The Mental Healness Podcast
Welcome to the Mental Healness Podcast, hosted by yours truly, Lee Hammock. If you're new here I have NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) and I've been in therapy for the last 8 years learning how to deal with it and live a better life. From the start I've offered you the rare POV of a diagnosed narcissist but NOW I'm switching it up a little bit. I'm interviewing others that are dealing with their own mental health journeys and those that have dealt with toxic relationship dynamics as well. I'm still sharing my POV just sharing others as well. Collabs ✉ [email protected]
I’m a Narcissist and This Is Why We Cheat
Why do narcissists cheat, and what do they tell themselves to justify betraying someone who loves them? In this Mental Healness video, I share my perspective as a diagnosed narcissist on narcissism and infidelity, exploring validation, entitlement, secrecy, and avoiding accountability. I discuss how someone might rationalize cheating and why understanding those excuses does not make the betrayal your fault. This is a personal perspective, not a claim that every person with narcissistic personality disorder cheats or that everyone who cheats is a narcissist. Subscribe to @mentalhealness for more in my “I Am a Narcissist” series and conversations about narc...
II'm a Diagnosed Narcissist and This Is Why Ian Was The Villain In Obsession!
I’m a diagnosed narcissist reacting to Obsession and breaking down why Ian’s behavior toward Bear and Nikki deserves a closer look. From hiding his relationship with Nikki to giving Bear questionable advice, I explore my interpretation of the jealousy, manipulation, and betrayal behind his “helpful friend” act. This Obsession movie reaction and character analysis examines toxic friendship, hidden motives, and what changes when you rewatch Ian’s scenes knowing his secret. Spoiler warning: this video discusses major plot points and the ending; it is commentary on fictional characters, not a clinical diagnosis. Subscribe to @mentalhealness for more in my “I A...
Why Saying No to Your Narcissistic Mother Feels So Wrong | Matilde Crocini
Why does setting boundaries with a narcissistic mother leave you feeling like a bad daughter? In this episode of the Mental Healness Podcast, Lee Hammock sits down with Matilde Crocini, a trauma-informed Mother Wound Coach, founder of Women Reclaiming Their Fullness, and host of Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers. Matilde shares her experience of maternal control, golden-child dynamics, guilt, and family estrangement, including how setting one boundary became the beginning of no contact with her mother. We explore healing the mother wound, peoplepleasing, low contact versus no contact, her perspective on nervous system regulation, and breaking generational patterns while reclaiming...
I'm a narcissist and here's why Caleb Flynn didn't confess at his sentencing
In this reaction to Caleb Flynn’s sentencing allocution, I break down the psychology of denial, shame, public image, and why some people appear unable to take accountability even when the evidence and consequences are overwhelming. Flynn was convicted of murdering his wife, Ashley Flynn, and of additional charges related to the case; he was sentenced to life without parole while continuing to proclaim his innocence. This is not a clinical diagnosis of Caleb Flynn, but an analysis of narcissistic traits such as image management, blame shifting, entitlement, and avoiding responsibility. We also need to keep the focus where it...
I’m a Narcissist and We’ve Already Prepared for You to Expose Us
What happens when you expose a narcissist or threaten the public image they have worked to protect? I’m Lee Hammock, a diagnosed narcissist, and in this video I share my perspective on narcissistic exposure, shame, reputation protection, and avoiding accountability. I discuss smear campaigns, blame reversal, and why someone may try to discredit you before you tell your story. I also explain why speaking out does not always lead to the outcome you expect and why your safety matters more than winning a public argument. Subscribe to Mental Healness for more conversations about narcissistic abuse, toxic relationships, boundaries, an...
I’m a Narcissist and This Is Why We Blame You for Everything
Why does a narcissist blame you for everything even things you didn’t do or couldn’t control? I’m Lee Hammock, a diagnosed narcissist, and in this video I share my perspective on blame shifting, shame, and avoiding accountability in toxic relationships. I explain how admitting wrongdoing can bring up feelings of worthlessness and why someone may redirect blame rather than face those feelings. Drawing on my own experience in therapy, I discuss what that internal struggle feels like without excusing harmful behavior. Subscribe to Mental Healness for more conversations about narcissistic personality disorder, narcissistic abuse, boundaries, and healin...
