To All the Men I've Tolerated Before
To All The Men I’ve Tolerated Before is your weekly look at everyday misogyny! Host Natalie Katona invites guests on the podcast to chat about their experiences living in a Patriarchal society. The podcast delves into different male tropes the world has had to endure like the sports guy, the toxic boss, or the needy boyfriend. It also allows the guests to delve into how men have affected their comfort levels in the communities they take up space in like the horror genre, professional wrestling, or the military. After the honest, comedic venting, the guest and Natalie will offer up...
The Cornell 7
Natalie is joined by Dee from the podcast From Cringe to Free to discuss the case surrounding The Cornell 7 (Matthew Ingalls. Jonathan Newell. Winston Lee. Gillio Lopes. Diego Sarabia. Scott Norris. Scott Kretzschmar) and its larger implications on where we are as a culture when it comes to supporting survivors of sexual assault. This episode is largely a discussion on how rape culture is ingrained into our society, so please take care when listening.
You can find resources for victims and survivors of sexual assault here.
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October 2026 Patreon Preview
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Special Replay: Final Girls
It's Spooky Season, Ya’ll! To celebrate Halloween, Natalie gathered past guests, Elizabeth and Darcie, to talk about final girls and their favorite “good for her” moments of horror movies. A consistent theme of the episode will be that the way women are represented in horror is a gateway of understanding how women are treated by society in general. Through the strength of the Final Girl, the three women have become empowered to leave bad situations, speak up for themselves and others, and say goodbye to politeness if it means they get to stay safe. A sampling of the movies, with s...
Embracing the Crone Era
Natalie is joined by her dear friend and witch mentor, Cate (Practically a Witch). Cate and Natalie will discuss the privilege to find yourself aging and entering your crone stage of life. There will also be some personal stories about how sacred they found the relationships they held with older women while they grew up. Other topics will include beauty standards, creeps getting older, and the power women hold because of all the things they’ve been through.
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Forced Into Marriage at 17
Amanda and her husband are survivors of child marriage. She joins Natalie to tell her story of how she ended up forced into marriage at the age of 17 illegally. Topics of this episode will include child marriage laws, teen pregnancy, using religion as a tool of oppression, and how to ensure the laws we live under are actually protecting children.
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Practical Magic 2
Julia Washington (Prose and Glow) makes a stunning return to the podcast to review Practical Magic 2. Natalie and Julia will dig deep to discuss themes that were found in the movie, even if they were only lightly touched upon. They will also talk about all the hopes they had for the movie and what they would have done if they were paid to write the sequel for Natalie’s favorite movie.
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September 2026 Patreon Preview
Hey, Team Tolerator! Here are all the ways you can be apart of our community on Patreon and a little preview of the content you will find there for this month!
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Desperate Housewives
Natalie rewatched all of Desperate Housewives, got super irritated with Tom Scavo, and immediately knew she needed Margaret from the Smash Hit podcast to come do an episode on this iconic show. Natalie and Margaret will rank each husband on Desperate Housewives on their problematic tendencies. There will also be discussion on how important it is to see middle aged women be represented on tv, the secrets we keep in suburbia, and what Desperate Housewives taught us about love, life, and marriage.
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Trust Economy and Our Media
Kat Steinberg (She Media) is helping us define the trust economy and how it fits into our current media landscape. Kat and Natalie will discuss what it feels like when you’re living during a time where you can’t trust the media surrounding you. There will be discussion of women who have been targeted by negative media campaigns with a concentration on Chappel Roan, Sabrina Carpenter, Taylor Swift, and headlines from the past that affected Britney Spears and Amanda Bynes. Discussion will also include how the media portrays women and the negative connotations about womanhood we have had ingrained in u...
Fighting for Disability Aid
Ellen Moore returns to the podcast to talk about her advocacy for herself when it comes to getting the disability aid she needs to survive. Ellen gives Natalie an update on her health and the process she went through in order to apply for disability aid. There will be discussion on stigmas people with disability face, how hustle culture affects our ability to rest, and how people can help Ellen as she goes through the process to try and appeal the decision that she cannot receive aid.
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Team Tolerator is Back!
