Kingdom Sexuality
Kingdom Sexuality is the Christian sex podcast for married couples who want a thriving, God-honoring sex life. We’re Alana, Kyle, and Tiera — three friends tackling the questions the church forgot to answer. Through interviews, “sex-timonies,” listener Q&As, and real talk from our own marriages, we’re here to help you grow a fulfilling, passionate, and deeply connected sex life.Kingdom Sexuality. The Christian sex podcast that goes where the church won’t. Because yes, Christians can talk about sex too!
307: What Your Spouse Really Needs Before Sex Happens
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The biggest thing sabotaging your marriage is not a lack of communication, it’s what happens when your spouse’s heart doesn’t feel safe. Josh Straub breaks down why emotional safety matters for deeper intimacy, and shares a simple daily practice couples can try to start moving closer to each other!
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In this Q&A episode, the KS Team chats through why a wife may not orgasm from intercourse, how to think about toys in marriage, how to respond when friends think swinging is acceptable, and so much more!
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305: Questions You’re Too Afraid to Ask About Sex
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Tune into this Q&A episode as the KS Team talks candidly about sex when you are exhausted, building "pounding" stamina, navigating postpartum sex drive changes, and how to have deep conversations if your spouse has a hard time with them.
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Out Of Sync Audio...304: Q&A! When Sex Isn’t Going the Way You Expected
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Ending off the summer with a few Q&A's the KS team tackles YOUR questions! They chat through painful sex, collaborating when one of you wants change in the bedroom and the other doesn't, and what to do when sex doesn't really feel good. You won't want to miss this series!
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Episode 143 - Painful...303: Ladies Q&A! When Motherhood Changes Your Sex Life
In this special ladies-only Q&A, Tiera and Alana tackle the big, awkward, real-life questions women actually ask about sex, shame, pleasure, and postpartum changes!!
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Losing the Lover in the Mother Kim & Darlene Unrau episode 292Our Products:
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302: Ladies Q&A! Moving from Purity Culture to Pleasure
This ladies-only Q&A gets practical fast. You’ll hear encouragement for retraining your brain to see sex as good, not dirty, plus what to do when arousal disappears on the pill, why penetration is not enough for orgasm, and how to stop feeling like your pleasure is a burden to your husband! Ladies, tune in!!
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Birds & Bees Episode The Higher Desire Wife Menstrual Cycle Episode Thoughts During Sex episodeOur Products:
Figuring Out What I Li...301: Extra Spicy Q&A: Spouse is Kinkier, Body Augmentation, is Reading Smut Okay?
This spicy Q&A episode gets honest about the stuff couples actually wrestle with: mutual orgasms, body image, exploring positions, and all the awkward sex questions people usually avoid. You asked, and we answered!!
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Fellatio episode Anatomy Episode Anal Sex episode part 1 Anal Sex episode part 2Our Products:
Yes No Maybe Freebie Orgasm Course WaitlistResources:
Passionista Flirtation Experiment Feeling Sexy Good Pictures Bad Pictures Christian Friendly Sex Positions website My Co...300th Episode! Sharing Your Kingdom Sexuality Testimonies
In this special 300th episode, we reflect on the years of ministry, sharing heartfelt voice memos sent in from listeners whose lives have been transformed through the power of these faith-based conversations around sex, marriage, and intimacy. To all our faithful listeners- THANK YOU!!
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Kyle's Sextimony- Episode 94 "My Husband Was Addicted To Porn" Episode 96 "The Impact of His Porn Addiction on Me" Episode 97Resources:
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299: Butt Stuff- All About Anal Sex Part 2
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Today's conversation is the continuation of last week's episode, all about anal sex and the Christian perspective. If you missed part one, go start there first, since that's where we lay the foundation. In this episode we tackle questions that you guys had around the topic of butt stuff! Tune in!
