Teach Me How To Adult

Why do we take everything so personally? Do you overthink text messages, assume someone's upset with you when they're just having a bad day, or interpret feedback as proof you're not good enough? If you constantly read into other people's behaviour and assume the worst, this episode is a must-listen.

This week, I share how I've been working on taking things less personally, managing rejection sensitivity, and overcoming the social hypervigilance that can cause us to read into every single interaction.

I explore the psychology behind why we’re so quick to perceive rejection and cr...

If modern dating feels like an episode of Black Mirror, you're not alone. So we're throwing it back to dating advice that can help you date smarter and build healthy relationships that last. 

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed. 

Relationship expert Amy Chan breaks down the toxic dating patterns that can keep people from finding the relationships they want, the mistakes singles are most commonly making, and how to stop self-sabotaging your love life. Plus, Amy’s Dating...

Why is it so damn hard to make decisions? And why are we so afraid of making the wrong choice? If you overthink every option, struggle with decision anxiety, second-guess yourself, or feel like you’re always chasing 100% certainty, this episode is for you.

Whether you’re questioning your relationship, contemplating a career change, navigating a major life transition, or struggling with everyday choices, the fear of making the wrong decision can feel paralyzing. So I called in licensed therapist, Jenna Overbaugh, to talk about overcoming analysis, ending the anxiety loop that keeps us stuck in decision-making, and...

Are you deep in the infatuation stage? Or is your relationship stuck in the power struggle of trying to change each other, trying to protect your independence, or falling into an avoidant-pursuer dynamic? It turns out, we all have to go through that phase. Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed. 

We're throwing it back to invaluable advice from renowned relationship repair expert Baya Voce, MSW, on how to move through the three stages of relationships to land in the hea...

Trigger warning: This episode discusses sexual assault, trauma, and survivor experiences. Please take care of yourself and skip this one if you need to.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the Cornell 7 case recently, and how, a decade after the #MeToo movement, we’re still seeing the same backlash, criticism, victim-blaming, and lack of understanding about what actually happens to so many people during and after a traumatic experience.

So today, in hopes of creating more compassion and understanding in how we respond to victims who experience trauma, we’re unpacking the psychology of trauma...

What if your burnout isn’t just a sign that you’re doing too much... but that you’re living a life that no longer feels like you? 

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. We explore the difference between burnout caused by overwork and the deeper exhaustion that comes from misalignment (AKA the fulfillment ache): performing a role, chasing success or following expectations that leave you disconnected from yourself. 

We’re joined by career coach (to ambitious...

If you feel like you never have enough time, like there just aren’t enough hours in the day, this episode is for you. Because when we intentionally prioritize and plan, even the busiest people can find more time for the things they actually want to do.

I’ve been really struggling to get a handle on my own time lately. Between everything I need to do, want to do and feel like I should do, it feels impossible to keep up. So if we all have the same 24 hours in a day, why do some people mana...

Why is literally everything we interact with daily made of plastic and chemicals?? And since avoiding them all is impossible, which ones are most toxic to us?

Toxicologist Dr. Yvonne Burkart joins me to separate the science from the fear. We break down the everyday chemicals and endocrine disruptors we're exposed to through food packaging, plastics, cookware, personal care products, fragrance, cleaning products, clothing, drinking water and more—and which changes are actually worth making.

We talk about phthalates, PFAS and “forever chemicals,” microplastics, and what the research says about their impact on our hormones, fertil...

Do you ever feel numb, like you're sleep-walking through life in zombie mode? You might be in functional freeze. Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

We're diving into polyvagal theory, how to recognize when you’re stuck in functional freeze (a lot of people are!), and how to use somatic tools and nervous system mapping to heal both your mind and body. If you're looking to effectively regulate your nervous system, overcome dissociative tendencies, and feel present in yo...

We're baaaaack! Season 6 is here, we've rebranded, and we’re going deeper.

I'm so excited to share everything we have in store this season — it's going to be less about finding the “right” answers, and more about asking better questions.

We’re talking about self-discovery, relationships, identity, change and uncertainty, health, purpose, communication, and what it actually means to build a life that feels like your own.

I'm kicking things off by sharing the mini identity crisis I had this summer about how I'm showing up in the world, if the way I'm spending m...

A quick update to let you know we're taking a summer break from the podcast — we’ll be back with SEASON 6 in September! 

