Parenting Today's Teens

Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur discuss how parents can wisely talk about politics with their teens. They emphasize that while politics can be divisive, parents shouldn’t avoid the topic — teens need guidance to think critically and biblically rather than absorb culture’s extremes. Parents should model respectful dialogue, listen more than lecture and allow their teens to process differing views without fear of rejection. The goal isn’t to control their beliefs but to keep relationships strong and create space for open, grace-filled conversations.

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Today, Mark Gregston explains that parents must look beyond their teen’s behavior to understand the deeper heart issues driving it. Drawing from Proverbs 3:21–24, and a moving story about a past Heartlight student, he illustrates that a child’s anger or rebellion often masks pain, loss, or a longing for love and value. He reminds parents that all behavior — good or bad — is the visible expression of invisible struggles. True connection happens when parents respond with wisdom, empathy and grace, addressing the heart rather than merely correcting the behavior.

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Every troubled teen has a story that goes much deeper than their behavior shows. Behind acting out, running away, or self-destruction, there's often a world of private pain and confusion. Today, Mark Gregston sits down with two teens from Heartlight whose journeys reveal how struggles like addiction, grief and low self-worth can drive choices that seem shocking to outsiders. For one young lady, a long battle with eating disorders and drug use hid her feelings of worthlessness. Tune in for honest, hopeful stories about facing pain head-on and starting over — one step at a time.

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Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney Lafleur discuss how many parents lose their personal identity by becoming overly consumed with their children’s lives. While involvement is vital, Mark emphasizes that parents must maintain balance — nurturing their marriage, friendships and personal interests so their sense of purpose isn’t tied solely to parenting. They remind us that when a parent’s entire focus revolves around their kids, it can create pressure for teens and strain the family dynamic as children get older. Mark encourages moms and dads to pursue hobbies, friendships and “me time” to protect their mental, emotional and relation...

In this episode, Mark Gregston draws on over three decades of experience to tackle the questions parents are most desperate to have answered. From navigating trust issues after years of monitoring a teen’s tech usage to finding healthy ways to motivate an unenthusiastic senior, Mark offers down-to-earth advice rooted in real-life stories. Whether you’re dealing with curfew battles, shifting relationships or a teen stretching toward adulthood, this episode is full of practical tips to help deepen your relationship with your teen. 

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Sexual abuse leaves deep scars that affect a teen’s safety, relationships and self-worth. In this episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd share both personal and ministry experiences, emphasizing how abuse creates lasting feelings of loss, shame and confusion. Parents are urged to respond without blame or anger, instead creating a safe environment where their child feels valued and heard, while seeking professional help when needed. Ultimately, healing comes through compassion, support and trusting God to create good out of brokenness.

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Today, Mark Gregston reflects on Matthew 11:28–30, emphasizing the need for homes — especially grandparents’ homes — to be places of rest and refuge for weary teens. He contrasts lifeless or overly rigid environments with welcoming spaces where kids feel safe, accepted and free to be imperfect. Mark encourages grandparents to design a warm setting, create a positive atmosphere, establish clear but loving rules and foster open conversations. By doing so, they can provide their grandchildren with a sanctuary of love, laughter, and grace that refreshes both body and soul.

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So much changes when teens and parents start talking — and really listening — to each other. In today’s episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight students who open up about the struggles that kept them silent and the pain that came from not feeling heard at home. Both share how a lack of open communication fueled their anxiety, rebellion and sense of isolation. Now, through counseling and new experiences, they're learning the value of honest conversations in healing relationships and rebuilding trust.

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Divorce deeply impacts teens, often leaving them with feelings of abandonment, loss, guilt and confusion. Mark Gregston explains that many teens internalize divorce, believing they were the cause or feeling like life will never return to normal. These unresolved emotions can manifest in isolation, grief and strained relationships. Parents can help their teens heal by spending intentional time with them, affirming their love, listening without judgment, avoiding blame and working cooperatively with their ex to provide consistency and stability.

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In today's Q&A episode, Mark addresses heartfelt questions from parents and grandparents facing the everyday struggles and big transitions that come with raising teens. From navigating financial support for adult children choosing different paths, to dealing with rebellious behavior, loss and the complexities of blended families, Mark offers seasoned advice grounded in empathy and real-world experience. Whether you're wrestling with house rules or grappling with grief, this candid episode is packed with insight for every parent walking through changing seasons with their teen.

