The Swing Nation - A Sex Positive Swingers Podcast
The Swing Nation is a podcast by swingers, for swingers, where we look to shed a positive light on the underground world of swinging, push back against the negative stigmas associated with the lifestyle, and give an insiders perspective on what it’s like to be a consensual non-monogamous couple in the 21st century. Follow along with this top rated lifestyle podcast on our pineapple journey!
Tuesday Talks: Full Swap, Half the Attention?
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Tuesday Talks: Full Swap, Half the Attention? | Episode 132
In this episode of Tuesday Talks, Dan and Lacy tackle two questions from a couple navigating the lifestyle. First, they share their frustration with full-swap encounters that end up feeling one-sided. Despite making it clear they're interested in full swap, the other couple often focuses all their attention on the wife, leaving the husband feeling overlooked. How do you handle mismatched expectations and make sure everyone feels included?
The couple also shares their struggles with finding...
EP Chattanooga: Hot Nights, Cold Mornings & Wild Adventures
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EP Chattanooga: Hot Nights, Cold Mornings & Wild Adventures | Episode 268
The Swing Nation Podcast is back with another wild weekend recap! This time, Dan and Lacy are taking you behind the scenes of EP Chattanooga, where a weekend full of pool parties, DJs, football, and plenty of lifestyle fun kept everyone busy from start to finish.
The weekend kicks off with Dan and Lacy putting in some serious work to get everything set up and ready for the festivities. By Friday afternoon, the weather is...
Tuesday Talks: How to Shoot Your Shot with Dan and Lacy
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Tuesday Talks: How to Shoot Your Shot with Dan and Lacy | Episode 131
Ever wondered what the best way is to approach Dan and Lacy about playing together at a lifestyle event? This week on Tuesday Talks, a listener writes in with that exact question!
Dan and Lacy share what it's really like balancing their roles as event hosts with their personal lifestyle experiences. When they're hosting an event, their schedules are packed, making it difficult to find time to play. But when they're attending...
A Weekend of Remembrance: Honoring Brandon of iCandy Events
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A Weekend of Remembrance: Honoring Brandon of iCandy Events | Episode 267
In this heartfelt episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan reflects on a weekend dedicated to honoring the life and legacy of Brandon from iCandy Events, a beloved member of the lifestyle community whose unexpected passing sent shockwaves through the people who knew and loved him.
While Lacy was unable to attend the celebration of life at Secrets Hideaway due to her son's homecoming, both Dan and Lacy felt it was important that one...
Tuesday Talks: Anal Sex — Pleasure Without the Pressure
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Tuesday Talks: Anal Sex — Pleasure Without the Pressure | Episode 130
This week on Tuesday Talks, a listener writes in with a question for Lacy about her newfound love of anal sex! While she's interested in exploring it herself, she admits that concerns about pain, cleanliness, and simply getting out of her own head have made it difficult to fully relax and enjoy the experience.
Lacy opens up about her own journey from hesitation to enjoyment, sharing what helped her feel more comfortable, confident, and excited ab...
From the Pulpit to the Playroom: A Pastor & His Wife Tell All
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From the Pulpit to the Playroom: A Pastor & His Wife Tell All | Episode 266
In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan and Lacy welcome back a former pastor who previously shared his journey into the swinging lifestyle. But this time, he's bringing his wife along to share her side of the story!
Together, the couple opens up about what happened when their involvement in the lifestyle was exposed within their church and eventually to their families. They discuss the emotional fallout, the challenges...
From the Pulpit to the Playroom: A Pastor & His Wife Tell All
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From the Pulpit to the Playroom: A Pastor & His Wife Tell All | Episode 266
In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan and Lacy welcome back a former pastor who previously shared his journey into the swinging lifestyle. But this time, he's bringing his wife along to share her side of the story!
Together, the couple opens up about what happened when their involvement in the lifestyle was exposed within their church and eventually to their families. They discuss the emotional fallout, the challenges...
