Talk Sex with Annette
Talk Sex with Annette Where desire meets disruption—and pleasure becomes power. Hosted by sex and intimacy coach Annette Benedetti, Talk Sex with Annette is the go-to podcast for bold, unfiltered conversations at the intersection of sexuality, identity, and empowerment. From kink to connection, self-love to sexual healing, Annette dives into the topics most people are too afraid to touch—with expert guests, raw storytelling, and a feminist lens that challenges shame and reclaims pleasure. Think smart, sexy, and radically real: this is the cultural conversation around sex that’s long overdue.
9 Sex Myths About Women That Are Wrecking Your Sex Life
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Content note: this episode discusses sexual violence and assault.
We all absorbed a set of ideas about women and sex so early we never thought to question them: that women want it less, that desire fades with age, that if it hurts, that’s just how it is. Most of it came to us dressed up as fact, and most of it is quietly wrecking our sex lives.
This week I sit down with Natasha Sinjanovic, an award-winning journalist, former NPR producer, and creator of the podcast Wo...
How To Explore Fantasy Together & Reignite Your Sex Life
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If your bedroom has gone quiet, settled into the same couple of moves on the same couple of nights, the fastest way back to heat isn’t a new position or a new toy. It’s fantasy. This week I’m giving you real, do-it-tonight tools for exploring fantasy together: how to figure out what your fantasies actually are (even if your honest answer right now is “I don’t know”), how to share them in a way that feels safe instead of scary, and a whole menu of low-pressure ways to start playing toge...
What Kind of Dom Are You? Every Type Explained.
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Think a dom is just leather, whips, and someone kneeling on the floor? You’re missing almost everything.
Dominance isn’t one thing, it’s a whole spectrum, and this week I’m decoding all of it with Amanda Dames, better known as The Kink Consultant: a certified somatic sex and relationship coach, certified sexologist, and former professional dominatrix who’s been featured in Cosmopolitan and Women’s Health. Together we break down every type of dom so you can finally figure out which kind you are, or which kind you’re looking for...
The 10 Most Common Kinks (You’re More Normal Than You Think)
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What gets you off probably isn’t nearly as rare as you think.
We’re halfway through Kinktober, so this week I’m pulling back the curtain on the 10 most common kinks, from the mild to the wild, with real science-backed research along the way. I’m talking BDSM, foot fetishes, cuckolding, exhibitionism, furries, sploshing, sensory deprivation, medical play, age play, and yes, balloon-loving looners. Some of these will surprise you, some will make you laugh, and at least one will probably make you feel a lot more normal than you expected...
How to Fix a Dead Bedroom: A 31-Day Plan to Reignite Desire
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Your sex life isn't broken, it's just gone quiet. And quiet is fixable.
This week I'm handing you an actual plan: a 31-day sex challenge to reignite desire, reconnect, and get curious again, no dramatic overhaul, no painful heart-to-heart, just one small, low-pressure invitation at a time. My guest is Alicia Sinclair, a certified sex educator with nearly 25 years in intimate wellness, founder and CEO of COTR (the company behind B-Vibe and Le Wand), and 2026 XBIZ Sexpert of the Year. Together we built you a real calendar you can follow, one...
Nipplegasm: How to Have an Orgasm From Nipple Play
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Yes, nipple orgasms are real, and you can learn to have one.
This week I'm breaking down the nipplegasm: a full orgasm, felt in the genitals, that starts entirely from nipple play. I had my first one through my own self-pleasure practice, so everything here comes from real experience plus the research. No gear required to start, and it works on any body with nipples.
In this episode, I break down:
What a nipplegasm actually is, and the brain science that makes it possibleThe step-by-step: setting the mood...How to Build a Dom/Sub Dynamic Into Everyday Life (No Cuffs Required)
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Most people think dominance and submission means a dungeon full of gear, and they never get past the shopping list.
This week I'm showing you the part that actually builds the heat. This is a foundational episode with power-exchange couple Auntie Carmen, the Desire Midwife, and her dom Linwood, the "dom domestic" who cooks, runs the house, and hands the power right back to her. You almost never get both halves of a real D/S couple in one room being this honest, and they hold nothing back (there's a zucchini...
