The Labia Lounge

A debutante ball can look like a glamorous night of dresses, limos, dancing, and family photos. Look closer, and the tradition carries older ideas about purity, heterosexuality, marriageability, gender roles, and who gets presented to society.

This episode follows the thread from debutante balls to weddings, gender reveal parties, children’s toys, beauty pageants, rites of passage & coming-of-age rituals, and the Manosphere. The conversation asks what gets lost when traditions disappear, and whether the celebratory parts can be rebuilt without the patriarchal framework.

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This week in The Labia Lounge I chat with my darling friend Wren about being made to feel like we're "too much" for men to "handle" and how this shows up in dating. We also cover a bunch of recent tea from the Freya Finds A Fella campaign, and various other meaty topics like feminism, intimacy, boundaries, beauty standards, and the unequal risks women face when building relationships or having babies with men.

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This bonus eppy is a candid hike-side conversation about casual sex, asking for pleasure, sexual boundaries, and the deeply ingrained conditioning that makes receiving or asking for what you want feel like taking too much.

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This week in The Labia Lounge I recorded an impromptu solo episode. In this eppy I speak on the less-talked-about realities of singlehood: the emotional labour of dating, the “single tax,” loneliness, reduced support, and the pressure to pretend that independence always feels empowering.

I also talk about what happened after taking a romantic risk in person, including the nerves, embarrassment and “shame hangover” that followed my last attempt to shoot my shot!

I also unpack the grief of watching friends couple up, get married and have children while grieving a future that once felt cer...

This bonus episode of The Labia Lounge pod is a sizzler! I bring back my fav guest, Dan, for some candid chats about everything from cervical orgasms, dick size and preferences, body compatibility, and dirty talk all the way to soft domming, service topping, kink, ejaculation, and being able to fully receive as a woman without feeling guilt or pressure around needing to "return the favour."

I share some tea about my current sexplorations with my new f*ck buddy as I traverse the Find Freya A Fella campaign and what I'm learning about myself, edges I'm...

This week in The Labia Lounge I welcome Lexy Davis on to talk about dating as part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign/dating experiment!

We discuss why we can say we want love, then quietly keep it at arm’s length, and the sneaky hidden patterns that can keep women single, emotionally unavailable, or stuck choosing chaos over consistency.

We unpack hyper-independence, dating fatigue, rejection, high standards versus protective walls, and why a safe relationship can initially feel “boring” when your nervous system is used to intensity.

Lexy explains how perfor...

In this bonus episode of The Labia Lounge podcast we're diving into some dating stories and tales of rejection as part of the #FindFreyaAFella campaign!

I get my friend Matt on to chat about the unlikely story of how we met and became friends in the wake of a date invitation that I said "no" to.

We unpack rejection, parasocial relationships, coping mechanisms, dating-app fatigue, and how to say no while still leaving someone better than you found them. There's also some text examples sent in by a listener to show how they've handled saying "...

This week in The Labia Lounge I have another Bonus episode for you as part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign! I brought on my friend and expert labial legend Dr. Mardi Wilson to talk about the double standards in dating when it comes to how men and women are perceived and treated when they're actively looking for love and partnership.

We chat about things like:

This week on The Labia Lounge I bring on the absolutely divine Ruby Josif to talk about how to use authenticity as a dickhead filter and attract our true people with our true selves.

As part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign I'm chatting with friends and experts alike about all things dating on these bonus episodes for the duration of the campaign. There'll be tips, advice, and dating insights, along with updates and stories from the campaign in more detail than I can share on social media.

We've added in a new...

This week on The Labia Lounge I'm back with my 201st episode! This one is a dating related episode as part of the Find Freya A Fella campaign, and I'm interviewing Laura Forbes from 'Quit Dating Idiots'! She's a dating and relationships expert and this chat is super validating, empowering, and insightful if you or someone you care about is navigating the dating world right now.

Join us for a candid, no-nonsense conversation packed with giggles and real talk on why so many of us override our gut instincts, get stuck in people-pleasing, and end up...

My 200th episode of The Labia Lounge podcast!!! So wild to think about how many hours I've put into this and awesome guests I've interviewed over the last 4.5 years since launching the pod.

