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This week, your BFFs get into a conversation about pride and why so many pride organizations are struggling to stay afloat. We also talk politics and ask the question that so many folks are asking about the blue wave: so, what now? 

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This week we are joined by Amber Wagner & Jacob Willis from the Jst Us Podcast to talk about the thing that we often struggle with: being a better advocate for ourselves. We also engage what it means to require someone to step up to be a better friend, lover or both and what happens when things get a little spicy - all pun intended. 

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This week we talk to the talented and writing genius known as MNEK about their new album, why certain words might trigger us and what it means to be a Muscle Mary. We also talk about what it takes to make a GOOD pop star because it's giving NOTHING and we literally can't keep tell many of the dolls apart!

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This week we are joined by iconic and legendary MTV host Dave Holmes to discuss what it means to create culture and how so many of us have LGBTQ+ people to thank for it. We also discuss what songs from yesteryear taught us about ourselves and why we need to make MTV gay again. 

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This week, the BFF:Black Fat Femme pod is joined in the third and fourth chair by famous LA couple Trino & Adam. The gang (all pun intended) talks about life, finding and keeping love and what it takes to love yourself in a world that is often asking you to be "out" in silence. 

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This week, your BFF’s are joined in the third seat by scholar and historian Amanda Timpson to discuss why we need to keep talking about LGBTQ+ people and our history in this moment. We also talk Netflix's taken on the history of Lizzy Borden and why Ryan Murphy is the white Tyler Perry. 

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This week, your BFF’s talk about the things no one told them about adulting and where they currently are in life. They pose a question that many of us are still trying to figure out, W.T.F. and W.T.A.F.? 

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This week, your BFF's sit down with the hilarious and real comedian Nori Reed to discuss how and why comedy needs to address social truths in this moment and why there needs to be more representation for ugly people. We also look at the complexities of what's happening around the event folks can't stop talking about and why KFC is better than Popeyes. 

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This week your BFF's sit down with Amber Cooper from the Match Group to discuss the one thing that has everyone stressed more than gas prices: DATING + RELATIONSHIPS. We also ask a very important question that so many of us wonder in every relationship we have - is every connection meant for us to learn something? We also discuss why the BLK app is where it's at! 

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This week your BFF's are joined by Rev. Don Abram to reflect on navigating both the beauty (and the harm) of the Black Church. We dive into what it means to reconstruct faith beyond toxic theology and how (and why) being in community with other Black queer people should be viewed as a sacred space.

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This week, your BFF’s process out loud what it’s been like to lose so many greats all at one time. We also talk about the ways they encouraged us and what type of legacy we want to leave behind when it’s our time to go to glory. 🙏🏾 

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This week your besties look back to when we were joined by the Kang of digital content - the one who keeps the content live, loud and in color, Chris Rodgers. On the show this week: a discussion about why we are sick and tired of being sick and tired as millennials. Chris also gives PayPal the stern talking too they deserve. 

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This week, the BFF's welcome viral creator Romeo Bingham to talk about the joy, labor, and pressure behind being an “overnight” moment. From the Dr Pepper jingle going national to the conditional care and scrutiny Black trans femmes face online, this we get into visibility, viral fame, pop culture, and the chaos unfolding everywhere else.

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This week the BFF's are doing a full episode of Yes Ma'am & No Ma'am Pam. We talk about the things we love, the things people do that bring us joy, the things we can't STAND and the things we hope to never see or experience again. It's our house and we live here! 

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This week we are joined by our favorite Goddess on the court, Emma "Dilemma" Belizario as we unpack the myths and misinformation shaping the conversation around trans athletes in sports. In our convo we move beyond headlines to explore what’s truly at stake for trans girls and women, why these narratives persist, and what trans athletes are actually asking for when they step onto the court. It’s a necessary conversation about equity, dignity, and why we need to protect all trans people's right to play.

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This week on the show, we welcome back to the show our good Judy Dominque Morgan to talk hyper visibility and the ways it impacts Black trans people. We also discuss the ways we get used by our peers for clicks and how (and why) we are lost without a coin, NIECE!

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This week the BFF’s explore how camp in film and television can unlock Black queer joy beyond stories of pain. Actor Marc Sully Saint-Fleur (Jury Duty, The Good Place) joins us to share how camp shapes his performances, fuels whimsy, and creates space for bold, authentic expression while balancing chaos, humor, and heart without falling into a stereotype.

