Grad School Femtoring: Inclusive Grad School Stories, Personal Development, and Productivity Tips for First-Gen BIPOCs

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I share how to choose a graduate program based on the outcome you're seeking and the people you hope to learn from. When I help applicants build a program list, I encourage them to look beyond rankings and get clear on the conditions that will help them succeed. I walk through how to identify your non-negotiables, research potential faculty mentors, examine funding and program conditions, and learn from current students and alumni. This research takes time, especially when program information is hard to find, but it can help you build...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I share low-energy writing strategies for college students, graduate students, and professionals completing major projects with limited capacity. Whether you are navigating chronic illness, disability, burnout, caregiving, sleep deprivation, travel, or an especially demanding season, these strategies can help you keep making progress to meet a hard deadline.

I explain how to assess your capacity, match tasks to your available energy, break long-term projects into specific actions, and prioritize the work that matters most. I also discuss writing triage, a process for completing high-energy tasks during periods when...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I discuss why the excitement surrounding a long-term writing project can fade and how dopamine, executive functioning, and your working conditions can shape motivation. I offer a more compassionate approach for academics, students, and other writers who are struggling to return to work that still matters to them. I share practical ways to make writing more approachable. You will learn how to build a personalized menu of writing tasks and rewards that reflects your energy and capacity while recognizing when you may need rest, accommodations, redistributed labor, or additional support.<...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I speak with Reem Salem, a fourth-year molecular engineering PhD candidate at the University of Chicago, about career development for STEM PhD students. Drawing from the research she conducted during her Grad School Femtoring externship, Reem shares why graduate students need greater access to career guidance, mentorship, and opportunities to explore the many paths available beyond academia. We discuss how to identify and communicate the transferable skills you are already developing through your doctoral training. Reem also offers practical steps for exploring careers that align with your strengths and values.<...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I unpack seven common graduate school myths that can leave students questioning their abilities, belonging, support systems, timelines, and career prospects. These myths can be especially harmful for historically excluded students—including those who are first-generation, BIPOC, disabled, neurodivergent, chronically ill, parenting, caregiving, and nontraditional students—who are navigating uneven access to resources and insider knowledge.

I explain why graduate school success depends on learned skills, supportive relationships, and sustainable practices rather than intelligence, independence, constant productivity, or a perfectly linear path. You will also learn how to trea...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I explain how to calculate the return on investment, or ROI, of graduate school. As admissions season begins, many prospective students are asking whether an advanced degree makes financial sense. I walk you through the data you can use to make a more informed decision, including expected salaries, the full cost of attendance, lost wages, completion rates, and time to degree.

I also invite you to consider the personal, professional, and community returns that may matter alongside salary. Through a simplified break-even calculation and a set of values-based...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I share three truths I wish I understood before starting graduate school. For first-generation, BIPOC, neurodivergent, and other students navigating unfamiliar academic spaces, graduate school can feel like entering a cultural system with its own language, expectations, hierarchies, and unwritten rules. I reflect on my experience of feeling behind and explain why struggling to understand the hidden curriculum does not mean you do not belong.

I also explore how productivity culture can tie your sense of worth to your output and why mentorship, femtorship, and community care are...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I discuss what to do in a  time when more graduate programs are pausing or cancelling admissions and why having a Plan A, Plan B, and Plan C matters more than ever. If you're applying to graduate school, especially master's or PhD programs, this episode will help you navigate an increasingly unpredictable admissions landscape with greater awareness. Drawing from my work supporting applicants for sixteen years, I explain why admissions outcomes are being shaped by broader institutional and funding challenges, not just your individual qualifications.

I unpack the s...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I introduce a different way to think about weekly planning by changing your focus from simply managing your time to understanding your energy and capacity. This episode is for students and professionals who feel like they're constantly falling behind despite having a planner, calendar, or productivity system. Drawing from patterns I see in coaching and my own lived experience, I explain why traditional planning often overlooks the realities of balancing work, caregiving, disability, chronic illness, neurodivergence, and other responsibilities that impact just how much capacity we have in any given...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I sit down with entrepreneur and MBA graduate Nicole Moreno-Deinzer to explore one of the most common questions I hear from students and professionals: Is an MBA actually worth it? If you're considering grad school as a way to advance your career, pivot into a new field, or strengthen your entrepreneurial skills, this conversation will help you think more critically about whether an MBA aligns with your goals, finances, and stage of life. Drawing from both Nicole's experience and the questions I frequently hear in my coaching practice, we unpack...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I show you how to build a flexible note-taking system that helps you read more strategically, retain information more effectively, and reduce cognitive overload. This episode is for students, academics, and professionals who may feel overwhelmed by academic reading, struggle to remember what they read, or find themselves rereading the same articles because their current system isn't working for them.

