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Let’s talk about one of the most craved beginner kinks—spanking—and why most people are doing it completely wrong.

In this episode, I break down the art and psychology of erotic spanking: how to build anticipation, where to touch before you strike, and how to use your hand to sting, seduce, and satisfy. You’ll learn how to read her body’s response in real time, avoid common mistakes, and make it so good she’ll beg you not to stop.

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Licensed clinical social worker and poly coach Emily Lambert Robins joins me for a no‑fluff guide on coming out as polyamorous—gracefully. We unpack the most common slip‑ups, why it can feel scarier than coming out LGBTQ+, and the essential conversations you need to have before going public. You’ll hear real scripts to make the moment smoother, wild reaction stories (and how to handle them), plus how to address family, partners, and fears around losing it all. If you’re curious about a more expansive way to love, this episode gives you...

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We’ve been taught that power is all about being on top. But I’m here to show you why missionary—yes, missionary—is a secret dom move when you know how to work it. This episode is all about owning the position we were told to just lie there in. Because power? It’s not about where your body is. It’s about your intention.

You’ll learn:
• How to control the angle, rhythm, and pace from below
• Verbal cues that act like erotic commands
• Why eye contact, moaning, an...

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Think gender is just “man” or “woman”—and anything else is made up?
 Then this conversation is for you.

Because understanding gender-expansive identities isn’t about being “woke” or politically correct—it’s about being human. About expanding your capacity for empathy, connection, and truth.

In this episode, I’m joined by Kate S. Logan, a Marriage & Family Therapist Associate at Gender Wellness Los Angeles. Kate specializes in working with gender-expansive clients and guiding people through identity, relationships, and radical self-expression.

We’re diving into:
 🧠 What “gender...

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You’ve been doing cowgirl all wrong—and no, it’s not your fault.

Most people are never taught how to ride in a way that actually feels good, builds orgasmic rhythm, and keeps your partner completely wrecked beneath you. That ends today.

In this episode, I’m breaking down 4 powerful cowgirl techniques that make you feel confident, connected, and absolutely unforgettable on top. You’ll learn:

✨ How to ride for your pleasure (and why it leads to stronger orgasms)
🔥 The difference between rocking, bouncing, swive...

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You thought dating women would be easier? Think again.

This Pride Month, I’m pulling back the sheets on what it really looks like when women date women. Spoiler alert: it’s not just soft touches, flannel, and U-Hauls. There’s bi-phobia, late-in-life confusion, misread signals, and emotional landmines no one warned us about. But there’s also unmatched heat, intimacy, and magic—when you know what you’re doing.

In this collab episode, I’m joined by Dr. Frankie Bashan, clinical psychologist, sex therapist, and queer matchmaker ext...

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This Pride Month, we’re celebrating one of the most iconic, empowering, and downright delicious acts: face sitting. Whether you call it queening, throne work, or just your favorite seat in the house—this episode is your step-by-step guide to doing it with confidence, control, and unapologetic joy.

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Can you be a mom and a sexual being?
Our culture loves moms—as long as they’re selfless, sleepless, and silent about their desire. But what happens when a mother wants to reclaim her seductress energy?

In this raw and radically honest episode, I’m joined by licensed therapist Emma Shandy Anway to take a wrecking ball to the Madonna/Whore complex and everything it’s done to women’s sex lives.

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Most men go straight for missionary, or cowgirl—and completely miss the one position that practically hands her an orgasm on a silver platter.

In this episode, I’m walking you through the best sex position you’re probably not using—and exactly why it works. We’re talking G-spot access, A-spot pressure, clit contact without a circus of props or acrobatics.

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You’ve heard the whispers. Maybe even fantasized about it. But what actually happens behind closed doors at high-end sex parties?

In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we’re pulling back the velvet curtain with special guest Shannon Wong—a performer, kink educator, and fierce advocate for sex-positive, female-led spaces. From her roots as a SuicideGirl and burlesque dancer to curating experiences in the world of ethical non-monogamy, Shannon gives us the inside scoop on what really goes down at elite sex events—and how women are changing...

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You think she wants you because of how good you were during sex?

