BIG GIRLS BIG GOALS
Hi! We are Ally and Jennifer, and we are big girls with big goals. We want to share our knowledge and experience in growing up as the “big girls” and being plus size women in our society today for both our fellow plus size people and those wanting to learn about how our day to day experiences differ from their own. That’s a mouthful! With all of that said, we’re not just big girls anymore. We’ve got big goals for our lives, and we want to share what we are teaching ourselves that we wish we’d been taught...
Girls Gotta Eat
We've hit you with some pretty heavy topics over the last few weeks, so we thought it was time to dive into a fun conversation around some of our favorite things…
And, yes, we’ll proudly admit that we recorded an entire episode based on food. Our most favorites, our least favorites, and some questionable choices in between.
The takeout, we mean, the takeaway here is that we’ve had a complicated relationship with food our whole lives. But mac & cheese, tacos, sushi, and fettuccini Alfredo are here to stay.
Can We Get Some Precedented Times?
Raise your hand if you have ever been personally victimized by a pandemic.
We realize that we are INCREDIBLY fortunate here. These unprecedented times have taken a lot from each of us, but we got to hold on to those we love most. It breaks our hearts to know that so many others were not so lucky.
With that said, we felt the need to get this out. We wanted to acknowledge that these past few years have changed us, and we're still working on figuring out which parts of us are still here, however fa...
The Breakup Blues
Breakups suck. That's it. That's the end of the notes.
Just kidding.
We have a very special listener who is going through a hard time following a very tough breakup, and she asked us to open back up a conversation around some of our past heartbreaks. Specifically, she asked if we could just talk about how we navigated some of these tough times. And the truth is that it's been some time since either of us has really dealt with this firsthand, but we want to help. So, we're digging a little deeper...
Size "Inclusivity"
A letter to any brand calling themselves “Size Inclusive”
To Whom it May Concern:
XL is not extended sizing.
Warmest Regards,
The Big Girls ♥️
We’re not going to go into a long rant here in the show notes because we did a whole lot of that in this episode. We’re so over these targeted ads promising a wide selection for our wide bodies only to waste our time with a bullsh*t excuse for extended sizing. We have money to spend, so why doesn’t ever...
Vitamin D Soothes the Soul
The Big Girls Took a "Work Trip!"
We definitely did a little work, and we did a whole lot of things that made our souls shine. We ate delicious food. We drank very fun, frozen drinks. We laughed until our stomachs hurt. We walked like a bajillion miles. We connected with our teammates. We danced in a very loud Greek restaurant. And we soaked up ALL the Vitamin D that the Sunshine State had to offer.
It wasn't all sunshine and rainbows. One of us may have rolled her ankle. One of us may have...
Smile for the Camera
Work it, boo.
We’re continuing with our series of topics that our listeners hand picked for us, and, today, we’re talking all things camera confidence!
Now, don’t get it twisted. We are not the most confident women in the world all day everyday. But, we’re trying! We’ve been learning through our own experiences of stepping out from behind the lens, and one of the most freeing things we’ve found is that the more we put ourselves out there, the less we care what anyone else thinks. And, guess what...
The Art of Saying "NO"
HOT TIP: "NO" IS A COMPLETE SENTENCE.
As recovering people pleasers, we still struggle with the balancing act of wanting to be everyone's go-to gals and wanting to be overprotective of ourselves. It's certainly not a black and white thing either, right? There's so much grey area here. There are things we may not really feel like doing and things that we really cannot do. And let's face it, we're closing in on our mid-30s, and we still don't get it right everyday.
If we had one wish for you, our followers...
Something Old. Something New. Fix Bridal Sizing. K Thanks, Boo.
Here comes the brides all dressed in...anxiety.
As elder millennials, it was right around the time that we were graduating high school that we started getting inundated with the idea of this magical day in the future that we'd be shopping for our weddings gowns. Basically, "Say Yes to the Dress" had just begun its now twenty season run and graced our televisions with the promise of an incredibly beautiful experience on the day that we would choose THE dress. *Spoiler Alert* It was nothing like what we'd seen on TV.
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Confessions of a Shopaholic
This one was tough...for one of us.
Retail therapy is defined as the act of shopping as a way to relieve emotional distress in other areas of life. Simply put, it's spending money thinking it will make you happy. And it does...for a minute at least. But, so far, there hasn't been a single pair of shoes or a perfect maxi dress that's fixed everything.
Have you ever made mistakes in managing your money? Want to know a secret? Statistically, there are more people that DON'T know how to handle...
We're Learning Something! (Part II)
If you take anything away from this episode, let it be this: DON'T COMMENT ON SOMEONE ELSE'S BODY.
And maybe few other tips for being a decent human being on the internet.
We are a little angry. We are definitely fed up. And we want to start changing conversations. Here's a good place to start. If you are not one of the medical professionals that we personally see for our healthcare needs, our bodies are none of your business. Here's another note for you. If your approach to selling a product is to...
WLS - We're Learning Something! (Part I)
Let us start by saying that this episode started out as an interview. It was going great for a solid amount of time...then it took a right...and a left. And somehow it wound up being a two part episode around WLS (Weight Loss Surgery), the assumptions we make around taking the "easy route," not reaching out to strangers on the internet about weight loss, and NOT COMMENTING ON SOMEONE'S BODY.
