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It's Masturbation May — and I'm giving you the practice that will upgrade your sex life more than any new position, any new toy, any new technique.

Mutual masturbation. Touching yourselves at the same time, in the same bed, watching each other.

It removes the pressure to deliver an orgasm. It builds the connection most couples are missing. It shows you exactly what works on each other's bodies. And it lets you both discover new pleasure together.

What you'll learn: ✔ Why this practice fixes the orgasm pressure problem most...

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Please stop fucking us hard. Seriously. That's the message — and if you heard it in Suzanne Noble's voice during this episode, you already know why it hit so hard.

Suzanne is the host of Sex Advice for Seniors — nearly 200K followers, 180+ episodes, and the most unfiltered voice on intimacy and aging out there. She and I got into everything: why your arousal pattern changes after 50 and what to do about it, what men in their sixties are getting wrong in bed (and the one thing they could change tonight), why women who...

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Does she grab your hair like she forgot her own name? Does she text you at 2 AM the next day because her body won't stop replaying it? If not, the gap between what you're doing and what would make her lose her mind is just 7 moves nobody ever taught you.

This episode gives you 7 moves she's never felt before. Not because they're complicated — because nobody teaches past the basics.

What you'll learn: ✔ You're only hitting 20% of her nerve endings — the tongue fix that changes that ✔ Why your hands are either d...

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There are one night stands you forget before you've brushed your teeth — and there are one night stands you're still thinking about years later. Today we're breaking down the difference.

Zachary Zane — author of Boy Slut, Men's Health sex columnist, and Grindr's official sex and relationship expert — joins me to map out exactly how to have a one night stand that actually lives up to the fantasy. From the mental prep most people skip, to where to find the right person, to what happens in the room that makes it unforgettable — we're co...

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You watched How to F*ck Slower. You tried it. Then you lost your erection and panicked. This is the fix.

Slowing down is the single best thing you can do for her pleasure — but nobody talks about what happens to you when you do it. Your brain speeds up, your body gets nervous, and you lose the one thing you need to stay in the game. This episode breaks down exactly how to stay hard, stay present, and become the man who can go slow without flinching.

What yo...

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Most couples stumble into bed hoping their bodies will figure it out. They don't. Because nobody's talking about who's leading, who's surrendering — or whether you're both fighting for the same role.

Today's guest is Sarah Perry — certified somatic sex educator, sexological body worker, and founder of Haven Space Coaching. She holds a master's in psychology and a background in women, gender, and sexuality studies. Sarah works with people through the body to help them understand what they actually want in bed without the shame.

We're breaking down:

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You've been misreading her in bed. The loudest sounds she makes? Those aren't for her. Research shows the majority of women vocalize to speed up his finish — not because they're in pleasure. Meanwhile, the sounds that actually mean she's deep in it? Most men miss them completely.

In this episode, I break down the five real sounds she makes during sex — what each one actually means and the exact move to make when you hear it. This isn't theory. This is a playbook.

🔥 What you'll learn: → The "sound" most men mista...

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What is bimboification — and why are so many people hiding it? Sex and relationship coach Niki Davis-Fainbloom breaks down one of the most misunderstood fetishes out there, where it comes from, and how to explore it in your relationship without the shame spiral. Because the fetish isn't the problem. The shame is.

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She's not withholding. She's not checked out. And it has nothing to do with how long you've been together.

Here's what's actually happening: every time you touch her, kiss her, pull her close — she can feel that it has a destination. And when desire always has a destination, she stops being in the moment and starts managing the arc. So she waits. Every time.

What she's craving is a partner who is just as hungry for the moments between sex as he is for sex itself. That shift — when she...

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You think you know what a fetish is — leather, feet, something you scroll past. But the cultural conversation leads with the weird and skips the why. Today we're flipping that.

Jessica Renard — licensed professional counselor, sex therapist at StorieBrook Associates, and a therapist who works directly within the kink communities in Georgia — breaks down the fetishes that actually show up in relationships and the therapist's office. What's happening in the brain, the body, and the relationship when someone has one? And what do you do when you or your partner has a feti...

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Most men are completely silent during sex. And that silence is costing you more than you realize.

Surveys suggest that roughly 3 out of 4 women say verbal affirmation during sex increases their arousal and orgasm intensity. But it's not just about saying nice things — it's about pairing specific words with specific physical moves at exactly the right moment. That combination does something to her body that neither one can do alone.

In this episode, I'm giving you 5 praise kink moves — each one a phrase paired with a physical technique — that make s...

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Is he a sex addict — or does he just want it more than you? The term gets thrown around constantly, but most people have no idea what it actually means. In this episode, I sit down with marriage and family therapist Kate Logan — who specializes in compulsive sexual behavior at the Center for Healthy Sex in Los Angeles — to finally draw the line between high libido, kink, and genuine sexual compulsivity.

We get into:

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She's thought about faking it. Statistically, she probably has.

Between 58–80% of women have faked an orgasm — not once, but regularly, with partners they actually cared about. Most of those men never knew. If you want to be the exception, this episode is for you.

This isn't about blame. It's about understanding what actually creates faking — and the specific things you can do to change it.