I explain why note-taking should function as an external memory system rather than a record of everything you've read. I discuss how to create a centralized and sustainable...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I explore why so many of us feel stuck even when we're working incredibly hard toward our goals. If you've ever assumed that you simply need to try harder, better time management, or another productivity tool, this episode is for you. Drawing from patterns I've observed through coaching grad students, working professionals, and career changers, I explain how identifying the real bottleneck in your work can help you make meaningful progress with greater clarity and less frustration.

I introduce the concept of bottlenecks and apply it to common...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I reflect on what disability culture has taught me about building a meaningful life through uncertainty while navigating one of the most difficult seasons my family has experienced. Drawing from my lived experience as a parent, caregiver, coach, and someone with chronic illnesses and neurodivergence, I explore how disability culture offers powerful ways of thinking about grief, adaptation, accessibility, interdependence, and self-determination. Whether you're navigating graduate school, a demanding career, caregiving, burnout, chronic illness, or another major life transition, this episode invites you to reconsider how you respond to uncertainty...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I sit down with my friend returning guest Camila Lacques-Zapién, a coach who supports academics, creatives, professionals, and leaders. Together, we explore what compassionate accountability really means and why so many first-generation, BIPOC, and community-centered individuals have learned to associate accountability with pressure, shame, or overwork instead of care and self-trust. Drawing from our coaching experiences, we discuss how creating supportive and relational spaces can help people reconnect with their values, honor their capacity, and reach their goals more sustainably.

Throughout our conversation, we examine how accountability c...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I discuss one of the most significant recent changes to graduate education financing: the end of Graduate PLUS loans and what this means for prospective and current graduate students. Drawing from years of experience supporting first-generation and BIPOC students through graduate admissions and funding decisions, I explain how this policy change may affect master's, PhD, and professional degree students and why understanding the true cost of graduate school matters now more than ever.

I walk you through several funding scenarios, clarify common misconceptions about grad school loans, and...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I reflect on reaching 100K podcast downloads during one of the hardest seasons of my life as a parent and what that unexpected milestone taught me about consistency, progress, and success. Through my own lived experience and the patterns I see in coaching first-generation, BIPOC, and historically excluded students and professionals, I explore why many of us have inherited definitions of consistency that create unnecessary shame and make it harder to stay connected to our goals.

I discuss why consistency is better understood as a relationship rather than...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I offer a more personal take on what sustainable productivity can look like during high-stress seasons. Drawing from my own experience navigating ongoing medical challenges within my family, I explore how stress, caregiving responsibilities, uncertainty, and limited capacity can affect our ability to function day to day.

I discuss why chronic stress can make executive functioning more difficult, how to identify what is essential during challenging periods, and ways to reduce cognitive load without sacrificing your long-term wellbeing. I also share practical strategies for adjusting expectations, creating support...

In this episode of the The Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I talk with Dr. Leslie Wang about writing authentically, values misalignment in academia, and choosing a career path that feels aligned with your long-term wellbeing. This episode is for anyone who feels exhausted by the pressure to constantly perform, produce, and prove themselves while questioning whether their current path still reflects who they are and how they want to live.

We explore how academia, like many professional spaces, can shape people into prioritizing external validation over internal alignment, and how signs like dread, resentment, perfectionism, burnout, and...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I unpack why so many high achievers struggle with follow-through, even when they are so incredibly committed to their goals. Drawing from patterns I regularly see in coaching and consulting sessions, I explore why follow-through is far more complex than simply “trying harder” or becoming more disciplined and focused. 

I discuss how executive functioning skills, perfectionism, cognitive overload, systemic pressures, and being in survival-mode all shape our ability to maintain consistency over time. I also share sustainable productivity strategies that can help reduce overwhelm, support emotional resilience, and creat...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I speak with Bianca Alba about the realities of taking a non-linear path through graduate school, career transitions, and life as a first-generation working-class Latina. Bianca shares her experience working multiple jobs while completing her master’s degree, navigating higher education without a financial safety net, and confronting the pressure many first-gen students face to “do everything right” in order to succeed. Together, we unpack the emotional and structural realities that shape non-linear journeys and why so many students feel forced into survival mode while trying to pursue their goals.

