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This episode got us excited! We are talking about men being men, and women being women! What does that look like in a Christian marriage? How can we cultivate and encourage this growth in each other? What tools should we develop to become better?

Have a listen, and be ready to get fired up to take charge!

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On this week's episode, we are talking about change. Not the change that gets to come with growth, but the change that can only happen from the Holy Spirit.

As spouses, we get to realize that we cannot change our spouse. Their personality, standards, behaviors, and attitude will be the same after the wedding as it was while you were dating. This is why it is important to decide before you get into a relationship, what you will allow or not, what you will be ok with or not. We need to stop insisting that our spouses...

Welcome back to the exciting adventure that is our month of May. We have gone on a couple of trips and had some fun adventures and conversations.

In this episode, we are talking about growing with and knowing your person. If that is your spouse, your child, parent, friend, or coworker, do you know who you are communicating with, and how best to communicate with them? We talk about some strategies and pitfalls in learning how best to grow and cultivate a great relationship.

Have a listen, and let us know what you think!

It is our anniversary! After 13 years of marriage, and over 14 years of being together, we are here, standing strong. We talk about ups and downs, tears and smiles. Our struggles are what make us who we are and what we share.

Isaiah 40: 30-31 - "Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength.They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint." (NIV)

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Happy Easter! The Lord is risen!

We are so excited to share our chat with our good friends Levi and Shannae. They have been through some battles, and they wanted to share their journey and their victory. We also talk about our past interview with Dustin and Torrie (Ep 60).

This episode talks about the serious subject of pornography. It breaks our hearts to learn how many deal with this, and we want to give hope to all of those that are wanting to break the cycle and grip of it.

Here are some...

Join us as we give an update on what is going on in our lives! We have a new website - firmfooting.coach. It is going to be the online home for our Relationship Coaching. Please feel free to check it out, and let us know what you think!

We are also talking this week about getting along and communicating through difficulties and working on a frustrating project together. How do we act and react when it is the project or task that is setting us off, and not our spouse?

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Have you ever felt like life is getting a little crowded? Maybe you've let something into your marriage that isn't supposed to be there? How many people are in your marriage? That is what we are talking about in this week's episode.

Have a listen and let us know what you think!

We will be speaking for 4 weeks - Marriage Supplements. Starting Tuesday, April 8th, at 6:30pm, 9900 View High Dr, KC, MO.

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Come join us for our latest episode - The Echos. We are talking about how our pasts can create echos in our minds that can distract us from our present.

What do we do when those echos come up? How do you deal with the echos?

In a way this episode is similar to when we have talked about fingerprints.

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Welcome back! In this week's episode, we are sitting down with Dean'na's brother and sister-in-law, Bob and Dawn Cates. They recently celebrated 36 years of marriage. We had the honor of sitting down with them, and asking what nuggets they have for couples.

Love Serves

Serve your spouse with intention

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In this week's episode, we wanted to talk about flags, especially red flags. What are some red flags? How can we avoid them? Why do we ignore them?

We share some of the red flags we have encountered, and what we did with them.

Join us, have a listen, and let us know your thoughts.

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Welcome back, everyone! Thank you for your patience.

It is now the new year, and a time for new beginnings. What is on your boards for this upcoming year, or season? We are starting new projects and upgrading others.

In this new season, we are talking about equipping and training ourselves to be better for us and for each other. In marriage, we get to carry a weapon and a tool with us at all times. That way, we are ready to fight off attacks when they come, and build each other up at every...

Christmas is here! In this joyous season, we wanted to sit down and share some smiles and thoughts with all of you. We also brought a special guest with us, Sebastian!

From our family to yours - Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, and Happy New Year! May the closing of this year, and beginning of the next be covered and blessed by God.

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How do we talk about what our lives were like before we got married? Do we tell our future spouse all of our deep dark secrets? Do we reveal all of it to God, and allow him to make us new? These are some of the questions that we are talking about in this episode.

Join us as we talk about battling towards restoration.

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The Holiday season is upon us! Thanksgiving is this week (tomorrow from our recording), and Christmas is right around the corner. The stress of everyday life can be heightened, or more noticeable, during this time of year. So what do we do about it?

We recognize it for what it is. We talk about it. We confront it, and deal with it.