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In this week's episode we are joined by researcher and author Dr. Terrell J.A. Winder for a powerful conversation on the intersections of identity, stigma, and self-worth among Black queer men in Los Angeles. Grounded in Terrell’s work, we explore the earliest moments many Black queer folks come to understand their bodies as “problems” and how those messages are shaped by institutions like churches, schools, healthcare systems, and everyday public life. We also talk about their new book "Shameless" and  how we all can imagine new pathways toward healing and liberation.

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On this week’s episode of the Black Fat Femme Podcast, the BFF's sit down with multihyphenate creator Kalen Allen for a deep, tender, and hilarious conversation about life after the show. Kalen reflects on his rise, the industry’s response once the cameras stopped rolling, and what it’s taken to rebuild his career and sense of self beyond daytime TV.

Together, they unpack grief, rejection, and starting over, what it means to be Black, queer, and femme in entertainment, and why nuance is non‑negotiable when you’re telling the truth about power, pain, and joy online...

This week the BFF's are joined by Black Women Taught Us award winning author, educator and scholar to discuss why we are in the mess we are in and why we need to listen to Black women the first time. We also get into why Cheesecake Factory needs to stop changing its menu and why we will always celebrate pride, even if this trash ass government tries to take it away.

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This week on Black Fat Femme, we’re joined by our good sis Simone Mariposa for a powerful conversation on divine embodiment—what it means to listen to your body, mind, and spirit in a world that constantly pulls us out of alignment. We break down how to get your internal “systems” working together, where to start if you feel disconnected, and how Simone’s lived experiences shape her approach to healing and self-awareness.

Plus, we talk Obama Library rollout and the Tyra Banks documentary drama while rolling our eyes, hard. 

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We got one of People Magazine's "Sexiest Men Alive" - Brian Michael Smith - on Black Fat Femme this week, and we get into discussions about authentic trans narratives, wanting more mediocrity (?!?), and the power of tranformative storytelling.

From The L Word: Generation Q and 9-1-1: Lone Star, to his advocacy in film and television, Brian breaks down his journey from sports star to TV star while your favorite cohosts share their hot takes about parasocial relationships, being paid more for less, and some of the "hidden figures" in trans history.

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This week on Black Fat Femme, we sit down with the brilliant Ericka Hart to talk about their powerful new book Nasty Work—a deep dive into sex, power, and the labor of intimacy. We get into what it means to claim pleasure unapologetically, especially at the intersections of Blackness, queerness, and fatness.

We also unpack the politics of credibility in the Black community—who gets taken seriously and why—sparked by conversations around figures like Cheyenne Bryant, and how degrees shape (and distort) trust. And yes, we go there: a candid, hilarious, and pointed discussion on why st...

This week your BFF's are hanging out with the creator of Club 1BD, DJ David and talking all things music. We discuss what it's like to see your dreams manifest, how music is holding us in this moment while asking the most important question, is R&B really dead? 

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This week your BFF's talk all things fat with special guest Mx. Pucks A'Plenty. We share our ways of pushing back against the notion that skinny equates healthy, discuss our gripes with the world's obsession with GLP-1's (bombastic side eye to Mindy Kaling and Serena Williams) and introduce something new and a little spicy for the dolls. 

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This week your BFF's are joined for a tipsy trip through Black pop culture and history with Brandon Collins, host and creator of "Drunk Black History". We quiz Brandon on the wild, joyful, and downright unbelievable stories he’s uncovered with Drunk Black History and discuss the "that can’t be real moments". We also ask the most important question to date: why is Mary J. Blige so made about them damn chicken wraps? 

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This week’s the BFF's dive into the intersection of bodies, fashion, and music with model, cultural curator and now musician James Corbin. They explore how bigger Black queer bodies become sites of art, resistance, and joy, talk about what it means to feel "Supreme" while asking the question: 

How are you celebrating the art that is your body? 

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This week, we’re honoring the ones who raised us and loved us without restraint—while telling the truth about how complicated that love can be. From navigating queerness and identity to unpacking harm, growth, and grace, we reflect on what it takes to build real, evolving relationships with the women who raised us. We share stories of support, moments of tension, and the quiet work of understanding—while asking: what does it mean to celebrate a mother who is still learning how to love you fully? It’s tender, honest, and maybe something you’ll want to bring to therapy...

On this weeks episode, we are joined by Danielle Young as we dive into the messy magic of 2000s media and how it shaped a generation’s relationship to storytelling, visibility, and critique. We talk “2000s starter pack,” revisit TV, music, tabloids, Myspace, and early YouTube while unpacking what that era taught them about being seen online as Black storytellers. We also reflect on how 2000s media still lives in our work today, what we refuses to replicate, and the “big Beyoncé note” she’d send to an industry that remains nostalgic for harmful narratives.

