How To GET THE GIRL - An Ask Women Podcast
How to Get the Girl (formerly Ask Women) is the podcast where men finally learn what actually works with women. Hosted by Your Wing Girl, Marni Kinrys, and banter coach Kristen Carney, this weekly show breaks down attraction, dating, confidence, and communication — without the guesswork, games, or outdated advice. Every week, we bring you real talk from regular women, celebrities, relationship experts, and strong, opinionated females who tell you exactly what makes them lean in… and what makes them walk away. No fluff. No theory. Just honest female insight and practical tools you can use immediately to get the girl — and ke...
Ep. 576 What Alpha Really Means Today
We are throwing it back to a classic conversation about what it really means to be an alpha man today. Our guest Kevin Aillaud breaks down the qualities that make a man grounded, confident, and in charge of his own life. Kevin lives what he teaches, and you can hear that in every moment of this episode. A true must listen.
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Ep. 575 How YOU Can Date Younger Women
David Shade joins us to discuss HOW to date younger women. David is in his mid 70's and has a girlfriend in her 20's. Impossible you say? Listen to find out how he attracts younger women :)
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Ep. 574 Let’s Talk About the Penis: Performance, ED, and What Women Really Think
This week, Marni is joined by the one and only Susan Bratton, intimacy expert to millions, for a no-holds-barred conversation all about the penis. From performance anxiety to erectile dysfunction, we’re breaking down the most common issues men face in the bedroom—and why it’s not just “in your head.”
Susan shares expert insights on what actually causes ED, how to regain confidence and sensitivity, and why the porn you’re watching might be sabotaging your sex life. Plus, we get into what women really want when it comes to intimacy—and spoiler: it’s not about being a porn...
Ep. 573 Crush Approach Anxiety with the Power of Precise Language
What if changing just a few words could completely shift your confidence and attraction levels? In this powerful episode, we welcome back language and mindset expert Spencer Burnett to dive deep into the concept of precise language—how the words you think and say directly impact your ability to connect, attract, and show up as your most magnetic self.
Spencer breaks down how unconscious language patterns fuel anxiety and resistance—and then flips the script with a live, on-air language coaching demo with Marni. Watch (okay, listen!) as he rewires her inner dialogue in real time to eliminate ap...
Ep. 572 Dating by Blaine & Approaching Women
Blaine is one of the best dating coaches out there and she's here to talk about how to approach women, and the BEST places to approach. She's also going to give us her tips on how to keep the conversation going after you've made the approach and so much more.
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Ep. 571 What Erotic Fiction Teaches You About Women
Want to know what women fantasize about?
This is a rerun episode but the insights are still incredibly valuable.
In this episode, I'm joined by Jess from Bloomstories.com to explore what erotic fiction reveals about female desire, attraction, and intimacy.
If you've ever wanted a better understanding of what turns women on emotionally and physically, this conversation will give you a completely different perspective.
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Ep. 570 How To Stay Masculine In A Long Term Relationship
One of the biggest mistakes men make is thinking attraction takes care of itself once you're in a relationship.
It doesn't.
This is a rerun episode but every man in a long term relationship needs to hear it.
I'm joined by Keith Yackey and Jesse Marquez from The Married Game to talk about how to maintain your masculine energy, keep attraction alive, and continue showing up as the man she fell for.
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Ep. 569 Read Her Better In The Bedroom
Want to know what she's enjoying without having to guess?
This is a rerun episode but the advice is timeless.
In this episode, I'm joined by Celeste Hirschman, co-creator of the Somatica® Method, to talk about how to become more tuned in to your partner during intimacy.
You'll learn how to read her responses, communicate with confidence, and create deeper connection without overthinking every move.
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Ep. 568 How To Be More Masculine
What does it really mean to be masculine?
And more importantly... how do you maintain that masculine energy in a relationship?
This is a rerun episode but the lessons are just as relevant today.
In this episode, I sit down with Shawn Haywood from ReimagineLove.com to talk about what healthy masculinity actually looks like and how to make it a consistent part of your life and your relationships
If you've ever wondered how to stay attractive long after the honeymoon phase, this episode is for you.
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Ep. 567 Two Magical Tools To Eliminate Anxiety With Women (Rerun)
Want approach anxiety GONE?
Want the fear of rejection GONE?
This is a rerun episode but the advice in this one is timeless.
This week, one of my Wing Girls, Traci Bermingham, is here to talk about the two powerful mindset tools that help you stop spiraling in your head every time you approach a woman.
Because most men are running on old mental programming that keeps them anxious, hesitant, and stuck in fear.
And until you change that internal software, nothing changes externally.
In this episode...
