High Level Wife Podcast with Chelsey Holm
Welcome to High Level Wife Podcast, where we reclaim our true identity as women, wives, and daughters of God. Hosted by Chelsey Holm, this podcast is all about living boldly, breaking free from limiting beliefs, and stepping into your God-given purpose.Join Chelsey for authentic conversations on marriage, faith, and personal transformation. With real, unfiltered insights, powerful interviews, and actionable wisdom, this podcast will help you rise above the status quo and embrace the life God has uniquely designed for you.If you're ready to shed the old, embrace your true calling, and walk confidently in the life and marriage...
Managing their emotions is crushing you & delaying their growth!
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Are you carrying your husband’s emotions? Your children’s disappointment? The tension in your home? Constantly reading the room, smoothing things over, rescuing, fixing, and keeping everyone okay will eventually crush you—and it can prevent the people you love from taking responsibility for their own growth. You can be tender without carrying everyone. Let’s learn the difference between bearing one another’s burdens and taking ownership of a load God never gave us.
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Do It Anyway: When Obedience Doesn’t Make Sense to Everyone Else
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When you stop living marriage the world’s way and begin walking as a surrendered disciple of Christ, not everyone will understand—and your own flesh may start asking, “Is this really worth it?” Do it anyway. We’re talking surrender, obedience, giants, impossible circumstances, and the God who is able. We aren’t walking toward victory hoping God pulls it off. We walk from the victory Christ has already won.
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Out of the Weeds: You’re Playing a Bigger Game
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The hurt may be real. The offense may need repair. The pattern may genuinely need to change. But you can become so consumed with what’s wrong in your marriage that you forget what your marriage is for. Let’s zoom out from the weeds and recover God’s bigger picture: oneness, multiplication, forward motion, and two people pulling together for His Kingdom. Deal with the weeds—but keep building.
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These are your 4 ACTUAL enemies not your husband!
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If your husband isn’t the enemy, who is? In this episode, we identify the real battle happening beneath so much marital conflict: the flesh, the mind, Satan, and the influence of the world. Learn how each operates, how they can work together to turn you against your husband, and what Scripture tells us to do about each one. Stop aiming your weapons at flesh and blood. Know your enemy, know your weapons, and stay submitted to the Commander.
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For the wife who is unintentionally fighting AGAINST the wrong enemy
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You can deeply love God, genuinely love your husband, want the absolute best for him—and still unknowingly fight against him. In this episode, we expose how control can disguise itself as “helping him grow,” why you were never called to be your husband’s Holy Spirit, and the difference between trying to change him and truly warring for him. It’s time to put down the fleshly weapons of correction, criticism, and control and trust God to do what only He can do.
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Learn to War FOR Your Husband, NOT Against Him!
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I’m bringing you a framework of 9 actions to war on behalf of your husband. Take up these divine weapons of warfare that DESTROY strongholds over your husband so he is fully free, on fire and filled with love!
This is how High Level Wives fight tenderly, tenaciously and ultimately how we take back territory the enemy has stolen!
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Stop Asking, “What Am I Getting?”
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Culture teaches us to evaluate marriage like consumers: Am I happy? Are my needs being met? What am I getting from this? Jesus gives us an entirely different model. In this episode, we’re confronting the marriage scorecard, the stalemate of waiting for our spouse to go first, and what happens when our obedience flows from what we’ve already received from Christ. Stop keeping score and start asking: What can God give through me?
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The Enemy Wants Your Marriage Looking Inward
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What if the enemy doesn’t have to destroy your marriage if he can simply keep it distracted? When husband and wife become consumed with offenses, scorekeeping, unmet expectations, and fighting each other, two people designed for Kingdom impact lose their shared direction. Let’s expose the strategy of division and remember: your spouse is not your enemy.
