Private Parts Unknown: Sex & Love Around the World

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By: Courtney Kocak

Private Parts Unknown (FKA Reality Bytes) is a Bourdain-style podcast exploring sex, love, relationships, gender, and seductive subcultures around the world. Join host Courtney Kocak and expert guests for hilarious, sex-positive conversations—destigmatizing everything from abortion to Ashley Madison, polyamory to PMDD, sex work to Shibari, and more. Travel series include Helsinki, Finland; Mexico City, Mexico; and Tokyo, Japan. Private Parts Unknown is a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts. For network details, contact cameron@pleasurepodcasts.com.

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Breaking Belize’s Sex Toy Taboo with Sex Educator Luanne Daniels
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#276
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For the 276th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Belizean sex educator and Pleasher Spot founder Luanne Daniels.

Luanne got the idea for her adult novelty business after finding herself single and wanting a vibrator—only to discover that she couldn’t find the kind of quality sex toys she wanted in Belize. Recorded during our 2021 reporting trip, Luanne reflects on turning her personal quest for better pleasure into a business and becoming a trained sex educator along the way. We also get into the shame and secrecy surrounding sex toys and masturbation in Belize, why she was initially scared to put her face behind her business, why some men feel threatened by vibrators, feminism and women’s sexua...


How Caleb Orozco Won the Fight to Decriminalize Gay Sex in Belize & Changed LGBTQ+ Rights Across the Caribbean
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#275
09/02/2026

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For the 275th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Belizean LGBTQ+ activist Caleb Orozco, executive director of the United Belize Advocacy Movement and the man behind the landmark court case that decriminalized consensual same-sex intimacy in Belize.

Recorded during our 2021 trip, as the world was cautiously reopening after COVID, Caleb reflects on growing up gay in Belize, fighting bullies—literally, taking on the church and government, surviving violence and death threats, and the years-long legal battle that helped pave the way for similar challenges across the Caribbean. We also get into Belize's anti-sodomy law he was up against (Section 53), HIV advocacy, trans rights, sexism and gender-based violence, and why changing the law is only the...


Abortion Doula Hannah Matthews on Bodily Autonomy, Shame & Pleasure in a Post-Roe America
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#274
08/26/2026

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For the 274th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Hannah Matthews, abortion doula and author of ⁠You or Someone You Love⁠.

In this interview, Hannah shares her personal experience with abortion and her work as an abortion doula supporting others through the process, and how that work has helped her confront her own shame and discomfort around sex and bodily autonomy. She also discusses the misconceptions people have about abortion, the importance of pleasure in the equation, and her experiences with anti-abortion rhetoric and harassment from public figures like JD Vance. Hannah is currently working on a new memoir exploring chronic illness and sex, which we talk about a little bit at the end.

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Abortion Doula Hannah Matthews on Bodily Autonomy, Shame & Pleasure in a Post-Roe America
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#274
08/26/2026

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For the 274th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Hannah Matthews, abortion doula and author of ⁠You or Someone You Love⁠.

In this interview, Hannah shares her personal experience with abortion and her work as an abortion doula supporting others through the process, and how that work has helped her confront her own shame and discomfort around sex and bodily autonomy. She also discusses the misconceptions people have about abortion, the importance of pleasure in the equation, and her experiences with anti-abortion rhetoric and harassment from public figures like JD Vance. Hannah is currently working on a new memoir exploring chronic illness and sex, which we talk about a little bit at the end.

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"Girl Gone Wild" Author Courtney Kocak on Exhibitionism, Exploitation & Sexual Agency with Jacqueline LeKachman
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#273
08/19/2026

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For the 273rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak takes the hot seat as she is interviewed by returning guest Jacqueline LeKachman about her debut memoir, Girl Gone Wild.

Girl Gone Wild is an unwittingly feminist coming-of-age story about ambition, delusion, drugs, sex, shame, and misogyny—from growing up with big dreams in small-town Minnesota to chasing them to the filthy heart of Hollywood, including a stint selling T-shirts on the Girls Gone Wild tour.

We talk about the complicated line between exhibitionism and exploitation, sex work, sexual agency, acting and nudity before #MeToo, abortion, pleasure, feminism, and wha...