20 Ways to Touch a Clit (& The One That Matters Most!)
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Most people know exactly one way to touch a clit, and they run it into the ground.
This week I'm giving you twenty. This is the third in my clitoral pleasure set, right alongside my fingering guide and my yoni massage guide, and now that I'm off YouTube I get to be completely direct with you. No code, no tiptoeing, just the real, explicit how-to, from the softest warm-up all the way to the finish.
In this episode, I break down:
The indirect moves that get her off...Cocks on Lockdown: How to Do Locktober (with Dominatrix Lucy)
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Curious about male chastity but have no idea where to start? This one's your guide. My resident dominatrix Lucy is back, and for the first time she's on camera showing the gear, to walk us through Locktober: the month-long challenge of keeping a cock locked up.
We get into what male chastity actually is, why people love it (more affection, more anticipation, and yes, more chores getting done), and the part most people rush: how to choose a cage that actually fits without hurting anyone. Lucy breaks down the different cage...
Male Chastity 101: Can You Handle the Cage? (Locktober)
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What if the hottest thing he could do for you was not come?
That's the whole dare of Locktober, and this week I'm walking you through male chastity from the ground up. It's one of the most misunderstood kinks out there, and also one of the most magnetic, because when you stop treating his orgasm as the finish line, sex turns into a shared playground and a whole lot of couples say they've never felt closer or more connected.
This one's for the curious on both sides of the...
One of You Wants Sex. One of You Doesn't. Here's How to Fix It
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One of you wants sex. One of you doesn't. And somewhere along the way, that gap stopped being a difference and turned into a fight you keep having with your clothes on. Here's what nobody tells you: the gap was never the problem. It's the two stories you each start telling — one of you hears "you don't want me anymore," the other hears "you only want me for sex and you don't see everything I'm carrying." Both of you feel powerless. Both of you decide the other one is what's broken.
Th...
Pegging For Beginners: A Couple's Guide
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Everybody assumes wanting this says something about who he is. It doesn't. He's got a prostate loaded with nerve endings — his own version of the spot everybody obsesses over in women — and it's been sitting there his whole life while he drove right past it.
This week I'm handing you the couple's beginner guide to pegging. It's up 200% among straight couples, and the men brave enough to try it are having some of the deepest, most full-body orgasms of their lives. This one's for both of you — the partner curious about receiv...
What a Male Escort Knows About Her Desire That Most Men Don't
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There are things women want in bed they'll never say out loud — not to their husband, not to their boyfriend, not to anyone who actually knows them. But they'll say them to George. Women pay him for his time, but really they're paying for something else: a space safe enough to finally name a desire they've been holding their whole lives. And the thing he does to create that safety? Anyone can learn it.
This week I sit down with George Goulburn — a professional male companion who left a 25-yea...
How to Give Face Sitting So Good She Never Wants to Get Up | The Giver's Masterclass
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Everybody assumes the person on top has all the power. And sure — she's up there, she's on the throne, she's in charge. But the partner flat on his back underneath? He's the reason she wants to climb up there again, and again, and again.
This week I'm handing you the giver's masterclass. If your whole plan when someone sits on your face is to hold still and hope, you're wasting the single hottest position you've got access to — because when she's up there, you get better access, a better angle, and ever...
The Scent of a Woman: Everything You Should Know About Her Vagina
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Almost every woman has wondered it in silence: Is my scent normal? Do I taste okay? Is something wrong with me down there? Almost none of us were ever given the information to answer — so we carry the worry straight into the bedroom, where it quietly steals our confidence and our pleasure. This week, we fix that. This is the owner's manual nobody handed you.
I sit down with Wendy Strgar — vaginal microbiome health expert, lovologist, and founder of Good Clean Love, the company she started in her own kitc...
Double Penetration: Everything You've Been Too Afraid to Ask
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Sixty percent of people have fantasized about being filled two ways at once — and almost nobody says it out loud. This week, I'm changing that.
