In Love with PMDD
Welcome to the In Love with PMDD Podcast, I am your Host Dr. Rose Alkattan, your PMDD Relationship Psychotraumatologist. Each week, I will be teaching you my signature PMDD Trauma Transformational Tools where I help PMDD Partners to STOP Breaking up every month. We Got This!
"They Stayed This Long..." The Dangerous PMDD Lie
Send us Fan Mail
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
That quiet thought of “they’ve never left, so they never will” can be one of the most destructive beliefs in a PMDD relationship. When monthly blowups, breakup threats, and makeups repeat, the nervous system starts to treat disrespect as normal. Then the luteal phase damage gets brushed aside once the follicular phase brings relief, and the cycle keeps training both partners to accept more than they should.
We...
How To Call Out Your PMDD Partner Without A Fight
Send us Fan Mail
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
The fastest way to kill intimacy is pretending you’re fine when you’re not. When we stay quiet to avoid conflict, we don’t stay “peaceful” we get resentful, guarded, and disconnected, then we explode over something that could have been handled with one honest conversation.
We unpack what “calling your partner out” actually means: naming what you don’t like, explaining why it affects you, and doing it ear...
A PMDD Morning Routine That Works
Send us Fan Mail
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Your PMDD brain can wake up already searching for danger and by breakfast it has built a full case against your relationship. We walk through the psychology behind a PMDD partner’s morning routine designed to interrupt that pattern early, especially in the luteal phase when sensitivity, cortisol reactivity, anxiety, and irritability can spike.
We start with a mindset shift that changes everything: the go...
How to Break FREE From Feeling Trapped in Your PMDD Relationship
Send us Fan Mail
As a special thank-you to my podcast listeners, I'm also opening a limited number of PMDD Freedom Sessions throughout July.
Use code FREEDOM to receive $50 off a private PMDD Session.
This offer is available for a limited number of spots, so once they're filled, the promotion will end.
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Freedom is the word we keep coming back to, because PMDD can...
PMDD Monthly Breakup Cycle
Send us Fan Mail
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
“I think we should break up.” If that sentence shows up like clockwork during luteal phase, you are not alone, and you are not crazy, but you may be stuck in a pattern that quietly trains your relationship to feel unsafe. We unpack why the PMDD monthly breakup becomes the default move under stress, what it’s really trying to solve, and why some couples eventually stop saying it while...
Walking on Eggshells in Your PMDD Relationship
Send us Fan Mail
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
If you’ve ever looked back at a luteal phase fight and thought, “That wasn’t me,” this conversation is for you and for the partner who’s been bracing for the next blowup. We’re getting honest about something that’s easy to minimize in a PMDD relationship: the way monthly conflict can slowly turn into a pattern of emotional abuse, verbal abuse, control, and intimidation. When the lines get cros...
Your Partner’s Emotions Are Not Your Job!
Send us Fan Mail
PMDD Pyramid Private Sessions
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Your partner is irritated. Your stomach drops. And suddenly PMDD turns a simple mood shift into a full-blown story about rejection, failure, and “I need to fix this right now.” I’m recording this one on a walk because sometimes the fastest way to get out of the spiral is to get out of the room...
PMDD Steals Your Joy!
Send us Fan Mail
PMDD Pyramid Private Sessions
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
PMDD doesn’t only bring mood swings and arguments. It can quietly drain the very thing your partner first fell in love with: your joy. Dr. Rose, PMDD relationship psychotraumatologist, names the pattern so many of us get stuck in, cutting off what makes us feel alive to keep the peace, then wondering why PMDD symptoms feel even wo...
The 4 Seasons of your PMDD Relationship-The Spring Phase
Send us Fan Mail
PMDD Pyramid Private Sessions
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
The strangest part of PMDD isn’t always the luteal phase crash. It’s what happens right after, when you wake up feeling clear, calm, and loving again and your relationship is still sitting in the wreckage of the week before. That “spring” phase can feel like relief and whiplash at the same time: the brain fo...
The 4 Seasons of your PMDD Relationship-The Winter Phase
Send us Fan Mail
Send us Fan Mail
PMDD Pyramid Private Sessions
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
The urge to pull away, start a fight, or end the relationship can hit like a wave during the luteal phase and feel absolutely certain. We name that pattern for what it often is in PMDD relationships: the winter season, when emotional numbness, overwhelm, and disconnection make you feel like roommates instead...
