Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
How do I stay in the moment and truly enjoy sex? What's stopping me from orgasming with my partner? I'm ready to explore my kinks and fantasies in the bedroom; where do I start? You and your fantasies aren't broken -- but your sex ed probably was. I'm DB, sex educator with a Masters of Public Health and host of Sex Ed with DB -- your go-to podcast for smart, science-backed sex education, featuring trusted insights from conversations with top experts about everything you've been too scared to ask about sex. And this season? We're going ALL IN ON PLEASURE. ...
Three Secrets to a Thriving Sex Life with Dr. Emily Nagoski (Re-release)
As we gear up for Season 15, we're bringing you one of our favorites from the archive! In this re-release, you'll hear DB talk with THE Dr. Emily Nagoski, author of Come As You Are, about ways to keep your sex life thriving and pleasure-focused.
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DR. EMILY NAGOSKI is the award-winning author of the New York Times bestselling Come As You Are and The Come As You Are Workbook, and coauthor, with her sister, Amelia, of New York Times bestseller Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. Her latest book is Come...
Introducing Pleasure People
Pleasure People is the series that uncovers the science of pleasure through real research and the people who lived it. A thousand people. Three weeks. One question science rarely asks outright: what does daily pleasure actually do for you?
In this 6-part limited audio series, hosted by veteran sex educator Danielle Bezalel, Pleasure People follows eight participants of a first-of-its-kind intervention study that tracked pleasure's impact on sleep, stress, relationship satisfaction, and so much more. You'll hear directly from these participants about what it was like to have pleasure assigned and the lasting impact the study had...
BEST OF: SEX WITH CONFIDENCE
In this Best Of episode, we're talking all about how to have sex with confidence, from initiation to maybe even some domination. You'll hear clips from:
Initiating Sex with Confidence with Whitni Miller Feminine Domination and Power Play with Midori
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Whitni Miller is a queer couples intimacy coach helping people build deeper connection, playful pleasure, and authentic desire. Follow @bde.moves on Instagram for tips, real talk, and tools to transform your intimate life. ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABOUT PLEASURE! Solo pleasure. Partnered pleasure. Orgasms...
What does the porn I watch say about me?
If I watch taboo porn, does that mean I want taboo sex? If I watch gay porn, does that mean I'm secretly gay and I just don't realize it? Today, DB breaks down a listener question so many of us have thought before in our lives: do my porn preferences reflect something about me? Let's break some myths and dive into what your porn-watching habits may or (probably) may not mean about your real-world preferences.
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Eating Ass and Anal Fisting: Advanced Anal with Luna Matatas
The AMAZING Luna Matatas is back for another episode ALL ABOUT THE BOOTY! She brought us a 101 back in Season 13 (see below for a link to that episode), and now she's back to talk about the next steps. Anal fisting! Eating ass! And -- a trendy tattoo a bunch of cishet men are maybe now regretting, if internet lore is ever to be trusted?
IN THIS EPISODE: Season 13's "Seducing the Booty: Tips for Pleasurable Anal Play with Luna Matatas" ; Luna's workshops and classes; WE LOVE UBERLUBE!
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How do I get invited to a play party? (Between Us)
We're back with another Between Us episode -- and this time, we're talking play parties! What is a play party? What are the expectations for going to one? Do you have to dive headfirst into an orgy? Do you have to show up in lingerie or nothing at all? And how do you get invited to one, anyway? This week, Cady S. Moore talks all about her experiences with play parties to help unravel the mystery for you!
ABOUT OUR GUEST: Cady S. Moore, MPH is a queer, kinky, polyamorous, disabled, and neurodivergent sex educator and the...
Yes, Mistress: Professional Domination Stories with Mistress Marley
Buckle in for a wild one: today, DB talks with Mistress Marley all about her work as a professional Dominatrix! Hear what it's like to dominate clients for a living -- including stories aboput her most frequent requests, her biggest surprises, and one of her best clients of all time. Listeners, you're not going to be able to predict his story. If you're still out there, client, we cannot stop thinking about you.