"Girl Gone Wild" Author Courtney Kocak on Exhibitionism, Exploitation & Sexual Agency with Jacqueline LeKachman
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For the 273rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak takes the hot seat as she is interviewed by returning guest Jacqueline LeKachman about her debut memoir, Girl Gone Wild.
Girl Gone Wild is an unwittingly feminist coming-of-age story about ambition, delusion, drugs, sex, shame, and misogyny—from growing up with big dreams in small-town Minnesota to chasing them to the filthy heart of Hollywood, including a stint selling T-shirts on the Girls Gone Wild tour.
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Porn Star Jennifer White on Winning AVN, Awards Politics, Her MILF Era, Marriage & Taking Control Behind the Camera
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#272
08/12/2026

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For the 272nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes adult film star Jennifer White, the reigning 2026 AVN and XBIZ Female Performer of the Year.

Nearly two decades and 900+ scenes into her career, Jennifer is entering her most empowering era yet. She shares the catalyst that launched her career, what it really takes to campaign for porn’s biggest awards, why transitioning into MILF roles has actually made her feel more empowered, and what it’s been like stepping behind the camera to produce her own projects. We also talk about her off-screen relationship, some of her favorite scenes, and how porn gives her a safe space to explore fantasies she wouldn’t necessarily have the chance to pur...


Porn Star Jennifer White on Winning AVN, Awards Politics, Her MILF Era, Marriage & Taking Control Behind the Camera
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08/12/2026

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For the 272nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes adult film star Jennifer White, the reigning 2026 AVN and XBIZ Female Performer of the Year.

Nearly two decades and 900+ scenes into her career, Jennifer is entering her most empowering era yet. She shares the catalyst that launched her career, what it really takes to campaign for porn’s biggest awards, why transitioning into MILF roles has actually made her feel more empowered, and what it’s been like stepping behind the camera to produce her own projects. We also talk about her off-screen relationship, some of her favorite scenes, and how porn gives her a safe space to explore fantasies she wouldn’t necessarily have the chanc...


A Veteran Sex Worker-Turned-Death Doula on Domination, Self-Defense, Sober Sex & Life Lessons from the Dying with Vanessa Carlisle
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#271
08/05/2026

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For the 271st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes author, sex educator, longtime sex worker, and death doula Vanessa Carlisle.

After 27 years in sex work and a new foray into death work, Vanessa has a fascinating perspective into professional human connection. In this episode, Vanessa reflects on getting into sex work at 19, becoming a professional dominatrix, how sex work shaped their understanding of intimacy, founding Hooker’s Army to teach self-defense to sex workers, and co-writing Awaken Your Sexuality, a guide to reconnecting with sexuality after trauma and addiction. We also talk about sober sex and learning to communicate what you want without relying on substances, plus Vanessa’s unexpected path to becoming...


A Veteran Sex Worker-Turned-Death Doula on Domination, Self-Defense, Sober Sex & Life Lessons from the Dying with Vanessa Carlisle
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08/05/2026

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For the 271st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes author, sex educator, longtime sex worker, and death doula Vanessa Carlisle. 

After 27 years in sex work and a new foray into death work, Vanessa has a fascinating perspective into professional human connection. In this episode, Vanessa reflects on getting into sex work at 19, becoming a professional dominatrix, how sex work shaped their understanding of intimacy, founding Hooker’s Army to teach self-defense to sex workers, and co-writing Awaken Your Sexuality, a guide to reconnecting with sexuality after trauma and addiction. We also talk about sober sex and learning to communicate what you want without relying on substances, plus Vanessa’s unexpected path to becom...


From Sex Cult Survivor to Holistic Porn Purveyor: Inka Winter’s Journey to Redefining Pornography with ForPlay Films
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#270
07/29/2026

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For the 270th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Inka Winter, the visionary founder, director, and producer of ForPlay Films.

In this interview, Inka shares her approach to creating ethical, feminist, and holistic pornography. She opens up about her experience growing up in a sex cult (the infamous Friedrichshof Commune) and how losing her sex drive after an abortion inspired her mission to create porn that is emotionally and spiritually fulfilling. Inka also offers advice on how we can all become more ethical consumers of adult content.

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From Sex Cult Survivor to Holistic Porn Purveyor: Inka Winter’s Journey to Redefining Pornography with ForPlay Films
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#270
07/29/2026

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For the 270th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Inka Winter, the visionary founder, director, and producer of ForPlay Films.

In this interview, Inka shares her approach to creating ethical, feminist, and holistic pornography. She opens up about her experience growing up in a sex cult (the infamous Friedrichshof Commune) and how losing her sex drive after an abortion inspired her mission to create porn that is emotionally and spiritually fulfilling. Inka also offers advice on how we can all become more ethical consumers of adult content.