PMDD Is Not Your Fault
Send us Fan Mail
PMDD Pyramid Private Sessions
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
PMDD can make you feel blamed for something you never chose, then trapped in a relationship cycle you can’t seem to stop. We get honest about the line that changes everything: PMDD is not your fault, but it is your responsibility to manage. When we confuse fault with responsibility, we slide into shame, toxic positivity, and silence, an...
Tools for the Monthly PMDD Dance
Send us Fan Mail
Bad Marriage Advice Book
Secrets of Happily Ever After with Monica Tanner Podcast
PMDD Pyramid Private Sessions
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
PMDD doesn’t just change moods, it can change the entire rhythm of a relationship. When the luteal phase hits, couples often slide into the same argument pattern, then spend the “good weeks” trying to forget it ever happened. We wanted someth...
Stop Letting Your Brain Turn Feelings Into Facts
Send us Fan Mail
PMDD Pyramid Private Sessions
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
What story is your mind telling about your partner—and how much of it is actually true? We dive into the subtle way narratives form under stress, especially during the luteal phase with PMDD, and how those stories can turn ordinary moments into proof of disrespect, rejection, or neglect. If you’ve ever felt the rush to protect, to w...
PMDD Partner Edition- Why PMDD Makes Forgiving Your Partner Feel Impossible
Send us Fan Mail
PMDD Pyramid Private Sessions
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Ever feel like you’ve apologized, made peace, and then the same wound reopens weeks later? We explore why forgiveness slips through your fingers when PMDD hits, and how partners can respond in ways that quiet reactivity instead of fanning it. Drawing on hundreds of partner interviews and brain-based insights, we break down what actually happens in the lu...
Why Your PMDD Brain Makes Forgiving Your Partner Feel Impossible
Send us Fan Mail
PMDD Pyramid Private Sessions
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Ever feel like forgiveness resets every month, no matter how many talks or apologies you’ve had? We dig into why PMDD turns small misunderstandings into full-blown ruptures and why the same argument keeps resurfacing in luteal, even when things felt fine days ago. I break down what’s actually happening in the brain—how the prefrontal cortex goes p...
The PMDD Lens
Send us Fan Mail
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Ever feel rock-solid about your partner one week and ready to leave the next? That whiplash isn’t proof your relationship is broken—it’s the PMDD lens shifting how your brain reads love, safety, and support. We unpack why the luteal phase pushes your mind into protection mode, why breakup urges feel so convincing, and how to stop emotions from masque...
Why Breaking Up Won’t Fix PMDD Stress
Send us Fan Mail
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Ever feel like one tiny comment can tip your whole relationship over? PMDD can make the ordinary feel unbearable, not because your love changed, but because your stress response did. We pull back the curtain on how the luteal phase cranks up the body’s alarm system—spiking cortisol, shrinking emotional tolerance, and distorting what you think your part...
How Unresolved Trauma Shapes PMDD And Relationships
Send us Fan Mail
What if the fights, shutdowns, and spirals aren’t “just hormones,” but trauma resurfacing on a monthly schedule? We take you inside the lived reality of PMDD as a trauma amplifier—how it trains the brain to expect danger, erodes emotional safety at home, and fuels shame loops that make repair feel impossible. Through a raw personal story of a New Year’s trigger and years of clinical work, we map the path from unpredictable reactions to practical regulation.
You’ll learn why triggers aren’t the cause but the clue, and how to tra...
Stop Acting Like Roommates, Start Feeling Like Lovers
Send us Fan Mail
It’s easy to blame “too many feelings” for the distance in a relationship. The truth is harder—and far more hopeful: emotions aren’t the problem; misalignment, suppression, and tone are. After weeks on the road and deep reflection, I’m sharing the tools and stories that helped me see why some bonds thrive through hard conversations while others collapse into polite cohabiting.
We dig into how the nervous system shapes every conflict. When PMDD or trauma flips the threat switch, the amygdala drowns out logic and language. You can’t out-think a...
Your Partner Texted “Sure” And You Planned A PMDD Breakup
Send us Fan Mail
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Ever feel like your relationship hits the same wall every month? We’ve been there, and we’re unpacking why PMDD can turn a tiny spark into a wildfire—and how to stop living in the loop. We break down how surface fights about chores, texts, and tone usually point to deeper beliefs about safety, value, rejection, and abandonment. When PMDD heightens emotional sensitivity in the...
