The Confident Swinger Podcast
The Confident Swinger is BACK! The Lifestyle can be challenging, with all the thoughts and feelings it can bring up. The Confident Swinger helps you navigate that, while also focusing on YOUR personal journey. It's time for YOU to build your confidence and embrace YOUR badassery!
FINAL EPISODE (of 2025)
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Chad and Jo are taking a little break to recharge. And, we encourage you to do the same.
Have a safe and happy holiday season, and we'll see you sometime in the 2026.
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Changing and Evolving
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Changing and evolving is an important part of life, and an important part of the lifestyle. The times change, and if you aren't willing to change with them, you're going to get left behind.
Chad and Jo talk about what makes it hard, and what makes it important to them.
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Interview with Jamie and Jill
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Jill and Jamie from Omaha, Nebraska are on The Confident Swinger!
We talk about how the LS has changed, and about the challenges, and about different dynamics.
Be sure to listen to this fun conversation!
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What Makes Chad a Good Lover
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Chad is back! And we're talking about what makes him successful, and a good lover, in the Lifestyle.
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Feeling Broken
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Today is a bad day. Jo is in the middle of an emotion storm and feeling super broken. This episode is real, raw emotion. Listen at your own risk.
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Assertive Women
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Today, Jo talks about assertive women in the LS.
Jo talks about some of the reasons why guys like an assertive woman, but even more importantly, Jo talks about why SHE loves to be assertive herself.
And, if you're looking to be more assertive, she gives some tips to help.
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Interview with the Chad
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Chad is in the hot seat! Today, Jo interviews Chad; they talk about their LS journey, how it has changed over the years, and how Chad has grown and changed over the years.
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Talking About Confidence
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Confidence can be a fickle bitch... sometimes you are riding high, and sometimes you bottom out. Chad and Jo talk about the ins and outs of confidence.
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Feeling Unwanted
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Feeling unwanted is something that probably everyone has felt at some point. It's not a popular feeling, but it's common enough, even in the LS.
Jo shares her latest experience in feeling unwanted, and how she managed it.
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Putting Too Much Pressure on Yourself
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We are often our own worst enemy, and sometimes, that means that we put a lot of pressure on ourselves. Sometimes, that means we put TOO much pressure on ourselves. And that takes all the fun out of life, and out of the LS.
Today, Chad and Jo talk about putting too much pressure on yourself and offer some tips and advice for managing that.
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100,000 Thanks!
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We hit 100,000 downloads! And as a special thank you to all of our listeners, Chad and Jo recorded this special bonus episode. Chad puts Jo in the hot seat and gets her thoughts on the journey of the first 100,000 downloads of The Confident Swinger Podcast.
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Letting Your Partner Initiate
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In this episode, Chad and Jo talk about which person initiates in a play situation. He often leaves it up to Jo, so he knows that she is comfortable and wants to play. And while that is a good strategy, it often puts the pressure on her.
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What the LS Brings to Us
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Last time, or last time we were together, we talked about what the LS means to us each, individually. In today's episode, Jo and Chad talk about what the LS has brought to their relationship. Spoiler alert, it's brought a lot, good and bad. Extra spoiler alert, even the bad has brought good.
Extra spoiler alert, I shouldn't be trusted to write the show notes high...
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When NOT to Play
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Ideally, the Lifestyle is meant to enhance your life and your relationship. But there are times when that doesn't happen... there are times when it breaks people down and tears them apart.
The key is to know when to participate, and when to take a step back and NOT play. Jo talks about some things to look for, some warning signs, so you know when it's time to take a break and focus on your relationship.
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What the LS Means to Me
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In today's episode, Jo and Chad each share 5 ways that the LS has changed or improved their lives.
Couples are made up of individuals, and it's important to understand your own personal why, as well as your why as a couple.
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Vanilla vs. LS Travel
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Jo and Chad just got back from a vanilla cruise, and they talk about their experiences with vanilla travel versus lifestyle travel.
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Some Good Advice
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Jo and Chad are headed on vacation, but we wanted to give you a quickie episode with some of our favorite pieces of advice.
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Don't Kiss & Tell
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Today, Chad and Jo talk about sex. Or, more precisely, they talk about PEOPLE talking about sex.
People are going to talk, it's human nature. They are going to talk about their experiences, good or bad. And in the LS, that often includes sexual experiences, which can cause some unintentional problems.
Chad and Jo warn against the natural desire to kiss and tell, and against the desire to hear all the dirty details. Remember, there are real people, with real feelings, on the other side of that story.
<...Let's Talk about Flirting
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In today's episode, Jo talks about one of the things that a lot of people struggle with in the LS... flirting.