For more Inka Winter:

Watch (and support) ForPlay Films ⁠forplayfilms.com⁠ Follow ForPlay Films on Instagram ⁠@forplayfilms⁠ Check out Inka...


Gen X Dating, Demisexuality & Parenting Through Gender Exploration with Dana DuBois
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#269
07/22/2026

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For the 269th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes writer and podcaster Dana DuBois.

Through her Substack I Write Out Loud and podcast The Daily Whatever Show, Dana has become a thoughtful, nuanced voice on culture, relationships, parenting, politics, and feminism.

In this conversation, Dana discusses midlife dating as a post-divorce Gen Xer, how dating apps have reshaped relationships, what she learned parenting through her child's gender exploration journey, her inclination toward demisexuality, why she draws a distinction between identity and preference, her take on attachment styles, and her thoughts on motherhood later in life.

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07/22/2026

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For the 269th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes writer and podcaster Dana DuBois.

Through her Substack I Write Out Loud and podcast The Daily Whatever Show, Dana has become a thoughtful, nuanced voice on culture, relationships, parenting, politics, and feminism.

In this conversation, Dana discusses midlife dating as a post-divorce Gen Xer, how dating apps have reshaped relationships, what she learned parenting through her child's gender exploration journey, her inclination toward demisexuality, why she draws a distinction between identity and preference, her take on attachment styles, and her thoughts on motherhood later in life.

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Billy Procida's Wildest Sex Stories: The Manwhore Host on Non-Monogamy, Oral Sex, Glory Holes & Craigslist Adventures
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#268
07/15/2026

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For the 268th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes comedian, Manwhore Podcast host, and Naked Comedy Show producer Billy Procida.

For more than a decade, Billy has been documenting his adventures in ethical non-monogamy and casual sex with equal parts curiosity, humor, and raw honesty. He shares whether making a sex podcast helps or hurts his dating life, his self-imposed oral sex auditions, his COVID-era glory hole, naked podcast interviews, the lessons he's learned from years of sexual adventures and experiments, why he prefers the term "lover," and the surprisingly romantic philosophy behind his unconventional lifestyle.

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07/15/2026

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For the 268th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes comedian, Manwhore Podcast host, and Naked Comedy Show producer Billy Procida.

For more than a decade, Billy has been documenting his adventures in ethical non-monogamy and casual sex with equal parts curiosity, humor, and raw honesty. He shares whether making a sex podcast helps or hurts his dating life, his self-imposed oral sex auditions, his COVID-era glory hole, naked podcast interviews, the lessons he's learned from years of sexual adventures and experiments, why he prefers the term "lover," and the surprisingly romantic philosophy behind his unconventional lifestyle.

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Period Pain, Polyamory, Work Trip Hookup & Wedding Planning (Just Listen, It'll All Make Sense) with Kate Helen Downey
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#267
07/08/2026

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For the 267th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes CRAMPED podcast host Kate Helen Downey.

Kate shares the mission behind CRAMPED: exposing why so many menstruating people spend decades searching for answers about debilitating period pain, why conditions like endometriosis are so often dismissed, how women's pain continues to be under-treated, and how she finally found a diagnosis after 20 years of suffering. She also dishes on an outrageous work trip hookup story, her years in the polyamorous community, wedding planning, and how she knew her husband was "the one."

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#267
07/08/2026

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For the 267th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes CRAMPED podcast host Kate Helen Downey.

Kate shares the mission behind CRAMPED: exposing why so many menstruating people spend decades searching for answers about debilitating period pain, why conditions like endometriosis are so often dismissed, how women's pain continues to be under-treated, and how she finally found a diagnosis after 20 years of suffering. She also dishes on an outrageous work trip hookup story, her years in the polyamorous community, wedding planning, and how she knew her husband was "the one."

For more Kate Helen Downey:

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Porn Industry Trends: OnlyFans, AI & What's Next with Gustavo Turner
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07/01/2026

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For the 266th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes journalist and longtime adult industry reporter Gustavo Turner.

Gustavo unpacks the biggest trends in the business of porn today, including the uncertain future of OnlyFans, the rise of competitors like Fansly, what makes investors wary of the adult industry, how performers are diversifying their income streams, how the creator economy has transformed porn, the growing role of AI in adult entertainment, why some of the industry's most successful creators are over 40, and how stigma continues to shape opportunities for sex workers in mainstream media. This episode offers a fascinating look at an industry that often predicts where the rest of the intern...


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#266
07/01/2026

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For the 266th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes journalist and longtime adult industry reporter Gustavo Turner.