ABOUT OUR GUEST: Mistress Marley is an award-winning Femdom educator, professional Dominatrix, entrepreneur, and the creator of the nationally recognized Goddess Brunch. Through her...
How do we find time for sex when we're both so busy?
So we're supposed to have time for work, chores, figuring out dinner, maybe even having a family or friends, AND a sex life? In this economy? Let's talk about how to actually have sex with your sexual partner(s) even when you're juggling the jam-packed schedules of adulthood. And speaking of schedules: let's also talk about why scheduling sex is NOT a turn-off!
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The Ultimate Guide to Eating Pussy with Shameless Sex's Amy Baldwin
Last season, we had Amy Baldwin on to talk sucking dick. This season, we have her on to talk eating pussy! Join our new queen or oral to learn about everything cunnilingus. From tactics to busting myths to how to get out of your own head while receiving, this episode is your go-to guide for going down on vulvas.
ABOUT OUR GUEST: Amy Baldwin is a sex and relationship coach, certified sex educator, co-host of the Shameless Sex podcast, two-time winner of the Sexpert of the Year award, lead educator for Uberlube, and co-owner of a mother-daughter...
How long should it take to ejaculate -- and what actually counts as premature ejaculation?
You've definitely heard the term "premature ejaculation" -- but has anyone ever told you what it actually means? What constitutes "premature"? What's a normal amount of time it should take someone to ejaculate? And when should someone reach out to a healthcare provider if they think they mightr be experiencing premature ejaculations? Let's unpack this all, bust some myths, and lay down some actual definitions.
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Why Porn Addiction Isn't A Thing with Dr. Nikky Prause
What is a "gooner" and what do they have to do with so-called porn addictions? DB sits down with Dr. Nikky Prause, a clinical scientist and researcher who's written on everything from asexuality to penis size preference to compulsive sexual behavior. And we found her in a pretty interesting way... from a YouTube video that claims to be a look into a real gooner's life and struggles, all revolving around a porn addiction. Dr. Prause was a featured expert -- but what's her side of the story?
IN THIS EPISODE: The YouTube video in question, "Inside Gooning...
Should I give up on men?
Can someone have a healthy sexual relationship with cis men... even if they don't want to give head? Even if they want to RECEIVE head but not give it? Even if they don't really want penetration at all? Or should they just give up on men altogether? In this episode, DB weighs in on this question -- and the answer is a lot more nuanced than you might think. Just like a lot of cis men are!
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Lick My Toes: The History of the Foot Fetish with Adam Zmith
Season 14 and we're JUST NOW doing an episode on the foot fetish?! It's about time! DB talks with Adam Zmith, author of "Solemates: A History of Our Fetish for Feet", about why so many people love feet. This fetish, kink, and interest has such a rich history and some fun statistics that might shock you like they shocked us.
IN THIS EPISODE: Adam Zmith's book "Solemates: A History of Our Fetish for Feet"; Adam Zmith's book "Deep Sniff A History of Poppers and Queer Futures"; foot strokers; sensation play: the Shakti Wonderball, accupressure mats, the Little Ouchies...
Sex Ed? Six Figures! With Podcaster & Educator Danielle Bezalel (DB on Other People's Pockets)
Ever wondered how we make this show? Even if you're familiar with the business of podcasts (think programmtic ads read by strangers), you might be surprised by how we do it here. We're featuring an episode of Other People's Pockets with DB as a guest, talking about how we fund this show and its team! (Did you know we have a team of lovely amazing people? Check the bottom of our show notes for the credits!)
Hear DB announce something new and SO EXCITING: monetizeyourindiepod.com ! If you're a podcaster who feels stuck in a rut, masking...
Libido Pills and the Myth of the Quick Libido Fix with Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt
What if there was a pill that could radically change how women feel desire? In this episode, DB talks to her mom, the incredible Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt, about libido pills. What can they do -- and what's more marketing than reality? Are pills like Addyi the "Viagra for women"?