This one is an extra special Bonus episode for ya - a live recording from that time I braved the stage as a contestant at Human Love Quest AND a hard launch of the Find Freya A Fella campaign that I'm currently embarking on!

All of this is a hybrid blend of social experiment meets PR campaign meets guerrilla marketing meets crowdsourcing...

This week in The Labia Lounge I chatted earnestly with Heb on The Web about her creative, self-made lifestyle and career. Heb is a delight to hang with (you should check out her podcast Hangs with Heb) and we had such great yarns about the realities of choosing to commit to the bit and continue to lead a passion-led, creative life in the face of a world that doesn't make this commitment easy.

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Choking during sex is now so normalised among teenagers that most of them don't even clock it as a red flag. That's the world we're navigating — and in this episode, I sat down with the Shel and Drew from SafeBAE to talk about how we actually help young people find their way through it.

We got into the manosphere, the algorithm, porn, and why the US is so far behind places like Australia and the UK when it comes to funding real sex ed. And we talked about SafeBAE's new tool, Vibe Check — a choose-your-own-adventure style reso...

This week in The Labia Lounge I interviewed the incredibly impressive Jiabao Li.

Jiabao Li is an artist, inventor, and professor whose work explores more-than-human ecologies, feminist biotech, multispecies intelligence, and how technology reshapes perception. Her work has been exhibited at MoMA, Ars Electronica, the Venice Architecture Biennale, Exploratorium, and The Contemporary Austin. Her TED Talk uncovered how technology mediates the way we perceive reality, and she was named Forbes China 30 Under 30. I've never been so blown away by someone's body of work and the way their mind works more than I am with this woman!

This week in The Labia Lounge I have Clementine Morrigan back on for our second episode together!

What an epic human, honestly. This chat didn't disappoint and was just as enlightening, nuanced, and compassionate as the first one. Check out our other episode if you haven't already. It's about incest, childhood sexual abuse, and cancel culture.

This time we spoke about the challenges and pitfalls of dating non-monogamously. Clementine has had over a decade of experience being polyamourous and dating multiple people long-term. She's written zines and articles about this, and has an upcoming...

This week on The Labia Lounge I'm rebooting an old classic. I've edited together the 3 episodes I recorded at Comfort Creek festival a couple of years ago, which was my first ever festival appearance with the IRL pussy couch! There are some wild conversations in here, and a pretty intriguing mystery that unfolds as we go. I think you'll dig it!

Captain Spice's chai can be found here: https://www.captainspice.com.au/

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This week in The Lab Lounge I have an informal yarn with a mate about his battles with premature ejaculation, performance anxiety, perfectionism and neurodivergence, including his recent discovery that he has a form of OCD as well as ADHD.

We cover how he overcame this crippling insecurity and challenge in the bedroom, what worked for him and what didn't, and have some really fab discussions that I think you'll find insightful, validating, and helpful!

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments...

This week in The Labia Lounge I'm re-releasing a favourite of mine with Jill from Sex Ed Princess.

Check out her work here: https://jill-lissner.com/

Plus you can expect all the usual antics and hilarious, vulnerable n' relatable personal stories and signature segments that you've come to know and love here in The Labia Lounge!

Make sure you're subscribed for more LL action, and it'd absolutely warm my heart and tickle my clit if you'd leave a gushing review or five star rating for the...

This week on The Labia Lounge I got to talk to lots of fascinating party goers at the latest Virtue & Vice play party event.

This is my 4th V & V party episode chatting with guests, and will be the last for some time as I let my vocal cords heal (I've recently discovered I've developed cysts on the suckers!)

This is the usual combo of funny stories, sexy stories, vulnerable stories, and downright awesome chats. Enjoy!

Check out SafeBAE's new resource for teenage boys and young men who feel they may...

This Bonus installment of The Labia Lounge is another doozie from PBD festival and you're gonna absolutely die with laughter in this one! I interviewed a combo of folk from my world and punters at PBD where I set up The Labia Lounge, asking them for stories of when they've shat themselves. And let me tell you, they did not disappoint!!!

There's even a few side quests where we follow tangents about pet cats and family sex busts (what's that you ask? Listen to find out!)

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In this special bonus episode of The Labia Lounge I set up the pussy couch at my favourite festival, PBD. I interviewed punters about their early masturbation experiences and their journeys of self discovery. We also end up discussing all sorts of other juicy stuff and it was such a treat to have some unexpectedly deep chats with these hilarious, intelligent, sensitive beings who had the courage to step on up to The Lab Lounge's velvet flaps!