Gustavo unpacks the biggest trends in the business of porn today, including the uncertain future of OnlyFans, the rise of competitors like Fansly, what makes investors wary of the adult industry, how performers are diversifying their income streams, how the creator economy has transformed porn, the growing role of AI in adult entertainment, why some of the industry's most successful creators are over 40, and how stigma continues to shape opportunities for sex workers in mainstream media. This episode offers a fascinating look at an industry that often predicts where the rest of th...


The Louis C.K. Comeback & What Accountability Do We Actually Want After Sexual Misconduct? with Tess Barker
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#265
06/24/2026

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For the 265th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes podcaster and comedian Tess Barker.

With Louis C.K.'s latest Netflix special, Ridiculous (out June 30th), reigniting debates about accountability, consequences, and redemption, Courtney and Tess tackle one of the thorniest questions of the post-#MeToo era: What do we actually want from people who have committed sexual misconduct?

Using Louis C.K.'s comeback as a case study, they explore what accountability should look like, whether people can truly change, what meaningful atonement looks like, how victims should be treated in the aftermath of harm, the role of power and complicity in enabling abuse, the issue of work...


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#265
06/24/2026

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For the 265th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes podcaster and comedian Tess Barker.

With Louis C.K.'s latest Netflix special, Ridiculous (out June 30th), reigniting debates about accountability, consequences, and redemption, Courtney and Tess tackle one of the thorniest questions of the post-#MeToo era: What do we actually want from people who have committed sexual misconduct?

Using Louis C.K.'s comeback as a case study, they explore what accountability should look like, whether people can truly change, what meaningful atonement looks like, how victims should be treated in the aftermath of harm, the role of power and complicity in enabling abuse, the issue of...


Stuck in a Sex Rut? Ian Kerner Helps Us Repair Our Love Lives with "So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex"
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#264
06/17/2026

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For the 264th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Ian Kerner for a long-term relationship sex rut reboot.

Dr. Ian Kerner is a nationally recognized sex therapist and author of the smash hit She Comes First and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. He also coined the term "cliteracy" and is a Sherlock Holmes of the bedroom—a sexual detective helping individuals and couples solve the mystery of why they're not f*cking like they wish they were.

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Stuck in a Sex Rut? Ian Kerner Helps Us Repair Our Love Lives with "So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex"
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#264
06/17/2026

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For the 264th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Ian Kerner for a long-term relationship sex rut reboot.

Dr. Ian Kerner is a nationally recognized sex therapist and author of the smash hit She Comes First and So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex. He also coined the term "cliteracy" and is a Sherlock Holmes of the bedroom—a sexual detective helping individuals and couples solve the mystery of why they're not f*cking like they wish they were. 

For more Ian Kerner:

Order Ian's book ⁠So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex⁠ Check out Ian's website ⁠iankerner.com Follow Ian on X ⁠⁠@IanKerner⁠...


Trad Wives, Momfluencers & Sex After Kids with Jo Piazza
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#263
06/10/2026

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For the 263rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes bestselling author, journalist, podcaster, and mother of three, Jo Piazza.

Jo has spent years reporting on how modern women navigate marriage, motherhood, and ambition, especially online. Jo shares what she learned studying marriage customs around the world for her book How to Be Married, why she thinks tradwives and traditional gender roles are having a resurgence, the harmful effects of momfluencer culture, and what it was like becoming a mom later in life. She also opens up about matrescence, the identity shifts that come with parenthood, feeling "touched out," and maintaining an active sex life after kids. Plus...


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#263
06/10/2026

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For the 263rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes bestselling author, journalist, podcaster, and mother of three, Jo Piazza.


Jo has spent years reporting on how modern women navigate marriage, motherhood, and ambition, especially online. Jo shares what she learned studying marriage customs around the world for her book How to Be Married, why she thinks tradwives and traditional gender roles are having a resurgence, the harmful effects of momfluencer culture, and what it was like becoming a mom later in life. She also opens up about matrescence, the identity shifts that come with parenthood, feeling "touched out," and maintaining an active sex life after kids. Plus...


Who Owns a Baby? Sophie Lewis on Ethical Surrogacy & the Future of Pregnancy
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#262
06/03/2026

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For the 262nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes scholar, feminist writer, and author Sophie Lewis.

Known for provocative books like Full Surrogacy Now, Abolish the Family, and Enemy Feminisms, Sophie challenges some of our most deeply held assumptions about pregnancy, parenthood, caregiving, and who a child belongs to. In this episode, we dive into the physical realities and risks of pregnancy, the ethics of surrogacy, reproductive labor under capitalism, and why Lewis believes our ideas about family and biological ownership deserve a closer look. We also discuss maternal mortality, the future of reproductive care, children's rights, and the surprisingly real possibility of birth s...


