Oversharing
Oversharing from Betches Media is all about the challenges we face in all kinds of relationships; from friendships to family, long term partnerships or even dealing with the customer service rep that makes you want to scream into a pillow. Betches co-founder and relationship enthusiast Jordana Abraham has teamed up with her big sister, licensed clinical therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein, to answer your questions and try to get to the bottom of the things that bother us most. Think of Jordana and Dr. Naomi as your BFF and your therapist, sitting side-by-side at the brunch table trying to help you...
Do I Have to Choose Between Motherhood and My Career?
Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off with a conversation about the impossible choices many women feel forced to make between career and motherhood, and why the real problem isn't "girlboss vs. tradwife" but the lack of policies that allow parents to build balanced lives. This week's Overshare asks whether planning for a future family means turning down career opportunities today, while a Betchesist grapples with feeling like a fraud after being diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes despite dedicating her career to public health. An Intention helps an emailer survive painfully forced workplace icebreakers without losing her mind. Finally, two...
Am I Improving My Health Or Feeding My Anxiety?
Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off by reflecting on birthdays, aging, and the surprising grief that can come with realizing adulthood may not look as financially comfortable as you once imagined. They explore how accepting lifestyle expectations can shape everything from dating to happiness, and why comparison is often the thief of contentment. This week's Betchesist seeks advice on navigating the fine line between improving her health and becoming consumed by health anxiety after an autoimmune diagnosis. An Overshare about a dog sitter who took "make yourself at home" a little too literally sparks an unexpected debate about...
How Do I Help My Adult Daughter Be More Independent?
This week on Oversharing, Jordana spirals over a very relatable parenting dilemma: did Ronnie the dog have the time of his life at daycare, or is he secretly devastated and unable to tell her? Then, Dr. Naomi and Jordana help an emailer navigate her 19-year-old daughter’s fear of driving and the fine line between support and enabling. This week’s Betchesist writes in after discovering her entire branch of the family was left off a cousin’s wedding guest list, sparking a conversation about family loyalty, boundaries, and wedding politics. Dr. Naomi’s Intention is for a mom struggli...
Is My Husband Emotionally Ready To Buy A House With Me?
Jordana and Dr. Naomi kick things off by catching up about Naomi’s visit with Jordana’s twins and the humbling reality that babies don’t always warm up to eager aunts right away. They discuss the emotional pull of reconnecting with old friends, whether New York is calling Naomi back, and Jordana’s surprisingly complicated reaction to the Knicks’ championship win. Then they jump into listener complaints, starting with house-hunting tensions between newlyweds. A Betchesist shares her very real experience of gender disappointment during pregnancy. We set an intention this week that the feeling arising from grief is not always...
How Do I Communicate My Boundaries With My In Laws?
To kick things off, Dr. Naomi and Jordana get into why keeping your space tidy is starting to feel less like a chore and more like a form of self-care—especially for busy parents. Then, they hear from a listener struggling to navigate boundaries with her in-laws… whom she’s somehow already seeing multiple times a week. This week’s Betchicist also dives into in-law dynamics, but from a different angle: a listener whose husband feels uncomfortable with her breastfeeding in front of her family. Later, they respond to a voicemail from a beginner tennis player who’s having trouble ma...
The Difference Between Setting Boundaries and Avoiding Accountability
This week on Oversharing, Jordana and Dr. Naomi unpack why it can feel more upsetting when someone quietly backs out of a commitment than when they simply say no. A listener writes in after a friend offers to dog-sit, only to seemingly retract the offer without actually owning the change of heart. The hosts discuss the difference between setting boundaries and avoiding discomfort, why indirect communication can feel so invalidating, and how a little honesty can go a long way in preserving trust. Plus, they share advice for navigating disappointment when expectations don't match reality.
Can I Maintain A Friendship With My Boss?
Jordana spirals over posting her kids on social media, and Dr. Naomi talks her off the ledge while shamelessly lobbying for more niece content. After surviving law school together, one Betch is struggling not to resent the fact that her partner works fewer hours, makes way more money, and somehow still has time to relax. Another listener is convinced she’s torched her relationship with her boss after reacting less-than-gracefully to a workplace screw-up. Looking to break her phone-call phobia, one woman asks the hosts for the verbal equivalent of being thrown into the deep end. A boudoir shoot me...
How Can I Handle My House Buying Dread?