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298: Patron's Choice! Butt Stuff - All About Anal Sex Part 1
Tune in as the KS team chats about one of the most requested topics... butt stuff. In part one of this conversation (part 2 is coming next week!) the team discusses anal play and where biblical wisdom fits into the conversation. It’s a practical conversation about how couples can navigate boundaries, consent, and curiosity without losing connection.
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https://www.gotquestions.org/ My Counselor Online: You get $25 off your first month when you sign up with our link Better Help: Get 10% off your fir...297: Different Drives Q&A: Is It Reasonable To Masturbate? How To Get My Spouse To Want Sex More? How Can I Up My Drive?
Have a different drive than your spouse? Tune in as we answer follower questions around the desire gap! Whether you're the high or low desire spouse, this episode is packed with insights to help you connect and communicate better!
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Dr. Morgan Cutlip episodeOur Products:
OUT OF SYNC Audio Course! Get on the waitlist for our Orgasm Course here! Figuring Out What I Like GuideResources:
Everlywell: use that link to get 15% off!297: Different Drives Q&A: Is It Reasonable To Masturbate? How To Get My Spouse To Want Sex More? How Can I Up My Drive?
Have a different drive than your spouse? Tune in as we answer follower questions around the desire gap! Whether you're the high or low desire spouse, this episode is packed with insights to help you connect and communicate better!
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Our Episodes:
Dr. Morgan Cutlip episodeOur Products:
OUT OF SYNC Audio Course! Get on the waitlist for our Orgasm Course here! Figuring Out What I Like GuideResources:
Everlywell: use that link to g...296: Q&A! Can You Have Too Much Sex? Pushing Through Exhaustion To Connect
You asked. We answered. In this Q&A episode, nothing is off-limits- from low desire and postpartum sex to foreplay, boundaries, and the questions everyone’s Googling but not saying out loud.
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What’s Not Allowed In The BedroomResources:
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295: Q&A! Spicy Sex Positions, Where To Buy Sex Toys, & Mind Wandering During Sex
Got questions about intimacy that you’re not sure who to ask? The KS team is diving into listener-submitted questions about safe places to buy toys, initiating with more confidence, sex positions, and more!! Tune in now!
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Initiation 101 Intimacy Without IntercourseResources:
Married Dance: Use the code KINGDOMSEXUALITY for 10% off Evree: Use the code KINGDOM for 10% off! Coconu: Use the code KINGDOM for 15% off Flirtation Experiment book Mentionables: Use the code KINGDOM for 10% off294: Sex When You Have Chronic Pain with Brook & Elizabeth Mosser
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Join part two of our conversation with Brooke and Elizabeth Moser as they candidly explore the challenges of marriage intertwined with chronic pain, intimacy, and faith. If you haven't listened to part one- go do that first!
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293: Sex When You Have Special Needs Kids & Tough Seasons Of Life with Brook & Elizabeth Mosser
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In this episode, Brooke and Elizabeth Moser open up about their journey through chronic pain and their children's diagnoses, revealing how these challenges reshaped their marriage and faith. Don't miss this raw and inspiring look at how love and faith can endure through life's toughest trials.
292: The Surprising Power Fathers Have to Shape Their Kids’ Views on Sex with Kim and Darlene Unrau
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In part two of our chat with Kim and Darlene, they dive into the transformative power of faith and connection in marriage. They explore the intriguing "two brains" theory, the role of fathers in shaping their children's views on love, and how aging can positively influence attraction. Don't miss it...
291: What Every Father Needs to Hear with Kim and Darlene Unrau
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We’re joined by Kim and Darlene Unrau to talk about emotional connection, healing, and what really helps marriages feel close again. We chat Father’s Day, emotional orphancy, how Jesus meets our unmet needs, and they share simple, practical tools to help couples build deeper emotional intimacy.
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290: Patron's Choice! Quickie Sex
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Quickies get a bad rap, but they might be exactly what your marriage needs in busy seasons. In this episode, we talk about when quickie sex works, when it doesn’t, and how to make it connecting instead of rushed. If you’ve got kids, jobs, and about five...
