The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast

The amount of information on how to find a life partner is staggering. There are videos, podcasts, blogs, books—who doesn't have a theory? While some of the information is good, the sheer volume makes it overwhelming. How in the world are we to make sense of it?

Well, in an effort to sift through all the noise, Roy Biancalana, our host, has boiled down our pursuit of intimacy to 5 essential ideas, and they are the focus of this 5-part series.

In part four of the series, the focus is on how...

The amount of information on how to find a life partner is staggering. There are videos, podcasts, blogs, books—who doesn't have a theory? While some of the information is good, the sheer volume makes it overwhelming. How in the world are we to make sense of it?

Well, in an effort to sift through all the noise, Roy Biancalana, our host, has boiled down our pursuit of intimacy to 5 essential ideas, and they are the focus of this 5-part series.

In part three of the series, you'll hear something radical. We s...

The amount of information on how to find a life partner is staggering. There are videos, podcasts, blogs, books—who doesn't have a theory? While some of the information is good, the sheer volume makes it overwhelming. How in the world are we to make sense of it?

Well, in an effort to sift through all the noise, Roy Biancalana, our host, has boiled down our pursuit of intimacy to 5 essential ideas, and they are the focus of this 5-part series.

In part two of the series, we're encouraged to look not...

The amount of information on how to find a life partner is staggering. There are videos, podcasts, blogs, books—who doesn't have a theory? While some of the information is good, the sheer volume makes it overwhelming. How in the world are we to make sense of it?

Well, in an effort to sift through all the noise, Roy Biancalana, our host, has boiled down our pursuit of intimacy to 5 essential ideas, and they are the focus of this 5-part series.

In part one of the series, the focus is on what...

Happiness and freedom are what we ultimately want, but what path should we follow to get there? Should we pursue meaningful relationships, lasting intimacy, financial security, purpose and meaning, health, family, fame or religion? Or is it something else entirely?

Well, in this series of podcasts, Roy describes the BEST path to happiness and freedom. It is spiritual in nature, and it's about shifting from self-ing to be-ing.

In this episode, you will learn:

·      Why you are suffering from a severe case of mistaken identity;

·      Why your self is causin...

Happiness and freedom are what we ultimately want, but what path should we follow to get there? Should we pursue meaningful relationships, lasting intimacy, financial security, purpose and meaning, health, family, fame or religion? Or is it something else entirely?

Well, in this series of podcasts, Roy describes the BEST path to happiness and freedom. It is spiritual in nature, and it's about shifting from knowing to curiosity.

In this episode, you will learn:

·      The ego's least favorite 3-word sentence;

·      How knowing is keeping you single;

·      Wh...

Happiness and freedom are what we ultimately want, but what path should we follow to get there? Should we pursue meaningful relationships, lasting intimacy, financial security, purpose and meaning, health, family, fame or religion? Or is it something else entirely?

Well, in this series of podcasts, Roy describes the BEST path to happiness and freedom. It is spiritual in nature, and it's about shifting from recalling to forgiving.

In this episode, you will learn:

·      How the past creates unhappiness;

·      3 simple steps to letting go of the past;

·     ...

Happiness and freedom are what we ultimately want, but what path should we follow to get there? Should we pursue meaningful relationships, lasting intimacy, financial security, purpose and meaning, health, family, fame or religion? Or is it something else entirely?

Well, in this series of podcasts, Roy describes the BEST path to happiness and freedom. It is spiritual in nature, and it's about shifting from attachment to trust.

In this episode, you will learn:

·      About the "sticky finger" problem;

·      How recognizing impermanence leads to happiness;

·      The true meaning of...

When it's all said and done, happiness and freedom is what we all ultimately want. But what path should we follow? There are many to choose from. Is it meaningful relationships, lasting intimacy, financial security, health, family, fame or religion? Or is it something else?