Dr. Naomi got a Mother’s Day gift that left her feeling like her family didn’t understand her and she shares her disappointment while Jordana reveals that she forgot a friends birthday and is concerned she came off as a bad friend. A recent bride reveals that one of her bridesmaids got too drunk to enjoy the wedding and she is feeling like it might be time to sunset this friendship. Seeking advice for how to handle a neighborhood situation, a woman writes in about a dog owner that lets their pet run loose in the playground and wond...
Is My Jealousy Obvious?
Jordana is discovering that motherhood hits a little different when the night nurse clocks out and suddenly the tiny screaming roommates are fully her problem. During an extra hot hike a listener has a panic attack that has left her dreading her happy place and Dr. Naomi breaks down how episodes like these can lead to phobias. A Betch wrestles with the modern mom dilemma of when you see another parent posting objectively unsafe nonsense online and Jordana and Dr. Naomi give their take on how best (or not) to butt in with your two cents. Another listener wonders...
Do I Have To Divulge My Affair?
Jordana is nervous about flying with two infants and Dr. Naomi reminds her that mothers have survived far worse with less caffeine and fewer snacks. A listener who’s the breadwinner in her marriage is annoyed after a friend decides to cosplay as a relationship economist and make wildly out-of-pocket comments about their dynamic. After an affair earlier in her life, a Betch wonders how important it is to divulge this past transgression to future partners. One woman is emotionally held hostage by her cat son, feeling exhausted by his constant demands for play and she’s looking for a wa...
Is My Partner A Bad Gift Giver?
Dr. Naomi admits that “self-care” is basically just doing your chores but romanticizing them, and she and Jordana swap what mundane tasks they find “healing.” After enduring a difficult pregnancy and trauma bonding with another new mom, a mom is feeling the friendship has run its course but doesn’t know how to gracefully exit the relationship. With Mother’s Day looming, one Betch is spiraling because her husband—historically allergic to good gift ideas—swears he has a “surprise,” which honestly feels more like a threat. Jordana also sets an intention for a listener deep in the TTC anxiety spiral, tryi...
Is My Pain All In My Head?
As Jordana racks up firsts with her baby girls, she’s reacquainting herself with the wondrous magic of childlike wonder and Dr. Naomi drops in with the science of why awe is emotional medicine. After a listener’s pet goes missing, she sheds her shame about the guilt she feels for letting it happen and the hosts break down the grief of ambiguous losses. Elsewhere, one Betch side-eyes a “healthy” company discount that turns out to be less of a perk and more of a pyramid-shaped red flag. Another mom is stuck in her own head about her kids eating “...
Is My Partner Flirting At The Office?
Jordana lets Dr. Naomi go off about the absolute pyramid scheme vibes of kids’ sports leagues, and in the process starts side-eyeing the whole operation herself. One listener spirals over a brutally honest comment she dropped on her partner—could it wreck the relationship, or is this just her messy past popping off again? Meanwhile, a woman deep in IVF limbo wonders if bringing her first kid to appointments is thoughtful or wildly tone-deaf, and Jordana weighs in with a take. One woman finds that she is a sponge for her fiance’s bad moods and she asks for an int...
How Can I Overcome My Interview Nerves?
As Dr. Naomi embraces being a teen mom, she and Jordana get into the age old topic when it comes to raising kids: are you raising a child or a bestie? One listener shares how her best friend let her live in a rent-stabilized dream for years only to take it back via text with five weeks’ notice and she ponders if that was enough to end the entire friendship. A bride writes in after her fiancé’s random female friend asks for a plus-one and the hosts debate whether the guest was out of line or just trying to ha...
Why Do Women Still Change Their Last Names?
Jordana is knee-deep in the name-change process, which spirals into an analysis with Dr. Naomi about why women are *still* doing this and why even the most self-proclaimed feminist men suddenly get real traditional when it’s their last name on the line. Meanwhile, one woman is desperately trying to figure out how to politely uninvite a new friend from her recipe club after a series of truly rancid vibe clashes, sparking a broader convo about how groups love to turn cliquey the second you look away. Elsewhere, a Betch navigating a family estrangement wants to know if she’s ju...
Am I Stuck In This Over-Scheduled Life?
