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Episode 298 // Let’s continue our July “Summertime In The Psalms” series with Psalm 53 today. As Christian moms, we can gain a great deal of wisdom from looking at how fools live their own lives, which is exactly what David focuses on here in this psalm. 

This is a short but powerful psalm, and I’ve got 2 big take-aways for you that should shape every Christian home. We want to enjoy family life, but that wil...

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Episode 297 // We are diving into our July “Summertime In The Psalms” series with Psalm 101 today! This is such a beautiful (and short) psalm where we see the connection between what we praise, what we prioritize, and how that plays out day by day to impact us and our families. 

Join me today for a look through Psalm 101, and I’ll close with 5 key take-aways that will help each of us more fully live out the family life we want.

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Episode 296 // Ever find yourself wondering what your husband really wants for Father’s Day, his birthday, or any other special event? It doesn’t even have to cost money. 

Today, I’ll share 6 tips - from my years as a marriage therapist and my years as a happily married wife - to help you get a little peak inside his brain to know what to get him. Right in time for Father’s Day this weekend!

Ready? Let’s jump in.

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Episode 295 // Date nights are wonderful, but my husband and I don’t do them very regularly. Yet, we have a very happy marriage! Even during the crazy season of 4 little kids at home. 

Today, I’ll share my personal experience (and my marriage therapist experience!) around how we handle date nights and what we do to keep our marriage strong. 

There’s no need to cancel your date nights, but I hope thes...

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Episode 294 // Summer is here, and it’s an excellent time for deepening your family bond and having fun together! Instead of getting distracted by the many activities, camps, trips, and summertime busyness, today I want to share some classic, easy, every-day ideas to strengthen your family relationships. 

I’ll share 9 practical tips today that will help not only during the summer, but all year long. Let’s love our people WEL...

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Episode 293 // Negative thoughts usually come with many emotions attached to them. We struggle with angry thoughts, anxious thoughts, bitter thoughts, shameful thoughts… yet, God tells us in the Bible to “take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”

How?! That sounds great, but it can feel impossible.

Today, I want to share some practical tips from my work as a Christian mental health counselor to help you actually l...

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Episode 292 // One of the biggest threats to happy family life is… conflict. We all deal with disagreements, but that doesn’t mean we are required to argue, get angry, and yell.

It is possible to manage conflict in a healthy, biblical way that actually BUILDS your relationship.

But it’s easiest and best to AVOID conflict when you can. 

It feels better, it keeps the calm, and it doesn’t...

Episode 291 // Friend, we are celebrating 100,000 podcast downloads today! WOW. That is incredible. And that makes it a great time to pause and reflect together on the BIG KEYS to happy, healthy, and holy Christian family life. 

Today, join me for some reflections on this online ministry as well as encouragement as we look at how to zoom in on what really matters for your family life. 

With 15+ years as a marriage and family therapist, plus my own life experience as a pastor’s wife and mom of 4 little kids, I am so tha...

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Episode 290 // What are the motives of your heart? Why do you focus on the priorities that you do? How are your plans shaped by the Lord?

Many proverbs focus on wisdom and how to live our lives well. But one in particular always stands out to me. Proverbs 16:1-9 reminds us so clearly that God cares about our hearts, our motives for why we do the things we do.

So today, we’re taking a look at th...

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Episode 289 // We all want a happy home life. A happy marriage. Happy kids. A family life filled with peace, joy, connection, and fun. 

It doesn’t happen by accident, friend. There’s no magic wand. We can’t think that working all day, scrolling on our phones, and feeding the kids enough vegetables will help us bond and enjoy our family.

God alone has the keys to happy Christian family life. Today, we will dive into Colossians 3 and pull out 5...

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Episode 288 // One of the things that really steals our joy is WORRY. No one intentionally tries to worry about things… but it sneaks up on us. It comes from every angle. It feels so normal in today’s world.

But it’s not God’s plan for his people - and it is stealing your joy and peace in family life today.

What can we do?! Well, today I want to talk through Jesus’ wisdom for us in Matthew 6. Pl...

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Episode 287 // Time passes by much faster than we think it will. It can feel sad to reflect on how quickly our children are growing and how fast each season of life speeds by. 

But part of the WISDOM in living intentionally is being realistic about our time. It helps us to cherish the time and take each season of life seriously. 

We can’t get time back, and we can’t make it slow down...

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Episode 286 // I want a happy marriage. A godly marriage. What about you?

It’s not a trick question! Of course you want a marriage filled with good things. A marriage of trust, partnership, and joy. 

Today, I want to share some helpful questions we can ask ourselves as Christian wives, and 4 key take-aways from Proverbs 31 and the wisdom we find there about the marriage relationship. 

Enjoying our family life starts with our marriage. With intimacy, connecti...