Sit back and enjoy one of my favourite episodes with loads of my favourite humans! This one is really...

This week in The Labia Lounge I chat with Brooke Bralove about what shapes sexuality.

Brooke is a Clinical Social Worker, Psychotherapist, Sex Therapist, Certified Master Practitioner of Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART).

So she knows her shit!

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This week in The Labia Lounge I've got some seriously tasty chats for you, straight from the mouths of Babes (with a capital B)! Babes who came for a yarn on the Lounge at a recent Virtue and Vice sex party, mind you, not babies!

There's everything from a speech pathologist who's fighting the good fight and helping his patients communicate in the bedroom, to a woman questioning whether she's asexual or not, to a candid conversation with The Funny Dom and his sub about some lesser known elements of Domming and the Sub/Dom relationship. Also...

This week in The Labia Lounge I'm serving up more steaming hot Chats With Dan!

It's turned out to be a bit of a bird-y kinda episode, somehow... We chat pigeons, "bubble-ducking", cuckolding, and touchin' knobs (one of Dan's favourite and most under-rated pastimes)

Enjoy this candid conversation and laugh along with us as we yarn on the deck out the back of my place!

I'm too tired to make this show-notes spiel any more enticing or profesh than that, so get off my back ffs.

But do listen, cos...

In another installment of Chats With Dan, we hear the heartbreaking and disturbing story of how Dan's drama teacher lost his job. Somehow, despite being possibly groomed while in High School by said drama teacher, Dan manages to tell this story with so much humour and perspective.

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This week in the Lounge I chatted with Inna Segal, best-selling author of The Secret Language of The Body.

Her journey began after years of illness and the tragic stillbirth of her child, which led her to discover a profound ability to heal herself. From that turning point, she dedicated her life to helping others transform pain into freedom.

For over 25 years, Inna has worked with people worldwide—from doctors and psychologists to trauma survivors and creatives—teaching how to uncover the true roots of suffering and restore health through the wisdom of the body and...

This week in The Labia Lounge I chat with founder of SHIPS (Sexual Health and Intimacy Psychological Services) and the Institute of Sexual Health Psychology Australia (ISHPA), Sarah Ashton. Dr Sarah Ashton is a sexual health psychologist and author with over 18 years’ experience working in trauma-informed sexual health, attachment, and complex sexual issues, so she's the perfect person to break down the topic of this episode with! The topic being PORN.

We discuss porn’s potential for both positive self-discovery as well as its more challenging effects, tackling questions around porn addiction, “problematic use,” how it changes...

In this fifth installment of my mini-series with our sex-positive guest, Dan, we talk about his coming out story, puberty, kinks, porn, queer explorations, sugar daddies, and more.

Dan shares the complex emotional process of coming out as a teenager, from navigating difficult parental reactions, household dynamics, and his first gay relationship—including the infamous hickey incident. You’ll hear how his family moved from confusion and discomfort to acceptance and genuine allyship, plus loads of fun little anecdotes that come out in conversation as we go - cos he just can't help himself and is a genu...

This week in The Labia Lounge I welcome the incredible Adrienne - AKA The Yoni Nutritionist - back on the pod! As a certified holistic nutritionist, women's health coach, and sexual health educator, Adrienne is renowned for her empowering work around vaginal and sexual health, with a particular focus on gut health, nutrition, and the emotional impact of chronic vaginal conditions.

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In this special bonus episode, I continue my mini-series with my dear friend Dan — bringing you the fourth installment of our hilarious, candid, and totally TMI conversation. If you’re just tuning in, this ongoing series is sprinkled between regular episodes, offering bite-sized chunks packed with sex-positivity and hilariously entertaining stories and musings.

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This week in The Labia Lounge I've got part 3 of my candid mini-series with my delightfully sex-positive friend Dan. If you haven’t caught the first two parts yet, don't worry—you’ll still enjoy this episode, though you might want to check out the earlier conversations for the full ride.

True to form, we deliver another informal, hilarious, and revealing chat, touching on everything from wild school camp stories (including the infamous “homo work” email) to creative DIY glory hole setups, erotic adventures, and fascinating tales from Melbourne’s underground scene—including the fake seizure guy!