Stop Repeating The Same Fight Every Month
Send us Fan Mail
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Ever feel like your relationship hits the same wall every month? We’ve been there, and we’re unpacking why PMDD can turn a tiny spark into a wildfire—and how to stop living in the loop. We break down how surface fights about chores, texts, and tone usually point to deeper beliefs about safety, value, rejection, and abandonment. When PMDD heightens emotional sensitivity in the...
Unmet Needs In A PMDD Relationship
Send us Fan Mail
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
What if the biggest fights in your PMDD relationship aren’t about love at all, but about invisible rules no one agreed to? We dig into the quiet power of expectations—how they form, why they go unmet, and how to rebuild them so both partners feel seen and safe. From childhood habits of pretending to adult patterns of painting red flag...
Being Pissed Off in PMDD
Send us Fan Mail
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
When tempers flare and logic vanishes, shouting louder rarely gets you heard. We unpack a practical path out of PMDD rage—how to ground first, protect the connection, and come back to the conversation with clarity and care. You’ll hear why “calm down” backfires, what actually signals safety to a triggered brain, and how to build a personal reset plan that both partners understa...
PMDD Is Sabotaging Your Relationship!
Send us Fan Mail
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Have you been pretending to be okay during your luteal phase just to keep the peace? After returning from two transformative weeks in Tokyo with my 16-year-old daughter, I've had a profound realization about how we sabotage our PMDD relationships without even knowing it.
While navigating Tokyo's complex train systems and immersing ourselves in Japanese culture during my luteal...
8 Steps to Determining If Your PMDD Partner Is Really Right for You?
Send us Fan Mail
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Have you ever caught yourself thinking "maybe I'm just not compatible with my PMDD partner"? You're not alone. This thought pattern is the number one precursor to breakups in PMDD relationships. But what if compatibility isn't about finding someone who can "handle" your symptoms, but rather someone who adds value to your authentic life?
From my balcony in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico...
Top 5 Reasons for PMDD Breakups
Send us Fan Mail
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
The moment I realized my relationship was ending wasn't during a heated argument or a dramatic confrontation. It happened in paradise—on a beautiful balcony in Los Cabos, where I should have felt at peace but instead felt utterly disconnected from my partner despite my desperate attempts to reconnect.
This disconnect wasn't about not loving each other enough. It wasn't even about th...
The Danger of Familiarity in PMDD Relationships: Breaking the Cycle
Send us Fan Mail
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Have you fallen into the trap of taking your partner for granted? When comfort turns to complacency, even the strongest PMDD relationships can crumble.
Relationships where one partner has Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder come with unique challenges that require extraordinary patience and understanding. Yet over time, we often become dangerously familiar with each other's efforts. That morning text that once...
Why PMDD Rage Feels Unstoppable (Nervous System Secrets)
Send us Fan Mail
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Have you ever wondered why your PMDD seems to create the same relationship conflicts month after month, despite your best efforts? The answer might not be in the condition itself, but in how your nervous system responds to stress.
I never thought I'd be the person advocating for slowing down. As an Enneagram seven and someone who managed PMDD...
I Miss Me Before PMDD
Send us Fan Mail
Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
For anyone who's ever thought "I miss who I was before PMDD took over our relationship" - this episode provides the crucial insight you've been searching for. After taking my first break in four years of podcasting, I'm sharing the profound realization that led to my absence: I had completely lost myself in trying to prove my worth in PMDD relationships.
When...
The "But What About ME?" Trap in PMDD Relationships
Send us Fan Mail
$100 OFF All July PMDD Private Sessions-No Code Needed!
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Have you ever shared something deeply personal with your partner, only to have them immediately respond with their own story? This hidden communication pattern—conversational narcissism—might be quietly destroying your PMDD relationship.
Conversational narcissism isn't about being a narcissist. It's a subtle communication habit where one person consistently redirects conversations back to themselves, often without realizing it. When your part...
Oops, I Did It Again: Breaking the PMDD Impulse Cycle
Send us Fan Mail
$100 OFF All July PMDD Private Sessions-No Code Needed!
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Have you ever said something in the heat of the moment that you instantly regretted? That impulsive text message you can't unsend? The dramatic exit from an argument that made everything worse? If you're nodding right now, this episode is for you.
Impulsivity is perhaps the most destructive force in PMDD relationships, yet it's rarely discussed as a central symptom...