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In episode 371 of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I walk through six practical strategies for managing academic writing revisions without spiraling into overwhelm. If you’re working on a manuscript, dissertation, proposal, or another long-term writing project and feeling behind, scattered, or emotionally exhausted, this episode is for you. Drawing from recent conversations with my one-on-one coaching clients and my own experiences navigating intensive revisions, I share approaches that can help you create a more sustainable and personalized process for moving your work forward.

I discuss how to assess your available time, energy, and capacity before setting re...

In episode 370 of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I talk about what it means to experience grief, guilt, and shame in grad school, especially when your journey does not match what you originally imagined. This episode is for graduate students who feel disconnected from their expectations, are navigating unexpected challenges, or are carrying emotional weight tied to their academic experience. I draw from patterns I consistently see in my coaching work to name and validate these experiences.

I walk through how grief, guilt, and shame show up in graduate school, particularly for first-generation, BIPOC, neurodivergent, and chronically...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I explore the politics of citation and why crediting others matters in academia and beyond, alongside Dr. Miroslava Chávez-García and Dr. Alexandra Minna Stern. We unpack how citation functions as a form of power, how it connects to mentorship and collaboration, and how today’s academic and political landscape requires a more intentional and relational approach to giving credit. We also discuss how to navigate citation in informal spaces like social media, what accountability and repair can look like when we miss something, and how thoughtful acknowledgment practices can...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I walk you through how to identify your advisor needs as a graduate student, whether you are choosing an advisor in your first year or realizing you need to make a change. This episode is inspired by patterns I see across my clients, where many students feel pressure to settle for less support than they need due to what has been normalized in academia.

I break down what it actually looks like to be supported in graduate school by outlining both foundational advisor needs and additional forms of...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I talk about how financial stress can shape your productivity by affecting your sense of safety, stability, and decision-making. Drawing inspiration from The Trauma of Money by Chantel Chapman (with the caveat that I’m not a therapist or financial counselor), I translate these ideas into what they can look like in your day-to-day work.

I walk you through how financial pressure can show up as overworking, avoidance, difficulty focusing, and delaying both money-related and high-stakes academic or career tasks. I also share practical ways to move out of...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring Podcast, I talk about how rising costs, job insecurity, and increased workloads can keep you stuck in exhausting, crisis-driven productivity cycles. This is especially relevant if you are navigating fluctuating energy, caregiving, chronic illness, neurodivergence, executive functioning challenges, or if you are first-generation in your field.

I walk you through why urgency and overwork can become the default and share practical ways to step out of constant crisis mode by building work rhythms that align with your capacity.

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In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I reflect on how many of the grad students I once coached are now working professionals in various leadership roles, and how our conversations have shifted toward career and leadership development, especially how to advance in their career without burning out. I connect sustainable leadership to boundary setting. I explain why boundaries are essential for leadership: they protect focus, support our energy, shape team culture and wellbeing through modeling, and enable long-term impact, especially for first-gen and non-traditional professionals carrying extra roles and responsibilities. I also share practical strategies for...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I talk with first-generation college graduate and seasoned Bay Area admissions consultant, Erica Hernandez, about financial aid for first-gen students and their families. Erica shares how growing up in the Bay Area with limited guidance shaped her work helping families ask better questions about financial aid beyond just income, including factors schools consider and the separation between admissions and financial aid decisions. We discuss common misconceptions among middle and upper-middle income first-gen parents, the “middle-income gap,” and why families need 5–10+ year planning to build and preserve wealth. Erica also breaks down d...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I reveal five truths about grad school admissions no one tells you. First, being qualified isn’t enough. Second, who you know matters. Third, your application story must be strategic. Fourth, “fit” can reflect institutional culture and pressure to assimilate. Fifth, rejection is often driven by factors outside of your control. Tune in to hear me explain exactly what I mean about these truths and why they matter if you are applying to graduate school.