289: Having A Confident Wedding Night
Getting married is an exciting milestone, but the wedding night often comes with a mix of anticipation and uncertainty! From managing expectations to embracing those awkward moments, this episode will help guide you through making your special night unforgettable.
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...288: Patron's Choice! How To Say What You Like In Bed
Want better sex but don’t know how to say what you like? This episode breaks down how couples can communicate sexual preferences with kindness and confidence. Not sure what you like in the bedroom? Don't worry- we cover that too!
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Introduction and Welcome - 0:00
Episode Overview - 0:20
Verse of the Day - 0:45
Sponsor Break - 1:13
Why We Don't Talk About Preferences - 1:38
Purity Culture...
287: The Sex Talk You Never Got with Sam Jolman
What if your sexuality was meant to be approached with awe instead of fear? In this episode, Kyle and Tiera chat with Sam Jolman about shame, the difference between arousal and desire, and how reclaiming sensuality as sacred can lead to healing, and freedom!
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286: Losing The Lover In The Mother
Ever feel like you love your kids and your marriage, but you’re exhausted and wondering where you went? In this episode, we talk honestly about the tension between motherhood, marriage, and identity, and how to get back into "lover" mode.
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Is The Mental Load Killing Your Sex Life? With Dr. Morgan CutlipOur Products:
Her Turn Sex Challenge After Hours: Parents Edition Sex ChallengeResources:
A Better Share285: Patron's Choice! Sexual Dreams: Why Do They Happen and What About Wet Dreams?
Ever woken up from a sexual dream and thought, “What does this mean??and should I be worried?” Tune in as the KS team unpacks why sexual dreams happen, what they do (and don’t) say about your heart, marriage, and faith.
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Erin Walsh episode 256Resources:
BetterHelp Counseling My Counselor OnlineApproximate Timestamps:
Introduction and Episode Overview - 0:00
Verse of the Day - 0:38
Discussion on Sex Dreams ...
284: "Help! Our Sex Drives Are Different!"
Tune in as Alana, Kyle, and Tiera tackle the incredibly common topic of mismatched libido- having a different sex drive than your spouse! Whether you're the higher or lower drive spouse, you'll learn how to start the open communication to create a thriving sex life.
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Get on the Mismatched Libido Audio Course waitlist HERE! Email us to get on the Finishing Well Orgasm Course waitlist!! kingdomsexuality@gmail.com Come...283: Q&A! Screen-Obsessed Spouse, Oral Sex, Period Sex, Dry Seasons, & More!
Orgasm help, screen-obsessed husbands, dry seasons, and everything in between- nothing is off-limits in this Q&A episode! Alana, Kyle, and Tiera answer real questions from Christian couples about mismatched libidos, period sex, how to talk about sex with friends, oral sex, and more!
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Getting out of a slump Period Sex episode Landon Hairgrove’s episode Joey Odom’s episode Oral Sex: with Anatomy of Us ORAL SEX: Cunnilingus ORAL SEX: FellatioOur Products:
Yes No Mayb...282: Secrets Will Destroy Your Marriage & Why It's Time To Talk To Your Kids About Porn with Greta and Aaron Eskridge
Tune in as Greta and Aaron Eskridge share their journey from pain and betrayal to renewal and hope!! Their story emphasizes the importance of honesty and community in overcoming difficult seasons, especially around topics like pornography and marriage. Don't miss it!
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281: When He Finishes Too Fast: A Shame-Free Conversation
Struggling to last as long as you'd like to? In this episode, Kyle walks us through practical techniques and emotional shifts that help sex feel more connected, enjoyable, and unhurried. If performance anxiety has been stealing your joy, this conversation is for you!
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Mindfulness with Dr. Lori BrottoResources:
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...280: How To Have Great Sex During Perimenopause & Menopause
Let’s talk menopause and perimenopause- and the things no one warned us about. Tiera does a beautiful job of unpacking the physical and emotional shifts women experience, how it can impact sex, and what’s actually helpful in this season. We want to help you feel equipped and encouraged as you enter this time of life!