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Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss the importance of preparing your children for adulthood before they reach their late teens. Parents should gradually give their children responsibility — encouraging jobs, decision-making and independence — so they don’t become dependent adults living at home without purpose. Mark warns that too much provision can quickly turn into enabling if parents continue to do everything for their kids, which keeps them from developing life skills. Instead, parents must set expectations, create boundaries and guide their teens toward maturity so they are ready to thrive on their own.

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Listen in as Mark Gregston shares a personal story and scripture to illustrate the importance of perspective. While he complained about having the worst seats in the house at a concert, his granddaughter reminded him they were actually the best because you could see everything. He connects this lesson to parenting, emphasizing that many teens today lack perspective and rely more on peers than parents. Mark encourages parents to engage relationally, understand their teen’s world and offer wisdom that gives the “big picture” rather than just criticism — helping kids navigate life with clarity and hope.

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Running away isn’t just about escaping home — it’s often a sign of deeper issues beneath the surface. In today’s episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight teens who share what led them to leave home and the pain that fueled their choices. Through candid conversations, both young ladies reveal the impact of unstable family dynamics, the pain of isolation and the courage it takes to face their struggles head-on. Listen in as we unpack what’s really going on when teens run away — and how caring adults can help them find their way back.

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Join us today as Mark Gregston, Wayne Shepherd and Courtney LeFleur explore whether dating is right for teens. The three discuss how dating can provide valuable opportunities for teens to learn social skills, understand the opposite sex and begin shaping their ideas about future relationships. While parents often worry about issues like trust, influence and premature sexual involvement, the hosts emphasize the importance of staying connected, setting healthy boundaries and guiding conversations without shaming the natural desire to date. Ultimately, they encourage parents to see dating as a normal part of growing up and to use it as an...

In today's episode, Mark tackles some more of the toughest questions that parents are facing in today’s world. From navigating strict parenting styles and the ongoing battle over technology, to addressing issues of identity, sexuality and peer bullying, Mark offers practical advice rooted in decades of experience working with teens and their families. He also shares insights on setting boundaries around phone use, responding to substance use and handling conflicts that can arise between parents when it comes to disciplining their kids. Check it out!

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Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd explore why listening is one of the most powerful tools parents can use with their teens. Teens don’t always need more lectures — they need safe spaces where their voices matter. When parents ask questions, stop correcting and truly listen, teens feel valued and are more willing to open up. This atmosphere of understanding not only strengthens the relationship, but also builds a foundation of lifelong trust and influence.

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Mark Gregston shares the most effective way to influence a teen — by spending intentional, consistent time together. He encourages parents to set aside weekly one-on-one moments starting around age 13 to build trust and open communication before conflict arises. These times should focus on listening, creating a safe space and being authentic, not lecturing or correcting. Over time, these consistent connections lay the foundation for deeper conversations and lasting influence during the turbulent adolescent years.

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Every teen faces pressures, but some feel compelled to hide behind a mask — covering up pain or anxiety with risky behaviors or a perfect facade. On today’s episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight teens whose struggles took them down very different paths, but revealed their deep need for acceptance and authentic connection. For Santana, it was tough to take off his "mask." Despite always presenting a friendly face, he struggles with bottling emotions and the fear that being vulnerable — even with his parents — would mean losing their love. Now, he reflects on the power of unconditional love and the...

Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd explore how parents can guide teens away from foolish choices and toward wisdom. Teens often repeat negative behavior when the pleasure outweighs the pain, so parents must set consequences strong enough to spark change. But it’s not just about stopping foolishness — teens also need positive direction and opportunities to grow. When parents help their kids see the rewards of wise choices, they equip them for adulthood with responsibility, respect and maturity.

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In this episode, Mark Gregston takes on some of the most pressing and sensitive questions parents face in their journey with teens. From handling a daughter's unexpected relationship choices to supporting adopted children with behavioral challenges, Mark offers practical advice grounded in wisdom, empathy and experience. Listeners will find guidance on balancing discipline with understanding, opening lines of communication about difficult topics, and — most importantly — loving their teens unconditionally through every struggle. Tune in now!