After a family trip to the middle of nowhere (aka a “serene national park”), Dr. Naomi spirals into a full-on meaning-of-life crisis while Jordana gently asks if she’s about to abandon civilization and start churning her own butter. Meanwhile, one new mom is side-eyeing her friend’s nonstop baby updates and wondering: is this motherhood… or a humblebrag Olympics? One Betch questions the ethics of calling yourself a “Dr.” when the degree might not exactly be for doctoring, and Dr. Naomi brings some of her expertise to the debate. Devastating news from an amino scan has a listener and her partne...
Am I Too Selfish For Motherhood?
As Jordana shares stories of her dog Ron’s jealousy of the new babies, Dr. Naomi remembers her pet Ralphie and wonders if he felt ignored when her children arrived many years ago. A fellow “type-b mother” sheds her shame and confesses her maternal instincts are often second nature to her personal survival skills, and she asks if it spells trouble for her kids. On the topic of dogs again, a woman is irked that her co-workers' fear of four legged creatures is banning the office mascot from bringing joy to her cubicle every Friday and she is hell bent o...
How Can I Stay Balanced When I’m Provoked?
Jordana and Dr. Naomi are back to regularly scheduled recordings after Jordana welcomed her baby girls and the two hosts are already plotting their next IRL hangout with the entire gang. An overstimulated mom overshares her guilt after forgetting a friend's birthday and fears her apology didn’t smooth things over as she had hoped. An expecting Betch is blindsided when her bestie stakes claim to a wildly common baby name, forcing her to choose between her friendship or her child’s namesake. A single mom dealing with an ex-husband who seems to exist purely to test her blood pres...
Can I Say "No" To My BFF’s Bachelorette Party?
Jordana shares how being pregnant made her respect her body more and she and Dr. Naomi chat about how their mindset around exercise has shifted to health over vanity. With a friend’s wedding turning into a week-long Olympic event of mandatory joy, one Betch wonders if skipping a few side quests officially earns her the title of Worst Friend Alive. Now that baby number two is on the way, a listener’s guest room turned bedroom has her wondering how to tell her in-laws and parents to find a hotel next time they’re in town. Dr. Naomi shares...
Can Ozempic Make You Happier?
As Jordana prepares for the birth of her second child, she and Dr. Naomi unpack how social media is engineered to spike anxiety, especially as Jordana gears up for labor. One listener writes in about her chronically grumpy father-in-law who’s suddenly sunshine and light after starting Ozempic, and she’s left wondering what to do with her lingering resentment now that he’s a “new person.” Another Betch has been excluded from a splashy upcoming family vacation and can’t decide what stings more: not being invited or the fact that the trip sounds like her personal nightmare. After a stret...
Has My Germ Phobia Gone Too Far?
As time moves quickly by and her children grow up, Dr. Naomi makes changes to the family room at home that reflect everyone's current needs, including her own. A daughter is stressed out by her mother's bad driving but doesn't know how to tell her aging parent it might be time to ditch the car and start calling ubers. Caught in a pickle, a listener asks if there is a polite way to ditch her friends at a comedy show after being given better seats to the same event. One Betch’s germ phobia is starting to take over al...
Is Forgetting A Birthday A Big Deal?
Jordana asks Dr. Naomi about the usefulness of therapy when things are going well in life, and Dr. Naomi shares some sage advice from a seasoned psychologist. A birthday betch is feeling salty after her bestie completely skips acknowledging her big day and wants to know: red flag or honest oversight? Flying solo on a group vacation is leaving a listener with a less than desirable sleep arrangement and she wonders if bailing for her own hotel room is acceptable. After a surprise pregnancy, a woman is spiraling through an endless loop of “what ifs” and looks to Jordana and...
Is This White Lie A Red Flag?
As Valentine’s day rapidly approaches, Dr. Naomi and Jordana explore the topic of partnership and discuss if people can ever truly be happy while single. After a rude comment from her fiancé, a hardworking Betch frets that the financial situation in her relationship is a breeding ground for resentment. Another listener has an awkward moment with a new partner that exposes a “harmless” white lie, except it might be waving a much bigger red flag. Dr. Naomi shares an intention for a listener that feels her relationship is moving in slow motion and would like to speed things up. Fee...
How Can I Forgive Myself For The Past?
Jordana is gearing up for the arrival of her two babies and turning to Dr. Naomi for a crash course in how to accept help from her in-laws. A listener is unpacking years of mom guilt over past mistakes with her son and wondering if there’s a way to make it right now that she’s actually done the work. One Betch is grieving a mother-in-law she’ll never get to meet and questioning whether she’s allowed to be sad about someone who passed before she was in the picture. After rewatching her gender reveal, a woman realizes...
