Inner Confidence Podcast

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If you've ever assumed a girl in great shape would only want a guy with abs, or watched every diet die the first Friday your buddies asked you out - this one's for you.

I've lost the weight twice: 215 to 155 in 100 days after a $5,000 bet with a buddy, then 190 to 165 after the same bet with my wife, Maria. Being heavy doesn't stop you getting girls, but it's a handicap. A big one on the apps and at the beach, a small one in a cold city...

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A girl told one of my guys she doesn't kiss on the first date. Twenty minutes later she was all over him in the elevator. She wasn't lying. She was telling him how she wants to be seen, not the rules for the night, and if he'd taken her literally he would have gone home with a hug and a "no chemistry."

This one is for guys who are getting dates and then...

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Most guys pick one, the apps or approaching and whichever one they pick, they end up stuck, because each one on its own is missing half of what you need.

The apps are a texting gym. When a girl matches you, she's already said yes to something, so if you can't turn the match into a date, it's your texting. I break down the four mistakes that kill most chats: sending more t...

Ever seen a woman you wanted to talk to, felt your whole body lock up, and watched her walk away while you came up with reasons it wasn't the right moment? This episode is about why that happens and the only thing that actually fixes it.

Most guys want to stop being nervous first and then go approach. That order has never worked for anybody. The nerves last until you're comfortable, and the only thing that makes you comfortable is exposure. And here's the part almost every beginner gets wrong: the fear wears off...

If the apps have cost you confidence rather than dates, this one explains why.

Scott McKay has coached men since 2005 and met his wife on Match.com twenty years ago, back when online dating actually worked. He's not anti-app , his point is that the feedback the apps gave you was never real data about you.

Here's what happened. Around 2011, the correct advice was to swipe on everyone and sort it out later. So women opened the app to hundreds of likes from men who had never read their profile...

Have you ever read a dating book, felt fired up for a week, then noticed nothing actually changed? Or you've got a shelf full of self-help books and the same results you had three years ago.

One of the guys in my community asked for an updated five-book list, so here are the five I'd hand a guy today — and why the order matters more than the list.

He put it best: when he first met me, he was trying to put icing on a shitty cake. Most guys wa...

Have you ever felt like there's one thing about you that you can't change, your height, your race, your face, your age and that it's the reason none of this is working?

My guest is JT Tran, the Asian Playboy. Former aerospace engineer, 5'4", and coaching men for over 20 years. When he moved to LA, eHarmony refunded his membership because they couldn't find him a single match. At speed dating he ticked yes on every woman in the room and still got zero back.

We get into the Toronto...

Most dating advice tells you to keep female friends at arm's length. Don't get too close, don't be too available, don't become her emotional support guy.

Some of that is real, the friend zone exists. But that advice conflates two completely different things: orbiting a girl you're attracted to while doing her emotional labor, and actually having real female friends who are part of your social world.

I break down the four things genuine female friendships give you - social proof, warm introductions worth ten to fifty cold approaches...

I've got a client worth over $15 million who was seriously looking into leg lengthening surgery over one OnlyFans girl. My guest Dean Raymond's take: that's just a belief and once a guy holds a belief like that, his brain filters out every piece of evidence that says otherwise.

Dean is 45, from a small village in the south of England, and was pushing 265 pounds at his heaviest. Natural introvert, shy, socially awkward. He ranks what makes a man attractive like this: emotional state first, then confidence and self-belief, then charisma, and last, game skill. Most...

Most guys who keep getting friend zoned think the problem is they're too nice. It's not. The problem is they're running the wrong business model - they're brokers.A broker makes himself useful, available, and helpful. He says yes to everything. And the moment she doesn't need what he's offering, he's gone. I break down the three forms of brokering that kill attraction, the three shifts that turn a broker into a product - a man women actually want to invest in and a real client story that shows exactly what the change looks like.If you've been doing...

