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Jared and Jordana begin today’s Friday Feels by talking about the viral memoir Strangers and why breakup books hit differently than breakup TikToks! They reminisce about their fully remote recording days and how pandemic dating advice was really different and its own time vault. J&J get into your dating questions, answering a petty or prudent: reporting your cheating ex to his college professor, and also can you rebuild trust after years of secret dating apps and lies? Sometimes searching for answers can keep you stuck in the wrong relationship!

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Jared and Jordana are in the studio talking about their morning commute, which was delayed due to Taylor Swift’s Madison Square Garden wedding! They kick off today’s episode with Who's Your Hall Pass? Dua Lipa did not make Jared’s list! Then J&J continue with questions from you and have a Summer Lightning Round of dating questions, debating the right time to have the exclusivity talk, whether unmarried couples should send holiday cards, and after how many dates breaking up over text is no longer okay. They also discuss how to initiate a first kiss after five d...

Jared’s Netflix special is coming out in the fall and he recalls a roasting bit with Rob Lowe, and why meeting him completely changed his mind. J&J then debate whether it's petty or prudent for a guy to text his ex that he won a $50 competition just one week after dumping her. They also unpack a breakup over indefinite travel, questioning if it’s a right guys, wrong time moment? They discuss why women convince themselves they'll never find another great connection, and Jared's rule that you should never say "you" in a breakup!

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Jared and Jordana debate whether dating a diehard Philly’s sports fan is a harmless quirk or a real relationship problem. Can passion be just plain obnoxious? They also unpack the internet debate over women proposing to men, why Taylor Swift rumors about an MSG wedding sparked such strong reactions, and reminisce about the glory days of Fire Island share houses after college. J&J also discuss first date bill split etiquette: it's not really about the money, it's about the communication.

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Jared and Jordana are getting ready for Fourth of July weekend, where Jared will be staying with Jordana, finally! Then Jared shares the funniest wedding guest he's ever met, a guy with Oakleys on the back of his head who somehow became the life of someone else's wedding. Plus, they debate whether sending a hotter guy to pick up your stuff after a breakup is petty or genius, and help a listener whose future in-laws keep letting themselves into the house, cleaning, dog-sitting, and crossing every boundary imaginable. It's an episode about weddings, breakups, overbearing families, and why sometimes "...

Jared is back from his book tour convinced dating is rougher than ever, and he and Jordana break down why so many singles are feeling burnt out. Then they tackle whether asking for someone's Instagram or Snapchat before a first date is a hookup red flag, if you should reply when an ex apologizes 12 years later, and whether all men over 40 on dating apps deserve the bad reputation. Plus, is it fair to ask your boyfriend to wear pants around the house, and does living together "feeling like a vacation" actually mean you're not being taken seriously? It's a...

Jared shares the wildest piece of weight loss advice he's ever gotten from a fan at a country club, leading to a discussion about criticism, internet comments, and why the people who care enough to complain might actually be your biggest fans. Then, J&J debate whether it's an ick or just being picky when a hinge date pulls out a Bible app and reads a favorite verse at a dive bar over chicken salad sandwiches. Too passionate? Later, a listener discovers her boyfriend secretly asked ChatGPT if he should break up with her and finds a list of...

The Knicks' recent success is creating a wave of new fans, and Jared explains why sports foster community, connection, and shared experiences, while Jordana compares it to the passion people have for Bravo and reality TV. Then J&J tackle one of adulthood's biggest questions: how do you know if you actually want kids, or if the DINK life is right for you? Plus, they debate a dishes-related relationship standoff, unpack the emotional fallout of being ghosted after a great Hinge date, and ask whether an out of town wedding invite on date five is romantic or a major...