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In this client spotlight, I speak with Dr. Jeanette Villanueva Padilla about her journey from completing her master’s degree to earning her doctorate while parenting, working full time in higher education, and navigating uncertainty along the way. She describes that season of life as a “kaleidoscope” and reflects on how coaching supported her in clarifying priorities, managing time and energy, building sustainable writing practices, setting boundaries, and staying connected to her why. Now a senior higher education leader with 26 years of experience and Senior Budget Manager for MBA Programs at USC Marshall, Dr. Villanueva Padilla shares how she pays i...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I walk you through exactly how to secure affordable graduate school housing. I share when you should start searching and why it’s earlier than you may think. I also outline three main housing options to compare from and offer strategies like asking current grad students about options and searching for university-affiliated rental lists. I emphasize the importance of comparing your options and reviewing lease details closely to ensure you get the best housing option to meet your needs.

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In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I talk about confidence building for first-gen professionals. I share why confidence can sometimes feel harder for first-gen professionals. I then offer strategies to strengthen confidence over time. And I close with reflective prompts to remind you that confidence is a skill that fluctuates with changing conditions and that can be rebuilt over time with small steps.

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In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I talk with Dr. Gertrude Nonterah, founder of Bold PhD Consulting, about career design for PhDs and the challenges and opportunities for PhDs considering careers outside academia. Dr. Gertrude shares her own journey from academia to science communications and offers practical advice on career development, networking, and leveraging your PhD skills for non-academic roles. We emphasize the importance of intentional career planning, visibility, and creating multiple opportunities for yourself in an uncertain job market.

You are invited to join my upcoming Compassionate Accountability Retreat and can learn more...

In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I guide you through how to manage and complete an incomplete in grad school. I explain what an incomplete means and discuss various circumstances that might lead to receiving one, such as health issues, family emergencies, or academic overload. I share strategies for overcoming the psychological toll of an incomplete, including reducing other obligations, seeking external accountability, and finding concentrated blocks of time to work. Additionally, I offer tips on clarifying requirements and deadlines with professors and adjusting expectations.

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In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I share insights for grad students, academics, and other writers feeling overwhelmed by manuscript revisions, whether you’re working on a dissertation, prospectus, or course paper. Drawing from recent coaching topics, I introduce six different strategies to set daily milestones and effectively manage revisions. I cover assessing available time and energy, differentiating essential tasks from nice-to-haves, and grouping revisions by their cognitive demand. I also suggest approaches like alternating heavy and light revision days and using section-by-section completion to maintain progress. I emphasize flexibility and self-compassion and encourage you to fi...

In this replay episode, I share my personal experience of turning down my dream master's program due to funding issues and provide comprehensive guidance on securing funding for master's programs. From internal scholarships within your department to external fellowships and creative freelance opportunities, I cover various strategies to make your graduate education financially manageable. Additionally, I emphasize the importance of financial literacy and budgeting to ensure long-term financial stability. Tune in to learn how to proactively seek and secure funding for your master's program.

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In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I address the crucial factors to consider when choosing a thesis or dissertation advisor for graduate school. Drawing from my experience coaching graduate students, I emphasize the importance of communication styles, respect, kindness, and support beyond just research alignment. I break down the topic into two scenarios: for those applying to grad school and those needing to change advisors mid-program. I provide actionable advice on gathering information and assessing advisor fit to ensure a positive grad school experience.

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In this episode of the Grad School Femtoring podcast, I share various strategies to track progress on long-term projects like dissertations, publications, and other manuscripts, emphasizing the importance of accountability and externalizing progress. From time-based tracking and task checklists to visual cues and planners, I offer methods you can personalize to help you maintain momentum when motivation is low, feel accomplished no matter your pace, and celebrate any wins.

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In this replay episode, I share 10 monthly reflection questions designed to help you track and achieve your goals effectively. You’ll learn how and why I developed these questions to promote personal and professional development, combat imposter syndrome, and reinforce a growth mindset. You’ll also gain tips for consistent practice and strategies to make the exercise enjoyable and rewarding.

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This replay episode on spoonie productivity discusses strategies for managing the holiday season when you are a spoonie and have limited energy. Addressing chronically ill and disabled individuals, I share personal experiences and practical tips on honoring your culture and legacy without sacrificing your wellbeing. The episode highlights the importance of setting boundaries, delegating tasks, and adapting traditions to fit your capacity. I also encourage you to identify nonnegotiables and prioritize self-care to ensure you work towards having a meaningful and enjoyable holiday season.

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