Ep. 566 Guide To Getting A Girlfriend (What To Do After The 1st Date)
A lot of men can get the first date…
But then they have absolutely no idea what to do next.
This is a rerun episode but the advice in this one is timeless.
Because what happens after the first date is usually where men either build attraction… or completely lose it.
In this episode, I sit down with Jim Wolf, author of The Attract Her and Keep Her System, to talk about how men can better understand women and recognize when a woman is actually interested in them.
We brea...
Ep. 565 HOOK HER With Your Style
Some men resist leveling up their style.
But here is the truth.
You are hurting your chances with women if you ignore how you show up.
This is a rerun episode and it is one you should not skip.
Because style is not about being flashy or fake.
It is about presenting yourself in a way that makes you feel confident and makes women take notice.
In this episode, I bring on my Wing Girl stylist Carol to break this down for you.
We talk...
Ep. 564 How to be Masculine
Shawn Haywood from ReimagineLove.com is here to share what it really means to be masculine.
This is a rerun episode but it is one you need to hear.
Because being masculine is not something you just turn on once and you are done.
It is something you have to carry through your life and your relationships.
In this conversation, Shawn breaks down how to build that masculine foundation and how to keep it consistent so women feel it when they are around you.
>>> If you feel boring on...
What the top 1% of men do differently that attracts all women (and it's not looks or money)
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What makes a woman choose ONE guy over the thousands competing for her attention?
Today I'm sitting down with Kit Barrus — a top 0.1% OnlyFans creator with degrees in mathematics and psychology. She gets hit on thousands of times a day. Literally thousands. And she's tracked the data on what makes her lean in versus instantly lose interest.
Most men think...
(Video) What the top 1% of men do differently that attracts all women (and it's not looks or money)
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What makes a woman choose ONE guy over the thousands competing for her attention?
Today I'm sitting down with Kit Barrus — a top 0.1% OnlyFans creator with degrees in mathematics and psychology. She gets hit on thousands of times a day. Literally thousands. And she's tracked the data on what makes her lean in versus instantly lose interest.
Most men think at...
How He Became Confident With Women in Just 5 Weeks
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Most men know that confidence is the key to attracting women. But here's the problem — confidence is almost impossible to fake. Women see right through it instantly.
So what do you do if you're just... not there yet?
In this episode, you'll hear from Marce...
The Biggest Female TURN ON of ALL Time? (Over 10,000 Women Surveyed)
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Do you know the one thing that turns a woman on… MORE than anything else? It’s NOT status, money, height or good looks. In fact, it’s NOT even confidence, sense of humor, intelligence or game.
Those are all nice. But the single biggest turn on for women is something very specific… that 99% of men are completely unaware of.
Once you know this secret, you will be able to attract more women than ever before. You will instantly multiply your dating options...
How To "Attract" Women WITHOUT Saying A Word | The "Natural" Effect
Learn to do AFTER the attraction phase to keep the girl here: https://www.winggirlmethod.com/beyond_attraction_skills
In this episode, Marni reveals 3 scientific reason why SIZE doesn't matter to women. It is a false belief that so many guys have that the bigger you are, the better you are in bed BUT that is 100% not true. This video shows you the truth about size and how to use what you got so you can be an amazing in the bedroom with women ;)
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<...Here’s Why Flirting FAILS on 90% of Women
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Why does the same flirting move work on one woman but completely fail on another?
It's not random—it's because there are 4 distinct types of women, and each one responds to a completely different approach.
In this episode, Wing Girl Nadia breaks down our DISC chart that categorizes women into 4 personality types. You'll learn how to qui...
(Video) Here’s Why Flirting FAILS on 90% of Women
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Why does the same flirting move work on one woman but completely fail on another?
It's not random—it's because there are 4 distinct types of women, and each one responds to a completely different approach.
In this episode, Wing Girl Nadia breaks down our DISC chart that categorizes women into 4 personality types. You'll learn how to quickly...
(Video) How To "Attract" Women WITHOUT Saying A Word | The "Natural" Effect
Want to flirt like a pro with women? Get the F Formula NOW: https://www.winggirlmethod.com/get-flirty-now
Did you know that it's possible to attract women WITHOUT saying a single word? It's true and it's doable by ANY man... YES even you ;).
In this episode, Marni reveals exactly how to attract women without saying a word using the NATURAL effects of your body language. Body Language is the quickest and easiest thing you can alter to actually change how women see you.
MORE TIPS, ADVICE & SECRETS ABOUT WOMEN: http...
How To "Attract" Women WITHOUT Saying A Word | The "Natural" Effect
Want to flirt like a pro with women? Get the F Formula NOW: https://www.winggirlmethod.com/get-flirty-now
Did you know that it's possible to attract women WITHOUT saying a single word? It's true and it's doable by ANY man... YES even you ;).