Jordana risks a parking ticket after creating her own train station parking spot, while Jared celebrates a glowing dentist report and shares why his gums are finally growing back. Then J&J debate whether a hinge date carrying a gallon jug of water everywhere is an instant ICK or just a dedicated hydration habit. They also discuss how GLP-1 medications are changing modern dating, from awkward dinner dates where you barely eat to deciding whether you should tell someone you're taking it. Plus, Jared opens up about his own GLP-1 experience, weight loss, food noise, and waiting to find...

Jared is officially OVER hearing himself talk after weeks on his book tour, but appreciates all the great feedback from fans who have read his book. J&J get into listener questions, reacting to a woman who discovers her fiancé secretly messaging his ex through a shared Notes app, leading to a conversation about “open phone policies” and whether they’re ever a good sign. Later, they tackle an icky or picky about a 32 year old fiancé who wants dinner with his parents four nights a week (or more), and a red flag or dealbreaker involving a date who may have...

Summer is finally here, and Jared and Jordana are feeling the relief after what felt like New York's longest winter. They dive into the realities of parenting twins, why single parents deserve way more credit, and the surprising story of Olympic champion Alysa Liu's father choosing surrogacy and solo parenthood. Plus, Chelsea Handler publicly calls Bobby Flay a bad date after he ordered room service and left her with the bill, sparking an "Icky or Picky" debate. Then, a listener's daughter's serious boyfriend says he's "all in" but refuses to meet the parents. Is it normal after a recent...

Jared recaps his Kelly Clarkson appearance, the launch of his new book, and why seeing your book in an airport might be the ultimate career milestone! J&J then unpack listener questions: a first vacation to Morocco that had daily sex but zero "I love yous," and debate whether a romantic getaway can reveal a deeper compatibility problem. They also tackle an icky or picky about a gym guy who put his number directly into someone's phone, plus a relationship dilemma involving a boyfriend secretly working nearly 80 hours a week between his regular job and Home Depot. And yes...

Jordana opens this episode with a question for Jared: do some men really think parents find out they’re having twins at the delivery room? That kicks off a hilarious conversation about prenatal care, “punch bowl” movie myths, and just how little some people know about pregnancy. Then J&J debate whether reporting your ex-fiancé’s Facebook profile picture (featuring YOUR dog) is petty or justified, and help a listener stop spiraling after discovering her boyfriend’s Stagecoach cheating scandal. Jared also shares why he avoids hot takes, talks about his upcoming book launch, and reveals his very specific pool temper...

Jared is packing a tux for a black-tie-optional wedding, which leads to a debate about plus-one etiquette and who should pay for the wedding gift when you're newly dating. Then they discuss a listener’s theory that the best place to meet men is a Wednesday night bowling alley and introduce Jared’s Summer Strut Challenge: 12 walks in 12 weeks to grow your dating network through friends and family! They then break down whether excessive exclamation points and smiley faces are actually an ick, plus a tough question about dating someone who talks about marriage but never makes you feel care...

J&J get into a recent article where they mention dating has become a luxury in 2026! From $20 coffee dates to the hidden “pink tax” women pay just to get ready, maybe it really is too expensive to date these days. Then they break down Bumble’s new AI matchmaker “Bumblebee,” why Jared thinks dating apps are just slot machines for lonely men, and whether AI is making modern dating even more fake. Plus, an “Icky or Picky” email about a college guy admitting he masturbates to a match’s profile photo sparks a surprisingly nuanced conversation about dating expectations, sexual honesty...

This week J&J unpack why lying in a relationship can be worse than cheating itself and debate whether an ex warning a new girlfriend is “helpful” or completely unhinged. They break down a breakup that left one listener scrambling for a new apartment and explain the difference between being petty and being prudent when money and resentment collide. Plus, Jared defends his longtime 'finger in the butt' stance while Jordana gives practical advice for couples trying new things in bed without shame or panic. They also discuss a man who refuses to wear deodorant (red flag), a fiancé calli...