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Mindfulness with Dr. Lori BrottoResources:
Evree Lube: Use the code KINGDOM for 10% off! Coconu Lube: Use the code KING...279: Q&A: Morning Erections, My Wife's Body Hair, & Do Pillows Improve Sex?
Tune in as the KS team tackle real questions straight from IG followers- everything from body hair preferences and pursuing your spouse, to what’s actually going on with things like morning erections. Don't miss it!
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Level Up Your Sex Life Add A Little Bit Of Spice episode Setting Up Your Future Marriage For Success Dispelling Wedding Night Fears Breaking Down Newlywed Barriers Birth Control episode Foreplay episode Lindsey Maestas episodeOur Products:
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Ever feel like you’re carrying the invisible to-do list for your entire household? Tune in as Dr. Morgan Cutlip joins us to unpack the mental load in marriage- why it causes so much tension and how couples can start sharing it better to make sex great again!
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...277: Sex Saved Our Marriage with Lindsey Maestas
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Tune in as Lindsey Maestas opens up about her journey through the ups and downs of marriage, sharing real-life tips on how to reconnect with your spouse and keep the spark alive. Lindsey's insights are super practical, so whether you're looking to strengthen your relationship or just need a little encouragement, this conversation is for you!
276: Patron's Choice! Sex When You're Mad At Each Other
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Can having sex when you're in the middle of a disagreement be a helpful tool...? Is "make-up sex" actually better than normal sex? Tune in as the KS team explores how heart posture affects intimacy a...
275: Be The Husband God Calls You To Be with Landon Hairgrove
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Tune in as Landon Hairgrove shares his personal journey of healing from trauma, balancing leadership in church planting, and intentionally leading his family. He shares practical advice on nurturing emotional health, fostering deep relationships as men, and becoming the man God has called you to be!
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Use the code KINGDOM15 and g...274: Sex, Generational Sin, and Breaking the Cycle in Your Family’s Legacy with Brook Mosser
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In this episode, we explore how generational patterns and wounds impact our understanding of sexuality, marriage, and family life. Brook Mosser shares insightful perspectives on recognizing these cycles, involving God in the healing...
273: Christians Are Missing God's Design for Sex, Food, and Rest with Justin Whitmel Earley
Unlock the secret to growth with Justin Whitmel Earley as he reveals how everyday physical practices like breathing and eating can transform your spiritual life! Dive into this episode to discover how your body can teach your soul, leading to a life full of gratitude and joy.
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Friendship, Sex, and the Way of Jesus with Justin Whitmel Earley Does More Sleep = More Sex?Our Products:
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Habits of The...272: The Love Language That Matters Most with Dr. Gary Chapman
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Join us for an enlightening episode with Dr. Gary Chapman as we explore the profound impact of the Five Love Languages on relationships worldwide. Discover how personalizing how you love on your spouse can transform your connection, and why his latest book is s...
271: Have A Naked Marriage with Dave & Ashley Willis
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In this episode, Dave and Ashley Willis join the KS team to discuss the importance of prioritizing marriage during the many seasons of life. They share insights on maintaining intimacy, debunk myths about marriage, and so much more. Want a marriage that is naked in every way? Tune in!
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In this episode, we dive into a heartfelt discussion with Bryan and Bonnie Pue about the intersection of faith, sexuality, and relationships. They explore the theology of sex, the impact of cultural narratives, and practical ways to live out the gospel in everyday life. You won't want to miss it!
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269: Some BIG NEWS, Our Favorite Episodes of the Year, & Setting Up A Successful Marriage This Year!
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Join us as we kick off the new year with a casual and light-hearted chat about our favorite moments from the past year and exciting plans for the future! We dive into our marriage resolution guide, share personal highlights, and reflect on the growth of our podcast. Don't a special offer to the listeners + some secret news about what's coming in 2026!
