The Mental Healness Podcast

Join Lee Hammock, a clinically diagnosed narcissist known as Mental Healness, for a live open question and answer session about narcissism, toxic relationships, narcissistic abuse, healing, boundaries, cheating, no contact, and recovery. Bring your questions about the behaviors you have experienced or the patterns you are trying to understand. This live is designed to offer insight, validation, and practical perspectives, not to diagnose anyone you know. Please keep the chat respectful and avoid sharing private identifying details. Subscribe and turn on notifications for more conversations about healing from toxic relationships.

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What happens when an abusive or toxic person realizes you are leaving for good? In this live discussion, Lee Hammock talks about common reactions such as love bombing, guilt trips, promises to change, anger, blame shifting, smear campaigns, threats, and attempts to regain control. Not every person will react in the same way, but changes in behavior and escalation should be taken seriously. If you are planning to leave and feel unsafe, consider creating a safety plan, documenting concerning behavior where safe to do so, and reaching out to trusted local resources. You deserve safety, support, and the freedom...

Why do narcissists struggle to compliment the people closest to them? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how withholding praise, affection, and validation can become part of a toxic relationship dynamic. A narcissistic person may minimize your accomplishments, criticize you after a compliment, praise strangers while ignoring you, or make you feel like you must earn basic kindness. Learn why their lack of affirmation is not proof that you are unattractive, unsuccessful, or unworthy. Recognizing this pattern can help you stop chasing validation from someone committed to withholding it.

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Why does a narcissist claim they do not remember the things they said or did to hurt you? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how narcissistic people may use selective memory, denial, minimization, blame shifting, and revisionist history to avoid accountability. This is not always genuine forgetfulness it can be part of a larger pattern that makes you doubt your own memories and feelings. Learn why arguing for an admission often keeps you stuck and how to focus on the pattern instead of chasing validation. Their refusal to acknowledge the harm does not erase what happened to you.
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Why do narcissists need you to depend on them? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how a narcissistic or controlling person may fear being replaceable and try to create emotional, financial, sexual, or practical dependence. Learn why withholding affection, delaying support, rushing commitment, controlling choices, and creating obstacles can make someone feel powerful or needed. This pattern is not love or partnership. It is often about control, validation, and making it harder for you to walk away. Understanding the pattern can help you rebuild independence and protect your peace.

Can everyone in a family be a narcissist or deeply toxic? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how harmful family systems can operate through loyalty, secrecy, isolation, enmeshment, blame, and pressure to protect the family’s image. Learn why someone who marries into the family may slowly be pulled into its rules, why relatives may turn against you after a breakup, and why leaving can feel like divorcing an entire system. This discussion also covers toxic family enablers, family scapegoating, and the importance of recognizing patterns before they destroy your peace. Healing may require boundaries with more than one pe...

Why do some people keep choosing toxic, narcissistic, or emotionally unavailable partners? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how childhood patterns, trauma bonds, familiar dysfunction, love bombing, low self trust, and the hope of finally being chosen can shape relationship choices. You may not be attracted to pain itself, but you might be drawn to a dynamic that feels familiar or that promises validation. Learn how to recognize these patterns, rebuild your standards, and choose relationships that feel safe instead of chaotic. Healing is not about blaming yourself for the past; it is about giving yourself better options moving...

Why do abusive people hurt you on purpose, then blame you for the pain they caused? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how control, punishment, shame, resentment, emotional immaturity, and the need to feel powerful can drive intentional cruelty in toxic relationships. Learn why an abuser may target your insecurities, dismiss your feelings, provoke reactions, or hurt you right when you need support. Their behavior is not proof that you are unlovable or that you caused the abuse. Understanding the pattern can help you stop internalizing their choices and protect your peace.

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What happens when you go no contact with a narcissist or toxic ex? In this video, Lee Hammock explains why no contact is a boundary for healing rather than a way to punish someone. Learn about common reactions including denial, anger, accusations, love bombing, hoovering, and panic when they realize they no longer have access to you. Lee also explains why breaking no contact can restart the cycle and make it harder to heal. If unwanted contact escalates into stalking, harassment, or threats, prioritize your safety and seek local support.

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In this powerful episode of The Mental Healness Podcast, domestic violence survivor and advocate Jennie Gage shares how she escaped a 24-year abusive marriage and rebuilt her life from the ground up. Jennie discusses financial abuse, post-separation violence, religious trauma, a hidden double life, infidelity, trauma bonds, and the difficult reality of starting over with children after divorce.