This week J&J welcome Dr. Orna Guralnik from Couples Therapy to talk about the biggest mistakes couples make before they ever step into therapy! Dr. Orna explains why “agree to disagree” is usually just code for “I’m exhausted trying to change you.” The conversation gets hilarious when Jared roleplays a full couples fight about chicken vs. steak dinner and accidentally reveals his deepest relationship fears. Plus, Dr. Orna shares the biggest sign couples therapy is happening too early, the moment it’s officially too late, and why respecting your partner’s differences matters more than ‘winning’ the argument!

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Jordana and Jared are judging Mother’s Day Instagram tributes like they’re relationship crime scenes. And honestly, some of these captions are screaming “save the marriage post!” They debate whether a woman should warn her ex that she’s pregnant with her new boyfriend’s baby, discuss a first date where a guy ate a pastry and drank coffee in front of his hungry date, and debate over whether sending a nostalgic middle-school boyfriend photo is sweet or secretly flirty. They also tackle a missing-front-tooth dating dilemma, a possible hoarder girlfriend, and a man who told his live-in girlfriend t...

J&J are joined by Samantha Wynn Greenstone and Jacob Hoff, the married couple behind the “I Married A Gay Man” podcast, to unpack the relationship dynamic that has the internet completely fascinated! They tell their story of meeting during a Fiddler on the Roof audition, becoming inseparable best friends, and the text message that changed everything after an energy healer told Samantha they shared a “spiritual umbilical cord.” Jacob opens up about identifying as gay while being deeply in love, monogamous, and raising a baby with Samantha, while the group dives into why labels, attraction, and soulmate connections don’t al...

Jordana and Jared hang in Florida and we hear about it on today’s ep! Jordana shares what no one tells you about traveling with twins, including getting interrogated by strangers about her fertility journey, making up fake answers about how many minutes apart the babies were born! J&J get into listener questions and debate whether divorced parents should still take family photos together at a Sweet 16, unpack a chaotic breakup revenge post asking for “female references” before dating men, and decide if a man secretly liking his own Instagram posts from a finsta is a red flag or jus...

Jared and Jordana are back with a Friday Feels episode covering everything from postpartum “groove returns” and winter baby timing to why February birthdays hit differently! They revisit the good times of Facebook event invites, group emails, and how dating used to feel before constant texting took over. A listener's email sparks a debate about “babe” texts, over-texting before a first date, and whether you should just go on the date or call it early. Then they break down a 21-year-old married listener asking if she’s incompatible with her DJ husband who refuses therapy and says she has “bad energy.”...

J&J are back in the studio, where Jordana reveals it’s actually pretty normal for partners to try breast milk, so does that make it weird if Jared does? Then they get into your emails, starting with a listener whose boyfriend keeps going out of his way to help a female coworker even after she said it made her uncomfortable, and why the pattern matters more than the excuse. Another listener gets love bombed all week, invited to a wedding two months out, then hits with a last minute switch to drinks and a “can we hang after if i...

Dear Shandy hosts Sharleen Joynt and Andy Levine join Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham for a fun Friday Feels crossover at Betches HQ! We get into how they each approach dating advice, why so many people are stuck “analyzing behavior,” and the difference between being confused and just turned off. Then they play a fun round of True Love or True Likes?, reacting to famous couples like Lauren Speed & Cameron Hamilton, Jason Tartick & Kaitlyn Bristowe, Amanda Batula & Kyle Cooke, and more!

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Ryan Seacrest’s “dating red flags” get J&J talking and how out-of-touch celebrity dating advice can be - waving at people should not be a red flag, Ryan! Jared and Jordana unpack a frustrating Hinge situation where a guy pulls back after 6 dates and claims he wants to “be friends first,” and why that’s usually just a soft exit, not a strategy. They then get into a hyper-specific first date debate: is it rude if your date doesn’t tell you where they are inside the bar, or just normal app behavior? Lastly, they discuss engagement timelines and what the “...