We also talked about how two people in a marriage or relationship, will have preferences about how things happen. What do we do when those preferences are not the same? Dean'na likes listening...

Hello listeners! Welcome back to another episode!

This week we are talking about the thoughts and questions that can bring up feelings of regret and resentment. What can we do about those thoughts? When life hits and emotions get raw, where does our relationship g0? Do we keep out priorities straight? At those times, we do our best to talk to each other, pray about what is happening, and go on a date to reconnect.

Have a listen to this week's episode, and let us know what you think!

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Welcome to our latest episode! We hope and pray that all of you are doing well and staying healthy in these times. We also pray that you and your families are surrounded by His comforting peace.

This week we wanted to talk about something I call 'Ripple Therapy'. It came up during a conversation that if something happens in your marriage or relationship, after the initial "shock" is over and you both move past it, there can still be after effects that creep into your daily life. How do we deal with those little ripples left over...

Just because we know each other, doesn't mean that we know everything about each other. Throughout marriage, we will go on many adventures and journeys. On those adventures, we might have different highlight reels from it. We could choose to downplay those differences, or we could celebrate them. When you go on a trip with family, you won't have the same highlights as everyone else, and that is OK.

"We were together, I forget the rest." - Walt, Whitman, paraphrase

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Welcome back! We are talking this week about covering in a marriage. What covering are you providing for your spouse and family?

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We wanted to take a moment to remember why we are doing this podcast, and other related projects. Come along as we talk about some of the foundational elements that led us to talk about relationships and marriages.

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For this episode, we wanted to think of some fun and functional things that couples can focus on, on a weekly basis. We came up with VITAMINS!

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What do you say when something your spouse enjoys doesn't interest you? Do you feel like you have to go along with your spouse's plans? When you have these types of disagreements, it is normal to disagree. How you handle it is what matters. Creating a safe space for your spouse to have different interests or activities is a healthy part of every marriage. The key is to ensure that those differences do not take place of, or diminish your marriage. Listen in as we discuss some ways to have those healthy disagreements on activities, and learn some strategies...

In this week's episode we are talking about potential. What is potential? How can we realize it? Most importantly though, we should not base our relationships on the potential of others. That can be a costly trap. We need to encourage each other and help each other grow.

Have a listen, and let us know what you think!

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We're back from our brief Summer break! We hope everyone is doing well.

In this episode, we are talking about having a Critical Spirit. How can we recognize it and overcome? It is something that we can see in our family, friends, and spouse. It is something that can be dealt with together, as we work as a team.

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This is our final installment of the "Questions from the Audience" miniseries. It has been great to see the questions from all of you, and for us to answer them. We do our best to help all of you get your own conversations going in your own relationships.

This episode looked at three questions:

1) How do you talk with each other about the things the Lord is speaking to you about?

2) What are ways you have found to be the best way to support/encourage each other?

3) If one of you...

Welcome to Part 4 of our amazing series where we are answering questions from our listeners! You all are the best!

In this episode, we talk about physical support. The question was - How do we support each other in physical health in marriage? We talk about different aspects of physical health, and different ways to better ourselves while encouraging our spouses.

Have a listen, and let us know what you think!

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Welcome to part 3 of our Questions from the Audience series!

In this episode, we are answering the following question - Explain the process you two went through in becoming one in marriage the first five years... coming from different lives to one life. Was it hard? Easy? What were the challenges? What was the fun part? Hint: keep talking...

Sit down, have a listen, and let us know what you think! We are always open to answering your questions!

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Welcome to Part 2 of our Questions from the Audience Series!

In this episode, we combined a couple of questions because we felt that they go so well together.

What are 2 or 3 hooks the enemy tries to bring into marriage to get Christians off course?

What is the thin line between comparing a relationship to admiring a relationship?

Let us know what you think!

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We asked out audience for interview type questions, and you responded wonderfully.

Here is Part 1 of our Questions from the Audience Series.

What is a healthy age to begin dating? Is the length of dating time up to the couple? How do you know when it's marriage time?

We give our insights and thoughts on these questions. Talk it out with each other and with God.

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Episode 100! Thank you so much to all of our listeners for your support and encouragement! THANK YOU!