Think again.

What you do after sex is what sets you apart—and makes her crave you all over again.

In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we’re flipping the script and diving into what happens in the 5 minutes after you come. Because that window? It’s not downtime—it’s prime time.

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You’ve heard the jokes. Seen it in porn. Maybe even whispered about it with a friend.
 But fisting—when done right—isn’t about shock. It’s about trust, surrender, and full-body pleasure that goes way deeper than you think.

In this episode, I’m joined by sex therapist Chelsea Newton, and we’re diving into the truth about vaginal fisting:
What it really feels like, why it’s healing for so many women and queer folks, and how to explore it safely—with confidence, consent, and a whole lot of...

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This is your step-by-step guide to vaginal fisting done right—for real connection, full-body pleasure, and the kind of deep, slow sex that leaves her saying “holy fck.”*

In this episode, I walk you through:
 💦 What fisting actually is (hint: it’s not what you’ve seen online)
 🧠 The science behind why it feels so good
 🔥 How to build up to it with care, trust, and a ton of lube
 🤲 A full technique breakdown—from yoni massage to entry, external stimulation, orgasm, and aftercare
 Plus: how to pull out without...

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Is it true that girth matters more than length? Or is it all in your head… and maybe hers too?
In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, we’re pulling back the sheets on one of the most common questions men obsess over: Am I thick enough?

Joining me is Dr. Amy Pearlman, board-certified urologist and sexual health expert, here to break down the science behind penile girth, sexual satisfaction, and why so many men tie their self-worth to size.

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Turn touch into trust. Grip into pleasure. And make her feel so safe, she’ll come undone in your hands.

Most men think they know how to touch a woman—but if you’ve ever wondered why she isn’t melting into your hands, moaning before the sex even starts, or coming back for more? This episode is your wake-up call.

I’m breaking down the 5 specific steps every man needs to know to handle a woman’s body with confidence, clarity, and emotional precision—from the first touch to the final s...

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Is it sex if you’re just soaking? What about butt stuff? Or dry humping in your underwear?

In this quick follow-up to our viral episode on virginity, I sit down with Dr. Sue Milstein to unpack the wild “workarounds” people use to technically stay virgins… even when they're doing everything but.

We touch on:

This isn’t just about religious shame. It’s about the myths we carry into adulthood — and what happen...

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Ever wonder why your tongue isn't getting the reaction you want down there? In this episode, I'm showing you the real oral sex techniques that make women lose their minds—with step-by-step breakdowns that go way beyond the basic swirl-and-hope-for-the-best.

As a sex and intimacy coach, I’ve talked to hundreds of women about what actually makes oral unforgettable—and spoiler: it’s not about speed or pressure. It’s about rhythm, teasing, tension, and tuning in.

✅ The #1 technique you’re probably skipping
 ✅ How to sync your tongue with her body’s n...

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 What if I told you virginity is a scam—and you’ve been sold a lie that’s screwing with your pleasure, your confidence, and maybe even your relationships? In this no-BS conversation with certified sexologist Dr. Susan Milstein, we unpack the toxic history of virginity, the science that debunks it, and the shame it’s still spreading in bedrooms everywhere. From the myth of the hymen to the double standards that teach women to expect pain instead of pleasure—we're ripping the covers off the kind of sex ed you should have gotten. Whe...

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 Most people think "slow sex" means sweet, romantic, or boring. Wrong. When you master slow sex the right way — the savage, dominant, craving-inducing way — you don't just turn someone on, you burn yourself into their memory. In this episode, I’m breaking down the science behind why fast sex short-circuits orgasmic satisfaction, and how slowing your movements, stacking sensations, and taking full control can leave your partner begging, shaking, and obsessed. Plus, I’ll teach you 5 real-world, research-backed techniques you can use tonight to make someone crave you for days. If you’re ready to tu...

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What if the thing that turns you on the most… is also the thing you’ve been too afraid to admit?

This episode pulls back the curtain on one of the fastest-growing—and most misunderstood—kinks: pregnancy and lactation play. And no, it’s not just a guy thing.