FROM THIS EPISODE: "Testosterone, Pleasure, and the Libido Myth with Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt" from Season 13; "Hyposexuality Disorder with Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt" from Season 4; Listen to the Sex and Psychology Podcast here to go to an episode we love on your podcast app of choice!
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Why am I nervous about getting strapped?
My sweet sapphics, are we stressed about the strap? Let's talk about it. In this episode, DB answers an anonymous listener question about anxiety around a new, exciting, queer sexual act. Remember: it's okay to be nervous! Let's unpack why sometimes, even things that sound awesome can be a little scary.
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The Polycule Episode with Rachel Wright
It seems like everybody is talking about polycules right now -- but what are they actually? How do polycules work? What makes a polcule appeal to people? DB talks to the incredible Rachel Wright about everything polycules, from busting myths to talking about the joy of love outside of the framework of monogamy.
ABOUT OUR GUEST: Rachel Wright, MA, LMFT (she/her) is a licensed psychotherapist, speaker, and educator specializing in modern relationships, mental health, and sex, known for translating clinical insight into practical, relatable guidance. She has worked with thousands of clients worldwide and brings an...
Why do I fantasize about things I would never want in real life?
In this episode, DB answers an anonymous listener question about the differences between fantasies and what we want in real life. Remember: fantasies are just that. They don't make you a bad person! Let's dive into our psyches and see what the root of the fantasy might be -- and how those fantasies are trying to give us something we crave.
ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question.
ALSO LISTEN TO: "The Pleasure of Subbing with Lina Dune" and "Weird Sex Facts with Rachel Feltman"<...
The Truth About BV and Intimacy with Daniella Levy
If you have a vagina, there's a nonzero chance you've dealt with vaginal discomfort: itching, burning, strange discharge, pain, or something just feeling off. You are absolutely not alone. Today, DB sits down to talk with Daniella Levy, one of the co-founders of Happy V. What's it like having chronic Bqacterial Vaginosis -- and what's it like finally being free from it? We're SO PROUD to be partnered with Happy V here at the show!
ABOUT OUR GUEST: Daniella Levy is the co-founder of Happy V, a women's wellness company on a mission to provide science-back, transparently...
Am I a bad person for paying for sex?
Today, we're answering a listener question about sex work from the perspective of a client. Is it bad to pay for sex? Why did it make this listener feel awful afterwards? It's time to dispel some myths about sex work and see what the root of this shame might be.
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FROM THIS EPISODE: Come to our Bi Flirting Night on 6/12 in Oakland, CA! | Our episode "The Realities of Queer Disabled Sex and Pleasure with Andrew Gurza" | Our episode "...
Sex, Dating, and Finding Your Pleasure After Divorce with Dr. Lexx Brown-James
In this episode, DB welcomes back three-time guest Dr. Lexx Brown-James to talk about what she's learned from working with folks in relationships for almost two decades. From gaining confidence to giving yourself the time you need to the dating apps, let's break down some of what post-divorce folks might experience in dating. What is it like getting back into the dating pool after a divorce? In one word, according to Dr. Lexx: intentional.
ABOUT OUR GUEST: Dr. Lexx Brown-James, LMFT, CSE, CSES is a premiere sexologist centering pleasure as a connective tool for shame free sexuality...
How do I balance religion and my sexual desires?
In this episode, DB answers an anonymous question from a listener about how to manage religious beliefs with changing views on sex, desire, and relationships. What does it mean when who we're becoming clashing with who we think we're supposed to be -- and how does that impact our relationships?
ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question.
FURTHER LISTENING: Our episode "Sex, Spirituality, and Religion with Reverend Pleasure"
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Pleasure as Resistance with Ericka Hart
Welcome to Season 14! We're kicking it off with an incredible conversation with Ericka Hart, author of the new book Nasty Work: Resist Systems, Explore Desire, and Liberate Yourself! DB talks to Ericka about colonization, pleasure, shame, joy, and working in sex ed.
