Real Life Mentoring

Chris and Christina originally aired a podcast called The Three Levels of Motivation (Season 3 Episode 25 on Feb. 7 airdate). While it was helpful we did receive some feedback that made us think there may be more to the story. That’s the reason for today’s podcast with Rob Schrader.

Here's a review of The Three Levels of Motivation:

Today Chris and Christina tackle the complex topic of compassion fatigue.

What is it?

What are the signs you have it?

Who gets it?

What leads to it?

How do you cope with it?

How can you keep from falling into it?

This two part series will answer all those questions and more!

References from today's episode:

Canadian Medical Association Article

Boys and Girls Clubs of America Article

Today's sponsor: Lori E Kenney...

Today Chris and Christina tackle the complex topic of compassion fatigue.

What is it?

What are the signs you have it?

Who gets it?

What leads to it?

How do you cope with it?

How can you keep from falling into it?

This two part series will answer all those questions and more!

References from today's episode:

Canadian Medical Association Article

Boys and Girls Clubs of America Article

Today's sponsor: Lori E Kenney...

We've all got needs. We should first handle our needs by recognizing we have them! There's no shame in knowing what your needs are - especially when it relates to being in healthy relationships with others.

Today's podcast is inspired by the organization Relational Values relationalvalues.com. They empower people to experience and reproduce great relationships!

Knowing your relational needs helps you:

According to Relational Values, there...

Today concludes part three of the series: Image of a Mentor. Today's image: soldier.

In the Bible, soldiers are often seen as symbols of authority, discipline and power They are also associated with faith, obedience and spiritual warfare.

As a soldier, a mentor helps a mentee identify their enemies such as an unhealthy mindset about themselves or others. Giving them tools to fight the enemy such as addictions, insecurity and/or troubled relationships.

As Chris and Christina wrap up this series, let's take a look at 2 Timothy 2:3-7 has to say about our...

Today continues the images of a mentor as Chris and Christina discuss the traits of an athlete and compare them to a mentor.

An athlete, according to Google, is most commonly a person who competes in one or more sports involving physical strength, speed, power or endurance.

Some characteristics of an athlete that can be compared to that of a mentor include:

Being intrinsically motivated

Endurance and perseverance

Special training

Knowing when to recover

The importance of exhibiting character traits of an athlete as a...

Often visual images help us picture concepts in more concrete forms. Today, Chris and Christina will introduce a three part series of images to help form a picture of a mentor: farmer, athlete, soldier.

According to google, a farmer's responsibilities can vary depending on their specialty. The same is definitely true of a mentor.

Some characteristics of a farmer:

Hard physical work

patience

consistent

focus

Chris and Christina also discuss the life cycle of a farmer and how these same concepts apply to mentors.

Mentoring should be personal, practical, meaningful and effective. That's the lens in which Chris and Christina look through one-on-one mentoring.

Today, guest Davey Blackburn shares his story through pain and suffering and how it led to a beautiful, healing and redeeming story of God's faithfulness.

In 2015, Davey lost his wife, Amanda of 7 years and his unborn baby in a random shooting spree in his neighborhood. Serving God through being church planters and ticking off all the boxes of doing the "right" things, Davey never suspected his life would unravel into such a heap of pain.<...

The fuel for today's podcast is based on the initial viewing of Beyond Weightloss, a documentary hosted by Keith Kline.

Are you like most of us who find it difficult to get and stay motivated? In today's episode, Chris and Christina discuss the topic of motivation.

Did you know there are three levels of motivation:

As Chris and Christina jump into a new year, they suggest taking some time to look back. In looking back, what are some things you need to grieve? In looking back, what are some things you need to celebrate?

In every transition, this is a great exercise to engage not just yourself but a mentee. Taking time to grieve loss while at the same time to celebrate success is a worthwhile task.

Chris and Christina are quick to acknowledge this concept of grieving and celebrating have been taken from Jennie Allen.

Jennie Allen...