I'm so excited to share what's in store for Season 6... we have lots of exciting updates, a new look and feel, and deeper convos with brilliant and thoughtful guests. 

In the meantime, you can stay up-to-date by subscribing to the show on YouTube and Spotify to watch all the episodes... leaving a review really is such a helpful way to support the show so I can keep making this every week!

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Finally… a happiness habit that actually works. Whimsymaxxing is everywhere right now, and for good reason. But this is more than just another internet trend… the vitality of whimsy reflects something much deeper about what so many of us are craving.

In this episode, we're exploring the psychology of whimsy, why adults desperately need more play, wonder, novelty, creativity, and delight, and why intentionally romanticizing your life can improve your mental health, resilience, and overall wellbeing.

In a world obsessed with productivity, optimization, and hustle culture, whimsy is becoming an act of rebellion. A much-needed pend...

How do we make ourselves indispensable in a workforce where we're constantly being replaced? Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

In this uncertain job market, the things that make you uniquely you — like your ideas, communication skills and emotional intelligence — are becoming increasingly important for career success. So we're throwing it back to this helpful advice from Emily The Recruiter on how to incorporate AI into your job to stand out, and the soft skills that will make yo...

More than half of marriages end in divorce… so why do we still choose to tie the knot?

In this episode we get profound relationship advice from a perspective you might not expect… a world-renowned divorce lawyer and authority on relationships. Because there’s a lot that we can reverse engineer from someone who has spent their career witnessing endings.

We're joined by James Sexton, America's top divorce lawyer, and bestselling author of How to Stay in Love and How Not To Fuck Up Your Marriage. After more than 20 years helping couples navigate the end of the...

How do we choose love over fear when relationships get hard? Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed. 

This advice from Trevor Hanson will guide you through common communication landmines, why fear is the #1 killer of relationships, and how to move through fear by accessing our primary emotions and communicating without self-protection.

I’m joined by Trevor Hanson, a marriage and family therapist who has helped thousands of individuals and couples heal attachment wounds and build secure, connected, confi...

What if this summer was your most social summer ever? 

We desperately need connection. Loneliness impacts your body, mood, longevity and emotional health, and as we turn to technology more and more for all our needs, we risk missing the social interactions that fuel us. So today we're throwing it back to the concept of the “social biome” — your personal ecosystem of relationships and daily interactions — and how it can enrich your life. 

Founded by researchers Dr. Jeffrey Hall and Dr. Andy Merolla, the social biome is a framework for strengthening relationships and cultivating a real sense...

How do we communicate our needs in a way that doesn't feel like criticism? Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed. 

Expressing our true desires, communicating what actually makes us feel good or safe, and dialling into our preferences and needs can be vulnerable territory with a partner... but it's a powerful path to intimacy when done with care. So we're throwing it back to this masterclass in feedback, communication, and relating more intimately with Darshana Avila. 

Darshana is a...

Do you feel like you're in the driver's seat of your life, or does it feel like life is just happening to you?

Empowered people have an infectious confidence and energy, and a lot of that personal agency comes down to a powerful concept in psychology: locus of control.

Do our choices, habits, and actions shape our future? Or are we at the mercy of luck, circumstances, other people, and forces beyond our control? Your answer has a major impact on your confidence, resilience, motivation, mental health, relationships, success, and optimism.

In this...

What if burnout isn't always caused by working too much?

I've been falling back into burnout lately, and a lot of people around me have been struggling with it too. So in this throwback episode, we're exploring a lesser-known cause of burnout that rarely gets discussed: a lack of meaning, purpose, connection, engagement, and fulfillment.

Most burnout advice focuses on reducing stress, taking breaks, and improving work-life balance... but tons of people are still experiencing chronic fatigue, emotional exhaustion, and low motivation even after taking a break and getting more rest.

That's because...

Rethinking drinking? You're not the only one. Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed. 

We all know alcohol messes with our health, but do you know how much it gets in the way of real connection? We're throwing it back to a deep chat with Amanda Kuda on how alcohol impacts our confidence, energy, social lives and more. Tune in to find out if you fall into the moderators vs. abstainers archetype, and how to realistically change your relationship with boo...

You have friends… so why do you still feel lonely?

Friendships are more important than ever in adulthood, but they become increasingly hard to make and maintain. But we’re in a real loneliness epidemic where most adults feel unseen, alone, and disconnected *even though* they have lots of connections in their lives.

The real reason no one’s talking about? The “depth gap” that keeps us from being truly vulnerable and connected. Because the problem isn't always that we need more friends… it's that we don't feel known by the people in our lives.

In thi...

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from past episodes that you might have missed. 

Why is catastrophizing and emotional spirals so common in ADHD? We're throwing it back to this helpful advice from ADHD coach Shanna Pearson, on her easy go-to trick to manage mood and strong emotional reactions in the moment. Shanna is the founder of the world’s largest one-on-one ADHD coaching company, working with thousands of adults with ADHD every year, and the bestselling author of Invisible ADHD.

Follow Shannon and check out h...

What you resist really does persist… and the anxiety-avoidance cycle can keep you trapped in a small life for years.

If you avoid social situations, difficult conversations, travel, dating, decision-making, presentations, or anything that makes you anxious, this episode is for you.

Avoidance is one of the most common coping mechanisms people use for anxiety… but it's also one of the biggest reasons anxiety continues to grow. And the problem with avoidance is you can’t stop thinking about something that you’re trying to avoid.

In today’s episode, we're unpacking the psychology...

Do you know your sexual personality type? Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from an episode that you might have missed. 

If you like personality tests and frameworks like Myers Briggs, learning your sexual profile can make a huge difference in your sex life. We're throwing it back to this helpful segment from TikTok’s #1 sex educator, Dr. Tara, on how to know if you and your partner are sexually compatible, what to do if you have different sexual preferences, and the key to connecting in bed if yo...

If you’re listening to this episode, chances are you or someone you love is struggling with a hormonal, inflammatory, reproductive, or chronic pain condition like endometriosis or PCOS/PMOS… I know firsthand how exhausting and frustrating it can be to get proper care, and how much these conditions can impact your life, from pain and fertility struggles, to metabolism issues, bloating, and the impact on your physical and mental health.

The good news? Women’s health conversations are finally starting to change around conditions that have historically been dismissed, minimized, or misunderstood.

In this episod...

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

What you eat has a huge impact on your mood, energy and hormones. Here to advise on how our nutrition and eating habits affect hormonal imbalances and metabolism, we have Amber Romaniuk.

Amber is an Emotional Eating, Digestive and Hormone Expert, with 10 years experience helping women create body confidence, intuition and optimal health through mindset healing, self-care and overcoming self-sabotage with food. Her podcast “The No Sugarcoating Podcast” has over a...

May is mental health awareness month, so I've gone back and pulled the top tips and advice from neuroscientists, psychologists and biohacking experts on how to improve your happiness, anxiety, and depression through specific supplement protocols, brain health hacks, and healing your gut.

Because we can't ignore the physical side to mental health, and taking care of our bodies is a key piece in taking care of our minds. 

Tune in to hear about:

May is mental health awareness month, so we’re rounding up some of the most game-changing advice and insights we've heard on the podcast about managing anxiety and improving your emotional wellbeing, from three leading experts. We cover the root cause of anxiety and the beliefs that fuel it, managing our distress with the “anxiety hierarchy”, and the ways trauma is stored in the body — along with how to move it. 

These perspective-changing concepts have really helped me better understand my mind and improve my mindset.

Tune in to hear advice from:

It’s mental health awareness month, so we're throwing it back to this powerful framework to help manage your mental health. 

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

We break down a simple, practical framework that helps you reset your mental health from the ground up: the Life Force Pyramid, developed by Jonah Hill's therapist, psychiatrist Phil Stutz.

The method builds on the three levels that are key for our emotional wellbeing: our relationship with o...

It’s Mental Health Awareness Month — and while we’ve covered emotional and mental wellbeing a lot on the podcast, we’ve never explored complex mental health disorders and how to navigate them.

Our culture talks endlessly about therapy, but I don’t see enough conversations about how to help those struggling with severe mental illness. Because it doesn’t always look like venting to your therapist and unpacking childhood trauma. For many people, the issue isn’t a lack of self-awareness or needing to dive deeper into their feelings. It’s a lack of tools to manage what’s ha...

In honour of Mental Health Awareness Month, we're revisiting some powerful insights from IN-Q on the connection between creativity, expression, and mental wellness.