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Marriage Was Designed to Multiply
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God’s first words to male and female included a command to be fruitful and multiply. What if that principle reaches far beyond simply building a family? In this episode, we’re looking at marriage as a multiplier for discipleship, hospitality, generosity, testimony, service, and Kingdom impact—and asking one powerful question: Who could experience God’s goodness because your marriage said yes?
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Your Marriage Was Never About You
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Culture has made marriage about happiness, fulfillment, and getting our needs met—but God’s vision is so much bigger. In this episode, we’re going back to Genesis to uncover why God created marriage, how covenant points beyond husband and wife, and what changes when we stop asking what God can do for our marriage and start asking what He wants to do through it.
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THROWBACK: Creating Lasting Change
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Here’s an episode from the past that still rings true today for creating ANY change that lasts. It’s what we do CONSISTENTLY over time that creates the results you see today. So what you do today creates the results you see years from now.
What are you creating? What needs to change?
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Have We Lost Our Awe? Ready for the Smoke!
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Have we become so familiar with the Gospel that we’ve stopped marveling at it? In this episode, Chelsey shares a moment from church that sparked a deeper question: Why are we often quicker to celebrate human achievement than the miracle of salvation? Together, we’ll explore what Scripture reveals about encountering the holiness of God and why true worship isn’t about personality or preference- it’s about a heart that is still moved by His presence. If you’ve ever felt like your faith has become routine, this episode is an invitation...
Feelings Make Great Messengers, Terrible Leaders
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God gave you emotions, but He never intended them to lead your life. Learn how to acknowledge your feelings without allowing them to determine your direction.
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Right Order Changes Everything
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Many marriage struggles aren’t really marriage problems- they’re worship problems. Discover why putting Christ first changes everything else.
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"I lead Christian wives to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.
First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
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You Can’t Heal What You Won’t Name
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Healing begins with honesty. In this Espresso Shot, learn why bringing hidden wounds into the light is the first step toward the transformation God desires.
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"I lead Christian wives to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.
First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
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Conviction Sounds Different Than Condemnation
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Do you know the difference between the voice of the Holy Spirit and the voice of shame? Discover how conviction leads to freedom while condemnation keeps you stuck.
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"I lead Christian wives to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.
First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and rec...
Frustrations Reveal Expectations
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What if your frustration is actually revealing something deeper? In this episode, we’ll uncover how unmet expectations often point to areas where God is inviting us to surrender.
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"I lead Christian wives to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.
First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and r...
Assumptions Are Relationship Killers
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Most conflict doesn’t begin with facts- it begins with assumptions. Learn how choosing curiosity over conclusions can transform your marriage and strengthen your relationships.
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"I lead Christian wives to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.
First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulate, realign, and reconnect.
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Stop Chasing Fruit- Start Checking the Root
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Are you trying to fix behaviors while missing the heart? In this quick Espresso Shot (5 min or less!), discover why lasting transformation starts at the root, not the fruit, and how God changes us from the inside out.
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"I lead Christian wives to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.
First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War...
A High Level Wife is TENDER: What That Means
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What does it really mean to be a tender wife?
Our culture often equates tenderness with weakness, passivity, or being easily hurt. But the Bible paints a completely different picture. A tender heart is one that remains soft before God, compassionate toward others, and responsive to the Holy Spirit—even in a hard world.
In this episode, we’ll explore the biblical meaning of tenderness through Scripture, from King Josiah’s tender heart to God’s tender mercies and the tender branch that signals new life. You’ll discove...
How to Build Your Household God’s Way
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Right Order. Repentance. Mission. Core values. Daily, weekly, and monthly disciplines, rhythms, and habits.
This is how a high level family does it God’s way and flourishes forward together!
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"I lead Christian wives to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.
First step? Grab the 30 Day Guide: War Room RESET: daily action to regulat...
How I Use God’s Written Word to Form & Guide My Bold Prayers
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Don’t know how to pray or what to pray? This episode dives into exactly how I use God’s own written word to form and guide my prayers back to Him. It’s so simple but so powerful!