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Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss why it’s essential for parents to live out their core beliefs while raising teens. Parents need to know which values are nonnegotiable and hold firm, while also allowing flexibility as their children grow and form their own perspectives. Conflict is inevitable, but it can lead to meaningful dialogue and deeper understanding when handled well. The key is moving from lectures to conversations, listening carefully, and discerning when to bend and when to stand strong.

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Today, Mark highlights the danger of perfectionism in ministry, parenting and life. He shares how early experiences working under a demanding pastor led to burnout, a strained marriage and the constant pressure to perform. He connects that same perfectionist mindset to parenting, where children often misinterpret well-intentioned encouragement as criticism or impossible standards. He reminds us that parents aren’t God — our kids need authenticity, grace and relationships built on love rather than demands for perfection.

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Behind every rebellious act or risky decision, there’s often a story of shame that teenagers carry alone. Shame can trap teens in a cycle — fueling destructive behaviors and pushing them further from the people who love them most. In today’s episode, Mark welcomes two young men from Heartlight, who bravely open up about what drove them to self-medicate, rebel and run from home. Through honest reflection and support, both of them are learning to embrace their imperfections and rebuild trust with their families.

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Today, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss a difficult but very important topic: teen suicide. Mark emphasizes that parents must pay close attention and listen more than judge, watching for sudden withdrawal, changes in sleep/eating, talk of hopelessness or social posts that sound like a cry for help, as these behaviors must be taken seriously. Teens need safe chances to speak honestly and should be encouraged to reach out rather than hide pain. Mark offers parents practical ways to intervene immediately when warning signs appear and encourages ongoing communication and regular check-ins to build trust and strengthen the...

In this episode, Mark Gregston dives into some of the most pressing questions parents and grandparents are facing with their teens today. Drawing from decades of experience, he addresses critical topics like suicide prevention, maintaining respectful relationships with teens, and setting healthy boundaries during dating and social situations. Mark also shares personal reflections on grandparenting, the importance of healing from our own pasts and how to foster open, genuine communication with teens. With practical advice and real-life stories, this episode equips listeners with wisdom and encouragement for building deeper, healthier relationships with the teens in their lives. Listen now!<...

Mark Gregston joins Wayne Shepherd to discuss the dangers of teen substance abuse and how parents can respond. Mark emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries, seeking counseling and keeping teens engaged in healthy activities — while also allowing natural consequences to take their course. Most of all, he reminds parents to continue showing love through the struggle, offering support when it’s needed most, even when it’s hardest to give.

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Today's devotional on 2 Peter 1:12 emphasizes that the foundation of parenting is listening and maintaining strong relationships with your children. Mark Gregston reminds us that life is short, and embracing its brevity helps us focus on what truly matters — our impact on those closest to us. True legacy is not found in achievements or recognition, but in the love, influence, and wisdom passed down to children and grandchildren. Even when kids make poor choices or hold different beliefs, maintaining a relationship and unconditional love gives parents the chance to guide and shape their hearts.

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Every family faces seasons where connection feels out of reach, especially with teens wrestling for independence or struggling to find where they belong. In this episode, Mark sits down with a couple of Heartlight residents who open up about the challenges behind their conflicts at home. Sixteen-year-old Joey shares how his adoption and early family experiences left him questioning his place, often pushing others away even as he longed for connection. Both teens reflect on the importance of breaking down walls — whether built by hurt or by habit — to find healing with their families.

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Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd highlight the steep rise in teen depression and suicide, with more than a third of teens reporting persistent sadness. They note depression can be hard to spot and may show up as isolation, sudden changes in sleep/eating or school, risky behavior, substance use or self-harm. Parents should make steady, deeper conversations a priority, take any talk of dying seriously, and involve medical and counseling support when needed. Bottom line: Trust your gut, intervene early, and keep teens engaged in care with clear boundaries and compassionate support.

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In this episode, Mark Gregston tackles complex questions that listeners have been asking about their teens. He offers practical wisdom — rooted in empathy and real-world experience — on everything from setting boundaries around teen dating and managing entitlement or technology use, to addressing self-harm, family conflicts and challenging ideological phases. Mark also discusses the importance of open communication, self-reflection and pursuing relationship over control, while exploring the emotions that often drive parenting responses. Whether you’re a parent, grandparent or caregiver, this episode offers hope and actionable advice for building stronger, more connected relationships with the teens in your life.