ABOUT OUR GUEST: Ericka Hart (pronouns: she/they) is a black queer femme activist, writer, highly acclaimed speaker and award-winning sexuality educator with a Master's of Education in Human Sexuality from Widener University.
IN THIS EPISODE: Ericka's book: Nasty Work: Resist Systems, Explore Desire, and Liberate Yourself (this is an affiliate link, which...
Start Here: Pleasure, Orgasms, Kink, & Better Sex | Sex Ed with DB
We are coming back with Season 14 on May 20th, 2026! Join us in this new pleasure season of conversations with sex ed experts, answering anonymous questions from real listeners, and takes on the sexual wellness news and media happening right now. Want to have your question answered by DB on an episode? There's still time!
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Late Bloomer Lesbianism with YouTuber Alayna Joy (Re-Release)
This week, we're re-releasing a favorite episode from the archives. In 2023, DB talked with creator Alayna Joy all about coming out as a lesbian later in life. Let's talk about why it can take people a while to figure out their queerness, how those realizations come about, and what they mean for us.
If you like this episode, be sure to listen to our episode from earlier in season 13!: "Baby Gay, Big Pleasure: Coming Out Later in Life with Eva Bloom"
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Alayna Joy is an outdoor-loving, vegan eating, LGBTQ+ content creator...
Ask a Sex Educator: Unfiltered Answers On Performance Anxiety, Body Odor and Toys w/ Danielle Bezalel (DB on Dating Intentionally)
If you like Sex Ed with DB, you're going to love Dating Intentionally!
Talia Koren chats with Danielle to explore common misconceptions about sex and why it's time to rethink what counts as sex. We also dive into using sex toys on your own, plus how to bring them up in a relationship. And at the end, Danielle answers all the questions you might be too embarrassed to ask anywhere else about things like body odor, performance anxiety, being on top, and so much more. I hope you enjoy this educational and judgment-free convo!
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Give Mindblowing Blowjobs with Shameless Sex Hosts Amy Baldwin and April Lampert (Re-Release)
Today, we're releasing one of our favorite episodes all about blowjobs (or blobbies?) with Amy and April of Shameless Sex! Be sure to subscribe to their podcast -- if you love Sex Ed with DB, you'll love Shameless Sex too.
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This episode discusses coersion around oral sex -- both oral sex that has been coerced, and oral sex as a tool to coerce. To avoid this conversation, skip from minute 14 to minute 20. Take care of yourselves!
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Amy is a Sex and Relationship Coach, Certified Sex Educator, lead...
Viagra for Cramps? (from CRAMPED)
If you like Sex Ed with DB, you're going to love CRAMPED!
We know Viagra (sildenafil citrate) as a treatment for...one specific male problem. But a 2013 study showed it could potentially be SHOCKINGLY effective for dysmenorrhea. So what happened in that study? Why would a boner pill work for period pain? and why didn't it go anywhere?
CRAMPED episodes are intended for informational and entertainment purposes only, and are not medical advice.
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BEST OF: TRANS SEX
In this Best Of episode, we've compiled some of our favorite conversations all about trans sex. What's different about having sex as a trans person, with a trans person, or as a trans person with another trans person (we see you and love you, t4t folks). With a lot of laughs and a lot of heart, let's dive into the world of trans sex. And check out Elle and Ezra's hilarious viral video, "A Day in the Life of a Trans Couple"!
TRANS CREATORS WE'RE LOVING
Kat Blaque on YouTube and Instagram Liam Lazore on...The Staircase (from The Longest Shortest Time)
This week, we're bringing you an episode from one of our favorite podcasts -- The Longest Shortest Time!
From TLST: We're back after a 5-year hiatus! Hillary kicks us off with a story about her anxiety over her daughter's first experience with unwanted male attention — and her subsequent misadventures in trying to get the girl's school to teach consent.
Artwork for this episode by Lindsay Stripling.
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BEST OF: BDSM
Rihanna voice: S S S & M M M! In this Best Of, we're bringing you the Best of BDSM from our archive. If you're curious about getting kinda kinky, this episode might just give you the motivation to start -- and make sure you're being safe and asking the right questions.