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Hayden Panettiere’s story has renewed difficult conversations about domestic abuse, toxic relationship cycles, family estrangement, and the complicated reasons people stay connected to harmful people. In this video, Lee Hammock discusses documented reports about Panettiere’s on-and-off relationship with Brian Hickerson, who pleaded no contest in 2021 to two felony counts involving corporal injury to a spouse or cohabitant, as well as the public estrangement between Panettiere and her mother, Lesley Vogel. This is not a claim that either person caused Panettiere’s death, which remains under investigation. Instead, it is a conversation about recognizing toxic patterns, protecting yourself, and ex...

Why do people break no contact with a narcissist or toxic ex? In this live call-in conversation, five survivors of narcissistic abuse share the real reasons they went back, including love, hope, trauma bonds, co-parenting, guilt, promises of change, stalking, and the need for validation. Lee Hammock responds to each story with practical insight on no contact, hoovering, smear campaigns, safety, and protecting your peace. If you have broken no contact before, this conversation is a reminder that healing is not linear and you are not alone. If someone is threatening, stalking, or escalating their behavior...

Why do you miss a narcissist or toxic ex even when you know they hurt you? In this video, Lee Hammock explains the inner conflict between logic and emotion after narcissistic abuse, including self-gaslighting, trauma bonds, and the urge to break no contact just to make the pain stop. Learn why reconnecting can feel like temporary relief but often restarts the healing cycle and creates more shame. Healing is not always pretty, quick, or easy, but it becomes possible when you stop chasing shortcuts and begin trusting yourself again. This video offers encouragement for anyone trying to leave, stay...

Some of the biggest toxic relationship red flags feel romantic in the beginning. In this video, Lee Hammock breaks down behaviors that can be mistaken for love, including constant contact, rushing intimacy, jealousy, big promises, isolation, boundary pushing, and love bombing. Learn the difference between genuine interest and controlling behavior that slowly takes over your time, confidence, and relationships. Healthy love allows you to be yourself, have boundaries, and maintain a life outside the relationship. Which red flag did you mistake for romance at first?

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Why do narcissist enablers defend toxic behavior and pressure you to stay? This video explains why family members, friends, and other flying monkeys may make excuses, blame the survivor, or carry information back to the narcissistic person. Learn how fear, family dynamics, validation, loyalty, and the desire to avoid becoming the next target can keep the cycle going. You will also learn why protecting your plans, location, and personal information matters when you are dealing with toxic people. Understanding enablers can help you set safer boundaries and protect your peace.

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In one of the most powerful and emotional episodes of the Mental Healness Podcast, host Lee Hammock sits down with survivor and creator Tonya, widely known as Burned Beauty 2018. Tonya shares her deeply moving story of surviving a 15-year toxic relationship that escalated to the unthinkable: being intentionally doused in lighter fluid and set on fire by her husband.

Tonya opens up about enduring 3rd and 4th-degree burns over 35% of her body, surviving a two-month coma, and waking up to immediate manipulation and calculated cover-ups. She walks us through the hidden warning signs that preceded the attack...

Can you heal while you are still in a relationship with a narcissist, toxic partner, or emotionally unsafe person? In this video, Lee Hammock explains the difference between surviving, coping, and genuinely healing while the harmful relationship dynamic is still active. Learn how trauma bonds, manipulation, gaslighting, broken boundaries, and constant emotional stress can interfere with recovery.

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Diagnosed narcissist Lee Hammock explains why narcissistic, toxic, or abusive partners rarely change, even when they promise therapy, growth, or a fresh start. I break down front-loading and love bombing, why rewarded behavior never stops, and why hoping they'll improve keeps survivors stuck in narcissistic paralysis. I also share my own rock-bottom story and explains why change only happens when someone is internally motivated, not for another person.

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Why do narcissists get angry when you move on even if they cheated, left, or appear happy in a new relationship? In this video, Lee Hammock explains how ego, jealousy, control, narcissistic rage, and the need to maintain the upper hand can fuel that reaction. You’ll learn why some toxic exes lash out, interfere with new relationships, or suddenly love-bomb a new partner after seeing you happy.

This discussion also makes an important distinction: legitimate concerns about a new partner’s safety are different from controlling, jealous behavior. If you are healing from narc...

What does a narcissist really think when you are trauma bonded to them and cannot let them go? As a clinically diagnosed, self-aware narcissist, I explain why they may not care about your trauma bond, but can still take full advantage of it through repeated forgiveness, access, attention, sex, money, and control. We’ll talk about why asking them to block you usually does not work, why they may intentionally deepen the attachment, and how they can use your desperate reactions to make you look like the problem. If you know logically that this toxic person is hurting you bu...