This is your complete, no-shame beginner's guide to double penetration. I'm breaking down what it actually is, the real anatomy behind why it feels so intense (there's a reason it hits differently than anything else), and why it's just as good for the giving partner as the one receiving. Then I walk you through the whole staircase — how to explore it safely by yourself first, how to b...
Help Me Save Talk Sex With Annette (YouTube Took It Down)
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Surrender: The Secret to Her Best Orgasms (Why She Can't Let Go)
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She holds it all together all day — the job, the kids, the house, everyone’s emotional weather. Then she gets into bed and still can’t stop managing. And orgasm requires the one thing she’s trained herself never to do: let go.
This week I sit down with Regina Thomashauer, better known as Mama Gena, founder of the School of Womanly Arts, New York Times bestselling author of Pussy: A Reclamation, and author of the new book On Our Knees. We get into why control quietly costs a woman he...
5 Things Men Are Told About Sex That Are Killing Her Desire
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There's an entire ocean of online content teaching men about sex and women — and a huge amount of it is written by people who have no idea what they're talking about. Today I'm grading five pieces of the worst advice men are being fed, and giving you what actually works instead.
Savage on the advice. Kind to the men who got fed it.
What you'll learn:
✔ Why "make her chase you" builds anxiety, not attraction
✔ The size-and-pounding myth, and the anatomy fact that dismantles it
✔ The lab study t...
Cock Worship: The Bedroom Move That's Hot for BOTH of You
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Everybody knows men want to be worshipped in bed. That's not news. The real question — the one nobody asks — is what's in it for the person doing the worshipping.
Because done right, cock worship isn't a favor. It isn't service with a fake smile. It's one of the hottest things you can do for your own pleasure — slow, powerful, deeply erotic, and the giver holds all the control.
Elle and Vee from Girls Gone Deep join me to break it all down: what phallus worship actually is, why it feels...
How to Give Her a Cervical Orgasm She'll Feel Everywhere
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The cervical orgasm is often described as the deepest, most full-body climax a woman can experience — and it's the one the fewest people know how to reach. First studied in depth by researchers mapping how different kinds of stimulation affect the brain, it turns out the cervix has its own distinct pleasure pathway, wired directly to the brain through the vagus nerve.
This is a complete educational guide to understanding it — including the safety essentials most videos leave out.
What you'll learn:
✔ What a cervical orgasm is and why...
The Kinks Couple's Secretly Want & How to Actually Try Them
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Every couple has them — the things they're curious about but have never said out loud. Today we're pulling them into the light.
Deborah Kat — certified tantric educator, relationship coach, and host of the Better Sex podcast — walks us through the three categories couples are most curious about right now, and the part that matters most: exactly how to bring them up with your partner without it landing weird or killing the mood.
In this episode:
The three pillars of couple's play — and what each one really gives youThe differen...THE A-SPOT: HER DEEPEST ORGASM (AND HOW TO REACH IT)
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The A-spot, or anterior fornix, is a deep erogenous zone on the front vaginal wall that many people have never learned about. First identified in clinical research in 1997, it's associated with increased natural lubrication, heightened arousal, and deeper, more full-body pleasure. This is a complete educational guide to understanding and locating it — whether you're exploring your own body or learning with a partner.
What you'll learn:
✔ What the A-spot is and where it's located, according to the research
✔ Why arousal is essential to accessing this zone comfortably
✔ How the clitori...
The Good Girl Trap: Why So Many Women Never Feel Sexually Free
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What if the woman you're with isn't "low libido" or "vanilla" at all?
What if she's spent her entire life being taught that wanting sex, enjoying pleasure, or expressing desire makes her a "bad woman"?
In this eye-opening conversation, I'm joined by sexologist and researcher Chanelle Jolly Marshall to unpack the hidden cultural conditioning that keeps so many women disconnected from their sexuality—and how it quietly impacts relationships, desire, intimacy, and pleasure.