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This week in The Labia Lounge we dive deep into the world of fascia, fascia decompression, and how these integral tissues affect our physical, emotional, and even sexual health. I welcome pioneer and Block Therapy founder Deanna Hansen onto the couch to discuss her journey, the science of fascia, and practical steps to unlock pain, trauma, and stagnation in the body.

Key topics include why modern life is working against our bodies, how posture, trauma, and beauty standards impact pelvic health, and what you can do to restore alignment and vitality. Expect holistic wisdom, relatable personal st...

In this juicy episode of The Labia Lounge I chat with Dr. Maria Sophocles—a pioneer in women's healthcare, menopause management, and female sexual health—for a deep dive into the "bedroom gap," gender equality, and how societal, historical, and medical factors impact sex and intimacy.

Dr. Maria coined the term "bedroom gap," now recognized by Oprah and taught in psychology classes, to describe the wide-ranging sexual discrepancies in relationships—including differences in expectations, abilities, satisfaction, and the impact of history and culture. Her new book, The Bedroom Gap, explores these issues and offers actionable advice to help wome...

In this second installment of my little series with my mate Dan, we chat about how he went through early puberty at the age of 8, got teased about his pubes, tried his hand at being a sugar baby, and had a shady surprise at an air BnB with his partner. Among other hilarious stories!

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In this very special episode, I kick off a TMI mini-series with my fabulous friend Dan — prepare yourself for stories, laughs, and some seriously sex-positive real talk.

Basically this episode comprises of two or three hilarious stories that you're not gonna wanna miss. I almost wet myself the first time I heard them, to be honest.

From tales of his mortifying first boner to the unexpected adventures of dramatic and hilarious youthful sexual exploration (spoiler alert, he eats p*ssy for the first time with devastating results).

This mini ep is just the s...

This week in the Lounge, I'm joined by renowned sex therapist, sexologist, and relationship counselor Cyndi Darnell, for a juicy chat about breaking free from traditional relationship scripts and reimagining intimacy, romance, and connection.

We delve into alternative styles of relating—including relationship anarchy, polyamory, solo polyamory, chosen family, and platonic partnerships—exploring what happens when you decenter romance and start nurturing friendships, community, and other meaningful connections. 

Cyndi draws on decades of experience working with maturing populations questioning monogamy, uncovering why so many of us feel dissatisfied or curious about nontraditional ways of loving and livi...

In this juicy episode of The Labia Lounge, I'm joined by the fabulous Genevieve LeJeune, founder of Skirt Club—a global private members’ club for bi-curious and bisexual women.

Genevieve shares the origin story of Skirt Club, talking about the gaps she noticed in spaces for women wanting to connect outside of the male gaze, and how she’s intentionally created safe, empowering, and pleasure-focused events now held in over 36 cities worldwide.

From first-party nerves and behind the scenes insights, to squirt-circle cleanups and overcoming shame around sexual desire and orientation, we cover some fun stuff...

This week on The Labia Lounge I am bringing you a powerful, practical, and deeply empowering conversation with Rei Alphonso. This chat dives into the real-life complexities of community responses to harm and conflict – from intimate partner violence and casual misogyny to microaggressions on the street or at the family dinner table, and beyond.

Rei brings over 20 years of experience across community education, mental health, gender-based violence, activism, and more. Together, we unpack why our current systems can feel so disempowering—and how reclaiming community power, agency, and mutual support can transform the way we respond to harm.

In this juicy episode, I'm joined once again by Susan Bratton, a total powerhouse bad b*tch and "intimacy expert to millions." Together, we dive deep into all things related to sexuality, pleasure, holistic health, and the evolution of our intimate lives—especially as we age. This time, the focus is on sex tech, regenerative therapies, and the latest tools for enhancing sexual vitality from a body-positive, empowering, and absolutely pleasure-inclusive perspective.

Here’s what you can look forward to in this episode:

Ever felt totally swept off your feet—so obsessed with someone you can’t focus, function, or stop replaying every text and glance in your head? In this episode of The Labia Lounge, I sit down with psychologist and author Orly Miller to peel back the layers on limerence: the misunderstood, often pathological fixation that masquerades as intense love.

We get real about: