Get Your Guy Coaching Podcast
Welcome to the Get Your Guy Coaching Podcast. My name is Anwar White, but you can just call me your own personal dating and relationship coach! Each week you’ll hear actionable advice, tips, and strategies that you can implement in your own love life. I’m talking about healing your heart, dating effectively, and understanding men, so that you can, you guessed it, get your guy! Are you ready to level-up your love life?
Are You Dating From Survival Mode? Fear vs. Joy in Dating
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In this episode, I talked about the three modes of dating: survival, fear, and joy, and how the mode you’re in can shape who you choose, what you accept, and how you feel throughout the process.
If you’ve ever spiraled over a text, accepted crumbs because something felt better than nothing, or cut a man off before he could get close, this conversation is for you. We’re getting honest about what it looks like to date from scarcity or self-protection, and how to move toward curiosity, confidence, and actually having fun.
Unlearning What You Were Taught About Dating with our GYG Coach Lauren Mathues
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In this episode, I sat down with my friend and fellow GYG coach, Coach Lauren Matthews, for an honest conversation about dating, healing, and getting out of your own way. We talk about the messages many of us grew up with, especially if you were raised in the church or still carry a Christian upbringing with you, and how those messages shape the way we date. From purity culture to “just wait on God,” we get into how to rethink the way you date and why taking action matters more than waiting for love to find...
Why Can't I Get Past Date 3 with Dr. Kelly Diggs
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In this episode, I'm bringing you something special. About once a month, I’ll be taking an episode from my YouTube series, What's Your Dating Tea, and sharing it right here on the podcast. It’s your chance to get a behind-the-scenes look at what real, raw 1-on-1 dating coaching actually looks like.
Today, I sit down with one of my program graduates, Dr. Kelly, for an honest conversation about what it takes to unpack a dating stalemate when your connections keep fizzling out before date three. You'll hear exactly how we work thro...
Your Relationship with… Beauty! with Dr. Allycin Powell-Hicks
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Ally for a conversation that is equal parts healing and eye-opening, all about your relationship with beauty.
We get into the science, the bias, the blind spots, and what it's actually costing you. Plus, she leaves us with three things you can start this week.
This one is for every woman who has ever looked in the mirror through someone else's eyes.
BIO:
Dr. Allycin Powell-Hicks is a psychofuturist, mental health expert, and media personality fascinated by...
Eliminating Stress with Lisa A. Smith
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In this episode, I sit down with Lisa A. Smith for a powerful conversation about eliminating stress instead of simply learning how to manage it. We talk about chronic stress, the beliefs that can keep us stuck, how our health can influence the decisions we make, and what it takes to stop living in survival mode and start making different choices in your life and relationships.
BIO:
Lisa A. Smith, MBA, is a stress elimination strategist, transformational speaker, coach, and founder of CLARITY™, a platform dedicated to helping gifted professionals an...
Which Dating Role Are You Playing?
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In this episode, I’m breaking down the different roles women can fall into when dating and why you may find yourself performing, people-pleasing, or putting a man on a pedestal. We talk about what it really means to step into your queen energy, understand your dating role, and approach relationships from a place of power and partnership instead of seeking approval.
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Pre-Order My Book: Girl, Get Your Guy!...Doing Love Your Own Way with WeezyWTF
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In this episode, I sit down with WeezyWTF, a media entrepreneur, producer, podcaster, and New York Times bestselling author known for creating bold conversations around sex, relationships, and wellness. We have an honest conversation about doing love your way. We talk about building a relationship and marriage on your own terms, navigating an open relationship, what partnership looks like behind the scenes, and the unexpected lessons that come with choosing a love story outside the traditional mold.
BIO:
WeezyWTF is a media entrepreneur, producer, podcaster, and creative visionary known...
Your Dating Benchmark
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In this solo episode, I break down your dating benchmark: the past relationship or experience you may unknowingly be using to measure everything that comes after it. We talk about why some of your old relationship experiences can shape what you believe is possible in love, and why it may be time to create a new standard based on how you actually want to feel in a relationship. I also share a sneak peek into the conversations we have with my private clients and how shifting your benchmark can change the way you approach your...
What TF Do You Do After a Traumatic Breakup with Reesa Teesa
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In this episode, I sit down with Reesa Teesa, author of What the F Do I Do Now?, for a candid conversation about love, marriage, and what happens when the life you imagined doesn’t turn out the way you expected. We talk about the stories we grow up believing about relationships, the realities we discover along the way, and what it takes to find yourself again when life takes an unexpected turn.
This is a conversation about love, identity, and permitting yourself to write a different story.