Over the years, Christina has found that there seems to be reoccurring themes that come up when mentoring. Often, mentors give advice, ask questions, make observations and generalize to help a mentee see more clearly.

This is exactly what today's episode reveals. Christina walks us through the "top 10" pieces of advice, questions, observations and generalizations that she has given to women or received from women.

Today's insights include ...

.. recover well after giving to others.

... set healthy boundaries.

... ask the Holy Spirit what He thinks about your situation.

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Knowing our self-worth begins from feeling cared for and nurtured by our parents. Knowing our self-worth and being genuinely confident does not just happen it must be shown, talk about and lived out. That's where a good mentor comes in!

Today, Chris and Christina jump into the topic of self-worth. Where does it come from? How does it get distorted? What role does social media and advertising play? Do our childhood's play a part?

A good mentor can help boost low self-worth. Using God's Word and encouraging mentees to apply the truth of scripture is...

You can grow up in the same household and yet have differing perspectives. How does that happen? Today we will find out how that happened in the Elledge household.

Kim Cary joins Chris and Christina as they discuss the stories that siblings share. Kim is the youngest sister of the Elledge family in which Chris is the oldest brother. Growing up in poverty, dysfunction and never really communicating, Chris and Kim share stories about growing up.

What was it like growing up as the youngest?

How did it feel to not have "guard...

Kim Cary returns to talk about how God gave her the most incredible "R" words during one of the most difficult seasons she's experienced. In today's interview, Chris and Christina dive into how Kim received these powerful words.

Release was the first word, given during her difficult journey of caring for her aging mother. Rest followed a year later as she knew rest was exactly what she needed as she faced a taxing job and was dealing with the effects of high stress. Renew came a year later after sitting in a workshop as a reminder that...

When most men come to church, they are searching for more than a worship service. They are hoping for a genuine connection with other men where they can be vulnerable and transparent. When men connect at a heart level, they will most likely want to be a part of the church and will, as a result, lead their family in that involvement.

This is the basic idea that Chris leads with in today's episode. Men, within the walls of the church, are struggling. The challenge is not to condemn the church but to challenge men within it...

Today, Chris and Christina continue to discuss "The Big Six", a podcast episode of Adam Young's The Place We Find Ourselves.

In his episode, The Big Six, Adam talks about the way children's brains development based upon the level of care and kindness in the family environment. The "Big Six" are the six things you needed from your parents:

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Podcast: The Place We Find Ourselves by Adam...

Today, Chris and Christina discuss a recent podcast hosted by Adam Young (licensed clinical social worker with a master degree in social work (Virginia Commonwealth University) and Divinity (Emory University), host of podcast The Place We Find Ourselves and Fellow with The Allender Center).

In his episode, The Big Six, Adam talks about the way children's brains development based upon the level of care and kindness in the family environment. The "Big Six" are the six things you needed from your parents:

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Integrity builds trust. Trust is essential for good relationships. At the end of the day, this podcast is all about relationships.

Today, Chris and Christina talk about the disease of partial integrity.

Disease: illness, sickness, infection, ailments, disorder, affliction

We don't allow a disease to stay in our bodies. If you have an illness, the doctor asks for your symptoms. Just like a doctor may ask for symptoms, what are the "symptoms", your proof, that you are a person of integrity?

In today's discussion, you will be able to assess your...

No script! Today, Chris and Christina recount their spontaneous thoughts about the power of connection.

Why do we connect?

How do we connect?

Where do we connect?

If you have a best friend, co-worker, spouse or children it is important to connect. The concept of connecting well with others get explored today in depth!

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Today, Chris and Micheal pick back up with their talk about the loss and grief they have experienced through death of a loved one as well as the benefits of talking about death, the reason why we don't talk about death, and why as a trusted Mentor, you could have the privilege of initiating one the most important conversations with others.

At Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring, we care about and engage the whole person. We are spiritual, physical, mental, emotional, relational, and professional/educational.