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Few fears are greater for parents than a teen who runs away. In this episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss why teens take this step — what they might be running from or toward — and how parents can respond with love, grace and open conversation. They also share how reunions can become moments to rebuild trust, listen without judgment and create a home where teens feel safe and valued.

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Today, we join Mark Gregston for a devotional drawing from James 1:19. Parents and teens both experience anger when their desires clash, but unchecked anger damages relationships. He explains that anger often signals deeper issues, like a teen’s longing for control, acceptance or attention, rather than just surface-level conflicts over curfews or clothing. He encourages parents to step back, observe what’s really driving their child’s frustration, and respond with calmness and curiosity instead of control or shame. Focus on their heart — rather than just their behavior.

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It’s not uncommon for today’s teens to feel lost — drifting through life without a sense of purpose or direction. In this episode, Mark sits down with two Heartlight residents who both share how a lack of motivation and connection led them into trouble. Fifteen-year-old Peter opens up about struggles with motivation, trust issues after his parents’ divorce, and how falling in with the wrong crowd led to depression and substance use. He’s honest about what it feels like not to have life “figured out” — a feeling so many teens quietly carry. 

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Join Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd as they discuss the importance of teaching teens financial responsibility. They note that far fewer teens work today compared to past generations, which can lead to entitlement and a lack of financial management skills. Parents often enable dependency by providing too much, when instead they should gradually reduce financial support and encourage work, saving, giving and wise spending. Helping teens manage money early not only prepares them for adulthood but can also prevent future struggles in marriage and life.

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In today’s episode, Mark Gregston tackles questions from parents on motivating teens who are losing steam before graduation and supporting neurodivergent kids struggling with screen time. He also shares insights on staying connected with teens making tough choices and finding hope in the midst of family crises. Whether you’re feeling lost, frustrated or simply in need of fresh perspective, Mark offers guidance on shifting from control to connection, creating safe spaces for honest conversations and focusing on relationship over behavior. Tune in for encouragement, real talk and actionable advice to help you connect more deeply with your teen...

In this episode, Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss how sibling rivalry is a common challenge, fueled by differences in personality, comparisons, unequal attention and the push for independence. While conflict is normal, it becomes destructive when parents compare children, show favoritism, or allow anger and criticism to go unchecked. The key is for parents to guide arguments toward resolution, ensure each child feels valued and invest time.

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Parenting is about far more than discipline, survival or raising kids toward independence — it is ultimately rooted in relationship. When parents invest time and care into building genuine connections, small issues are more easily resolved, wisdom is received and children feel valued. Rules, achievements and clean rooms matter less than showing up consistently with love, empathy and presence. Strong relationships with children and grandchildren leave a lasting influence, shaping their character, faith and future far more deeply than tasks or accomplishments ever could.

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The fear of rejection can shape a teen’s choices in powerful and sometimes destructive ways. In this episode, Mark Gregston talks with two young ladies from Heartlight, who share how their desire to fit in and be accepted led them down difficult paths. Whether it’s constantly changing who they are to please different people, or battling feelings of abandonment that began long before Heartlight, both young women explain how the longing to be liked and the fear of being left out fueled their struggles. Today, they're finding the courage to face their fears and embrace authenticity.

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Mark Gregston and Wayne Shepherd discuss the importance of building resilience in teens including the ability to bounce back from mistakes, setbacks and stress. Mark explains that overprotecting children can prevent them from learning how to handle conflict, disappointment and criticism, leaving them unprepared for real life. Instead, parents should gradually “loosen the reins,” allowing teens to face challenges and take responsibility. By moving from a teaching model to a training model, parents help their teens develop maturity, strength and the resilience needed to thrive in a challenging world.

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In today’s episode, Mark Gregston addresses the real-life challenges parents of teens face, including vaping, bullying, video games, emotional struggles and the balance between connection and correction. He offers practical wisdom along with thoughtful answers on privacy, technology and parenting in a constantly changing culture. Whether you’re navigating tough conversations or working to build more honesty and trust at home, this episode is packed with encouragement to strengthen your relationship with your teen. Listen now!

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