From the Pulpit to the Playroom: A Pastor & His Wife Tell All
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From the Pulpit to the Playroom: A Pastor & His Wife Tell All | Episode 266
In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan and Lacy welcome back a former pastor who previously shared his journey into the swinging lifestyle. But this time, he's bringing his wife along to share her side of the story!
Together, the couple opens up about what happened when their involvement in the lifestyle was exposed within their church and eventually to their families. They discuss the emotional fallout, the challenges...
Tuesday Talks: Squirting Without the Stress
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Tuesday Talks: Squirting Without the Stress | Episode 129
This week on Tuesday Talks, Dan and Lacy are answering a listener question about something that can be exciting, unpredictable… and occasionally a little messy: squirting.
The listener explains that she has squirted during sexual experiences before, but she doesn’t feel like it’s something she can completely control. At some lifestyle events, she’s noticed designated play areas specifically for people who squirt in an effort to keep other play spaces a little drier. That leaves h...
Secrets Part 2: Group Play, Motorbunny & Closing Down the Club
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Secrets Part 2: Group Play, Motorbunny & Closing Down the Club | Episode 265
The Secrets takeover continues! In Part 2, Dan and Lacy pick back up with Friday and Saturday night at Secrets Hideaway Resort — and things definitely escalated.
They recap a night in the Secrets Playroom with a big group of friends, where the fun turned into some very memorable group play. Lacy somehow ended the night having played with seven guys, officially beating Dan’s total of six women… and yes, they have plenty to say about...
Tuesday Talks: Fantasy, Fear & Finding Balance
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Tuesday Talks: Fantasy, Fear & Finding Balance | Episode 128
This week on Tuesday Talks, Dan and Lacy tackle a listener question about exploring a fantasy while navigating the very real emotions that can come with it.
A husband writes in explaining that his wife has a fantasy of being dominated more—but they both recognize that his naturally “nice guy” personality makes it difficult for him to fully step into that role. He’s open to the idea of her exploring that dynamic with someone else, but ther...
Working for the Weekend at Secrets: Part 1
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Working for the Weekend at Secrets: Part 1 | Episode 264
The Swing Nation is headed back to Secrets! In Part 1 of Dan and Lacy’s recap of the Secrets “Working for the Weekend” Takeover, they’re breaking down the first few days of the trip—from birthday surprises and tiki bar hangs to group play, poolside games, and one unexpectedly vulnerable lifestyle moment.
The weekend starts with a mission: surprise Daphne for her birthday. With Daphne’s room connected to theirs, Lacy gets to work decorating before she a...
Tuesday Talks: Why You Should Book with the Group
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Tuesday Talks: Why You Should Book with the Group | Episode 127
This week on Tuesday Talks, Dan and Lacy answer a question from a couple who chose not to book their Hedo trip with The Swing Nation because they wanted the option to pay the resort directly while still being included in the hosted group.
So why doesn’t it work that way?
Dan and Lacy break down what actually goes into creating a hosted week at Hedo — and why booking thro...
Jealousy Isn’t the Enemy with Ally Iseman
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Jealousy Isn’t the Enemy with Ally Iseman | Episode 263
Jealousy is one of those emotions almost everyone experiences—but in the lifestyle, it can feel like something you’re supposed to have already “figured out.”
In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan and Lacy sit down with Certified Relationship Coach Ally Iseman for an honest conversation about jealousy, envy, and what these emotions can actually teach us about ourselves and our relationships.
Ally breaks down the difference between jealousy a...
Tuesday Talks: Too Loud in the Playroom?
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Tuesday Talks: Too Loud in the Playroom? | Episode 126
This week on Tuesday Talks, Dan and Lacy are answering a listener voicemail about something that left her feeling a little self-conscious after her first experience in the playroom at a lifestyle event.
She noticed that she was much louder than she expected to be and felt like her moans may have drawn a lot of attention. Ever since, she’s been wondering: Was I too loud? Is there such a thing as being too loud in...
Vixen Turns 10: Our Hollywood Party Recap
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Vixen Turns 10: Our Hollywood Party Recap | Episode 262
This week on The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan and Lacy are taking you behind the scenes of one of their most glamorous trips yet: Los Angeles for Vixen’s 10 Year Anniversary Party!