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"I lead Christian wives to become TENDER, TENACIOUS & TAKING BACK TERRITORY the enemy has stolen. To live by God’s design in marriage through right order, repentance & radical obedience.
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BTS: Real Life Audacious Faith and Radical Obedience in Motion!
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God corrected us and redirected us onto a path that has and is requiring bold, audacious faith and radical obedience to Him.
Come listen as I throw the curtains wide open to our household and see God work!
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Less of Me. More of Christ.
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What if the goal of your marriage isn't simply a better relationship—but becoming more like Jesus?
In this final episode, we bring the entire series together by looking at the heart of biblical marriage: daily surrender. Through John 3:30, Galatians 2:20, and the Gospel, you'll discover that flourishing isn't found in demanding more from your spouse but in giving more of yourself to Christ. As we decrease and He increases, our marriages become living testimonies of God's love, grace, and glory. Because the greatest gift you can give your spouse isn't a pe...
Your Spouse Was Never Meant to Carry Your Soul
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Have you unknowingly asked your spouse to do what only God can do?
In this episode, we uncover one of the greatest obstacles to intimacy: expecting our spouse to become our source of peace, security, identity, or worth. Marriage is a beautiful gift from God, but it makes a terrible god. Discover how putting Christ back on the throne frees you to delight in your spouse instead of depending on them, and why the strongest marriages are built by two people whose deepest needs are already being met by Jesus.
<...Stop Waiting for Your Spouse to Go First
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Who goes first in marriage?
The Gospel has already answered that question. Jesus did.
In this practical episode, we'll explore why waiting keeps marriages stuck, how Christ's pursuit of us frees us to pursue our spouse without keeping score, and what it looks like to love first—not because our spouse deserves it, but because Christ first loved us. Healthy marriages aren't built on reciprocity; they're built on grace.
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The Intimacy God Designed
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Have we reduced intimacy to something far smaller than God intended?
In this episode, we dive into the biblical meaning of becoming "one flesh" by unpacking the rich Hebrew and Greek words behind God's design for marriage. You'll discover that intimacy is far more than physical—it is covenant, unity, faithfulness, and being fully known. When we understand God's design, we stop chasing intimacy and begin cultivating the covenant where intimacy naturally flourishes.
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Fear Protects. Love Surrenders.
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Why is it so hard to fully trust and open your heart in marriage?
In this episode, we explore how fear, shame, and past wounds lead us to build walls that keep intimacy out. Through Scripture, you'll discover how God's perfect love casts out fear, why self-protection and oneness cannot coexist, and how surrendering your heart to Christ gives you the freedom to love your spouse without being ruled by fear.
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Does God Have Your Heart?
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Before your spouse can faithfully hold your heart, God must have it first.
In this opening episode, we uncover the foundation of every thriving marriage: a heart fully surrendered to Christ. Discover why God isn't after your performance but your heart, how we've unknowingly asked our spouses to carry what only God can, and why right order changes everything. When Christ becomes your first love, marriage becomes the beautiful overflow- not the source- of intimacy.
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Your Marriage Was Designed to Reveal Christ
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Why God's Design Was Always Bigger Than You
What if God's ultimate purpose for your marriage isn't simply your happiness—but His glory?
In this final episode of the series, we discover that marriage has always been about something greater than two people. Through Ephesians 5, you'll see how God's design for husbands and wives is a living picture of Christ's love for His Church. When we stop making marriage about ourselves and start making it about revealing Jesus, everything changes. Flourishing isn't the goal—it's the fruit of lives surren...
What Biblical Submission Actually Looks Like
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What does biblical submission actually look like on an ordinary Tuesday?
In this practical episode, we’re moving beyond misconceptions to discover how submission is lived out in everyday marriage. We’ll talk about respect, honor, influence instead of control, making specific requests, handling disagreement, and why your obedience is an act of worship- not a strategy to change your husband. God’s design isn’t about making women smaller; it’s about creating marriages that flourish for His glory.