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Episode 285 // If we want to truly enjoy Christian family life, we have to be intentional about how we approach our busy days. Marriage and motherhood are a long road. There are ups and downs and twists and turns. 

But the Lord has great wisdom for us in how to enjoy that long and windy road. Today, we’ll dive into Hebrews 12:1-3 to find three keys for intentional living. 

Not only that...

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Episode 284 // Want the key to enjoying family life? It’s not a secret. In fact, it’s right in Ephesians 5, in a short and simple passage we’ll be looking at together today. 

The Lord tells us to “be very careful, then, how you live - not as unwise but as wise.” He gives us opportunities to love our family and deepen our relationships - this is how we enjoy them more! He makes his will known to us in the Bible, an...

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Episode 283 // When we aren’t quite on the right track with our priorities, it can feel really frustrating. We find ourselves putting in a lot of effort, and not usually getting much back from it. 

But today, we’ll look at what God says about our priorities, and his wisdom for intentional living in our Christian homes. In fact, we’re going all the way back to the Old Testament together, to the minor prophet of Haggai...

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Episode 282 // We can’t expect to truly enjoy Christian family life if we are just going through the motions, rushing through our days, or stuck in a rut that isn’t really serving our current season of life.

To enjoy family life and to deepen our relationships, we have to be intentional. How are you using your time? Your energy? The resources God has given you and your family?

Whatever your new years goals might be, today’s...

Jump into the New Year with my favorite: The Hope Planner.

Episode 281 // We can’t enter the new year well if we haven’t taken a moment to reflect on the year that is past. What has God done? What season is He sending us into?

Today, I want to wrap up our series on Gratitude Over Grumbling with some overarching principles that help all of us. Plus, I’ll share my own gratitude reflections from this year. As Christians, we want to celebrate together! 

I pray this is a...

Get ready for the New Year with my favorite: The Hope Planner.

Episode 280 // One of the most common things that people recommend when you’re trying to grow in gratitude is… a gratitude list. 

But is it worth the effort? 

I’ve been a counselor for over 15 years. I’ve seen people use gratitude lists well and use them poorly. It’s not a magic wand, but it does have the potential to create big change in your heart. 

So today, I want to share some enc...

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Episode 279 // Our relationships have a LOT to do with the attitude of our hearts. With healthy, intimate, connected relationships, we grumble less. It’s easier to be thankful, to notice the positive, to feel better. 

But… how do we get there? 

Today, I want to dive into the topic of marriage (and friendship too) and help us see how leaning in and being vulnerable can have a big impact on our gratitude and grumbling. 

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Episode 278 // Gratitude is more than just a feeling in our heart or something that happens naturally as we smile more often. If we are truly going to be thankful people even on the hard, stressful, chaotic days… well, this is when we really see that gratitude is a spiritual discipline. 

So today, I want to share 7 steps that walk us closer and closer toward the ultimate goal living everyday life with our hearts centered in Christ-centered gratitude. 

These are spi...

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Episode 277 // No matter how hard we try, sometimes life disappoints us. And at the holidays, that can be especially hard! There can be tension, conflict, unmet expectations - and we want to figure out how to still be a thankful, joyful person even in that disappointment. 

I hope that your Thanksgiving holiday and Christmas season are beautiful times of family and feasting. But just in case you run into a roadblock on this road of gratitude, in case you find yourself grumbling a bit...

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Episode 276 // Habits are far more powerful than we realize. They anchor our days and have a big impact on our mental health, spiritual growth, and family interactions.

So, how do we crush bad habits like grumbling, and build good habits like noticing the GOOD in life? How can we make this such a normal part of who we are - a habit that fills our hearts and spills out in our words and interactions?

Today, I want to share...

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Episode 275 // Sometimes, we find our greatest motivation in a reality check about life. And that is my goal in today’s episode: not to discourage, but to encourage all of us to work intentionally on our grumbling hearts. 

And we’ll find that encouragement with a reality check about how our grumbling - and our gratitude! - impacts the people we love the most.

Last week, we looked at a biblical basis for working on this issue in our lives...

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Episode 274 // Happy November, friend! This is the time of year when we have gratitude on the brain. But is it really in our hearts all year long? As Christians, it should be. As moms, we long for it to be. 

So we’re kicking off a mini-series today, diving deep into our calling and desire. How can we become more thankful people? What will it take to stop the grumbling in our hearts and our negative thinking? 

Well, it starts...

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Episode 273 // Ever feel a little stressed out? Ha! You’re a mom - of course you do. And heading into the holiday season can sometimes boost our stress level even more.

Today, we’ll look at 10 big-picture areas where you can make a difference in your own mental health, stress level, and your home atmosphere. 

We’ll look at 5 things to REMOVE from your life and 5 things to ADD to your life, to lower stress and bring more joy and peace to family life.