"Red pill cuck cope."That's the phrase my guest dropped halfway through this conversation and I haven't stopped thinking about it since.A girl doesn't write you back and you go looking for the reason why. And the reason you land on is always something you can't change. She only dates guys over six feet. There's no good women left in this city.It feels like analysis. What you're actually building is the exact excuse that stops you from talking to the next girl you see.My guest is Joe Ducard. At his heaviest he was just under 350 pounds, 19...

Most men are playing their dating lives like a lottery. They buy a ticket, they wait. And if it doesn't hit, they tell themselves the game is rigged.Smart men play it like poker. And the difference between those two things is the difference between a guy who's been stuck for years and a guy who's actually improving his results every single month.In this episode I break down the 4 concepts every analytical guy needs to internalize - why volume is the only way to get real data, why cold approach, social circle and Instagram each run on completely...

Every man is paying for his dating life right now. Most of them just don't know it.I hear this constantly from guys on the fence about investing real time and energy into getting good with women. "I can't afford it." "I don't know if it's worth it."I get the hesitation. But doing nothing isn't free. It just means you're paying a different way and you might be paying a whole lot more.In this episode I break down the 4 currencies every man spends on his dating life whether he knows it or not: time, pain, money spent...

Have you ever been in a conversation with a girl you like, things were going okay, and then you just ran out of things to say? The words dried up and you're standing there in the mental panic spiral trying to come up with anything to keep it going.Meanwhile some other guy has an endless supply of stories and jokes and he's effortless with it. And you're thinking, how does he just have that on demand?Here's the truth. That guy isn't naturally charming. He built a database. And you can too.In this episode I break down...

She was texting you every day, making plans, laughing at everything you sent. And then, nothing. One word replies. Something shifted and you have no idea what it was.

Here's the problem. Almost everything men do at this exact moment makes every possible version of this situation worse.
There are really only 2 reasons this actually happens, and one of them nobody wants to say out loud.

In this episode I break down the two most common reactions men have and why both tank you, the two real reasons a girl goes cold...

Have you ever put in real work - actual approaches, actual reps, real results and then wondered if this is just what it looks like forever? Or maybe you've got a solid social circle, you're around attractive women, and you're still going home alone most weekends.

If either sounds familiar, there's a conversation we need to have about the 2 phases of this game. Most guys only ever figure out one.

In this episode I break down what hunting and farming actually mean, why skipping hunting turns you into an...

Most guys are trying to solve their dating life as an individual problem.

Better approaches. Better texts.Better profile. Better conversation.

That stuff matters. But there's a ceiling on it that most guys hit and can't explain. Because the guys who actually live the life solved a completely different problem. They built an ecosystem.

I just got back from Bogota, Colombia. Five days. Four nights. Four after parties. Real social circle. Real funnel. Real results.

In this episode I break down exactly what happened, what it revealed about each man in...

Six feet. Six figures. Six pack.

Only 1% of men in the US actually hit all three at the same time.

So either 99% of men are completely undateable or something about this whole conversation is being seriously misunderstood.

In this episode I break down what the 666 standard actually reveals, why social media made it louder but didn't create it, what women say they want versus what they actually respond to in real life, why dating apps are the one place this filter has maximum power, and how social gravity beats every...

If you're in a situationship right now, you put yourself there.

Not on purpose. Not because you're a bad guy. But somewhere along the way your actions started writing a contract you never meant to sign.

In this episode I break down exactly why this keeps happening, the two completely different situations men find themselves in, and what to actually do about each one without losing leverage or looking like the needy one. I cover why your behavior is always louder than your words, the core dynamic of who controls what in dating, the fix...

The men who built something. Got in shape. Went to therapy.Did the actual work.

They're not complaining on Reddit. They're just quietly stepping back and deciding it's not worth it anymore.

And here's the part nobody is talking about, they might be right.Or they might be making the worst mistake of their lives.