What you'll learn: 

✔ The 6 real reasons women fake it (none of them are what you think) 
✔ Why "just ask her...

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Men's sexual shame doesn't look like what you think. It's not about a secret kink. It's the guy jackhammering away thinking that's what success looks like. The one who won't make eye contact. The one who avoids dating entirely — not because he doesn't want connection, but because his nervous system won't let him get close.

I sit down with Alex Gear — men's intimacy anxiety coach who never experienced sober sex until he got sober three years ago — to unpack what sexual shame is actually doing to your sex life and what you ca...

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She's been waiting for you to figure this out.

For a huge number of women, watching a confident man willingly submit to her is one of the most erotic experiences that exists. Not a weak man — a man who is secure enough to give her complete control and trust her to lead.

This episode is about real submission. Not performing. Not topping from the bottom. Actually letting go.

What you'll learn:

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She didn't lose her desire. She quietly quit it. Sex therapist and author Colette Jane Fehr joins Annette to break down why women emotionally and erotically check out of relationships long before anyone notices — and what it actually takes to come back. If you've been going through the motions, or you've watched your partner disappear and had no idea why, this one's for you.

In this episode:

*What quiet quitting your sex life actually looks like in the bedroom
*Why emotional disconnection kills physical desire — and which goes firs...

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She's thought about it. More than once. Maybe every time.

And she's decided you'll never know — because asking feels impossible, and hoping you'll figure it out on your own hasn't worked.

This episode is about the five dominance moves women consistently fantasize about and almost never get. Not because their partners wouldn't do them, but because no one ever taught them what real dominance actually looks like.

This is for the men who want to be the person she feels safe enough to surrender to. And for th...

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She didn't set out to build a six-figure business. She got pregnant — and discovered one of OnlyFans' most profitable and least talked-about kinks.

Australian mom and content creator Emily Mai joins Annette to talk about what actually happens when a woman refuses to become sexually invisible after motherhood. We're getting into pregnancy kinks, lactation content, belly fetishes, and the real psychology behind why society loses its mind when mothers stay sexually embodied — and profitable.

This one goes places most people won't.

In this episode:

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She's thought about it. More than once. Maybe a hundred times.

And she's decided you'll never know.

Not because she doesn't trust you — because she's been taught her whole life that wanting certain things makes her too much. This episode is about the five kinks women most commonly carry in silence, the shame that keeps them there, and what you can actually do to become someone it feels safe to tell.

What you'll learn: ✔ The 5 kinks women fantasize about and rarely share — and the real psycho...

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Most people think relationships fail because someone stopped trying, cheated, or they just picked wrong. But what if relationships follow a predictable pattern — and most of us are sabotaging them at the exact same stage without even knowing it?

In this episode, I sit down with Thais Gibson — founder of Personal Development School, bestselling author, and one of the world's leading experts on attachment theory — to break down the six stages every relationship moves through, why most collapse at stage three, and what your attachment style is actually doing to your love l...

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Most men assume she just doesn't enjoy it. Most women wonder why they want to sometimes and absolutely don't other times.

The truth is more interesting — and more fixable — than either of them thinks.

In this episode, sex and intimacy coach Annette Benedetti breaks down the psychology and neuroscience behind female desire, and gives you 6 specific, research-backed things you can do to shift the dynamic entirely.

This isn't about pressure, persuasion, or performance. It's about understanding how desire actually works — and showing up differently because of it.

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What if orgasms were about more than just pleasure?

In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m joined by Venus O’Hara—author, sexual wellness expert, and host of the Orgasmic Lifestyle Podcast—to explore the O Method, also known as orgasmic manifestation.

We break down:

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Most advice about sexual attraction is either vague, manipulative, or flat-out wrong.

This episode isn’t about tricks, lines, or “alpha” posturing.
 It’s about what actually creates sexual attraction — in real bodies, real moments, and real connection.

In this episode, I break down five specific things that reliably make women feel sexually attracted, based on psychology, nervous-system science, and what women consistently respond to — not what dating culture thinks they should.

You’ll learn:

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This Talk Sex With Annette topic takes the show back to its roots when it was just a girl's sex talk podcast.

For too long, women’s most honest conversations about sex have happened in whispers — in group chats, locker rooms, and over wine when no one’s listening.

But what happens when we stop whispering?

In this episode, I sit down with writer and pleasure activist Tash Doherty, the bold voice behind Miseducated, to talk about what women really say about sex when you’re not in the r...

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Touching her breasts should feel erotic — but for a lot of people, it ends up feeling rushed, mechanical, or oddly disconnected.

In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I break down 9 ways to touch her breasts that most guys skip — not because they don’t care, but because no one ever taught them how breast pleasure actually works.

We’ll talk about:

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With the Epstein files back in the headlines, many people are noticing a shift in desire and connection. This unscheduled drop explores how collective stories of abuse and betrayal impact the nervous system — and why libido is often the first thing to go quiet when safety feels uncertain.

In this episode, we talk about:

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 Two years ago, this topic became one of my most-listened-to episodes—so we’re bringing it back.

In Part 2, I’m joined by two sex-positive women from different age groups to answer the questions men keep asking and go deeper than before.