He Made Her Question Her Sanity, Then She Bought a House to Leave
In this Mental Healness Podcast interview, Brianne shares her experience of narcissistic abuse, gaslighting, financial control, and the struggle to break a trauma bond after an eight-year relationship. She describes questioning herself over missing prescription medication, returning after multiple separations, and saving money to buy a home for herself and her sons. Host Lee Hammock, a diagnosed narcissist, explores how empathy, guilt, and promises of change can become part of a toxic relationship cycle. Brianne also discusses the difficulty of staying separated while navigating divorce and rebuilding her independence. Content note: this episode includes accounts of domestic violence, strangulation...
I’m a Narcissist and This Is Why We Still Control You Through the Kids
Why is co-parenting with a narcissist so difficult, even when you try to keep things peaceful? I’m Lee Hammock, a diagnosed narcissist, and in this video I share my perspective on how rejection, shame, resentment, and control can fuel conflict with a toxic ex. I break down last-minute schedule changes, disrupted pickups and drop-offs, double standards around new partners, and why an ex may keep interfering even after moving on.
I also discuss boundaries around your personal plans and the importance of having a backup plan when dealing with an unreliable co-parent. Subscribe to...
I’m a Narcissist and This Is Why We Use Religion to Manipulate You
I’m a diagnosed narcissist, and in this video I explain how narcissistic people can use religion, faith, scripture, guilt, and forgiveness to control their partners and avoid accountability. I break down religious manipulation, spiritual abuse, weaponizing God, forced forgiveness, and the red flags that can make you question your own judgment. Faith itself is not the problem, using faith to excuse mistreatment, demand obedience, or silence someone is the problem. If someone uses God, religion, or “forgiveness” to keep you in a harmful relationship, you deserve support and safety. Subscribe to Mental Healness for more real conversations about narcis...
She Escaped a Narcissist With 5 Kids | Deanna’s Survival Story
In this powerful Mental Healness Podcast interview, Deanna shares how she survived an abusive marriage marked by narcissistic abuse, coercive control, isolation, religious manipulation, stalking, and domestic violence. She describes escaping with her five children while her ex-husband was out of town and rebuilding a safe, peaceful life.
Lee Hammock, a diagnosed narcissist, discusses early warning signs, love bombing, reactive abuse, control disguised as protection, and why leaving can be so dangerous. This survivor story is shared to raise awareness and help anyone who recognizes similar patterns in their own relationship. If you are...
I’m a Narcissist and Here’s Why Taylor Swift’s “Patient Zero” Is So Accurate
In this reaction, I break down how Taylor Swift’s fictional “Patient Zero” video depicts the cycle of a toxic relationship from charm and love bombing to gaslighting, blame reversal, public image management, and the warnings people often miss. As a diagnosed narcissist, I explain why the video’s themes may resonate with survivors who felt confused by a partner who seemed charming in public but unsafe behind closed doors. This is commentary on fictional characters and relationship patterns, not a diagnosis of any real person. We also explore why a former partner may try to warn the next person a...
I’m a Narcissist: Here's Why We Don't Think You're Going To Leave
I’m a diagnosed narcissist, and in this video I explain why many narcissistic people believe you will never leave them even after lying, cheating, manipulation, or emotional abuse. They may mistake your empathy, hope, patience, and history together for proof that you will always stay or come back. This first-person perspective explores narcissistic entitlement, devaluation, control, grandiosity, and why setting a boundary can suddenly make you seem “flawed” in their eyes. This is not an excuse for abuse: you are not weak, and you do not need someone’s permission to choose yourself. If leaving feels unsafe, seek trusted...
Can a Narcissist Change? Two Diagnosed Narcissists Tell the Truth
Can a narcissist change? In this Mental Healness Podcast episode, Lee Hammock talks with Caleb, another diagnosed narcissist, about rock bottom, therapy, accountability, regret, emotional abuse, and rebuilding a 26 year marriage. Caleb shares how an NPD diagnosis changed his approach to relationships, parenting, empathy, and taking responsibility without excuses. We also discuss why detailed accountability, honesty, and long term therapeutic work matter more than promises. This conversation is educational and reflects personal experiences, not clinical advice or a diagnosis of any viewer.
She Had a Baby With a Narcissist Because She Thought It Would Make Him Love Her More!
She Had a Baby With a Narcissist Because She Thought It Would Make Him Love Her More and change his ways towards her. Big Big mistake because having babies DO NOT change people. They tend to make things worse. This man thought he was going to be happy with a side chick the side chick didn't even like him lol.