We dive into:
Why so many women struggle to access their desireThe "Good Gi...Say This And Unleash Her Kinky Side! the Dirty Talk Cheat Sheet!
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Almost every woman has a kinky side she's never shown you — not because she doesn't trust you, but because she's waiting to find out if it's safe. This is the cheat sheet for using your words to unlock her fantasies.
What you'll learn:
✔ The opener that gets her to share the fantasy she's never said out loud
✔ Why "what if" is the most powerful two-word phrase for unlocking her desires
✔ Why feeling understood — not the filthiest line — is what actually turns her on
✔ Exactly what to say once you're in bed...
She Built an AI Lover to Heal. Then Had the Best Sex of Her Life
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What if AI could actually help you heal your sex life — and have the best sex of your life on the other side?
Women recovering from sexual trauma, bad relationships, and years of performing instead of feeling are turning to AI sexual companions — and what's happening is not what anyone expected. Today's guest didn't just use one. She built one. Morgan Hewett — two-time founder, former Meta, Harvard Business School grad, and founder and CEO of Devin — joins me to break down what these companions actually are, why women are turning to them, an...
How to Beat Performance Anxiety in Bed — The 5-Move Reset
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The harder you try to make it work, the worse it gets — and that's not in your head, it's how your body is wired. An erection runs on the calm half of your nervous system, so the second you start monitoring it, you kill it. This is the five-move reset that gets you out of your head and back into your body, tonight.
What you'll learn:
✔ How to crowd out the anxious thoughts instead of fighting them
✔ Where to aim your attention so arousal actually shows up
✔ The one sentenc...
How to Get Her Wet Again: A Gynecologist's Fix for Midlife Sex
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She starts avoiding sex. He takes it personally. Nobody says a word. That silence has a name — the Bedroom Gap — and the gynecologist who coined the term is here with the fix.
Dr. Maria Sophocles — board-certified gynecologist with 30 years in menopause and female sexual health, author of The Bedroom Gap, and TED speaker with 1.3M+ views — breaks down exactly what's happening in her body, why his fix (the pill) made her problem worse, and how to bring pleasure back at any age.
In this episode:
What menopause actually does to...What To Do After You Come — She's Hoping You Know This
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Round two isn't just possible — it might be the best sex she's ever had. Even if you already finished, even if you finished before she did, the night isn't over. This episode is the full playbook for the second half: the real science of the recovery window, why it's more in your control than you think, what to do the moment you soften, and the one thing to do in round one that makes going again effortless.
What you'll learn:
✔ Why you naturally last longer in round two — and how to use...
Why Powerful Men Pay a Dominatrix to Take Control (Most Men Will Never Admit This)
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Mistress Marley — professional dominatrix, financial domination specialist, and founder of Haus of Dominance, where she's taught over 10,000 students — breaks down what men are actually paying for, what submission really means, and how to explore giving up control in your own bedroom.
In this episode:
What a dominatrix actually does — and what a real session looks likeWhy the loudest "alpha males" online are her biggest clientsThe difference between submission and weaknessHow women can find their inner dominant (starting with yourself)How to bring power play into your bedroom — or find a professi...5 Steps to Anal She'll Actually Love (Most Couples Rush #1)
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Anal is one of the most searched sex topics on the internet — and one of the least talked about in actual bedrooms. Everyone's curious. Almost nobody's saying it out loud.
This episode is for both of you: the woman who's curious and never said it, and the partner who wants to ask without making it weird. The conversation (including the ten seconds that decide everything), the safety rules nobody explains properly, why her body is genuinely wired to love this, and the five steps from curious to craving it — on her time...
She Checks Out During Sex. Here's Why — And How to Bring Her Back
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You've felt it. That moment mid-sex when she goes somewhere you can't follow. She's still moving — but she's gone. It's called dissociation. It's not about you, it's not about attraction, and it's not permanent.
Vanessa Cushing — AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and founder of Cushing Counseling and Sex Therapy Pro — breaks down what's actually happening and how to bring her back. And this one took a turn I didn't expect: men dissociate too. It just looks completely different.