Jordana and Jared kick things off discussing their night before at a fun client dinner that somehow turns into a lesson about the one airplane seat that always survives a crash (allegedly, 11A)! From there, they get into travel drama, including middle seat horror stories, whether couples who book the aisle and window are selfish, and how being nice to a gate agent can score you a surprise upgrade! Then it’s into listener emails: a petty or prudent about DMing a secret girlfriend after a Tinder hookup, and an honest breakdown of why one guy keeps striking out on...

Jordana and Jared are back in the studio and immediately spiraling about NYC heat, aging, and why early flights now require a full recovery day! They debate whether a man in his late 30s sleeping in a twin bed is an instant ick and why his mom might be the bigger red flag. Then, a listener asks if it’s okay to date while still living with an ex, and whether that situation might signal you’re not ready for something serious. Plus, red flag or dealbreaker gets wild: matching with your brother on a dating app, a $500 first date...

J&J kick off today’s Friday Feels discussing New England Patriots coach Mike Vrabel being spotted holding hands with another married woman, and whether interlocking fingers can ever be explained as “just friends.” Jared shares a surreal run-in with TikTok-famous Costco Guys while buying Ozempic, and why it felt a little too close to influencer rock bottom. They then dive into Instagram’s possible new feature that lets you secretly watch IG stories, track rewatchers, and how it could quietly ruin dating. Finally, they tackle listener drama: a drunk friend stirring engagement jealousy and the right (and wrong) way to a...

Are people cheering for me to be in a relationship or single?! Jared talks about how public reactions to his new relationship make him reflect on his dating history and social media pressure, including whether he should post his girlfriend or not. They answer emails, starting with a guy who insists on bringing his dog on a second date and even feeds it from his fork. EW! They also react to a listener who sent a brutally honest rejection text to a “TikTok famous” guy who wouldn’t stop talking about his money, real estate, and trust issues. J&J then...

In this Friday Feels episode, J&J dive back into reality TV drama that’s hitting all of our feeds: Summer House dating announcements from Wes and Amanda. They break down Amanda Batula and West Wilson’s relationship announcement on IG, dissecting why a vague “we” statement can ruin friendships and trigger the internet. Jared shares his first-hand experience meeting his girlfriend’s parents (and niece!) with NYC chocolate babka in hand, because what’s a gift without a story? They then tackle an “icky or picky” from a listener who received a novel-length first text from a new guy. Lastly, a f...

Jared and Jordana are back and immediately diving into Summer House drama, breaking down the Amanda, West, and Ciara rumors and why situationships might hurt more than traditional breakups. They debate whether hooking up with a friend’s ex is worse when things weren't fully official, and what it says about dating after a long relationship. Then it’s listener dilemmas, from whether it’s petty or prudent for an ex to sneak into your apartment to grab his stuff to what it means when your husband refuses to wear his wedding ring, plus J&J weigh in on oral d...

Jared is officially meeting his girlfriend’s parents, but what should he bring? J&J break down the strategy of what to bring, expectations of meeting the family, and what actually matters during that first intro. Jared and Jordana get real about long distance dating, traveling for a relationship, and how to set boundaries when your partner joins you on work trips. They also unpack a listener’s “OnlyFans comment” nightmare after a first date setup goes sideways on Instagram. Plus, Jared explains why asking for Instagram instead of a number is a major red flag!

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Jordana is back after maternity leave with twins (AKA “Twisters”), and she and Jared finally catch up on everything! The two get into the What Are You Up To? segment brought to us by HBO’s Euphoria. Jordana shares life with newborns and how her relationship with Mike has changed, from couples therapy to what actually matters in a partner once you have kids. Jared drops a major update: he has a girlfriend! They originally met at the Comedy Cellar, dated years ago, we hear how they decided to date again! Plus, they get into some fun red flags or dea...

