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Anonymous met a lady at her local clinic as a client, they spent a lot of time together and says she now finds her self having strong feelings for this lady. 

She wants to share her feelings with the lady, but there are some complications…

Anonymous started dating his partner a year ago, and says they both came into the relationship carrying a lot of relationship trauma and this led to them being paranoid and even spying on each other. 

He loves his partner a lot but says his partner is struggling to trust him. He’s never cheated on her but says when they were going through some challenges in their relationship, she found an Instagram DM in which anonymous was asking for another lady’s number. 

They separated after this incident but ended up getting back together. He says t...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 8 years now and they have two children together. 

Things got tricky in their relationship and they broke things off. She moved on into a new relationship after she realised that the father of her children had already moved on. 

The new partner is amazing and she feels like he ticks all the boxes. However, her long-term partner has now come back into her life, he proposed marriage to her and she has accepted. 

She doesn’t know which guy to move forward with. 

Anonymous and his partner have been together for about three years. And says things were fine until he moved to another province because of work. 

His partner seems to have developed a drinking problem and she is now drinking on a daily basis. He has confronted her about this, but she’s blamed her drinking on the fact that he’s now in a different province. 

He doesn’t know how to deal with this especially because she’s currently breastfeeding their infant child.

Anonymous met a guy late last year and they got involved in a casual relationship with each other despite the fact that they were each in relationships with other people. 

Things got a bit more serious between her and this guy, while things ended between her and her partner. 

She’s now pregnant with his child but says he’s ill treating her and not giving her the attention she deserves. 

Anonymous has been with his partner for about 6 years now and they have a child together. 

They broke things off last year after he saw another guy post pictures of their son on Tik Tok, as though he was his own. 

They eventually made up, however, he says she’s entertaining “17 guys” from her workplace. He doesn’t know how to deal with her behaviour towards his colleagues.

Anonymous and her husband have been together for 10 years but she says he has been unfaithful from early on in their relationship and has fathered multiple children while they’ve been together. 

At some point she did leave him for his behaviour but she was persuaded by her family to take him back and he bought her a car as a symbol of his remorse. 

About a year ago she met another man and she has been having an affair with this man, who she says has been lovely to her. She’s wondering if she sh...

Anonymous is a widow, and after grieving her late husband she met someone else and she’s now in a relationship with. He came into their relationship with two children, she had one child, and they now have two children together. 

Her problem is how her husband seems to be going out of his way to give the mother of his children money. She says he claims the money is for the children but she’s struggling to believe him and thinks there might be something untoward happening between him and the mother of his other children. 

Anonymous has been dating a married for about two years and says their side relationship was going well and the man was also taking care of her and her child financially. 

Late last year, she met a single man, they hit it off and started dating. She broke up with the married man, he got upset at her and now wants her to pay him back all the money he spent on her. 

Anonymous is a foreign national and says that actually caused issues in his relationship when he wanted to marry his South African partner, as her family were xenophobic towards him. 

They eventually got married, and had a child together. After getting a new job, he met a lady at the workplace who he got involved with and even sponsored her life. 

Anonymous has been with his partner for five years. He supported her financially as she was unemployed when they met. 

She eventually found a job in another province and moved there. He then lost his job and decided to move in with her but when he got there he realised she was cheating on him. 

He forgave her and they moved on but she continued to cheat on him. He wants to leave her, but he’s financially reliant on her and he’s not sure if he can break things off with her. 

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He had a child with the ex he cheated on and they’ve been co-parenting well this whole time, they got closer again, which led to him sleeping with this ex on more than one occasion. 

The ex caught feelings and wanted them to get back together, but he’s happy with his current partner and ended the affair with his ex. 

The ex got angry and sent his current partner...