Some women say it’s the sexiest they’ve ever felt. Others say it helped them reclaim their bodies after birth. And for many, it’s about erotic power, healing shame, and exploring deeper levels of intimacy.

My guest, Chelsea N...

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You don’t have to be “kinky” to completely blow her mind—you just need a little curiosity.

In this episode, I’m breaking down 5 beginner-friendly kinks that are: ✅ Easy to try
✅ Expert-approved
✅ And absolutely guaranteed to take your bedroom game from basic to bold

We’re talking praise kink, anal play (yes, for her and you), light restraint, power dynamics, and erotic punishment—all explained in a way that feels approachable, sexy, and real.

These are the kinks she secretly wants… but probably...

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 If you think dating over 40 is just ghosting, gym bros, and endless swiping with no spark—think again. In this episode, I’m joined by Andrea McGinty, the matchmaking powerhouse who’s set up over 33,000 dates and 4,200 marriages. She’s been on Oprah, CNN, and now she’s here to spill the secrets from her new book 2nd Acts: Winning Strategies for Dating Over 40. Whether you're divorced, widowed, or just sick of the apps, Andrea’s insights will flip everything you thought you knew about midlife dating—and show you how to make your next chapt...

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 Most men have no idea just how kinky their partner might secretly be. We've all heard the tired myths—“women aren’t as into sex,” or “guys are the freaky ones.” But here’s the truth: women are just as kinky, just as curious, and often have wild desires they’re too afraid to say out loud. In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m diving into 5 surprising, research-backed kinks that women love—yes, love—that will flip the script on what you think you know. These aren’t your standard fare; we’re talking prima...

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Think women don’t want sex as much as men? Think again. In this episode, I sit down with renowned somatic sex therapist Susan Morgan Taylor to bust one of the most damaging myths about women’s sexuality: that we have a “naturally low libido.” We unpack the real reasons so many women struggle with desire—and spoiler alert—it’s not about hormones or aging. You’ll learn the top causes of low sex drive, how to reignite your partner’s pleasure (or your own), and why rewriting this narrative benefits everyone...

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 Want to turn him into putty in your hands—without saying a word? In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m sharing 14+ playful power moves that will have your man gasping, grinding, and flat-out begging for more. This isn’t about leather whips and dungeon gear (unless you're into that). It’s about seductive control—grip strength, pu$$y pulses, whispered commands, and little things you can do with your voice, your eyes, even your silence—that flip the switch in his brain from “I’ve got this” to “Take me, I’m yours.” Inspired...

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 In this episode, we dive into the complex world of narcissistic relationships with therapist and trauma expert Sonnet Damon. We'll explore the subtle signs of narcissistic abuse, why it's so easy to get caught up in these toxic dynamics, and—most importantly—how to break free and rebuild. Sonnet shares practical tips for healing, from reparenting exercises to setting boundaries and finding your way back to healthy, fulfilling connections. Whether you're questioning your own relationship or supporting someone else, this conversation is a must-listen for reclaiming your power and moving forward. 

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 Want to know the secret to making her beg for more every time? Most guys rush straight to the finish line, but the truth is, women crave longer, more satisfying sessions. Today, I’m sharing four game-changing penetration hacks that are backed by science and designed to keep her moaning for more. Say goodbye to the quickie routine—these moves will have you turning minutes into a pleasure marathon. Let’s dive in!

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 In today’s dating world, women are redefining their personal timelines and taking control of their futures in powerful ways—and one of the most significant trends in this shift is egg freezing. This game-changing decision allows women to pause their biological clocks and approach relationships and family planning on their own terms. But what does it really mean for the dynamics of dating, relationships, and empowerment? Today, we’re diving into the evolving world of egg freezing with April Davis, a renowned relationship expert and luxury matchmaker, to explore how this choice is tran...

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 Ever wonder why the sex after a fight can feel so ridiculously hot? You’re not imagining it—there’s actual science behind that explosive, can’t-keep-your-hands-off-each-other energy that follows a heated argument. In this episode, we’re diving into the psychological and biological reasons why “fight sex” hits different—and how you can recreate that same intensity without the emotional chaos. Whether you're craving more passion, deeper connection, or just a few wild, headboard-banging orgasms, I’ll show you how to harness those same primal, pulse-racing dynamics—minus the drama. 