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BEST OF: DESIRE
We're rounding out the end of Season 13 with some best of episodes mixing together some of our favorite clips from our archive! This week, we've got the best of DESIRE, from biology to psychology to culture!
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13 Lessons for 13 Seasons of Sex Ed with DB
And so ends Season 13! We'll be back soon with more, but for now, here's 13 lessons DB has learned from going 13 seasons strong! Have any topics you'd like us to cover on Season 14? We're planning right now -- so it's a great time to email and let us know at sexedwithdb@gmail.com!
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What 1,500 Women Taught Us About Sensuality with Emily Bendell (Bluebella)
This week's episode is about an underrated -- and often misreprensented -- asset for pleasure: lingerie! Lingerie can make you feel powerful, beautiful, and sensual, even if you're not with a cishet male partner, or any partner at all! In this episode, DB speaks with Emily Bendell, founder of Bluebella, one of the greatest lingerie brands DB's found yet!
GUEST DETAILSBluebella was born from a simple idea to create luxurious and sensual lingerie for self-assured women. Founded on the belief that strength and sensuality belong in the everyday, Bluebella understands that beautiful lingerie sets a powerful tone...
Prostate orgasms vs penile orgasms: what's the difference?
Last week, we talked to Luna Matatas about seducing the butt -- but today, we'll go even deeper (wink wink) on the prostate! What is a prostate orgasm? How do you have one and/or give your partner(s) one? How is it different from a penile orgasm? Let's explore this fun part of the body and find even more pleasure!
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Seducing the Booty: Tips for Pleasurable Anal Play with Luna Matatas
This week's episode is all about BUTT STUFF! From penetration to rimming to spanking, there can be so much pleasure found in the butt -- yes, even if you're a straight man, and yes, even if you're a cis woman! DB interviews Luna Matatas, THE expert on all things booty, about how to get the most pleasure out of your (or a consenting partner's) butt!
GUEST DETAILSLuna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 20 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops. Luna has taught sexual wellness workshops internationally and locally with diverse communities. She...
Why do some early experiences turn into lifelong fetishes?
Ever look back on a childhood memory and realize it maybe awakened something in you that you're just now finding... very, very interesting? One of our incredible (and very brave, we LOVE you for this) listeners sent in a question about being in this predicament. Do childhood experiences impact our sexual interests, kinks, and/or fetishes? Why? What's going on psychologically? And does anyone have some ground beef? Asking for... reasons.
Have a burning question for DB? Send us an email at sexedwithdb@gmail.com!
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Hardwired for Connection: Intimacy, Pleasure, and Survival with Dr. Justin Garcia
Are we in an intimacy and loneliness crisis? And if so, what's so bad about that? A lot more than you might think. Dr. Justin Garcia's new book The Intimate Animal: The Science of Sex, Fidelity, and Why We Live and Die for Love details why intimacy is VITAL for survival in the human species. We are social animals, and that's not something the digital age can get around. Join DB for this BRILLIANT conversation with Dr. Justin Garcia all about what intimacy is, how it works, and why we need it.
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What happens in the brain during an orgasm?
So what ACTUALLY happens in our brains during orgasm to make it feel so good? In this episode, DB breaks down the brain chemistry and neuroscience behind orgasms. Learn about what endorphins actually are (and aren't), the other chemicals in your brain creating other sensations, and how everything comes together ;)
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Baby Gay, Big Pleasure: Coming Out Later in Life with Eva Bloom
Coming out later in life? Welcome to you! Coming out is such a personal process, whether you're coming out to yourself or your loved ones. In this episode, DB talks with queer coach Eva Bloom all about what coming out later in life can look like.
GUEST DETAILSEva Bloom (they/them) is a queer & trans late bloomer coach, community facilitator, and inclusive sex-ed speaker. With training in social psychology and their own lived experience, they help adults come into their queerness with confidence, and university & college students have healthy relationships. Eva is the founder of the digital...