Is Seasonal Affective Disorder A Real Thing?
As winter drags on and the sun taps out at a disrespectful 4:30 p.m., Jordana asks Dr. Naomi to explain why everyone is sad, tired, and vaguely feral. After her fiancé’s family vacation is derailed by her mother’s nonstop questioning, a Betch spirals about what this dynamic could mean for her upcoming wedding. Dr. Naomi then offers an intention for a woman whose anxiety shows up as catastrophic thoughts about strangers who don’t even know she exists. Another voicemail comes from a daughter still simmering after her father somehow forgot to mention her (and her brother) in his...
Is It Annoying To Get ChatGPT Text Messages?
Jordana kicks off the episode by asking Dr. Naomi if she feels threatened by ChatGPT therapy, and the two complain about the rise of AI’s use in our everyday communications. An Overshare gets delightfully unhinged when a listener admits she wants to burn her whole life down and start over, and the hosts talk her off the ledge. After making a new friend on the tennis courts, a Betch finds herself distracted by said friend’s commitment to a bra-free lifestyle and debates whether it’s socially acceptable to ask for a little more support at their next hang...
How Can I Tell My Mom To Back Off Politely?
Jordana grapples with seeing herself constantly as a video podcaster and asks Dr. Naomi whether her reactions are totally normal, or something to be concerned about. A bride-to-be reports her mother’s absolutely unhinged commentary on her refusal to embark on a pre-wedding starvation tour and asks how to shut it down without detonating the family group chat. Another newly engaged Betch spirals after her fiancé ignores very clear ring guidance and presents her with a truly tragic rock—unlocking the larger existential fear. With a long-awaited vacation approaching, a devoted dog mom wrestles with crushing guilt and asks for a...
Is It Really Ok If People Reprimand My Child?
Dr. Naomi throws a bone to the single folks still braving the dating hellscape, while the hosts unpack our deeply inconvenient need for human connection as friendships shift, families evolve, and everyone gets weird. A toddler mom is caught off-guard when a new mom friend scolds her kid and needs advice on how to address it without burning the playgroup to the ground. This week’s Betchicist comes from a proud member of the Clean Plate Club who’s endlessly roasted by in-laws that abandon half-eaten meals and act like leftovers are a moral failure. After one too many run...
How Do I Tell My Boyfriend I Hate His Gifts?
As we all crawl to the finish line of 2025, Jordana and Dr. Naomi tackle resolutions (and why we barely stick to them) and gratitude for the stuff we only notice once it’s gone. A betch needs help telling her boyfriend that his aggressively sentimental, customized gifts… are just not her vibe. A bride ropes her bridesmaids into a pre-wedding sleepover, and a listener's Betchicist asks how to say 'no' to sharing a pullout bed without drama. Dr. Naomi helps a listener struggling with a nerve-wracking left turn that’s making every commute a nightmare, while Jordana commiserates over her ow...
Is It Rude To Arrive Early To An Event?
After a small doggie daycare incident, Ronnie is in a cone and Jordana shares how the medical device has created some tension between her and Mike. In This week’s Overshare, a woman wonders how to address her husband’s jealousy when she decides to plan an expensive Michelin star dinner with her bestie. A listener secures a post purchase refund on a group funded gift and needs a Betchicist from the hosts on whether she can keep the savings or if she needs to share them. As the holidays approach, a Betch is asking for an intention on how...
How Do I Deal With My Constant Fear of Getting Fired?
New details about the dogsitter Dr. Naomi hired have emerged, and she and Jordana dissect all the information to try and paint a picture of the woman who stayed in Dr. Naomi’s house for a few days. A corporate Betch is feeling burned by a work friend after learning about her departure from a company-wide email, and she wonders if it’s worth maintaining the friendship. Seeking some validation, a listener who is quickly falling hard for her new partner wonders if his insistence on only saying “I love you” means he isn’t “in love” with her. After multiple...
How Do I Get More Respect At Work?
Fresh off a NY visit, Dr. Naomi dishes about the house/dog sitter she hired and reveals the texts she sent throughout the weekend that set off alarm bells. Newly married, a woman’s Overshare highlights her need to communicate to her partner that the news links and videos they share throughout the day are only raising her blood pressure. Seeking validation, a listener wonders if her constant RSVP of “No” to a friend’s outings is warranted or if she should try and say yes on of these days. A voicemail from a Betch that feels abandoned asks for an i...