In this powerful Mental Healness Podcast interview, Taylor Stevens shares how she survived 14 years with a narcissistic gambling addict and reclaimed her life through no contact. She opens up about love bombing, financial abuse, gambling debts, alcoholism, isolation, gaslighting, physical abuse, stalking, and being pushed to doubt her own reality.

Taylor describes spending more than half a million dollars covering debts, being manipulated into protecting his reputation, and discovering that her partner and his bookie were working together to take more money from her. She also shares the breaking point that led her to...

In this video, I break down why narcissists are going to be toxic no matter who they’re with and why their abuse is not proof that you weren’t “enough.” Research shows that narcissistic people repeat the same relationship patterns over and over, cycling through love bombing, devaluation and discard with each new partner instead of actually changing. I’ll explain how they adapt their mask to different people but keep the same core traits: entitlement, lack of empathy, objectification and a need for control. If you’re watching them treat the new person “better” and blaming yourself, this video will...

In this video, I talk from the heart about why I genuinely feel bad for people stuck with narcissists who will likely never experience real happiness while they stay in these toxic, parasitic relationships. As a clinically diagnosed, self‑aware narcissist, I explain how your mind and body adapt to constant abuse, how struggle starts to feel “normal,” and why you can end up losing friends, family and even your sense of self while you keep choosing someone who is draining you.

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In this video, I explain the “reverse discard”. When a narcissist emotionally gets rid of you, treats you horribly, and pushes you to end the relationship so they can play the victim and move on fast. As a clinically diagnosed, self‑aware narcissist, I walk through how they disconnect from you, rage, nitpick everything you do, and then say “You broke up with me” to justify a new partner, a fairytale romance, or an affair that’s already been waiting in the wings. You’ll learn why they still try to control you after you leave, refuse to let you move on, a...

In this video, I break down the main differences between an overt narcissist and a covert narcissist, two faces of the same disorder that show up very differently in relationships. Overt (grandiose) narcissists are loud, attention‑seeking and openly entitled, while covert (vulnerable) narcissists are more introverted, sensitive, passive‑aggressive and often hide their self‑importance behind fake humility or a victim mentality. Drawing on clinical research about grandiose vs vulnerable narcissism and my own perspective as a diagnosed narcissist, we’ll compare how each type rages, manipulates, plays the victim and reacts to criticism. If you’ve ever wondered w...

In this video, I break down how misogyny and narcissism overlap, and why so many misogynistic men show classic narcissistic traits like entitlement, lack of empathy and a belief they’re superior to women. Drawing on research that links narcissism and hostile sexism, as well as my own perspective as a clinically diagnosed narcissist, we’ll talk about how viewing women as “less than,” objectifying them and needing them as supply while secretly despising them creates a very specific form of abuse.
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Trying to explain your feelings to a narcissist is like trying to explain color to someone who refuses to open their eyes, most of them don’t respect your emotions or your boundaries, they respect consequences. In this video, I break down three things that could actually make a narcissist think twice: the no‑explanation boundary, the immediate if/then consequence, and emotional indifference when they test your limits.

As a clinically diagnosed, self‑aware narcissist, I show you how long explanations become a roadmap to argue with you, why an unenforced boundary is just a...

In this video, I speak directly to the people who keep taking a narcissistic partner back, hoping that one day they’ll finally pick you, appreciate your sacrifices and see your worth. As a clinically diagnosed, self‑aware narcissist, I explain why putting up with cheating, lies, abuse and low effort does not make you more valuable to them, it makes you more expendable, and why they resent you for seeing them at their worst.

You’ll hear how narcissists view you as a placeholder, why a “diamond in the wrong hands is just a paperw...

In this video, I break down why ignoring your intuition around narcissistic and toxic people almost always ends in regret. As a clinically diagnosed, self‑aware narcissist, I share real coaching stories of hidden families, “just best friends” who were more than friends, and the way manipulators override your gut feeling with charm, lies and love‑bombing.

You’ll learn why no one is ever “thrilled” they ignored red flags, how lust and physical attraction can fry your brain, and why bedroom discipline and boundaries are crucial in today’s dating world. If you keep telling you...

