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Everything that helped you survive childhood costs you something as an adult. Love is usually where you pay.

Dr. Galit Atlas is a psychoanalyst, an NYU faculty member, and author of Emotional Inheritance and her new book, Come Closer: Childhood Wounds, Adult Love, and the Secrets of Emotional Intimacy. As a kid, her closest friend was her diary, because it would never hurt her, disappoint her, or leave. This is a conversation about the six wounded inner children we carry into adulthood, and why love is where they show up the loudest.

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Kids who expect to be rejected find a way to get rejected. It isn’t manipulation. It’s prediction.

Robyn Gobbel is a children’s mental health expert, host of The Baffling Behavior Show, and author of Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors and its new companion guided journal. Before she moved into training professionals, she spent years as a play therapist for kids with complex trauma, including one child she saw nearly every week from age six until he was eighteen. This is a conversation about why kids do things that make no sense, and why the pa...

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She was told anyone who leaves the church becomes an addict and ends up miserable. She did become an addict. She isn’t miserable.

Crystal Hamilton is a counselor, 12 years sober, and the author of Drowning in Doctrine. She grew up the youngest of six in a Mormon home, where she learned early that her job was to stay quiet and not cause problems. This is a conversation about leaving a high-control religion, and why the shame it taught you keeps showing up long after you stop believing.

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▪️ Shame in High...

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If you feel guilty for shit you didn’t even do, this one’s for you. 

Toxic guilt isn’t feedback on what you did. It’s a verdict on who you are, and you can’t apologize your way out of a verdict. And today we’re unpacking all the ways it shows up in your life, the childhood experiences that wired it into you, and how to actually heal it through Internal Family Systems (IFS) and polyvagal theory.

✨ What this episode explores

▪️ Six Fears Behind Toxic Guilt - What each one sounds like in your...

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Your childhood decided who people are before they ever opened their mouths. Sometimes that means missing the person who is hurting you. Sometimes it means creating the harm you were braced for.

There are two different ways your trauma keeps you from seeing a relationship for what it actually is. Betrayal blindness is not seeing the ways people are treating you like shit. Attachment blindness is not being able to see the people you're in relationships with accurately in the first place. Today we're diving into both.

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▪️ Betrayal Blindness — Why your...

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An apology is the parent telling you they feel bad. An amends is the parent telling you exactly what they did and what it cost you.

Dr. Ken Adams and Leilani Sinclair are certified sex addiction therapists and the co-authors of the upcoming book Unburdening Adult Children of Sex Addicts, out January 7th. Ken is also the author of Silently Seduced, the book that put covert incest and paren...

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An apology is the parent telling you they feel bad. An amends is the parent telling you exactly what they did and what it cost you.

Dr. Ken Adams and Leilani Sinclair are certified sex addiction therapists and the co-authors of the upcoming book Unburdening Adult Children of Sex Addicts, out January 7th. Ken is also the author of Silently Seduced, the book that put covert incest and paren...

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Sometimes the hardest part of healing isn't sitting in the pain. It's letting yourself actually feel something good.

Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald is a research professor and life coach who specializes in the psychology and philosophy of trauma, and the author of The Joy Reset: Six Ways Trauma Steals Happiness. She grew up the inconvenient truth teller in a home ruled by her mother's fear, and lost both parents withi...

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Your body will not hand you a memory until it is convinced you can survive it.

Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia is a licensed clinical psychologist and trauma survivor who believes healing happens when we listen to the wisdom of the body. In her last appearance on the podcast, she was early in a process she couldn't yet name when repressed memories were just starting to surface. Today she shares what...

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All the healing work in the world won't make someone else willing to do their own.

Dr. Angelica Shiels is a clinical psychologist a licensed clinical psychologist who works with couples and families using Emotionally Focused Therapy, the creator of the app Attuned - Relationships and the host of Attuned with Dr. Angelica & Coach Amanda. In today's conversation she walks through the dynamics she sees w...

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Trauma-informed is a phrase any practitioner can put on their website. But some of the people using it have never sat in a client chair themselves.

Amber Trejo and Megan Walsh are licensed trauma therapists from the Midwest who are both survivors of complex trauma and on their own healing journeys. They are the co-hosts of the new podcast We Should Talk, where they get i...

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You've spent your whole life waiting for the other shoe to drop. Nobody tells you what happens when it finally stops dropping.

Bethany Webster is an expert on healing the mother wound, coach, and the author of "Discovering the Inner Mother." She recently launched a new Substack, Living Undaunted, where she writes about self-trust and what life looks like after the deep excavation work. Betha...

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Whatever you refuse to look at inside yourself comes back at you disguised as your life.

Hannah Fraser Moore is a Jungian-oriented psychotherapist and writer based in the UK. She works with complex trauma, addiction, and eating disorders, and she's currently writing a book called Holy Hunger about women, instinct, and the shadow. She spent years in therapy insisting her childhood had nothing to do wi...

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You finally go no contact after decades of abuse. Then one day the phone rings, and suddenly you're legally responsible for their entire life.

Katherine St Claire is a writer, abuse survivor, and cycle breaker who grew up in a home defined by violence, silence, and gaslighting. After four years of no contact, her father was arrested at 82 for trying to kill her mother, and w...

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You feel like a fraud bracing for the moment everyone finally figures you out. And no amount of accomplishment or evidence ever changes that feeling that you're not who you say you are.

For those of us with complex trauma, the imposter syndrome doesn't just live in your head. It lives in your body and your nervous system. Today, we're diving deep into why you f...

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Somebody doesn't text you back and suddenly you feel like you're going to die. You're not being pathetic. You're in a flashback.

Welcome to the living hell of emotional flashbacks. Your reaction never matches the situation in front of you, and even when you know that in your head, it doesn't make you feel any better. This is the single most painful symptom of CPTSD...

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The Abandonment Trauma Queen is back on the pod, and today we're heading into uncharted territory: borderline vs. abandonment trauma. What truly separates the two, and why the BPD label gets handed out way too easily.

Susan Anderson is a psychotherapist and a pioneer in the field of abandonment trauma, and she's spent the last three decades helping people heal. She's the author of The Abandonment Recovery Workbook (a book that truly changed my life) and Taming Your Outer Child. Having worked with thousands of people over the course of her career, she joins me to share...

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The voice in your head won't shut up because if it did, you'd have to feel what's in your body.

Dr. Joe Flanders is a clinical psychologist based in Montreal who specializes in IFS, mindfulness, and psychedelic-assisted therapy. He's also the founder of Refuge, a community of practice built around experiential psychotherapy, and co-host of the podcast "Not Too Tight, Not Too Loose." But despite all his training and years of meditation, it was his own shortcomings as a father and desire to have a real relationship with his kids for the rest of his life that...

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A death doula shares what really happens between a toxic parent and their child in the parent's final moments.

Kat Courtney is a death doula and plant medicine facilitator who has sat with dozens of people in their final moments. After a childhood spent people-pleasing a father who only wanted the happy version of her, a near-death experience in her early twenties, and years of using ayahuasca to finally face the family wounds she'd normalized her whole life, she learned that the things we run from don't disappear - they wait. This is a conversation about what...

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Everything you hate about yourself starts making sense the moment you realize you're not one person - you're a whole system trying to survive.

Britt Frank is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in trauma, trained in Internal Family Systems and Somatic Experiencing. She's the author of The Science of Stuck and Align Your Mind, which translate complex trauma and parts work into language people actually understand. Britt grew up in a covertly dysfunctional family, later found herself in a cult, survived addiction and domestic violence, and came out the other side not healed, but functional. In this episode...

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