Each...

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Episode 272 // None of us can enjoy family life without having healthy boundaries - with those outside our family and inside it! There are different types of boundaries and they will look different with each person. But they all boil down to the same thing:

What are you willing and able to say NO to?

Saying “no” is a skill that we can build. And saying “no” without the guilt and the awkwardness is an art form th...

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Episode 271 // Getting stuck in a pattern of negative thinking is never helpful. It doesn’t feel good, and it doesn’t help us love our husbands and kids well. But, it’s a really common struggle!

Thankfully, like most areas of life, God has hope for us. There are practical action steps that can help us break this cycle of negative thinking and start fixing our minds and hearts on the things above, where Christ is (Colossia...

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Episode 270 // Every moms wants a deep bond with her kids… and the more kids you have, the harder that can get to manage!

I’ve been a family counselor for 15 years, and I’ve got four little ones of my own: triplets and another little one behind them. They’re all still 5 and under. Life is busy - and I know that if I want strong relationships with each of them, I have to be intentional!

Today, I...

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Episode 269 // Every marriage will go through hard seasons. Those seasons may be big or small, impacting the whole family or just you as a couple. But your goal is to get through it stronger and closer on the other side.

Which is definitely possible. I’ve been a marriage counselor for over 10 years, and I’ve helped a lot of couples through a lot of hard seasons. The details can be unique, but there are some areas that are helpful for ev...

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Episode 268 // Personal devotional time or quiet time is a HUGE part of spiritual formation as a Christian. Just because mom life is busy and tiring doesn’t mean our Bible time stops being important! 

In fact, I think it’s fair to say it’s even more important for us to get this time as Christian parents. We need Jesus to shape our lives, our families, our homes. How else will we faithfully disciple our childr...

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Episode 267 // I love my kids. I love my husband. I love my family. But let’s be real… I also love some “me time” when I’m able to get it. 

Lots of moms feel guilty about wanting, needing, or enjoying some alone time. Yet, Jesus himself sometimes got away from other people in order to be alone! To pray, reflect, sleep, and rest.

When moms can get some “me time” and use it rightly...

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Episode 266 // Life is always changing. But the Bible is not.

Scripture never changes! It does not adjust to accommodate our busy schedules or reliance on technology. God does not change his mind on what is good or right just because we don’t understand or like it.

There is a biblical picture of what a happy, healthy, and holy marriage looks like. And there is a biblical picture of what happy, healt...

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Episode 265 // We’re entering the fall season. For most of us moms, that means new family routines, and getting back to “regular life.” This is not only the perfect time to consider tweaking and strengthening some family rhythms, but also the time when you might be feeling the itch for something to change.

That itch might actually be a call from the Holy Spirit.

When you feel like things are a lit...

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Episode 264 // Let’s set some goals today for the incoming Fall season of our families’ lives… how do you feel about the Proverbs 31 woman?

She’s intimidating, but she can be a very helpful picture to lead us into setting goals and clarifying priorities for our families. 

Hop in to join me for a few devotional thoughts on this extraordinary woman. After all: “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.”...

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Episode 263 // What are your plans for the day? Are you SURE they’re God’s plans for your day?

I’ve loved Proverbs 16:1 for a long time, because it challenges my natural desire for lists, schedules, and controlling my own plans. I’ve got 4 little kids… any thoughts of controlling the plans are an illusion. 

But God always has a plan - and it’s good, it’s best, and it’s what we ultimately want for our families. Jo...

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Episode 262 // No one wants to be thought of as stupid. But none of us really enjoy discipline and correction either. So how do we make sense of Proverbs 12:1 - “Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid.”

Join me today for a Christian mom-to-mom devotional for encouragement and help from this unusual proverb in Scripture!

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Episode 261 // The book of Proverbs gives us wisdom, hope and encouragement. And today, we’ll take a look at Proverbs 21:9 and find wisdom for ourselves as wives. 

It’s not an easy proverb to read, but it should hit close to home for all of us: “Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.” Proverbs 21:9

Eek. No one wants to be married to a quarrelsome wife… and none of us wan...

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Episode 260 // God is always with you. He hears every prayer, and He responds. 

Of course, that doesn’t always look like we hope it will. And He does not always act in ways that we desire. But our prayer journeys build a connection with God that carries us through hard and difficult seasons. 

Join me today for a devotional thought from Psalm 86, and let’s deepen our personal walks with the...

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Episode 259 // Psalm 90:12 is a powerful verse that should point us not only toward the wisdom and goodness of God, but also toward a reality check for our own busy lives. 

Our days are numbered. This may feel especially true when we consider the realities of family life. How long will your children be innocent in childhood? How long until they leave the home? How much time do you really have to influence and tea...