Welcome to this week’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. If you’ve been struggling with anxiety, burnout, loneliness, or emotional overwhelm, this conversation explores how creative expression, vulnerability, and storytelling can become powerful tools for healing and resilience.

We talk about the deeper causes behind the current mental health crisis, and a new, realistic pers...

If you’ve been feeling constantly exhausted, burned out, or mentally drained, even after you’ve caught up on sleep…this episode is for you. Because sometimes we’re tired in ways sleep alone can’t fix.

Today’s truth-bomb: sleep and rest are not the same thing. And most chronically drained people are missing the kind of rest that would actually restore them.

In today’s quickie, we’re breaking down the 4 types of fatigue that could be draining your energy — and why most people are trying to fix the wrong problem. This will help you identify...

Do you ever feel like you’re behind in life? Like everyone else is hitting milestones while you’re stuck waiting for your life to finally begin?

Whether it’s your career, relationships, finances, or major life milestones, this episode dives into the psychology of feeling behind, comparison, and the pressure of the invisible timeline we all think we’re supposed to follow.

From your late 20s into your 30s and beyond, it can feel like a race: finding a partner, advancing your career, buying a home, starting a family. And if you’re not there yet...

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

In honor of Earth Day and Earth Month, we’re revisiting one of our most practical and empowering conversations on sustainable living, reducing waste, and lowering your carbon footprint—without falling into the trap of perfectionism.

We break down how to reduce plastic use, what actually matters when it comes to recycling, and simple swaps that can significantly reduce your waste and carbon footprint over time.

If you’ve...

Modern dating feels like a shitshow, and if you’re struggling to find love, burnt out by dating apps, or wondering why dating feels harder than ever… this episode is for you.

In part 2 of our conversation with relationship expert Amy Chan, we’re diving into how to date smarter, overcome toxic dating patterns, and build healthy relationships that actually last. Amy breaks down why the modern dating landscape feels so dysfunctional (half of US singles went on ZERO dates last year), the difference in modern gender dynamics, biggest mistakes singles are making, and how to stop self-s...

Welcome to our new weekly series, ICYMI, where we start off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. Tune in every Monday for an expert dose of life advice in under 10 minutes. 

Today, we’re throwing it back to one of our most valuable 2022 finance interviews with Nicole Victoria to help guide us through recession fears, market volatility, and economic uncertainty.

If you’ve been wondering whether you should buy the dip, sell your stocks, or pause investing when the market crashes, this episode is packe...

Breaking up is hard to do… we’ve watched hundreds of movies and listened to thousands of songs about the universal experience of heartbreak — yet no one ever really teaches us how to navigate breakups, let go of love, and move on in a healthy way.

So today, we called in the breakup pro: I’m joined by relationship expert, author, and founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp, Amy Chan, to cover the psychology of breakups, why we stay in the wrong relationships, and how to actually heal after heartbreak without losing yourself in the process. Amy offers a scient...

Feeling stuck in your career, burnt out, or questioning if it’s time to quit? This episode is for anyone navigating a career pivot or craving more purpose and fulfillment in their work

We’re joined by career coach, author, and former Google executive Megan Hellerer to unpack how to find an aligned career and make confident decisions about your next chapter.

We explore the truth behind the Achievement Lie, and why so many millennials feel anxious, lost, and burned out despite being successful. You’ll learn the difference between your “fear self” and your “true self,”...

Welcome to today’s ICYMI, where we kick off the week with a quick game-changing tip from one of our guests that you might have missed. 

I'm moving this week, and in preparation, I've been listening back to our episode on organization so I can put systems in place to (finally!) start my new home with an organized framework. 

For anyone itching to spring clean or tackle that "problem area" of your home, we’re throwing it back to the top questions to ask during your decluttering journey, neuroscience hacks to make organization a habit, and th...

What if the biggest predictor of success isn’t talent... but grit?

According to psychologist Angela Duckworth, grit is: Passion + perseverance for long-term goals. It’s the ability to stay committed, even when things feel hard or uncertain. As Winston Churchill said: “Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.”

In today's quickie, we’re breaking down the psychology of grit, and why your ability to stay consistent matters more than IQ, natural ability, or connections.

If you’ve ever felt behind, not “naturally gifted,” or unsure of your potential... thi...