In this episode, Marni reveals exactly how to attract women without saying a word using the NATURAL effects of your body language. Body Language is the quickest and easiest thing you can alter to actually change how women see you.
MORE TIPS, ADVICE & SECRETS ABOUT WOMEN: http...
Private Message From Marni
The Ask Women Podcast is getting a little facelift. Moving forward our show will be called What Turns Women On and we’ll air 2 episodes a week.
Same heart. Same purpose and same goal of helping amazing men get the women they want and become the men they’ve always want to be.
Marni will be your host, your best female friend and your own personal Wing Girl. She’s heard it all before and will deliver the best of the best insider information to help you turn women on.
New episodes every Monday and Thursday.
Help...
Ep. 564 36 Questions To Make Her Love You
Can a simple set of questions really make someone fall in love with you. This throwback episode dives into the viral list of 36 questions that claim to create instant emotional connection and attraction.
Marni breaks down what actually works about these questions what is misunderstood and how men can use curiosity vulnerability and emotional presence to create real chemistry instead of forced conversations.
Dating coach David Wygant joins the conversation to give his take on attraction connection and why the right questions can bring people closer when used the right way.
If you...
Ep. 563 Misconceptions Of What Women Want
What women want is one of the most misunderstood topics in dating and this episode proves exactly why. In this throwback conversation Marni sits down with comedian Graham Elwood for a candid funny and sometimes controversial discussion about dating attraction and the stories men tell themselves about women.
They break down the biggest misconceptions that keep men confused frustrated and stuck including why common advice misses the mark how mixed signals get misread and what women actually respond to versus what men think they do.
This episode is part debate part reality check and packed...
Ep. 562 A Bad Boy Women Want
The friend zone does not get you in the end zone. In this throwback episode we break down what women actually mean when they say they want a bad boy and how to embody those traits without being arrogant cold or disrespectful.
We talk about the difference between being nice and being attractive how confidence boundaries and emotional leadership create desire and why trying to please everyone usually kills attraction.
Dating and attraction coach Nadine Piat joins us from Australia to share expert insight during Analyze This and help you understand how to show up...
Ep. 561 How to Escape the Friend Zone
Dun dun dunnnn. The dreaded friend zone. We have all landed there and it can feel like the Bermuda Triangle of dating. Once you are in it feels nearly impossible to get out.
In this throwback episode we break down why the friend zone happens in the first place what mistakes keep you stuck there and what actually shifts attraction so a woman starts seeing you differently. You will learn how to change the dynamic without awkward conversations pressure or gimmicks.
If you have ever been told you are such a great guy but felt...
Ep. 560 What Really Turns Women On
Most dating advice is generic outdated and honestly pretty cringey. In this episode Marni sits down with Dr Jennifer Berman New York Times bestselling author and renowned urologist to have an honest conversation about attraction emotional connection and what actually turns women on.
They talk about why desire starts in the mind how emotional safety impacts sexual chemistry and what men often misunderstand when it comes to intimacy. This episode also dives into real world topics like sexual confidence aging communication sexual compatibility menopause perimenopause and the insecurities both men and women experience as they get older.<...
Ep. 559 How To Build Real Self-Esteem
This episode is a throwback to one of our most powerful conversations on self esteem and it is just as relevant today as ever.
Building real self esteem is not something most people are taught how to do. It feels big overwhelming and confusing which is exactly why so many people struggle with it and never fix it. In this episode we break down where self esteem actually comes from and how to start building it in a practical sustainable way.
We are joined by a guest who knows a thing or...
Ep. 558 Why Being “Nice” Makes You Invisible to Women
Most men think attraction is built by being polite, respectful, and safe.
But that’s exactly why so many women feel nothing, even when the guy checks all the boxes.
In this episode, Marni breaks down the biggest misunderstanding men have about attraction with Kurt who is a listener of the podcast. Why logic, effort, and approval seeking quietly kill chemistry before it ever starts. You’ll learn the difference between emotional attraction and emotional safety, why asking permission drains polarity, and how men accidentally skip the flirting phase without realizing it.
If you’...
Ep. 557 How to Spark Attraction in the First 30 Seconds
Approaching women in public is rarer than ever, which means if you can do it well, you instantly stand out.
In this episode, Marni and Kristen break down the real “first impression” stuff that actually matters: your face, your eyes, your smile, your energy, and your tonality. You’ll learn how to fix resting “don’t talk to me” face, how to use subtle push-pull with expressions, and a simple way to practice on camera so women feel safe, curious, and open around you.
Then dating coach Patrick James joins to share how to create attraction f...
