Co-Parent Dilemmas

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By: Diane Dierks & Rick Voyles

There are at least two sides to every conflict, and when it's between divorced or separated parents, sparks can fly. In each episode, co-parenting experts Diane Dierks and Rick Voyles answer listener questions and talk about the benefits and risks of letting go vs. holding on to the conflict in a variety of complex topics facing co-parents today. Do you hold on for the sake of the children or let go for the same reason? Episodes are released every Sunday at noon. Listeners can email 1234Dilemma@gmail.com and pose a question/dilemma that may be answered on an upcoming...

S4.E28. Daddy’s Little Girl
#28
Last Sunday at 6:00 PM

Shawn asks a question about how to help her 19-year-old daughter repair her relationship with her father. Diane & Rick discuss the importance of acting parental no matter how old the child is. The discuss the daughter’s dilemma of not only competing for her father’s time, but dealing with the fact he married someone close to her age.

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S4.E27. The Problem with Self-Representation
#27
02/25/2024

Sometimes approaching your court case without an attorney can leave you vulnerable and without all the information you need to make good decisions. Diane & Rick explore a listener’s frustrations about her parenting plan language and how things may have been different if she had not run out of money and had to act pro se.

We are excited to announce a new benefit for listeners who become Patreon VIPs (for only $10/month)! Diane will be hosting support groups online every Wednesday at noon (EST) for an hour, beginning March 6th. You can come to...


S4.E26. Who Gets Final Say? Another Parenting Plan Disaster
#26
02/18/2024

Diane & Rick answer listener Ryan’s question about which therapist he and his co-parent should choose for their daughter. The one nearest dad or mom? What really matters? Is it possible to have a “harmonious” discussion, as their parenting plan orders them to do? You might be surprised by their answers.

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S4.E25. Narcissism in Co-Parenting: What is it? How do you respond? Will your child be a narcissist, too?
#25
02/11/2024

Diane & Rick discuss the mental health issues that are connected to someone with an extremely self-focused personality disorder, also known as a Narcissist. They differentiate the clinical information from what is promoted on social media and help listeners to determine how to respond to a narcissistic co-parent with good boundaries and not as a victim.

We are excited to announce a new benefit for listeners who become Patreon VIPs (for only $10/month)! Diane will be hosting support groups online every Wednesday at noon (EST) for an hour, beginning March 6th. You can come to...


S4.E24. My Child is Gaslighting Me!
#24
02/04/2024

Diane & Rick explore the phenomenon of children engaging in  “gaslighting” as a strategy to either survive their parents’ conflict or to manipulate a parent to get what they want. Is it a learned behavior from an alienating parent, or is it part of something deeper? The hosts break it down.

If you have a problematic paragraph in your parenting plan that you would like the hosts to review,  email it to 1234Dilemma@gmail.com.

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S4.E23. The Problem with Over-explaining a Concept!
#23
01/28/2024

Listener Heather shares a paragraph from her parenting plan entitled “Special Considerations”. Diane& Rick explore how you can go too far in trying to explain an abstract phrase and find yourself right back into the conflict that prompted the language to begin with! Ultimately, they settle on the simple concept of doing what is right without expecting reciprocation, which always benefits the child. 

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S4.E22. Infants, Toddlers, and Teens - Oh, My!
#22
01/21/2024

Diane & Rick address listener Shary’s dilemma about parenting time with an infant. How much does the co-parent relationship determine the best schedule? The hosts break it down, as well as discuss the similarities between toddlers and teens when it comes to co-parenting issues.

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If you have a problematic paragraph in your parenting plan that you would like the hosts to review,  email it to 1234Dilemma@gmail.com.

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S4.E21. Fifth Weekend Dilemma: A Good Case for Letting Go
#21
01/14/2024

In another episode in the parenting plan disaster series, Diane & Rick review Camile’s parenting plan language about 1st, 3rd, and 5th weekends. They discuss the problems with wording that seems fair in its attempt, but destined to create all kinds of unnecessary conflict. They provide a definition of “good faith” that would confuse the most astute legal scholar. Diane also shares her “Five Parenting Plan Commandments”.

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S4.E20. Birthday Party Disaster: Who’s in Charge?
#20
01/07/2024

Listener Michael shares his problematic parenting plan language about birthday parties with Diane & Rick. They discuss not only the problem with the wording, but what really matters to the child — the one being honored by the celebrations. The hosts warn against creating language to manage co-parent conflict at the expense of the child.

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S4.E19. What DOES the Word “Dinner” Mean?: Splitting Hairs in the Parenting Plan
#19
12/31/2023

Diane & Rick address a listener’s question about the meaning of dinner  in his parenting plan. They discuss how some co-parents go to great lengths to misinterpret parenting plan language to interfere with the other parent’s time with the children. Discussed are ways to avoid these common traps and the unrealistic fears parents can have when their co-parent makes baseless threats about parenting plan language.

If you have a problematic paragraph in your parenting plan that you would like the hosts to review,  email it to 1234Dilemma@gmail.com.

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