Team Tolerator, the podcast is officially coming back! I know the feed has been quiet and here is your explaination as to why. We will be returning with regularly scheduled episodes next week!
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Summer Replay: Toxic Masculinity and Male Dating Priviledge
Ellen Moore, host of The Slut Show with Ellen Moore, is back on the podcast! She opens up about a recent breakup that resulted in a nine page letter detailing how toxic masculinity had given her partner a misconception of what a relationship should be. The women go into how misogyny has created a culture around dating that allows for men to have their privilege leak over into our romantic lives. They talk about the emotional labor women take on within relationships, how toxic masculinity contributes to gender norms in relationships, and urge listeners to remember that everyone should feel...
Summer Replay: Still Comdy? Freaky Friday
To All the Men I’ve Tolerated Before is on summer vacay! In the meantime, we will be posting episodes of our livestream collaboration with Pop Culture Makes Me Jealous. Still Comfy? is an in-depth look at our favorite comfort shows and movies. After a conversation about the themes presented in the selected movie, we discuss how the movie holds up against our Tolerator and Jelly Pops morals and viewpoints. Enjoy our review of Freaky Friday starring Lindsay Lohan and Jamie Lee Curtis!
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Summer Replay: Romantic Comedies
Natalie is joined by Rose and Courtney from Fiction Fixation to talk about a shared favorite topic, movies! The episode will revolve around the idea of romantic comedies and what they do really well and where they miss the mark. Natalie is a known rom com hater and Rose and Courtney are here to have a more nuanced conversation about the genre. All three can agree that a rom com is a hard thing to pull off! They’ll all talk about the favorite rom coms, the tropes they love, the tropes they’re over, and what they hope for the...
Summer Replay: America's Sweethearts and DCC
Natalie is joined by her friend Shanaz to get her thoughts straight on the Netflix docu-series, America’s Sweethearts Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders. After a casual watch of the show, Natalie was convinced that DCC and the series was a great work of women supporting other women and her ideal type of feminism. It took a lot of people, including Shanaz, to get her to watch it again and see the sinister misogyny lurking behind the pretty facade. Shanaz and Natalie will talk about a lack of body diversity, low pay, women being in competition with one another, women being a co...
June 2026 Reminders
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Summer Replay: Still Comfy? The Parent Trap
Still Comfy? is an in-depth look at Julia Washington and Natalie's favorite comfort shows and movies. After a conversation about the themes presented in the selected movie, we discuss how the movie holds up against our Tolerator and Jelly Pops morals and viewpoints. Enjoy our review of the 1998 movie The Parent Trap starring Lindsay Lohan, Dennis Quaid, and Natasha Richardson. Nat and Jules set out to answer the question, what happens when you don't get to go to summer camp?
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Summer Replay: Writing Sapphic Horror
Author Rae Wilde joins Natalie to have a conversation about her book I Do Not Apologize for My Position on Men and what drew her to writing stories surrounding sapphic women and the horror genre. The two women will delve into the real life horrors that women experience that create inspiration for the fiction they’re both interested in. There will be discussion surrounding heteronormativity, toxic relationships, horror stories, our current trying times, and more!
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Summer Replay: Entering Your Rom Com Era
TATMITB is on summer break! And nothing screams summertime more than a little summer romance! Julia Washington (Prose and Glow) is back to talk to Natalie about entering her Rom Com Era. Julia has been creating content about dating herself and doing activities that you would find in a standard Rom Com to try and find her ideal relationship. Her and Natalie will discuss how the dating landscape has changed as women’s expectations for relationships and dating have evolved as they do things like de-centering men and honing in on their own independence and power. What will it take fo...
May 2026 Reminders
Team Tolerator is on Summer Break! But don't fret, because if you want to have new content on everyday misogyny, the Patreon will still be active and releasing new content! New episodes will resume on our free feeds in September. See you over on Patreon!
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The Movie Her
Ami Lum and Kana Felix got Natalie all fired up about the movie Her during one of their monthly script clubs. Ami, Kana, and Natalie will discuss the story of Theodore and Samantha and how misogyny plays a role in their relationship. They will also tackle topics like our reality living with AI, how misogyny presents itself in tech, how we’ve changed how we build connections to one another, and our definitions on what makes the love we feel for others real. So watch a movie and then connect with us about all the ways we connected to an un...