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In this week’s episode, Jon and Joho sit down with Marquis the “Honey Bear,” for a conversation on visibility, creativity, and liberation. From bold fashion to viral, off-the-wall content, Marquis shares how he’s built a digital presence rooted in joy, style, and self-expression despite the pressures placed on Black, fat, queer bodies.

They also get into his relationship with the Bear identity—exploring desirability, sexuality, and what it means to feel sexy on your own terms. Playful, affirming, and just a little messy, this episode is all about showing up fully and having fun while doing it.<...

This week Jon and Joho sit down with writer and comedian Guy Branum for a powerful and hilarious conversation about the role of comedy as survival for queer folks. From turning trauma into punchlines to reclaiming joy in spaces not built for us, this episode dives deep into how humor becomes both a defense mechanism and a transformative tool. Guy opens up about his journey toward self-acceptance, using wit to challenge cis-normativity and anti-queer culture, and writing scenes that bring fat and queer representation to the forefront and a reminder that sometimes surviving means being funny — even when it hur...

What happens when men — cisgender and gender non-conforming — finally get honest about their bodies? This week, Jon and Joho sit down with Ronald Young Jr. to unpack body image, masculinity, and what healing really looks like in a cultural moment that feels like a 90s throwback. From childhood messaging to inner voice work, this conversation goes deep on body neutrality, self-acceptance, and the labor of unlearning toxic narratives. If you've ever been in a complicated relationship with your own skin, this episode is for you.

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What does it mean to be Black, gay, and free — all over the world?

This week, Jon and Joho sit down with Nick, creator of Black, Gay, and Abroad, to talk Black gay travel, safety, and storytelling. From MTV and BuzzFeed to building his own agency and passport-stamping his way across Spain, France, Mexico, Costa Rica, and beyond — Nick is redefining what it looks like to move through the world as a Black gay man.

We get into his iconic Yasss to Naur solo travel safety list, the art of long-form travel blogging in a shor...

This week on B.F.F.: Black Fat Femme Podcast, Joho and Jon are joined by Tre'vell Anderson & Ray Love Jr. from the Seated Podcast for a deep dive into the Black moviegoing experience. Coming off the chaos of award season, the trio gets real about how Black and queer audiences find joy, connection, and meaning in cinema — even as Hollywood’s marketing still caters to whiteness and heteronormativity. From theater call-and-response moments to the rise of streaming culture, they explore what it would look like if Black, queer, and trans perspectives were treated as the default rather than the e...

In celebration of Women’s History Month, Joho and Jon dedicate this week’s episode to the Black trans women whose courage and brilliance helped shape movements for civil rights, LGBTQ+ justice, and social liberation — yet whose names are too often left out of mainstream narratives. Through stories of Frances Thompson, Lucy Hicks Anderson, and Mary Jones, this episode shines a light on resilience, survival, and truth-telling across centuries of systemic harm.

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This week, we’re joined by the hilarious and brilliant Nicole Daniels! Jon and Joho sit down for a deep (and very funny) chat about how real life inspires Nicole’s unforgettable characters—from the overly earnest craft store lady to the nonprofit boss we all know too well—and what it takes to make comedy look effortless. They dig into the creative process, queerness in comedy, and how Nicole stays grounded while balancing her own identity with the ones she performs. 

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This week your BFF's are joined in the third seat by Nina Parker to talk what it means to set boundaries in the workplace (and in your life), talking about the missing recipes in today's media and why we all should be thinking BIG.

YOU GOTTA THINK BIG BITCH!   

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This week your BFF's unpack the thing we all can't stop talking about - yes, Netflix’s “America’s Next Top Model: Reality Check” documentary. We discuss our thoughts about the doc, Tyra's coat and why Tyra ain't the only one guilty in all of this. Plus, we discuss Grindr's new jab (get it?) at GLP-1's and why we all should have a problem with it. 

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This week your BFF's are joined in the third seat by Christopher Griffin AKA Plant Queen to get into the Category of growth, ask What's Poppin' with the Benito Bowl and holler Yes Ma'am to all the good news happening for trans youth in Southern California.  

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This week your BFF's are joined in the third seat by Kevin Ortega-Rojas to discuss the Don Lemon of it all, why we should be concerned for journalism and why we need to keep holding all these media platforms accountable for what they do (and don't do). We also talk Grammys, Black History being made at the Grammys and why Benito is having the best year ever. 

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