We'll leave you with that...for now. Enjoy our first two part episode! Part II will be released later this week!
One Bun Short of a Full Belly
We're keeping it casual today, friends. We had the pleasure of hanging out with two of our friends from our real estate lives, and the conversations we had around our bodies, our relationships with food, and our day to day experiences were incredibly eye opening. We know that we are well on our way to having a loving and caring relationship with our own individual body images, but we're still just one bun short of a full belly.
Try Too Hard
We don't know about you, but we did not wake up like this.
Yes, we say it all the time, but one more time for the people in the back. SOCIAL MEDIA IS A HIGHLIGHT REEL. While we're loving the trend toward authenticity, we seem to keep running into the same notion, on screen and off, that we as women shouldn't look like we're trying too hard. And we're not here for it. We'll take a red carpet and a round of applause for the days we slap on a full face and...
BIG GAL PALS
We are fully aware that we dropped a pretty heavy episode on you guys earlier this week, so today we're keeping it easy breezy while we gush over our big gal pals!
It's been quite a year for the both of us in developing new friendships with people who understand and share in our experiences as plus size women. It's not always easy to discuss life as a big gal with our straight-sized friends through no fault of their own, obviously! Finding people who we've been able to open up to from the moment we...
THE BIG D
Sadly, we’re talking about a very not fun “D Word” today. Buckle up, it’s a heavy one.
Millions, literally, millions of people suffer from depression in the US alone. The funny thing is, we can probably count on one hand the number of conversations we’ve had openly about our mental health struggles. While it’s becoming less taboo to talk about, it can definitely still feel so isolating.
We don’t have the answers to fixing our mental health. Believe us when we say we absolutely wish we did. We just want you...
Plus Size Heartbreaks
Go ahead and grab the whole bottle of wine. We’re spilling all the secrets behind our plus size heartbreaks. 🥴
The dating world isn’t easy for a lot of people, and we totally understand that that goes for people of all shapes and sizes. What we want to acknowledge today is that if we had to do it all over again, we definitely could do quite a large amount of things differently.
As plus size women, we found that we had similar experiences involving mountains of self-doubt and loads of insecurities that we allo...
We Got Goals
This episode should be called "We've Been Talking About Goals for a Week, and We Haven't Shared Our Own Goals." That's a little lengthy, so...WE GOT GOALS, YA'LL!
We want to be crystal clear here. These are not our New Year's Resolutions. These are short term goals, long term goals, mindset goals, financial goals...and everything in between. This is an episode centered around why we're here and why we're going to keep showing up in our lives for ourselves, for our families, and for each other.
Go Big or Go Take a Nap
Hustle? No, thanks. We left her in 2021.
For real, though. At some point over these last two years and all these *unprecedented* times, something just clicked for us. There has to be more to life than "the grind." Are we really supposed to just keep our heads down and race through our midlife years so that we can be happy later? Again, no thanks!
We say all of that, and then we hyperventilate into paper bags because being "the hardest worker in the world" was who we were. Literally. Our identities...
Big (Fan)Girls
We are BIG GIRL-CRUSHING today!
It's no secret that Instagram is a big part of our lives, and the women we're *gushing* over today have inspired us in so many big ways. It's still crazy to think that you truly can curate your own community over the internet, and these influential rockstars have opened up so many doors for people of all shapes and sizes. We're also throwing in a few of our favorite celebs, and maybe even opening up a bit of a *controversial* can of worms. Check out our list below, and go...
Money Talks
Let’s start talking about the M Word: MONEY.
Let’s be honest, like REAL honest here. Neither one of us have our financial sh*t together. We’re learning as we go! We started our journey into financial literacy just a few months ago, and we’re sharing some of our first finds with all of you!
We’ve got lots more to learn and big goals when it comes to our financial futures, and these are just a few of the resources that have inspired us to start maki...
Starting Messy
New Year, New You?
NAH, BOO. We like you just the way you are.
Let us guess. Everyone around you is talking about their 2022 resolutions. "When I lose the weight this year, I'll be happy." "I'll slow down when I get that promotion in October." IT'S A TRAP. Hate to break it to you, friends, but, if you keep waiting for the perfect time to live your life, you're going to waste it. Now, don't get us wrong. We're all for learning and growing until we're old and grey, but we're...
Big Girls Want Clothes Too
Raise your hand if you've ever felt personally victimized by the fashion industry. *RAISES BOTH HANDS*
In our first episode, we're giving you the lowdown on our favorite plus size brands, some hit or miss choices, and our struggles with shopping in a straight size world growing up. Scroll for the lineup of the brands we mentioned!
Super Plus Size Friendly Brands
Walmart $
Old Navy $
Torrid $$
ASOS $$
Eloquii $$$
Lane Bryant $$$
Semi-Friendly Plus Size Brands
Boohoo $
H&M $$
Target $$<...
BIG GIRLS BIG GOALS
Hi, friends! We are Ally Haire and Jennifer Kornegay, and we are BIG GIRLS with BIG GOALS! We are inviting you to come along with us as we learn how to take up space in today's world. We're covering anything and everything from shopping for plus size clothes to teaching ourselves about money and just about all the things in between. We're really just here to share the things that we wish someone would've shared with us a long time ago.
So, whether you're a big girl or you've g...