This week, we sat down with Hunter and Caila Driscoll to hear their take on some practical things about marriage. They share how to live your marriage while also being parents, business owners, and in the ministry. They bring a lot of wisdom, and laughter, to the table, and they are a treasure to have in our lives.

Have a listen, and let us know what you think!

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This week, we sat down with some good friends of our that we share our lives, our hearts, and our home with. John and Tracy Flager are gems in this world, and we encourage everyone we know to let them into your lives. John and Tracy sit down with us and talk about some of the ups and downs of being married and parents while also navigating the landscape of working in ministry.

Sit down, have a listen, and let us know what you think!

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Hello! In this week's episode, we talk about Living Out Loud. It might sound like an odd statement to some, but it boils down to how do you walk out this life? When you are out and about with your spouse, do people see that you two are married? Do they see that you are a Christian? What do people see, hear, and think when we don't let our words do the talking? If after interacting with us, a person found out that we are Christian and married, would they want to learn more? Would they be encouraged? Do...

We always encourage couples to pray for each other, and to always think and speak the best about each other. In this episode, we talk about the importance that your spouse hears those words. Throughout the day, you can think amazing things about your spouse, even treat them great, but if you don't say those great things out loud to your spouse, how does that affect them? Just like a garden, or our children, what your spouse hears you say can build them up or tear them down.

Deuteronomy 32: 30 "How can one chase a thousand and two...

As a follow up from our last episode, we wanted to highlight that there are other options available to all of us. Many times we fall into patterns because that is what we were taught, or experienced. It doesn't have to be like that any more. We can be changed by the power and encounter of God. That encounter can change our patterns and our past. Remember, just because that is how it's always been, doesn't mean that it has to go that way still.

Psalms 16: 9-11 "I’m happy from the inside out, and from the ou...

Welcome to Extreme Dating! We often talk about dating and courting, and the need for boundaries and expectations. In this episode, we are mainly talking about dating/courting after your first marriage. We know that sometimes, marriages end, and we are not fans. When that does happen, it is not crazy to think about getting into a new relationship, when the time is right. People need to be careful when wading back out into that pool though, not everything shiny is good for you, or your family. This is why you should be extreme in your boundaries and expectations...

This week, we got the privilege to sit down and chat with some good friends - Cecil & Marsha Garrett. We got to talk about marriage, and an exciting project that they will be starting this year. We love seeing the things God has done, is doing, and will do in their lives and family.

Have a listen, and let us know what you think!

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We talk at the beginning of this episode about Accountability, and finding someone that you can be accountable to. For a deeper chat, please check out Episode 58.

A longer title could be 'Looking for Hope vs Not Wanting to Get Hurt, and Where is that Balance'. We know that would be a bit too long, so we shortened it. So where is that balance? We have been in previous relationships, and we know others have as well. We know that there is a journey and struggle to want to look for hope after you have been hurt...

Hello all! This week, we are taking some time to check-in and let you all know what is going on. It is important that when you are on your journey, that you have an accountability partner, and regularly assess how things are going. This episode is our first check-in. We have great things planned coming up, and we are looking forward to all of you joining us for what is next.

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Yes, it is the start of a new year. Yes, we know that "New Year, New You" is overplayed.

We wanted to take a spin on it, look at it from a different angle. You are still you, you haven't changed, but your outlook and attitude has. We start this new outlook by being grateful for what is in our lives, homes, families. We thank God for what is in us and around us. Next, we remember that His mercies are new every morning, and day, and year, and moment, and season. He has renewed us. He...

This will be a short episode. We have dealt with some health concerns in our home, and it has taught us some good lessons. One of those lessons is that we need to find time to rest. Not just rest to "get better", but to rest in the Father. What does it mean to rest in Him? What should we do if we need a greater level of rest? Come have a listen to our thoughts on rest and rebooting.

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Happy almost Christmas! Yes, we are getting ready for Christmas 2023 here, and hopefully you are too! For this episode, we wanted to sit down and talk about believing in the journey that God has set out for our lives. So often, we want to ask God for things and we want to dictate what it will look like, but God has a better plan in mind that doesn't look or sound like our idea. We know that God's ways are higher, and these are the moments when we get to remember that and lean more into Him. When life...