Jesus talked about his own death repeatedly. He didn’t run fr...

At Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring, we care about and engage the whole person. We are spiritual, physical, mental, emotional, relational, and professional/educational.

Jesus talked about his own death repeatedly. He didn’t run from the fact that his life would be cut short or try to hide that from his followers. He talked openly about it and I believe it helped him stay focused on what He was here to do and not get distracted by the crowds or temporary celebrations.

If Jesus talked about death, we think we should, too! Today Chris talks wi...

Today, Nathan Brewer joins Chris and Christina once again to discuss The Working Genius. The Working Genius Model is the fastest way to find out what kind of work brings you joy and energy and the simplest way to maximize your team's productivity.

In today's podcast, Nathan will give a short review based on the past two episodes. Then he will go into the dynamics of using The Working Genius in marriage, other relationships and teams.

If you want to learn more, reach out to Nathan.

Contact Nathan: Nathan@workinggenius.eu

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Today, Chris and Christina continue the conversation with Nathan Brewer on The Working Genius. The Working Genius Model is the fastest way to find out what kind of work brings you joy and energy and the simplest way to maximize your team's productivity.

The Working Genius can bring clarity to you in the workplace as you discover how you best operate in and how your "genius" brings you joy in your work.

In part two, Nathan will provide you with a short review of The Working Genius and then take a deep dive into each...

Today, Nathan Brewer joins Chris and Christina once again to discuss The Working Genius. The Working Genius Model is the fastest way to find out what kind of work brings you joy and energy and the simplest way to maximize your team's productivity.

Today kicks off a three-part series in which Nathan will help you, the listener, understand how The Working Genius can bring clarity to you in the workplace as you discover how you best operate in and how your "genius" brings you joy in your work.

The 6 types of working geniuses have significant...

Words are powerful. We've all been on the receiving end of words that built us up or unfortunately tore us down. But how many times has a conversation changed your life?

Today Chris and Christina take a look at how a conversation has the power to potentially change your life. They give some examples from their own lives of conversations that were used to impact the trajectory of their lives as well as take a look at a recent article in Psychology Today.

Link:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/shift-mind/201803/do-you-have-real-conversations

The foundation of family is important. Building tools that keep these relationships healthy takes intentional effort over time.

By way of what NOT to do, today Chris and Christina talk about the top 12 ways that choosing these repeated behaviors could potentially damage the relationships within your family.

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Today Chris and Christina continue their conversation with Shannon Irwin. Picking up from the last weeks episode in which Shannon talks about her own journey with mentoring, today she talks about her role in the public school system. In her role as New Teacher Liaison, Shannon has the opportunity to mentor Mentor Teachers. She talks about how mentoring looks like on the job, what benefits are provided when you mentor on the job and some practical steps you can take if you want to be a mentor in the workplace.

If today's episode is helpful, like, subscribe...

In today's episode, Chris and Christina interview Shannon Irwin. Shannon is a wife, mother, soon to be mother-in-law, school teacher and mentor. She candidly shares how not having a mentor in her early years affected her. She also talks about the role mentors played in her life to give her tools that have benefited her today. You won't want to miss today's interview on Shannon's journey with mentoring!

Amy Whitson joins Chris and Christina today for part two of talking about learning styles. Why talk about learning styles on a mentoring podcast? Knowing more about another person - including their learning style - is an invaluable deposit into healthy relationships.

Amy Whitson is an educator with over 20 years experience. Amy currently serves as the Culture and Communication Coordinator at Jasco Products linkedin.com/in/amy-whitson-9a2466268.

In part one, Chris and Christina explore the learning styles:

https://vark-learn.com/the-vark-questionnaire/

If you'd like to know more about...

Amy Whitson joins Chris and Christina today in this two-part series about learning styles. Why talk about learning styles on a mentoring podcast? Knowing more about another person - including their learning style - is an invaluable deposit into healthy relationships.

