Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

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Have you ever asked yourself what you really need... and drawn a complete blank?

After divorce, many women become experts at anticipating everyone else's needs while slowly losing touch with their own. The voice that plans, solves problems, overthinks, and keeps everything together gets so loud that the quieter parts of us barely get a chance to speak.

In today's VIP episode, I'm guiding you through a powerful non-dominant hand journaling exercise that helps you access those quieter parts of yourself.

Don...

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You keep telling yourself that everything is going to be okay...

So why doesn't your body believe you?

If you've read the books, listened to the podcasts, repeated the affirmations, and you're still waiting to feel calm, you're not failing. Your nervous system simply doesn't heal through information alone.

In this episode, we're unpacking why uncertainty feels so terrifying after divorce, how hypervigilance disguises itself as responsibility, and why trying to control your ex, your children, or your future is often a nervous system strategy—not a...

Secure attachment isn't a feeling you suddenly arrive at.

It's something you build.

It's discovering that you can be overwhelmed, uncertain, emotional, imperfect... and still let yourself lean on other people.

In this week's After the Mic, we're reflecting on what happened during our annual A Different D Word retreat—not because we want you to wish you had been there, but because we want you to know what's possible.

We talk about what it was like to be held by a room full of women while also holding space for ea...

Have you ever heard yourself say "Sure!"... while every part of you was screaming "Absolutely not."

You promised yourself you wouldn't text him.
You wouldn't overcommit.
You wouldn't rescue everyone.
You wouldn't have sex just to keep the peace.
You wouldn't keep saying yes when your body was begging you to say no.

And then... you did it anyway.

If you've ever walked away from a conversation wondering, "Why do I keep doing this?" this episode is for you.

Today, we're...

You know the things that would probably help.

The walk.
The boundary.
The therapy session.
The earlier bedtime.
The journal sitting untouched on your nightstand.

So why does it feel so hard to actually do them?

If you've ever found yourself reaching for your phone instead of your healing, texting your ex when you knew better, pouring another glass of wine, avoiding the hard conversation, or putting off the very thing that might help you feel better... this episode is for you.

In this conversation, Dawn explores...

You thought healing would mean feeling better by now.

Maybe you've been to therapy. Read the books. Listened to the podcasts. Journaled your heart out. Maybe you've done everything you're "supposed" to do after divorce and you're still wondering:

Why do I feel so stuck?

In this episode, Dawn shares the three core ingredients she believes every woman needs to truly let go, move on, and begin creating a life she loves after divorce.

Because healing isn't just about understanding what happened.

It's about having enough support...

What if the most healing thing you could do today wasn't another journal prompt, podcast episode, or breakthrough conversation?

What if it was rest?

In this special Dear Divorce Diary VIP episode, we're sharing one of the most requested practices from our Myrtle Beach retreats: a guided Yoga Nidra experience designed to help your nervous system soften, settle, and remember what safety feels like.

This isn't yoga.

You don't need flexibility.
You don't need experience.
You don't even need to stay awake.

Yoga Nidra is often called "...

Have you ever looked at your ex and thought:

"How are you okay?"

How are you dating?

How are you posting vacation photos?

How are you laughing with friends?

How are you acting like our entire marriage didn't just fall apart?

Meanwhile, you're still carrying the grief, the questions, the memories, and the heartbreak.

In this live episode recorded at our Myrtle Beach retreat, we're talking about one of the most confusing parts of divorce: watching someone who shared your life seem completely unaffected while...

You almost don't go.

The workshop.
The support group.
The retreat.
The community event.
The coffee date.
The thing you secretly want to say yes to.

Because what if it's awkward?

What if everyone already knows each other?

What if you don't fit in?

What if you need alone time?

What if people think you're weird, too quiet, too much, too emotional, not emotional enough?

After divorce, many women find themselves craving connection while simultaneously feeling terrified of it.

It's late.

You're tired.

You know you should put your phone down and go to sleep.

Instead, you're opening Bumble. Or Hinge. Or Facebook Dating. Just to "see who's out there."

Again.

If you've ever found yourself scrolling dating apps after divorce when you weren't actually ready to date, this episode is for you.

Because most of the time, you're not looking for love.

You're looking for relief.

In this episode, Dawn, Tiffini, and Joy unpack what is really happening when loneliness, heartbreak...

There are things you never got to say.

The words you swallowed to keep the peace.
The questions that never got answered.
The anger you weren't allowed to express.
The grief that still catches in your throat.

Maybe it's your ex.
Maybe it's a parent.
Maybe it's someone you've loved deeply and lost.
Maybe it's a version of yourself that disappeared somewhere along the way.

In this special Dear Divorce Diary VIP episode, Dawn, Joy, and Coach Tiffini hold space for a different kind of healing.

Maybe you're eating more.

Maybe you're eating less.

Maybe you're thinking about food all the time.

Maybe you've gained weight, lost weight, or feel like your body doesn't respond the way it used to.

And maybe you're wondering why something that once felt manageable suddenly feels so complicated.

In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn, Tiffini, and Joy explore the often-overlooked connection between divorce, grief, stress, loneliness, and our relationship with food and weight.

Because the truth is, food works.

Food can create comfort...

This week, we're taking you behind the scenes and into the very real family dynamics we're navigating in our own lives right now.

Because healing doesn't magically make difficult people easy.

It doesn't erase guilt.
It doesn't eliminate family pressure.
And it certainly doesn't stop other people from expecting you to sacrifice yourself to make them feel better.

In this candid conversation, Dawn, Joy, and Tiffini explore what happens when aging parents, family expectations, old wounds, and lifelong patterns of people-pleasing collide with the work of recovery.

Together, we...

You finally have a quiet night.