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She Ignored the Red Flags Until She Had to Escape
Miracle shares her story of a relationship that moved fast—and how love bombing, rushed commitment, location tracking, isolation, financial pressure, and phone control slowly turned into something dangerous.
In this honest conversation, Miracle talks about the red flags she recognizes now, including being pushed to meet his children right away, pressure to move in and combine bills, being cut off from friends and family, and having her phone used as a tool for control. She also shares the moment she realized she had to escape, the complicated reality of leaving, and how therapy, fa...
I’m a Narcissist: Why We Send You Songs After We Hurt You
I’m a diagnosed narcissist, and in this video I explain why a narcissistic person may send you songs after they hurt you, lie to you, cheat, rage, or give you the silent treatment. A song can be a way to pull on nostalgia, express emotion without taking accountability, test whether you are still emotionally available, or reopen the door after conflict. The message may feel deeply personal, but a playlist is not the same as changed behavior, a sincere apology, or repair. This is not an excuse for narcissistic abuse, it is a first-person perspective on emotional manipulation, ho...
What Did a Narcissist See in You in the First Place?
What did a narcissist see in you in the first place? In this video, Lee Hammock explains why people with narcissistic traits may be drawn to empathy, loyalty, generosity, resilience, forgiveness, and a desire to see the best in others. These are not weaknesses, but without boundaries they can become qualities that a toxic person tries to exploit. Learn the difference between becoming closed off and becoming more discerning, so you can protect your peace without losing the parts of yourself that make you compassionate. A narcissist choosing you does not mean you caused the abuse or deserved it.<...
I Knew the Loud Narcissist… I Wasn’t Ready for the Quiet One
Ashleyjoins the Mental Healness Podcast to share how she survived two very different toxic marriages: one loud and overt, the other quiet, subtle, and much harder to recognize. After leaving a nearly decade-long relationship marked by control, betrayal, isolation, and emotional abuse, she remarried believing she knew every red flag, until covert manipulation appeared in a different form. Ashley and Lee Hammock discuss narcissistic abuse, love bombing, trauma patterns, co-parenting, childhood wounds, faith, healing, and why leaving one toxic relationship does not automatically mean you have processed what it taught you. Her story is a reminder that taking responsibility...
I’m a Narcissist: Yes, We Know What We’re Doing
I’m a diagnosed narcissist, and in this video I explain why many narcissistic people know when they are manipulating, lying, withholding affection, shifting blame, or causing emotional harm. Awareness does not equal accountability, and knowing better does not automatically mean someone will choose to behave better. This is not an excuse for narcissistic abuse it is a first-person perspective on self-awareness, entitlement, control, and the work required to change harmful patterns. If someone repeatedly hurts you and then claims they “didn’t know,” pay attention to their actions, not just their apologies. Healing may require boundaries, distance, and support...
She Called the Police After 31 Years of Abuse, Then Everyone Turned on Her
In this Mental Healness Podcast interview, Nina shares her story of surviving a 31-year emotionally destructive and volatile marriage while feeling financially trapped as a long-term stay-at-home wife. After calling police for protection, she says she experienced retaliation, isolation, a smear campaign, and rejection from people she expected to support her.
Lee Hammock and Nina discuss narcissistic abuse, coercive control, financial abuse, trauma bonds, silent treatment, scapegoating, and why leaving an abusive relationship is not always as simple as “just leave.” This conversation is for survivors over 50, stay-at-home parents, and anyone rebuilding their identity whil...
Why Narcissists Always Compare You to Their Exes
Why do narcissistic and toxic people constantly compare you to their exes? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how comparisons can be used to provoke jealousy, create insecurity, keep you competing for approval, and distract from their own behavior. Whether they praise an ex, criticize an ex, or say “my ex would never do that,” the goal may be to keep you emotionally off balance.
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He's Torturing Her Online and Enjoying Every Minute Of It (A Diagnosed Narcissist Explains)
She's going through it! Raising a baby with a psychopathic man that hates her. He is making her life harder in every single way and enjoys the fact that she is talking about it online to the world.
