Pure Desire Podcast

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By: Pure Desire Ministries, Trevor Winsor, Nick Stumbo

A weekly podcast helping you take back your life from the effects of unwanted sexual behavior and betrayal trauma.

363 - The Good, The Bad, & The Ugly Of Purity Culture w/ Katherine Gallagher
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Last Tuesday at 9:30 AM

Many of us who grew up in the church experienced purity culture—a significant emphasis on sexual purity, especially with young people. While purity culture had good motivations, it has caused its fair share of damage—shame, guilt, and trauma. On today’s episode, we are joined by Katherine Gallagher, the Executive Director of GoStrategic, an author and speaker on the topic of sexual purity. Katherine discusses the good, the bad, and the ugly of purity culture.

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362 - Staying Healthy For The Summer
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06/11/2024

Summer months bring so much fun and excitement. But for those who are on the recovery journey, summer brings its own set of challenges. Warm weather means less clothing. This means more opportunities for temptations and triggers. On today’s episode, we talk about why summer can be so challenging, what we can do to be prepared for this season, and what it looks like to stay healthy!

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Full Episode Video (YouTube)

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361 - The Cyclone Of Addiction
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06/04/2024

Addiction can be challenging to wrap our head around. What is addiction? How did this happen? Why me? Robert Vander Meer is on the podcast today to discuss the image and behavior of a cyclone and how this metaphor is helpful in understanding how and why addiction shows up in our life. 

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Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Bob Newhart “Stop It” Video

Cyclone of Addiction (from Pillar Six, Lesson One of Seven Pillars of Freedom)

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360 - Edging In Recovery
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05/28/2024

Matt Dobschuetz, host of Porn Free Radio and founder of Recovered Man, is back on the show today! 

Today, we talk about edging—non-relapse behaviors that follow our addictive patterns. We talk about what qualifies as edging, how to become more aware of any edging behaviors, the importance of check-ins with our community or group, and how to address these behaviors when we see them.

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Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Pure Desire Groups

Three Circles

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Porn Free Radio

Recovered Man

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359 - Helping Next Gen Navigate Healthy Relationships w/ Barb Winters
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05/21/2024

Helping the next generation is not only about teaching what NOT TO DO. It also includes teaching them what TO DO. 

On today’s episode, we’re joined by Barb Winters, founder of HopefulMom.net and author of Sexpectations. 

Barb talks us through her experience in helping her children break free of pornography addiction and equipping them with the tools they need for healthy relationships. Barb speaks from her personal experience: as a parent not knowing where to start and now an expert in the area of equipping parents to help their kids.

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358 - Becoming Authentically You (Women's Takeover)
#358
05/14/2024

It’s here—a NEW group resource for single women!

What does it look like to live sexually healthy as a single woman?

Today, authors Heather Kolb and Ashley Jameson join us to talk through our new resource for single women, Authentically You.

They talk through who is the target audience, what makes Authentically You unique, the differences between this new resource and other resources we have for women, and much more!

 

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Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Behind the Mask (Recovery Resource for Student Women)

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357 - Healthy Separation
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05/07/2024

“Separation” is usually a swear word for church folk. 

This is understandable when it’s done wrong. But separation can actually be a healthy tool used for the restoration of a marriage. 

Today, we’re joined by a Pure Desire Clinician, Eileen Fagan, who defines a healthy or “therapeutic” separation and the benefits it can give a struggling couple. We talk through natural hesitations or fears with marital separation, when NOT to separate, and the importance of professional help and support in marital separations. 

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Full Episode Video (YouTube)

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356 - Reconciling Addiction & Theology
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04/30/2024

When Christians are faced with the word “addiction,” there can be a significant reaction against something we don’t see clearly in Scripture. The word “addiction” doesn’t naturally seem to fit into our theological framework. 

Today, we’re joined by author and speaker, Ben Bennett, to give us a new framework for reconciling addiction and theology. We explore how Scripture speaks directly to addiction, how to integrate psychology and theology, and how the recovery and healing journey can enhance our faith in Jesus.

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Full Episode Video (YouTube)

Free To Thrive (Book)<...


355 - Porn & Mental Health
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04/23/2024

The term “mental health” can be fuzzy. Are we talking about anxiety? Depression? Something more? All of the above? 

Ben Bennett joins us today to talk about the connection between viewing pornography and mental health issues. Ben speaks of porn’s role in his personal battle with depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideations and how recovery impacts our mental health, our faith in Jesus, and our ability to follow Him.

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Full Episode Video (YouTube)

FASTER Scale

Seven Pillars of Freedom

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354 - Healthy Communication
#354
04/16/2024

We all know communication is important. But what does healthy communication look like for a couple on the recovery and healing journey? Shari Chinchen, a Pure Desire Clinician, joins us today to discuss what makes communication healthy or unhealthy. We also discuss how to keep healthy communication a priority AND how to train our kids for healthy communication in their relationships.

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Full Episode Video (YouTube)

The Four Horsemen (Blog by Gottman Institute)

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