In this video, I tackle one of the most painful questions survivors ask: “Did they ever really care about me, or was it all fake?” As a clinically diagnosed, self‑aware narcissist, I explain how narcissistic people can have a limited emotional capacity, why some can only give you all the 'love they have' and why that still doesn’t excuse abuse. We’ll talk about why you stayed, why they put in such low effort, and how self‑love and boundaries matter more than trying to squeeze real love out of someone who can’t give it. If you’ve built a...

In this video, I break down why narcissists hate it when you block them everywhere—phone, text, social media and email and why their reaction is NOT your fault. As a clinically diagnosed, self‑aware narcissist, I explain how blocking cuts off their narcissistic supply, triggers a massive ego injury, and exposes their need for control. You’ll learn what to expect when you go no contact, how they might rage, hoover, or smear you, and why those behaviors are actually proof that your boundaries are working. If you’re scared to block a toxic ex, parent or friend, this vid...

In this video, I explain why you should leave the very first time someone lies to you in dating or relationships, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who knows how “little lies” grow into entire fake lives. We’ll talk about why a relationship built on even one dishonest foundation stone will eventually crumble, how age lies on dating apps turn into lies about education, job, and marital status, and why love‑bombers cry and promise “I’ll never lie again” right when you catch them.

I’ll walk through the age‑gap story, the way physical attra...

In this episode of the Mental Healness Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Shara Ally; psychiatric nurse practitioner, professor, TEDx Top‑50 Charter Speaker, and creator of the viral #TooAttached Movement to talk about why we get too attached to the wrong people and how to rebuild self‑trust after narcissistic and toxic relationships.

We dive into her journey from being the “uncool” hyper‑observant kid to leading global work in mental health, human behavior, and emotional resilience, and we unpack the patterns that keep smart, capable people stuck in cycles of shame, over‑functioning, and chasing...

Why is being a “ride or die” for a narcissistic or toxic partner is one of the worst decisions you can make, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who’s watched survivors emotionally die in these relationships. We’ll talk about how narcissists play the victim to hook your empathy, convince you that everyone has abandoned them, and turn your loyalty into a one‑way street where you sacrifice friends, family, and boundaries while they give you nothing back. I’ll explain the difference between a real ride‑or‑die bond (symbiotic, both people benefit) and the parasitic versio...

In this video, I break down why narcissists and abusive people are so cruel when they’re discarding you, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who has been on the other side of that breakup. We’ll talk about how ego injury and loss of control drive their rage, why they need to see you as “broken” or pathetic to justify leaving, and how smear campaigns, threats, and comparison to “new supply” become tools to repair their own shattered self‑image. I’ll show you the hidden logic behind their cruelty, why they twist the story so you look like th...

In this video, I explain why a narcissist will never truly “pick” you in the way you’re hoping for, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who’s been on the other side of those choices. We’ll talk about how narcissists see partners as temporary “supply,” why they chase newness and fantasy instead of commitment, and what’s really going on when they discard you for someone else and still keep you on the hook. I’ll break down why it was never about you not being enough, how trauma bonds make you fight to be chosen, and why yo...

In this video, I break down 10 signs you’re in a toxic relationship with a narcissistic or emotionally abusive partner, from the perspective of a clinically diagnosed narcissist who’s been on both sides of the dynamic. We’ll talk about what it really means to ignore your intuition, why conflicts escalate so fast when you challenge them, how isolation from friends and family makes you easier to control, and why their apologies never lead to actual change. I’ll show you how gaslighting, manipulation, and “I’m sorry for everything” keep you doubting yourself instead of their behavior, and why cuttin...

In this video, we dig into one of the hardest questions survivors ask after narcissistic or abusive relationships: do they actually regret what they did, or do they just regret losing you and their supply. As a clinically diagnosed narcissist, I’ll break down how narcissists and other abusive people experience regret, why their “sorry” is usually about consequences and image, not your pain and how their defenses let them see everything as your fault so there’s nothing to feel guilty about.

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Why does it feel like a controlling person's version of love leaves you more confused, isolated, and exhausted than before? In this video, Lee Hammock breaks down the profound disconnect between what a toxic individual claims to feel and how they actually treat you. We pull back the curtain on why their words never match their actions, exposing the difference between genuine emotional connection and transactional control.If you have ever felt like something was fundamentally "off" even when they were showering you with affection, this breakdown will give you the psychological clarity you need to make sense of...

Survivors of narcissistic abuse need CLARITY. They need the truth! They need to be pulled out of the world of delusions that the narcissist has them stuck in, in order to move on. This is probably one of, if not the most critical things that is holding so many people back from healing and moving on.

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