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The Revelations of Mara Brock Akil
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In this episode, I sit down with a remarkable author for a deeply personal conversation about healing, faith, identity, and the power of storytelling. We explore how childhood experiences, shame, and generational patterns shape the way Black women experience love, relationships, and themselves. Together, we discuss the importance of reconnecting with your body, honoring your story, breaking cycles of people-pleasing, and embracing healing as the path to the life and love you truly desire. This episode is a thoughtful reflection on resilience, self-discovery, and the transformative power of owning your narrative.
A Quick Pause Before We Come Back Bigger
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This is a quick one, just me checking in so you know I didn't ghost you. I'm taking a short break from the podcast to rest and finish my book, and I'll be back in June, recharged and ready.
But while I have you, I want you to take a rest too. Whatever you've been pushing through, whatever you've been carrying: put it down for a minute. Rest is not quitting. Rest is part of the work.
I'll see you in June. 🤍
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About Womb Health with Dr. Kemi Doll
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Kemi, double board-certified gynecologic oncologist and author of A Terrible Strength: The Hidden Crisis of the Black Womb and Your Survival Guide to Healing, to talk about something we don't discuss nearly enough: Black women's womb health.
We cover how to document your symptoms, navigate medical bias, bust the biggest myths around birth control and fertility, and understand what a truly heavy period looks like because a lot of us have normalized the abnormal. This one is important. Get the book, share it with someone you...
Tactics and Tricks to Game the Dating Apps with Dr. Jennie Young
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Jennie Young, professor of rhetoric and author of Burn the Haystack, for a conversation that is going to completely change the way you think about dating apps and the men on them. We talk about recognizing toxic communication patterns early, why words matter just as much as actions, and how to protect yourself from the jump so you can actually enjoy the process.
Dr. Jennie breaks down her signature method, which flips the whole dating mindset on its head. Instead of searching for "the...
How to Be Displeasing
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In this solo episode, I break down why so many women struggle with banter in dating and what is really underneath that discomfort. We talk about common fears women have when trying to be playful with men, especially the worry about being misunderstood, coming off the wrong way, or not knowing what to say. I also share how banter can actually be one of the most powerful tools for evaluating chemistry and keeping dating light, fun, and engaging.
But the deeper conversation is about something bigger than humor. Many women have been socialized...
Creating Your Own Luck in a Negative World with Les Alfred
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In this episode, I sit down with Les Alfred for a powerful conversation about evolution, identity, and what it really takes to reinvent yourself publicly. We talk about her transition from Balanced Black Girl to She’s So Lucky, what sparked the rebrand, and how she navigated the emotional and strategic layers of stepping into a new era.
Les opens up about handling criticism, staying optimistic in the face of online noise, and protecting her vision while expanding it. This episode is about growth, courage, and giving yourself permission to outgrow old versions of...
Let's Talk About Fibroids with Dr. Mikhail
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Mikhail Higgins for an essential and eye-opening conversation about fibroids and why they show up so frequently in the lives of Black women. We talk about what fibroids are, how they often develop quietly over time, and why so many women normalize symptoms that should never be ignored.
This conversation centers on awareness, self-advocacy, and understanding your body beyond what you have been told is “normal.” Dr. Higgins brings medical clarity while also naming the lived reality of Black women navigating reproductive health. This episode is a...
Getting in Touch with Your Intuition with Natalie Miller
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In this episode, I sit down with Natalie Miller for a grounded, illuminating conversation about intuition and what it really sounds and feels like when it is coming from truth rather than fear. We explore how intuition lives in the body, why so many women feel disconnected from it, and how modern life and conditioning can blur the line between inner knowing and anxiety.
Natalie shares powerful insights on learning to recognize your own intuitive language, reconnecting with the present moment, and rebuilding trust with your body in simple, practical ways. This...
The 5 Unknown Rules of Dating Podcast
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In this episode, I break down the core mindset shifts that separate women who struggle in dating from women who consistently win. Dating is not about saying the right thing, following scripts, or performing perfectly; it’s a mental, emotional, and energetic game first. I explain why so many women play dating backward, how beliefs and self-concept shape your experiences with men, and why chasing outcomes often creates the very resistance you’re trying to avoid.
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Descaling to Level Up with Jereshia Hawk
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In this episode, I sit down with the brilliant Jereshia Hawk for a powerful conversation about what it truly means to descale your life. Jereshia, a former engineer turned business coach, opens up about her journey from burnout and self-abandonment to rediscovering her body, pleasure, and peace. We talk about her year-long sabbatical, the childhood patterns that shaped her survival mode, and how somatic work, breathwork, body awareness, stillness, and inner-child healing helped her reconnect with herself more deeply.
Ultimately, descaling your life is about coming home to yourself. Jereshia reminds us that p...
Navigating These Treacherous Professional Streets with Beverly Dines
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In this episode, I sit down with Beverly Dines for a candid and timely conversation about the current state of the corporate world, especially for Black and Brown women navigating today’s job market. We dive into the reality of mass layoffs, the pressures placed on marginalized employees.