In the previous episode, Roy explained that the best path to happiness and freedom must be (1) in your control, (2) available now and (3) something that makes sense to everyone.

And none of the most popular paths to happiness—relationships, intimacy, money, health, family, fame, religion, or even a co...

When it's all said and done, happiness and freedom is what we all ultimately want. But what path should we follow? There are many to choose from. Is it meaningful relationships, lasting intimacy, financial security, health, family, fame or religion? Or is it something else? And more importantly, how do know which path is best?

In the first episode of this life-changing 6-part series, Roy, our host, not only examines the most common and popular paths to happiness and freedom, but he offers a simple criterion for determining which one is the best—which path to...

Though this is a New Year's Eve episode, it's one that applies to any day of the year because every day offers an opportunity to begin again, to Delete, Repeat and Create.

If you're looking for some pithy wisdom that can help you live your best life today—and every day—don't miss this episode.

Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:

Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com

Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/

Roy's 4 Books:

If you read the Christmas story in the Bible, you'll notice that the events before and after the birth of Christ were met with great fanfare and miracles. Angels appeared and declared amazing things were about to happen, and wise men followed special stars to witness this historic moment.

But in this very short episode, Roy, our host, reminds us that as we visit with family and friends, we should be ready for those small, seemingly inconsequential moments where offering our presence, attention and compassion (to an adult or child) might make all the difference i...

While we all say, "Merry Christmas" or "Happy Holidays," are they? Are they merry and happy? Well, in this episode, Roy, our host, says that if we pay attention to 3 things, our holiday season will be truly merry and happy.

If you want to enjoy the coming days, don't miss this episode.

Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:

Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com

Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/

Roy's 4 Books:

·      Quantum Que...

One day—and it's a very alarming day—you realize that the only thing keeping you from having the life (and love life) you want is fear.

You're scared of something, perhaps a few things (we all are), and that's what's holding you back from success, growth, freedom and especially intimacy.

We need to have a frank and honest conversation about fear and how to conquer our respective anchors, for if we don't, we'll stay stuck and single.

This is the final installment of a 7-part series where R...

We're all sick of people playing games in the dating scene, but in a sense, everyone is playing a game, meaning, everyone has an M.O., a method of operating.

Getting clear on your Relationship M.O. and mastering it, is a critical issue and it's the topic of this podcast.

In this episode, you will learn that there are only two "dating games," two Relationship M.O.'s, and which game you choose to play is probably the most important decision you'll ever make.

This is par...

There was a horrible story in the news recently where a father and son were killed by a swarm of "murder hornets" while zip-lining in the country of Laos.

That is tragic, and I don't mean to make light of it when I say your love life is being killed by a bunch of "Killer B's" too.

Those B's are: Blind Spots, Baggage, Beliefs and Barriers. And unless and until you deal with them in your life, you won't attract lasting love.

This is part five of a 7...

You have probably tried just about everything to find your life partner. You've sought the wisdom of the "experts"—watching their videos, reading their books and listening to their podcasts. You've tried a few online dating sites or perhaps hired a matchmaker. You've talked to your friends, to your therapist, even your God.

And… bupkis. Nothing. You're still single.

And it's not because you need better experts, dating sites, therapists or even a better God. What you need is one single insight that will unlock the whole mystery as to why you're...

What if it is your desire for a relationship that is keeping you from having one? That is such a crazy suggestion, isn't it?

But what if it's true?

Could it be that hidden within our desire to be in a relationship was an unconscious motivation that was, in fact, sabotaging us and keeping us from a healthy connection?

In this episode, I am suggesting that very thing, that we are our own worst enemy when it comes to attracting lasting love, but we don't know it!

This is pa...

What do you bring to the table? This is a question being asked on social media, podcasts and nearly everywhere people discuss dating and relationships. And while it's often asked in a judgmental and condemning way, it is a legitimate question.

What makes us a great partner? A "high value" partner?