In this episode:
The signs she's checked out — and the very differen...The 5-Step Mouth & Hands Technique for Blended Orgasms
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In this episode, we break down the 5-step Mouth & Hands technique for blended orgasms—a simple, intentional way to combine oral and manual stimulation so the experience feels more connected, more consistent, and more intense.
Most people switch between techniques instead of combining them. But when you learn how to coordinate your mouth and hands, everything changes in how her arousal builds and how her body responds.
I walk you through:
Why switching between techniques can interrupt pleasure How blended orgasms work in a practical, understandable way ...Bi Girls Guide To Better Sex: Inside Secrets That Blow Her Mind
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Two bi women. One podcast. A real guide to better sex built from the inside out.
Bi women know something about pleasuring women that most people never figure out. Because they've been on both sides — they know what it feels like to receive, and they know what it takes to give it well. That combination is a cheat code. And today we're handing it over.
Samia Mounts — queer, non-binary writer, actor, and host of Happy Slut podcast — joins me to share what bi and pan women know about the female b...
5 Spanking Fantasies She Has — And Exactly How to Give Her Each One
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Up to 60% of women have fantasized about being dominated — and almost none of them have said it out loud.
This one's for the men who want to deliver what she's been replaying in her head and never asked for. Five spanking fantasies, the psychology behind each, and exactly how to make them land sexy instead of awkward — including how to talk about it first, how to keep it safe, and the aftercare most men skip.
What you'll learn:
✔ How to bring i...
Pegging Is Up 200% Among Straight Men Here's Why & How to Do It
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He's googling it at 2 AM and erasing his search history. Because he still thinks wanting to be pegged means something about who he is. It doesn't. And tonight we're blowing that myth wide open.
Interest in pegging among straight men is up 200% according to Feeld's 2025 annual report. Not in some dark corner of the internet — on mainstream dating apps. Men are putting it on their sexual bucket lists, bringing it up on second dates, and still going silent when it matters most. Today I sat down with Luna Matatas — sex and plea...
How to Make Her Come From Penetration — Maybe for the First Time in Her Life
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82% of women don't reliably come from penetration alone. Here's what's actually missing — and the five moves that fix it.
If she's never finished while you're inside her, it's not her body and it's not yours. It's anatomy. And once you understand it, everything changes.
What you'll learn:
✔ Why the clitoris has to be fully aroused before penetration even starts
✔ How to change your angle so her clitoris gets contact on every stroke
✔ Why you keep losing her right when she's about to get there — and how to stop
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She's Reading Smut Instead of Having Sex with You — Here's Why
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She's not hiding her book because she's embarrassed. She's hiding it because what she's reading is giving her something her sex life isn't — and nobody's asking what that means for your relationship.
Romance is the fastest-growing category in print. 51 million units sold in the last year. One in four NYT hardcover fiction bestsellers was romantasy. Women aren't casually reading this stuff. They're consuming it. Today I sat down with Carolyn Hood — certified sex therapist, licensed clinical social worker, and author of Sex Begets Sex: Reclaiming Desire as an Act of Female Empo...
Perimenopause Killed Her Orgasm — 5 Moves to Get It Back
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A listener wrote in: "I'm 47 years old and going through perimenopause. Previously I would orgasm with my husband 90-95% of the time. Now I only orgasm 5-10% of the time."
She's not alone. Roughly half of all women experience orgasm changes during perimenopause — and almost none are told why or what to do about it. This episode covers the physiology behind the shift, the medical options most women don't know exist (including why the FDA just reversed 20 years of warnings about hormone therapy), and the five moves that bring pleasure back.
...Role Play 101: From Cringe to Craving
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97% of adults have sexual fantasies. Less than a third ever act on them. The fear is almost never accurate — and in this episode, we're closing the gap between what you want and what you actually do.
I'll be honest: role play has always given me the ick. So I brought in Emma Velicski — romance author and founder of Saturday Box, the company turning kink and role play into a game you can actually play with your partner — to figure out why so many of us freeze, and how to finally get starte...