Beverly breaks down the truth behind performance reviews, improvement plans, and how companies are shifting expectations, and offers practical strategies to help you stay ready, competitive, and aligned with your career goals.
BIO:
Beverly Dines is th...
Reading People with CC Rice
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In this episode, I sit down with CC Rice to explore what’s really happening in your brain when you’re dating, especially when deep attraction kicks in. We unpack how chemistry can blur judgment, what emotional hijacking looks like, and how to stay grounded when your feelings start to take over. CC and I also break down how to read men during dates, from their body language to emotional cues, so you can better understand both your mind and theirs.
Attraction is powerful, but awareness keeps you in control. When you understand your...
What's Cookin' Goodlookin' with Toni Chapman
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In this episode, I sit down with the culinary content creator and food expert Toni Chapman for a delicious conversation about how food and love intertwine. We talk about the role cooking plays in relationships, from expressing care to building deeper connection, and how it can even become part of your dating strategy.
We dive into:
When You Feel Like You're Running Out of Time in Love
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In this episode, I’m getting real about one of the biggest fears many women have when it comes to love, feeling like time is running out. That pressure to find “the one” by a certain age, to have the ring, the marriage, the family, it’s heavy. But here’s the truth: love isn’t on a timer.
And to help you move from anxiety to calm, I close this episode with guided breathwork exercises from Jesse Coomer, designed to help you reconnect with your body, quiet your mind, and remind yourself tha...
Cheryl and Skye's GYG Dating and Relationship Journey
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In this special episode, I sit down with two of my amazing clients, Cheryl and Skye, as they share their journey inside the Get Your Guy Coaching program. These women open up about where they started, the fears and struggles they faced, and how learning to set boundaries, banter with confidence, and flirt with ease completely transformed their dating lives.
This conversation is both inspiring and practical. If you’ve ever wondered how this program really works behind the scenes, these testimonies will show you what’s possible when you commit to yourself and...
The Man of A Single Mother
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In this episode, I open up about a powerful but often overlooked influence on men’s dating behaviors: their relationships with their mothers. These early dynamics shape the way men show up in love, connection, and partnership, and if you’ve ever been caught in confusing patterns with a man, chances are this might explain why.
This conversation is essential for any woman who wants to recognize these patterns early and learn how to respond with clarity and boundaries.
Understanding these mother-wound patterns isn’t about blaming men; it’s about empowering you with...
5 Mindsets in Dating with Coach Darcel
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In this episode, I’m with my girl Darcel, and we’re breaking down the 5 mindsets or archetypes that so many women fall into when it comes to dating: the Victim, the Sceptic, the Dreamer, the Seeker, and the Shifter. We’re unpacking what each of these looks like in real life, how they might be blocking you from love, and the shifts you can make to move closer to the mindset that will actually get you your person.
BIO
Darcel Being is a Master Certified Transf...
Shapeshifting
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In this episode, I’m taking a deep, unfiltered look at shapeshifting, not the mystical kind, but the constant, exhausting personality shifts so many of my Black sisters (and women of color) perform just to survive in different spaces. From code-switching at work to toning down your true self on dates, I’m exposing the hidden costs of this behavior and showing you how to reclaim your authentic self so you can be loved for exactly who you are.
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Scavenger Hunt Dating with Lily Womble
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In this uplifting episode, I sit down with dating coach and author Lily Womble to explore how gratitude can be a powerful portal for manifesting the love you desire. Inspired by her transformative book Thank You, More Please, we dive into why dating feels especially difficult right now — and how to bring back joy, agency, and fun into your love life. One of the standout tools we discuss is the Dating Scavenger Hunt: a playful and empowering way to challenge yourself, stay open, and make dating feel exciting again. This conversation is al...
Sex Appeal with Shan Boodram
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In this spicy and soulful episode, I sit down with the brilliant Shan Boodram, sexologist, intimacy expert, and certified baddie, to talk all things sex appeal, self-expression, and relationships. We explore how porn can be used as a tool for learning, not shame; the art of flirting; and how your sensual energy is a powerful magnet for love.
Your sensuality is sacred. Your pleasure is powerful. And your relationship to yourself, your body, your confidence, your turn-on, shapes everything in love. This episode is a reminder that being sexy, soft, and secure can...
Brandi’s GYG Journey
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In this episode, I’m joined by one of my incredible clients, Brandi, as she shares her honest, vulnerable, and powerful journey through the Get Your Guy Coaching program. From initial hesitation to booking her intro call, to finally meeting her man — Brandi breaks down what the process really felt like from the inside. We talk about what shifted for her once she got into the program, the difference between watching content online vs. doing the work inside the container, and which tools and worksheets helped her transform. If you’ve ever wondered what actual...