We cover:

We also kick things off wit...

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Why do so many women lose interest in sex—and why is the blame so often placed on them?

In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, Annette is joined by Dr. Trina Read to unpack what women are really saying when they say, “I just don’t want sex anymore.”

We talk about:

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In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m breaking down three specific positions that are more orgasm-friendly by design—because they support anatomy, nervous system regulation, and clitoral engagement instead of rushing straight to penetration and hoping for the best.

And I want to be clear right from the start:
 This episode exists because my audience voted for it.

Every week, I run a poll on my YouTube channel where you help decide which how-to I cover next.
 If you wa...

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We talk about blowjobs like they’re a performance — like there’s a “right way,” a secret move, or something you’re supposed to magically know.

But most advice doesn’t actually make oral sex feel better.
 It just makes people anxious.

In this episode, I’m joined by Girls Gone Deep for a real, explicit, shame-free conversation about giving oral sex that actually feels incredible — without porn scripts, pressure, or performative nonsense.

We talk about:
 – Where confidence actually comes from
– Why enthusiasm matters more...

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Foreplay shouldn’t feel inconsistent.

If you’ve ever taken your time and still felt like her body wasn’t fully responding — this episode is for you. And if you’ve ever wanted to be into it but felt tense or distracted instead, this one’s for you too.

In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I break down 9 foreplay moves most guys skip — not because they don’t care, but because no one ever taught them how arousal actually works.

We’ll talk about why foreplay...

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In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we explore why solo pleasure is becoming a major cultural shift—and how it’s actually improving partnered sex, not replacing it.

Joined by Sarah Tomchesson, Certified Intimacy Coach and Director of Marketing at Magic Wand, we break down insights from the 2026 Sexual Wellness Trends Report based on data from 1,000 participants. The findings reveal how solo sex supports desire, confidence, nervous system regulation, and deeper intimacy with partners.

We cover:

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Losing an erection during intimacy is far more common than people admit — but what you do next is what actually defines great lovers.

In this episode, I walk you through exactly what to do when an erection is lost, how to stay confident and connected in the moment, and how to continue sex in a way that still deeply satisfies her.

Because sex isn’t penetration-based — it’s presence-based.

This is a grounded, science-informed how-to that shows you how to:

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Every January, men promise to fix their bodies and stop worrying about performance in bed. But what if trying harder is actually the problem?

In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we dive into the 2026 Sex Reset for Men with sex and relationship coach Caitlin V, host of Good Sex on Discovery+ and HBO Max, and author of Harder, Better, Longer, Stronger.

We explore why performance anxiety disrupts confidence, arousal, and connection, how the nervous system plays a bigger role than most men realize...

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Most people think they know how the clitoris works.
 They don’t.

In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I break down the one clit move that quietly kills orgasms—and the simple shift that changes everything.

We’re talking about why overstimulation backfires, how the nervous system actually responds to touch, and what creates arousal that builds instead of shuts down.

If orgasms feel inconsistent, muted, or harder to reach than they used to be, this episode will change how you think about p...

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In 2022, I made a decision that changed my life.

I committed to 365 Days of Orgasms — and what began as a personal experiment became a radical return to pleasure, embodiment, and self-trust.

In this episode, I’m inviting you into a new version of that journey for 2026:

365 Days of Orgasms: Pleasure Is the Resolution.

This is not a challenge.
It’s a daily pleasure practice and an erotic journey designed to help you reconnect with your body, your desire, and your sense of aliveness — without pressure...

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When sex starts feeling like work, it’s not because desire is broken.

It’s because the body has learned to brace.

In this episode, I teach a five-minute pleasure practice that helps the body relax out of performance mode and back into genuine arousal — without pressure, goals, or trying to “make” anything happen.

This is the exact kind of practice I’ll be guiding inside 365 Days of Orgasms, my upcoming daily pleasure journey for 2026.

You’ll learn:

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Every year we promise ourselves more sex, better performance, or more confidence — and every year those goals quietly fall apart.

In this episode, I’m joined by sex educator Goody Howard to talk about a different approach to sexual resolutions for 2026 — one that focuses on intention, education, and pleasure that actually lasts.

This isn’t about pressure or porn-inspired goals. It’s about setting sexual intentions that support your body, deepen intimacy, and create better sex, not just more of it — in and out of the bedroom...

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If you’ve ever worried that pleasure depends on size, this episode will completely change how you think about intimacy.

In this video, Annette breaks down three sex positions that feel incredible—no matter your size—because they work with anatomy, angle, rhythm, and the nervous system, not performance pressure.

This is not about going harder, deeper, or faster.
It’s about understanding what actually helps bodies respond, relax, and experience more pleasure.

You’ll learn:

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What if the best sex of your life starts after 50?

In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m joined by the sex educator behind Taboo to Truth, Karen Bigman to talk about why women over 50 are becoming more confident, more curious, and more sexually adventurous than ever.

We break down the myths about aging and desire—and explore how self-knowledge, confidence, and freedom from old expectations create a powerful midlife sexual glow-up. From bolder communication to increased curiosity around pleasure and exploration, this conv...