Jared is joined by the hilarious Emma Willmann for the final episode with a guest cohost! They break down a relationship where a boyfriend won’t stop correcting his dyslexic girlfriend’s grammar and why that might actually be a deal breaker. Jared shares a wild DM involving a “dead grandma date request,” leading to one of the strangest fan interactions he’s ever had. Lastly, they get into a listener being judged for kissing her friend while questioning her sexuality. Jared and Emma get into all your dating questions and more!

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Jared Freid sits down with Tiff Baira to learn all about Street Hearts, how to flirt with men and the best place to break up in NYC. They dive into listener dilemmas about how to turn long, flirty bar conversations into a real first date, and what to do when you are stuck in “Instagram limbo” after making the first move. The conversation also gets into major “ick” territory, including mouth open chewing, loud talking on dates, and whether sensory triggers like misophonia are real dealbreakers or just being too picky. The episode wraps with a funny “Petty or Prudent” g...

Comedian Ashley Gavin joins Jared to talk about dating, sexuality, and the chaos of life on the road! Ashley explains her open relationship rules with her girlfriend, their monthly check-ins, and how touring sometimes leads to unexpected hookups. They tackle listener emails about bisexual curiosity blowing up a relationship and whether a 35 year old with a roommate should be a concern? Plus, Ashley shares what life on the road is really like, from asking a hookup to put her knife away to fans having unexpected coming-out moments at her shows. It’s a fun episode where we learn all ab...

Jared is joined by Hinge relationship expert, Logan Ury, to break down some of the biggest dating questions listeners are dealing with right now. They debate whether asking for a voice note before a first date is an innocent preference or a major red flag, and unpack the idea of “digital body language” when someone is great in person but disappears over text. They also dive into the classic “right person, wrong time” debate and the Sex and the City taxi-light theory of commitment. Also, one listener wonders if dating in NYC has become impossible thanks to hyper optimized schedule...

Jared is joined by BETCHES’ own Tess Tregellas for a hilarious Friday Feels episode. Tess shows up with a positive attitude but she does reveal she just learned sad news about her childhood dog. But quickly turns the mood around as they dive into listener dilemmas! They debate whether calling your fiancée a “solid 8 out of 10” is a red flag or a relationship killer, and explore why words like “pulchritudinous” are far superior to numbers when describing your partner. Later, the two help a listener spiraling about moving in with her boyfriend in NYC, covering anxiety, overthinking, and why sometim...

This week on U Up?, Jared is joined by Aleen Dreksler, CEO and co-founder of BETCHES, for a chaotic and honest deep dive into mama drama, ex etiquette, and career vs. kids debates. They discuss boundaries with mother-in-laws and what you can negotiate versus when you should just say nope, covering everything from holiday turf wars to posting your baby on Instagram without permission. Then it’s petty or prudent when an ex crashes a run club and sends a seriously annoying “it’ll get easier over time” text. Plus, an Icky or Picky ruling on a second date who anno...

Jared is joined by Dr. Naomi Bernstein of the Oversharing podcast to unpack dating after divorce, performance anxiety, and whether taking intimacy slow signals emotional baggage. They break down an email from a 34-year-old woman dating a gentle, recently divorced man who says something “deeper than biology” is blocking intimacy. Then they debate if a flight attendant was right to tell a 30-year-old guy he’s “too nice for casual dating.” Plus: performance anxiety, people pleasers, alpha vs beta energy, and why sexual chemistry doesn’t always match long-term potential. Jared and Dr. Naomi get deep and at one point, when...

Bob the Drag Queen and Jared kick off today’s episode bonding over their favorite WWF wrestlers and swapping stories from their early stand-up comedy days. Then they dive into modern dating drama, including a straight boyfriend who wants to explore drag, but his girlfriend is feeling insecure and unsure how to navigate it. They red flags, deal breakers, and quirky relationship moments, from mannequins at the front door to reality TV obsession. Bob talks about having two boyfriends and advises an emailer that dating an ENM man is a definite dealbreaker if you’re monogamous at heart! Along the...