Vaginas, Vulvas, and Menopause with Dr. Fenwa Milhouse
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In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Fenwa Milhouse for an open and honest discussion about women’s health — covering everything from vaginas and vulvas to the realities of menopause. We break down common myths, talk about how these natural stages impact relationships and intimacy, and share empowering insights for women navigating these transitions with confidence and self-love.
BIO
Dr. Fenwa Milhouse is a board-certified urologist and fellowship-trained sub-specialist in female pelvic medicine and reconstructive surgery. She previously worked for the largest private practice in the...
Safety Is An Illusion
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In this episode, I unpack the concept of “safety” — in dating, relationships, money, and even within ourselves. We’ve been taught to chase external safety, but the truth is that safety is a mirage. Real safety comes from within. I talk about how boundaries, banter, flirting, and connection all start with the self. It’s not about controlling your environment — it’s about trusting your ability to handle whatever comes.
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Scarcity Mindset with Coach Cass
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In this episode, I sit down with Coach Cass to discuss the scarcity mindset in love—both external and internal. We open up about our personal experiences with scarcity thinking and how it shaped our relationships. More importantly, we dive into practical tools and techniques that can help shift from a mindset of lack to one of abundance, leading to healthier and more fulfilling connections.
My experiences, along with Coach Cass’s insights, provide a powerful perspective on overcoming scarcity and thinking in love. Whether you're feeling stuck or looking to shift your...
The Added Value of Dating Coaching with AlignWithAlison
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In this episode, I sit down with the amazing AlignWithAlison to talk about the real value of working with a dating coach. We dive into what to look for when vetting a coach, the difference a good coach can make in your dating life, and why the investment in coaching is absolutely worth it compared to the cost of staying stuck or struggling alone. If you've ever wondered whether hiring a dating coach is really worth it, this episode is for you!
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<...Of My Own Making with Daria Burke
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In this inspiring episode, I chat with powerhouse Daria Burke about her book and her personal journey of transformation. We talk about the biggest shifts in her life, the power of writing your own narrative, and why it’s crucial for women—especially women of color—to own and integrate all parts of themselves.
Daria’s insights remind us of the power of embracing every part of who we are. By owning our stories and stepping into our truth, we open the door to deeper self-love and stronger, more authentic relationships. When you stop...
Matters of the Heart with Dr. Thema
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In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Thema to talk about the deeper emotional aspects of love and self-worth. We explore the importance of self-compassion, especially for women of color, and why so many struggle with being kind to themselves. We also discuss actionable ways to shift this mindset and the transformative power of self-forgiveness.
Matters of the heart go far beyond romantic relationships—they start with how we treat ourselves. Dr. Thema and I unpack the importance of self-compassion and self-forgiveness as the foundation for emotional wellness and lo...
Don't Buy Your Own Ring With Tiffany 'The Budgetnista'
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In this episode, I sit down with financial educator Tiffany “The Budgetnista” to talk about one of the most important yet challenging aspects of relationships—money. We discuss how to navigate finances in dating, partnerships, and long-term commitments, while also sharing practical strategies for financial empowerment and security.
Finances can make or break a relationship, but with the right mindset and tools, money can be a source of strength rather than stress. Tiffany and I dive deep into how to navigate financial conversations with confidence and clarity. Stay tuned for more transformational relationships and fi...
Detachment in Dating
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In this episode, I explore the concept of detachment in dating and why it’s a game-changer for creating healthy relationships. Many people approach dating with fear, anxiety, and a need for control, which often leads to disappointment and frustration. I break down what true detachment looks like and how embracing it can lead to more fulfilling connections.
Detachment in dating is one of the most powerful shifts you can make to create deeper, more meaningful connections. By letting go of the need to control and focusing on the present moment, you allow lo...
What I Used to Do When I Dated
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In this episode, I get personal as I share my past experiences in dating and how I mastered the art of making men fall in love with me. I also open up about my time living in Germany, exploring the cultural differences in dating and relationships. It’s a fascinating and insightful conversation for anyone curious about love, attraction, and cross-cultural experiences.
My experiences offer a unique perspective on dating, love, and cultural influences. Whether you're navigating relationships or exploring new romantic landscapes, my insights provide valuable lessons on connection and self-growth. St...
Shirley's Journey to Engagement!
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In this episode, Coach Anwar sits down with Shirley, one of his clients, to discuss her inspiring journey to finding love. They explore the personal growth, mindset shifts, and actionable steps that Shirley took to finally meet her perfect match. It’s a heartwarming and insightful conversation for anyone looking for love or guidance on their romantic path.
Shirley’s journey is a powerful reminder that finding love starts within. With dedication, self-awareness, and the right guidance, it’s possible to rewrite your love story. Tune in to future episodes for more inspiring storie...