In this episode I break down the two types of men stepping back from dating and why they are not the same situation at all, the honest question you need to ask yourself, the story of Marcus and...

Every few months, Leonardo DiCaprio gets photographed with another younger woman and the internet loses its mind.

Women call him creepy. Men defend him like he's the last symbol of male freedom. Everyone makes the same jokes. But I don't think anyone is actually talking about Leo.

I think they're talking about something much more uncomfortable: attraction, aging, power, freedom, status, validation, and the fact that men and women do not experience desirability in exactly the same way over the course of their lives.

In this episode, I break down what Leo actually...

Height matters. And if you're using it as your excuse, that's exactly why you're losing.

But here's what nobody talks about: height matters far less outside of dating apps than men think. And apps happen to be the worst possible environment for shorter men to begin with.

In this episode, I break down exactly where height gives men a real disadvantage, where it doesn't, and what shorter men who consistently win are doing differently.

I cover:

→ Why dating apps are built against sh...

Looksmaxxing is a lie.I sat down with Mark Sing, host of the Unapologetic Man Podcast with over 6 million downloads, to break down why men are obsessing over jaw surgery, followers, and aesthetics — when the real game is won entirely on the inside.In this conversation, we cover:→ Why perceived value beats actual looks every time→ How your "disadvantages" can become your biggest advantage→ The real reason money and status alone don't work→ How Instagram actually works as an attraction tool→ The mindset shift from victim to magnetic→ How we both went from the player lifestyle to marriage and fatherhoodIf y...

Most men losing in dating aren't losing because of their height, their looks, or their luck. They're losing because of how they think. And Reddit is full of proof.

I went through the most upvoted male dating posts on Reddit and broke down exactly what's going wrong in each one and what to do instead.

We cover the texting spiral that kills attraction before it starts, why a checklist is just avoidance with better branding, the real reason men get friendzoned, what to do when a relationship destroys your confidence, and why the most attractive...

Most men think money and status are enough. My client thought so too until he found himself divorced, successful on paper, and completely stuck in his dating life.

I sat down with one of my clients, a Wall Street veteran, to break down how he went from scarcity to abundance by completely rethinking how he used his resources.

We cover why status alone doesn't create attraction, the hunting vs farming framework, how Instagram works as a social resume, and how to build a high value social circle that actually...

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Timestamps:

00:00 Losing chemistry on a date

03:09 Date with a twist of insecurity

06:31 Embracing single life journey

10:47 Building a high-status social circle

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Timestamps:

00:00 Improving conversational charisma

05:19 The problem with fake authenticity

08:17 The impact of context and environment

11:31 Overcoming fear of approaching

15:31 Building social skills through practice

18:50 Building confidence through community

20:04 Building a high-status social circle

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Timestamps:

00:00 "Boost Confidence, Masculinity, Game"

06:10 "Ruthless Business and RSD Controversy"

09:00 "King's Mentality on Women"

12:35 "Pivoting After Loss and Opportunity"

13:48 "Polarizing Voice and Masculinity"

18:11 "Straight Talk on Relationships"

21:28 Identifying Nice Guy Coping Patterns

25:38 "Polygyny and Marriage Dynamics"

28:45 "Finding Your Personal Shtick"

31:04 "Male vs Female Power...

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Timestamps:

00:00 "4X Dating Playbook Explained"

03:10 "Modern Dating Challenges for Men"

06:49 "Social Circles Boost Dating Success"

11:02 Efficient Dating Strategy: Instagram Ads

15:05 "Breaking Free from the Grind"

16:39 "Abundance Through Brotherhood"

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Timestamps:

00:00 "Dating, Polarity, and Anxiety"

05:48 "Unlock Success Through Social Circles"

06:44 "Link in Description"

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Timestamps:

00:00 "Willpower vs. Environment"

03:30 "Growth Through Feedback and Change"

08:54 "Modern Dating Advice for Men"

12:22 "Change Environment, Transform Yourself"

