Fierce Marriage
Hosts Ryan and Selena Frederick discuss modern marriage issues with transparency, humor, and gospel-centeredness. Join in for honest conversations, light-hearted hilarity, and more than enough grace to go around.
Women's Romance Novels? Countless Wives Commit This Sin and It’s JUST as Bad as P*rn
Today, Ryan and Selena talk about a habit many Christian wives have but rarely question. They go through what the Bible says about it and show why it's just as bad as men watching p*rn.
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Walking Out of Marital Plagues (Conclusion to the 10 Plagues Series)
Over the past ten weeks, we've walked through the plagues that hit marriages the hardest. This final episode is about what comes after them: the blood, the deliverance, and the long walk that follows.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
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The Plague of Disordered Roles (The 10 Marriage Plagues, 10/10)
What can a wife do if she is forced to take the responsibilities of the head of the household?
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
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The Plague of a Cruel Husband or Wife (The 10 Marriage Plagues, 9/10)
How can a wife or husband respond when their spouse treats them with cruelty?
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit https://fiercemarriage.com/partner
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The Plague of Financial Hardship (The 10 Marriage Plagues, 8/10)
Financial hardship wreaks havoc on marriages. How can we approach seasons of under-earning without losing the health of marriage in the process?
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit https://fiercemarriage.com/partner
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The Plague of Mettlesome In-Laws (The 10 Marriage Plagues, 7/10)
Does honoring your parents mean staying quiet when in-laws cross the line? Today, we break down why that's a dangerous misunderstanding, using a real listener's story about a mother-in-law who won't stop attacking her daughter-in-law behind closed doors.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner wi...
The Plague of a Passive Husband (The 10 Marriage Plagues, 6/10)
Today, we tackle one of the most common and quietly devastating marriage struggles: the passive husband. We unpack why so many men confuse peacekeeping with peacemaking and the practical habits that can pull a marriage back from the edge before it's too late.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
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Unequally Yoked Marriage (The 10 Marriage Plagues, 5/10)
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit https://fiercemarriage.com/partner
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When a Husband Doesn’t Lead Spiritually (The 10 Marriage Plagues, 4/10)
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit https://fiercemarriage.com/partner
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The Plague of a Sexless Marriage (The 10 Marriage Plagues, 3/10)
Today we respond to a letter from a man named Dave who has been rejected by his wife for nearly a decade. If you or someone you know is quietly suffering through a marriage that's struggling in this way, this episode will give you the biblical clarity and direction you've been looking for.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian...
The Biblical Framework That Fixes Communication QUICK
What if the biggest problem in your marriage isn't your conflict — it's how you're speaking into it? Today we dive into a concept that may reframe the way you think about communication: your words are covenantal envoys, carrying cargo between two souls trying to share the same reality.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
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The Wholehearted YES! How Wives Can Joyfully Submit to Their Husbands
Today we unpack the idea of the "wholehearted yes": what Scripture says about a wife's God-designed posture of responding and receiving, why wives are always communicating something whether they use words or not, and how the gutsy, faith-fueled story of Abigail — a woman who stopped a bloodbath without losing her composure — gives us one of the most powerful pictures of godly restraint in all of Scripture.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40pray...
Adultery, Betrayal, and S*xual Sin (The 10 Marriage Plagues, 2/10)
Infidelity is the one of the most common plagues destroying Christian marriages today, and many people never see it coming. Today we unpack how to protect your marriage from it (or heal from it) according to the Bible.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner...
An Honest Look at Ongoing P*rn Use (The 10 Marriage Plagues, 1/10)
Pornography is the number one plague silently destroying Christian marriages today — and most wives never see it coming. Today we tackle the most asked-about topic from over 1,300 listener submissions: what do you do when your husband's secret is finally exposed?
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To...
When Working Harder Doesn't Work: Becoming a Truly Fruitful Marriage
Many Christians try to fix their marriage by "working harder" on their behavior, but as we discuss in this episode, that’s like stapling fruit to a dead tree. If you find yourself lacking patience, kindness, or self-control, the problem isn't your effort—it’s your root. We dive deep into the Greek definitions of the Fruit of the Spirit, the "tailpipe" diagnostic for your home, and the reality of what it means to truly be a regenerate believer. This breakdown offers the biblical roadmap to moving from fleshly "rotten fruit" to a life truly indwelled by the Spirit.
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If Bearing Fruit in Your Marriage Feels Forced, You Need to Hear This
Is your marriage bearing genuine spiritual fruit, or are you simply stapling "good behavior" onto a dying tree? Today we dive deep into the "engine" of a Christian union. We explore the critical difference between moralizing—trying to force change through sheer will—and living a life truly indwelled by the Holy Spirit.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visi...
More Questions to Diagnose the Spiritual Health of Your Marriage (Part 2 of 2)
Today we break down the spiritual reality of the "One Flesh" union and provide 10 diagnostic questions to determine if your marriage is actually flourishing or just surviving.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit https://fiercemarriage.com/partner
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10 Questions to Diagnose the Spiritual Health of Your Marriage (Part 1)
Today we break down the spiritual reality of the "One Flesh" union and provide 10 diagnostic questions to determine if your marriage is actually flourishing or just surviving.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit https://fiercemarriage.com/partner
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I Love You But I'm Not IN Love with You...? Understanding Love
Is it possible to fall out of love? Today we talk about the nature of love and the common lie that you can "Love someone but not BE in love with them."
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit https://fiercemarriage.com...
What to Do When a Husband Won't Lead Spiritually?
Today we dive deep into the heavy reality of wives who are carrying the spiritual load alone. We break down the biblical definition of headship—Prophet, Priest, and King—and explain how a wife can win her husband "without a word" through a gentle and quiet spirit, while also giving a direct, sobering call to men to repent and embrace Godly leadership.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
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What if a Wife Struggles to Submit?
Modern culture has branded "submission" as an outdated, oppressive concept, but the Bible describes it as the very fertilizer that allows a marriage to thrive. Today, we dive deep into the real reasons wives struggle to submit, the danger of the "jellyfish husband," and the importance of sacrificial leadership.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com<...
What if a Husband Is Addicted to WORK?
Many Christian men believe they are honoring God by working themselves to the bone, but could their hard work actually be sinful? Today we examine the biblical theology of work, from the Garden of Eden to the command of the Sabbath, to see where modern husbands are missing the mark.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood...
7 Tactics the Devil Uses to DESTROY Your Marriage (Part 2)
In this part 2 of 2, we expose the spiritual battle currently raging for your home and the specific strategies the enemy uses to tear husbands and wives apart. We break down how subtle shifts in your priorities allow the devil to gain a foothold.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry...
7 Tactics the Devil Uses to DESTROY Your Marriage (Part 1)
In this part 1 of 2, we expose the spiritual battle currently raging for your home and the specific strategies the enemy uses to tear husbands and wives apart. We break down how subtle shifts in your priorities allow the devil to gain a foothold.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry...
The Single Biggest Predictor of Divorce and How to Avoid It in Your Marriage
Today, we expose the single biggest predictor of divorce: Contempt. We dive into the psychology of the four horsemen and the theology of Matthew 18 to show you how self-righteousness and entitlement rot marriages from the inside out.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with...
How Modern “Dating” Culture Destroys Christian Marriages
Is modern dating unbiblical? Today we expose the worldly origins of casual dating and hookup culture, and why these modern constructs are actively destroying Christian marriages before they even begin. We break down the lost biblical art of courtship and the weight of the marriage covenant.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
<...9 Ways Husbands Forsake Their Wives
Today, we uncover 9 common ways husbands functionally forsake their wives—often without even realizing it. From spiritual laziness and poor communication to the subtle ways we let intimacy die, this is an important reminder for every Christian husband.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner wi...
When a Wife Struggles to Honor Her Husband
In a world that normalizes wives only respecting their husbands when they "earn" it, many Christian marriages are falling into a trap. Today we dive into the needed truths of Ephesians 5 and identify nine common ways that wives dishonor their husbands.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely...
10 Horrible Tips for Marital Arguments
Communication is the single biggest downfall in marriages—bigger than finances, chores, and even sex. Today, we are taking an inverse approach by giving you 10 "horrible" tips guaranteed to ruin your relationship and kill intimacy.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit ht...
How to Create a Biblical Vision Statement for Your Family in 2026
Christians, please don’t enter the New Year without doing this… Today we discuss the startling statistic that 94% of families lack a written vision statement and share the three-part framework for creating a biblical family vision.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit...
Struggling With Discontentment in Your Marriage? A Biblical Response
Today we explore the theology of contentment, challenging believers to stop calling their sin a "personality trait" and start fighting for the peace that only comes from a life fully surrendered to God’s sovereignty.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit ht...
How to Have a GOOD Sex Life (According to the Bible)
Is your perspective on sex hurting your marriage? In this episode, Ryan and Selena tackle the often misunderstood topic of intimacy in the Christian life. We break down the 5 biblical keys to a healthy perspective on sex.
RESOURCES:
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with...
The 3 P's that Will Poison Your Marriage (Revisited)
Marriage is God’s gift for joy and sanctification — but three subtle poisons can kill it: Pennies, Perversion, and Pride.
Pennies – Loving money breeds fear, comparison, and discontent. Antidote: Seek first God’s kingdom (Matt 6:25–34).Perversion – Porn, withholding, or distortion twist God’s good gift of sex. Antidote: Pursue regular, healing intimacy as worship (1 Cor 7:5).Pride – “I know better” fuels unforgiveness and division. Antidote: Look to the humble Servant-King and forgive as Christ forgave us (Matt 20:28, Eph 4:32).Spot the poison, repent fast, and watch God restore joy to your covenant. Short, scriptural, and straight to the heart — hit play with your spo...
Mocking Wives? When a Wife Struggles to Respect Her Husband: A Biblical Response
In this raw and urgent episode, Ryan and Selena respond directly to a viral clip from Dr. Emerson Eggerichs (Love & Respect) where he calls out wives who “continually mock their husbands,” put them down mentally, and secretly make fun of their opinions.
If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking, “He’s just not the man I thought I married” … this episode is for you.
We dive deep into:
The devastating long-term fruit of a disrespectful speech and a critical spirit (Prov 21:19, Prov 27:15)Why even “small” condescending comments, eye-rolls, and corrections are spiritual poisonGenesis 1–2 an...Are S*x and Intimacy Challenges Helpful? Maybe
God designed marital closeness not only for physical connection but also to nurture emotional and spiritual unity. When husbands and wives pursue intimacy regularly, they often experience a deeper sense of being loved, fulfilled, adored, and valued by their spouse. Join us as we explore how Christ-centered surrender and Christ-honoring intimacy can transform both our inner lives and our marriages.
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
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The 15-Second Kiss Experiment Revisited
What keeps a marriage thriving through the highs and lows of life? In this episode we discuss some wisdom given to us by another couple who have been walking hand in hand for decades — and they shared something powerful. You’ll hear about a simple, practical “experiment” designed to help diffuse tension, deepen connection, and invite God’s peace into your relationship. The answer may surprise you! Tune in to discover how you can start your own marriage experiment today and watch love grow in new ways.
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Covenant Over Comfort: The Cosmic Purpose of Marriage Part 2
Listen as we uncover God’s mission for marriage — to raise children who walk in the Lord and to reflect His love through our covenant relationships. Husbands are called to love their wives, and wives to submit to their husbands, walking in unity to bear lasting fruit. Though the enemy seeks to destroy the sanctity of marriage, godly couples stand as living proof of God’s perfect design — to be fruitful, multiply, and subdue the earth for His glory.
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
<...Covenant Over Comfort: The Cosmic Purpose of Marriage (Part 1)
Marriage isn’t just a contract — it’s a covenant before God. Join us as we dive deep into the sacred reality that when a marriage ends, it’s more than the loss of a relationship — it’s the death of a family, the breaking of a divine promise. Because when we understand what and who we’re fighting for, we can stand firm in the promise that what God has joined together, no one can separate.
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
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The One Habit That Will Change Your Marriage Quickly and Forever
A Christ-centered home is built through daily habits of worship and trust. Family worship is how we honor God together—not perfectly, but faithfully.
Master marital communication: https://speak.fiercemarriage.com
Take the 31-Day Pursuit Challenge: https://31daypursuit.com
Pray for your spouse with intention: https://40prayers.com
To learn more about becoming a Christian, visit: https://thenewsisgood.com
This ministry is entirely listener-supported. To partner with us, visit https://fiercemarriage.com/partner
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What Women Really Need in Marriage
Join us as we explore God’s design for men and women in marriage. When men step into their God-given calling—leading with love, humility, and strength—it creates an environment where women can feel safe, secure, honored, and deeply loved. This frees wives to fully embrace who God has called them to be. Together, we’ll unpack what it looks like for husbands to walk in their role and how that opens the door for wives to flourish in theirs, leading to stronger, Christ-centered marriages.
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