Are You Parenting your PMDD Partner?
Send us Fan Mail
Use Code "PMDDFreedom" for $100 off Private PMDD Sessions-
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Ever wonder why your partner doesn't change despite your constant reminders and guidance? The answer might be hiding in plain sight: you've unintentionally shifted from being their partner to becoming their parent.
This transformative episode explores how the subtle dynamic of "parenting" your partner—especially in relationships affected by PMDD—creates resistance rather than cooperation. When we consistently correct behavior, moni...
Are You Attracting What You Reject in PMDD Relationships?
Send us Fan Mail
Use Code "PMDDFreedom" for $100 off Private PMDD Sessions-
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Have you ever found yourself desperately asking your partner for more attention, more affection, more validation—yet somehow still feeling unfulfilled? The disconnect might not be what they're giving, but whether you're truly open to receiving it.
This episode dives into a transformative question that has helped countless PMDD relationships: Are you the version of yourself who wo...
Begging for Forgiveness in Your PMDD Relationship
Send us Fan Mail
Use Code "PMDDFreedom" for $100 off Private PMDD Sessions-
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
The silent killer in many PMDD relationships isn't the condition itself—it's the toxic cycle of withheld forgiveness that follows emotional outbursts. When you've made mistakes during your luteal phase that you genuinely regret, the path forward should be apology, forgiveness, and healing. But what happens when your partner accepts your apology on the surface while continuing to weaponize yo...
Healing from Abuse in PMDD Relationships
Send us Fan Mail
Use Code "PMDDFreedom" for $100 off Private PMDD Sessions-Â Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Power dynamics shift dramatically when abuse enters a PMDD relationship, leaving both partners vulnerable to cycles of emotional manipulation, psychological control, and diminished self-worth. Whether you're the person living with PMDD or the partner of someone who does, recognizing these patterns is your first step toward healing.
I recently found myself navigating the painful terrain of psychological abuse in a relationship where m...
Tools to Stop PMDD from Hijacking Your Relationships
Send us Fan Mail
Click to Join PMDD Power CouplesÂ
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Struggling with emotional reactivity in your PMDD relationship? The key might be detachment—not disconnecting from your partner, but creating space between your symptoms and your reactions.
Many of us find ourselves in cycles of blame, projecting our PMDD symptoms onto our partners and damaging our relationships in the process. When we're experiencing anxiety, depression, or sensitivity to rejection during our luteal pha...
Signs Your PMDD Relationship Is Heading for a Permanent Goodbye
Send us Fan Mail
Click to Join PMDD Power CouplesÂ
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Have you ever found yourself caught in the cycle of monthly PMDD breakup threats that never materialize into actual separations? That pattern can create a dangerous desensitization where neither partner recognizes when a real, permanent breakup is happening.
The line between an emotionally-charged luteal phase breakup discussion and a genuine relationship ending isn't always clear—but there are definitive signs that indicate whe...
The Stranger in the Mirror: When PMDD Takes Over
Send us Fan Mail
Click to Join PMDD Power CouplesÂ
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Imagine waking up each month to find a stranger in the mirror – someone who thinks, feels, and behaves in ways completely foreign to your true self. This identity theft isn't perpetrated by an external criminal but by your own body's hormonal shifts during PMDD.
The cognitive symptoms of Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder – intrusive thoughts, anxiety, depression, rumination – create a filter through which everything appears...
Walking on Eggshells: The Hidden Struggle of PMDD Partners
Send us Fan Mail
Click to Join PMDD Power CouplesÂ
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Ever wonder what it's like to love someone with PMDD? Behind closed doors, partners of those with Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder face a unique struggle—one that slowly erodes their sense of self in ways they never imagined possible.
The cyclical nature of PMDD creates a bewildering emotional landscape where partners find themselves walking on eggshells, desperately trying to avoid triggering symptoms during the...
The Love Language Trap in PMDD Relationships
Send us Fan Mail
Click to Join PMDD Power CouplesÂ
Click to Book a Private PMDD Session
Follow me on Instagram
Follow me on TikTok
Love languages seem like the perfect framework for understanding our relationship needs—until PMDD enters the picture. In this deeply personal episode, I share my own struggles with demanding specific expressions of love during my luteal phase and the revelations that transformed my approach to relationships.
What happens when the way you need to be loved changes dramatically throughout your menstrual cycle? I e...