Flirting is important, especially in the LS. And it can really make or break your success. The most important thing about flirting is the way you feel about it, so don't put too much pressure on yourself. There is no right or wrong way to flirt, there is just you, being you.
Jo gives some ideas and tips to get you more comfortable with flirting, and to hopefully...
Let's Talk About Sex
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Chad and Jo talk about sex in the LS... the good and the bad. They talk about what makes sex so good, and some of the things that make it challenging.
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Holding Your Partner Back
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Sometimes, it can feel like you are holding your partner back in the LS. Like, maybe, they would have more fun or have more opportunities if you weren't there. In today's episode, Chad and Jo talk about holding your partner back.
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Lifestyle Vibe
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In today's episode, Jo gets a little vulnerable and talks about her healing journey through the lifestyle. And she talks about her annual girl's trip, and how healing that is for her, too.
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Chemistry vs. Comfortability
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Do you find yourself playing with the same people? If so, have you ever wondered why?
Is it because you have good chemistry with them?
Is it because you are comfortable with them, and that makes it easy?
Or is it somewhere in between?
Today, Jo and Chad talk about chemistry and comfortability in repeat play partners. And, if you keep going back to the same play partner, are you stopping them from making new connections with other people? Let's talk about it.
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Getting Things Started in a Group Setting
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It can be awkward to initiate the play in a group setting. It seems like everyone wants it to happen, but nobody makes the first move.
Jo and Chad talk about what makes it awkward or hard, and offers some ideas and suggestions for getting things started.
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TCS: Navigating the LS if You're Overweight
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In this episode, Chad and Jo talk about navigating the LS as overweight people.
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TCS: Talking to the Partner
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In today's episode, Chad and Jo talk about talking to the partner of someone you are interested in playing with. They talk about whether or not it is important or expected, what you should and maybe should not say, and when. They talk about the importance of respect.4
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Getting Out of a Not So Confident Slump
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Everyone gets into a slump sometimes and feels less than confident. Today, Jo talks about ways to pull yourself out of the slump.
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TCS: Am I Too Picky?
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In today's episode, Jo talks about being too picky. And she talks about being in your head and overthinking things.
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Playtionship Break-ups
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Playtionships, or the relationship between play partners, often end. Sometimes they end organically, and sometimes one person or one couple ends it. It's easy to say that it's ok to end things, but the reality is that sometimes it's challenging. It can be hard for everyone involved.
Today, Chad and Jo talk about that.
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LS Break-ups
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Break-ups are a part of life, and when it happens in the LS it's even harder for everyone to navigate.
Today, Chad and Jo talk about navigating through the break-ups, whether you are on the inside or outside.
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Summertime Shortie Episode
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Just a quickie episode, and intro to summer/call out for Jo's birthday.
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Closing the Deal
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One of the things that people struggle with the most in the lifestyle is closing the deal... actually getting to the play. Jo and Chad talk about their struggles with closing the deal and give some perspective and tips to hopefully make it a little bit easier for you. So, listen up! And then go close that deal!
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Making the First Move
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In today's episode, Jo rereleases episode 4 from June of 2022, making the first move. It's a fan favorite, full of great ideas.
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Having No Expectations... Easier Said Than Done
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Jo and Chad talk about going into LS situations with no expectations. It's easy to say that, but it's a lot harder to do it in real life. Our brains like to create expectations of how the night or the event is going to go, and that can lead to disappointment.
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Going from Online to Real Life
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People often try to meet LS people online, whether on websites, apps, or social media. And it can be challenging to go from talking to someone online, where it's "safe" to the real world where you don't have a keyboard to hide behind. Chad and Jo talk about the challenges of that.
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Don't Label an Experience as Bad
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Not all LS experiences are unicorns and rainbows. Often, they can be uncomfortable, or even what some people label as bad.
In today's episode, Jo talks about reasons why you shouldn't label your LS experiences as bad, because it could just make a "bad" situation even worse.
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Putting Together a Meet N Greet
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Jo and Chad talk about the challenges of hosting a meet and greet.
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TCS: When NOT to Play
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The LS can be a lot of fun and can enhance your life and your relationship. But, it can also bring a lot of drama if your own relationship is not rock solid. Don't bring other people into your drama... know when NOT to play.
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The Confident Swinger is BACK!
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The Confident Swinger is BACK! The show has gone through some changes, but we are back to the original and ready to be better than ever. Thanks for sticking with us and giving it another shot!
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Taking a Break
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Wendy is taking a much-needed break to focus on her own mental health and healing. It's a see you a later, not a good-bye.
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