Amy Whitson is an educator with over 20 years experience. Amy currently serves as the Culture and Communication Coordinator at Jasco Products linkedin.com/in/amy-whitson-9a2466268.

In part one, Chris and Christina explore the learning styles:

https://vark-learn.com/the-vark-questionnaire/

If you'd like to know more about The...

Personalities, past experiences and body language ... all of these topics are things to consider in better understanding others. Understanding others help mentors and mentees take their relationships deeper. Today Chris and Christina discuss part two of the complexities of how to better understand others. Taking the time to understand those in your life is a worthwhile undertaking that can deeply affect the relationship for the better.

Topics Chris and Christina will unpack today are understanding that ...

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Personalities, past experiences and body language ... all of these topics are things to consider in better understanding others. Understanding others help mentors and mentees take their relationships deeper. Today Chris and Christina discuss the complexities of how to better understand others. Taking the time to understand those in your life is a worthwhile undertaking that can deeply affect the relationship for the better.

Topics Chris and Christina will unpack today are understanding that ...

What would you like to talk about if you had a trusted mentor? How long do you meet with a mentee? What tools do you use with a mentee? These are common questions when talking about a mentor/mentee relationship.

In part two of How Do You Mentor, Chris and Christina answer these and other frequently asked questions when it comes to the mentor/mentee relationship.

If you are interested in how to host a mentoring workshop in your area, reach out to them!

chris@fahrenheitmentoring.org

christina@fahrenheitmentoring.org

What does it take to be a mentor? It might be easier to talk about what it doesn't take to be a mentor. It doesn't take a lot of time, professional experience or training. What it does take is a desire to invest in another person.

Today's discussion is additional content that can be found in the Fahrenheit: Real Life Mentoring Workshop, Session Four. In today's subject about how to mentor, Chris and Christina talk about what it takes to begin the mentoring adventure with another person.

Again, this is great supplemental content to the...

What is a mentor? What does it take to be a mentor?

Today Chris and Christina will take an in-depth look into what it really takes to be a good mentor. It doesn't take professional training. It doesn't take a special skill set. It does take intentionality and a desire to see authentic connection with another person. YOU can be a mentor if you have your own challenges. YOU can be a mentor if you have experienced hard things. YOU can be a mentor. It just takes real people getting involved in the lives of other real...

Why mentoring? Chris and Christina continue the ongoing conversation centered around the reasons mentoring is a good idea!

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This content is part of a workshop training: A...

Why mentoring? What is the motivation for jumping into a mentoring relationship? Chris and Christina examine this question in this two part series.

Fact: relationships can be exciting, enjoyable and bring fulfillment.

Also a fact: relationships can bring sadness, frustration and hurt.

This is how relationships work. But, investing in a mentoring relationship is worth it!

After over 30 years of working with people, Chris and Christina find that most people want to connect. They want to have an authentic relationship where they feel seen and heard. That is possible in a...

What is mentoring?

Chris and Christina get back to the basics today by talking about some of the most fundamental elements of mentoring. They explore a few concepts and give practical illustrations to help you get a visual of what mentoring is all about.

As they teach mentoring workshops, most of the content is addressed but not to the depth that they will talk about each component of mentoring in today's episode. You get the benefit of a up close and personal "workshop" that takes you deeper into the wonderful world of mentoring.

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In today’s episode, Chris and Christina take an in depth and personal look into the life of Carl Gulley. Carl is a husband, father, pastor and speaker who is learning to embrace living with a non anxious presence. Alongside you, the listener, find out how Carl emerged from his family of origin with an alcoholic father and a saint of a mother into what he currently calls a season of restoration.

You will see the powerful impact of mentoring in his life and how one mentor changed the trajectory of his family by choosing to pour he...

Just why is mentoring important? How does a mentor help a mentee? Today Chris and Christina will explore the answers to those questions. They will take a deep dive into the numerous benefits of mentoring. They will share from their own experiences how mentoring has helped shape them.