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 Today, we’re diving into the fine art of going to Pound Town—and no, I don’t mean a new travel destination, but I do mean a trip worth taking. We’re talking about deep, powerful thrusting—how to do it right, how to make it feel insanely good for both of you, and what most people totally screw up. And I won’t be tackling this one alone—my friend Andi is joining me to break it all down. If you want to last longer, hit the right spots, an...

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 Most men think multiple orgasms are only possible for women—but science says otherwise. The truth is, you don’t have to be a “one and done” guy. With the right training, you can separate orgasm from ejaculation, last longer in bed, and experience wave after wave of intense pleasure without losing your erection. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly how to rewire your body for multiple orgasms using science-backed techniques. If you’re ready to level up your sex game and blow your partner’s mind, this is the episode for you. Let’s...

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 Ever feel like dating is just one big, soul-sucking game where you're constantly bending over backward to be what they want—only to end up disappointed again? Turns out, the problem isn’t your profile, your texts, or your date-night strategy—it’s that you’ve been abandoning yourself in the process. In this episode, I sit down with dating coach Marie Thouin to break down mindful dating—a radically different approach that’s all about showing up as your full, unfiltered self so you attract connections that actually fit. We dive into why mainstream...

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 In this episode, I break down 12 powerful sex cues that reveal exactly how to turn her on and keep the passion flowing. From deepening breaths and arching backs to subtle shifts in body language, I’ll teach you how to read her unspoken signals like a pro. Whether she’s melting into pleasure or silently signaling that something’s off, you'll learn how to respond in ways that build connection, trust, and unforgettable intimacy. Tune in to unlock the secrets her body is already telling you! 

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 Most men think turning a woman on is all about physical touch—but what if I told you that the right words could make her crave you, fantasize about you, and get wet just from hearing your voice? In this episode, we’re diving into the science of verbal arousal, breaking down exactly what to say, how to say it, and the biggest mistakes men make that kill the mood. If you’ve ever wondered why some guys have women hanging onto their every word while others get ignored, this is the episode you can...

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 Most men think they know how to turn a woman on—but they’re getting it all wrong. There’s one move that makes women obsessed in bed, and yet almost no one does it. In this episode of Talk Sex with Annette, I’m exposing the game-changing technique that triggers deeper, more intense orgasms than anything else. It’s not just about slowing down—it’s about unlocking a hidden pleasure response in her body that makes her crave you uncontrollably. Plus, I’m revealing a shocking truth from Dr. Laurie Mintz about why most gu...

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 Welcome to "Talk Sex with Annette." Today, we're exploring a topic that's both vital and invigorating: the profound connection between your erections and your overall health. Erectile function isn't just about intimacy; it's a key indicator of your cardiovascular well-being. We'll discuss how monitoring your erections can provide early warnings for conditions like heart disease and diabetes. Plus, we'll share practical methods to assess and enhance your performance, leading to more satisfying experiences in the bedroom and a healthier life overall. If you're eager to understand what your body is telling you and t...

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 In this episode, we dive deep into what it truly takes to make penetration pleasurable—not just tolerable, not just “fine,” but deeply, mind-blowingly good. From physical preparation to the power of relaxation, arousal, and full-body engagement, we explore the key elements that turn penetration into an experience of pure pleasure. Whether you're looking to enhance your own enjoyment or better understand how to please a partner, this conversation unpacks the techniques, mindset shifts, and erotic intelligence needed to unlock deeper, more satisfying penetration. 

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 Finding love in 2025 feels harder than ever—but is it really just bad luck, or is your brain working against you? Dr. Kyra Bobinet, a physician, public health leader, and behavior change expert, reveals how the habenula—the brain’s failure detector—keeps people trapped in cycles of rejection, self-doubt, and endless swiping. In this episode, we uncover why men’s connection hormone, oxytocin, is being overused, why women are becoming more selective, and how dating apps are designed to keep you searching, not succeeding. More importantly, Dr. Bobinet shares s...