Ep. 556 What Alpha Really Means Today
We are throwing it back to a classic conversation about what it really means to be an alpha man today. Our guest Kevin Aillaud breaks down the qualities that make a man grounded, confident, and in charge of his own life. Kevin lives what he teaches, and you can hear that in every moment of this episode. A true must listen.
>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching
>>> Get A FREE copy of Marni's Flirting Cheatsheet Here: winggirlmethod.com/yousoflirty
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Ep. 555 Throwback: How To Be a Pick Up Artist with Vince Kelvin
Enjoy this special throwback episode where Marni sits down with seduction coach Vince Kelvin to talk about dating, attraction, confidence, and how men can naturally get better with women. Vince breaks down actionable insights, useful techniques, and surprising truths about modern dating. Listen now and learn something new.
>>> Become the most magnetic, witty and attractive version of yourself. Apply for Kristen's transformative coaching here: kristenandchilldating.com/coaching
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Ep. 553 No-BS Guide to Dating Women in Their 40's
Today’s throwback episode of the Ask Women Podcast brings on a single mother who pulls zero punches when it comes to dating past 40. She’s direct, she’s no-BS, and she’s not here to sugarcoat anything for your ego — she’s here to tell you exactly how women in her position actually think, choose, and filter men.
If you’ve ever wondered what dating looks like through the eyes of a woman balancing kids, time, self-worth, and a second act — this is the episode you listen to.
Not feel-good fluff… actionable truth.
>>> B...
Ep. 554 Throwback! The Relationship Doctor Is In (with Bob Grant)
We’re taking it way back to a classic 2016 episode! “The Relationship Doctor” himself, Bob Grant, calls in to share timeless insights on attraction, connection, and what makes relationships actually work.
Bob’s a renowned dating expert and author of multiple best-selling relationship books — and in this vintage “How to Get the Girl” episode, he drops the kind of grounded, no-nonsense wisdom that never goes out of style. Whether you’re single, dating, or trying to make sense of modern love, this throwback is packed with advice that still holds up today.
So grab your stethoscope and...
Ep. 553 The Instincts That Make Women Want You (and Repel Them Too)
This week, we’re going primal 🧠🔥
Author and evolutionary psychology expert Tim Ash joins us to talk about his new book Primal Dating, a brutally honest guide to understanding the instincts that secretly drive attraction, love, and relationships.
We dig into the psychology beneath the surface: what’s really motivating men and women, why certain dating behaviors feel “automatic,” and how our evolutionary wiring still plays out in the modern world of apps, texting, and situationships.
If you’ve ever wondered why you (or your dates) do the things you do—even when it doesn’t make lo...
Ep. 552 Getting Her Out of Her Head and Into Her Body
Most men think women already know how to access that deeply sensual, turned-on version of themselves, but the truth is, a lot of women have never actually been guided into their own bodies before. They’re in their heads, second-guessing, performing, or trying to “do it right”… instead of actually feeling anything.
In this episode, we’re joined by Amy Rowan from The Suburban Intimacy Project to break down:
Why so many women don’t even know what they’re supposed to feel during intimacy
The hidden reasons women shut down or go numb in the be...
Ep. 551 Why Happiness = Hotness (w/ Happiness Coach Robert Mack)
We’re throwing it back to one of our most powerful Ask Women episodes — where we explore why being happy isn’t just good for your soul, it’s magnetic. Studies show that the happier you are, the more attractive you become to the opposite sex. That’s why we brought on happiness coach Robert Mack, a man who had it all - looks, success, intelligence, a great family — but still felt miserable inside.
Robert opens up about how he completely turned his life around and discovered that true happiness comes from within, not from validation, success, or relations...
Ep. 550 How to Handle Flaky Women - Throwback
We’re throwing it back to the Ask Women days! Comedian Nick Guerra joins Marni and Kristen for a classic “Over Analyze This” episode where we dive into listener letters and answer your biggest dating questions. From how to handle jealousy to dealing with flakers and c*ck blockers, nothing’s off limits. We also dive into our classic segment, Help Another Brother Out, where we give one listener some direct, no-BS advice to get his dating life back on track.
Tune in for some laughs, some raw truths, and a little nostalgic chaos from the Ask Women ar...
Ep. 549 Show Confidence Around Women You LIKE
On this week’s How to Get the Girl, we’re joined by Adam Woolard — husband to Bachelorette star Hannah Brown, VP of Business Development at Joi+Blokes, and a guy who knows firsthand what it’s like to feel intimidated by a woman.
We dive into two huge areas that can make or break your dating life:
• Confidence around women you actually like — why guys hold back, don’t fully express themselves, and how to flip that script so women feel more attraction.
• Your health and dating success — how small diet changes and preventive car...