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I Have Narcissistic Personality Disorder; Ask Me Anything
If you could ask a diagnosed narcissist ANYTHING, what would it be? well you have your chance, join the live and get your questions answered.Book a Coaching Session- https://link.me/mentalhealness
From Addiction and Abuse to Healing and Freedom | Survivor Story
In this Mental Healness Podcast interview, Manda shares her survivor journey from childhood trauma, addiction, abusive relationships, family scapegoating, and parental alienation to healing, faith, and rebuilding her life. She discusses getting sober, escaping coercive control, navigating complex PTSD, reconnecting with her identity, and learning that she was never the problem people told her she was. This conversation explores trauma bonds, emotional abuse, recovery, survival, boundaries, and what it means to choose yourself after years of chaos. Manda’s message is for anyone who feels trapped, forgotten, or convinced they cannot start over: strength can still be there, even wh...
She Had a Baby With a Narcissist Because She Thought It Would Make Him Love Her More!
She Had a Baby With a Narcissist Because She Thought It Would Make Him Love Her More and change his ways towards her. Big Big mistake because having babies DO NOT change people. They tend to make things worse. This man thought he was going to be happy with a side chick the side chick didn't even like him lol.
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What to Do When You Miss Your Abusive Ex
What do you do when you start missing your narcissistic ex, even after everything they put you through? In this video, Lee Hammock explains why it is normal to miss someone who hurt you and why that feeling does not mean you should break no contact. Learn practical ways to process the urge to call, text, check their social media, or pain shop, including writing down the truth, creating a video diary, and using voice notes. Missing them is a feeling not a sign that they deserve another chance. You can miss them and still choose yourself
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What Is Narcissistic Abuse? The Signs You Need to Know From a Diagnosed Narcissist!
What is narcissistic abuse, and how can you recognize it in a relationship, family, friendship, or workplace? In this video, Lee Hammock explains common patterns associated with narcissistic abuse, including love bombing, gaslighting, manipulation, blame shifting, control, isolation, devaluation, and emotional abuse. You will also learn why this pattern can leave people confused, anxious, disconnected from themselves, and questioning their own reality. Narcissistic abuse is not a formal clinical diagnosis, and not every harmful person has narcissistic personality disorder, but repeated abusive behavior still deserves to be taken seriously. If you recognize these patterns and feel unsafe, prioritize support...
What Is The Best Way to Communicate With a Narcissist
How do you respond to a narcissist or toxic ex when you have to communicate with them? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how to filter hostile emails and text messages, identify important coparenting information, and avoid getting pulled into long emotional arguments. Learn why short, bland, factual responses can protect your peace and reduce opportunities for manipulation. Lee also shares ways to use AI, skimming, or a trusted third party to identify essential details without absorbing every insult. This is for people who must stay in contact because of children, work, business, or other shared responsibilities.
I Married the Same Narcissist Twice | Jacqueline’s Survivor Story
In this Mental Healness Podcast interview, Jacqueline shares her survivor story of marrying the same narcissistic husband twice. After enduring cheating, manipulation, emotional abuse, financial control, isolation, and repeated breakups in her first marriage, she spent years away working on herself before he reentered her life. She explains why she believed he had changed, what happened after they remarried, and how her body began recognizing the danger before her mind fully accepted it. Lee Hammock and Jacqueline discuss trauma bonds, hoovering, love bombing, control, healing, trusting your instincts, and preparing to leave a toxic relationship. This conversation is for...
Why an Abusive Person Breaks Up With You First
Why do abusive people suddenly break up with you, discard you, or move on as if you never mattered? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how a toxic or narcissistic person may leave when they are losing control, being held accountable, facing consequences, or seeking new validation. The discard can be used to punish you, create confusion, provoke you into chasing them, or make them feel powerful again. Their decision to leave does not erase the abuse or prove you were not enough. Learn how to stop chasing closure from someone who may use the breakup itself as another...
Why Prayer Won’t Fix a Narcissist
Join Lee Hammock, a clinically diagnosed narcissist known as Mental Healness, for a live open question and answer session about narcissism, toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, healing, boundaries, cheating, no contact, and recovery. Bring your questions about the behaviors you have experienced or the patterns you are trying to understand. This live is designed to offer insight, validation, and practical perspectives, not to diagnose anyone you know. Please keep the chat respectful and avoid sharing private identifying details. Subscribe and turn on notifications for more conversations about healing from toxic relationships.
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How Do Abusive People Act When They Realize You're Leaving For Good?
What happens when an abusive or toxic person realizes you are leaving for good? In this live discussion, Lee Hammock talks about common reactions such as love bombing, guilt trips, promises to change, anger, blame shifting, smear campaigns, threats, and attempts to regain control. Not every person will react in the same way, but changes in behavior and escalation should be taken seriously. If you are planning to leave and feel unsafe, consider creating a safety plan, documenting concerning behavior where safe to do so, and reaching out to trusted local resources. You deserve safety, support, and the freedom...
Why a Narcissist Refuses to Say Anything Nice About You
Why do narcissists struggle to compliment the people closest to them? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how withholding praise, affection, and validation can become part of a toxic relationship dynamic. A narcissistic person may minimize your accomplishments, criticize you after a compliment, praise strangers while ignoring you, or make you feel like you must earn basic kindness. Learn why their lack of affirmation is not proof that you are unattractive, unsuccessful, or unworthy. Recognizing this pattern can help you stop chasing validation from someone committed to withholding it.
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Why Narcissists “Forget” Everything They Did to You
Why does a narcissist claim they do not remember the things they said or did to hurt you? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how narcissistic people may use selective memory, denial, minimization, blame shifting, and revisionist history to avoid accountability. This is not always genuine forgetfulness it can be part of a larger pattern that makes you doubt your own memories and feelings. Learn why arguing for an admission often keeps you stuck and how to focus on the pattern instead of chasing validation. Their refusal to acknowledge the harm does not erase what happened to you.
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A Narcissist’s Biggest Fear Is Being Replaceable!
Why do narcissists need you to depend on them? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how a narcissistic or controlling person may fear being replaceable and try to create emotional, financial, sexual, or practical dependence. Learn why withholding affection, delaying support, rushing commitment, controlling choices, and creating obstacles can make someone feel powerful or needed. This pattern is not love or partnership. It is often about control, validation, and making it harder for you to walk away. Understanding the pattern can help you rebuild independence and protect your peace.
Can an Entire Family Be Narcissists?
Can everyone in a family be a narcissist or deeply toxic? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how harmful family systems can operate through loyalty, secrecy, isolation, enmeshment, blame, and pressure to protect the family’s image. Learn why someone who marries into the family may slowly be pulled into its rules, why relatives may turn against you after a breakup, and why leaving can feel like divorcing an entire system. This discussion also covers toxic family enablers, family scapegoating, and the importance of recognizing patterns before they destroy your peace. Healing may require boundaries with more than one pe...
Why Do You Keep Choosing Unhealthy Partners and Relationships!?
Why do some people keep choosing toxic, narcissistic, or emotionally unavailable partners? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how childhood patterns, trauma bonds, familiar dysfunction, love bombing, low self trust, and the hope of finally being chosen can shape relationship choices. You may not be attracted to pain itself, but you might be drawn to a dynamic that feels familiar or that promises validation. Learn how to recognize these patterns, rebuild your standards, and choose relationships that feel safe instead of chaotic. Healing is not about blaming yourself for the past; it is about giving yourself better options moving...
Why do abusive people want to hurt you on purpose?
Why do abusive people hurt you on purpose, then blame you for the pain they caused? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how control, punishment, shame, resentment, emotional immaturity, and the need to feel powerful can drive intentional cruelty in toxic relationships. Learn why an abuser may target your insecurities, dismiss your feelings, provoke reactions, or hurt you right when you need support. Their behavior is not proof that you are unlovable or that you caused the abuse. Understanding the pattern can help you stop internalizing their choices and protect your peace.
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What REALLY Happens When You Go No Contact With a Narcissist
What happens when you go no contact with a narcissist or toxic ex? In this video, Lee Hammock explains why no contact is a boundary for healing rather than a way to punish someone. Learn about common reactions including denial, anger, accusations, love bombing, hoovering, and panic when they realize they no longer have access to you. Lee also explains why breaking no contact can restart the cycle and make it harder to heal. If unwanted contact escalates into stalking, harassment, or threats, prioritize your safety and seek local support.
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Former Trad Wife Escaped 24 Years of Abuse and Lost Everything | Jennie Gage’s Story
In this powerful episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, domestic violence survivor and advocate Jennie Gage shares how she escaped a 24-year abusive marriage and rebuilt her life from the ground up. Jennie discusses financial abuse, post-separation violence, religious trauma, a hidden double life, infidelity, trauma bonds, and the difficult reality of starting over with children after divorce.
She also explains how therapy, education, community, and small acts of independence helped her move from survival mode to a safer and more fulfilling life. This conversation includes discussion of domestic violence, infidelity, and coercive control. <...