They kick things off by explaining exactly who Vixen is, the powerhouse media company behind brands like Wifey, Blacked, and other major adult film productions, and sharing how much they’ve enjoyed building a relationship and working with both Wifey and Vixen.
They also...
Tuesday Talks: Balancing Life & Recovering from Lifestyle Events
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Tuesday Talks: Balancing Life & Recovering from Lifestyle Events | Episode 125
This week on Tuesday Talks, a listener sends in a video question about something a lot of parents in the lifestyle can probably relate to: How do you balance lifestyle events with real life—especially when you have kids waiting for you at home?
As a single parent, this listener has to juggle parenting, everyday responsibilities, travel, events, and the recovery that sometimes comes after a big lifestyle weekend. Because as much fun as these ev...
Splash Atlanta/Eroticon: Pool Games, Playtime & a Unicorn Flash Mob
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Splash Atlanta/Eroticon: Pool Games, Playtime & a Unicorn Flash Mob | Episode 261
Dan and Lacy are back with another event recap, and this time they’re taking you inside Splash Atlanta/Eroticon for a weekend packed with pool parties, friends, playtime, and plenty of unexpected adventures.
Lacy arrives at Splash fresh off an action-packed trip to Hedo and running on fumes, while Dan is more than ready to make up for lost time after sitting that trip out. The weekend kicks off Thursday with Dan he...
Tuesday Talks: Does How You Get Hard Really Matter?
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Tuesday Talks: Does How You Get Hard Really Matter? | Episode 124
This week on Tuesday Talks, Dan and Lacy respond to a deeply personal question from a listener who underwent prostate removal after battling prostate cancer. Since surgery, he’s been dealing with erectile dysfunction and is considering a penile implant to help restore his ability to get an erection.
His question isn’t just about the procedure—it’s about what comes next in the lifestyle. Should he disclose the implant to potential play partners...
Hedo Part 3: Foam, Filming & Final Nights
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Hedo Part 3: Foam, Filming & Final Nights | Episode 260
Hedo Part 3 is here, and Lacy, Daphne, and Mike are wrapping up their unforgettable week in Jamaica! In the final chapter of their Hedo adventures, the crew picks up with one of the wildest events of the trip—the legendary foam party—and shares all the fun, chaos, and memories that came with it.
They also decide to venture beyond the Hedo bubble for a night out at The Jungle, giving them a completely different tast...
Tuesday Talks: How to Check In During Play
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Tuesday Talks: How to Check In During Play | Episode 123
In this episode of Tuesday Talks, a couple writes in with a struggle many couples can probably relate to: how do you check in with your partner during play without completely interrupting the moment? They want to know if Dan and Lacy use code words, signals, or other ways to make sure they’re both still comfortable and having a good time. Dan and Lacy share how they communicate during play, why checking in doesn’t have to kill the...
Hedo Part 2: The Triad Turns Up
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Hedo Part 2: The Triad Turns Up | Episode 259
The “triad” is back for Hedo Part 2, and this is where the trip really starts to get wild. Daphne, Mike, and Lacy pick up where Part 1 left off as Lacy finally works up the nerve to venture into the playrooms and fully embrace her solo Hedo experience.
From there, things only get more interesting. The three recap a boat day that somehow involves eating Cheetos out of some very creative body parts, unexpected connections, and Mike...
Tuesday Talks: Are We the Drama?
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Tuesday Talks: Are We the Drama? | Episode 122
In this episode of Tuesday Talks, a couple writes in with a complicated play situation and one big question: “Are we the drama?”
After a night of playing with friends didn’t unfold the way they expected, they’re left wondering whether there was a major misunderstanding—or whether they were intentionally misled. They believed another couple was interested in a full swap with both of them, but when the night played out, only the wife ended up playing...
Hedo Part 1: Lacy's Unexpected Solo Adventure
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Hedo Part 1: Lacy's Unexpected Solo Adventure | Episode 258
This trip to Hedonism II definitely didn’t start the way Lacy imagined.