12:52 "Build High-Status Social Circles"

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Timestamps:

00:00 "Overcoming Anxiety and Identity Confusion"

03:40 "Overcoming Fear Through Leadership"

07:42 "Dating Success Odds Explained"

11:40 "Rejection Isn't About You"

14:37 Authentic Dating Advice for Men

17:37 "Overcoming Social Fear Together"

20:08 "Dating System for Confidence Growth"

22:19 "Build High-Status Social Circles"

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Timestamps:

00:00 Confidence vs. Self-Esteem Explained

03:56 Addiction, Promiscuity, and Identity

06:55 Self-Awareness and Human Behavior

12:01 Primal Mind's Role in Addiction

13:21 Primal Roots of Addiction

17:35 "Modern Dating Guide for Men"

20:53 Finding Purpose and Building Belief

25:25 "Fear, Relationships, and Self-Discovery"

26:33 "Actions Speak Louder Than Words"

31:40 Attraction, Abundance, and Narcissism

35:42 Fixation on Rejection and La...

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Timestamps:

00:00 Astrology: A Social Connection Tool

06:03 Men's Deep Interest in Astrology

09:14 "Astrology: A Dating Tool"

11:11 "Astrology Beyond Your Sun Sign"

14:01 "Leo Rising, Venus in Taurus"

18:27 Astrology's Role of Degrees

22:01 Astrology App for Love Guidance

25:24 "Dating Advice via Birth Charts"

28:36 Avoid Appearing Needy Early

29:51 Astrology in Dating Timing

35:38 "Build Elite Social Circles"

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Timestamps:

00:00 "Top Texting Tips for Dating"

03:31 "Fast Replies: A Relationship Concern"

07:43 Frustration with Short Text Exchanges

11:15 Modern Dating Success Guide

12:53 "Excited Texts, Then Ghosted"

16:22 Disjointed Conversations Lead to Miscommunication

21:57 Join Exclusive Social Circle Network

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Timestamps:

00:00 Body Positivity and Height Bias

06:07 Dating Challenges in Small Cities

08:13 "Balancing Attraction Criteria"

11:03 "Level Up: 10 Actionable Steps"

14:32 Meeting Fashion Minimums for Success

19:18 Confident vs. Nervous Attraction

22:24 Mastering Conversation for Attraction

24:06 "Master Conversation and Instagram Skills"

27:16 Curated Instagram for Online Dating

32:02 "Effective Dating Confidence Strategy"

33:21 "Remote Work for Passport Bros"

37:56 "Traditional Masc...

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Timestamps:

00:00 "Optimize Online Dating Profiles"

05:54 Personalized Shopping Assistance

08:32 "Expert Photos for Dating Success"

09:46 "Finding a Photographer Solution"

13:08 Creating an Online Dating Profile

15:59 "Social Funnel Dating Method"

20:58 Avoid Posting Crowded Landmarks Photos

23:59 "Mastering Social Media Rules"

27:57 "Crafting a Cohesive Instagram Profile"

31:12 "Building Effective Dating Profiles"

31:44 "Join Our Elite Social Circle"

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Book a call:⁠ https://www.innerconfidence.com/communityGet NewBrew: ⁠https://www.drinknewbrew.com/Timestamps:00:00 Escaping Toxic Relationships: A Guide05:36 "Friends Reflect Future Partners"07:45 Controlling Long-Distance Relationship Struggles10:30 "Mutual Trust in Device Access"14:08 "Modern Dating Guide for Men"16:19 Adoption and Family Dysfunction20:33 "Controlling Behavior Stems from Trauma"23:18 "Authenticity in Relationships"26:56 60s Pianist Pushed to Silence28:49 "Navigating Adult Relationship Bonds"33:05 "Quiet Breakup Strategy"35:18 Healing After Toxic Relationships39:40 "Join Elite Social Circles Now"Connect w/ Robbie: