sister, Bri.

In this episode they discuss their childhoods, and Bri reveals what little Bri wants from Little Ran. Later, Bri talks about what going no contact with certain family members has taught her, what she does to take care of herself, and what being a sister means to her.

This indie is full of warm hugs, apologies, love and laughter, and the g...

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With just a few more episodes left for this season, Mikey and Randie are back with an update. In this episode, they detail what’s been going on with them. They shed light on weight loss and gain, new projects, layoffs, and more. 

But what they also really want is for you to tell them what YOU have been up to. It’s getting closer and closer to the end of the year and they need your reviews, feedback, emails, and all that jazz.

So what had happened was…Randie’s mom heard her Indie episode, Mothering Myself. And like, duh right? That was always a possibility. And still..Randie was scared shitless.

Tune in to hear about the creative block Randie's been experiencing, her thoughts on her own cowardice behavior, and what finally accepting her safety means for her.

She wonders…what will it look like now for her to create solely for her and solely out of love for her inner child and adult self? Well, we’ll all find out together and it'll start with this episode...

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It's a good day for a throwback.

And in this episode the Chapmans highlight BMM EP 059: Why Do Millennials Fall in Love? Do you remember that episode? It was a lot of fun and Mikey and Randie wanted to share the unedited version of that episode with you.

In this episode, Randie reads a listener’s love story that started at Sonics, involves a little head, and ends in a lasting marriage. Later, Mikey and Randie answer a listener’s question that reveals why they got married and also why they...

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Tune in for the Chapman’s first mini episode this season. As a reminder, Minis are all about their experiences as parents and in this episode Mikey and Randie reveal what parenting Drew has made them realize about their childhoods.

The list ranges from being hit a lot to, in some cases, wishing they had the parents they wanted.

It’s a fun episode in that Randie and Mikey really enjoyed recording it and chatting about this wild ride called parenthood.

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Was a pastor featured on the BMM podcast on your Bingo card for 2023? It certainly wasn’t on Mikey and Randie’s, but seeing as this season’s theme is “Lemonade” the Chapmans are committed to acknowledging the nourishment all around them. Enter Kristian A. Smith, a man who wears many hats, and is also the host of the Holy Smokes Spirituality and Cigars podcast. 

In this episode, the couple interview Kristian and discuss the first time they all broke an unspoken spoken rule, his ministry, how he and his...

Hey, (in our best Mikey voice), he’s back.

It’s been over a year since Mikey dropped an indie and in this episode he reveals where he’s been and how working on his latest project— his 1978 Monte Carlo Landau—is healing him. 

Tune in as Mikey nerds out with some history about the car, details the story of his cousin Quacy a.k.a. Chess gifting him the Monte Carlo, and discusses the three things re-building his dream car has taught him. 

Later, Mikey...

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In this episode, Mikey and Randie detail their most recent relationship breakthrough.

It started with an argument and turned into a moment of vulnerability. 

And it’s all thanks to that damn word chart.

Later, Randie brings a fight or flight questioning Mikey about therapy. But it’s all love, when in the end they show each other some PDA. 

As always, the Chapmans appreciate you for listening and rocking with them for...

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In this episode Randie interviews her sex and intimacy doula, Yanitza. 

Together they droid out over their pleasure muse THE Janelle Monáe, discuss the shame surrounding sex, pleasure, and intimacy and what this work has taught Yanitza about herself and about people. Later they talk about how grief affects our capacity to receive, and what working with a sex and intimacy doula looks like.

It’s a fun episode and Randie’s first in-person interview with a listener, turned Patron, turned friend, turned doula ever in the hist...

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In this episode Mikey and Randie interview Dr. Jeannelle Perkins-Muhammad on her latest book Into-Me-See: Mastering Black Intimacy for the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted and there’s so much to say.

Before beginning the interview, The Chapmans and Dr. Jeannelle share their first memories of feeling safe. Later, the duo learn that finding out she was married to a narcissist inspired Dr. Jeannelle to write this book and more. 

Together, they discuss the infamous emotions chart that everybody in the world needs to print and hang up in their house...

Hey y’all. Mikey and Randie, are back after a hiatus of seven months.

And in this episode, they detail what’s changed about them and how having boundaries, self-respect, and faith again has affected them and the podcast for the better. Later, Mikey brings a fight or flight that turns into a poem, wondering when Randie will remember who she is. But, just like old times, it’s all love when they show each other PDA.

As always, the Chapmans appreciate you for listening and rocking with them for all of these years. They wouldn...

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Didn’t expect a bonus Indie Episode from Randie did you? (Or maybe you did if you caught her latest IG Live)

She misses y’all! Mikey and Randie both do. And they want you to consider this episode an apology, an olive branch, and a promise that they will be back sooner than you think with episodes. Get excited.

And . . .Tune in as Randie details a homework assignment she received from her sex and intimacy doula. This homework included lots of honey and an epipha...

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Now whoever thought that making more money and making it out of the valley would scare the hell out of Mikey and Randie?

Can you relate? Tune in as the Chapmans detail why abundance has been triggering them and find out how they self-sabotage and re-ground themselves back in the present. Because the truth is, it's been a hard few years and it's also true that trouble don't last always. Right?

Later Randie brings a fight or flight confronting Mikey about how he...

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Was an episode with Randie's dad on your bingo card for 2022?

Tune in as Big Ran gets interviewed by the shorter half of the Black Millennial Marriage podcast. Together the two detail their happiest childhood memories and later Randie learns what inspired her dad to give up the drugs you snort and heavy alcohol. Big Ran also reveals how he thinks his upbringing affected his previous marriage and parenting, talks about what reconciling with all of his kids would look like in a perfect world...