When Is It Okay to Intervene in Someone Else’s Fight?
Jordana wonders if her recent desire to stay home and not socialize, especially with new people, is normal and leans on Dr. Naomi to unpack how she is feeling lately. An eco-conscious Betch is shamed by her neighbor after he snuck a peak in her recycling bin and gave her some unsolicited refuse advice. During a recent comedy show one woman witnessed a verbal altercation that has her wondering if she should have intervened, and we may have some input from the comedian themselves. One listener is feeling burdened by the care of a sick parent and seeks an...
Are My Sex Dreams Considered Cheating?
Dr. Naomi prepares for an upcoming trip to NY for a family event and she and Jordana discuss the pains of growing up through the perspective of Dr. Naomi’s oldest daughter. A recent bride gets roped into a viral online moment after a post from her big day brings out the comment trolls and now she is sweating the situation. One Betch finds some surprise money inside a thrifted bag but is unsure about the morality of keeping the bonus cash and asks the hosts for a Betchicist. Seeking some mental peace, a married listener plagued by sex dr...
Does Never Fighting Mean I’m in a Bad Relationship?
Jordana kicks off the episode with a burning question for Dr. Naomi about the psychology behind planning big things and announcing them, something that has been on her mind as of late after announcing her pregnancy and surrogacy news. Still in the honeymoon phase of her relationship, a Betch overshares that she and her partner never fight and she is worried they might avoid the hard conversations in the future. In need of a Betchicist, one listener reveals that she has been spilling secrets about her nieces and nephews, despite an estranged relationship between mom and sister, and she...
Am I The Only One Who Hates The Holidays?
Dr. Naomi reflects on her Halloween experience now that two of her three children are older and Jordana asks her how she is feeling about being closer to an empty nester than she is to being a new mother. A listener’s babysitter has started to give her child lavish gifts, often pricier than her hourly wage, and she needs a way to politely decline the generous offers. In need of a Betchecist, one woman was asked by a “co-worker” to be a bridesmaid, even though they have spent literally zero time together outside the office, and needs to find a...
How to Apologize The Correct Way
After announcing her pregnancy news, Jordana reacts to the outpouring of love she got from followers and Dr. Naomi asks her how the experience has been for her since revealing the personal update. A Betch that manages other employees is struggling with how to handle her direct report's constant oversharing on social media and the hosts debate why people reveal such intimate details on the internet. One listener calls in wondering how she can honor her Mother’s desire for validation about her appearance while setting an example for her young daughter. Struggling to potty train her toddler, a wo...
Can I Ask My Bridesmaid To Cover Her Cleavage?
Dr. Naomi shares a story about her son and a female classmate that has her mom antennas up and she and Jordana discuss the developing “relationship” between the two little ones. Brought to us by Season 2 of “Nobody Wants This” on Netflix, the Overshare explores an older sister who is feeling a tad jealous about her married little sister's new life, and is trying to figure out how to address the financial elephant in the room. The Betchecist comes from a bride-to-be that is worried one of her bridesmaids may be planning to show off a bit more cleavage than is...
Baby Steps: My Journey To Having Two Babies, Twelve Days Apart || Season 3, Episode 9
In this Season 3 finale episode of Baby Steps, Jordana comes together with her sister and co-host, Dr. Naomi Bernstein to share a huge update on her infertility journey. Recapping her entire experience up until now, Jordana revisits the many different moments along her journey that have brought disappointment and heartbreak. But she also has some positive things to share with her community that could help bring a little hope to anyone who is struggling to conceive. We don’t want to spoil the surprise so tune in to get all the latest from Jordana herself.
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Am I Obligated To Buy A Gift For A Destination Wedding?
Jordana shares some recent incidents with her dog Ronnie that have challenged her patience and Dr. Naomi sheds a little light on how these moments can be a great opportunity for mindfulness and meditation. The Overshare, sponsored by Season 2 of Nobody Wants This on Netflix, comes from a woman whose feeling like her partner's lack of thoughtfulness with their new puppy is a sign of bigger problems to come. A listener who is out a couple grand for a destination wedding needs a Betchecist on whether she can opt out of the gift and put on bow on her “pr...