You'll be glad to know that it's not beauty or bucks, but something much deeper and surprisingly simple. It's our ability to be present and authentic.

This is part two of a 7-part series where Roy off...

Since it's Halloween week, our host, Roy Biancalana, takes a deep dive into some of the destructive relationship costumes we often wear in our pursuit of intimacy. Are we being ourselves or are we playing a role or showing up in some sort of fear-driven persona?

This is part one of a 7-part series where Roy answers the 7 questions found in his newest book, Quantum Questions: How Answering 7 Radical Questions Leads to Attracting a Healthy, Lasting, Intimate Relationship.

This Halloween episode appropriately discusses the first question in the book, Who Am I...

In this episode, Roy shares a recording from one of his favorite spiritual teachers, David Deida. Deida is a leading voice in conscious relationships, especially when it comes to masculine/feminine dynamics.

Given the culture wars going on these days around sex and gender, David's message is even more necessary and powerful.

Don't miss this episode!

Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:

Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com

Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.

In this episode, you'll learn the last component of healthy intimacy: Aliveness.

The underlying purpose of a great relationship is the aliveness of the individuals in it. In other words, the reason two healthy people commit to one another is that they believe that each of them ar...

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.

In this episode, you'll learn the sixth component of healthy intimacy: Appreciation.

In great relationships, appreciation is not just felt, it's verbally spoken. But it's more than saying "thank you" or "I appreciate you." It's seeing beyond a person's mere actions, to seeing the heart, intention and mo...

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.
 
In this episode, you'll learn the fifth component of healthy intimacy: Agreements.
 
The secret sauce of great relationships is trust. But don't tell yourself that trust is a complicated or complex thing. It isn't. Trust is the easiest thing in the world to build and maintain. All we need to do is...

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.

In this episode, you'll learn the fourth component of healthy intimacy: Affection.

One of the signs that a relationship is healthy is that there is a lot of physical affection. There is touching, kissing, holding, hugging, and of course, sexing. And in this episode, you'll hear all ab...

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.

In this episode, you'll learn the third component of healthy intimacy: Authenticity.

One of the hallmarks of a great relationship, is that each person in the relationship not only is aware of what's going on inside themselves, but they are also committed to being completely open and ho...

In this special edition of the podcast, Roy Biancalana, our host, shares important information on who actually killed Charlie Kirk.

It's not some college kid dressed in black wearing a baseball cap. No, the assasination was done by a far more sinister and scary group of people.

Tune into this short, 18-minute episode because the future of your life and our country just might depend on it.

What does a healthy relationship look and function like? That's the focus of this 7-part series. The goal is to paint an accurate and aspirational picture of how two people behave in a conscious, loving relationship by discussing the seven components of heathy intimacy.

In this episode, you'll learn the second component of healthy intimacy: Acceptance.

In great relationships, the atmosphere is permeated with unconditional love and acceptance. The couple is not trying to change or control each other because they love each other as they are. However, that doesn't mean ev...

Frequently on this podcast, Roy Biancalana, our host, focuses on the beliefs, blind spots, baggage and behaviors that sabotage our ability to attract lasting love. That's because, as the mystic poet Rumi said nearly 800 years ago, "Your task is not to seek love, but instead, to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." So, it's appropriate to talk about the barriers that keep us single.

But that's not the focus of this 7-part series.

Here you will learn how a healthy relationship functions. The go...

When Kenny Rogers sang, "You gotta know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em; know when to walk away, know when to run," he was talking about gambling and playing cards. But little did he know that he was also giving some great relationship advice, too!

We all need to know when to hold on to someone and when to let them go, when to walk away from a relationship and when to run. So, in this episode, Roy explores when to end a relationship and how to do it in the most c...

In honor of his son's upcoming 31st birthday, our host, Roy Biancalana, describes his successes and failures as a parent with incredible vulnerability. You'll hear him describe, in great detail, the things he did wrong as a dad, while also celebrating the things he did right.

