#AskAMan

Anonymous says he persued his current partner for about two years before they eventually started dating. 

Their relationship was going well and she fell pregnant after they had agreed to have a baby together. His partner ended up aborting the baby as she was worried about how it would affect her mental health as she’s suffering from a mental condition.

This frustrated anonymous….

Anonymous started dating her partner about three years ago and says her partner cheated on her, with his ex, early on in their relationship but they overcame this and moved on with their relationship. 

She recently found texts on his phone to his friend where he was sharing with his friend about meeting up with another girl. 

She confronted him about this and he said it’s not something that actually happened or that he went through with, he was just trying to impress his friends, who apparently thrive on that kind of behaviour. 

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Anonymous was in a relationship with a lady last year and things were going until she confessed that she was actually in a relationship with an older man that she had previously claimed was her father. 

She told anonymous that she was going to break things off with the guy but he’s not sure whether she ever really tried to break up with him. 

Fast forward to this year, he found out that she is actually getting married to this other man, however, they hooked up the night before her lobola…

Anonymous has been with his partner and the mother of his children for about 16 years now. 

Things were generally fine between them until they had their first child in 2017, and says there was a rift between them and their families. They were able to get through all of that and even had their second child in 2021. 

In 2023 he caught her cheating when he saw her kissing another man. She initially denied this but they ended up breaking up. 

He moved out of their home and went back to his family home. Things fell apa...

Anonymous says her relationship is generally fine but their sex life is problematic. She says she’s the one who always initiates, but he often rejects her advances towards him. This has been a problem for years in their relationship and she's not sure how to live with his lack of sexual interest. 

Anonymous and his partner recently  separated after facing some issues in their relationship. His partner is now back in his life and they are now back together. 

The issues that led to the break down of their relationship don’t seem to have been resolved and they keep getting back to into the same conflicts and arguments. 

Anonymous says they’ve gone through a lot together and he wants to work on this relationship but he is now wondering if there is a way forward. 

Anonymous dated a guy back in 2023 for about four months before their relationship ended. They rekindled things last year but it seems his past is haunting their relationship. 

He is insecure and never seems to believe that she has good intentions in their relationship, and this has led to them having several altercations…

Anonymous is/was in a long distance relationship with her partner. 

She doesn’t have a huge appetite and eats small portions. While she was recently visiting her partner they got into an argument because of her eating patterns, with him saying that her breath smells bad as result of her not eating enough. 

He then said he can’t live with the odour of her breath, she left his place, tried reaching out later to speak to him about this but he doesn’t seem interested in discussing the matter further. 

Anonymous met his partner when he was going through a low moment in his life, he says she was very supportive of him and helping him out financially.

He’s going through a lot mentally and as a result, he’s struggling to be a good partner to his girlfriend. He loves her a lot but finds himself spiralling and thinks he needs a break to find his bearings . 

Anonymous and his wife have been together for about 22 years, and have been married for about 13 years now. 

He feels like his partner is “self righteous”, doesn’t give him an ear and always thinks she’s right in any conflict they have in their relationship. He also feels like she doesn’t give him space to express his emotions. 

They are always arguing and their conflicts have gone out of hand, even happening in front of their kids. 

He’s exhausted of this toxic relationship and environment they now find themselves in.

Anonymous met a lady at her local clinic as a client, they spent a lot of time together and says she now finds her self having strong feelings for this lady. 

She wants to share her feelings with the lady, but there are some complications…

Anonymous started dating his partner a year ago, and says they both came into the relationship carrying a lot of relationship trauma and this led to them being paranoid and even spying on each other. 

He loves his partner a lot but says his partner is struggling to trust him. He’s never cheated on her but says when they were going through some challenges in their relationship, she found an Instagram DM in which anonymous was asking for another lady’s number. 

They separated after this incident but ended up getting back together. He says t...

Anonymous has been with her partner for about 8 years now and they have two children together. 

Things got tricky in their relationship and they broke things off. She moved on into a new relationship after she realised that the father of her children had already moved on. 

The new partner is amazing and she feels like he ticks all the boxes. However, her long-term partner has now come back into her life, he proposed marriage to her and she has accepted. 

She doesn’t know which guy to move forward with.