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#262
06/03/2026

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For the 262nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes scholar, feminist writer, and author Sophie Lewis.

Known for provocative books like Full Surrogacy Now, Abolish the Family, and Enemy Feminisms, Sophie challenges some of our most deeply held assumptions about pregnancy, parenthood, caregiving, and who a child belongs to. In this episode, we dive into the physical realities and risks of pregnancy, the ethics of surrogacy, reproductive labor under capitalism, and why Lewis believes our ideas about family and biological ownership deserve a closer look. We also discuss maternal mortality, the future of reproductive care, children's rights, and the surprisingly real possibility of b...


My Tokyo Happy Ending Massage Changed Everything I Thought I Knew About Sex and Pleasure
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#261
05/27/2026

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For the 261st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares the story of a mindblowing happy ending massage she got in Tokyo, Japan, that completely changed her perspective on sex and pleasure.

In October 2022, Courtney ⁠⁠wrote all about it for Cosmo⁠⁠ and then included it as an audio essay in ⁠⁠episode 103⁠⁠ with more from our Tokyo, Japan series. To ring in a hot and sexy summer, we're dropping this audio essay on the feed as a standalone quickie. Enjoy!

Here are links to the other episodes mentioned:

A Sex Work, LGBTQ Rights & Gender Equality-Centric Tour of Tokyo, Japan—Culminating in a Mind-Blowing Happy Ending Massage!: https://www.privatepartsunk...


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#261
05/27/2026

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For the 261st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares the story of a mindblowing happy ending massage she got in Tokyo, Japan, that completely changed her perspective on sex and pleasure. 

In October 2022, Courtney ⁠⁠wrote all about it for Cosmo⁠⁠ and then included it as an audio essay in ⁠⁠episode 103⁠⁠ with more from our Tokyo, Japan series. To ring in a hot and sexy summer, we're dropping this audio essay on the feed as a standalone quickie. Enjoy!

Here are links to the other episodes mentioned:

A Sex Work, LGBTQ Rights & Gender Equality-Centric Tour of Tokyo, Japan—Culminating in a Mind-Blowing Happy Ending Massage!: https://www.privatep...


“How to Make Me Come”: Emma Koenig Explores the Female Orgasm & What Makes Women "Moan"
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#260
05/20/2026

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For the 260th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Emma Koenig, the author & editor of ⁠Moan: Anonymous Essays on Female Orgasm⁠.

Emma shares how her popular Tumblr, How to Make Me Come, evolved into a powerful book that explores the diverse and often misunderstood experiences of female pleasure. We discuss how sexuality is shamed and stigmatized, the need for better sex education, and the importance of open communication in the bedroom. Emma also offers insights on how partners can engage in honest dialogues about sexual needs and preferences. (This episode also features former co-hosts Sofiya Alexandra and Dave Rankin.)

For more from today's guest, Emma Koenig...


“How to Make Me Come”: Emma Koenig Explores the Female Orgasm & What Makes Women "Moan"
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#260
05/20/2026

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For the 260th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Emma Koenig, the author & editor of ⁠Moan: Anonymous Essays on Female Orgasm⁠.

Emma shares how her popular Tumblr, How to Make Me Come, evolved into a powerful book that explores the diverse and often misunderstood experiences of female pleasure. We discuss how sexuality is shamed and stigmatized, the need for better sex education, and the importance of open communication in the bedroom. Emma also offers insights on how partners can engage in honest dialogues about sexual needs and preferences. (This episode also features former co-hosts Sofiya Alexandra and Dave Rankin.)

For more from today's guest, Em...


That Swipe Life: Treena Orchard on Dating Apps Through a Midlife Anthropologist's Lens
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#259
05/13/2026

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For the 259th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Treena Orchard, anthropologist and author of ⁠Sticky, Sexy, Sad: Swipe Culture and the Darker Side of Dating Apps⁠.

In this episode, anthropologist Treena Orchard shares her experiences with online dating after turning 45 and offers insights into the complexities of modern "swipe culture." She discusses the unexpected interest from younger men, the vulnerability men face in shifting gender dynamics, the dark side of dating app gamification, and the upsides of tech involvement in our love lives. Orchard critiques popular platforms like the "feminist" dating app Bumble and highlights how dating apps commodify romance. Despite the challenges, she...