After a family emergency meant Dan had to stay home, Lacy suddenly found herself facing a Hedo trip without her usual partner-in-crime. Thankfully, friends Mike and Daphne were able to jump in at the last minute and join her for the adventure.
In Part I of this Hedo recap, Lacy sits down with Mike and Daphne to talk ab...
Tuesday Talks: How Single Guys Can Make Real Connections
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Tuesday Talks: How Single Guys Can Make Real Connections| Episode 121
This week on Tuesday Talks, Dan and Lacy are answering their very first video question!
A good-looking single guy videos in with a question a lot of single men in the lifestyle probably have: How do you actually break into a friend group at events—and what’s the best way to approach couples without coming across as creepy?
Dan and Lacy share practical advice for navigating lifestyle events as a sin...
Expanding the Fantasy: Inside Secrets 2 with James Callahan
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Expanding the Fantasy: Inside Secrets 2 with James Callahan | Episode 257
In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan and Lacy sit down with James Callahan, the founder and owner of Secrets Hideaway Resort, to hear the inspiring story behind one of the lifestyle’s most well-known destinations.
James takes listeners back to the humble beginnings of Secrets and shares what it took to turn an ambitious dream into a thriving resort. From navigating setbacks and adversity to staying committed when the future wa...
Tuesday Talks: Can We Be Honest without Hurting the Lifestyle?
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Tuesday Talks: Can We Be Honest without Hurting the Lifestyle? | Episode 120
In this episode of Tuesday Talks, Dan and Lacy hear from another couple in the podcasting world who asks an important question: Do they ever feel pressure to hold back the negative or complicated parts of the lifestyle?
When you are working to challenge the stigma surrounding consensual non-monogamy, it can sometimes feel like every story has to portray the lifestyle in a positive light. But does being an advocate mean avoiding honest...
Our First Full Swap
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Our First Full Swap | Episode 256
In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan and Lacy take listeners back to the very beginning of their story and share how they first met—not through a dating app, mutual friends, or a traditional first date, but as two singles already exploring the lifestyle.
Unlike many couples who discover non-monogamy years into their relationship, Dan and Lacy entered their relationship with an understanding of the lifestyle from day one. But that didn’t mean every...
Tuesday Talks: Finding Your Lifestyle Vibe
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Tuesday Talks: Finding Your Lifestyle Vibe | Episode 119
Not every lifestyle couple enjoys packed venues, booming music, and crowded dance floors—and that’s perfectly okay! In this episode of Tuesday Talks, a listener shares that he and his wife are struggling to find lifestyle events that match their more relaxed personality. They want to connect with others and enjoy new experiences, but the traditional party atmosphere just isn’t their vibe. Dan and Lacy offer practical suggestions, including exploring smaller gatherings, traveling to different lifestyle destinations, and connecting with l...
Naughty N'awlins Part 2: Parades, Parties & Pure Chaos
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Naughty N'awlins Part 2: Parades, Parties & Pure Chaos | Episode 255
Naughty N’awlins Part 2 is here—and Dan and Lacy are wrapping up their unforgettable trip to New Orleans with even more wild stories, meaningful moments, and nonstop partying.
They begin with the Sexual Freedom Parade, sharing why the experience is about so much more than costumes and celebration. Surrounded by a community proudly embracing freedom, acceptance, and authenticity, the parade becomes one of the most emotional and moving moments of the entire event.<...
Tuesday Talks: How to Know if They Want You
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Tuesday Talks: How to Know if They Want You | Episode 118
How do you know when another couple is actually interested—or if they’re just being friendly? In this episode of Tuesday Talks, a listener asks Dan and Lacy how to recognize the signs that another couple may want to take things beyond casual conversation.
Dan and Lacy share practical advice for reading the room, noticing mutual effort, and recognizing when flirting and connection seem to be reciprocated. They also explain why it can be d...
Naughty N'awlins Party 1: Drinking, Dancing, and DJing
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Naughty N'awlins Part 1: Drinking, Dancing and DJing | Episode 254
Dan and Lacy are back from Naughty N’awlins—and they have plenty of stories to tell! In Part 1 of their New Orleans recap, they take listeners along for the beginning of their wild weekend filled with old friends, unforgettable parties, plenty of drinks, and a little bit of trouble.