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Less of Me. More of Christ.
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What if the goal of your marriage isn't simply a better relationship—but becoming more like Jesus?
In this final episode, we bring the entire series together by looking at the heart of biblical marriage: daily surrender. Through John 3:30, Galatians 2:20, and the Gospel, you'll discover that flourishing isn't found in demanding more from your spouse but in giving more of yourself to Christ. As we decrease and He increases, our marriages become living testimonies of God's love, grace, and glory. Because the greatest gift you can give your spouse isn't a pe...
Submission Begins with God, Not Your Husband
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Submission has become one of the most misunderstood words in the Church. But before it was ever about marriage, it was about trusting God.
In this episode, we’ll explore why God is a God of order, why Ephesians 5 begins with reverence for Christ, and why obedience always comes before the outcome we’re praying for. Discover why biblical submission isn’t about losing your voice- it’s about trusting the heart of the Designer and allowing His order to bring flourishing to your marriage
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Your Spouse Was Never Meant to Carry Your Soul
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Have you unknowingly asked your spouse to do what only God can do?
In this episode, we uncover one of the greatest obstacles to intimacy: expecting our spouse to become our source of peace, security, identity, or worth. Marriage is a beautiful gift from God, but it makes a terrible god. Discover how putting Christ back on the throne frees you to delight in your spouse instead of depending on them, and why the strongest marriages are built by two people whose deepest needs are already being met by Jesus.
<...One Generation Away Why We Forget God’s Ways- and Rewrite His Design
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We’re always just one generation away from forgetting God. And wives are no different.
In this episode, we’ll explore how God’s people went from readying for war against their brothers across the Jordan to forgetting about what He had done for them in just ONE generation. Discover how this impacts marriage and also future generations.
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Feminism Is Anti-Biblical
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Modern culture has discipled women to believe freedom is found in rejecting God’s design. Scripture teaches the opposite.
In this episode, we’re asking one question: Who defines womanhood- culture or Christ? We’ll explore how competing worldviews have shaped marriage, why God’s design isn’t oppressive but protective, and why Christian wives cannot build flourishing marriages on a foundation that contradicts God’s Word. God’s design has always been for our good, our freedom, and His glory.
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You Can’t Ask God to Bless What You Refuse to Bring Under His Authority
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Why do we ask God to restore what we’re unwilling to surrender?
In this episode, we’re opening the book of Judges to uncover a sobering pattern: partial obedience always leads to compromise. The Israelites entered the Promised Land but refused to fully obey God’s commands, and one generation later they had forgotten the Lord and were living according to their own ways. What does this have to do with marriage? More than you think. If we’re praying for God’s blessing while resisting His authority, we’re building on...
Simple Obedience Changes Everything
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Following Jesus isn’t complicated—but it will cost you your pride, your control, and your timeline.
In this final episode, we’re bringing the series full circle by returning to the beauty of simple obedience. If you’ve been waiting for another sign, another answer, or another confirmation, perhaps God is inviting you to simply obey what He’s already made clear. Because when you seek Him first, give Him your attention, and surrender your heart, everything else begins to find its proper place.
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The Gospel Isn’t Opposed to Effort—It’s Opposed to Earning
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Have we confused grace with passivity?
The gospel doesn’t call us to sit back and do nothing. It calls us to work, steward, build, and serve—but from acceptance, not for acceptance. In this episode, we’ll unpack the difference between striving to earn God’s favor and faithfully stewarding the life He’s already given you. Discover why discipline is not the enemy of grace but one of its greatest fruits.
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Everything Is Worship: The Power of a Consecrated Life
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What if worship isn’t something you attend or a song you sing—but the way you live?
In this episode, we’re redefining worship through the lens of Scripture. From your workout to your marriage, your parenting to your work, every ordinary moment becomes holy when it’s offered to the Lord. Discover how consecrating your attention transforms everyday responsibilities into acts of worship and why seeking God first changes not just your quiet time—but your entire life.
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