Whether you are a parent, aspire to be a parent, if you have parents or know a parent, there is something valuable for you to learn from this episode.

Don't miss it.

Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:

Since it's the middle of July and it's hot outside, Roy, our host, thought it appropriate to do a 3-part series called, "Hot Takes."

You'll hear many provocative perspectives relating to cultural, political, spiritual and relational topics. Buckle up. It's intense.

In this episode, the topics discussed are hurt feelings and being offended, therapy and talking about the past and completely misunderstood words like forgiveness, compassion and independence.

Don't miss this episode.

Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:

Since it's the middle of July and it's hot outside, Roy, our host, thought it appropriate to do a 3-part series called, "Hot Takes."

You'll hear many provocative perspectives relating to cultural, political, spiritual and relational topics. Buckle up. It's intense.

In this episode, the topics discussed are social media, science vs spirituality and new age ideas like astrology, numerology, reincarnation, past life regression and the law of attraction.

Don't miss this episode.

Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:

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Since it's the middle of July and it's hot outside, Roy, our host, thought it appropriate to do a 3-part series called, "Hot Takes."

You'll hear many provocative perspectives relating to cultural, political, spiritual and relational topics. Buckle up. It's intense.

In this episode, the topics discussed are narcissism, religion and politics.

Don't miss this episode.

Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:

Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com

Roy's Relationship Fitness Self-Assessment Test: https://coachingwithroy.com/the-relationship-fitness-self-test/

In this episode, Roy shares an important talk given by his favorite spiritual teacher, Michael Singer. He talks about how to feel love all the time and it was a talk he gave recently in front of a live audience at his temple near Gainesville, Florida.

We all want to feel love. When you wake up you realize that all our pursuits, relationships or otherwise, are ultimately about finding and feeling love. And that's not a problem. In fact, it's natural and normal.

The issue is that most of us believe th...

Music is an incredibly powerful and enjoyable artform. Not only does it make us want to sing along and dance, but it can move us to tears, open our hearts and inspire our souls.

Yet, as amazing as many songs are, the message they contain can be magnificent or their message can be complete madness. This 4-part series explores around a dozen amazing and famous songs—half with messages that are complete madness, and therefore, should be ignored, and half with messages that are magnificent and should be adopted.

This is the...

Music is an incredibly powerful and enjoyable artform. Not only does it make us want to sing along and dance, but it can move us to tears, open our hearts and inspire our souls.

Yet, as amazing as many songs are, the message they contain can be magnificent or their message can be complete madness. This 4-part series explores around a dozen amazing and famous songs—half with messages that are complete madness, and therefore, should be ignored, and half with messages that are magnificent and should be adopted.

This is part...

Music is an incredibly powerful and enjoyable artform. Not only does it make us want to sing along and dance, but it can move us to tears, open our hearts and inspire our souls.

Yet, as amazing as many songs are, the message they contain can be magnificent or their message can be complete madness. This 4-part series explores around a dozen amazing and famous songs—half with messages that are complete madness, and therefore, should be ignored, and half with messages that are magnificent and should be adopted.

In part two...

Music is an incredibly powerful and enjoyable artform. Not only does it make us want to sing along and dance, but it can move us to tears, open our hearts and inspire our souls.

Yet, as amazing as many songs are, the message they contain can be magnificent or their message can be complete madness.

This 4-part series explores a dozen amazing and famous songs—half with messages that are complete madness, and therefore, should be ignored, and half with messages that are magnificent and should be adopted.

In...

As we celebrate Father's Day, it's important to know that 70% of American children grow up without their father living in the home with them—and it's been that way since the early '90's. This has had a catastrophic impact on children, leading to poverty, violence, poor performance in school and a host of other tragic consequences.

Fathers, and the masculine energy in general, are critically important to the family and the culture at large. So, in this episode, Roy discusses how and why fatherhood and masculinity have taken such a beating in our cultural dis...