Comedy
Lynn Harris is the owner and founder of Gold Comedy, the online comedy school, professional network, and content studio where women, non-binary creators, and other “others" build their comedy careers, join a powerful community, and make funny stuff that gets seen on all kinds of stages and screens. Lynn and Natalie will discuss the ways misogyny has affected comedy, why it is important to have diverse voices in the comedy space, how comedy improves empathy for others, and personal anecdotes from their lives as funny women.
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Secret Lives of Mormon Wives
Kristiana, former guest from our episode on the men of Grey’s Anatomy, is back! She is Natalie’s expert on the series The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives and is the perfect choice for discussing all the complexities around the discourse of season 4. Natalie and Kristiana will have a very nuanced conversation about Taylor Frankie Paul and her cancelled season of The Bachelorette. There will also be discussion on why no one wants Dadtok to be a thing as well as why Natalie has such a hard time buying into the show and how she’s constantly worried about what’s...
April 2026 Reminders
Happy end of the month, Team Tolerator! This is your reminder to head over to our Patreon so you can see all the free bonus content and subscribe to our newsletter.
We have a WHOPPER of a Misogyny Roundup this month!Topics include:Christina Koch and her trip to the moonChappell Roan existing and men being mad62 million reasons to be a misandristThe Supreme Court's refusal to ban conversion therapySummer House and ScamandaEveryone should see The DramaProtecting ourselves from men centered peopleAdvice on how to make men more uncomfortableThe only place to find a full trailer of our M...
Still Comfy? Thelma and Louise
Still Comfy? is an in-depth look at our favorite comfort shows and movies. After a conversation about the themes presented in the selected show, we then discuss how the show holds up against our Tolerator and Jelly Pops morals and viewpoints. You can watch Still Comfy? on our YouTube Channel
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The Geena Davis Institute
Natalie’s friend, Jessica Toukatly, is on the show today to talk about the important work started by The Geena Davis Institute for Gender and Media. Geena Davis was watching television with her kids one day when she noticed a sharp difference between the amount of lines given to male characters versus the female characters in the show. So she started tallying and collecting data. Jess will go over the ways Geena used her standing in Hollywood to meet with executives to bring light to how little women were being represented in media when it came to their male counterparts. Th...
Patriarchy Stress Disorder
The podcast’s guest for today’s episode is Dr. Valerie Rein, the author of the book Patriarchy Stress Disorder: The Invisible Inner Barrier to Women’s Happiness and Fulfillment. Natalie and Dr. Valerie will discuss all the negative effects living in a misogynistic culture has on the body, mind, and heart. There will be talk about how these negative side effects manifest within our everyday lives and the toll they take on our health. There will also be discussion on Dr. Valerie’s work in creating ways for women to heal from the trauma caused by Patriarchy.
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Kesha
Friend of the pod, Darcie, is back this week to talk about the one and only Kesha. Natalie and Darcie have been waiting for the right time to talk about Kesha and why they’re such strong supporters of who she is as an artist. After seeing the Tits Out Tour, they knew they had finally personally reached the best time and also Kesha seems to be having her best time as well. Topics of discussion will include Kesha’s reputation in the music industry, her legal battle with Dr. Luke, the healing she has done, and why Kesha is some...
March 2026 Reminders
Happy end of the month, Team Tolerator! This is your reminder to head over to our Patreon so you can see all the free bonus content and subscribe to our newsletter.
Our bonus episode for this month included the topics:
Kristi NoemTimothy ChalametThe women of the OlympicsChelsea Devantez and her film, BasicGetting over disappointmentLove is Blind OhioSecret Lives of Mormon Wives S4The only place to find a full trailer of our Misogyny Roundups is over on our free Patreon tier!
The Godfather
Tara Jabbari (Who Was She Podcast) has come prepared to prove to Natalie and the entire Tolerator audience that the Godfather Trilogy is actually a chick flick. Tara will use the films as a way to discuss how masculinity is presented in the films, the strong storylines rooted in the immigrant experience, and how women quietly held power behind the scenes. There will also be some moments where we can all just get a little hot over how good everyone looked in this trilogy.
And as a bonus feature, Tara has shared her pitch deck with all the...
Sex and the City
Nicky Trendz and Manny Oso from the podcast Bubble Bath Stories are here to chat about Manny’s first official watch through of Sex and the City. Highlights of the conversation will be why Natalie isn’t team any of those men, the dating tropes that each woman fell into during their story arc, the importance of having a group of strong women by your side, and why Carrie should have definitely accepted that check from Mr. Big.
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Kat Sass
Kat Sass is a drag artist, makeup artist, costume designer, teacher, tv and film personality, event host, and their creativity knows no bounds. All of those topics will be discussed with a special focus on how misogyny affects your life as a drag artist and as a creative in general.
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February 2026 End of Month Reminders
Thank you to all our Team Tolerator members over at Patreon! I hope you enjoy your bonus episode this month and I cannot wait to hear your thoughts on the misogyny I rounded up.
Remember, everyone who joins a paid tier in the months of December, January, February, and March will be recieving an exclusive Team Tolerator friendship bracelet set!
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Heated Rivalry
We’re coming to the cottage! Kervin (For Why Games) joins Natalie on the pod to chat over the show that took the holiday season by storm, Heated Rivalry! The two friends will relive their favorite moments from the show and talk about the show as a form of queer representation in the media. They will also discuss how the show had them reflecting on their own experiences with love, audiences reactions to the show, and the discourse that happens all over the internet because of the show.
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Losing Interest in Men
Megan Metzger is a comedian from Chicago who has recently gone through a divorce. She joins Natalie on the show to walk through the misogyny she experienced within her marriage and what the future holds for her. The problem with that future? Megan has found it really hard to be attracted to men or want to spend time with them after her divorce. Dating, relationships, women’s experiences with casual sex, and more will be discussed as we try to find the solution for how to have a physical attraction to men when you don’t actually like men all that...
Sailor Moon
Natalie is joined by new friend Cetoria to get into the girl powered world that is Sailor Moon. They will talk about how the show represents the energy that is being a teenage girl. Within the conversation surrounding Sailor Moon, they will also talk about the hierarchy of girlhood and how they experienced girlhood as young women and ways they’re reclaiming it today. They’ll also discuss other treasured franchises that were celebrating young women while they were growing up.
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End of Month Reminders
Thank you to all our Team Tolerator members over at Patreon! I hope you enjoy your bonus episode this month and I cannot wait to hear your thoughts on the misogyny I rounded up.
Remember, everyone who joins a paid tier in the months of December, January, February, and March will be recieving an exclusive Team Tolerator friendship bracelet set!
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Revisiting Glinda
Julia Washington (Prose and Glow) is back to dive deep into her feelings about Glinda now that she has seen Wicked: For Good. Natalie and Julia will discuss the deep amount of empathy Elphaba holds for Glinda, even when Glinda is still siding with Oz and taking the privileges that come along with that choice. They will also discuss Glinda’s path to understanding it isn’t enough to entertain the thought that there are oppressive systems surrounding you, eventually you do have to do some actions to bring about change. There will also be discussion surrounding how the media serv...
Dating tips from a Divorce Attorney
Sarah Intelligator is a family law attorney and author of the book Live, Laugh, Find True Love: A Step-By-Step Guide to Dating and Finding a Meaningful Relationship, By a Divorce Attorney. She joins Natalie to talk about all the things she’s observed from couples who have solicited her help when they make the decision to file for a divorce. These observations have led Sarah to have some clear cut do’s and don’t’s on how to really be intentional on finding the right partner. In this episode, she gives some solid advice on how to pay attention to the i...
What is a Woman? With Sara Caplan
Sara Caplan is an improv comedian, trans woman, and philosophy student who has spent her life thinking about the nature of womanhood. She brought her one woman show, “What is a Woman: A One Woman(?) Show” to Gen Con 2025 and Natalie was lucky enough to be in the audience. Natalie and Sara will talk about transphobia, the philosophy behind gender roles, and their experiences confronting people who are so rooted in their identity because of the gender roles they have committed to.
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