The trip kicks off with a visit to Colette’s New Orleans, where Dan and Lacy reconnect with friends they have missed and settle into t...
Tuesday Talks: Cruise Together, Play Apart?
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Tuesday Talks: Cruise Together, Play Apart? | Episode 117
A newer lifestyle couple is preparing to set sail on a Bliss Cruise with another couple they have played with before—but so far, their experiences have only involved parallel play. Since the other couple is comfortable with full swap, the listeners are wondering whether everyone has the same expectations for the trip or if their friends may be hoping for something more.
Dan and Lacy explain why this is a conversation that needs to happen before an...
Hedo 101: Everything You Need to Know Before You Go
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Hedo 101: Everything You Need to Know Before You Go | Episode 253
Thinking about a trip to Hedo but not sure what to expect? In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan and Lacy are giving listeners the full Hedo 101. From the legendary pool parties and nightlife to the rooms, food, beach, and overall resort vibe, they break down what a first-time trip to Hedonism II in Jamaica can really look like.
They also share why getting off the resort for an excursion...
Tuesday Talks: When It's Time to Move On
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Tuesday Talks: When It's Time to Move On| Episode 116
In this week’s Tuesday Talks, Dan and Lacy respond to a listener question from a couple who thought they had found a great match for a full swap—until their first attempt took an uncomfortable turn. When the male half of the other couple was unable to perform, it led to an argument between him and his wife, leaving the listeners feeling like they had seen a major red flag and decided to step away.
Si...
What’s Actually Hard in the Lifestyle—and What Isn’t
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What’s Actually Hard in the Lifestyle—and What Isn’t | Episode 252
What do people think will be the hardest part of the lifestyle… and what actually is?
In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan and Lacy break down some of the biggest assumptions people make before entering the lifestyle. Is it really difficult to watch your partner with someone else? How much jealousy actually comes up? And do boundaries and rules make everything easier—or can they sometimes create new challe...
Tuesday Talks: What to Wear for Splash Atlanta
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Tuesday Talks: What to Wear for Splash Atlanta| Episode 115
On this week’s Tuesday Talks, a listener writes in with a question many Splash Atlanta attendees are probably asking: what exactly are we supposed to wear for Eroticon? With each themed night described a little differently, Dan and Lacy break down the dress codes in a way that makes them easier to understand—and a lot less intimidating.
Lacy shares her interpretation of each theme, ideas for putting together an outfit, and ways to part...
Too Much of a Good Thing? Avoiding Lifestyle Burnout
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Too Much of a Good Thing? Avoiding Lifestyle Burnout | Episode 251
In this full episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan and Lacy get real about something that can happen to anyone in the lifestyle: burnout. Between traveling, attending events, socializing, keeping up with messages, and trying to make the most of every opportunity, the lifestyle can sometimes start to feel more like an obligation than an escape.
Dan and Lacy share their own experiences with feeling burned out this year, including how...
Tuesday Talks: Exploring without Being Exposed
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Tuesday Talks: Exploring without Being Exposed| Episode 114
On this week’s Tuesday Talks, Dan and Lacy answer a listener question from a couple who are curious about exploring the lifestyle but need to keep things private because of their careers. How do you dip your toes in without putting your personal life on display?
They share practical, real-world advice for protecting your privacy while still finding community, making connections, and deciding whether the lifestyle is right for you. From being thoughtful about where and ho...
Electric Pleasures: Chattanooga After Dark
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Electric Pleasures: Chattanooga After Dark| Episode 250
In this episode, Dan and Lacy recap their unforgettable weekend at Chattanooga Electric Pleasures! From learning the hard way what it takes to set up their own stage, to appreciating just how much work Dan puts into making the event experience come together, they share the behind-the-scenes moments that made the weekend even more memorable. They rave about the pool parties both days, complete with DJs spinning beside the pool on the outdoor stage, and give major love to the incredible DJ...
