The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

Ever wonder if your marriage can be fixed and repaired… or if it's too late? You’re not alone. The great news is... it's never too late, and repairing your marriage is much easier than you think by implementing the right tools and strategies. 

Tons of couples, and even just the spouses reach out to us asking how to repair and improve their relationships. That’s why we brought in Austin Ellis, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, to provide "the gold" on how to mend a relationship, even if you’re the only one trying.

Nick is f...

Is curiosity the ultimate love language? On this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy dive deep into the power of staying curious in marriage, and why it might just be the key to emotional and sexual connection that lasts a lifetime.

When you remain curious about your spouse, you notice the qualities that first drew you together, and you keep discovering new ones even if you've been married for a long time like we have. Curiosity and genuine interest prevents emotional stagnation and keeps intimacy alive.

Nick and Amy share practical ways...

Nick is flying solo in this episode and dives deep with Austin Ellis, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, into what it truly means, and more importantly how to become a better man, husband, and father. This conversation is packed with insights every man and can apply. This is also a great episode for the wife to listen to as well.

Austin shares actionable advice and thought-provoking perspectives that will challenge and inspire you.

This is a roadmap to building stronger bonds, deeper intimacy, and a more fulfilled life.

If you...

We talk about this all the time on the Ultimate Intimacy podcast — emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy go hand in hand. You can’t expect a strong sex life if you’re not emotionally connected first.

For most people, especially many women desire doesn’t start in the bedroom. It starts with feeling heard, valued, and emotionally safe. If that connection is missing, sexual intimacy often disappears right along with it.

That’s why when couples say, “Our intimacy isn’t where we want it to be,” we usually ask them how the emotional connec...

One of the fastest ways intimacy erodes in marriage is through assumption.

We assume our spouse knows what we need.
We assume they understand how we feel.
We assume love means they should just “get it.”

But marriage doesn’t work on mind-reading as we have talked about before, it works on communication.

When we assume things, we stop asking questions. And when we stop asking questions, we stop truly knowing our spouse. Over time, those assumptions turn into unmet expectations, and unmet expectations almost always lead to frustration, resent...

In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy break down how couples can stop “trying harder” and start creating real, lasting change in their marriage and good marriage goals couples should set for 2026 to help them find Ultimate Intimacy in their relationship.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and revi...

In many marriages, the higher-desire spouse ends up being the one who always initiates sex. Over time, that dynamic can leave the lower desire spouse feeling pressured, and the higher-desire spouse feeling unwanted or unseen.

But here’s the truth: when the lower-desire spouse initiates, it can be incredibly powerful. It communicates love, desire, safety, and “you matter to me” in a way words alone never could.

In this episode, Amy and Nick dive into 12 fun, flirty, and confidence-boosting ways the lower-desire spouse can initiate sex with a higher-desire spouse. They also share why se...

In most marriages (whether done intentionally or unintentionally), the lower desire spouse typically has complete control and say so when it comes to sex. They determine "if" a couple is going to have sex, "when" they are going to have sex, and everything related to sex in the relationship. 

Many husbands have expressed to us that they are the higher desire spouse and are scared to initiate sex with their wife for fear of rejection, having it cause an argument or conflict, and many other reasons. Because of this, and the fact that most women have a r...

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we (Nick and Amy) sit down with world-renowned author and counselor Dr. Gary Chapman, best known for The 5 Love Languages. With over 20 million copies sold and translations in more than 50 languages, Dr. Chapman has helped millions of couples transform their relationships.

We talk with Gary about why it’s so vital to know and speak each other’s love languages, how to keep your spouse's “love tank” full, and why listening to understand, not just to respond, can transform your marriage. He also...

Even the strongest couples can fall into trap of making "common" mistakes that can slowly erode connection and intimacy. These mistakes often happen when we get complacent and think things are going well. 

In this episode, Nick and Amy share the top mistakes couples make, and the practical steps they used to rebuild trust and strengthen their own marriage. Whether you’re newly married or have been together for decades, this episode is packed with insights, stories, and actionable advice to help you grow closer and keep your relationship thriving.

If you haven't already, go che...

How often do you tell yourself, or hear from your spouse the phrase "I will try harder" and things never seem to get better? Things don't get better just by trying... you have to have a game plan and start doing.