The kids are gone.
The house is calm.
Nobody needs anything from you.

So why can't you relax?

Why does your mind keep racing?
Why does the silence feel uncomfortable?
And why does that glass of wine suddenly feel like the only way to take the edge off?

In this episode, Dawn, Tiffini, and Joy explore the deeper reasons so many women find themselves reaching for wine after divorce—not because they're weak, broken, or lacking willpower, but because they're carrying ye...

You've done the therapy.
Listened to the podcasts.
Read the books.

So why are you still hurting?

In this special episode, Dawn shares why understanding alone isn't always enough to create change—and why true healing sometimes asks us to lift our gaze beyond ourselves.

As someone with a history of religious trauma, Dawn never expected prayer to become part of this podcast. But after years of healing, she discovered that there are moments when insight, effort, and self-awareness reach their limits.

Sometimes healing requires surrender.

Not gi...

You told yourself you weren't going to text him.

You meant it.

Then your phone buzzed... or the loneliness got louder... or the pressure inside became impossible to ignore.

And before you knew it, you hit send.

In this episode, Dawn, Coach Tiffini, and Joy explore one of the most frustrating post-divorce patterns women experience: reaching for false connection when what they're actually craving is relief.

Because the truth is, texting him back usually isn't about him.

It's about the discomfort you're trying to escape.

...

Divorce guilt has a way of showing up long after the paperwork is signed.

Maybe you feel guilty about ending the marriage.
Maybe you feel guilty for staying too long.
Maybe you feel guilty for being angry, setting boundaries, disappointing people, or wanting more for your life.

And sometimes the hardest part is that guilt can feel like proof that you're still a good person.

In this guided healing meditation, Coach Tiffini helps you gently explore the deeper purpose guilt may be serving inside your nervous system. Through compassionate self-inquiry and...

You've read the books.

You've listened to the podcasts.

You've been to therapy.

You know your attachment style, your triggers, your patterns, and exactly why you do what you do.

So why do you still find yourself reacting the same way?

Why do you still answer the text?

Why do you still overthink the conversation?

Why do you still tolerate things you know aren't good for you?

In this episode, Dawn, Joy, and Tiffini explore one of the most frustrating parts of divorce...

Divorce loneliness is different.

It’s not just missing a person.
It’s missing the rhythm your body got used to.
The future you thought you were building.
The version of you that existed before survival mode took over.

And sometimes the hardest part?
Your nervous system still feels abandoned long after your mind has decided the relationship needed to end.

In this special guided healing meditation, Dawn shares a deeply restorative quantum healing experience by Kate Mayor designed to help soothe emotional isolation, calm the nervous system, reconnect you...

You know what would help.

The walk.
The boundary.
Going to bed earlier.
Not texting him back.
Turning off the phone.
Booking the therapy session.
Saying no.
Asking for support.

So why does it still feel so hard to choose those things in the moments that matter most?

If you’ve ever found yourself doom scrolling instead of sleeping, people pleasing instead of speaking up, reaching for the wine, texting your ex, or choosing temporary relief over what you know would actually help… this episode is for...

“Self-care” sounds cute… until life gets hard.

Because what does self-care actually look like when:

your child needs you,
your nervous system is fried,
the house is a mess,
grief is still grief-ing,
your to-do list is breathing down your neck,
and everyone still seems to need something from you?

In this deeply honest Thursday Cocoon VIP conversation, Dawn, Joy, and Tiffini pull back the curtain on what self-care actually looks like after divorce—not the Instagram version. Not the bubble bath version. The real version.

The...

Divorce has a way of cracking open more than just your relationship.

It can make you question everything.

The marriage you believed in.
The coping strategies that used to work.
The advice you’ve been given.
Even the healing systems you were taught to trust.

Because sometimes what’s most disorienting after divorce isn’t just heartbreak.

It’s realizing the old answers don’t seem to work anymore.

In this deeply personal and thought-provoking conversation, Dawn, Coach Tiffini, and Producer Joy explore one of the most misun...

Divorce doesn’t just break hearts.
It impacts nervous systems.

And when your child is struggling after separation or divorce… most parents are left asking:

What do I actually DO?

In this Cocoon VIP episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn, Joy, and Coach Tiffini walk you through the exact body, mind, spirit, and nervous system tools they wish they’d had sooner while helping their own children navigate divorce, grief, emotional dysregulation, attachment wounds, and anxiety. 

This isn’t theory.

It’s the real-world toolkit they’ve actually u...

Divorce can make moms do some wild things in the name of love.

Overprotect.
Overcompensate.
Buy more.
Say yes when we mean no.
Try to fix every feeling.
Avoid our child’s pain because it activates our own guilt.

But what if the thing your child needs most after divorce… isn’t more protection?

In this deeply honest episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn, Producer Joy, and Coach Tiffini unpack the parenting mistakes even the most loving moms make after divorce—and what children actually need instead...

If you’ve been trying to hold it all together while quietly falling apart inside…
this episode is for you.

Because sometimes after divorce, the hardest part isn’t the heartbreak itself.

It’s realizing how quickly you leave yourself when the pain gets too big.

You disconnect.
Overthink.
Obsess over your ex.
Numb out.
Push through.
Care for everyone else while abandoning the parts of you that are hurting the most.

And eventually, your nervous system starts living in survival mode.

This Cocoon V...

If you’re still angry at your ex… this episode is going to challenge the way you see it.

Because what if the resentment you feel isn’t really about him anymore?

In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we unpack why anger can feel so intense—and why it often sticks around long after the relationship ends.

Through a powerful moment sparked by a viral reel, this conversation opens up something deeper:
 how many women continue pouring energy outward—into blame, frustration, and resentment—while quietly abandoning themselves in the process.

We explo...