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#259
05/13/2026

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For the 259th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Treena Orchard, anthropologist and author of ⁠Sticky, Sexy, Sad: Swipe Culture and the Darker Side of Dating Apps⁠.

In this episode, anthropologist Treena Orchard shares her experiences with online dating after turning 45 and offers insights into the complexities of modern "swipe culture." She discusses the unexpected interest from younger men, the vulnerability men face in shifting gender dynamics, the dark side of dating app gamification, and the upsides of tech involvement in our love lives. Orchard critiques popular platforms like the "feminist" dating app Bumble and highlights how dating apps commodify romance. Despite the challenges, sh...


How Invisible Labor Kills Intimacy & How to Fix It with Laura Danger
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#258
05/06/2026

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For the 258th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes licensed educator, content creator, and author Laura Danger.

Laura’s new book, No More Mediocre, takes a hard look at the unequal labor dynamics that quietly erode so many relationships—and what it actually takes to build something more equitable, sustainable, and sexy.

In this conversation, Laura breaks down the nag paradox, weaponized incompetence, and the invisible emotional labor that disproportionately falls on women in heterosexual partnerships. She shares how she and her partner had to “burn it down” and rebuild their relationship from the ground up after years of simmering resentment, and why explicit communication and share...


How Invisible Labor Kills Intimacy & How to Fix It with Laura Danger
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#258
05/06/2026

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For the 258th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes licensed educator, content creator, and author Laura Danger.

Laura’s new book, No More Mediocre, takes a hard look at the unequal labor dynamics that quietly erode so many relationships—and what it actually takes to build something more equitable, sustainable, and sexy.

In this conversation, Laura breaks down the nag paradox, weaponized incompetence, and the invisible emotional labor that disproportionately falls on women in heterosexual partnerships. She shares how she and her partner had to “burn it down” and rebuild their relationship from the ground up after years of simmering resentment, and why explicit communicat...


Chosen Family, Polyamory & the Answer to the Loneliness Epidemic with Sophie Lucido Johnson
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#257
04/29/2026

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For the 257th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes author and New Yorker cartoonist Sophie Lucido Johnson.

Sophie is the author of Kin: The Future of Family, a thought-provoking book that explores how we can build meaningful, supportive relationships beyond the traditional nuclear family. In this conversation, we get into the roots of the loneliness epidemic and how modern life has pulled us away from community, what we can learn from polyamorous and nontraditional family structures, and why friendship and chosen family might be just as vital as romantic love. We also talk about raising kids in expansive networks, navigating conflict and accountability with people...


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04/29/2026

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For the 257th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes author and New Yorker cartoonist Sophie Lucido Johnson.

Sophie is the author of Kin: The Future of Family, a thought-provoking book that explores how we can build meaningful, supportive relationships beyond the traditional nuclear family. In this conversation, we get into the roots of the loneliness epidemic and how modern life has pulled us away from community, what we can learn from polyamorous and nontraditional family structures, and why friendship and chosen family might be just as vital as romantic love. We also talk about raising kids in expansive networks, navigating conflict and accountability with peop...


ChatGPT Breakup: I Read My Boyfriend’s AI Chats & It Ended Our Relationship with Lindsey Hall
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#256
04/22/2026

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For the 256th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes writer and publicist Lindsey Hall, whose viral essay “I Stumbled Across My Boyfriend’s ChatGPT and It Ended Our Relationship” ignited a massive conversation about love, privacy, and AI in the modern dating landscape.

In this episode, Lindsey shares the story behind the accidental discovery of her boyfriend’s ChatGPT conversations—and how reading what felt like his digital diary ultimately unraveled their relationship. We get into the ethics of snooping, what it means to outsource your emotional processing to AI, and the blurred lines between private thoughts and digital footprints in the age of supercharged technology...


ChatGPT Breakup: I Read My Boyfriend’s AI Chats & It Ended Our Relationship with Lindsey Hall
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04/22/2026

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For the 256th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes writer and publicist Lindsey Hall, whose viral essay “I Stumbled Across My Boyfriend’s ChatGPT and It Ended Our Relationship” ignited a massive conversation about love, privacy, and AI in the modern dating landscape.

In this episode, Lindsey shares the story behind the accidental discovery of her boyfriend’s ChatGPT conversations—and how reading what felt like his digital diary ultimately unraveled their relationship. We get into the ethics of snooping, what it means to outsource your emotional processing to AI, and the blurred lines between private thoughts and digital footprints in the age of supercharged techno...