In this very impactful episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we interview Nate Whitson where he reveals how to finally stop "trying" and actually start "doing" when it comes to breaking bad habits in your marriage, or in your personal life. He share the 4 things you can start doing that actually work!

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Is your daily life starting to feel like a copy-paste loop? Wake up, work, errands, dishes, Netflix, sleep and repeat? Feeling like the movie ground hog day? Do you feel bored in your life and marriage. You’re not alone, MANY couples feel this exact same way. 

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into a wonderfully practical and hope-filled conversation based on a fantastic blog article written by our good friend Nate Klemp, co-author of The 80/80 Marriage.

Whether you’re juggling kids, jobs, carpools, and clutter… or you’re...

Are you unknowingly putting your marriage on hold while you pour everything into parenting? In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy break down the 7 signs that your kids may be taking priority over your relationship.

Are your decisions centered around your kids’ schedules and activities?
Do date nights rarely happen because you’re “too busy”?
Do you feel guilty spending time alone together even though it hardly ever happens?
Is there no time or energy left for your spouse at the end of the day?

You’re...

We have discussed in previous episodes the impact social media and our addictions to our screens is having on our marriages and relationships. In this episode, Nick and Amy interview Nate Klemp who is in the process of writing a new book titled "OPEN: Finding Freedom in a Screen Addicted and Divided World" which was released in 2024. We discuss many of the damaging effects our screens are causing to our marriages and to society. If you want to get a copy of this book, you can find it on the app under products. 

Some of t...

DESIRE DECEMBER is here and this is exactly what your marriage needs. I don't know what kind of write up to do to explain what this episode is.. so you will just have to listen to the podcast episode to find out :)

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find "Ultimate Intimacy" in your marriage. It's FREE to download and so much fun! Find out why close to 1M people have downloaded the app and give it such high ratings and reviews!

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Do you find yourself getting jealous because your spouse gives more attention to the kids, their phone, or even the dogs? Does everything else seem to take priority over your marriage? Or are you feeling jealousy due to some of the things that your spouse does?

Jealousy in marriage is more common than we admit, and it can quietly erode even the strongest relationships. Jealousy causes resentment and frustration which can continue to grow.

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we explore the complex emotions that arise when your spouse seems to give...

Ever wonder why you and your spouse feel distant by the end of the day? It might have nothing to do with big issues and everything to do with your evening and bedtime routine.

 In this episode, we share some very simple things that our audience shared from our Instagram survey, like spending 30 minutes talking, putting phones away at 8, cuddling, or praying together, small habits that can be marriage changing.

These intentional moments help you connect emotionally, spark intimacy, and end the day feeling close rather than distant. It doesn’t take hours, just consistent, mea...

A video of ours recently went viral showing husbands sitting in their cars after work, and it sparked a huge conversation, why do some men need these few minutes before coming inside? Sometimes home can feel heavier than work, and that moment in the car gives a pause to transition from stress to family life. 

In this episode, we dive into how wives, and husbands, can create a peaceful, positive home environment that encourages connection, calm, and intimacy. We also discuss how the opposite, tension, chaos, or negativity, can make that pause even longer or more stressful.

In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we’re diving into a topic we honestly never expected to cover, but It’s one of the most vulnerable, painful, and confusing issues couples face, yet it’s far more common than most people realize.

Over the past year, we’ve received countless messages from both husbands and wives who feel distressed, ashamed, or completely lost because their attraction toward their spouse has changed, or they say they aren't attracted to them anymore and don't know what to do.

Because so many of you h...

In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy sit down with Kevin Johnson for an open and relatable conversation about anxiety, a topic that touches nearly everyone in one form or another. Anxiety is a normal function of life, and it shows up differently for each of us. It might surface when we’re speaking in front of a crowd, navigating unfamiliar places, facing personal pressures, or simply trying to keep up with life. For some people, it’s a manageable background hum; for others, it can feel overwhelming, even paralyzing. 

Kev...

In this eye-opening episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy have an amazing interview with an expert discussing perimenopause and menopause—a stage that will affect over 1 billion women worldwide in the coming years. Did you know that around 47 million women enter menopause every year, yet many feel unprepared for the changes in their bodies, hormones, and intimate relationships?

Nick and Amy and their guest Jesse dive into the physical, emotional, and relational shifts that come with this life stage, sharing expert insights, experiences, and practical tips for maintaining connection, desire, an...

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Amy and Nick turn the tables to talk about what wives really want in the bedroom, and it’s probably not just what you think. Drawing from listener feedback, polls, and real conversations, we uncover the deeper desires that make intimacy meaningful for women.

Join us for an open, encouraging, and funny discussion that might just change the way you think about connection in your marriage.

If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to...

In this candid episode, Amy and Nick share 5 things about each other that you probably didn't know about them, before diving into the “other” things that husbands secretly crave in the bedroom .. and no, it’s not what you might think! Based on polls, real listener feedback, and honest conversations, we’re unpacking the other desires that often go unspoken.

From deeper connection and affirmation to playfulness, curiosity, and feeling pursued,  this episode goes beyond the physical to explore what truly makes intimacy fulfilling for men.

Tune in as we share insights, laughs, and a few...

In this episode, Nick and Amy discuss the things that should just be "normal" in a healthy marriage. That doesn't mean we are all doing them, but we should be! Whether your relationship is thriving or you feel like roommates just trying to survive, this conversation will help you understand what strong couples do differently, and how to apply it in your own marriage starting today.

Nick & Amy break down the pillars that every healthy marriage needs in their opinion:

In life, none of us are perfect, we stumble, fall short, and make mistakes. As Christians (Nick and Amy), we believe in the incredible gift of grace through Jesus Christ, who forgives us despite our flaws. But when it comes to our marriages, are we offering that same grace to our spouse? Or are we holding onto disappointments, expecting perfection, and being too hard on offering grace to not only ourselves, but also the one we love most? 

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into the power of grace in marriage and why i...

In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy uncover the hidden “superpowers” we all wish our spouses had! Not talking about flying or X-ray vision... although we would also love that.

Amy recently ran a poll asking husbands and wives what superpowers they secretly wish their spouse could wield in marriage, and the results spot on!

Curious what your spouse secretly wishes for in your marriage? Tune in and find out, you might discover a few superpowers you didn’t even know you had, or should obtain!

If you haven't alread...

Are you tired of arguments that spiral out of control, or do you find yourself having the same arguments over and over again? Do you wish there was a better way to navigate conflict in your marriage without resentment, frustration, or toxicity? In this episode of The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, Nick and Amy share the transformative advice they wish they had known earlier in their own marriage with insights that can change the way you have conflict/disagreements, communicate, and reconnect with your spouse.

This episode will give you ideas and tools to fight fair, deepen your...

In our last episode, we sat down with Monica Tanner to explore the bad marriage advice many of us have been given, advice that can quietly undermine even the strongest relationships. This week, Nick and Amy dive deeper into the topic in The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, sharing more examples of the misguided guidance that couples often hear and the real impact it can have on a marriage.

Tune in as Nick and Amy break down the myths, the mistakes, and the bad advice we’ve all encountered, so you can build a stronger, more authentic connection with yo...

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive deep into the often overlooked and sometimes misguided world of marriage advice with Monica Tanner, the brilliant mind behind the eye-opening new book, Bad Marriage Advice. Monica pulls back the curtain on the most common pieces of advice we’ve all heard, and sometimes blindly followed, and she explains why these “tips” could actually be hurting your marriage.

We explore the advice we think is helpful but is secretly harmful, the myths that keep couples stuck in cycles of frustration, and the surprising truths...

Have you ever felt like you and your spouse speak completely different love languages? Maybe you crave words of affirmation while they’re all about acts of service. Or perhaps your need for physical touch feels invisible while they’re busy showing love in ways that don’t resonate with you.

In this episode, we dive deep into the reality of opposite love languages in marriage, why they happen, why they can feel frustrating, and most importantly, how they can become a powerful opportunity for emotional and sexual intimacy.

We share real-life examples from our own ma...

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, we dive into a fun and eye-opening discussion: what counts as bare minimum in marriage, and what truly deserves princess or prince treatment?

We go through real-life examples, giving flowers, planning surprise date nights, foot rubs, sending appreciation texts, initiating intimacy, cooking meals just because, and more, and ask each other whether each action is bare minimum or truly going above and beyond. You might be shocked by our answers!

This episode isn’t just about fun hypotheticals. It’s a wake-up call...